I f*cked up the first 40 years of my life | Mel Robbins

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This man desperately wants to change his life but says he JUST CAN’T bring himself to make his dreams a reality. Sound familiar?
It’s easy to avoid the things you’re scared of. He used video games to distract himself from what he actually had to do. I used drinking.
The first 40 years of my life, I was a hot mess - learning every lesson the HARD way, drinking through my feelings and beating myself up for not being where I wanted to be.
I am where I am today because I lived through the hard shit and LEARNED from it.
I stopped AVOIDING the things I knew I had to do.
I CHANGED my habits and my mindset so I could focus on my dreams.
My wish for you ➡️ Use this hard moment in your life to catapult yourself forward toward your dreams.
Every day you have a choice:
Am I going to avoid doing what I have to do?
Or am I going to make shit happen and push myself to change?
Get up every damn day and high five your way forward. Cheer for yourself.
⬆️That’s how you make your dreams come true.⬆️
What’s one thing you want for yourself that you can take action on TODAY?
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@diaryofaselfmademillionaire 3 года назад

Wow, I needed that title. I’m 39, studying to start a new career/business and I am not yet married. Not only do I feel like I wasted the first 40 years of my life, I’m fighting the feeling that it’s too late to turn it around in any big way. Hearing Mel’s story gives me a little hope and reassurance that just because I didn’t get where I want to be by 25-30 doesn’t mean I can’t get there.

@lissam8988 3 года назад

I'm basically starting to start over and I'm over 40. Don't consider it a wast of 40 years.... Considerate data that you can use to propel yourself forward to a better place as a better person. This is what I'm doing or at least trying tough to break old habits but they can be broken. You can do this. 🌸

@Abu-kx4ei 3 года назад

I wasted 4-5 years of my life as well. So I might have an idea how you feel. Lets hope we both do better from now.

@tigergirl906 3 года назад

Perhaps the world would be a better place if everyone accepted themselves as they are. Because we are; and that’s enough.

@teetuccillo4259 3 года назад

Hearing your thoughts they’re almost identical to mine. Thank you for posting and truly appreciate your honesty. For myself, one minute I’m 42 , then looked up and 5 years went by...now 47. I too changed my career, did not balance my life & wondering if I’m too late. But now asking myself...too late for what? Asking deeper questions on what I want to work towards...what balance & what does that look like? What do I want the end result to be? You will too. Good Luck 🍀 to you.

@teetuccillo4259 3 года назад

@@lissam8988 Good for you!!! Good luck 🍀

@dewaynetodalen4491 Год назад

I am 52 and just had a failed business leaving me in a lot of debt. But I'm ready to begin again. I know I can succeed at any age. Thank you, Mel!

@ptlutube Год назад

At least you did something you wanted to do and took control of your life. You took a risk, probably learned a tonne and will bounce back from it. I just turned 40 and have nothing but regret.

@hermieabraham6078 Год назад

I feel you - I'm the same age and in a similar position. I'm cheering for you and sending you good vibes for much success!!

@GonzoT38 Год назад

@@Paulo-nf7ms lol the hell you say. there's a lot of things in life you don't objectively recover parity from.

@joevil6259 Год назад

I remember an article about this young Indian couple that came to the US to study and then managed to get a green card. They eventually married , had a couple of kids etc. Initially worked for someone else and then made the jump to owning one McDonalds, then two, then three etc , lots of ups and downs and today they are wealthy . They said that in India if your business goes down , that little nugget will go on your gravestone with you one day. You are never forgiven. Here in the US, you get a second, third and fifth chance and the only thing that people are really interested in is ...."and what are you planning to do next?" As an immigrant from another country I can fully vouch for what the Indian couple said. Most countries will make sure that your failures are advertised....not here in the US

@Paulo-nf7ms Год назад

Well, it's a motivational phrase which IMHO is full of wisdom. You can interpret it as you choose. Whilst I don't necessarily dispute what you say, other phrases that come to mind are "EVERYTING is an opportunity" and "Today is the first day of the rest of your life". Even in the bleakest of situations, it's up to you whether you decide to focus on the negative, or on the opportunity.@@GonzoT38

@AhmetKaan 3 года назад

*Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of the fear.*

@christinac3159 3 года назад

Well said

@alexortega714 3 года назад

Stealing a quote from Will Smith huh? smh

@paganbornspiritbear8249 3 года назад

@@alexortega714....Who stole it from Jack Canfield....so...whose the thief....???

@paganbornspiritbear8249 3 года назад

@@alexortega714 Alas...there was also Tony Robbins, who 20 plus years ago was saying this. It would appear your idol was not the first...nor will he likely be the last...

@Chris-tg3qy 3 года назад

It’s still a great quote.

@AlexMorgan-ti6nv 3 месяца назад

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@VeeruDono 3 месяца назад

After I pasted her name into my browser, her website came up first. Clearly, she's in high demand. Thanks for the tip

@Powermoves1080 4 месяца назад

Thank You! I’m 43 and feel like I wasted my life just partying it away, dead end job, single, no kids, and just feel lost. I’m ready to make a change to better my life. I’m tired!!!

@TravisG-lj9dz Месяц назад

Your life like mine, we same age too! Isn't embarrassing to see how far ahead people you knew in the past are in life. But when you were good friends with them or last saw them, you were just a pair of party goers, drinking the nights away in bliss. Now these people are directors of businesses, doctors, heads of education, etc.

@Sincethe80sGaming 22 дня назад

We're the same age and similar issues, but I always say if there's life, then there's still room for change, we can still change, good luck on your/our journeys!

@Riverlovesfood 19 дней назад

If it makes you feel better. At least you got to party your life away, some people are your age no money AND never got to have fun or party. So at least you had some fun 🤷🏻‍♀️just trying to help you think about your situation in a better way

@24-7flounderproblem Год назад

49 drank for 25 years from childhood abuse....the light finally came on this year....sober for 4 years finally starting my life... embarrassing.

@USABeauboy Год назад

Don't be embarrassed. BE PROUD OF YOURSELF AND YOUR Accomplishments CONGRATS on your 4 year sober.😊

@USABeauboy 11 месяцев назад

@JC-du6sn thank you JC. I googled it. Hmm. God must be reaching out to me because I've been getting signs to hear Him. ❤️

@shallah7777 11 месяцев назад

Don’t be embarrassed you are trooper warrior for admitting your issues 4 years sober is a great accomplishment Everything happens in divine timing Be forever young 😇

@Dagothdaleet 11 месяцев назад

That is awesome. Keep up the good work. Life isn't linear. Look at divorcees and career changers your age. You may be in a better spot

@cristina250980 11 месяцев назад

You are making a change in your life. That's good! 😊

@Rosie82333 3 года назад

My 39th birthday was in March and without even realizing it, it hit me like a ton of bricks. All this time I’ve wasted from depression because of my parents divorce and then my moms death also how many decisions I’ve made out of fear. It’s time to put that stuff behind me and move on. I started going to the gym and working on my broken heart...the road to recovery is going to be tough but I have decided that I am worth it!

@melrobbins1342 3 года назад

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@thereader6667 Год назад

Sending love ❤

@Liepos11 Год назад

Bravo!!! ❤❤

@Ishikaa12 Год назад

You are! You go girl!!!!

@GarySuley 3 года назад

Waiter: “Would you like to hear about our specials?” Mel: “I...f****d up my life.”

@maximussarcasticus1312 3 года назад

That's exactly what I thought! "Uh, my shift ends in ten. Did you want me to bring the dessert menu or can I go now?" lol I do like her advice though.

@professorlayabout4878 3 года назад

Si, si, senora 😂

@maximussarcasticus1312 3 года назад

@@professorlayabout4878 😂

@ArAbramov 3 года назад

😆 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

@kameracamera8120 3 года назад

Thank you for the belly laugh today - I needed it. You win the internet today. Cheers.

@liberiangirl8382 3 года назад

I f****d up the first 27 years of my life... it sucks.. while others my age are excelling, im unemployed, broke and lost... but I havent given up hope... praying for everyone that is in the same situation

@mehrajunissa1205 Год назад

Same

@LianaRose77 Год назад

Mee to you are not alone

@alex6161 Год назад

Can I join your club guys? I am 28, and today will be my 1001th attempt to start life anew.

@wanda263 Год назад

I wish I could have started my life with 27. I am 40. And I am slowly, very slowly just starting my life. It was so bad that I never even had a real job. Shame and all. Very hard to forgive myself.

@navodyaperera2624 Год назад

Same here but we are here to change it

@catherinebiggs8162 3 года назад

Exactly right. It is so darn easy to procrastinate. But you never get that time back. It slips away. Do it now.

@conqueringyourselfisthebes4766 3 года назад

Yes, you are right🙏🏻 !

@tee1974 3 года назад

Totally agree. I'm 50. Where did the years go? I had dreams. I would like to start my own business but, working as a litigation secretary (defense side) for 30 years, I've seen so much crap it's terrified me.

@charmaineappiah4070 2 года назад

@@tee1974 you can do. Go and get your dream. The guy who started KFC never stopped

@falkschiffner6565 Год назад

I am there, start my work out... its damm hard!

@yoursisesthermeya Год назад

@@tee1974do it x

@davegoodo3603 3 года назад

Sound familiar? I extended this to the first 50 years of my life. I'm studying now to redeem what is left of my time on Planet Earth. Thanks for sharing this message Mel.

@kathimiller6289 3 года назад

How about the first 55

@jimb0000 3 года назад

just how mentally strong do you have to be to pull this off you deserve praise. I am having trouble doing it and i am 23.

@EricaShady10171972 3 года назад

If we don't do it now when are we going to do it?

@davegoodo3603 3 года назад

Thanks for the great replies. We can only do the best we can with what we’ve got - take heart.❤️

@NirajPoudyal Год назад

Fucked up my first 38

@18laila 3 года назад

Notice the guy self soothing by rubbing his arm, bless him

@gmvalentine626 3 года назад

I noticed that, too.

@vivianworden Год назад

Probably felt uncomfortable with the drive thru therapy

@michellescherer7858 3 месяца назад

he’s not self soothing, he’s nervous cause he wants to move on to the next table but feels obliged to stand there and listen to her finish lmao

@18laila 3 месяца назад

@@michellescherer7858 regardless of the reason (being nervous, according to you) his behaviour still indicates an attempt to self sooth

@alexortega714 3 года назад

Mel is my internet mom , I love Mel ❣ (the 5 sec rule is gold )

@voiseaumusic Год назад

"Don’t expect change to happen overnight, even if it’s not always visible it’s making more impact than you think" ❤

@PromiseNathan-q9e 11 месяцев назад

hello beautiful❤😂 I really like your thought over here❤😂

@delenehill7 3 года назад

So true...I started changing last 2weeks...stopped drinking every night and feel so good..thank you ...Mel

@lahicks9773 3 года назад

Awesome! You are on the path of true love, self-love. Never forget,, your life matters and you are divine. Love and blessings in your journey into you. ❤

@jjn6914 Год назад

I'm 41 now and finally have reconciled enough of my childhood trauma to allow unshakeable courage to break through. Just this year, I've finally allowed myself the chance to try everything I couldn't try or pursue when I was 10-20 years younger. This includes planning for a career pivot and choosing my own life path.

@marl0nbrand01 11 месяцев назад

F Yeah!

@MichelleOsorio 11 месяцев назад

Similar man

@beesworld04 8 месяцев назад

Love this. I’m 38 and feel the same as you do! Praying the best for you!

@angelic4112 Месяц назад

Love that for you! 👏👏👏 I had a similar experience in terms of working on healing generational cycles and traumas on both sides of the family. We can underestimate the impact of past trauma in the present. Healing work is essential and now, we are more free to pursue our respective dreams and goals. It's not too late while we are 6 ft above ground and have access to resources that can help us along the way. Best wishes! 🙂

@t-bone6467 11 месяцев назад

It's not how you start, it's how you finish!

@ECA2 3 года назад

I've learned that every loss has an inherent gain to be found and every failure has a lesson to be learned. Most of all, never give up.

@Onz70 5 месяцев назад

I f*ucked all 53 years of my life. I have cancer now, I’ve given up. I’m just happy the cancer has come along to remove the pain forever. I didn't drink or do anything that was addictive. I just worked on my career and never thought about having quality of life. I missed out on so much-chasing money and trying to be successful

@alexsilkin5222 2 месяца назад

So sorry to hear that. How are you doing now?

@jessicaferguson4072 3 дня назад

God bless you friend.

@Booster85 3 года назад

Love how down to earth Mel is, a real gem to the world 🙌

@Booster85 3 года назад

@Happy👩Healthy 💪Healing🌹 bless my love 😃🙌

@Repps87 Год назад

I wouldnt say using a waiter as an therapist is beeing down to earth 🤣

@bluecube7247 9 месяцев назад

53... I have finally QUIT MY FAMILY... they are awful people to try to survive... living my own life now, free from their attacks. Alone but so daymn happy

@nuxkamina Год назад

Decided to be an artist at 40. Never did art since I was a kid. Growing, learning, being who you want to be...is the easy part. Forgetting the past and who you were is trickier. 1 day at a time. Win the day.

@beesworld04 8 месяцев назад

I admire this. I’m 38 and want to become a singer, yes I can actually do it. But you know 40 year old new artist 🤣🤣. Hope you’re enjoying yourself and making strides!

@Emi-jy5ct 8 месяцев назад

You got this!

@Noella65 3 месяца назад

But how do you pay your bills?

@kayv5840 11 месяцев назад

I wrote down something similar the other day “I deserve to love myself ENOUGH to change my life for the better” It always helps to hear someone else say it. Thank you 🙏 My bad habits are procrastinating because of perfectionism and fear of failure, and imposter syndrome.

@kellyhilliard3579 3 года назад

Mel I wish I had more women like you in my life. I'm super grateful for your encouragement, Thanks

@InnerLantern7 3 года назад

I’ve just realized that I have CPTSD and am now picking up the pieces so I can move forward at 47. Everything I’ve done until now was to react to triggers.

@lahicks9773 3 года назад

LR100 i am going through a similar situation. You got this. Just know you are divine, you are born divine and you will die divine. Your life is important and your existence matters. Love and blessings ❤

@annmarieknapp 3 года назад

You aren't alone.

@janicecass2713 3 года назад

I'm 55 CPTSD MUM PASSED FOUND OUT SHE HAD LIED ALL MY LIFE. EVERYTHING HAS GONE WRONG, I'm now having to move back in to where I grew up with the person who sexually abused me from 8 to 13.

@reneeca5696 3 года назад

LR100 I highly recommend @the.holistic.psycologist, Dr Nicole Lepera!

@Juliana-eg6jd 3 года назад

I love you Mel! I turned 40 this year and your video gives me hope. I'll be one year sober next month and you have been one of the angels that are making me realize how things can change for the better. Kisses from Bogotá, Colombia.

@briluv44 3 года назад

I love that this helped you too dear! I just noticed you got a “fake” reply too from someone claiming to be “Mel Robbins”, sad that people go out of their way to pretend to be someone else, and try to scam you. If you check my comments, you’ll see this fake person sent me the same exact messages.

@annajones9701 3 года назад

Escobar country?

@snicksabea Год назад

Congrats.

@PromiseNathan-q9e 11 месяцев назад

Hello beautiful I really love your sense of belonging here❤😂

@WileysShenanigans Год назад

Miss Robbins, I know you will likely never see this comment but I just saw this title and watched your short video. I've wasted more than my share of the last 5 years sttuggling with all that you mentioned in the video. For today this helped me get up and moving. I'm hopefully that I may get into a daily routine of motivation as I have many people & 8 grandchildren that could benefit from all that I can offer if I can find the courage to do it daily. Bless you and your time to help just one person make a difference to so many other lives. Much peace and happiness in your own journey.

@austinmullen6994 Год назад

This just appeared in my feed in one of the most stressed days I've had in so long. I'm at a turning point in life. 33 years old and I keep failing at everything I do. I needed this.

@AJManol 3 года назад

EXACTLY what I needed to hear!!! Thank you, Mel! I'm 42 yrs. old and going from solo entrepreneur to staff/brick and mortar with the end goal of going country wide. Feeling like it's maybe too late for me, and that my bad habits of procrastination/ lack of follow-through will return. But it's happening less and less with my new efforts! Winners are the ones that keep getting up✊🏻 I hope to hire Mel to come speak at my company someday 🤓❤️

@briluv44 3 года назад

So wonderful to help others, as you do too Mel! I waited till my 40s to go to College, and I learned a lot, but I didn’t experience as much until I started taking action! I wasted 40 years of my life too! I stayed in an abusive relationship, I ran from my fears, I hid behind lies, and I lacked confidence! These past few years have started my journey to where I want to be! Thank you for doing what you do Mel!! Looking forward to what your going to share with us in Atlanta in September!!

@briluv44 3 года назад

I’m confused on your reply. And that code doesn’t make sense.

@morganalahechicera2332 3 года назад

@@briluv44 It's not Mel, somebody created an account with the same name to confuse people. Good luck on your journey Becky! You are still a young person, today 40s are new 30s so you have time to start from scratch and live your most wonderful life you've always wanted.

@PromiseNathan-q9e 11 месяцев назад

can you pls send me your email address❤ needed to chat with you privately ❤🙏🌹🥰

@estheffanie4649 Год назад

the worst part of life is when you are surrounded with people full of negativity. to the point no matter how much you push yourself, they are just there.

@cristina250980 11 месяцев назад

Sometimes you need to move on. 😊

@kathrynmcnerney6490 3 года назад

Frikkin love Mel. I can't believe how much her teachings helped me. Virtual hugs and love Mel. x

@melissalee2522 3 года назад

Me too, exactly 40 years. Life for me began at 41.

@chriswilliams4195 3 года назад

Hey

@flowerpower4024 3 года назад

And for me life began at 44. ☺

@Godisfirst21 3 года назад

No, it didn't. That's just the story you tell yourself. Every year, you had ups and downs and you lived. Be kind to yourself. Self love.

@paushali2401 3 года назад

I'm only 27 & sometimes I feel like I'm late to finding myself & starting to live. But people like you me believe it's never too late & to stop comparing.

@Godisfirst21 3 года назад

@@paushali2401 You are not late at all. I'm 48 and wow, have I changed EVERYTHING since 27 and I LOVE my life and you will too. I wish you so much HAPPINESS and yes there will be pain too, but the other side of pain is BEAUTIFUL and WISE! Much love.

@yasmintorres1038 6 месяцев назад

I am 25 and had just written in a google doc how I felt like I’ve wasted my life, but wow I’m glad I came across this video ❤ much love to you all, we are all on time, I believe in you ❤

@alisandesaonian 27 дней назад

25 still very young

@hmw1341 Год назад

I’m 38 halfway to 39 and feel the same way. Sure, I’ve had hard things happen to me too personal to name here, but wow, have I left grief, fear, and low self-esteem steal so much time due to the heartache of those losses. Like many people here, it looks like this realization hits us around the same time. I woke up on my 38th birthday more depressed than I’ve been in years because I realized how much I had let slip by due to heartache, fear, and loss. Mel Robbins has helped me get a grip and finally wake up to what can be. Now, I just have to figure out how to do it and find the courage to push through when I can’t see the end of the tunnel. Many peace and blessings to all you others out there in similar situations. We will all get through this together. As my brother would say, just keep grinding. God bless!❤

@allesdurchprobiert Год назад

Just wanted to say, yes indeed same age. And I noticed it's also often roughly the same problems. I lost a decade to burnout and depression, and the previous decades weren't that great either. I missed out on a couple things, which still saddens me sometimes. I'm 40 and it took me many years to crawl out of a dark place, regain some strength and confidence and since a couple months I'm feeling much better and am in the process of cleaning up my entire life and get rid of all old baggage. I'm feeling that I currently start a new chapter. With many lessons learned. I realized in recent years that I don't need to be ashamed of my life and my shortcomings/issues because almost everyone seems to be some sort of screwed up. Some are just not aware of it, amd most try to hide it even from friends amd family.

@naturallyus3512 Год назад

Who says 40 50 60 or every 70 is the end of your life???!!!! Nobody determines your life span on how much time you have on this planet. You are getting older yes, wiser yes better yes❤❤❤you can live as long as you say so speak life into yourself!!! LET'S LIVE!! WE ARE THE SHIT AND WE ARE LOVED AND NEEDED! EVEN IF IT'S FOR OURSELVES. WE ARE WORTH IT!! EVERYDAY STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE AND START SMALL BUT DO SOMETHING GOOD SOMETHING YOU'VE NEVER DONE BEFORE 😊😊😊TIGHTEN UP #VIBRATEHIGHER

@PoPhamsdotter 3 года назад

How nice that you really took the time to chat with that young man and offer him advice. It meant a lot to him i think.

@taoist32 3 года назад

He looks ready to scram. I don’t think he asked for any advice.

@anonymousperson1327 3 года назад

He did ask for advice. Mel said he kept coming back to ask questions. He probably was just nervous talking to her.

@PracticalInspiration 3 года назад

Use hard times to learn from, rather than wallowing in self pity

@lauraconlon9800 3 года назад

Thank you for that. I think I need to listen to it every day. I’m 47 and in the same boat - been at the crossroad where I really need to become my own cheerleader so thank you

@melrobbins1342 3 года назад

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@melrobbins1342 3 года назад

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@greaterperspective819 3 года назад

We are All love and worthy of love and respect.

@Corey-pd3mi 3 года назад

Guy probably quit at the end of his shift 😂

@G.Man- Год назад

Two years on, we need a follow up conversation with this dude

@jasonninnis 11 месяцев назад

He didn't even start this conversation; he just came to take her order 😂

@joaquinben4458 11 месяцев назад

Hahahahahaha!!!!

@azangaming8684 11 месяцев назад

Yea bro

@jktekkerz8735 11 месяцев назад

I think that the waiter ended up drinking himself to sleep after listening to this!!!!

@Jeffh206 3 года назад

He was really taking it all in. That was fantastic!

@jackiek4159 3 года назад

Absolutely loved this! Let's stop procrastinating and make our dreams our reality guys! 🙌🏻🙏🏻

@charlielanguellholt3877 3 года назад

Hello how are you doing 😊👋😊

@PromiseNathan-q9e 11 месяцев назад

hey beautiful❤😂 I really need Know more about yourself😂

@k.s.barpru677 3 года назад

Great video. I am struggling so hard at being 51 and not having accomplished my biggest dream. I'm tired of hearing myself say that "maybe it's too late."

@paulnicolas172 11 месяцев назад

Am 54 and feel down a lot about it - my parents are dead now and I didn’t get a good career or a family to make them proud or grandkids at least to fulfil them . I’ve had an easy life though so I can’t really complain . At 51 , unless you’ve had a lot of experience in something , you might be better going self employed if that’s what you want . Personally though , I have my own house and just about enough savings to last me till retirement so am going to spend the rest of my life just trying to enjoy life and if I need a woman I’ll pay for one lol rather than being with some bitter old bag just for the sake of it or spending most my time and efforts and stressing myself out on some career .

@tigergirl906 3 года назад

Pushing oneself too hard - ie harder than NATURE intended - is the cause of addiction and also downfall of kind society.

@tigergirl906 3 года назад

Be kind to yourself Mel. I hear you telling that lad he’s in the right place, yet that you fucked up 40 years. Nope. You were also in the right place. I do relate. I’m 47 and crying today. Kindness and acceptance are the salve though. And laughter - natural laughter from joy felt within. If anyone hasn’t told you today that you are loved, I love you. Thank you for your work. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤍

@becsta365 3 года назад

Tremendous courage Mel, well done…

@chriswilliams4195 3 года назад

Hi beautiful?

@portlandbellejay9606 3 года назад

The guy is literally absorbing every single word. I know he got it.

@rubinakochar5343 3 года назад

You give me hope, Mel

@thekushness 6 месяцев назад

They always got mad I asked so many questions, thank you for embracing that from him!

@WeideMarket 3 года назад

I've had the same experience - I also F*CKED UP the first 40 years of my life - by just deciding to have fun without making the sacrifices and putting in the work to reach my goals and achieve my dreams. That's changed now and I am putting all the work I can! I subscribed based on this video by the way ;-)

@TheRealMeowMeowShow 11 месяцев назад

I can relate to the learning from resucing myself, I had a life changing accident which took me from my 9-5 but also woke me up spiritually, I was on the bottom dealing with depression and anxiety and everything was heightend from my brain injury I just survived.. I though back at what made me happy as a child and that was making videos and so I deceided to take my story and post it onto the internet just to raise awareness, then i started about posting videos about Amsterdam which eventually led me to meet Uncle Stoner who then flew me to Jamaica as his videographer for a month, EVERYONE doubted me, and it was scary flying to a place I have never been to with only $17 but I did it, and fast forward to today, Jamaica has become a huge part of my life and now I try and show the beauty it has to the world!

@g.hansen1561 3 года назад

Pure inspiration

@serenedione Год назад

This gives me hope, I just turned 38 on November 9th...I'll be watching her 5,4,3,2,1 rule again to get this journey started‼️‼️🙏🏽

@gab22511 3 года назад

I needed to hear this!

@BeeUluwehi 3 года назад

I love that they’re talking and engaging with the visitors and the workers alike. The message is even better ✨

@samz8359 3 года назад

Oh I totally relate , I needed to hear that, thank you for sharing your vibrant energy with us.

@BlueberryBoogie 3 года назад

Flash forward in 10 years the man is everything he wished for and more. I pray for his success! 🙏🏽🙏🏽

@digital-wealth-creators-skool 3 года назад

I just looooooooove you Mel...your videos have changed my mind set....you are freaking awesome.... On my way to success ☺️☺️🤞

@digital-wealth-creators-skool 3 года назад

@Mel Robbins by using someone else's name and picture you have proven that you are a fraud.

@digital-wealth-creators-skool 3 года назад

@Mel Robbins and by the way cryptocurrercy itself is a big fraud.

@alvegutt42 Год назад

this is nice to hear. im 26 and feel like i wasted the past 3 years of my life, sometimes it hits me hard and im near ugly crying

@chiyungwong3774 3 года назад

I’m 37 and RU-vid knows what I need to hear more than I do! I’ve never been a drinker and over the last month I’ve started to drink a beer or two before bed…am I on a slippery slope?

@yasmintorres1038 6 месяцев назад

Sending him all the love & abundant energy aww 🥹

@mariafildissi9570 3 года назад

Me too, Mel! I believed my fearfull thoughts. No more!

@GabrielSavala-pd7qx 7 месяцев назад

Im 35 , and lost . Thanks for your words ❤

@GabrielSavala-pd7qx 7 месяцев назад

@@Uiaqvids I like that 👌

@ExposedChannel247 3 года назад

I've f-d up the first 41 years of my life culminating in a motorcycle accident. Lost my job because I couldn't walk for months, license expired, had to move in with family to be nursed back to health. Every day is a battle against the dark voices in my head and my girlfriend is ghosting me dealing with her own struggles leaving no support system. I have to claw my way out of this situation.

@andrews127 11 месяцев назад

Whatever you do dont rely on your GF.

@trevorfrayne6418 3 года назад

My 48th birthday is in two days. I love this advice. This for me is like an early birthday present. It could be the best one I have for this birthday. Thank you.

@ownyourafrica2722 Год назад

I really messed up my 20s. At 36 I've managed to turn a few things around. New subscriber!! 💚

@yoursisesthermeya Год назад

❤❤❤❤

@naomiblake1310 3 года назад

Loved the way you ignite the fire in people who doubt in themselves and in the life they do deserve. It’s choices at the end one makes for themselves - so beautifully done Mel!!!

@lifecoachpaden 3 года назад

I love it Mel. I'm going to keep cheering for myself. It may take time but I'm going to make it happen! 💪👌👍😘

@michaelh5985 11 месяцев назад

That title hits me on the face. I'm 44, and have done nothing, no marriage,no kids, just lonely. It's like a bad habit,being alone.

@joed7691 3 года назад

Love you Mel and your message. So glad you do what you do and help keep people like me inching forward each day.

@MXER20.X 11 месяцев назад

I’m 53 and still can’t figure it out!😅. Your a rock star. Keep posting those life nuggets! Priceless wisdom is awesome!!!

@josh2tone799 3 года назад

Waiter: HI are you ready to order? Mel: The first 40 years of my life I wasn't ready.......

@sumitjailiyaa4791 3 года назад

😅😅

@Tes73792 3 года назад

😂😂😂😂😂😂

@vibra1562 Год назад

😂😂😂😂💪🏼

@marco-vn8si 11 месяцев назад

Hahahaha

@PolishBehemoth Год назад

Just got a new subscriber. The part about waking up in the mirror and choices really struck home for me. Im 36 and just starting life over now, in a new school (massage therapy) for something i really loved my entire life but never had the balls to pursue.

@sherrijones9728 3 года назад

Perfect timing! ❤🙏🏽

@Lerato_M 2 месяца назад

I’m 40 and lost every, I don’t even own a spoon as I write this but praying for better days ❤

@janespitfire9884 3 года назад

You inspire me Mel. I know everyone goes thru stuff it is part of living but you make sense

@theloveleebaker Год назад

Needed to hear this. Life is just beginning for me at 44.

@jhesbol Год назад

I'm 46 and 6 months sober. This speaks to me on so many levels! I've started graduate school and am going to try my best to help others battle their demons much as I have battled mine. Thank you, Mel!

@jesusistheanswer2074 3 года назад

It's nice to see you helping people live. God bless

@nancyh.570 3 года назад

You are the best Mel!

@CamilleSmisek-gi8xe 3 месяца назад

Talk about shit you need to hear... wow... thank you so much for this. 🙏

@mariec.9102 3 года назад

Sounds like he recognized Mel & asked her some life questions... It's easier for some commenters to be sarcastic & envious 🥀 There's no happiness being that sad, jealous, envious person🌹

@mariec.9102 3 года назад

@@biancadelarosa7986 - this makes no sense. What are you trying to say???

@suefinney6722 7 месяцев назад

I LOVE your videos and share with friends and my adult children. Thanks Mel for being real! 💖

@happylifestore Год назад

Loved that title, summary of my own life. At 40, 2 years ago now, I said enough is enough. My goal for 2022 was having my own flourishing business, I achieved that, my goal for 2023 is fantastic health. 2024 marrying the wife I found in 2023, or if I don't find her in 2023 then that will be my main goal in 2024. Then having one kid four years in a row. Life will be amazing for me at 50.

@theinfamousninapink Год назад

♥️🙏🏾

@progressnotperfection1839 3 года назад

High five yourself! That’s how I’ve found my way through this life/world so far!

@CrystleSky 3 года назад

Always believe in yourself and trust the process. Keep moving forward 🌠🐎🐎🌠🐎🌠🌠💛💛💛❤❤

@withoutwroeirs 11 месяцев назад

Exactly so. There's not such thing as the wrong choice, as long as you're making one. Rinse and repeat.

@jannalee2036 3 года назад

Love you Mel♡

@Cachoeira1986 Год назад

Wise words. But nothing if you don't take action. I've changed many nasty habits so far and life is a choice of your habits.

@whoyouare20111 Год назад

She drank, was a lawyer, had a show and books. So 1 vice but many other achievements is not really ruined life. The way people sell just to get clout is so sad

@miakamei1751 Год назад

Bro made it sound like she doesn't suffer anything

@steverinaldi890 Год назад

This is a joke I hope. And that poor bastard has to listen to this shit. He probably slit his wrists in the back after this. Love how she talks about she is all over the world telling this story.

@Maggie-g1v 11 месяцев назад

I Fu&k up life too Mel, for over 50 yrs!!! Thank you Mel for starting this much needed conversation!!! Blessings to us ALL!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻✨♥️✨💝✨♥️✨🙏🏻🙏🏻

@robertdimitrelis5567 3 года назад

I love her.

@Krystal620 3 года назад

Thank you Mel! Right on time! ❤️🛼🥰

@melrobbins1342 3 года назад

Tele gram @faithsophiaheeg

@Krystal620 3 года назад

@@melrobbins1342 Thank you Mel for your reply. I don’t know what this means ❤️

@mariagarza1269 3 года назад

Thanks so much for this. Some of us over 40 need to hear this.

@ShermanBMason 11 месяцев назад

I’m grateful I found this

@momione11 Год назад

I have changed everything in my life. I had to so I didn't drown from everything. Also realized how much my hsp affected even though I didn't understand it. This didn't happen overnight. But collapsed in August 2021. That was the turning point. Now standing at the crossroads and choosing new paths. Where I myself am involved in my own life. Where I make decisions like an adult. Became an adult late in life. Almost 49 years old. Started going out of my programming. Become who I was meant to be without programming. It feels a little unusual not to take or use what I previously turned to. Like a bird without feathers, I feel naked. I walk the road and see where it takes me. Do something that scares me every day. Get to know myself. So dating myself. A bit exciting to discover a new world. Without the ones I had in my luggage. But has the baggage of experience.❤Walk the walk.🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️

@voiseaumusic Год назад

beautifully said ❤

@Kozette007 3 года назад

Thank you for being so authentic. I too F!#¥ up my life the first 3 and a half decades.

@brasti9088 3 года назад

I'm 25 and I feel like I fucked up the first 25 years of my life too. Stuff like this help. I see so many 25 or younger seeming to have it all figure out, grinding, getting there then there's me riddled in fear

@sliceofpie1741 2 года назад

I'm with you

@cliffisaac6158 2 года назад

Well that's your first problem stop comparing yourself to other people and that fear will greatly reduce. Everyone has a different starting position but the finish line is the same for everyone and it's being content with who and where you are in life. Instead compare yourself to who you were yesterday and strive to be better than that person even small increments of improvement matter. Doing so will serve as your motivation to keep going until you have so much momentum that the struggle to improve and learn won't feel like your struggling any more. It doesn't matter how long it takes for you to get to where you want to be just as long as you get there.

@veronxska Год назад

25 is still so young!!! I know not comparing yourself to others is hard, but remember, your peers only post the good stuff in social media. It's all just a facade.

@wizard_of_waverly_place Год назад

On same boat.

@fiorebella3179 3 года назад

I am 30 i am studying psychiatry, my mother wanted to study psychology but she did not and she always said.My son do whatever the fruk u want, this is only one fricking life, enjoy it, hug, kiss, run, eat, just don't waste it. It looks like u r gonna live 100 years but u r not, u r living seconds of a life, be happy. And thats why i am not scare of life, lets see what tomorrow brings. Lets enjoy today, tonight, now, this amazing present.