No I don't want a career, I want to be married and making tiramisu. 

Men should really work hard to put their woman in a position to free up. Here feminity EXPLODES when she begins to feel safe and secure. That, in turn fuels her love she can free up and radiate her being into their relationship. And God knows that a womans very nature is to take energy, turn it into something bigger and spit it back out better. Life can be amazing with a woman who feels loved and protected and safe.

I feel seen by the title alone👸🏾

I’m a housewife. Dropped kids off, went to vote/had lunch with hubby, cleaned for an hour and an on my way to take a nap before pickup in 2 hours. When you’re with a good man who loves and values you AND can afford y’all’s lifestyle without having to work- life can be soooo freeing. Some women openly pity me, but my heart goes out to them because I can’t imagine how exhausted and drained they must feel “doing it all.” To each her own 🤷🏽‍♀️

I did not even ask to be born in this world and you think I want a career? The demands of this world is absurd !

I don't want a "career" either! 💗💗💗 I'm just a simple girl who loves the Lord, the beach, fashion,dance, children, and smoothies.

Growing up I used to always be so frustrated because whenever I would read a book with a black female main character, she had to be the stereotypical "black strong woman" who is fighting against racism or oppression. I just wanted to read a book where the black female lead was just a regular soft dainty girlie like me and the plot ISN'T ABOUT STRUGGLE! Thankfully adult me has found some more books like that and hopefully it continues to be the norm but I just really hate this narrative and I'm glad more of us are becoming aware of its harm.

Everyone is different and enjoys doing different things, but just FYI raising kids and being with them 24/7 is harder than anyone without one can imagine. For a lot, or maybe most people, it’s harder than a jobs.

I've made the mistake twice of fully depending on a man. it can work...but unless he is a pure soul and truly sees you as his equal, it is NOT worth it. always maintain your independence and income. make bank & fund that retirement girl!!!

I'm NOT a strong black woman. I'm actually gonna go cry. BRB.

I wish I could live in some little sea side town in Italy. I wish I could wear flowy dresses most days. I wish I could cook and be relaxed in a simple bright kitchen. I wish for peace of mind. Live the way you feel is right Kelly❤

Being a housewife is a full time job with no benefits and no money going into retirement. You still have to manage the household and do advocacy work, especially for your neighborhood and community. You have to make sure you have your own income and prepare for retirement. It's still a job, and it's mostly thankless.

If money was no object & I could do whatever I want I would do nothing! Lay out by the pool/ beach soaking up the sun. Having a closet full of vintage designer and eating pasta almost every night. Traveling & happy! I met a man who’s a workaholic and working/ being “busy” makes him feel whole. He tried to put him down when I took a day off from work and asked how do I feel comfortable not being “productive” I cussed him out and proceeded to relax and enjoy my day off.

I find this trend of romantizing homemaking in our culture pretty fascinating. Being a housewife has certainly been looked down upon in the last decade, so I'm glad to see woman who truly want that embracing it. But I am a bit baffled at this heavy correlation between a "simple, luxurious life" and being a homemaker. For me personally, the idea of being a homemaker (with kids) seems incredibly stressful and exhausting. I've yet to meet a SAHM in real life who can dress to the nines while baking bread in her spotless kitchen when she has 3 kids to take care of. 😅 Even without kids in the picture, relying so heavily on someone else and their income to sustain the both of you doesn't quite seem so simple to me, especially in this economy. It really puts a lot of pressure on you to find the most ideal partner. And hell, I'd hate to put that kind pressure on my partner too. But that is just my opinion, and it's why I don't pursue those lifestyles. I'm sure others can thrive in it. I think ultimately, you can find the simplicity and feminity in anything you do. For me, working in a career I love, living in my own cozy apartment in a big city within a 3min walk from boyfriend gives me so much joy. I can afford to spend money on things I enjoy, explore cute cafe and restaurants, I can stay at home and be a total potato all day, or put effort into my hobbies that I'm super passionate about (Running and 3D modeling). It doesn't have to be one way of life or the other. ❤

The part about WOC and children of immigrants so rarely growing up with a relaxed, grounded woman around is so true. Trying to unlearn this deeply internalized necessity for "struggle" all like now and holy fuck it's hard with capitalism as an added flame fanner. At my core I know I am meant to be dancing, making healing music and sharing my gifts. Peace to you Kelly. I am glad you are finding a balance that feels good for you.

Yes, Kelly! Being a strong, independent black woman is not goals. My life has not been easy overall but like you suggested, I changed the narrative. I now walk around like I’ve never been hurt/scarred. I live in my femininity and will never waiver from it again.

Whataburger queen is now Senpai Stamps LOL

Currently me. I’m 28, pregnant, married and with a home. None of my friends are in my situation and can’t relate to me anymore. They’re still in the “career is everything” mentality and I think look down on me for only working part time and focusing on family life.

This title is absolute goals like who wants to work a job that makes them miserable 😭

As someone who spent the whole day sleeping, baking and cooking, and cleaning my apartment, I feel so seen. Also Kelly you look gorgeous.

Everytime I see tirmasu in the grocery store Kelly always comes to mind

None of us WANTS to do many things but we dont always have a choice. If you happen to then consider yourself blessed. Good luck in whatever you choose to do or not do. Someone has to make the "tiramisu" though. It wont make itself.

Hey Kelly! I do think, in general, its important to seek Christ regarding how we behave as women (I should probably comment this on your other video haha). Christian femininity is so different from worldly femininity. I think we have to be careful when attributing femininity to caring for children, staying home etc. We erase many women who are called to live different lifestyles (not saying at all you personally are erasing them). It can also go so deep because there are many traumas that can contribute to our perceptions of femininity and what we think we should, and shouldn't, be doing with our lives...but thank God for his grace to guide us through. Thank you for this video and your new channel

I'm 45 and enjoy you. You are refreshing. Kelly, you are a rare diamond of a woman, with a uniquely beautiful soul.

Thisssss. The only reason I want a career is for the money 😅 I’m trying to build a RU-vid audience to not have to go back to a “job” ❤❤

Live free, be yourself, embrace your own way of life, your own style and your own rules. Keep up living your superstar life Kelly, and keep up inspiring others to do so.

I'm not competitive. I enjoy being home with my child. The men where I live are feminine and afraid to approach women. Many of them depend on women financially. It wasn't like this in my late teens early 20s. I'm only 40

Once again your rants are aligned with my journal prompts. I was saying I’m tired of being the strong independent black woman that has to do everything on her own and not ask for help. I want to be pretty and sit back while someone helps me. Not only that I’m tired of feeling guilty when asking for help. Like society really made us feel like if we didn’t hustle we don’t deserve it or it’s not authentically ours if we had help along the way

Chile being strong all of the time can be exhausting and toxic! I need to be vulnerable and that's okay. Success is defined differently for everyone whether that a "career" woman or a homemaker. Tfs

The Megan wall lean kick. I’m here for all of it. I’m embracing a soft life while still keeping my wits about me. Being soft doesn’t mean just falling to the wayside of life and hoping for the best outcome. We have to strive for it and build a community together. As women, we can be soft with each other!! It’s much easier when we do things together and try to unlearn toxic traits

I just got recently let go from a job that was literally sucking the soul out of me/making me depressed. Plus my boss was making the work environment toxic to make me quit…. But after being let go it gave me a realization of how I want to redesign my life. I’m taking my power pack. My family and significant other is very supportive about my decisions. I know that I will be in a better work environment that I am appreciated for what I do and not punished for the most tiniest of errors for example a misspelled word. What is meant for me it will come soon sooner than I think. Just got to put in the work to get there.

I love stanning relaxing Black women living their best lives not having to be the tough single woman. I also love that I live in a time period in which I am not artificially prevented from working in the way that is most fulfilling for me, which sharpens and showcases my talents, which interests me, and which keeps me feeling free rather than unpleasantly trapped. Home for me then becomes rest and my person. Everyone is unique, and that's lovely

In the black community, the struggle is all that is known. However, I refuse to embrace the struggle. Even though I know I am destined to be single the rest of my life, I am going to work hard at having a fulfilled life.

Kelly Stamps you are very wise beyond your years. This is coming from a lady in her 60s. You are so refreshing.

Life is really about enjoying who you are, what you do and the bonus is some who enjoys you as well. Knowing who you are spiritually, mentally and emotionally. Katie is so correct. Find out who you are and you will attract the life you enjoy. Congratulations on the new channel.❤️😊👌🏼

Even though I'm a male subsciber I still feel you provide an insight of the ebbs and flows of being a young woman that otherwise aren't either expressed properly or at all, which is not only encouraging for other women, but is also food for thought for guys who WANT to understand women more so that we all make this life more peaceful for one another so in other wirds im saying thank you for existing lol.

I love helping others so I left my 9-5 and started nursing school Kelly. I will help sick babies instead of a man lol.

I felt this video resumed my 10 years in NYC. That was the first time I was living my life for me, no matter what odd jobs I had or the journey with bad relationships. We are all learning, regardless how old we are. I'm sharing this as this is me ❤🎉🎉🙏🏾

I was fighting my hair in Florida humidity this day I'm sorry y'all I just noticed LOL

Just had a conversation with my husband that we need to change the title of a stay at home parent to Household Manager. It is a tough job requiring good customer service, organizational skills, and working overtime!!!!!!

You are literally the most beautiful woman on the planet ❤

Great advice, My daughter needs to hear this, I give her advice but she doesnt listen and always finds out later that dad was right. She always gets involved with the wrong type of man, I meet them and give her my opinion on them but she doesnt listen. Then moths later she figures it out.

This woman right here ❤

Bindi Marc is also a good example of a Christian woman who is relatable to our age group. I’m so proud of you girl💕

I’m studying law (basically because I didn’t know what else to study so I chose something “safe”) and I’m constantly battling with the conflicting emotions of wanting to live a peaceful, simple life and pursuing a career. Most, if not all, my peers want the latter ofc. Whereas I lean more towards the simple life, doing “simple” jobs to get by. Or if I were to pursue law, I would like to do it my own way, represent the clients I want to represent etc. But that’s totally unrealistic 😂 I’m in a crossroads but videos like these make me feel understood and not alone

Kelly.....I feel you....I don't want to work anymore either...it's so draining

I think that’s why I’m not doing so good in this transitional stage of life right now. From high school to university or in my case community college. Ik it’s important to have money as a young lady and that’s why I’m pursing an education but tbh honest I don’t want to work forever. So being in college is hard because Ik that’s not what I want to do. I work with kids but that doesn’t pay well but they bring me joy sometimes 🤭. Anyways I enjoy your videos and I feel seen when I watch your videos. I learn a lot from you and I hope you continue to lead the way for many of us who don’t agree with the lifestyle that society pushes to the forefront.

I'm loving these latest videos! I'm a solid 10-15 years older than you. Southerner. Wanted marriage and family in my 20's, and to be feminine and cherished. Was living in NYC, and -- coincidence or not -- I couldn't find someone who wasn't threatened by me. After 35, I changed. I bought a house by a lake back down South. And started a family on my own. And you know what? I still love love, but I couldn't be happier with my life. I'm content and feel full. I just wanted to put it on your radar that there can be an unexpected happily ever after. And yes, Whataburger is bomb!

Loving this rebrand (and the rug)! I also love how sure and confident you are, even in your confusing times. It always feels like we’re friends or you’re an older sister who encourages me to be unapologetic, intelligent, Godly, and look cute! It’s tough being a 20 something with goals but not quite being at the finish line yet. In fact I’m not sure where I am in this journey 😭 lol. That’s the beauty of trusting in the most high’s plan and perfect will. I love that there are other black women out there who can relate!❤

So glad this video exist. It literally wasn’t even long ago where I had the revelation that I just want to be soft. I feel guilty for feeling like that. I just want to be a housewife and make streams of income based off my creative passions. Not labor. I want to hang out with friends who live similar lifestyles. Take care of my man, and being taken care of. Oh and travel 😂

I’m definitely somewhere in the middle. I’m not cut out to be the top performer type. Yes I can do it, I’m very much so capable but I know mentally for me that wouldn’t be right for me. I also don’t want to be so independent and so successful and so busy doing my career thing that I don’t have time for family or to date or to raise kids when that time comes. But I also want to make my own money and be able to give myself a beautiful life and feel fulfilled doing whatever I do too. ✨Reasonably✨Soft life me please.

I did start my youtube channel because of your inspiration and I need to get back into it. I do love my current job but I really want that freedom of not clocking into someone's workplace. I have been through a rough life and I have a deep passion to help people with sharing my knowledge here on RU-vid. Thank you Kelly for yet another push to get back on camera . I needed this.

Girlll!!!!!! Oh my God!! I hate this fucking system that we live in and that we essentially have to fucking take it and figure out a way to make it work. I know it’s life. I know it’s “the way it is” but FUCKING DAMN. I don’t believe a majority of us want an extravagant lifestyle. We just want a comfortable one and it’s like pulling teeth.

this self-love journey is so amazing bc it's very important to be happy enough to show up for yourself and in return, you'll be able to show up in a healthy way for others!

Kelly you are a beacon of light and hope! 💕 I am thrilled to see someone walking through life with a similar perspective on modern culture. It is so refreshing and less lonely feeling 💖

do what makes you happy Kelly:) i believe in women supporting women

God bless you Kelly for standing out & being unapologetic and BRAVE

I haven't watched you in sooooooo long. I found you when you had less than 20k followers and now I see you reaching 700k. I AM SO PROUD. Continue to be you. My lovely Queen.

I enjoy my job and I think I'm pretty good at it, but at the same time I want to drop everything and travel everywhere, and also I want to just stay at home all day and read and bake bread and go to yoga class. I want to be able to work when I want and not work when I don't want to and still be successful and not stressed about it.

This is so me 🫶🏾 I appreciate how you’re embracing this new version of yourself through the content you post. I’m also more traditional leaning and in today’s society it’s looked down upon! I envision myself as a SAHKM tending to a small food garden, soaking up the rays, and caring for my family. & I too, am allergic to the black girl plight of “the struggle” 😂. Also, side bar - I almost ran into you in Miami! I would’ve said hi, but I watched your video about being stalked less than 2 hours earlier lol and was like nope not today. I hope things have gotten better for you sis.

I’m 22 and I felt this. We are not suppose to be aligning with other peoples experiences but aligning with ourselves. People are going to try to convince us to not trust ourselves because in reality they don’t want us to depend on our worth and what we expect from life. They use things like “unrealistic” as a way to make us dissatisfied with life when life itself is a journey. Listen to what you want and not what other people want

This is revolutionary for me. I am softening my life, embracing my feminine side and not blaming myself just for wanting to do absolutaly nothing "productive" and just chill and be in peace with life, doing what I want. Out of the rat race and doing me. That's just so new to me and is very important. The strong black woman is such a bad stereotype. It should not be embraced. I recommend that every woman to take that role away from her life.

This black dress is really AMAZING! I love it.

Love your phone case, the volume, the sass and the wisdom. God bless you sweet girl 🤍🙌🏽

regarding your audience: I'm a 38yo single (and intentionally childfree) former figure skater :) and completely agree with your findings 15:40 - 16:02 as I've tried it myself and I just am not cut for it; way too opinionated & independent (comes with the territory of being an only child). Subscribed to your new chan minutes ago :) xo

Before watching I relate to the title on a spiritual level.

Loved this video Kelly. I’m literally in this season of my life. I’ve been getting so many signs from the universe lately to do what I feel is right. Then BAM you drop a video on this exact topic. Thanks for your transparency ❤

Still trying to figure out how Kelly walks around in public without people constantly asking for selfies

Love this! I have my dream job and make really comfortable wages, but I got very burnt out and went per diem a couple years ago. I have been able to develop myself outside of my career in so many ways. Stepping back from the "grind" when I had the chance instead of chasing money and career status was the best decision ever. The women at work and even my family try to shame me for cutting back and not having another job, like I'm lazy or something. It's not their life and health and happiness though, and they don't know everything behind the scenes. Being content with having enough is enough for me, and very freeing. I truly wish more women woud give themselves permission to do that if they want to and have the means.

Thank you. I completely relate to wanting to help everyone while also being on a different plane in regard to my values, goals in life, and the things that are fulfilling to me.

This was beautiful! As a christian woman I feel exacly the same way. You explain with much grace and without jugment the dilema modern women are facing today.

Sis i don't want a career but also don't want an husband 😂

I just started the video but I already resonate with the title.

As a twin mama this video really hit 🖤 thanks Kelly for teaching us to be better and want better. Your videos really make me feel like I can do anything & of course I can 🫶🏽🖤

I’m so tired of being the breadwinner. It’s led to so much anxiety, depression, burnout, resentment, etc. I love my long-time partner, but I wish they took care of me financially.

I understand being tired of the "struggle love"/struggling together stereotype too. Like, I get it, love isn't easy, but why does it have to feel nearly impossible? Why not indulge in a gentler variety of love? As I've gotten older I realise I tire of conflict really quickly and easily (including my own nonsense when I'm in the wrong), I don't have the same patience for it that I used to. I know love and adulthood has ups and downs, but I'm more comfortable expressing my intense need for mostly peace and compatible friend/relationships. I don't get attached so quickly or easily as I used to. Society can't just see women grow into ourselves confidently and leave us alone about it.

I’m not necessarily the intentional targeted recipient for this message but I received a lot of value from this. Appreciated this !

I was dragged and forced into this video by the thumbnail 👀. And I'm not disappointed you slay queen.

BEAUTIFUL DRESS AND GREAT ADVICE!!

I'm southern but I do not consider Florida the south for some reason. Florida just seems like a whole nother country or planet to me lol

Oooo I LOVE the five O cups reference! I’m on it Kelly. Ridding myself of outdated limiting belief systems in the pursuit of true happiness.❤️🙏🏾

I just love me some Kelly! Yes do exactly what makes you happy. ❤❤

Your hair looks so beautiful. And thanks for the resistance part. So many go around trying to do what the world tells us to do, to the point that we ignore our own feelings & intuition about it.

I hate how work obsessed everyone is! Like is there anything else to you as a human ?? Gosh. Love the hair Kelly ❤

Hair can really set a mood. Love this for you Kelly, uber soft.

“It never occurred to me that I was supposed to struggle to be happy” - YES! Soft life is all I want. Enjoyment only.

You are a brilliant light on here. Attitude is everything. I’m lucky to have a few friends who think the same way. Focusing on what we CAN do is powerful. That question, What would you do if money were no object? is one I’ve used often to help myself and friends leap into our dreams. It works. Seek first the Kingdom has allowed me to find everything first within. Amazing how things unfold. Lots of love n gratitude 🙏🏻

I girl bossed too hard and now i have people that rely on me and ask me questions 😂

Omg I love and appreciate your content! Your mindset is so relatable ❤

Good for you! I came to conclusions a few years ago. Living in softness and joy. I subscribed to hustling in my 20s...exhausting.

Thank you for being yourself and making a truly interesting video. I’ve been waiting all this time for a deeper level of you. 🥰

On a side note, people akways talk about the husband can leave you or abuse you as a stay at home wife.... So i know plenty of women who are stay at home wives with husbands who provide and love them... what did happen though? Unfortunate things where the man is no longer with is or severely disabled. Id say, if i were to be stay at home wife, id keep up my education and be financially educated and understand house finances. so that if hes hurt or laid off we can tag team. In the same, the man needs to know how to do home thibgs in case I am not well or sadly i leave early. Just mentioning this cause all i usually see is about abuse when there's other parts of life that are difficult

Okay lol starting a channel because of you now. Been saying it forever. But this is it. Kelly you're amazing and thank you for what you're doing❤️

After going back in time and binging from video 1, for the past 2 weeks or so, I am now at real time level.

I am enrolled in the right university. This is how I feel, except I’d be baking various things.

Idk I don't feel invested in anything associated with the concept of being 'traditional'. It's so nebulous and easily weaponized, especially against women. Wanting monogamous partnership and to raise a family and be valued in a close community is ALSO part of what society pushes on us through media and other social institutions. The 'high-powered career woman' is so satirized in the rom coms of the 2000s on - it's not framed positively! For most people life is not going to be either/or - having a family and nurturing that, or building a career and hustling through drudgery since, you know, we need money to survive. It's kind of expected to juggle both, and if you want to focus more on one, great. You building your channels ground up and other work you do is a business, and running that doesn't meet some definitions of 'traditional woman/soft life'. 'Traditional' also often comes with implications about modesty and value. All the things often framed as 'soft' (online this is mostly beauty maintenance and household management, but sometimes these channels will talk about building relationships with emotional safety) are also work, some people just prefer those kind of work. IMO people just need to be more honest with themselves about what kinds of work the prefer and try to get as close as possible to their preferred mix (in terms of where they spend their time).

haha im 18 & look up to you 💗💗☝🏽 ur one of the only people i watch on RU-vid these days. the best professer

Haven’t seen the video yet but the title speaks to my soul lol

Once I clicked on this video I knew I liked your vibe. I subbed in less than 1 minute ☺️

I agree. I’m just waiting on my divine husband . Love you keep being you ❤

OMG the thumbnail😢😍...the hair, the lip color, the dress...WHY ARE YOU SO PRETTY?!😭