I HATE MY FIANCES CULTURE! 

Leave him. Imagine being married to someone who thinks he can do anything he wants that's haraam and you can't? Don't go into a marriage with that much negativity there beforehand.

I'm with Dina, RUN. His friends and family will only reinforce, and intensify his culture as the years progress. His views will most likely harden, and I speak from first-hand experience. Having children will deepen the divide. Read about inter -cultural marriage; it can work, but ONLY, with compromise. He's already throwing out red flags by going to clubs without you, it seems very hypocritical and mildly mentally abusive. He's going to control your behavior, while he does as he pleases, so if thats ok with you, go for it.

This thing of women having to help men GROW and SUPPORT them and basically groom them to be the man they should be for marriage is BS. Are we fertilizer that we are needed for you to grow? Run sis.

If you can’t stand it now it’ll only be worse when you’re married. Completely agree with Dina.

WOMAN TO WOMAN - DON'T DO IT !!!!!

I am with Dina on this one, I've seen the same situation happen to my friends and trust me even if they say they will change .. they won't be able to change 100%. May God guide you girl !

This girl should not marry that guy. They will get huge problems in the future when they ever have kids, believe me.

DO NOT MARRY HIM! He's not gonna change. Love is not enough, darling.

I agree. Run

SubhanAllah sister run for your life. Take it from one who has experienced a loooot of things in life. There is nothing worse then u sitting at home with a crying baby and he's out clubbing and won't even answer his phone wallahi you won't understand that agony until u live it. For Allahs sake take someone who is truly a Muslim who follow Islam and not culture. If he fears Allah he will treat you well. Haram is haram for both women and men . There are plenty of good, ready men. This man sounds like too much work I swear . Life is too hard allready . Like Dina says Get out now !!! When you have babies you get so much more vulnerable and you need a stabile husband and father. May Allah grant you a good man.

as a saudi women i think she should just run away since she got the choice

*I SEE THAT COLOUR COORDINATION* 🌚

Guy goes clubbing for goodness sake, biggest hypocrite ever. And before anyone jumps to his defence, he’s not exactly going to an all male club 😂

I don't normally comment but I am 100% with Dina on this one. I've seen this stuff happen and the guy does NOT change. The girl always ends up in so much mental and emotional distress but because she either has a kid with the guy or for some other reason, she can't leave him and it's honestly so sad because you can't do anything to help as an outsider.

Run habibti. You can't spell culture without cult 😂 You think it's a problem now... wait til u get married and you're forced into their culture cos his family will be on your case. I've seen this too often with people I know. And it just gets worse and worse when children come into the picture

Great advice Dina! I love how you put the definition of real love out their. Beautiful advice for young people.

I’m a man, married by the way. But girl, get the hell out of there!!!! Family is for a long term and if you hate the culture as of now there is no way you’ll love it in the future. Dina is right, you might get yourself in a dangerous position because he will get sick and tired of the talking and the arguing and he’ll grab you by te hair one of these days. So, bottom line... get the hell out of there.

Sid your hairline is fine don't bother getting anything done 😊

I'm a guy from North Africa and I agree a 100% with Dina. In this day and age, if you are Man and still think that a woman is inferior to you and that you can indulge in most vices of life while your girl needs to stay home and knit a flowery blanket, you are beyond help. Equality goes both ways. I felt bad for the girl asking the question. Hope she realizes that the guy's backwards mentality will be almost impossible to redeem.

I was in a similar situation. We were just getting to know each other and not engaged yet. I thank God that it ended because even though it was hard ending it, thinking back, it would have been a disaster!

girl, run.

These type of men can never in their whole life change their thinking. Because they are raised in that way and is living surrounded by such people. He is having this thing in the mind that it is okay for him to got clubbing but not his fiance to do that then here you see the true face of him. I mean he can sin and thats fine because he is a boy. And you can not make the same sin because you are a girl. it is ridiculous. Dina's advice are more realistic. Girl, please just run. If you get married to him your life will be a hell.

RUN FOR YOUR LIFE, GIRL! I’ve witnessed these toxic relationships, it’s not worth it. You can’t completely change someone‘s deep-rooted mentality, it won’t happen.

Girl get your Nike’s n run 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

FAST FOOD + DINA & SID = perfect comboo

I really like how Dina thinks and process and analyze the issues 👌🏽 ..she's a great speaker as well 👏🏽!

Dina was on point with this one. Run girl! Run!

No I don’t agree with Sid one bit. Never get in a marriage thinking anyone is going to change. Flip this idea and imagine someone thinking I will marry this girl but she needs to change this and that. People see what’s right for them differently! You can’t just assume someone will see what you see at the end of the road. Aslo, no one change unless they believe in the change and this girl might spend all her life waiting for him to see what she sees as right. Never plan a life on a may be. You either find him good and accept all of him as he is now even the things you disagree/dislike about him, or you don’t love him and this lust is just something physical that will fade by time. True love needs a huge level of connection, understanding, matching beliefs and values because only then even with your disagreement, you can ensure your freedom (true love never force you to be anything but yourself). It’s not the end of the world if you left him because we like many people, although that doesn’t mean they are all good to share our whole life with. I wish this girl doesn’t tie her life with anyone she’ll regret being with in the future. Many women and men have done this mistake and it’s not enough to stay married or not be divorced while you are miserable and cause misery to your partner and kids. You want a life to enjoy not a life you feel suffocated by or you find only few moments in to be yourself. If you know you will fight all the way and you might not agree or find a peaceful way to live together, then it is not worth it. You really will bring yourself down and that is not what Allah wants for you, because this life is suppose to be a field for you to grow and be the best version of yourself. If you married someone who cause you to be the worst version of yourself or you brought the worst in him too, how is that good for anyone? You can't just force things in your direction, he is not a puppet and you are not here to control how he lives (you don't want that!)

The women can go in the cupboard. GAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA.

She also needs to understand that he may be going into the marriage thinking your ideas are juvenile and that you will grow out of it. He also may be planing on changing you once you are married to better fit into his ideas of the ideal wife.

He will never change! Don't make my mistake and hope he will change. Because it's not getting to happen. I'm divorced now after 15yrs of marriage and i can tell you i am so fed up with his double standards. He drinks, smokes but tell our children that this is haram and they are not allowed to do so. Run away as fast as you can. It hurts only in the begining and you will survive.

Girl, run! Do not let this guy "grow" and finally become the best version of himself over your mental and emotional health. Don't listen to Sid, girl, run!

Don't do it...RUN !!

Dina, you are completly right!! Living in Egypt the past years made me realize how there are this type of "religious" people that wont change ever. And 100% love is not enough.

The advice of a child of such a misogynistic man: Leave him! Men like that shouldn't even be allowed to get close to women. It will end up being torture for you and for your future children (if they are girls. if they are boys they will grow up to be like the fathers as well). they don't change. you have discussions with them and over the years and the more you start having your own opinions on stuff the discussions will turn into fights, the fights will become verbal, and then there will be a point where it will get physical. a man that doesn't respect women doesn't have a reason not to lay a hand on them. please don't do it! once you're in a marriage it's a lot harder to get out!

Love is NOT enough. Values, interests, communication styles, wants, needs, logic, life vision, aspirations, hopes and dreams, family dynamics, philosophy, views on moral and ethical issues. These a important.

*DINA I THINK YOU SHOULD LEGIT DYE YOUR HAIR BRIGHT REDDDD IT WILL LOOK BOMBBB*

I agree with both of them. The basics have to be the same, when you disagree with other stuff, that's normal and you can work it out. When you disagree on the main things, it's gonna be really hard. Like Dina said, when the butterflies are gone, the other things need to be okay between both of you.

We sit in different rooms to be free so we can wear whatever and discuss about whatever atleast that's how we do it don't know about his cultures view about this

You can’t be racist to your own race she’s just calling out Arabs bullshit 🤦🏼‍♀️

When it comes to 'changing' someone and not agreeing with them, we have to get one thing clear: there's a difference between not agreeing with someone like his music taste or where he likes to live, and not agreeing with a FUNDAMENTAL aspect of his life. His religious views and the extensions of that are FUNDAMENTAL and you CANNOT change that.

And one sad reflection hit me after watching this video- love is NOT enough. That's really true. Especially in mixed couples... I know something about. If people love each other but can't find common ground when it comes really important things it can't work :(

Love isn't enough in this case, you'll have to live with each other and each others families and cultures, you can't escape it! It'll only get worse after marriage

This guy sounds like a nightmare.

*Romantic love is a construct created by society to trap women* anyways I agree with Dina that if you're hating it this much, 3 years in; you're really not gonna like it when y'all are married but I also agree with Sid that age is an important factor. Depending on his age, there may or may not be room to grow. I think if when/if they get married, if they live a good enough distance away from his family and their influence, they can maybe sort things out.

We have a famous saying among Somalis, "Carabta iska Ilaali"

I undestand what Sid is saying and I get his point BUT I know what Dina means. My 'woman's instinct' is screaming as well, "GET THE F--- AWAY FROM THIS GUY". Sid says take the risk, give him a chance. Dina says it's too risky. I agree with Dina.

*I completely agree with Dina, RUNNNNNN*

“Go and sit inside the cupboard” bhjfnkfjkmfg 😂😂

I couldn't imagine not being able to interact with men. I'm such a tomboy and have had as many male friends as female. I don't understand the concept that men can't control themselves around women to the point where they have to be separated from them.

Dinaaaa!!!! You're so right in this vid!! My goodness you're on fire! Speaking with the ultimate wisdom! This advice is wonderful for all the young girls out there including me! Girl to girl, that advice was golden. 🙌🙌🙌💯💯💯

Sid's advice is soo bad, you should've just cut his part lol.100% agree with Dina on this, RUN!!!

i 100% agree with Dina. Most likely this relationship will fall apart. I am American i married a very ""religious"" Algerian (arab so he says) who had very similar values to what was described here (except for the club stuff) and also the family plays a huuge role. especially the mother sometimes. if the mother or grandmother doesn't like you then you gotta forget it. the women in his family will not let you take him away from them and if you try to change him they will probably see you as a threat to their family ties. if the family does not like you it will be really hard. that man would have to be soo ready to have your back and defend you against his family/friends. and if he has a sexist view towards women then he'll never feel right choosing your side over the side of his most trusted male family members and/or male friends. especially because they most likely think its harder for women to get married than a man. people like that normally think women are un-marriageable beyond a certain age and will just look at you like you will be the one losing and that it will be so easy to find a "better" more "pious" woman than you. its a 3 year relationship already and it is not just HIS "views" which you are in disagreement with but its also his family and "culture". and yea i dont wanna seem like im stereotyping but there seems perhaps a chance that he has been exposed to or witnessed violence against women... and that shit sucks. you also dont want to end up in a situation where your man thinks he is soo much better and above you because he's a man, tries to control you and then threatens you with divorce if you don't submit to him. from the outside looking in i say that relationship is a no-go. i do not agree with sid. i see where sid is coming from, i used to have those thoughts about my ex like maybe i could open his eyes but no. 1000% agree with Dina, love is NOT enough. sorry. i know it sucks but its the hard truth. may god help you find a man who you can love just as much and will suit you better. same for him. you don't even have to break up the relationship officially because im fairly sure it will just fall apart on its own even if you get married. but in Islamic marriage women have a harder time getting a divorce. men can just say it and do it, women need help from an imam or judge. lots of religious Muslim women get trapped in unhappy marriages. it will became a mentally/emotionally abusive relationship and then very potentially a physically abusive marriage as well. i know everyone is different but i saw warning signs have already arisen and maybe i have just been traumatized ...been there, done that, and i agree with dina completely even though it will be hard for you to run. regardless if you run or stay, the heartbreak will come unfortunately. keep faith. everything in gods hands.

Im 150% with dina. yes men CAN change. just dont wait for it because changing and growing is not a mandatory thing, he may do it or he may not. so please dont marry him, its a trap... Im not even muslim so I will not speak for a social perspetive of a muslim getting divorce as sid says "if it doesnt work out you get separated" , its not like that, not all the people have the resources or even the self esteem or more, the habilty of recognizing a unhealthy relationship when they are in one. so please do not fall into that trap.... even thinking "oh the guy may change" but his family will always be in the picture, is that what you want? are you both ready to deal with it when time comes? answer is, probably not. so run

I agree with Dina. The girl that asked for advice is better to walk away now than to get married to the guy. He’s not going to change!!!

This is my entertainment to get me warmed up for I’m a celeb😂😂

Girl, you need to literally RUN!

Trust me the women in our family get the big living room, whilst the men have the smaller one. The women get the better tv too, ngl I’m jealous. Would love to be in the women’s room 😂

He does not have time to grow, men are very stubborn and more often than not are not easily persuaded into doing things they don't want to especially by a woman. If he has grown up with these ideologies all his life, I HIGHLY doubt he is going to change now. I have learned from experience that any time you think you can change something about a man it never goes the way you expect it to. I agree with Dina, RUN!

Dina is so right saying that it will be much more difficult to try getting out of it after marriage! Do not listen to what Sid is saying, men don't change .. run girl, run!!

Leave him, girl. For now it can be cool because you are not married yet but what can happen later? You don't really know him especially if you don't live together and if you see these double standards so much and he thinks that wearing a swimsuit by a baby is bad?? Please, run before it gets worse. I know you are in a pain and thought about not being together is killing you but think about YOUR future girl!

I hate that arabs go clubbing, they drink, eat haram, disrespect women YET they know arabic and can understand the teaching of the quraan. She should leave the relationship if he doesnt have the same values as you

love that hoodie dina x

He won't let his baby wear a bathing suit cause it's too sexualizing but he can go clubbing? LOLOL Runnnnn girl

I feel like every culture has a dark side to it 🤔😒

Maybe the best lesson she can give him is to leave because of these views he has, and state that reason clearly.. I did that with my ex. Not the same issue, but I had hoped for soo long that he would change, but it never happened and in the end it only hurted me to be with him. He said later he learned a lot through that and is now happy with another girl. I am single, but very happy. When I talk to him now I still notice some signs that he hasn't reeeally changed some of the bad things because they lay so deep within his core. But we both learned something; he got a little nicer and I learned to stand up for myself😊 Much happier now😉 Ps we were together for 3,5 years from age 16-19 so quite young, but still. I learned so so so much, and think that's valid for any age:)

Dina your answer was brilliant! You are so right. You shouldn't base marriage on emotions only and no one wants to "raise" a grown man

If a guy is causing you this much stress and your not even married yet, then you just need to drop his ass and move on. He sounds like a permanent headache to me 😥

Girl run

To Sid: regardless of his age, remember they've been together for 3 years and he's still the same. To the girl: I say talk to him give him up to 6 months and see if he'll change. If not it's time to leave since you love each other perhaps he deserves a chance..maybe but if it doesn't work it's time to cut him loose. Good luck!

100% with Dina on this one. Leaving him wouldn't be an impulsive decision at all; it would be the right one

I completely agree with Dina, I don't think a person can ever actually change to that level.

Girl you better dip quick, no need to hold onto something that's broken plus you'll thank your future self when you find a man who is on the same page as you. Life is too short to settle, and too many women don't realize this, they hold onto words and empty promises, people won't change unless they are willing to change you CANNOT ever make someone change and its even harder to change culture

Advice him and if he doesn’t change then leave his ass simple as that.

I'm in exactly the same situation as the woman who wrote the email. Right down to the fact that her family is middle eastern but she was raised here (me too) and my man is muslim too. I already made the decision and I'm breaking things off with him today. We've had so many arguments and in the end i know we're too different to ever be able to live a harmonious marriage. It's painful, yes, because I do love him. He's been a part of my life for 2 years. We've set out our lives together. As people, we have so much in common. But in terms of religion and culture, it gets messed up. I was always open to his culture but he is not open to mine and i know he never will be. Leaving is the right decision. Do it now as it will only get harder like Dina said, and you will only start to resent each other for your differences in opinion if you stick together. I'd take Dina's advice, like me, and run! Dina is SO right on this one.

Totally agree with Dina. Run and dont look back. Its mentally dehydrating to change a man. Speaking from experience.

I'm a muslim convert and I don't shake hands with other men. When I visit other families, women often form a group while men form another group. I don't think that there is anything wrong with doing so or for men and women to sit in separate rooms. However, there is a problem with the mentality that a sin committed by a woman is different from the sin committed of a man. I'm married since 2 years and Alhamdulillah me and my husband have the same values and the same goals in life. I honestly think that the most important part of a marriage is to share the same values because that will spare you from a lot of drama, hatred and arguments. I would therefore advise you to move on. Don't marry a man who might treat your daughter in a humiliating manner and don't marry a man who believes that there is nothing wrong for men to go clubbing.

my night is saved

Totally agree with Dina. If he is arguing and already not seeing your viewpoints before marriage, no way in hell he is going to change for you afterwards.

Agree with Dina... RUN GIRL!! Don't wait to till you're already married... imagine the stress and heartache of divorce and all that sadness and stress... you'll ruin your life

1. Dina is actually actually 1000% correct I'm surprised Sid disagrees 2. Sid stop worrying about your appearance (actl Dina too) because you guys literally look perfect the way you two naturally look

11:00 I totally agree with Dina, Love is never enough, not only nowadays but always's been, and btw Sid & Dina plz focus on the Problem's Solution not on disagreeing with each other most of the video! and yeaaaah keeep posting these videeeos we LOVE YOUUU!

Dina, I agree with you. This sister should call off the wedding. He is not right for her, and she should RUN as fast as she can....

Dina gave such good advice in this video! From talking about what true love is vs immature love/lust to telling that girl to run 👏👏

I'm not muslim or arab, but one thing I can tell you is that this type of mentality is strong. I'm from an indian background and in my family (especially women from the older generation) men are a million levels above women. My mum has been living in the UK for more years than she ever lived in India and she still has the exact same mentality. Trust me, people with this type of mentality don't change. Honestly, her fiance sounds like my brother.

I myself was born and raised in Saudi Arabia and it is horrible out there , the culture and the way they see woman and treating them it's just stupid and disrespectful , RUN HONEY they are not people you want to be related to TRUST ME

Issa BIG red flag, he will NOT change, sis run while you still can.

Dina I agree 100%. From experience leave and do what is good for you. Don’t risk it. It hurts way more and is harder later!!

sorry sid...i adore you...but some things are deal breakers. homophobes, racists, sexists... run girl!

OIL & WATER Segregating men n women is not culture..its religious. However, going to clubs being ok is wrong man/woman. In light of the culture clash , the two of you are not compatible. You will have arguments for life..so thinking is western and his is eastern..both are right but the two cannot mix like oil and water.

Dina, I absolutely love you in this video!😂😂 Truth was indeed spoken.

Women please take this advice: never believe that you can change a man or that he will be willing to change for you. You will be saving yourself a lot of heartache

I disagree completely with Sid and usually he speaks so much sense. Love is NOT enough. Before marriage, we sometimes ignore the negatives as we are so amazed by the idea of marrying the person we love. Then once you are married, the truth unfolds. I’ve heard the saying “you only truly know someone once you begin living with them”. This does not just apply to a man, it equally applies to a woman too. He is already showing major warning signs. I don’t even know if it’s possible to change someone’s mindset. It may in some cases, but talking from personal experience I have tried to change my other half’s mindset for 3 years, he fully wants to but never acts upon it. Who knows. I would stay away

The idea of a Saudi man going clubbing cringes me out no offence, I don’t know why.... 🤢😷

Dina's second half of this video was legit spot on! It is a business transaction! I always said that! And I loved Sid's advice at the end as well.

I 1000% agree that true love is more than just the fairytale bit, it’s the practical and functional and supportive bits that make love last forever. Butterflies or not, you have to be a team that works together.

In my opinion, it’s not your duty to change a person, let alone your partner. You should be in a relationship that helps you GROW and FLOURISH, not completely attempt to change a mind set someone has held their entire life. It’s honestly not worth it and will drain you.

All I have to say is “Run Forrest, run!” Also I disagree with Sid, they’ve been together for 3 years so honestly don’t think his misogynist view will change.

Omg whenever we go to my nans house we chill in the kitchen while the men have mad convos in the living room with the tv and shit

OMG! I can tell you about 24 years of this situation. Dina i agree with you!! I have so much to share just need the courage to talk about it.