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I Have Issues With Women Due to Past Abuse
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@l-train7876 Год назад

My heart goes out to this guy so much. I don’t like that his wife has made him feel this way.

@colmwhateveryoulike3240 Год назад

I'm glad his wife is a fan because it sounds like she needs to hear this advice more than him.

@dhritikapoor2897 Год назад

I would not like it if my husband ever got involved in an argument I was having with another woman. It’s always a classier move to have your partner remove you from that situation instead of adding fuel to fire. I think what his wife is trying to say is “ you don’t have my back”. She feels she needs to fight her battles alone. Tell her you will have her back where it matters . Arguments with strangers is not that .

@rithvikmuthyalapati9754 Год назад

You’ve completely missed the mark. The wife is constantly getting into arguments and then expects the husband to defend her no matter what. The poor guy has normalized abuse so much that he doesn’t realize he is being abused by his wife.

@alluringbliss4165 Год назад

As someone who grew up around abuse and shuts down when faced with certain situation, I'd say you don't get it at all.

@msarieskat Год назад

If his wife is so worried about being attacked maybe she stop getting into arguments with strangers. The average person is not constantly getting attacked by strangeers.

@animahawke4396 Год назад

The only woman who I've ever asked my husband to stand up to for me is his own mother. Poor guy.

@chrissy1448 Год назад

Exactly….

@vianjelos 5 месяцев назад

That's the way it should be. A man should only have to stand up for a woman against another woman if he is the common factor between the 2(so defending his wife from his mother or standing up for his sister to his female friend) and of course both should defend each others honor when the other is absent and someone wants to trash talk them. But if it's his wife and her family or friends or co workers or even his friends wives that are having issue with his wife, it's not his place to step in. Now it's 100% his place to step in and defend her from any other men regardless who they are but not other women. She's a grown up she can finish the battles she gets into herself.

@CrystalM1917 Год назад

Why is his wife frequently getting into confrontations with other women in the first place?

@thedailyjules_ Год назад

That's what I'm sayin.

@katiavalentino5800 Год назад

Why is his wife getting into fights with other women?? That is not normal.

@kschrop Год назад

Standing up to another woman as a man is not something that happens, its very rare. I think you did the right thing. Grip your woman up and pull her away if anything.. Sounds like your wife needs checked big time! She is the problem, not you brother. Stay strong and lay some grounds

@NeiveVeve Год назад

If the wife is getting into that many altercations, my guess is he married an abusive woman like his stepmother. Also, the wife sounds like a coward. She wants to fight with women but wants her man to step in so she won't get her butt kicked. If she wants to open her mouth she better face the consequences of that! Ugh...

@ineedhoez Год назад

Agreed!!! As a woman. I can't imagine expecting my man to fight other women for me. I guess if I am getting jumped or something!

@ineedhoez Год назад

@@NeiveVeve exactly! She is gaslighting the fck out of him!!!

@thaneros Год назад

She sounds like a hot head.

@C_the_hard_way Год назад

I was coming here to say this!! Wife seems like she has a short fuse and expects her former MMA fighter husband to fight anyone she has a beef with. Those 2 incidents he described sounds like the wife was in the wrong in both instances. Seems like he doesn't see that he married a person like the monster of a step mother he had. Sad.

@jamieolivarez9083 Год назад

I am so glad Dr. John set this right! But it sounds like he married a bully of a wife!!! Why would a grown woman be so aggressive and petty? No, she should never try to cause problems by putting him into those awkward situations. ODD this seems like married a watered-down version of his STEPMOTHER. His intuition knows and that is why he continues to SHUT DOWN. He knows he's not safe. Is it just me that sees this? What kind of people constantly poke and prod people with aggressive behavior?

@princess199799 Год назад

Most abused victims get in relationships with their abusers because it is familiar.

@sfappetrupavelandrei Год назад

The irony is the wife is a big John Delony fan. I'm sure that after this call, she will stop following John's podcast. 😅

@chrisk4053 Год назад

Wife is clearly a trouble maker. She is making this an issue and belittling this man.

@amorl4520 Год назад

How can anyone say the wife is a bully or trouble maker! Is it not possible this old lady was out of place ? I have have been in those situations and had words. In my case I have no problem putting jerks in their spots . Especially if I did nothing .

@jamieolivarez9083 Год назад

@@chrisk4053 Yes, that is what I think. On one hand I can see if was just the one incident bet then he goes on to talk about this being ongoing behavior. I see wanting your man to have your back but I have to ask myself the level of class of this person to be constantly starting fights with people and wanting her husband to getting in the mix all the time.

@l-train7876 Год назад

The wife sounds insanely confrontational.

@ronaldhudson169 2 дня назад

Or at least easily provoked.

@angiec2066 Год назад

Really? This man should be defending his wife from other MEN not women?! I’m pregnant now and I would never have my husband defend me from another woman, especially if I should’ve known better. The wife is out of line if she thinks she’s entitled to yell at another woman and then need hubby to protect her from the problem she participated in.

@ineedhoez Год назад

Exactly.

@maam-yj8ph Год назад

I agree. Women need to "feel unsafe" if they are going to be picking fights unnecessarily with random strangers.

@boxesbinslidsllc Год назад

She was pregnant 🤰 hormones.

@Ja50nkAt Год назад

Agree, but there are women out there who start fights and expect her man to step in and protect her if she's acting stupid and out of line. Men have to know when to walk away.

@labrigful Год назад

If she didn't yell at anyone, then a woman came after her, I'm sure it would be easier for him to feel protective of her.

@mv7374 Год назад

Also wondering how much of a fan of John she still is after this call 😅

@BlackStarMulti Год назад

You win a 100% of the fights you do not get into.

@calebburghardt3391 Год назад

From just this call it Sounds like the wife likes to get into drama and then weaponize therapy terms, “I’m not feeling safe” to make him feel bad. Sounds like not a great partner and I’m glad John called it out.

@Gila699 Год назад

This woman sounds like trouble. Who goes around getting in fights like these everywhere they go?? That's such an incredible red flag.

@lot2196 Год назад

Agree, I don't know a woman in my life that has ever got into a physical or verbal altercation with another woman. Ever.

@CrystalM1917 Год назад

Yeah I left the same comment, I'm so confused? Why is this a big enough issue to warrant a call? She must be getting into fights every week?!!😮

@strnglhld Год назад

Maybe she works for the WWE. 😂

@madelinem3216 Год назад

It appears he may have married someone like his step mom

@boxesbinslidsllc Год назад

Nope she's a pregnant 🤰 with hormones.

@Price8903 Год назад

I like this call. Dr. Deloney is very levelheaded. I love his stories when he interjects. It sounds like his wife walks towards conflict. She should’ve defused some situations herself.

@1lespaulfreak Год назад

She’s a feisty chihuahua

@alluringbliss4165 Год назад

@@1lespaulfreak perfect depiction 😆

@kristenivory628 Год назад

Wife needs anger management classes for real

@fandoms5ever Год назад

It’s wrong of the wife to expect her husband to finish fights that she started.

@lot2196 Год назад

His problem is he can't beat up a woman? His wife sounds like the problem.

@YesYesYesJeff Год назад

Dude...the real issue is that you normalized abusive behavior from women, and so you don't see when your wife is now being abusive. Your issue is seeking out abusive relationships to resolve your childhood trauma by now having control in that abusive situation.

@alluringbliss4165 Год назад

He probably did not seek them out since she is his high school sweetheart. Some people have conditioned themselves so much to the abuse that they are no longer aware that it is a problem. It might be even more difficult to decondition the mind.

@EM-KeepingtheFaith Год назад

Jeff, to be fair, that wasn't what his wife was saying. She was upset that he added to her embarrassment by publicly telling HER to calm down. I agree with John that it would be better if Nico just grabbed his wife and got her out of a no win situation.

@angel-ke9vs Год назад

Exactly, why is she making him into her attack dog? Most women would love to have a guy who proctects them from acting the fool. Instead she shamed him for having a good character.

@angel-ke9vs Год назад

@@EM-KeepingtheFaith so he has to "his not worth it bro" his own wife 😅

@CrystalM1917 Год назад

Mom died when I was 3 and remarried when I was almost 6(so in other words 5 lol) 2 yrs later....."But Dad wanted companionship and wanted connection so remarried....and then he hit the road...??" Um what??😂😂😂 NO, he wanted somebody to raise his kid and didn't bother figuring out if she was fit for the job.

@YesYesYesJeff Год назад

100%

@seame3795 Год назад

💯

@Ryan-wx1bi Год назад

My man, it's obvious your wife is the issue, not you... I used to travel for work and interacted with thousands of people in all kinds of situations and walks of life. Not once did I get in any type of altercation with someone. The fact she consistently gets in arguments with people is so telling

@michaelh2282 Год назад

He should have dumped her on Day 2 when she got into that altercation with the other dad. Regardless of whomever "started" that first, it likely wouldn't have escalated to that point unless she pushed the issue. She's looking for a man whom she can push into fights to validate herself.

@chrissmarie455 Год назад

This is kind of weird to me, I wouldn’t want my husband to stand up against another women, sounds like a her problem not him.

@ineedhoez Год назад

This sounds weird AF. Why would he need to defend his wife against other women? Sounds like his wife is a Karen. His wife wants him to punch a female? I would NEVER put my man in a situation where he would need to go at a female to protect me. Women are not generally super physically aggressive. They don't generally around starting fights. So the wife is behaving in a manner that IS aggressive and causing drama with other women.

Год назад

If he do something against another woman he will be in big trouble and prob in jail

@MijoShrek Год назад

His primary caretaker abused him growing up. He has a woman who is aggressive and causes drama with other women to be in that type of situation more than once. You can then start to kind of see, that either he attracts that type of women or seeks them out.

@strnglhld Год назад

Unless this guy’s married to Ronda Rousey or a Chyna-esque WWE character (RIP) I’ve never heard of this happening. Wild!

@AllynHin Год назад

Soooo, his wife is a hot-headed smart-mouth and blaming the husband for not "sticking up" for her when she starts trouble. Screw that.

@eurekahope5310 Год назад

I have never been in a conflict with a woman that would have required my husband's intervention. In fact, the only women I have raised my voice at have been family members and even that is VERY rare. Strange that his wife is picking fights with old women then "needing" hubby to step in.

@Mrs.TJTaylor Год назад

Uh oh. I think the core problem may be who he married. I think she’s the hot head! Does his wife have some of the characteristics of his abusive parent?

@ithinkigottalent4047 Год назад

He married a woman who is at least somewhat like the stepmom. Makes sense.

@carloswithac Год назад

Thank you for calling, Nico! I was also abused by my mother and had to work through it. I know how hard it is!

@SofiUk0319 Год назад

I'm so glad this man called in, I've noticed I have the vry same issues w women, and I'm a woman (go figure). I too have no issues whatsoever in telling a man what I think, but on the flip side I cannot do the same w a woman who's crossing boundaries. Hmmm. pondering my thoughts, God Bless you Mr and your fam ❤

@janelleg597 Год назад

Women definitely have a pronounced herd mentality...we are not built for confrontation. However I would encourage you to at least say something, use your words if nothing else. Lots of women being despicable out there these days

@angel-ke9vs Год назад

@@janelleg597 not all some girls are built for the fight from birth. 😂

@AshleyLebedev Год назад

As a woman I wasn’t there and don’t know how these events really went down but it occurs to me to just say : make sure your wife is not just a slightly lesser version of an abusive step mom. You have so much anxiety as if you are scared if you don’t fix this for wife she’ll leave you. Just feel if they feel the same. Are you married to a bossy agitated verbally abusive person who’s just a little bit less than mother figure? If not, and she’s awesome then just get her out of there vs amping them up with her. Def don’t tell her to calm down and not other one if she’s not in wrong, that would piss any woman off if she’s blamed for events that aren’t her fault. But…, if they are partially her fault maybe she can start accepting some responsibility. If she’s an awesome wife you have my apologies. 🙏🏻

@strnglhld Год назад

Is your wife in the WWE? UFC? Why is she going around fighting people?

@Chase5678 Год назад

One you don’t fight women. Two why’s your wife trying to pick fights every week with people.

@makefoxhoundgreatagain842 2 месяца назад

Depends. If a woman is trying to stab you? Yeah you're going to fight back.

@reginasemenenko148 Год назад

I don't know why she would need her husband to defend her from another woman? Maybe the wife needs therapy? Maybe she needs to get some anger management/impulse control instruction? She doesn't have to react to everything.

@autumnlange1220 Год назад

I think this guy is getting emotionally abused by his wife. It sounds like he married his step mom. She is a drama queen looking for fights. I have never heard of anyone in my life fighting with some old person in a bathroom and being a snot to a nurse trying to help. My heart goes out to him 😢

@neisci Год назад

The wife is abusive and manipulative. Does she really expect her husband to violently intervene in the physical altercations she initiates? Is she out of her mind? Caller needs therapy so he can see his wife for who she really, the wife is now emotionally abusing by making him think he hasn't been doing enough to "protect her" by using words such "I don't feel safe". She's a looser. PS: he has been doing right, if I get into a heated argument my husband better escort me out. I don't want to put hands on anybody and I don't want anybody putting hands on me. Additionally, it feels good to walk away with a little of dignity being escorted out as if you "were about to do something " lol when you know you wouldn't bust a grape.

@cynthiamachuga6146 Год назад

As a woman, I can say that sometimes it can be hard to tell the difference between real danger and perceived danger. For me, martial arts was very helpful in learning how to tell the difference. It also teaches the importance of de escalating as your preferred method of dealing. Bottom line men fight men, women fight women and you only step in if you're wife is getting beat down physically but she should have tried to de escalate the situation vs engaging.

@belindagarza3958 Год назад

Men dont get involved in their wife's arguments with other women. That's normal.

@EM-KeepingtheFaith Год назад

John, you are such a wise and loving resource. I'm a woman and my beloved man has learned that occasionally I'm just plain irrational and act immaturely!! Its rare, and I do say sorry! Nico, you and your wife are allowed to learn to navigate how resolving conflict together works for you BOTH.

@tacooflove6175 Год назад

“A hot-tempered person must pay the penalty; rescue them, and you will have to do it again.” During very emotional times none of us are perfect but like deloney said grace should be what’s reached for first.

@1lespaulfreak Год назад

Spot on use of Proverbs!

@greggs2240 Год назад

Great job, John. You're a good man, Niko!

@shuppslife5140 Год назад

Totally agree with you !!

@ithinkigottalent4047 Год назад

The wife is a real piece of work!!!

@neededtobesaid4275 Год назад

No, you don't need to defend your wife from another woman. Easiest way to get put in jail. Pulling your wife away from the situation is the best thing to do. I can go from from calm to heavy breathing, hot-faced, and angry in half a breath when feeling threatened. I'm ready to defend against a man but an old lady?!? Nah, I'm good!

@BG-nm5xt Год назад

It seems strange that his wife feels the need to be defended? In what kind of situation? Verbal disagreement? Can't she just stand up for herself? How is she not safe?

@COINsimp2024 Год назад

It sounds like the wife just doesn't know how to handle her emotions at tines, but she should be able to defend herself against women. Asking a man to do anything to another woman other than removing the wife from the situation makes no sense. We've all seen a man that's screaming in women's faces, not cute.

@sunkist3304 Год назад

My husband would do what he does and tell me to calm down. He shouldn't get involved in an agreement with me and another woman. She could get him killed/beat up...

@mv7374 Год назад

Alright i thought it was just me when I was listening to the call on my commute when I was weirded out she wanted him to yell at other women 😆 esp bc no matter where you go, you have no idea if they’re carrying anything or if they have a group of ppl waiting

@mimimonster Год назад

First of all, adults who abuse children are horrible. Step parents who abuse their spouses children are even worse. No child deserves this. Can we just point out how amazing this man is???!!! It’s very difficult for a lot of men to deal with childhood trauma and be able to admit to difficult things like this much less ask for help! Wow!!! He must really love his wife and his family to be willing to attempt to go into this and try to work on it. Good for you!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I hope you are able to work through this and find peace and take charge of your life. Good luck, man.

@kristenivory628 Год назад

If husband is out drinking and cheating and away from home a lot she took frustrations out on kid, sad

@carladossantos1142 Год назад

Nico, you are such a brave man! Thank you for being this vulnerable. You are going to work this out because you are willing to address this and go to the root where there is so much pain and shame. As a woman who suffered the same in the hands of my father, those issues also transfered to my intimate relationships. Therapy, self-questioning and self-awareness were key for me to understand and overcome a lot of issues. A big applause to men who are this brave!!!! You got this Nico!

@leex1347 Год назад

Sounds like the wife is forcing him into bad, uncomfortable, unsafe situations. SHE has an issue with starting/instigating/fueling arguments with people and then making him feel like it’s HIS issue for not defending her. Kind of reminds me of the Will Smith/Jada situation. Husband is doing the right thing by walking away.

@jaqueitch Год назад

Doesn't your wife have the ability to defend herself from a woman??

@9liveslisa Год назад

I can totally relate with this guy about abusive stepmothers. I had a stepmother who threatened to kill me one night completely unprovoked. She was drunk (as usual) and I was very frightened. My Dad didn't believe me. I was the troublemaker according to him. NOT! I was reading a book in my bedroom quietly and it was shocking. Shame on all the evil stepmothers out there. Shame on you! You deserve all the bad karma life can bestow on you.

@YesYesYesJeff Год назад

Shame on all the dads too then.

@9liveslisa Год назад

@@YesYesYesJeff Of course.

@strnglhld Год назад

It’s terrible when your dad chooses his new wife over you. Not only do you feel untrusted in your own home, but it makes you wonder what kind of judgment your dad has or doesn’t have. Very destabilizing.

@9liveslisa Год назад

@@strnglhld I'm 66 now, but my father's choice in a wife was horrible for all 4 kids. My mother died a year after the divorce (17 years of marriage) and he remarried one year after my mother's death. We all hated our future stepmother because she was an integral part of my parent's divorce. He was a doctor and my stepmother was the nurse in his office. Basically we all left home as soon as we could. I left when I was 15. I reunited with my father after my stepmother's death and he was happy about that. He ultimately wanted to be exonerated for making life a living hell and blaming us, but I never could forgive him. I was able however, to spend quality time with him the 6 years before his death at 87 years of age. So, some healing happened. Life happens and you just do the best you can with what you have been handed. I had lots of therapy too. Lol!

@AmandaErrrrr Год назад

Your wife expects you to be a shield in situations she fully and knowingly gets her self into? She is willingly putting you in danger because she isnt emotionally mature enough to walk away from conflict, or just not even start conflict to begin with? Shes SO RAGGEDY shes starting fights while pregnant? She is straight up manipulating you my dude.

@toosense Год назад

The wife feels like he is gaslighting her by telling her to calm down in a situation where she feels like she is being attacked instead of protecting or defending her. Especially after she just had a baby and the nurse is not respecting her wishes. I could see how she would feel like he doesn’t have her back. In the bathroom situation with the old lady, the mother in law was there, she could have gotten involved if she wanted. The best thing to do when people are acting psycho is just walk away, too many entitled and aggressive nuts out there.

@labrigful Год назад

"Oh honey, you're just overeating. Take some breaths." Never made anyone calm down ever.

@addiskassa5165 Год назад

Niko, I am really sorry! What happened and how life treated you, You seems such a nice gentleman, good things in the world do not survive unless they are protected, You job now healing from the past and enjoying your new born child, I am really sorry your wife got to fight unnecessarily! Put God the centre of your life and pray that God can protect the family you build because you deserve happiness! Good luck and God blessed!!!🙏🙏🙏

@aliparker3 Год назад

If my partner popped in to an argument with me and another woman... then I guess we'd be having words later. 😂 Nooo.

@LaylaMF Год назад

Well it seems that the wife is part of the problem 😒

@amandaforrester7636 10 месяцев назад

As someone who works in a hospital, yah if the nurse is threatening to have you removed, you're being verbally abusive. No one does that just for fun.

@GoldBerryTarot Год назад

John is a great therapist and I appreciate how he worked with this man on air AND (😀) it sounds like this caller’s wife is emotionally manipulative. His talking points sound like she has been blaming and shaming him for situations she chose into. Respond don’t react. I get standing up for a spouse against in-law abuse but it sounds like this is not the issue with her. SHE is the one not responsible for her behavior and actions and makes others clean up her messes for her. Important that he does not enable her poor behavioral choices and emotional dysregulation.

@Tristum1970 Год назад

The wife has a big problem. God help this man

@emilywilcox5386 Год назад

I love this subject because I had a similar situation and it's always bugged me. We stopped to use the bathroom (also at a gas station) and a very irate young lady stormed in screaming and cussing at what I assumed was her boyfriend. I thought it was a drunk couple so I paid no attention, did my business, then came out with other people looking at me weird. It was about 3 am so I was exhausted and didn't care. Back in the car, I learned that the woman was yelling at my husband. I've played this over in my head a million times of what I should've done and even though he's not concerned, I still feel like I let him down. In reality, it was probably the safest bet though. I hope Nico can let it go too.

@tspencer661 Год назад

My counselor told me that you marry what you know. I think he married a woman like his stepmother. His wife is a common denominator in all of these incidents.

@tristamarie7115 Год назад

Definitely relate to his statement, 'I shut down if they show any other emotion besides happiness'....I'm like that with men and my girlfriends and not sure how to 'handle' other people's emotions.

@Ja50nkAt Год назад

Reconnected after a decade later, how nice for her to get picked up, red flag.

@marjipooh17 Год назад

His wife shouldn’t be putting him in these situations. He should feel unsafe with her. His wife sounds immature & rude.

@jonquindiagan682 Год назад

Keep up the good work!

@Kevin-uq7nc Год назад

Twist** now he’s he’s getting abused by his wife and is too damaged to know it

@T-CainesZR1 Год назад

Hmmm I starting to see that maybe this guy's wife is getting him into trouble.

@aubreysellssofl Год назад

This mans trauma is no joke but a big man getting in a woman’s face is not ok. So I think he did the right thing.

@katiewaves Год назад

Ugh you can hear that little boy 😢 stop abusing children!!!!

@France149 9 месяцев назад

For sure LEAVING 😂This conversing, with a fright, Thank you ✌️♻️📶🎥🛑📥 ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

@crzyruskie86 Год назад

Her mouth is trying to write checks that you cant cash (nor should you have to given that it was a woman in that fight). Now shes using it as an excuse to get out of your marriage. Also, imagine yelling at a nurse that is doing her job while you are under her care. Freaking whacky to say the least.

@GreekCarFreak Год назад

"I need you to defend me when I'm in arguments" is another way of saying "my ego doesn't let me shrug things off and walk away". Wife needs serious therapy.

Год назад

Your wife it's a trouble maker lol 😅 you should not do anything if she is arguie with another woman, the best you can do it's said she should chill or take her with you so she is safe lol but against a man you always should defend her. I think your wife is just playing the victim role and confuse you.

@kristenivory628 Год назад

Love your work Left out the part where Dad married a babysitter for his children

@ChurchofCaboose Год назад

To me, it sounds like he has an immature a wife who keeps doing dumb stuff. His wife doesn't need him saving her from others as a result of her choices ) excluding situations of bodily harm). He needs her to realize what she's doing and grow up

@emilyorr8763 Год назад

….. this guy is acting appropriately. His wife needed to be reminded to calm down. This altercation with a nurse was inappropriate and there was nothing else he should have been expected to do.

@absolutetruth3290 Год назад

You never intervene in 2 cats fighting. They will both tear you apart. Women regulate other women. It’s what they do. Don’t ever try to intervene in that. You’ll get your eyes scratched out. Just like in the cat fight

@GinaLoriDuncan 7 месяцев назад

His wife sounds very confrontational. She has a temper and is putting him in bad situations.

@marissa7459 Месяц назад

Why do I feel his wife is the problem? He grew up with an abusive woman…and married an abusive woman. It’s easy math.

@YaYa-ke1zr Год назад

In my opinion, the only time a man should step in between two women is if the other woman is trying to kill his wife/daughter/sister/mother/auntie/grannie. If there’s no threat of death, he should let the women work it out. Same for two men. I wouldn’t expect a woman to jump in the middle except in very specific circumstances.

@bp6877 Год назад

Nico is a hero: Not only is he raising his own kid, but he's also raising someone else's; not many would sign up for that! As for the "cat fight," operators have a motto: Deescalate, escape, and evade. Here, de-escalation failed, so the next step was to escape (not fight). Ideally, the fight you can evade is best: That's why Jocko said he'd cross the street. Counter intuitive, but wise.

@lorainec1435 Год назад

I kinda agree there are levels… sexual abuse is by far more horrific than yelling, even hitting, etc….. I think how hard it can be to heal depends on how bad it is.

@GoldBerryTarot Год назад

Sounds like a conversation he should have with her: Always say you love me but you Always make it all about you Especially when you've had a few, oh, oh, yeah All the things I heard from your ex Now they make a whole lot of sense Already feel bad for your next To have to put up with you, oh, yeah Worked on myself, opened my eyes You hate my friends, turns out they were right It takes two to make it all go right But with you, it's always my fault And your short fuse, just like a time bomb And I think you should take a second just to look at your reflection Baby, maybe you're the problem Okay, you, you see a pattern? Your point of view, got it all backwards You should take your little finger and just point it in the mirror Baby, maybe you're the problem You should take your little finger and just point it in the mirror Baby, maybe you're the problem Ego always doing the most Out of touch, not even close Drama always follows you home But I won't be waiting no more Worked on myself, opened my eyes You hate my friends, turns out they were right It takes two to make it all go right But with you, it's always my fault And your short fuse, just like a time bomb And I think you should take a second just to look at your reflection Baby, maybe you're the problem Okay, you, you see a pattern? Your point of view, got it all backwards You should take your little finger and just point it in the mirror Baby, maybe you're the problem You should take your little finger and just point it in the mirror Baby, maybe you're the problem It's not me, it's you It's not me, it's you It's not me, it's you, ooh But with you, it's always my fault And your short fuse, just like a time bomb And I think you should take a second just to look at your reflection Baby, maybe you're the problem Okay, you, you see a pattern? Your point of view, got it all backwards You should take your little finger and just point it in the mirror Baby, maybe you're the problem You should take your little finger and just point it in the mirror Baby, maybe you're the problem Source: LyricFind Songwriters: Abraham Daniel Dertner / Amanda Koci / Henry Russell Walter / Jonas Jeberg / Marcus Durand Lomax / Sean Maxwell Douglas Maybe You’re The Problem lyrics © Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd., Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Universal Music Publishing Group, Warner Chappell Music, Inc

@amyteurlife9408 8 месяцев назад

Old women don't hold back especially when it comes to young healthy women using the handicap bathroom.

@AshleyLebedev Год назад

I feel for this guy. As a woman I found the issue he thinks is wrong, why he called, interesting - because as a woman who is just about to turn 40, I’ve never asked a man to protect me from a woman. However I have asked a fiancé to protect me against a gang of men on a train once and when he didn’t do anything except let them berate us as he started to shut down and check out I actually do remember loving him less and it never came back on again. You can verbally be in ‘her corner’ but mostly just get out of the drama and support her. I wonder if more to this story like woman doesn’t feel safe in general or supported in general so this is like a tipping point for her when she doesn’t feel supported or backed in scenarios she feels unsafe but he also feels unsafe. Had many boyfriends and I can’t think of a time it was a make or break with my partners to have them defend me to a woman, but I suppose it depends … perhaps some situation exists that you should but only if it’s physically risking her life or body, not verbally, verbally AND IF SHE’S participating get out of there. As a woman myself though true women should walk away, unless it’s extenuating circumstances. I’ve always just walked away from drama. Why was she pregnant having a fight at a public gas station? If you want to defend your wife, just GET OUT OF THERE and tell her you’re proud of how strong she is and hug or hold her letting her know you see her strength. I suspect you are a person who shuts down from youth and she’s probably one who stayed to fight. That’s what she should also want is to de escalate drama, not escalate it unless it’s truly important. I have had only a few times (maybe 3) in my entire life where I was in danger from a woman and mostly as a smart adult you just get out of there. As adults who are physically healthy, and not children, staying in drama becomes a choice. Word to the wise: make sure your wife isn’t a reboot of your stepmom. And if she’s a wonderful woman and not a reboot of his step mom who can boss him around and abuse him just verbally, if she’s an awesome wife, then just back her up by supporting her verbally after. If she’s part of the problem, time to stand up to the reboot and tell her maybe she’s the woman who has to stay and fight as a girl to survive while you did the opposite for the exact same reasons.

@BG-nm5xt Год назад

This makes me wonder very much about the wife arguing with people which is a separate issue and Dr. John should ask about this, some examples of the wife getting into arguments.

@BG-nm5xt Год назад

In the park, the wife had something to do with rhe argument, and sounds like she yelled at the boy, so the father started yelling at her.

@Maath316 Год назад

Sounds like my childhood . Best thing you can do brother is to raise your kiddo well and change the future.

@CrystalM1917 Год назад

I think she wants him to take charge without being violent/defending her when she is unable to do so. But she first needs to put her big girl panties on and learn self control and avoid confrontation in the first place and then if confrontation does happen, remain calm and keep a rational approach and lower tone of voice when she is in am uncomfortable interaction..like with the nurse for instance when you can't actually leave the situation. She needs to also take under consideration that she is putting her husband in a precarious position expecting him to stand between her and another woman regardless of his good intentions....the other woman doesn't know that, she just sees a man.

@kellylott9296 2 месяца назад

I do not agree with his wife saying he ought to confront other women she fights with. Ridiculous. Props and respect to this man for calling and asking for help. He *IS* helping her by telling her she needs to calm down! Sounds like she needs to hear that! There is something abour a cruel woman that can habe a lasting impact. I only experienced extreme female cruelty with a teacher. I cant imagine being a child and forced to live within such abuse 💔

@karenKristal Год назад

I think that example he gave was just an example of an incident. I think its more likely that the wife is frustrated with a general feeling of him not stepping up - like maybe not helping to make decisions and not acting interested in the management of the household etc. I think its understandable though if hes had this history of trauma. Hes probably attracted to feisty women too which doesnt help

@XP3228RANDOM Год назад

“Nico it’s your cousin why don’t you take me bowling.” 😂 if you know the song.

@France149 9 месяцев назад

No worries 😊

@Zer0Burn4r Год назад

Zoom out bro. All these confrontations??? Says something right there. Fix it.

@Giannina-LoveThemAll 3 месяца назад

Helping to defuse a situation and scolding your partner publicly is what seems to be the issue. Correct in private. No woman wants to be scolded by her man in front of another woman she's arguing with or feeling attacked by.

@drvren030 Год назад

Not gonna lie, i think the communication here between him and his wife is just terrible. I feel like the situation he had with his stepmom, he dug himself back into the same situation with his wife. And then she got pregnant, and he didn't really seem like he knew anything about how difficult that time is for her, and that can cause her to be emotional and irrational. Looks like she didn't let him in on any of that. She definitely should not be in public unless she can handle it, and a gas station bathroom is a terrible environment for a pregnant woman. I do feel bad for her when she argued with that old lady when she was pregnant, it's easy for John to say "just say this this this, and boom, end of confrontation she didn't have to waste her time" but at that time she can't always be expected to act poised and act and behave and speak smartly, especially when the old lady is complaining about her taking a little extra time in the bathroom. I guess Nico could have been the smarter one in that situation on her behalf and just drag her away. First off, doesn't an OLD LADY know and understand that she's pregnant and just let it go? She started it, the old lady is being a Karen here if you ask me. In this case, i can see why she felt unsafe a bit, and he definitely should have just dragged her away and told the old lady something like "let it go, can't you realize shes pregnant". Nothing more. but then AFTER that, when she had the argument and yelling with the nurse, now THAT was uncalled for. That's just an anger outburst for no reason.