I got fired for the first time in my life! (The truth about corporate jobs)

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In today's video, I'm opening up about a topic that almost broke me; getting fired from a job for the first time. 🙁
Getting fired was one of the toughest experiences in my career journey, and I want to share my own story and the lessons I've learned. I've been there, and I know the feelings of disappointment, self-doubt, and uncertainty that can come with it.
In this video, I'll discuss the circumstances surrounding my termination, the emotions I went through, and how I coped with this unexpected change. But more importantly, I'll share how I turned this setback into a lesson learned about what I really wanted to do.
Getting fired is not the end; it's a chance to reevaluate, learn, and refocus.
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@fancynfreeme 10 месяцев назад

Getting fired early in my career was the best thing to happen to me. Now, my loyalty is to me and it made me fearless in moving on from a position.

@kitelouma 9 месяцев назад

Preach!!

@snorttroll4379 9 месяцев назад

how often do you change?

@lifebyjo3999 8 месяцев назад

This comment 👌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@lifedeather 8 месяцев назад

agreed

@Mary-tj5qx 6 месяцев назад

Yep. Look after number one. Don’t let anyone own you. The main thing is live very far below your means and build an exit door. Until you have money behind you, you’ll always be subject to some employer.

@SilverLining445 11 месяцев назад

You have a great way of telling stories and have a very down to earth vibe! Congrats on the success of your last video. Your vulnerability and openness is really admirable and clearly resonated with a lot of people! Keep it up girl

@EvalynnNgamau 11 месяцев назад

i’m loving this new content! i’m an early 20s girl entering the work force and feel so intimidated by the feat of growing my salary and moving upwards within companies. hearing ur experiences definitely help. keep up the good work :)

@DoItWrightRo 11 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for sharing! I’ve shared your story. It’s aggravating to be at the “mercy” of others when it comes to your livelihood. Stay encouraged, it gets better. You’re growing and helping others through sharing your journey. I’m over experienced and it’s always a “catch”. I’m too experienced, why am I applying here, when I made more money than the role I was applying for? Subsequently saying that they wouldn’t hire me due to the risk of me leaving for a higher paid position. It’s a catch 22. I wish you so much luck on your journey!

@hhheavennn 11 месяцев назад

12:03 I’m so sorry you experienced this 😞 Thank you for using your platform to share. You are a well spoken, beautiful young woman. inspiring!! ⭐️

@Knatti945 10 месяцев назад

Hello you should do a podcast !! Love your authenticity. I am also in a work situation where I feel out of place and it is really starting to play on my mental health.

@ShanaJahsintaWalters 11 месяцев назад

Ho do you feel about your last video going viral. I found it when it only had around 10,000 views. Shocked to see where it is at now. You have a great message to share. So glad it blew up.

@AJ-mz9ie 10 месяцев назад

You live and you learn. I keep a book with all the new skills I am learning and what I need improvement in.

@aigadibujos 11 месяцев назад

this video really hit me❤ I was fired in 2022 and have more than a year trying to get a job (mind you, I’m not even in the US so things are even shittier). Hearing about your journey and how unfair this company was to you was really comforting and eye-opening❤❤❤❤ keep on creating

@Emma-sq1kn 9 месяцев назад

When one door closes another door opens. It’s all experience and part of life’s journey. It must have felt terrible but you should be proud of yourself now. You dusted yourself off and got back on the horse despite feeling like rubbish. Well done!

@annettesworld 11 месяцев назад

And congratulations! I love supporting small content creators as one I know how much work we put into it so keep going and hope your videos continue to do well🎉

@QueensOfIncomeStreams 11 месяцев назад

You have motivated me to upload more videos! Good luck to you!

@xoxoakouto 11 месяцев назад

DO IT!! Email me for tips! Queenergyproductions@gmail.com

@atlfun08 11 месяцев назад

Been there! It’s rough but it pushes you to develop the skill of…keep it moving forward! Currently I’m on a job that I just started on a new team. And it’s so difficult cause previous team was good for years, now I’m like this “team”. I can’t stand when groups hiring to give half ass chance. It’s really a waste of time to not really give the time to get acclimated. And a PIP is definitely a 30 day notice! 30 days to get a new job! 😂😂

@lovelc74 10 месяцев назад

Your content is relatable, thank you.

@sinashi6412 4 месяца назад

The first job that I had, I wanted to quit very badly because patients were treating me like shit, but I was thinking of how rude that could be to quit after 3 months of training, considering the time and money that they invested. Then, they fired me because I couldn’t do a task that was literally only 5% of my total responsibilities, and I was pretty good with other tasks. That was the time that I realized I should only care about myself in the Western world.

@quarantinedteen5458 11 месяцев назад

Unrelated but this is why I find the 2 week notice to be nonsense, if they can fire people on a Friday afternoon with no prior notice, then quitting a toxic job on the spot sounds good to me

@humaira2347 11 месяцев назад

2 week notice seems like a blessing, for me i live in the UK and i’m an optometrist and notice periods in my profession are 3 months, it’s acc crazy

@ganderson7790 11 месяцев назад

Now days it’s At a will. No longer the way it used to be

@1996islandgurl 11 месяцев назад

Exactly!!!

@FuturePsychNurse 11 месяцев назад

@@humaira2347THREE MONTHS NOTICE?!!! That’s crazy, can they still fire you within that timeframe?

@dickersonr6172 11 месяцев назад

I quit after the holidays so I could holiday pay lol. I sent an email saying I quit lol

@Latty_J 11 месяцев назад

You don’t need to tell any job you were fired. You can say, our goal and purpose no longer align.

@xoxoakouto 11 месяцев назад

that's what I told my job when i got the contract job!

@sylviasimiyu7396 10 месяцев назад

Nice 👍

@Obekanobee 10 месяцев назад

But some jobs contact your previous employer

@blackpushtv7836 10 месяцев назад

@@Obekanobeeonly thing they do is verify time of employment

@kimorabeat 10 месяцев назад

@@Obekanobeebabe it’s about semantics and how you address it. The employers lie to reel you in so you play chess not checkers.

@BrittanySmiles 11 месяцев назад

Few things everyone should remember 1. Be loyal to no company. Keep all your personal stuff to yourself 2. Alwaysss go for what you want because you are valuable 3. Link with a temp agency they get paid when you get hired and they will fight for the pay you want 4. Take none of it personal leave a job if its not for you always have a plan!! 5. You being fired has nothing to do with how awesome you are!!!

@xoxoakouto 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for the tips!!

@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living 11 месяцев назад

This comment should be pinned. I find that people don’t understand how important #1 is. Your coworkers are NOT your friends, and the company is only “loyal” to you as long as they are able to use you. If you and your “friend” are up for the same promotion, that “friend” can use your personal information to sabotage you. It doesn’t matter if you dedicate all your time to the company and you exceed your deliverables - if the company needs to cut, they’ll let you go.

@BrittanySmiles 11 месяцев назад

@@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living exactly!!!

@mariekano9730 11 месяцев назад

I gotta show my boyfriend this he's delusional

@sterlingmonae 11 месяцев назад

How do you find temp agencies ?

@KaylaLahti 10 месяцев назад

I got fired from my first job out of college at 23, and it was traumatizing. Like you, I had never been fired. I had always been a good student, and had a good experience working in part-time jobs as a student. I had never felt like such a failure before. It really makes you question yourself like nothing else I've faced in life.

@medalithgm 10 месяцев назад

how did you overcome that?

@rosesweetcharlotte 10 месяцев назад

I got fired twice from two different jobs and looking back, it was ridiculous. The second job especially made it like I was the worst person ever, like I was just a cruel and mean person. Luckily, I had the money saved up to take some time and regroup. I think I only recovered once I started working again and saw that, no, I'm not a bad worker.

@saphdivers220 10 месяцев назад

I'm in the same boat. My last job acted like I was the worst person. I'm still in the regrouping phase. I'm so shaken it's hard to even envision working again. How did you manage to be brave enough, please? @@rosesweetcharlotte

@iambugz 10 месяцев назад

I’m 23 and had the exact same experience. Happened 2 weeks ago after only 2 months. I’ve been feeling really down over it tbh.

@KaylaLahti 10 месяцев назад

@@medalithgm Honestly, it took working a few more jobs and time.

@CountChronicle 10 месяцев назад

HR is not there to protect the employees. They are there to protect the company. HR, Management, employees are not your friends. I tell my young adult kids that all the time.

@Moonsauko 9 месяцев назад

So who would you speak to when issues arise?

@beach2787 9 месяцев назад

@@Moonsauko speak about personal issues and get fired

@summerjoy247 8 месяцев назад

Learned this the hard way! I just wouldn’t speak to HR about my job related performance, concerns about my manager, or things you don’t like. It will likely backfire.

@heliotropezzz333 8 месяцев назад

I worked at a career in the same organisation for many years and I can remember when it seemed like HR switched from helping employees to being just a tool of management.

@MademoiselleMoira 6 месяцев назад

So true !!!!!

@recherche4528 9 месяцев назад

Companies used to invest in training for their employees. Now they expect you to hit the ground running. I was told for a position there would be training. I had experience in the field( in the job description) however I had not previously worked with the specific software the company utilized. I made that point clear in the interview process. The person who was “training” me had barely anytime to do so. She had to answer phones, put out fires and do her own work. Constant interruptions stressed the both of us out. Corporate America is TOXIC.

@journeywithrosie 10 месяцев назад

I completely relate to thinking someone was your friend in a workplace only to never hear from them again! It's very common.

@augustusbrown5320 10 месяцев назад

Very…..

@rosesweetcharlotte 10 месяцев назад

I am friends with one person from my old job and we made a point to keep in touch.

@journeywithrosie 10 месяцев назад

@@rosesweetcharlotte that’s great

@mayanevergaf 9 месяцев назад

This sort of thing - as well as purposeful sabotage is the reason I tell ppl - DO NOT BEFRIEND COWORKERS. Get the bag, go home. And any tech startup wanting to guilt you into "being a family" is gaslighting the crap out of you

@rosesweetcharlotte 9 месяцев назад

@@mayanevergaf I got so much shit from this 24 year old girl at my current job for this. Being cordial is good, being friendly is good, but trying to be great friends with everyone is such a risk. This girl acted like I was a monster for thinking that. She's 24, has never been fired in her life. She truly doesn't understand how companies work

@emmelinesprig489 10 месяцев назад

It shouldn’t surprise me anymore, but I’m always confused how organizations with a bunch of money still manage to completely mis-manage their employees. There’s so much waste of money, time, and resources to hire and on-board people, just to manage them poorly and fire them. It’s so senseless. At least it’s an opportunity to learn how *not* to do things. Glad you stayed on this planet!!

@IshtarNike 10 месяцев назад

A lot of management never actually get management training.

@tiahnarodriguez3809 10 месяцев назад

⁠@@IshtarNike And it doesn’t help that companies would rather back a poorly trained manager that costs a lot in labor costs due to their contribution in high employee turn over instead of properly training that manager.

@solmariuce5303 10 месяцев назад

I think I figured it out a long time ago, but I still got emotionally affected by stress and bad feedback in the workplace. It's that most jobs are in fact bullshit, especially those that pertain to moving around large sums of money which create jobs for intermediaries, vendors and so on. The original purpose and vision of a company gets derailed fast in the name of profits and keeping the gravy train rolling, most corporations or workplaces wouldn't exist otherwise. Most jobs are meant to keep people off the streets and not organize in tighter communities to get more leverege against government, lawmakers... You really can't do much about a group of people who think alike, except disband them or prevent them from forming in the first place systemically and with slimy psychological tactics.

@justinmathis8078 10 месяцев назад

Become a manager

@sarahecho 10 месяцев назад

Your point about a job not "feeling right" is so important! I started a job about 6 years ago, and on my first day, I felt so out of place, and everything just felt WRONG. I lasted 6 months until I quit before they could fire me (I literally walked out one day and never went back). I went to a corporate recruiter, and she found me a much, much better job in no time. I swear, recruiters are so underrated!

@AA-iy4gm 10 месяцев назад

is that like an employment agency?

@melteddarkchocolate000 9 месяцев назад

oh i need a corporate recruiter then

@Kurauone__ 10 месяцев назад

People always say the moment you are put on a PIP start looking for a new job. Its almost always a formality before firing you.

@augustusbrown5320 10 месяцев назад

Vzw

@YAHdassah 10 месяцев назад

Exactly! The PIP is the company’s protection. Formality!

@brokenstereotype 9 месяцев назад

I once got put on a pip and survived another year, which was odd because i was working my tail off but scared i was about to be let go at any moment. 12 months of thinking i had maybe 2-3 days before i was fired made me start graying.

@rachelburgin1160 9 месяцев назад

Completely agree. A PIP means they want to fire you but need to protect themselves from litigation so need everything documented.

@jaronbalderes7109 8 месяцев назад

Hey, I was fired at 30 from my FIRST job out of grad school. It was my dream job and the entire reason I got my graduate degree. Three months after being on the job, I was fired. When you say the firing process is ruthless, it really is. Nothing prepares you for it! Keep pushing though. At 33 I started the job I'm at now and I'm thriving, own a house, and am in a stable and loving relationship. You've got this!

@akeme25 10 месяцев назад

I’ve been fired so many times in my life that it kind of messed with my self-confidence. Right now I have a stable job but I still have a rabid fear of screwing up and whenever I do screw up, I would be so extremely hard on myself. I still have an extreme fear of getting fired, and I think it’s because of my past work history.

@munix9351 10 месяцев назад

Invest in a career coach. Get some coaching to help you choose better or develop your corporate work environment skills.

@rosesweetcharlotte 10 месяцев назад

Same. I am a hard worker, I am a good person, but Jesus, it was never easy for me to get a job. Then when I lost it, it just chipped away at me

@Escape628 10 месяцев назад

Relatable

@mayanevergaf 9 месяцев назад

Im going through this now. Its destroyed my self esteem and made me deeply bitter. Its a shame bc i really loved web developing but after being abused and fired unfairly, as well as having my paycheck stolen and being sabotaged by jealous, insecure coworkers, i left that industry. I havent coded anything in four years.

@akeme25 9 месяцев назад

@@mayanevergaf I just started getting into coding. Is it really that brutal?

@Oxymera 11 месяцев назад

If you ever get put on a PIP, start looking for a new job immediately. They only do that for documentation purposes so they can fire you.

@jwm66 10 месяцев назад

exactly

@nyb_ok 9 месяцев назад

Documentation purpose? Can you elaborate?

@jwm66 9 месяцев назад

@@nyb_ok pip stands for performance improvement plan ... It is usually for 30-90 days. It list standards and goals you must meet within that time frame to keep your job. One's progress is noted (good or bad). If the bad outweighs the good by the end of 30-90 days, that evidence (documentation) is used to support firing you. The reality is, they are already wanting to fire you anyway but in some States that could be illegal without documentation (or evidence.)....Thus the need for a Performance Improvement Plan (pip).

@gabyrig 9 месяцев назад

@@nyb_ok The plan says you have to do XYZ. When next review come they can show you didn't succeed at X, Y, or Z or all of them. Documenting that you didn't meet target, didn't improve and they can let you go.

@nyb_ok 9 месяцев назад

@@gabyrig I joined a South Korean company in June and I got fired in August. South korean work environment is crazy, they will make you work 24/7. I worked without taking a single day leave while I was there. It got me a bit slow in the end and I ended up postponding a task they assigned to me. I delivered it a bit late, I was two hours late and they fired me. I was doing well, even they appreciated my work but this one thing plus a few other small mistakes got me into trouble. (Small mistakes like I didn't know how they wanted the meeting notes to be, later they told me how to do it and the next day I did it right and they liked it too)

@jwm66 10 месяцев назад

excellent video....was laid off from sales development position with a software company after 1 year 8 months with them...... what I learned or was reminded of...... 1. budget like an entrepreneur, in other words, never live paycheck to paycheck but live from your savings and your savings should cover as many months or years as possible 2. live moderately as a lifestyle for the sake of saving more and mentally dealing with economic blows better 3. always promote your passion daily and make it a business 4. never forget that God is real and He wants us to love Him and trust in Him....not in money or people

@OyinA01 10 месяцев назад

I think you’re an awesome storyteller. Really enjoyed this video. Keep it up sis!

@mollymo6229 10 месяцев назад

Yeah true actually usually people are messy and confusing

@sotiredlol 10 месяцев назад

GOD I relate so hard. Something about seeing that my work email password was changed hours before my shift started (the shift I got laid off) killed me for some reason. like of course they were planning this and there had to be discussions around it prior to it happening but that made me so sad. The visualization of them sitting in their office or on their lunch break to casually discuss letting me go after working for them, next to them, for almost 5 years. It was devastating! Still is.

@chelseacounsell 9 месяцев назад

Corporate admin are scumbags, fr

@charmainer.johnson3447 10 месяцев назад

Sometimes, we have to go through a rough time in order to get to what is meant for us. Finding our purpose is painful but I think you found yours. Continued blessings

@artistli8036 11 месяцев назад

I was let go from a job I worked at for over a year back in July. The place was so toxic and out of control that I was actually happy to be free from that place. I saw the writing on the wall for months and all the stupid terminations that were happening since January so I braced myself early. I went from giving 110% overworking myself and losing weight each week from stress to realizing what was happening to me physically and emotionally and putting my health first by doing what I was told and not going overboard. The moment I put my health first and not killing myself over a job was when they got rid of me and I have no regrets. Yeah I’m nervous about working again because of that experience.

@grimgoblinjack 10 месяцев назад

Don't let employers wear you down... it's a tactic they do to discourage you from taking a better job. I had the worst employers before I got a great job at a famous non-profit... but even a co-worker tried to fire me from there and they had a sexual harassment episode happen at that place... no one I know got rehired after COVID-19. They cut everyone and reshuffled people. The woman who tried to get me fired got promoted to manager. Ugh... that's how it works in this world.

@tiahnarodriguez3809 10 месяцев назад

This is how most of my jobs have gone, except I quit when I couldn’t take it no more. It made no sense for me to go above and beyond when no one else did. The lesson is to set boundaries and enforce them. It’s ok to go above and beyond every once in a while like agreeing to cover a shift, staying a little later, etc, but don’t offer to do these things, and never do them if it’s known that your work place will take advantage of you if you agree to do more once. They will mark your name and call you every time they need a shift covered, etc.

@lvega5606 10 месяцев назад

I wish I'd lose weight from work stress. I'd be a size 0 by now. I gain weight from work stress because I eat to soothe.

@deealex3348 11 месяцев назад

Do not feel bad you didn't deserve to be fired, the position was not a good fit and you clearly communicated. Honestly, working for any corporation is risky, the business focuses on the business success not the employees. So, working for yourself is the best. I'm happy you are brave enough to share your story and that you are doing better after such a toxic depressing experience.

@angelacox8322 8 месяцев назад

Your comments on "friends in the workplace" is so very true -- they are called co-workers for a reason! I love many people I work with, but I learned very early that they're a different type of relationship -- never share anything you wouldn't share openly or in public, never believe someone cares more about YOUR success than their own, and always remember they will "love" the next person just as much as they love you! ❤️

@heylisten7266 10 месяцев назад

Yeah, this matches my understanding of PIPs. It’s labeled as an improvement plan, but often it’s just creating a paper trail to HR can fire you. PIPs in tech especially can be ruthless :/ I hate also seeing my coworkers get fired. One day we’re coworkers, and the next day I’ll never see them again. I get why it happens, but it’s so bizarre to not have the chance to say goodbye to someone unless I find their contact info.

@sharonnabwire1167 11 месяцев назад

Am currently in this position and I have decided to quit a week ago. Asked to change my manager cause he was a bully and racist to me. They changed me but it got worse and kept picking on my small mistakes and was put on a performance review and was the worst experience. They took advantage of me, no training given and lord am jobless now but not in that pain anymore.

@Shineynsparkles 11 месяцев назад

Wished u kept a nice journal and more and could have sued and won :)

@cc6398 10 месяцев назад

So relatable, thank you. I was in the same boat. Seeing this makes me feel a lot better and that I’m not alone.

@alexnice2221 10 месяцев назад

What company is it ?

@zebramilktea 11 месяцев назад

I’ve been on a PIP once in my life at a pretty big tech company. At the end of the 30 days, my manager said I improved my performance and the PIP ended. I put in my two weeks the same day. And that same manager was laid off a few months later. Glad I got out of there.

@fashionblogger661 10 месяцев назад

I love your story

@infinitespiral6758 11 месяцев назад

I've heard the Performance Review Plans are just a way to document your tasks so that it's easy to train your replacement, not a genuine effort to prove yourself.

@NtandoMbele 11 месяцев назад

Being set up to fail sucks. You didn't deserve that...

@niathomas184 10 месяцев назад

That’s exactly what they do

@codesquare9131 10 месяцев назад

That company was already planning to quit your position, they may put you on a PIP (performance improvement plan) as a way to back themselves legally. Goes to show that we should never totally place confidence on a company (nor the so-called coworker “friends”), after-all in the world of business the company comes first and an employee is an replaceable asset. Always put yourself first and know your power.

@kellyhealy734 11 месяцев назад

If you get put on a performance review plan, you should just go ahead and quit. Leave with some dignity and on your own terms!

@xoxoakouto 11 месяцев назад

honestly i thought about it but i really wanted to try my best!

@Shay416 11 месяцев назад

Nawww take that severance. Use it to fund your vacation

@xoxoakouto 11 месяцев назад

Hey everyone! Clarifying that the performance review came about 10-11 months after i got hired. In this video i said 8 months! Also this role was very entry level so they didn't care that i didn't have the skill set from the get-go

@numanhussain6080 11 месяцев назад

One thing I don't get is in your improvement plan your manager said that you were meeting all your targets, but they still fired you?

@firstname8348 11 месяцев назад

@@numanhussain6080The performance plan is usually a formality. They usually already made up their mind to fire the person.

@100Stratusfiedx 11 месяцев назад

This makes absolutely no sense then. What really gets me as her telling you that you were improving and then telling you something different and getting ready to fire you

@ilovemycat___ 11 месяцев назад

@@100Stratusfiedxit’s really quite cruel

@xoxoakouto 11 месяцев назад

that's what they do!

@amandamctyre1615 10 месяцев назад

Can totally feel ya… I got fired during a Corporate buy out. I had been at my Management position for 12 years . I got a job right away BUT that was my 1st mistake. I didn’t take time for me . I went from job to job and honestly am still embarrassed, humiliated, you name it I’m it. Please know that this video has helped me. I haven’t talked about the termination therefore I haven’t dealt with it 🙄 Dumb me ! I have no idea how you came upon my screen but someone wanted me to meet you 👍🏿 New Subscriber here 😊

@AvivaGross 11 месяцев назад

I honestly think your channel is going to blow up. I love how down to earth u are keep posting!

@AlieshiaTV 11 месяцев назад

They don’t even train and they get mad when you don’t know how to do the job

@TheNerdAsociation 10 месяцев назад

I lost my job as a manager for a warehouse two months ago due to budget cuts. My manager who had to break the news was avoiding me and my building as much as possible because he couldn't handle seeing me and knowing what was going to happen. It wasn't his idea, it came from corporate and he reassured me over and it ver that it wasn't due to my performance at all but because I was the manager with the least amount of tenure. I went through the same ideations... still kind of going through them. Its amazing that I came across your videos at this point in my life and I get to hear from someone in the same headspace as me.❤️

@munix9351 10 месяцев назад

Never ever believe a manger. Ever. It was definitely his idea. 10000%

@Anonyme67 9 месяцев назад

What I have learned in job environment, Never complained unless you are highly skilled and very performant. Always give compliments on how great the company is even if you don’t believe it. Long story short, be HYPOCRITE! Get the money and look for your financial freedom.

@journeyndme 8 месяцев назад

This is very similar to my situation. I thought I found my dream job, but after 3 months I started to question if I really wanted to be there in that role. Got put on a PIP, so I tried to stay on top of everything but 28 days later they fired me with no explanation. My red flag was the manager requesting a meeting after we hand spoke all day, & yup soon as I saw her boss + his boss I knew. It’s frustrating but thank you for sharing your methods for dealing with this. I agree the biggest takeaway is if it doesn’t feel right, it’s not.

@hollyackroyd7221 10 месяцев назад

I love these videos they remind me of old RU-vid when people came on to blow off a bit of steam, it's so real. people can relate to this and when it happens to you it feels like the end of the world and you're the only person who has ever felt that awful... but in reality, it has happened to every adult who hasn't got extremely lucky with who they know or who likes them.

@Sainjl 8 месяцев назад

Now people do that on tik tok.

@DudeWatIsThis 10 месяцев назад

How on Earth did they make a random person a project manager, managing people who make 6 figure salaries? You say you were "missing a lot of little details". This tells me the approach was cursed from the start. There are very few "little details" to consider when you're managing a team correctly. A proper structuring of work, proper scheduling, good meetings and good organization leaves most of the little details to the individuals working under your supervision. These are highly skilled white-collar workers, not peons who need you to crack the whip or tell them when to stop for a sandwich.

@bolu101 10 месяцев назад

It was an entry level role

@TheRVSN 10 месяцев назад

7 year sysadmin and 7 year PM here. I recommend to read PMBOK by PMI for methodology of project management because based on my professional experience I consider it the best abstraction. 4:04 Once you are confident with the product and the way it is delivered you will know how to lead people. Also upon on-boarding your manager should give you a training about your organization as well as about (PMBOK terminology) Enterprise Environmental Factors and Organizational Process Assets (all documents used in previous projects).

@annalexander22 8 месяцев назад

Great advice, I'm taking note of this for sure.

@justetip 10 месяцев назад

This is the issue that I have noticed. Students go to school for years, spend tens of thousands of dollars, just to graduate and still feel unprepared. That is scary 😳 Would we be better of paying the "company" to train us? ☝️ Point... Not every college is created equal. Be mindful where you spend your money

@augustusbrown5320 10 месяцев назад

Facts

@tomorrow4eva 10 месяцев назад

I wouldn’t pay the company to train me unless they had trainers with actual teaching qualifications. So many people who train others on the job and poor trainers. I have experienced that companies want things done “their way”, which college cannot teach you, but they expect you to know “their way” through osmosis and telepathy. This is especially true for companies with low management turn over, because those managers forget (or don’t realise) the same job is not the same work somewhere else.

@Lalamande26 11 месяцев назад

Project management is something you cannot improvise though and it is something you need to have proper training and interest for or you quickly become an issue for the company and can create stress for people in the project team. You need to have attention to details, organizational skills, leadership and being able to nurture creativity and transparency. You are suppose to help people work with reducing information asymetry, you need to know methodologies, tools etc at no point you said you loved the job, you were interested by having a job and safety. They should not have hired you without offering mentoring and training options but you cannot just choose your team as a first joiner and you need to show passion for your role. You should have ask for training and mentoring not changing team maybe instead of telling the team was not a fit. Just my 2 cents. Hope you find your path and if it is PM then learn, train and dont’t give up, if it is video/content producer than all the best ❤

@Escape628 10 месяцев назад

Yea she might have shot herself in the foot by being too comfortable and telling the manager that she should be in a different team

@Lalamande26 10 месяцев назад

@@solarydays I would disagree that those are skills you can develop, with the correct mentoring, tools. and the understanding of what to look at and why it matters, I have seen people improving those 2 aspects tremendously

@sophisticatedwrat 11 месяцев назад

This came up in my recommendation after recently being fired. I'm a very new RVT (vet tech/vet nurse) and still have skills to work on. My employer told me they weren't good at training and they delivered on that. After only 7 weeks they fired me for not being a good fit. They also said I wasn't learning quick enough. It sucks they didn't give me a proper chance or train me adequately because I know I could be really good. I wouldn't be so upset if it weren't for the fact that there are no jobs right now and it doesn't help that I'm new and my resume isn't stacked...

@grimgoblinjack 10 месяцев назад

Chances are their turn-over is high. They're not professional. You can do better someplace else. Try a non-profit, human society, etc. Be a pet-sitter, dog walker etc. Employers do this on purpose.

@munix9351 10 месяцев назад

They said that so they wouldn't pay you good enough

@tiahnarodriguez3809 10 месяцев назад

@@munix9351 That or they’d have an excuse to fire an employee at any given moment. That’s basically what they were telling op. “We will fire you at any moment for any reason”.

@Shineynsparkles 10 месяцев назад

Work for non-profit pet hospital, or vet office , animal control, pest control, start ur own bussinesses …pet sitting and walking !!!

@YeshuaKingMessiah 10 месяцев назад

They said they’re not good at training So u say, oh no thx then I can’t read minds on how to learn my job

@jouezmoi 11 месяцев назад

That Performance Review with 30 days was just them trying to fire you correctly. If they were serious about keeping you, they would have given you 90 days to improve. That is the norm in other jurisdictions/ countries. They already knew they were going to fire you. There was no way you would improve in 30 days.

@xoxoakouto 11 месяцев назад

GIRL!! You said it! I thought the same!!!

@gmarie3053 10 месяцев назад

💯 I survived a performance monitoring and was given 8 weeks to improve. And even then, they didn’t expect me to fix everything but just show I was getting back on track. 30 days is insane.

@WILDANDPEACEFUL23 10 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for your vulnerability. Everything that you said I was nodding my head. I have been there a time or two. I never came across a black woman online who was so authentic about their true life experiences. You are helping so many women and saving lives.

@ellster127 10 месяцев назад

So grateful you posted as this is exactly what happened to me last week. I so agree, it's the abrupt nature of it that is so hard, and finding out the reality of the 'friendships' you had at work. It sucks. But we get through it. You got through it, and so will I. Capitalism sucks

@Lexxus1986 10 месяцев назад

Co workers are not your friends…. Why won’t people learn this…. They are situational relationships… thats why I don’t hang out with co-workers…. a lesson I learned younger

@xoxoakouto 10 месяцев назад

lesson learned! LOL

@rarejourneys 11 месяцев назад

Listen, let me tell you something now about corporate that I tell everyone when I hear them calling coworkers friends….these are not friends, it takes years, these are coworkers #period. The last time I had a friend at work was in 2016. It’s not that I’m not friendly but I know the game and where to place people.

@why67152 11 месяцев назад

Yes!! Friends at work can be dangerous...

@tiahnarodriguez3809 10 месяцев назад

At a previous job, a co-worker told me I wasn’t acting like a friend cuz I didn’t want to hang out after work, and I said that we were co-workers not friends. The next day, I started getting treated horribly as news of what I said spread. That’s why I don’t even say anything. The weird part is I notice people who partake in maintaining the illusion of work friendship are well liked even though everyone in this so called friendship group talk crap about each other and don’t actually like each other, but go forbid someone doesn’t play along and is actually focused on work. It’s too much playing for me.

@MiaValariea 11 месяцев назад

As an HR professional I can tell you the decision was made when you were placed on the PIP. The PIP is given to protect the company. I love your self awareness ❤️

@tizitapusch9780 11 месяцев назад

What’s a PIP?

@user-if7ph9ix1k 11 месяцев назад

@@tizitapusch9780 Did a quick search; seems to stand for Performance Improvement Plan :)

@cymph1157 11 месяцев назад

@@tizitapusch9780Performance Improvement Plan, 30 days before getting fired.

@kiwiantae4253 11 месяцев назад

@tizitapusch9780 performance improvement plan. Given by a supervisor or manager and they give goals in you need to reach usually within a month. Sound good for the employee, but that usual how they fired employees say look we had to put them on a pip, they were not performing.

@tizitapusch9780 11 месяцев назад

@@kiwiantae4253 Thank you so much Kiwan. I am not familiar with the US system.

@ArianaMMR 11 месяцев назад

Babyyyy your channel blowing up QUICK

@oniciamuller 11 месяцев назад

Getting fired is the worst. And getting locked out of a remote job is such a dehumanizing experience. Virtual hugs

@brokenstereotype 9 месяцев назад

I worked for maybe 16 years (20ish to late 30’s) in corporate, every few years getting laid off or fired due to restructuring or sometimes my own fault. The feeling of being fired was my number one motivator to figure out how to start my own business, i never wanted to be fired again.

@vj9055 11 месяцев назад

The company admitted they made the mistakes. At times companies can set up their employees they dislike them and give them bad training.

@SA-xc9hz 11 месяцев назад

I live in London and got fired just a week before my three month probation in 2018. I wasn't the best employee but I certainly wasn't the worst but my line manager didn't like me so when it was time to get rid of people I was first in line in her team. It was a brutal experience. I went to the office in the morning as normal and sat down. Another manager told me to grab all my things from my desk and come to one of the meeting rooms. My line manager emerged and said 'I wasn't meeting targets' and I was being fired effective immediate. I left in a daze! A colleague called me later on and told me the company (a start-up) was losing money and managers were asked to get rid of people.

@ronig3952 11 месяцев назад

Then why not just say that. Say they are downsizing instead of making you look like your the failure and ruin your future work reputation when looking for other jobs 🙄

@Natta44 11 месяцев назад

Because companies only have their own best interests at heart [Capatilism]. Their employees are disposable. Whenever a company calls employees a family that's a big red flag in my opinion!

@CooketheGecko 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for being 100% transparent. I feel like I needed this because we are not all perfect at all

@RoyaltyAC 11 месяцев назад

Thanks for sharing. In my past jobs I’ve noticed they don’t set their workers up for success they just threw new hires into the deep end and then criticized them because they couldn’t swim. I wonder if this is why so many companies have high turnover rates. I think investing in the longevity of their employees would likely help to solve that.

@yuppie992001 11 месяцев назад

Ugh sorry this happened! A PIP is protection for the company not really for the employee. Any time you get a PIP take that as a sign to look for a new job. Especially if it's a 30 day PIP. I have never seen anyone "recover" from a PIP. Also your manager LYING about your progress is TYPICAL unfortunately. Anyways I know getting fired is very jarring , but you will recover. It sounds like you've done the reflection and you ignored your intuition. Some jobs really are just a bad fit. You will do better next time for sure! You also need to LIE about being fired. Trust me on this. Just say you were laid off or the job was a contract position..

@LisaB-lv9if 11 месяцев назад

She can’t lie about it now though

@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living 11 месяцев назад

This times infinity. A PIP is a CYA from corporate to protect themselves from a wrongful termination lawsuit, ESPECIALLY if you fall under a protected class (race, age, religion, disabled, woman, LGBT+). This is corporate’s way of saying, “See? This person wasn’t doing well, and we tried to give them a chance, but they still didn’t measure up…”

@CSmith-tn8nv 11 месяцев назад

A member of my family was unfairly fired because the company had to cut costs really fast (I guess some would call that being laid off - they did get a severance package and headhunter services), I know the lying part is so real and true. You’ve got to explain the exit and subsequent gap in your resume somehow. If you don’t say it was a contract job or that you were laid off, say you had to leave to care for an ill family member who ultimately died. Due to liability concerns, most former employers will not say you were fired if the new employer calls for a reference.

@alinewandji8017 11 месяцев назад

Lie 😮how are you going to get references?f I just removed this job from your RESUME since it didn't go well up to work environment 😮manger lied to you etc

@yuppie992001 11 месяцев назад

@alinewandji8017 if she was there for a few months, then yes, leave it off her resume, but she was there for 8 or 9 months . She's worse off trying to explain the gap in employment. She will be fine on references. That is an outdated practice and most companies just confirm dates of employment. I change jobs often and haven't been asked for references in years. After you gain many years of experience, it is non-issue.

@deadlizardreads1937 10 месяцев назад

My role is probably kind of similar, and what you said about losing connection really struck me. At my previous job, (same industry, different company), a woman was fired. Our manager told a woman who had been very close to her “Don’t communicate, she wants answers and you don’t have any.” I was floored. I really hope that woman didn’t take that advice. I just couldn’t believe that there was leadership talking like that, telling people not to maintain a professional connection!

@RoliChauhanOfficial 8 месяцев назад

I really appreciate you for coming out with this publicly. So many people go through this silently and feel stuck with no one to even talk to . May you be blessed with lots of positivity, success , love and the job of your dreams always . I very much agree that sometimes jobs don’t feel right . The moment I sense that I try to walk out. Because nothing good ever comes out of it if we stick in there and keep trying to please the boss who ends up firing us anyway !! So the moment it doesn’t feel right it is a red flag.

@lanadelrey9805 11 месяцев назад

As a 22 year old I’m very thankful for you’re big sister advice. And u seem like a very sweet person. Keep posting !☺️

@Yoyoadventure 11 месяцев назад

I am 22 as well and just got fired as well and this really helps

@bekky4362 11 месяцев назад

Hey, although I’m not much experienced in life I just want to say something. I worked with a lot of people in their 30’s who have their degrees or masters and can’t find a good job (I work in fast food). But they have decided to change their lives and find a new passion or goal. For example, my coworker wanted to get a job in marketing but now is working towards being a personal gym trainer. My point is, life is too short and find a new passion or goal, remember it’s your life and you’re in control. Hoping you receive all my love through this comment.

@raydiancesims6107 9 месяцев назад

I had a very similar experience the year after I graduated from my university. I took a job that wasn’t right for me because honestly I didn’t know what I even wanted to do and just wanted so badly to leave my retail job, I made a lot of small mistakes, learned I might have ADHD, and got fired. Being fired is so traumatizing, my self esteem (which was already kind of below average) took a nose dive. I refused to apply to jobs for over a year because I was terrified of never being good enough and getting fired again or being asked why I left my last job, etc. I wish I would have just quit, but I had a never give up mentality back then lol. On the bright side, I went back to school for a career path that is exciting and creative, found a passion with creating art, met professors who believe in me, and while I’m now in post grad limbo again, I’m much more optimistic about my future prospects. Wish everyone who relates to this struggle the best of luck and future happiness ❤️

@Rose-hg8ls 6 месяцев назад

Oh my god we are actaully similar. I got fired from my first full time job after graduating university. The work environment broke me and getting fired I was scared of getting fired again so I didn't work for a year too. After my firing i felt I was not good enough for no employer.

@JustManou 11 месяцев назад

After getting my masters I really thought my job would make it easier getting a raise, but they made it difficult, and I left. I'm in a position where no one wants to hire me despite years of experience. It's pretty annoying but I'm still here still hoping. You did what you could do at that job. You and I both know they failed listening to you... I have a video explaining and what happened to me. I cant wait to watch your growth. best of luck.

@SmileyFace90 11 месяцев назад

Congrats on that achievement! It takes a lot of discipline to obtain a degree. I almost feel like now with the success of so many bw achieving these milestones, the goal post is being pushed further away. Idk , I am trying to remain positive but it really makes you question everything

@ianh9072 11 месяцев назад

I am so tired of industries and companies behaving like this. First they don’t want to hire because you don’t have enough experience/education; and now because you have too much experience?! I would have reported their ass to the Department of Labor!

@hanibee22 11 месяцев назад

Yes sometimes unfortunately experienced doesn’t really matter 😢 they want different perspectives a new fresh one, so they would hire someone with different backgrounds, or the higher we go the harder it is to get a job.

@ellie-tk4jy 10 месяцев назад

Which line of work are you in?

@alcastle8480 10 месяцев назад

I don’t understand how there is always stories in the news about labor shortages, how people are not enrolling in College etc. And this companies are not hiring. It just confusing to me , there’s is always people telling me go back to school to improve your chances but there are people with master degrees not getting hired .

@Women-s 10 месяцев назад

If you’re someone who doesn’t pay attention to details and make mistakes, it doesn’t matter the role , you’ll be on the chopping block.

@user-sf9gs2pg1b 10 месяцев назад

welp, I'm screwed.

@munix9351 10 месяцев назад

That's not true. Paying attention to details is really about your ability to ask the right questions and plan your personal time management to manage yourself whilst managing a project.

@rosesweetcharlotte 10 месяцев назад

Everyone makes mistakes sometimes

@Shay416 11 месяцев назад

Haha its always the companies that say "we care" , "we listen" "no man left behind" that be the WORST. Never believe corporate jargon lol. Lesson learned

@gamayun6102 8 месяцев назад

All companies lie about what they are like. They most likely will not listen to you, not help you and they will throw you away as soon as they think they should. You have nw experienced what corporate life is like and it sucks. You shouldn't even want to work in a corporate place. People there get treated like shit. All the pretty things you saw such as the ice sculpture and the office, are window dressing, a facade.

@madameclark3453 11 месяцев назад

Don’t expect training. Work harder than everybody around you. Build your skill set. F feeling comfortable, sometimes work is unpleasant.

@ItsAllAnillusion 11 месяцев назад

Tough but true. Especially in an entry position. This is where fake it to you make it comes in. But kudos to her for taking full accountability at the end.

@NormanNguyen-vj7xu 9 месяцев назад

Girl, no. A PIP is what companies do when they want to fire you. There’s no real coming back from them. That’s when you start looking for a new job.

@MeowzKitty 11 месяцев назад

Transparency is so important on here. Ppl are looking for something to relate to. You did a great job with your delivery from start to finish. The layout of the pictures and the build up was so great. Keep it up

@morgan1271 11 месяцев назад

omg I love your story and you have such a captivating personality, I could watch you talking for hours! I'm only 3 years younger than you, and I can relate to some things you said like being lost asf after getting fired. I always worked with things I wasn't actually good at or had no interest in diving into, and when almost thinking I was too old or too dumb to anything, out of the blue I received a job offer. The job is great and I have coworkers of all ages, I think it's just a matter of time for us to find the right place or a thing we like to do and can make some money out of. Two months ago I could barely write a full sentence in english and now I'm here to say how crazy life is, we never know what is going to happen tomorrow! For good and for bad but we learn and value the good times Wishing you the best for you and your channel, keep posting!

@why67152 11 месяцев назад

The people in the comment section are great AND it is good to share all these stories with one another... This girl has hit pay dirt with this channel!! Good open forum and right idea at the right time...

@GravyGoodbread 10 месяцев назад

I would’ve fired you the 1st time you whined about your overplayed position.

@escalatorgoddess2078 9 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing your experience. I was put on a PIP a month ago. I had never been fired before either; I thought I could make it and it didn't work out. It's such a discouraging thing to go through.

@merel181 10 месяцев назад

It’s awful how little rights you have as an employee in the US. It’s absurd. In lots of European countries, the employees have tons of rights because we need protection from shitty employers.

@jaeshasway 10 месяцев назад

Project Management is something you learn over an extended period of time, or train and test for. Most companies require PMP certification. They literally set you up to fail.

@SBH3356 10 месяцев назад

Performance improvement plans are usually theatrics they try before they fire you so that firing looks justified.

@pinkhappynesslady5331 11 месяцев назад

Well done girl, keep the authenticity

@MariaGarcia-gv8hj 10 месяцев назад

No doubts , a good way of growing and saving your money is through investing . You don't need to have much before you can invest.That little money you have now can make you millions if you invest it wisely. I wasnt financial free until my 40’s and I’m still in my 40’s, bought my second house already, earn on a monthly through passive income and got 4 out of 5 goals, just hope it encourages someone that it doesn’t matter if you don’t have any of them right now, you can start TODAY regardless your age INVEST and change your future! Investing is a grand choice I made

@emeldcentor1474 10 месяцев назад

I understand the fact that tomorrow isn't promised to anyone, but investing today is a hard thing to do for me now because I have no idea of how and where to invest in.I would be happy if you could advise me based on how you went about yours, as I am ready to go the passive income path.

@MariaGarcia-gv8hj 10 месяцев назад

Understanding the intricacies of investing is crucial. That's why it's important to have a reliable support system, such as a financial consultant, who can guide you, especially when it comes to selecting assets. Personally, I work with Regina Louise Collaro, an investment advisor who collaborates with a licensed wealth management firm. I must say that my financial journey has been exceptional under her guidance. Regina is widely recognized for her excellent services, so you may already be familiar with her. Thanks to her expertise, I have achieved financial stability and now earn a consistent monthly income through her passive income strategy.

@Lawrencekingsley01 10 месяцев назад

That’s great , your investment advisor must be really good,I have seen testimonies of people using the help of investment advisors in making them more financial stable. Do you mind sharing more info on this person?

@AnnaL-n4w 11 месяцев назад

The second time this happened to me, I refused to go on the PIP, got an employment lawyer and came away with 5 months full pay. I wasn't about to get played again!!! Much love

@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living 11 месяцев назад

A friend of mine did something similar. He had a very incompetent manager, and this manager decided to put him on a PIP. Luckily for him, he was disabled and older (over 50), so he pulled “the lawyer card” - he told the company that he’s not signing it without a labor attorney reviewing it, and he’s been documenting the incompetent manager’s inconsistent directions that set him up for failure, so he’s also going to talk to the labor attorney about it. He also mentioned that he felt he was targeted because he was an older, disabled worker. That scared the 💩 out of them, so they did a deal where they laid him off and gave him a 6-month severance pay PLUS paid for his COBRA for 6 months.

@katydid917 11 месяцев назад

If you’ve been on a PIP twice, you’re the problem. You’re not a good employee.

@AnnaL-n4w 11 месяцев назад

Actually I had an undiagnosed learning disability. Think before you speak

@osirusj275 11 месяцев назад

whats PIP

@sensimania 11 месяцев назад

@@osirusj275 Performance Improvement Plan? (just guessing)

@christianconnell551 10 месяцев назад

Id love to hear the story about your marriage

@cj_dmc_3 11 месяцев назад

I was fired from a job 12 years ago, and I think I'm still traumatized to this day. I still experience a lot of self-doubt/confidence issues. At the same time, I am glad to no longer be with that company. Only after being fired did I realize how stressed I was. I would literally come home many days and sleep from 7 PM - 7 AM just from being burnt out. It wasn't even the work itself that was so stressful. It was the people and feeling like I constantly had to watch my back.

@sairysv8625 11 месяцев назад

Dude that sounds just like my experience. At the time I was living with my mom and sisters. They told me I would come home and go to sleep.

@tishinaa 10 месяцев назад

mani got fired 4 months ago and it felt like heartbreak....trying to get over the self doubt and hit to my confidence. still job hunting now *sigh*

@mzsbrown2844 11 месяцев назад

I’ve worked in Corporate America my entire career (over 30 years) for various Fortune 500 corporations and I have only seen one person survive a performance plan. You should start looking for another job if it looks like you are about to be placed on a plan.

@loganneedslessons 11 месяцев назад

Feeling incompetent is such a low feeling, and when other people tell you that they see your incompetence it cuts so deep!!! I'm glad to see you found something that made you happier❤ keep pushin To quote Jake The Dog, from Adventure Time, "Sucking at something is the first step to being sort of good at something"

@fattysl26 11 месяцев назад

It definitely hurts when you realise you're not up to scratch in a job. I had a job like that years ago and even though I put the effort in it just wasn't good enough. I got let go and confidence took a hit, but then I got a job a month later and they loved me 🤷🏾‍♀️. Some things just aren't for you!

@osabhopeful 11 месяцев назад

Thank you for being vulnerable. It's so rare to see this on social media. I also had performance issues in my previous job that led to me leaving said job. I'm in a better job now, but thinking about what happened still makes me angry to this day.

@Trutherfactfinder 10 месяцев назад

Sounds like she set you up to fail.

@geneamad5318 11 месяцев назад

Could you make a video on how you got the job without the skills? I'm sure you have experience and you speak so well. But I would love to hear the details. Thank you for sharing this girl!

@xoxoakouto 11 месяцев назад

Hey there! thanks for your question! When I interviewed for the job, they saw that I had admin experience like emailing and collaborating on my resume. This role was very entery level so they didn't really care so much about the skill set since you're starting at the bottom. They just wanted to fill up the position as fast a possible. I can make a more detailed video later! Xoxo,Akouto

@finesses1746 11 месяцев назад

i appreciate your candidness, definitely insightful for me as a 24 year old and is reassuring. praying for your success that I know will come soon!

@munix9351 10 месяцев назад

Make sure you do a lot of networking outside of work with other people in your network. Build your industry network.

@ryleereynolds5710 11 месяцев назад

I gave a two week notice because I have a degree and people who didn’t have a degree were getting paid more than me which I feel wasn’t fair. We could’ve at least got paid the same. Anyways I have two week notice and the girl I thought was my friend was so weird to me and blocked me on Facebook when I left. It’s weird because she would be all up in my business making me think we were friends but when I left she was so weird. People are fake and weird.