i don't want to be extraordinary... 

I love anything you put out 😊 I know I don’t comment but I watch all of your videos and been taking some of your advice. Love me some Bria so anything you put out. I’ll be here in my little corner taking notes 🤗🫶🏾

Something I would love to hear you talk about is comparison on social media. I feel like especially being a black creator ( and i hate saying that and victimizing myself but sometimes it feels like the truth) i can post the cutest pictures, make myself look the best and still get overlooked, meanwhile others will post one shirtless photo and gain hundreds of new followers and get 10k+ impressions. It’s so hard to not compare even when you know comparison is the thief of joy, but I can’t help but wish I could be seen as conventionally attractive so my posts would pop off like that too yknow. I know some of it is probably just my content isn’t as good as I think it is, and that’s a pill I can swallow, but sometimes it really feels like im just being overlooked. Also some good collabs would be another one with lynette adkins or even trying to get in touch with dr.K to discuss mental health! Lastly I know it’s a big ask and cringe/bad etiquette to post this on YT comments but I’ll be putting out a video next week tackling mens mental health issues/ how the patriarchy and toxic masculinity contributes to it and it would mean so much if you could give me feedback on it , as always sending much love bestie 🫶🏾

have you ever considered coaching? or like a large hangout with the besties and we share about different topics you’ve talked about or went through. I totally relate to this burn out graphic and didn’t realize these were the signs! feeling seen 🤍

it would be cool to see Lynette on your channel.. I know you've been on hers.. also it could be cool to see you interview people who are influencers/creators but do not exactly align with your content, like Kirah Omnique or For the Healthy Hoes

The transformation to pillow + floor to blanket + couch 🥹

I'm a psychologist....your reactions are so, so normal for people who are just stressed out and in chronic fight or flight

I like the conversational format! I’ve been in a burnout slump for the past month, and I just now am having a slight breakthrough. Wishing the same for anyone who sees this

As always you’re spot on for me. Especially as a small (black) creator. We have to be “extraordinary” instead of just being ourselves. And I just wanna be Jazmyne lol and that’s enough

Listen! I was waiting for you to get off the floor. I knew it was coming! 😂😂😂

Great episode. I love your vulnerability. This will help so many people. Keep up the good work and continue to take good care of yourself.

PLEASEEE TALK ABOUT BIRTH CONTROL! I feel like im going crazy. I got off about 2 years ago and I just don't feel normal. I didn't have this feeling until AFTER I got off birth control. They want me to go back on but I REFUSEEE!

you doing literally whatever you want is what I want to see. genuinely!

I've been more authentic lately. Like I say how I'm actually feeling. And I'm pursuing the things that I like doing (a newsletter, a podcast, a little YT channel, coaching writers through writer's block) and I feel so alone. I understand everyone doesn't have to clap for me. But how do we do anything without connection or community? I'm just in an in between stage where I feel like I haven't found my tribe. I feel so misunderstood lately, as if me pursuing these things means I'm missing out in life or falling for "capitalist dreams" or if I'm open about how I'm feeling means I'm "stuck on trauma". Everybody is so quick to jump to a conclusion about who you are and it's like: No babes, I'm human.

Okay the title of the thumbnail alone is my energy for the past 3 months hahaha

I’m curious to know if you have a relationship with God or Source energy. And this is not in a religious sense… just to ask do you spiritually believe in it?? I only ask this because I see God working in this particular conversation. You said that when you were on anti depressants that you kept having a reoccurring dream in that particular situation. I don’t think it was a mistake that every time you were medicated that you saw more people. I think God was trying to reveal a desire to you that would alleviate what you were going through. But what really amazed me was that it all came full circle to now, because you did end up realizing that you desired connection and you are actively working towards it in a healthy way through your podcast. God is perfect in every way he does things. Everything happens for a reason. And there are no coincidences. It’s all connected and I was able to make the connections just now. I really believe you should ponder on this more. It makes what I think… too much sense ya know?

Amazing content

Hey Bria! I love your channel❤ You definitely inspired me to start my own this year so for that I want to thank you. Keep doing you Bestie B

1st Thank you soooooo much Bria for all of your content!! I’ve really enjoyed this ride of life with you. I’ve felt aligned with picking up the tools you’ve given and the vibes you bring to your channel is so authentic, sweet, fun and fulfilling. Thanx Besti💞 2nd I love how we are talking about the process and transitions of our mental and motivations ups and down to the nitty gritty. It helps me stay more self aware and call out what’s happening to me. And then to tap into it with you allows me to share it with others. I shared a video with my best friend and I need to really bring her on this channel lol. All and all, gurl! You are doing great. Always look forward to your vids when ever I can tap in to social media. I’ve created to balance and I’m still practicing and getting use to the adjustments of it all. So I definitely understand the frustration of it all when it comes to nitty gritty transitions. And I love these new changes you’ve made girl!! Keep it up. I’ll tag you in who all I’d love to see you link up with! Have a great weekend 🧡

Good morning happy Saturday morning and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter

Let me tell you about my life… 😂 I almost regret commenting bc I am lost on my channel and I hate for anyone to go see my channel, at its state. 😮😢😂 I’m almost to 20K and it’s taken way way too long to get here but idk where to go with it. I love making videos ( I enjoy mostly editing and making thumbnails) 😅 I need to make a video but my confidence dropped and idk why. Haha 😤🤦🏽‍♀️💖

Love this ❤

Girl go to the gym every day and take time off girl we love yur hard work ❤

Collab with elicia goguen!

Graduated to the 🛋️ couch, TY!🎉🎉

Feeling this on so many levels. I'm getting assessed Monday. After 15 years I hope that I get a diagnosis. I still would like to be extraordinary but for myself to keep being strong for me. You look so good in grey by the way!

Well said! Trying to be extraordinary is exhausting! It's tough trying to keep that in check working in a professional environment that you feel privileged to be part of - especially as a young black person.

First off, yay to being more comfortable in your own home. 🏠 🛋️ 🏆 Second, yes to the hormonal damage “the pill” (patriarchal invention btw) does to so many women. Third: heads up from 10 more years is to watch out for your mental health and wellbeing as you enter pregnancy and motherhood. There’s more they don’t tell you about baby carrying and having that you can learn ahead of time to ease your way. Birth can actually be amazing. And motherhood is not at all a break, but it IS one heck of a beautiful crazy journey. Podcast idea: talk to moms 10 years older than you for “things they wish they knew”.

As a 9 month pregnant Puerto Rican 31 year old woman I feel incredibly blessed to even have been born and now being able to give birth it is a magical miracle. I wish you and your husband are blessed with a pregnancy miracle too💕 Now that you are off birth control your body will be able to detox from it.

the burnout is real. especially with trying to grow my channel, build a business, plan, and be a sahm. Im fairly new to your channel and love your content so far. oh and did I say BURNOUT IS REAL?!?!

I love this, thank you so much Bria 🥹🫶🏼✨

I love anything you post. We will go with the flow of amything you decide. Be free!! ❤

Ok this is seriously vibes wow! Bria I’m sorry to be this person but where did you get your microphone stand, and how did you get it on the couch?! I’m totally loving your setup!

I saw you sit on the couch and girl I have been waiting for this. Whatever change bestie, I will be here always. Change is growth and I am here for it. "I wanna make content the way Bria want to" Girl a big hug for that

Thank you for putting your experience with birth control. The ones who don't : don't know !! And sometimes conversations are a little bit conflicted again even though it is not a new topic. Doctors and new gynecologist said to me again : you know some pills are safes and you can try again ? And I'm like: "No ?? Why would I like try 3 more when 1 was awfull and my body and hormones had to recover for 3 years ??" I mean I think that is a crazy thing to say....

Bria-don’t forget: you spent all that energy creating and launching your workbooks! (I bought the one about navigating change, so good! Congrats!! 👏) No wonder you may be experiencing burnout again. I’m also a business owner, and have found that often when I produce a new growth opportunity for my company, it can take a ton out of me, and takes me a long time to recover. Also, you mentioned your medication treats ADHD *and* depression, and that you were tested for neurotransmitters. What test did you take, and if you’re willing to share, what medication are you on now? I am experiencing many of the same things, and am so grateful to you for sharing your journey! 💛

I love the idea of you informing us in conversation form. When you collaborated with Lynette Jenkins I got so much insight and confirmation from just y’all having a conversation ❤

love that blanket at the beginning of the vid, looks super cozy with the fleece. is it amazon? if so, can you link it?? 🌺

Yesss. I’ve enjoyed you since I subscribed . You hit the nail on the head with being extraordinary 😭. I just want to be myself and create great content in the way I choose. I self sabotage myself every single day and it’s so hard to move forward because I tear myself down before I even get a chance to try. I thank you so much for your kind words and sharing your experiences with us. I love that I can feel comfortable here and can’t feel seen ❤. You have helped me in ways you can’t imagine. I truly needed to hear this today

This is definitely something I needed to hear this Saturday morning. I think you have the same vibes as Megan Ashley. You both empower people to change and make a change for the better in the world.

Look up the history of birth control and how it was tested on Puerto Rican women in Puerto Rico as an exercise to sterilize “unfavorable dumb people”. The doctors/ professionals/ scientists who pushed eugenics in the world/ U.S. did this it’s very important for us women to understand Birth Control the history of it and the dangers of it.

I’d love to hear more about your ADHD journey. I am 40 and recently received my official diagnosis but I’m not choosing to take medication.

As a 30's girly YESSSS to the transition from floor to couch lol! Also, I think it would be great to hear you on Janel Roberts podcast called "To All the People".

finally a community who gets it! where is the group chat sis??? Whew ...watching this just exposed me sooooo much!!! ate I need a whole reset! anyone know the name of the show where they come redo your home and organize it?? that's where it starts with me!!!

I wanna see u n Tiffany TV!!! You two are my favorite self growth ladies online rn

Loved the convo I have a full time job and a business and feel overwhelmed a lot. Stress hurts 🤦🏽‍♀️ literally.

I love talking about things, I'll be in these comments more from now on. I really resonate with you and your messages, they've really helped expand my thought processes.

This was great and finally made me subscribe lol. I’ve been having trouble with my art channel because all the art channels are very well done and I don’t know if I have it me to think of some grand art piece to make for every video. So I get burnt out quick. At the same time I’ve been too chicken to post myself because I feel like I have nothing to say.. i want to just talk but I feel like I should be doing more, especially since I’m in my early 30s. It’s a struggle but I’m going to try and do more sit down videos. I started hosting paint nights locally which has given me more confidence but still working on it. I know I have it in me but the internet can be brutal lol

You’re hilarious!! “EW, I don’t know what I thought I was doing!” 😂😂

Hey Bria ! I always start my Saturday Mornings with you. I would love to see a podcast with you & Elicia Goguen chit chat! I also listen to Jaz Turner & Hailey Gamba 🥰💕

Omg I feel seen! I love so many types of art including singing, and painting. But lately I felt like my entire worth is based upon if I’m creating art or not. I feel like who I am isn’t enough. I understand that this isn’t true, but I still have these feelings. And so I feel you on just wanting to not be extraordinary anymore and humanizing myself. ❤❤❤

Hey girl! I love the new format cause it’s great to listen in my car :) do you think you’ll ever do vlogs again? I miss them!! ❤

Burnout hit me during my Saturn Return too 😅. I was so unprepared, but it feels amazing to have made it back home to my true self.

I started watching your videos some time ago and I love your vibe and even though I can’t always resonate with what you’re saying I always take your advice on sooo many things I love your videos and seeing the gradual confidence in putting out work that suits you makes me so happy for youu and I love the new transition

Thanks Bria, Im burnt out too. You inspire me to create content! We all in this together boo ❤ love u girl

Thank you so much for this. It feels so good to let go of the idea of being extraordinary and just being me

I just found your channel yesterday but I am already excited when you drop thank you and your podcast has helped me a lot

I think it would be dope to have besties on your podcast I haven’t seen a creator do that it would be so cool to see you talk to us

I love how we graduateddddd we are on thr couch bestieeeeesssss

Bestie! We love you ! Do anything you need for yourself! We will be here no matter how the format changes, your voice and your message is why we are here! It’s like talking to my older sister always dropping gems of wisdom 🫶🏾

I paused after 0:19 and started screaming ❤️‼️🎊YASSSSSSSS!!! UPGRADE YOUR LIFE SISSSS!!! We can be comfortable and obedient around here!! 😂 🥰BIG P!! Now let me watch the video! 🤞🏾

Let’s talk about birth control

Take care of you first sweet girl ❤

Hey Bria, have you heard of Caroline Winkler she has a RU-vid channel and she has a podcast with her mate called Not For Everyone. I think you guys would have lots to share and talk about. Thanks for being so open about these important mental health issues, love watching your channel 😊

Birth control can create panic attacks and suicidal thoughts.

Idea: you can have a message board from responses to the previous episode and call it Bria's Board or Bria's Message Board. You can read responses at the top of the podcast.

I’m so grateful for your content Bria. Especially as a 30 year old!

idk why but I thought you were like 20. was surprised to hear you say youre 30. not that it matters lol. love your content, thank you ❤️

Love you Bria❤️

Did you link your equipment? The mic and headphones

I love your vlogs! ❤❤❤

I love this bestie ❤

Love this video

Your creator vibe is really 10/10, and I'm here for it! I don't know when I first found your channel, but I admire your approach to how you run your channel and your overall vibe when teaching and storytelling. I felt so many different points you covered in this episode it's hard to settle on one, but if I had to so, I don't write a damn book in your comments is the point you made from 1:35 to 3:00. I don't think I could sum up how I'm personally feeling any better then that. When you said, "I don't want to make a big deal about the fact that I want to change some things up." that shit hit me hard. I have never been able to pick a niche and honestly feared it because of that exact thing. It's hard to really drive home how hard it is when you are a multipotentialite, aka a person who likes to do a lot of different creative things. This episode was really dope, and I'm glad you're back making videos! Also, shout out to AJ, just because... I'd love to have you on my podcast Less Talk More Do if you have time! Keep doing what you do, boss lady.

Omg the depersonalization part…I know exactly what that feels like and it’s the scariest shit everrrr. Thank you for sharing about this here.

Bria. You should honestly be so proud of yourself for your willingness to be so open and vulnerable. It's not easy to put yourself out there in front of so many people, not knowing the response you will get, yet at the same time by doing so you inspire others to do the same. As someone who started a RU-vid channel in the past year I've realized it's one of the best opportunities to learn not to take anything personally 😆 and also one of the most powerful ways to show up for yourself while also connecting with others. Hear me when I say this - You are worthy because you exist. You don't have to prove anything to anyone, and you don't owe anyone anything. If you are experiencing burn out, and you need to pause, take a break, and rest, that is the most loving thing that you can do for yourself in that moment. Allow yourself some time to do nothing with no expectations. Feeling tired and burnt out is often a sign that some thing is out of alignment. This can be a really powerful opportunity to look into yourself and recognize what it's time to let go of. Is there anything in your life that is no longer in alignment with who you are? That can be such an energy drain, and in releasing it you refuel yourself and open up space for what IS in alignment. Something else that can be really beneficial for anyone who is experiencing anxiety or depersonalization is grounding practices. Anything that can bring you into your body and calm your nervous system. Eating nourishing and grounding foods, walking, barefoot outside, being in nature, etc. Know that it's allowed to be easy and you are worthy of feeling good in ALL ways. Sending a big hug ❤️

I love your videos, and I listen to your podcast weekly. I appreciate all of the advice you give. It seems like ever since I loss my mom to cancer I have not been the same and it seems so hard for me to pick back up with things and actually live my life. I'm a lash tech, and I want to become a consistent RU-vidr, but I have gone through multiple grief seasons from friends, family, my old self, etc. I am currently trying to find myself and get back to what I like. I notice that I isolate a lot and just shut everything out when I just shut down. I have a therapist, but honestly, this last year, 1/2 has been whewww. However, I appreciate your content and tenacity girl!

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I loved everything about this conversation, from completely relating to mental health to panic attacks to not being extraordinary in my content! I love how much we’re able to relate here. Even personally with content I almost gave up but decided to stop overdoing “how to grow” videos and just showing up as myself in weekly vlogs and those who love it love and if they don’t it’s ok because I love creating content & “ romanticizing my normal life “ thank you for continuing to show up with your content ❤

appreciate you being SO vulnerable for the public, sounds like such frustrating experience I hope everything is well

Your channel is my comfort channel 🥹💖 I love this video

my goodness i feel you about the public panic attack ❤ it happened to me while getting on a plane to greece and i ran out of the plane … my husband was so confused. luckily one of the flight attendant was a literal angel from heaven who knew exactly how to bring me back. it was the hardest plane ride i’ve ever been on, and it’s been really challenging since. anyyyways I love this new direction Bria ❤ the audacity to be who you desire to be is not only healing for you but for everyone around you! and personally i view it as genuine leadership ✨

I love this new format ❤❤ it's so cool the way you talk so openly about burn out, how you feel it's around the corner again and how you're gonna avoid it. Take care, it's ok, you don't have to be extra, you're already the bomb ❤❤❤ much love and support 💞💞 Ps: talking about other creators, it'd be so cool if you could do a collab with Tam Kaur, I know you guys aren't in the same country but you're actually my 2 favorite youtubers for a moment now

Your journey with your diagnoses is so relateable to me! I am recently diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and ADHD. Long story short, my anxiety/depression was so bad I had to see a psychiatrist. And she told me that my undiagnosed adhd had worsened my anxiety symptoms. My life has taken a complete 180 since finding the right combination of therapy and medications. I’m happy the same has happened for you as well ❤

Your audience will grow with you some people will fall off but you will also gain more people! This is YOUR platform grow in the ways that are best for YOU.

Bria, I am so proud of you for posting this video. You are worthy of comfort and sitting in a place that is good for you. I appreciate this raw video and I love the podcast/conversational feel. You are worthy of being heard and celebrated as you are 🖤

It’s funny when you mentioned that people should need to get social interaction and that’s so true. I suffer since I’m young from anxiety and whenever shit is at worst the first thing I do is stop thinking in others and that’s when I know something is not right. Also I notice in my case I need to be aware of how many social interactions I get and keep it up, because I tend to be more as a reflective person and deep thinker and in my case I tend to reduce socialism at the minimum often. Very nice video girl! ❤

Absolutely love your content Bria! I need to say - you have pulled me out of a mental slump more than once! You’re such a gift to us, feel so seen and heard. ❤

Thank you so much for being so vulnerable with us. It's bitter-sweet to know we're not alone, but I know we're all strong enough to make it out on the other side as a better version of ourselves. Also - we need a discord or something!!

So much in this video resonates with where I am at in life and makes me feel seem and normal. Ty Bria!

Loving your energy and keeping it real ❤

This message is right on time! Thank you Bria! 😍

This was an excellent topic/presentation.

Can you share this list you found? 😊

bria x kianna naomi !!!! we need it 😭🩷

Hey bestie 🎉❤

I haven’t been feeling like myself on and off for the past couple months. Depression and burn out is real. Thank you for this video 🤍

depersonalization - oh my god thats what is was! i had this exactly like you described it - a literal out of body experience, mine came right after the panic attack and felt as if my soul and spirit left my body FOR WEEKS! like a video game. it was terrifying, docters didnt describe this as a symptom. exactly the same with the empty hormone levels.. soo grateful to have made it out of this, and you too. HAPPY TO JOON YOU ON EVERY PATH YOU TAKE, youre THE BEST!!❤ you do you, we love you for it.

Wheres the mic from ?

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