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Hee Romee! Mijn moeder is nu aan het herstellen van kanker. Was (en is) allemaal mega heftig, en vooral de emoties en rare gedachten die daarop volgen. Waarom heeft niemand het over de naklap? Kan me het helemaal voorstellen, nou ja soort van in ieder geval. Mocht je er ooit over willen kletsen met een mede Dutchie, laat maar weten :)
Romee it took me along time to learn how to crochet until I watched a 8 Yr old crochet 😁 yes I learned from a child lol..give jonas hands a watch on utube .. look up on his channel crocheting for beginners..you will get little raffee done in no time 😊..hopefully your feeling a little better soon.
I appreciate your being supported by a brand and assume/know they give you money to talk about their product. But it REALLY bothered me that, there you are, being treated for cancer and in the hospital for a stem cell transplant - in the bathroom doing essentially a commercial. I saw in Instagram that you are out of the hospital now. I truly hope your spirits are better. We are all thinking of you and sending our most since wishes for your recovery and health and happiness. (sorry for the incomplete sentences and terrible punctuation)
Awww, sweet Romee. Survivors guilt is a real thing and you are doing unbelievably awesome on processing your thoughts/emotions. Shower cry, write those letters, Vlog your tears and feelings...whatever helps you process.
If you haven’t been seeing a therapist during your illness, you should be and need to be. It is a significant life change and it’s easier to have therapy ongoing to manage fires rather than waiting till the fire gets out of control and trying to have a therapist help put it out. I have a life-threatening disease I will never be rid of and I can’t say how important it is to get therapy.
@Holly Daugherty Yes, definitely. Especially with cancer...your hair grows back, you’re able to do (if you’re lucky) most of the things you used to be able to do and people treat you like someone who’s never been sick. Because you look “normal”. But others don’t see the exhaustion and the massive impact it had on you emotionally. And some people will expect you to feel “normal” again, too. So I think you are absolutely right, seeing a therapist is so beneficial, because you get to talk to someone who is able to help you navigate through all those emotions.
@@laurelowens8162 I'm sorry you got such a bad experience with therapy. It sounds frustrating for putting faith in something that ends up not going well and I can relate to an extent. But there are a lot of people who have great success with therapy and I find it a bit irresponsible to discourage them from seeking help. For a while I was getting fed up with my therapy but thanks to me continuing and to my therapist for being patient, I was able to curb my panic disorder for years until I got it back recently. So I say I suggest everyone at least try to do it and even try a few different therapists. It's not a lost cause and the field of psychology is always evolving! You'll learn something new. Just open your mind and give it a chance.
About to watch fully now, but by the title I just wanted to say you’re not alone, and tbh I’m surprised it took this long for a mental breakdown! My first few nights at the hospital the nurses had to give me panic attack meds to get me to stop crying lol. Everyone is entitled to breakdown sometimes, it’s part of being human.
Romee you should consider been a writer, you have talent in expression of thoughts and feelings. Maybe when all this is over, you could write a book to inspire others with your personal cancer experience❤️
What a fantastic idea! Romee please consider this idea as I believe it will help others. You are an inspiration to us all. I would buy this book.. But of course we would understand if you are not comfortable with this idea.. lots of love xx
I have MS and am disabled so I found art. It's my therapy. I love to paint and color in adult coloring books - using shiny gel pens might help because they are so pretty and shiny.
Ride the emotions like waves, its normal to have such big emotions after having so much happening to you physically- I’m healing from a hysterectomy and had a huge surprise break down after, youre just managing through what youre going through and its ok ❤️ love you so much
Crikey what happened with your hysterectomy to make you so ill? Mine was a breeze and I was only in hospital 1 night and went back to work a week later, I had a full hysterectomy, cut hip to hip type.
@@janeevans4758 I don't think you meant to be callous but this did come off pretty ableist. One person's experience is not another's. Additionally, I'm pretty sure OP was talking about emotionally. Hysters can be emotion-free for some, but others may mourn the loss of a special part of their body. I had a hyster at 28 without being able to have wanted children (stage 4 endo) and it was a grueling recovery physically and mentally.
@@janeevans4758 I had a 746g tumor in between the walls of my uterus, the hyst was not exactly my choice but more the thing I needed to do to stay healthy. I’m 28 and have no children, and thought I was pregnant when in reality had a giant quick growing tumor. My doctor encouraged me to recover for 6 weeks so I did so.
I swear you are just too cute of a hot mess. You had me laughing and tearing up back to laughing. Hugs from far away. Dying is an absolute part of living, no one gets out alive. Don't feel guilty because your time frame is different than others.
She’s looks very far from dying. A friend of mine had a stem cell transplant and she looked terrible at this point in her treatment. Romee you looks wonderful and beautiful. I’m so glad you’re doing SO well.
By the person saying "your time frame is different than others" implying that she doesn't have much time left. Otherwise why say that? No one knows how much time she has left or what her timeframe will be.
Romee, I would NEVER be able to learn crochet from a tiny book like that. You are absolutely not stupid for not being able to do it! There are tons of great videos on youtube teaching the basics of crochet that would be much more helpful. That is how I learned and even then it did take some time, so it does require some patience
I was thinking the same thing. You can learn anything on RU-vid! I’m a knitter but a dear friend of mine that had lost her hair from chemo sent me a picture of a cute little crocheted hat she wanted. Since I couldn’t tell her no, I don’t crochet, I found videos to help me. If I can do it, you can too. Just start with something easy like a granny square. Go easy on yourself trying and learning new things. You have to be in the right place with plenty of patience also… good luck.
What you're going through is called survivors guilt. I went through the very same thing right before my liver transplant. You go between, "I'm a good person, why did this happen to me" and "Why do I get to live, and others will die". Hang in there, it does get better
Romee being emotional and shedding tears is totally understandable you've been through so much. You need to take care of your mental health as well. Sending you comforting hugs 🤗xx
Watching you learn to crochet was very entertaining, because I remember trying to learn last year earlier in the pandemic, and i was so frustrated 😂 but I just sat there out of stubbornness and kept trying, and eventually got better at it. I hope your friend will help! RU-vid tutorials are also great
I think these paper booklets aren't really helpful especially when you start from zero. I recommend looking the stitches up on RU-vid, there are a lot of short, helpful videos and after repeating it a bit it's very calming... :)
Go to UTube to learn- you might really like it. To me it is relaxing. I just made my 18 yr. old Granddaughter a crop top-1st. Time doing clothing n I’m 63 years old😉😜😬
Hang in there girl!!! its ok to not be ok sometimes...i find crying some times very healing! much much love from wounded Greece (we have multiple fires here)
Awww don't ever apologise for your emotions. It probably helps people to know you are going through the same emotional journey also. There has to be ups and downs. It's our human response to the tragedies of life. You are doing great girl x
you havent fulfilled your purpose in life, babes. you are meant for great things and this is just the beginning. i cant wait to see what life has in store for you next. you helped me get through these rough times and for that, i cant thank you enough. bless up, romee.
You with the crocheting is so relatable. I can crochet (somewhat), but I cannot read the patterns/instructions for toffee! Edit: That cardigan when you are doing the puzzle, looks so comfy! Always start with the corners and edges of a puzzle. Another edit: Hugs to you! It's ok to cry. It's pretty cathartic. It gets it out. I think you're doing so well, and I promise I'm not being patronising! I love that you're being real.
I feel ya Romee!!! I'm 68 years old - when I was around 14ish I learned how to crochet; I think my maternal grandmother taught me. I crocheted a beautiful large doily out of variegated yarn and gave it to my grandmother. From that time on (she lived to be 91) she had that doily on a little table in the living room underneath a small table lamp and later placed my high school graduation photo next to it. I brought the doily home after her funeral but I have no earthly idea how to crochet now!! I also knew how to knit and in my early 20's I learned to needlepoint and made quite a few things doing that. I'd like to crochet again so I purchased a book at a used book store as well as some yarn & crochet hooks at Walmart. Still haven't gotten around to trying to learn again.
I learned to crochet when I was nine. I’m now 64. Everyone I have taught the first thing I had them do ( before attempting a pattern) was to learn the stitches and get comfortable doing them… rows of single crochet, double crochet, etc.. As many have said there are some great tutorials on RU-vid. You can do it! I like it because I don’t have to think too hard about it. For me it is relaxing.
Romee you're here because your story isn't over. You're such a huge inspiration to ppl all over the world. All ages and races. You are a beautiful, positive, upbeat girl!! I know in your situation you have to be, but you're doing an amazing job at it!!!! I know I'll be right here during your journey. Yes watching sad movies really mess with a person's emotions. Love you Romee, from Dayton Pennsylvania in the United states
Romee , survival guilt with cancer is a very real hard thing , Idk if your offered counseling for everything you’ve been going through but I could not go through my cancer journey without it . Your such a beautiful soul praying for you , much love from Canada
There are crochet videos on youtube to teach you how to do everything in that cute giraffe kit- but it is very ambitious for a first project! Don't get discouraged, start with a scarf, move to a hat, learn to read a pattern and then try the giraffe! It sounds like a lot but it uses up a lot of time for something productive. I taught myself crochet and can make all sorts of things now!
hi Romee I hope you are doing better. I've been watching your videos but I never commented until now. I too am fighting cancer. I'm Stage 4 Metastatic Breast Cancer. Basically terminal. This is my 2nd time fighting. I was first diagnosed with cancer back in 2015. I beat then but I found out a year ago it came back and spread to my bones. My left femur and left clavical spontaneously broke. Had emergency surgery and found out through scans that the demon was back. I as well wondered why some lived and some die. All I can tell you is there is no rhyme or reason to this disease. It doesn't discriminate. We all have our path and we all have our journey. I could die at anytime. Doesn't have to be cancer. It could be a plane crash or car accident. You never know. We are chosen to tell a story about survival and what we go through. And hope it may help someone. Or make someone feel they are not alone. Don't think about why me, why do some get to live longer. We all don't get out of this life alive. Thinking about that stuff just robs us of going on with life. It's survivors guilt. Completely normal to feel that way. It's ok not to be ok. Just don't get complacent with it. We are going to have our bad days and good days. Just know you are not alone in feeling this way. Just live life the best you can. Listen to that song from Tim McGraw " Live like you are dying". It gets me through a rough patch.
There is never anything wrong with showing your true feelings! ❤️ You are on a rough road and only you truly know that journey. Sending love and strength to get you through the hard times! You are doing it!! ❤️
WOW!!! You're such a trooper! You have been through a whole whole lot, and you're still kicking strong! You now have a new subscriber, and a supporter! You're a HERO!!!
Something is bothering you is something you can talk to anyone you trust and privately talk about it, to vent and just to have company.. i dont know but i really hope you are doing okay!! like emotionally, mentally, spiritually and mostly physically well.. UwU *hugs through screens* there is no shame of reaching out to people out even therapist or social worker for mental health and well beings. I been through stuff before and i understood how this whole thing was a struggle... you are so strong and you shine through the dark time. I admire how you made things less scary and taught me things that I never thought of it before. You got this, I know it! with love from Minnesota, USA ~~
Hey Romee i understand. My mother in law is currently in her last phase of her live. She has colon cancer. It is unfair that some people have to die. And again, you are a strong person Romee. Heads up hun, you can do this. 💜💜💜
Romee this video showed us so much, and I know it helped those who are dealing with treatments. You showed that it’s ok and normal to have those not so great emotional moments. Sometimes we feel like we’re the only ones and wonder why others handle things better. I hope I’m making sense! We love you and want you to feel comfortable expressing your emotions. 💖
You are so strong and a inspiration to us all! Just hang on ! We are all here for you, your never alone! I love crafting... I love to color it is a great way to unwind and just get into your own element. ❤️👳🏻♀️❤️
You are completely allowed to have a breakdown, you show so much patients and grace with what you are experiencing. I'm praying for you that you will be encouraged by the positive effects of the treatment you are getting. You are blessed to have an intelligent and creative mind. Thank God for His presence in the room with you. I'm sure that many people are praying for you every day. May God continue to be with you every step of the way through your illness and treatment.
You are such a beautiful person inside and out.I've watched your journey from the beginning and I've always admired your strength, and your ability to find Joy in your darkest moments. Who knows why some people fighting cancer get to live, and other's aren't as lucky. You seem to be very empathetic (so am I), so you getting emotional about other's who aren't as lucky as you, just means you have a lot of compassion and love in your heart❤Hang in there girl, things will continue to get better in every way!
Oh sweetie, I am so in tune with you it hurts. I am a 2-time cancer survivor and so is my daughter, and we have both discussed feelings like yours so often. I love that you are so open and honest about your feelings because too many of us hide those away with the shame they rode in on and leave them there, unresolved. But I have also found (and I see this in your videos as well) that so many of my inner gifts became much more visible during treatment. I have always loved to laugh, and my grown children and I share a gift for "dark" humor :) and I found myself laughing at the most unusual things during treatment. My gift of compassion rose to new heights with others. My gift of calling things as I see them, rather than how I imagine them, served me very well and kept me from believing the lies we tend to tell ourselves about that future we had carved out that might not be there. You keep doing you and you will come out of this intact. People like to call us warriors and then we feel we have to live up to that by soldering on when we should be in the sick bay. You are allowed to cry. I used to cry in the shower so I could watch those tears wash down the drain, never to return. Each day has it's onw individual tears. Many a good sleep has been birthed by a well of tears. Sending love and grandmotherly hugs to you.
Write the letters if you really don't feel like sending them when you can burn them and let that be the end of whatever is bothering you and move on to better things and better people ❤️
Well said, I am a member of a 12 step program and it taught me to do exactly that. It amazed me how just putting it down on paper relieved so much of what I had been feeling about certain people and a few I mailed but most I was able to just let go of. You will find afterwards that you no longer carry that baggage around with you. It also works on situations or events not just people.
Watching you try to crochet is so relatable to every person whose learned how. It takes time and patience. Oh, lots of practice first. Always start by making pot holders using all the stitches. After the 6th one, your confidence and joy in the thought of making your projects is something you can envision. I love crocheting. 🌼 My life is filled with many sorrows. When the burden is too much I meditate for peace and for me there is this 1 movie that no matter how sad I may be always lifts my spirits. It’s the 1940 version of Pride and Prejudice. You can buy a copy on Amazon or rent it on RU-vid.
Life is tough in general and what your going through just adds double even triple onto that! I have awful anxiety so I understand these break downs and the thinking constantly and it just takes you into a hole. Don’t be sorry or apologize for anything! You’re amazing and beyond strong and it’s okay to let out emotions and be vulnerable once in a while 😘
Dear Romee I just lost my mum so when you said ‘why do some ppl have to die’ I cried with you. I sobbed uncontrollably actually for ages. Please don’t ever feel guilty that your journey is to live. It’s life and some ppl have long journeys and some short. You are never boring to watch and I thank you for your strength resilience and ability to comfort others during this time xx
Romee you have no idea how watching you inspires me and comforts me. My 27 year old daughter passed away during a dialysis treatment she was waiting for a kidney transplant. It been a hard two years and then i come across you. You have such a big heart and a strong young woman.
I love how real and organic you are! Let it all out! Cry and scream if it helps. I often write letters to someone who doesn’t deserve them and then I burn them. It helps get it out of my head. Hang in there and know there’s an army of us rooting for you!
I continue to be inspired by your willingness to share your vulnerability which in turn shows us your strength. I find that hard patches often come in waves. May an easier wave come your way soon. So many hugs.
Ziggy's Mom turned out gorgeous!!! You have a real eye for color. And yeah, you started with a very difficult crochet project. What you should do is start with a scarf or pot holder to practice. YT has great tutorials. Sending love and prayers!!
WoW, you have a way with coloring, that picture of your mamma giraffe is awesome, its so lovely. My mom took up adult color books when she was doing chemo..she didnt like talking when she was there but she enjoyed coloring and find-a-word puzzle books, she said both things made the time go by so much faster for her.. Keep up the coloring, for me its mentally relaxing and I can step away from all the thoughts or problems that like to take up room in my head lol.
Journal- If you need to get things off your mind or just ramble. Journals really helped me. When I was done I'd run the pages through the paper feeder. No one else needed to see what I wrote. They were my personal feelings. Yep, helped everytime. Your doing amazing Romee. You are loved💗
Romee you are such an amazing person... I know you may not always feel that way but thank you for processing your feelings and not being afraid to post it. Its normal to feel ups and downs for anyone not to mention someone dealing with all you have in the past year. We are all supporting you Romee we love you. Your giraffe color page was BEAUTIFUL. crocheting is awesome once you get the hang of it. maybe just start with a blanket.... Sending hugs!!!
Survivors guilt is difficult. I’ve had it too. Therapy really helped me, but more than that even, time helped. Time is a wonderful healer. I’m so sorry you’re having such a hard time with it, but it’s normal if that’s any comfort. I’m sending you so much love always 💕
Timer I love your videos! You’re so sweet and honest! I have leukemia and have had the same questions and feelings as you. I’m thankful but I feel guilty. I hate cancer but I don’t want pity. There are things we will never understand! I pray a lot and it really helps. God really helps. I need a lot of peace to go through this chemo thing and sickness so I pray and God helps me , gives me peace. I’ve written letters before to people who have hurt me. I never sent them but writing it out on paper helped me tremendously! Also there’s great satisfaction in scrunching the paper up after and throwing it away!! Lol Hang in there! You’ve been given a gift- LIFE. Live it. Squeeze every oz you can from it for yourself and for those who weren’t so fortunate as you and I. I just love you!💖💖
Also my sisters keeper is so sad! I watched it pre cancer diagnosis with my mum and we both bawled our eyes out! I wouldn’t dream of watching it again now.
Sweetie dont feel bad that your going to get well and some of us aren't ...Be Happy and enjoy your life . You have brighten my life since I started watching your videos
Oh dear girl, that wasn't a good movie for you right now. I saw it and I cried for days. Keep up the coloring... I did that when I was ill and it became great therapy. Sending love from the states. Ziggy will wait for you ! 💜
Romee, You are such a Strong Young Lady! Praying for Comfort and Peace & Praying God will Complete Heal You of Cancer! God’s Blessings on You! Nothing is Impossible for God! We all Love You
Try Diamond Painting Romee. When I start a picture I can't stop. The pictures are so beautiful and hundreds if not thousands to choose from. I have anxiety and depression and It has helped me a lot. I love your videos and you are so sweet and beautiful. I rarely comment but felt the need. Prayers.
OK so I've been coloring for close to 7 years now, and girl.... you have an eye for color! You can color while listening to podcasts or movies or whatever. Keep at it, you're a natural!!!!
Survivor's guilt is real, and it does hurt. I have it too (fighting my own cancer atm) and I try my best to let those feelings go when I can and focus on the happier stuff. Its easy to spiral out of control and have mental breakdowns, I still get them myself, but then I try and do something that makes me happy so the darkness goes away. Stay strong Romee!
Hugs to you Romee! Let those tears flow! You are loved so I cried with you! Continue to show the real you and what your cancer journey includes…tears and all! 💖💖💖
Sometimes a good cry is the best thing you can do! When my daughter was growing up and one of us had had a tough day we would pick out a “crybaby movie” and watch it together. The whole point of the movie was to let out the bottled up emotions by using the movie as a jumping off place. There were times that we didn’t even finish the movie because as soon as we were able to talk about our rough day we would just talk and talk. We had some of our best conversations after those movies. But I love your cry in the shower approach! I can see how you could feel refreshed after one of those outpourings. However you deal with this journey, Romee, it is the right way! Your entire purpose right now is to just “be”. Crying, laughing, crocheting, or writing letters, all of it is good! I love just listening to you! I get so excited to see that you have posted. You are brave and you are strong! And you are not alone!!!
Romee everybody deserves to live unfornately not everybody live but those who do it’s just because they still have a lot of things to share, to teach and to learn. Thanks for fighting specially for those who can’t. Here in Mexico there are a lot of children and young adults like you fighting against cancer without medicines. Don’t be sad. You are wonderful
Breakdown is necessary for breakthrough. Your honesty and openness to experience makes you more vulnerable than others, but it also makes you stronger. There are not many young people with your viewpoint, who live that truth every day. You are special, Romee, and not because you’re ill. Life has plans for you, and this part of your journey will prepare you for what’s to come. Much love, sweet girl.
Romee, you are an artist , look at all the nice colors you took ..... full of love and life .... meditate on that painting , focus on the light all around the giraffe and let the light .. in ... the light is around you ... it is normal to cry , let it out ... every day I watch your post on RU-vid , I like you very much ... don't forget to focus on the light ... from Canada 🇨🇦
What you said about being in the hospital makes you feel safe really resonated with me, that's exactly how I felt while waiting for my brain surgery. I think one whole month alone could drive anyone crazy, you're doing so great! And, My Sister's Keeper is actually also a book, with a different ending than the movie, I highly recommend you to read it!! ^^
You’re a beautiful empath 💗 shedding tears for others in your shoes who are no longer here. I don’t know why either, but I’m certainly thankful for every moment we get.
Thanks for being so real and honest! Whatever you are feeling is valid and okay. No feeling is final, feel it and let it go. You've been through so much, your mind and soul need some time to process everything and to rebuild a life.
Having a mental breakdown in your position? Id say you earned that. Youre a hero in my book, you beautiful soul. Im 27 and 2y ago I had my third open heart surgery. Im looking at at least one more to go. I know what it feels like wishing for only to br healthy in your life. Keep smiling and stay strong, and you will beat this cancer. I trully belive we are stronger then our missfortunes ❤
I wish I could say something to make you feel better mentally but can’t find the words. Sending hugs and want you to know you are so worth the treatment as you are such a beautiful woman inside and out. Keep strong xx
I just got out of the hospital after a double lung transplant. I was in for a month, and started to get really depressed, literally having a mental breakdown. I met with the hospital psychiatrist and he helped to ease my hospital depression. It takes a toll on your mental health being stuck in a room , the same walls, the same window view ....I get it. I even started hating the greenish grey paint on the walls.! You’re doing great. You got this, you’re a warrior. Soon this will all be behind you.
Hey Romee, you're going through such a lot & spending a lot of time alone - it's no wonder that you have low times. I'm just glad you have developed ways of coping, & I'm grateful that you're brave enough to be real with us. Sending love from Nottingham UK x
Ahh Romee- let those tears flow. There is nothing wrong with feeling the feelings! It’s normal and healthy and so freeing. You are exactly where God wants you to be right now…physically, spiritually and mentally. 🤗
I think you are so brave, and very, very brave to share this. Sending love and hugs x Phone a friend, cry, anything to get through it, you're going to go through every emotion and you have a great understanding of what you need to do. Stay strong beautiful girl
You are such a strong, amazing woman! I git very depressed during my cancer treatment which was nowhere as difficult as yours but your emotions are,a roller-coaster! I was blessed to find,a therapist who helped me so much in all areas of my life, if you are able to see someone please take advantage of it xxx think if you often and sending love and hugs xx
Survivor's guilt is real as I am sure you know. I think writing the letters is a wonderful idea and I like someone's idea about burning them if you want. I am not sure you want to hear this, but I also agree with those bringing up the idea of talking to a therapist. I hate feeling like I am overstepping boundaries, I just know from my personal experince that there are major misconceptions about therapy in the NL. I support you and I hope that you are feeling better!
You are going through so much it's totally normal for you to feel the way you do. Never give up sweet girl. You are bright beautiful and s total inspiration. I along with a lot of people are with you all the way. Keep coloring too..it helps sooth the nerves. Love from NY 💌
It's okay to be upset and cry. No one is, or should be, judging you. I love how real you are in your vlogs. You don't act. You show yourself. That is admirable. Keep fighting! God bless!
Hey, Chica! I've never commented before but, I have to say, you are SO my girl right now. :) You are dealing with real issues and you're doing so in a such an inspiring way. Thank you for reminding me of the strength it has taken to get this far while you take everything in stride. Cheering for you from the U.S.! Stay strong. You're NOT alone. Breaking down is completely healthy and completely normal. If you weren't emotional about this, I wouldn't relate to you like I do. Have a wonderful day!
You are so precious! I love all your videos.....I just wish you weren't going through this cancer journey. I can't wait to see you kick cancer's A$$! and all this will be behind you. I hope you have much support from people in your circle. Take care and God Bless.
Oh sweet girl - you bring comfort to so many. Never question why you get to live. You live to inspire others. You live because you are amazing. You live. That's all. You live. Thank you for all of your inspiration to me and so many others.
Dear Romee my heart goes out to you. You are very intuitive and I feel you must adjust your activities to your mood and feelings. Put yourself first ! You are an amazing young woman, an inspiration.
I am glad you're showing us both the ups and the downs. You're on a wild and difficult journey. Also, you're allowed to say what you need to say to the people who need to hear it. You're allowed to seek closure. You're allowed to tell people they've hurt you or let you down. You don't have to write the letter and never send it - you can send it. The only thing you have to be prepared for is that they are also allowed to respond, and it might not be what you want to hear (or maybe it will be something good that will make room for healing, either together or apart).
