Life begins at 40: the biological and cultural roots of the midlife crisis | The Royal Society 

Yeah so I have been going through a 20 year mid life crisis. Ah the memories and elevations of life when you can think deeply every day and figure out what’s what!

I'm just a lay person, 37 year old woman, I've been going through what you call a midlife crisis since I was about 32. I realized I was in a marriage I was completely unsatisfied with, raising two wonderful children in a relatively stable home, in a virtually celibate relationship. Well midlife crisis is being discussed as some sort of disorder, perhaps it's just a realization of the aggregated dissatisfactions stemming from a stable life. I submit to you that human beings were never meant to be monogamous, that our marriage system serves a purpose yet is contradictory to our animal nature, and that at some point it will either be dealt with gradually and sustainably, or erupt in the form of a full out crisis at which point a person must confront their unmet needs before they die. This comes across as a dysfunction because it throws off what we believe to be the logical best practice for living. I feel this comes across most often in men because they can't feel as attached to the well-being of their offspring as a female biologically does. It's just animal. We women feel this too, but probably socially feel more obligated to suppress those feelings so that we can maintain a parent says decent human beings. Jung wouldn't probably view this as the shadow of ourselves expressing itself. That shadow grows long after mid day, especially when we think of the things we didn't accomplish that morning.

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Subscribed! Thanks for this lecture, It has been very interesting.

Well said

I got them all. Thank you god.

@@amanansari5567 then you are one of the few who know what life is really about and you understand the key to true happiness. May you enjoy the peace that comes with living in a world where true things matter most.

1000

So happy I learned that at 22

Yes me too

@यश कुमार more motivation just can’t do it 3 or 4 times per night anymore. Once maybe twice.

You are not only. A hard lesson I learned.

Your profile pic 😂 Tim Dillon is the best 😍

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This is beautiful. Congratulations to you! I wish you well.

I hope your still at it. Keep going.

That's excellent!

AMAZING! You got this!

That's wonderful! You are givin me hope, thanks!

May I ask how you got rid of your depression? I'm so glad you're out of that dark place now!

@@bethkirky I've found my wife that was really supportive, then got a children. My wife made sure that I'm involved in their upbringing and while taking care for them my depression gradually dissapeared. I've tried with therapies prior to my marriage but it gave no result. I suppose that , for me, my children were/are the cure. Depression is highly idividual problem and I can not say that what works for me works for everyone. I'm lucky...

@@vlax12 Thank you for your detailed reply 🙏 that's amazing, you found purpose, support and love. It makes a lot of sense in terms of getting rid of your depression. I wish you and your family the best ❤

May I ask how you found out you were in a depression?

@@JordiMuntada approximately at age 23 l've had suicidal toughs I've said to my parents and they've took me to psychiatrist... Prior to that I've had lack of interest in everything in life, had no goal in life nor desire to have one. Everything seemed miningless all the time. It excalated at age 23 and after that I've been on some antidepressants. I can say that they gave me time to give up the worst possible solution for that condition. After some time I've met my wife and thins started to change for better.

I agree with the excelling part. I am in that time of my life and things are only getting better. Yes, aging physically can be challenging but when you have a mind/body/spirit balance of focus you have much to look forward to. If you are continually growing mentally and spiritually and staying fit I think you can avoid the mid life crisis.

Exactly 🥳 bingo my friend u nailed it! I am 48 and nobody can manipulate me ever again. Now life is beautiful zero debt zero marriages two boys from two different ladies. 2020 best year for me!!!

They tend to discriminate against anyone who they aren't already taking advantage of. That's the point.

The discrimination is not because of manipulation. Because a person with kids and loans can be manipulated much more than a young guy with no baggage. It is because of money. Young people are cheaper, and more flexible with timings.

AMEN!!!

Now that’s a life well lived. Charge on!

I'm 40 now and doing many of those things. I'm on track to retire around 57-60 However, I'm definitely in the messy middle! I did learn how to swim in my 20's so there's that.

This is so inspiring. I'm 39, will be 40 in only 5 months, have no retirement savings (other than US social security, which is never much), but will have just graduated with my master's a month earlier. I envision a path similar to yours- working hard to save for retirement while living the life of my dreams, including traveling the world (by myself if I have to!) Your having retired at only 57- just 17 years after you started saving- blows my mind and gives me hope. I'd love to do the same and assumed it wasn't possible.

@@VivaLaVittoria It is doable assuming you have steady and stable employment, below average housing expenses to income ratio, and consistently living below means. I had all 3. I was a low level public servant in local municipality. I contributed heavily into retirement fund. My apartment was reasonable (i know ppl renting a room in someone’s house; the least expensive way to have shelter). I enjoyed time at home and made my own meals. I seldom dined out or hung out with ppl. When i traveled i booked group room bunk bed in hostels (lowest nightly rate). I had a large urban wilderness in my backyard so I hiked and trail ran several times a week (free). Living in a large metropolitan i saw ppl living large all the time that Never affected my resolve to work towards my goal (retired early to have freedom). I cash bought my first house to retire (from money i saved after tax). I don’t need to work part time to make ends meet. The freedom and easy living is exactly what I strived for since i was teenager.

Nice! Keep going don't give up 😉

I am right there with you.

Are You 40?

My 20s was basically living in pain of my mental disorders. 30s was admitting to my mental disorders. Currently 36 and now I feel like I can start my damn life. The fears has ifted and any future fears might be in fear of who I've become.

I'm right with you too on this, I'm 39 too and can relate exactly to what you have said x

Lol you have 2 timing in life Young adult in total prime of streighth and health: 18-50 for people with lucky genetics. 18-39 for the less lucky ones Then you have 40/50- to when ever your last year on earth is. You will slowly just like a fruit past his prime. Rot till you collapse So realize your dreams and goals. Enjoy life. And be in peace with yourself if you did the best you could in life. Cause not your every goal and dream will be fullfilled

This is so true! There comes a time when you stop and ask yourself why you are doing certain things in your life. You realize which things you were doing bc you were "supposed to." When you instead start doing what makes you happy and what is meaningful to you is when you begin to find fulfillment, peace, and happiness.

I got to this stage after I had my first child at 29. When you have kids you tend to have a lower number of f&$ks to give. Your obligation to your child is utmost priority. Then you grow into that 40s “I don’t give a shhh” persona really fast. Well said!

As a 24 year old, I just realized this last year. I knew it would be easier but I didn't fully comprehend what it meant until then.

@@reyne8424That's awesome that you realized it so early. Unfortunately for me, I really didn't finally truly start being myself and making decisions based on my vision for my life until well into my 30's. By then, some extensive damage had been done, but that's life I guess.

So true.

Agreed! Same here!

I'm absolutely with you on that one, I have the best health, and fitness as a 44 y.o than ever. I started running ultra marathons a few months ago.

I feel after a life of struggles, those (you have described) have become my focus. :)

That's what I'm talking about!!!!!! I love it and congrats. That is inspiring. Thank you

I'm 62 and I've learnt and developed so much in just the last ten years that I feel like I'm a radically more evolved version of the man I was then. I'm also a lot more calm and content because of it. Never stop learning, never stop being open to change, try not to struggle against things you have no control over (whilst recognising that you can control a lot more than you think - you can, for example, control how you think about things). I have found that being careful about diet is enormously important (to mood and brain energy besides other fitness) - cut sugar and starchy carbs, eat fat, etc. This process of learning, development and growth continues throughout life. Also, in a very positive sense, not nihilistic (I was nihilistic, I'm not now. It caused me a serious anxiety breakdown in my late 40s), nothing really matters. Very often things that can be very difficult in life and that cause great distress and pain can, with future hindsight, be seen to be essential steps on the way to better situations and a wiser self. We need challenges to grow. Concentrate your efforts on the people you love and care about.

couldn't agree more!!! I've been so much happier since I turned 40 and did so...

Absolutely !! People are very difficult to manipulate after their mid thirties,,,, well some... but it's an awakening and a huge realization, also giving up having to living up to and line up to some unrealistic /imagines and imposed expectation that doesn't want our benefit in any sense

Yes, I agree. It's taken me so long to realise just how much we are all socialised and conditioned to behave in 'appropriate' ways and to believe the 'correct' things. It is still something that I am becoming ever more aware of as it can be hard to identify exactly which are our true beliefs and behaviours and which are just preconceptions and habitual routines we have either been trained to perform or have fallen into through life. I now really make an effort to break my beliefs down as best I can to find their fundamental basis, question everything and try to be open to alternative positions (I have found that even what I took to be the fundamentals or core principles until recently can be broken down themselves too just by asking why?).

@@adm58 yep. And all for a cleverly constructed slavery system that benefits a certain group

@@adm58 I’m glad you’re being intentional about the life you want to live rather than living by default. Growing up, our parents would enforce beliefs and ideas based on made-up narratives such as tradition, religion, and culture. It’s time to return to our core.

example would be?

@@Melly16yr10 Like how money works and how worthless it really is. Every 10 years, you lose about 50% of your purchasing power.

This is why I homeschool!!

@@EtherDotterMatterBitter this doesn’t seem to be a very good example. My purchasing power increases each year because I was taught to invest. So, I invest in assets that exceed inflation and always put money away each paycheck.

@@EtherDotterMatterBitter Every 10 years you lose 20% purchasing power, not 50%. And all you have to do is know to use high-yield savings account to prevent that. Or invest & actually grow your purchasing power over time. One thing I will say is that people on death's door often regret caring a bit too much about money and not enough about experience/enjoyment.

and minutes later, he exhaled

what a quote !

stop talking in riddles, great people

Civilization tech unlocked

Great Quote!

it also depends upon social environment. some people inherit it and some people create it.

Oh my young man good for you. I'm 82 years old and im thinking about fighting in the UFC

Go plant based. Fountain of youth.

I'm 47, I have had very rough life I find life fatiguing ... I'm starting to see the same cycles on repeat over & over. The world & people in it, seem so predictable that theres a level of boredom to it. And it's not environmental, I've lived in several countries and every state on the East Coast from Mass to Fla Texas, Colo, Az, N.O I moved around constantly because I would get bored easily and seek new challenges.

@@Peakfreud new challenges ? Don't suppose you'd like to spar against an 82 year old cage fighter, would yah ?

Sorry you had to have that experience before finding happiness.

Well done man...i wish I can say 3 years (7months) keep on going and don’t EVER GO BACK!

Don’t know you but I believe in you. Great job

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Congrats! Keep up!

Fantastic! Good for you!

What ever makes you feel good. Young people are not your food. Don’t get caught. You’ll have to start over again. They will train from tik tok and leave you in the dust.

I've got soo many examples like this through my life , that is hard for me to define why is age even part of the equation, we are out there putting as much information and experience in our brains as we can , the number of years we have survived , seems inconsequential to the final result

So true! Many younger folk are in worse shape than the older ones.

@@BTCSowhat what?

I have much older parents too and I am about to be 41. It's a very strange place to be.

@@butterflymoon6368 Why do you feel it is such a strange place to be, to have much older parents ? How did/do you feel about it?

Your mother was 42 when you were born?!! oh my! you just gave me the biggest hope for my future since I felt so discouraged about not having children yet bc I don't find my couple at 38 almost 39!, this comment made my day, thank you.

@@clementnowak5316 It's strange because people my age aren't going through what I'm going through now (sick parent, care homes etc.). My life-stage is only shared by people who are 20 years older than me. When my parents are no longer in my life I guess it will also feel strange because then my friends/peers will be going through what I'm going through now. It's just feeling out-of-step.

​@@jt7273What does that have to do with what he said?

in general maybe, but it depends on individual trajectory too, someone gets age-related problems at 40 or 50

Beautiful!!

Yes!! 😂

True, midlife is closer to 50, not 40. Perhaps it's different in the UK, but most American researchers define midlife at 50ish, with a 45 - 50 transition. I would not consider anything earlier than 45 middle age. There is a huge difference between someone just coming out of his 30s and someone 50 plus.

It can't be any better said. Wow,

That's Awesome,never heard this before,but I love it,thanks!!

Yeah well said man

Love this

I needed to hear this. I get very nostalgic for my past. It's very painful. It's hard to focus on the future, especially with COVID ruining things.

@AnubisPatron Don’t let your memories and dreams be bigger than your Now 🙏🏻

I'm rooting for you. Go for it!!!!,😏😏

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You can do it! My wife is now close to the finish line in the process of getting her license (medical field) about 9 years after our marriage, while raising two kids.

I'm right there with you! I have a choice and a voice. No more crap people and sacrificing my time and dreams for them and their lies. Being me, being fit and healthy, and just enjoying my life without narcs, liars and cheaters.

I graduated with my bachelors at 38 before the pandemic and now, 41, finishing my masters. It is much easier than you think. I became friends with people all ages and the love received was so warming and welcoming. I prayed to have a great time in my college years, GOD far exceeded my expectations. One of my greatest friends is only 26 and we share bible scriptures daily, go out on friend dates, and enjoy "college life." In both degrees, bachelors and master's, people are all ages. Last semester, one of my classmates was late sixties. My very close friend is 80 and graduated last year with her PhD after teaching school over 30 years. Life gets better with age! Embrace and enjoy it!

Here in Ontario where I experience seasons too, I am voicing my agreement with your description.

Except that many (like me, female professional) now start their families at 40ish. Mine were born when I was 38 & 42. I seem to have extended that productive/reproductive phase by about 20 years - makes the Autumn phase pretty intense. 😳

Good way to look at it. As a football fan who’s 43, I say I am in the 3rd quarter of life.

No, for me my 30s were my winter.

60+ just seems like you're wondering why you're still around, if you made investments what would you use it for at that point.

Paul, I am in same boat as you are. I turned 39 a month ago.

@@sudhaunshusp best of luck to you mate!

That's courageous

what is your new field/career in? i'm 50 and my company wants me gone!!

Im 44 and this year I decided to attend school to learn programming, a complete departure from my lifelong vacation in metal fabrication. Wish me luck!!

Yes, it is..

100% this guy babbles about to say nothing but that and to plug books.

@@jakesanders136 no but clearly you are

Yeah I realized it before I turned 30, it's still not that easy at some points

@@jakesanders136 If you don't mind me asking, what is your age?

So inspiring.

Hell yeah Joni rock on baby

Aww this made me emotional in a happy way.. I love seeing comments like this and I’m so happy I came across yours 🙏🏽🤍🦋

Thank you !

Thank you !

Yes it does brother..💪🏾💯

Spot on, as long as we have breath in us, it's always a new day, filled with opportunities to take a shot at life :)

your indoctrinated life reboots every morning...

Yes 🙏

Beautiful.

I definitely get that. More boldness and less living according to how people see me. Take me or leave me the %$÷ alone. For me it's a big fat blur between 20, 30, 40. Honestly it feels like a 10 year dream and I woke up crying. Wondering wth just happened.

where you live ? usa ?

@@mendoncaangelo i expected a better answer :p

Best comment. Lol! 🔥

My entire life has been a "don't give a fck" since I recall. I mean, I became expert in auto didacting after finding out that people around me did not had the right answers to my questions. So I ended up finding my own ones. A hell of a trip I must say but also fun. Mostly when analyzing failures on my desitions. Came into a conclusion: "Aging is about how many fcks you give to the world by doing what you love instead of what you are told to do". Free souls never get restrained. 😎

That is fantastic news!!! Congratulations! 🥳

This guy stopped drinking.

@@orange555 So did I.

I'm so so happy to read your message. Keep on it.

My money says he left Canada.

hope you find someone who makes you feel better

Did you decide you don't want kids or do you do want them but decided that worrying isn't really going to help with that anyway?

Wow. I never heard that. Just wrote a comment here on this video: "Just turned 40 Been dead for 15 years Awaiting the dark" Benjamin was so right. At least in my case Thanx

@@emilcioran8873 thank you. I was dead for many years. I've now come to life, and it sure feels good. A few years back I saw graffiti on a London wall which read.. "where there is love there is life". Never forgot that one. I also have nothing whatsoever to do with mainstream media, tvs and newspaper. Nothing. This is a great blessing. And only have a couple of close friends. I read Shakespeare and listen to beethoven, and write poetry. It's another universe. An infinitely better one. I like your title emil cioran. Only discovered him recently. But I do prefer Nietzsche. Kind regards, Noel 🌹

@Hinami "To live is the rarest thing of all, most just exist". Oscar Wilde 🦋

Thanks for that. Benjamin Franklin was an amazing polymath.

Yes

Good👍🏻. Well said.

Yes and do not stay 6 ft apart

@@redheadedearthchild4920 Amen! Haha :)

True, also don´t get scared or nervous of being around the people who mirroring you, teaching you always something new about you, helping you to improve...Personal observation from last months..

@Billy B hoax.?? 🙄My sister works in icu unit. Go into one some day. Tryst this is not a coax. I guess people like you want something to believe in..

Absolutely 💯 %

Brilliant and true.

Felt this.

Not really, am 40 and somehow I was conditioned from a young age to serve others and as a result put family and friend's needs before mine until my life crumbled and I realized no one really cares about you. Finally after much self reflection, I realized it is a stupid approach and Christianity has something to do with this. You achieve happiness when you put yourself first. When you become so selfish that your selfishness overflows out of your abundance into others, that is the point of truly helping others.

Making sense 🎉

I really hope you're right about that

That SOUNDS 👂🏽 beautiful; an elegant platitude . . . but whether or not it's true . . . 😒🤷🏾‍♂️

Thank you!

@@sarahmayarenas9730 🙏🙏

Love that metaphor

How is it so far?

How is it going now that you're almost 40?

@@Dajjalee 23 as well just watching this and making sure I don't end up like the people he talks about in the vid

Life is life, song title

Yes, yes, yes....

@@theinte11igent1 24 myself lol

Agreed. Still, it does seem to happen later in life.. as if there’s a requirement for more ‘testing’ ..? I mean a response at 20 is rarely replicated at 50. Just because you’ve lived long enough to LEARN MORE about yourself- and it doesn’t stand still.. 👍

I turned 40 last month and this is EXACTLY how I feel!

My doctor told me the same. Research, listen, learn, change. Depression lifted a great deal after a good move to a healthier environment. I'm so thankful for therapy and meds thru my 30s. Today I like or admire the aging process and the science of it. The art of how we age helps following generations.

I am 32 and I am about at the "research" phase. I love it, it does require focus and goal-oriented behavior. Priorities tend to decorrelate day to day, so journaling and reviewing become essential to make progress.

@@jamesboulger8705 yes🙏😌

Our life is the best lesson to learn

Its about ourselves getting our basic and higher needs MET first. Nobody has a good life without that . Everyone lies about that stuff too for obvious reasons. Women haters and abortion hysterics were not wanted as children, ask them. Where ELSE does the rage come from? Happiness is no choice but we love to accuse others of that piece of "wrong thinking" There's nothing sadder than abusive parents imposing GOOD THINGS on their kids through punishment, rage and unacknowledged personal despair.

Truth. Once my "wants" we're curtailed and my needs met continuously, my life became more enjoyable.

Happiness isn’t in the attainment but rather the pursuit.

I often wonder if it's more about compromising and negotiating, rather than control per se. Just controlling it, hardly, can be draining, but if you can compromise and find a way to get and give, I think it's better overall. What do you think?

Grapes are a fun snack

Yeah my parents if they aren't doing chores are glued to the television 24/7.

Cable tv is absolute rubbish! Additionally cable companies have the nerve to keep adding in more commercials and cutting out more of the actual show content in order to fit them in and still charge us too much to watch these highly "cropped" programs! Cable companies are double dipping....they are just as bad as the banks....they are gaining revenue from cable subscribers who are then forced to pay to watch the commercials from advertisers who have also paid the cable companies to run their ads.

If you truly want to evolve,, you need to drop all this nonsense! There is no beginning ! And henceforth, no ending ! Birth and death are simply notions ! When the physical body falls apart and dies, whatever sustained it (energy), continues on. Energy can neither be created nor destroyed! Your physical body is transformed into something else. The person you call “you” (the me, the I ) ,, doesn’t truly exist. The statement “ I am “ is nonsensical.

At RU-vid, I decide the content. Sorry dear TV.....

I have been over cable ever since we first got a smart TV. I also don't watch the news because it's usually only bad. I don't miss it the TV that is. I never watched the news.

What if I'm ready to start at age 80?

@@abramlittle7102 Then start. You can't have the time back. Start now.

Happy birthday Nancy!

@@abramlittle7102 more the better.Now you have enough experiences .... Have a great life..... Have a happy and contented life .. Find true , caring friends.. Some times our pets (Dogs,cats....)Our our best friends,we can trust them than humans... ***Gardening,live with plants and trees.....they too are very good friends than most of the time.....We can communicate with them..Plants and Trees feel us they can help us. Good Books... reading is ... you can join the library and book Clubs..... Help neady people and Animals..... Join Yoga class, Laughing Therapy class,do some jogging in your neighborhood ***Join to a club ...( senior citizens) and have fun.... Do some social work...join with good genuine people. May God bless you 🙏🙏🙏

Can't agree more. I just turned 52 and life can't be more better in terms of self confidence, inner peace. And definitely the greatest blessing is being healthy.

@Apstore Login whoever informed you, or whatever experiment you tried to reach the determination that pain killers don't work....is false. Very false. Pain killers work when applied correctly. I'm 44, wanted to leave this world, and pain pills was going to be the way. They worked. It was bliss. Then I woke up. FML

It is never the intentions of making a ton of money to take it with you. It's only to continue to provide for the family when you're gone.

Sour graping, yeah

This is good advice, otherwise I found the professors lecturer quite boring and not intellectually stimulating either.

A really beautifull entry of which the contents is soberingly true. Thank you Mr Young.

Oh yea!!! Lol

I’m 48 in September. I agree 100% about the 80s and 90s

90’s was it for me.

How can ANYONE be more chilled than ever with the deliberate fear-mongering & applied psychological warfare being applied by our government(s) to promote the faux-vid psy-op? "It pulls the muzzle o'er the chin, or else it gets the hose again!".

Stick around, you'll get to miss a lot more decades...if you're lucky!

Whats ur exact location miss. We need to mate

Wow, really?

@@DarkoFitCoach Mating with a woman at 43 is ill-advised my friend.

Same here.Especially since starting Intermittent Fasting.

@@Kuroganemk2 i meant more plowing ballsdeep and then discarding and youtubing on my phone in my own house

Wow man, I feel exactly the same thing. Im 34. Crazy.

Same. And I’m almost forty with three kids.

Graduating in 2008 was a deep pit to climb out of for sure, bunch of odd jobs for 10 consecutive years.

I feel you - 36, single (once married), unemployed (working as a freelancer), I've owned a business, lived a life but I feel that I've been going through a ten-year midlife crisis...

Same age, same thoughts!

Exactly... that's how the wise think

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I AMMMMMMMMM BIGGUS DICKUS! ADMIRAL OF THE FOOL'S NAVY!

In dat order period

How do you know if Life is real or not?

As if you can resist a good political spin

Dose that apply to men only or women as well?

@@Melly16yr10 I don’t see why not. It’s up to the individual…

what you see as evil is just jaded people who've been through bad experiences protecting themselves from another one. People are inherently good but age / experiences make them cynical. Don't lose hope, there's lots to live for! :)

You're not alone Life has peaks and valleys Find the balance Find your peace Look within and help others I'm a social worker and I find that my remedy lies in helping others It's my purpose They say there are two important days in life The day we're born and the day we understand why Wishing you strength and peace

you will be rewarded

I'm 35 and I only just now realized I need to hurry the f*ck up with finding a partner and having children. I have no job, zero experience with dating, no friends, yet I do have two sellable skills thus plenty career options. What age are you and what exactly did "going with your gut" bring you? Is it and has it been everything you will ever want out of life?

@@SuspiriaX well… I have zero interest in having children, and don’t really care to get married, so…I feel less rushed, no longer having the pressure to “try to get it out of my system before marriage.” And I’m doing better with career now than I was when I felt like I “had to work hard for the sake of working hard”

i think you just did a better analysis of this subject than the RS speaker!

Very well said.

I agree with every word you just said. Young people are constantly bombarded with well-intentioned themes of "Be a history-maker! Change the world! Follow your dreams!" Then when the reality of life comes, everyone feels like they aren't living up to their potential because they aren't presidents and rock stars. Having a regular life, a regular job, and a regular family IS a success.

I just realized this at 45.

thank you for this.

I’m turning 30 this year and your words give me encouragement. I have always feared getting older.

@@BManStan1991 we should fear not growing. I feared becoming boring and bitter when i was little because thats what i mainly saw but it caused me to have more of a dialog with my conscience at a young age so for that i am thankful 🤗

@@briananderson1246 true. What I am afriad of is becoming weaker, duller, meaner and boring in actuality, not being an older age. Thank you for the wisdom.

Beautiful, I'll be 41 tomorrow and really don't give a damn because I'm really, really happy. When you are really happy, I'm talking tears of joy happiness the first thing that goes is age. I literally don't even think about age anymore. I was more concerned about age when I was younger.

@@BManStan1991 I will be 40 this year and I would hate to be 30 again. Don’t worry it gets better 🤗

Every summer and every winter is like that too.

@@mug8865 I did swing to and fro between blaming others and blaming myself or just blaming circumstances. Nowadays I don't blame anyone, all I know is that I didn't have what I needed for well being for a long time and this happens to millions of people. Shit just happens, but a lot of people will not accept this truth because its too scary and unpredictable and smashes their illusion of complete control. Until you "wake up" your screwed, and if you don't get what you need in order to wake up, your screwed Another way of putting it is you need to know yourself, and un til then your screwed

Its better to live than exist. Glad to hear you are now living. There is so much you can achieve from now onwards just enjoy each day. Find a hobby or something you are passionate about and try to be the best that you can at it....oh yeah on the bad days just be grateful that you have made it this far in life because there are many children that do not see adulthood.

@@mug8865 I'm glad life has improved for you and that you are trying to be a better person thats what its about m8. keep your head up.

@@streetfashiontv9149 When I realised I was better off dead than just living the same way against my will, that was a catalyst for change.

Build wealth, work on your fitness, become red pulled and get out there John!!!! You got this get yourself a pretty 30 yr old

Well, the life begins when you are born but you actually have no memories younger than 4,5 years old, life ends when you die, but many of us when dying, don't even realize, only those that commit suicide realize it.

Life begins after death bruh

@@nustaimo6755 How do you know that ?

@@gigislove3582 “you have to die a few times before you can really live” ~Charles Bukowski

@@nustaimo6755 😂

He hasnt hit midlife, therefore it's not a midlife crisis.

Let's call that an awakening or a realization. Let's hope he lives 200 years and his midlife crisis is at 100 years old!

Dude stfu..if you are 17 your brain isn't developed yet. Your kid was just Wilding out. He hasn't suffered enough. And if he has then it's not more than his age group. Don't put ur son on a pedestal.

Gen Z 🤮

Yeah, midlife crisis at 13. He was asked to take out the trash. He refused. His phone was taken away, so he had a nervous breakdown. After being grounded from his phone for five terrifying minutes, he became a content creator and he and his 17 year old girlfriend couldn’t care less what everyone thinks.

I just turned 31, no kids, never divorced, and am not married to my long time partner. That said, I’ll also be changing my legal surname to something of my own choosing this year. I do not want my family’s name, my father’s name, or my partners name. I initially wanted to do it as a teenager, and despite all the growth and change and departure from so much bullshit, that desire for a symbolically new me in the form of my own name has never subsided. So I’m right there with you.

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Oh, I love this idea! I was also once thinking about it. It’s not that difficult, is it?

That's so cool!

May the most High guide us towards the straight path.

Yeah sure you do!

For a reality check, ask a 25 year old if they think that when they see you.

Agreed!

I am 43 too and I feel younger and more energetic than when I was in my 30s

Why add “god in our heart”? Many are far happier shedding that particular myth along with all its baggage.

100% same here

Did you watch the video? The presenter is questioning the premise that "life begins at 40", he is not defending it.

As a 43yo, I pity you. That you've allowed yourself to become so nihilistic. Granted, I don't know your path. But that's not a good way to live.

I am 23 and going through the worst crisis ever. It may seem bizzare to you folks I ended up here, but I feel exactly how 40-somethings describe. Just that I still didnt go through all the BS like failed marriage and career one didnt want in the 1st place. It just hit me 20 years earlier. Maybe its for the best. Since I dropped out of University at 19-20 I worked a few jobs where I mostly hung out with people in their late 30s to 40s, and realized that we are mostly the same. Those were men, some with wives and kids, some without, but in the end men who werent really content with their lives and I actually saw myself in them even though they were older ; still yearning for all kinds of different experience but stuck where they are, especially those who had families. 30-somethings... I was astonished when I realized how we're are not that much different. Only they had more experience in certain areas so they could offer advice. But basically I saw no major difference between them and myself. Both them and myself would crack jokes about funny looking people who would visit our store, both them and myself would turn adound to look at that hot girl that just passed by...I realized this is it, this is where I am now and its the best it is ever going to be. So make the most out of it, why wait for physical deterioration. This, aside from casually watching American sitcoms as a teen, made me realize I dont want the so-called ordinary life. It makes me depressed thinking about it. So yeah, while i technicallt didnt start "dying" yet, I feel my youth slipping away...big time. And I know the 2nd best time (best time was when I was 21) to do the things I want to do is now, no more postponing. I nearly died of severe infection a year and a half ago...I see no more reason to postpone anything. Time we have is so limited. I was 18 just last week, a young man, on the beginning of a journey. Wake the f up folks. Why wait until we start physically deteriorating?? I understand if your goal is to see your grandkids then you should try to keep yourself alive until old age, but if that is not your goal...what is the point? We aint getting out of this game alive anyway. In the end, if I manage to do everything I want to do in the next 10 years and then pass away, is that worse than doing a mere quarter of that but living another 40 years? I remember few years ago I had a surgical procedure done. I vividly remember old folks (roughly 70s I would say) who just had a stroke lying there on their beds right there at the hospital admission (state owned hospital yay). I was absolutely horrified by it and said under no circumstances will I ever end up in this situation. Look at it this way life seems like an ever-changing present moment...until its not anymore. So obviously the purpose of life is the experience itself. In the here and now. Or at the very most planning for a future here and now to be spectacular, so that you can experience it. One day it will be lights out...memories wont be there anymore, so really its the present moment that counts. There will be absolutely nothing left. We are going back to where we were before we were born. Is that nothing? Cant be. We were "nothing" for the eternity before we were born, yet we are here. Will it happen again? Why not, if it already did? The eternal "self" , the observer, goes on, as the forms through which it can experience itself (the Universe) are plentiful. But it will be a completely different perspective, totally unrelated, thats for sure. Hence this perspective we got right now is unique, gotta make the most out of it. How ever bad it may seem, i certainly am not looking forward to an experience of a pig in a slaughterhouse. What we got going right now is pretty "high level" I would say. Too much rambling. I hope at least some of it may be of interest to you guys. Cant sleep anyway.

@@f4ucorsair153 yeah man get after it.

@@RTWGraphics Don't be so judgmental. Why don't you take a good look at your own life, i bet your problems are there, you just choose to be asleep.

@@vangielee7929 Of course I have problems. I'm just not a negative Nancy like the OP or you apparently.

I though it was that for women post 40, society no longer thinks of you at all.

@@MM12684 That's rude

I am 32 I want to be lovely cat lady now...I don't have nothing but I want to be get cat next year when I get place to live myself

@still_here...I love it!!!!!

I'm 29 and I AM the lovely cat lady NOW! I have 10 cats, 4 adopted and six who just joined the club and I kept them 😁😁😁🥰🥰🥰👍 just be yourself ❤

No doubt, Inner-city.

Probably the best comment here. Thanks. Life begins when we find and nurture our true selves. Life begins when we remove all narcissistic voices(from individual, society etc.) from our head and start following our own voice.

@@sharif50077 oh wow thank you for this wonderful comment , it's rare in this day and age especially on social media. Much appreciated. I think you said it much better than me , more to the point and simple , which is best and more easily understood and takes less time .. Iv always had a problem with simplifying my words. Perhaps one of the reasons, besides not knowing the technique, is that language often creats misunderstandings ! So I always feel I have to keep explaining etc Thanks again you made my day ur energy came right through. I hope the people around you recognize and appreciate what a wonderful human being they associate with. Many blessings laughter and joy to you and all your loved ones 🙏✌️🌹

@@kakooly We need explanation that you described, you explained it well and thanks again for that. You have a great understanding of life. Your explanation just resonated with what I have learned from lectures of Professor Sam Vaknin in youtube on narcissism and narcissistic abuse. Have a wonderful, happy and healthy day. 🙏

@@sharif50077 thank you sir much appreciated 🙏🌹

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It is truly rejuvenating when you learn to let the worry go and start living your life. Amazing.

Congratulations on taking the reins of your life and getting a job you enjoy doing! 👏

I am proud of you 👌🏾❤

So fucking happy for you !

Congrats Dirk! I know how you feel to be an alcoholic. You did a great job! Keep the good work! All the best!

I’m going back to school aged 40. Studying new things and changing my life

How's everything going?

I can the depression in you

Wishing you luck in your new endeavor.

I can relate. I had worked at a company for 14 years and didn't leave for a long time due to fear of change and the unknown. Finally, 8 years ago I left and it was a great decision. I should've left 8 years before I eventually did. Anyway, I feel I'm on a much better path now.

How's it going, two years on?

@@mistercuttslol I’m wondering the same thing. This life in your 40s sucks! Arrgh

Did you change it!? How’s it going so far?

Belated 40th birthday. I have been doing the same. Will be 40 soon.

But how can I track my run distance with my phone if it's off... Haha

I love your comment.Thank you for speaking sense!

I'm childfree by choice, making art and loving life, - I like it! ^_^

You've actually lived. The people who get a mid-life crisis are people who haven't fully lived yet because they've been on the hamster wheel of societal expectation.

Your comment reminded me of that old dude who lives alone on an island in south america. Grows his own food, takes care of his own cattle, brews his own beer, freezes his ass off during winter, yet one of the happiest and serene people I've seen. He still reads the news and is even aware of the latest discovered exoplanets and shit.

Yes, I agree👍

I feel deeply every single word you wrote 🙏✨

Beautifully written.

Well said! Im there. 🙌🏼

Sure ! I agree what you say.

Yeah, i do support meditation too to find out who you are, specially meditation into spirits realm.

I'm also 44 and I'm just starting to do this 🙏

I am in eternal crisis. Hope meditation will do something.

@@shibu.matrix it will

@@neil_spirits2072 any books or video on this subject?

Hahahah love and relate to this comment 😘

Well said!

Meanwhile I'm in my 60s and still waiting on a "crisis filled" decade...it hasn't happened yet!

past 5 or 6 years felt like 1 n a half to me. It's like, did I just get teleported in time?

So true it's like a time warp. What the hell is that about - how does that happen?? I think it might be a combination of having so much more to do because of expectations placed on us.

Thank you for your statement: "Do not waste your time on depression". I lost years of my life in depression, largely from childhood, and young adulthood parental emotional neglect. Losing family tragically, much the source of my depression, 17 yrs ago was tough. Now I'm indestructible, and when I get down I don't allow myself to wallow. Can't lose one more moment to the senseless waste of time to be creative, learn, maximize my potential, and achieve MY excellence. MGTOW!

I heard the pandemic started 4 years ago. FOUR ?!

It is for men as we do not live as long. It is a myth that most are living to 90 or 100 now. 80 is still a good age to live to for men. I am 41 soon and consider myself virtually middle aged now. Lots of men I know have died in their mid to late 70s.

Yes 80 my love❤