I Have No Help With the Bills 

99% of them are never happy!

But him expecting her to support him is disrespectful!

Exactly. She was his retirement plan and he’s irresponsible and unemployed

He.lives off her. How is that nice?

She signed up for it lmao. She didn't care about him being B R O K E because he was sweet to her, I bet he still is. Broke men give long hugs lmao@@jeanniesabol5410

Exactly......I agree with you 100%. Where is HIS money going. He is bringing in 2 income sources, where does his money get deposited? Interesting that he is such a Christian man but he sure is comfortable letting her pay for everything. I don't care how nice he is to her......she is getting used by him. Nice to have a retirement you didn't work for take care of you. (We aren't talking about husband/wife and years of marriage and she stayed home to raise the kids while he worked. Totally traditional). I think he found a nice set up woman to take care of his butt and he likes it. Why not be nice when the other person pays !

She made him sign a pre-nuptial agreement so he does not have access to her money, but yet she wants him to give her $1,000.00 per month to put in her account. what is wrong with her? He should be able to keep his money separate since she wants to keep her money separate. She started this. Why did she marry him?

Agreed. They should have asked more questions rather than jumping to a conclusion.

@@janofokc I found me a nice little lady to take care of me and provide for me and pay for me and I don't have to do anything ! Yup, that's a good little retirement for me. Sign prenup for her and do what I want with mine. No problem, be nice, be polite. Nothing like Christian hypocrisy.......she should not have to ask. He should offer ! Oh, gosh honey, a steak dinner sure would be nice......you pay. Sorry but man up !

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Bingo!! 🎯🎯🎯💯💯 She knew who he was from the beginning but she's so desperate to get married and have a husband that she's willing to pay everything for him just so he'll marry her. The fault is 100% on her for allowing it.

He's probably lazy and a moocher. But he's so nice that that was enough for her. Now that she feels filled up emotionally, nice is no longer enough. She's looking to jump ship, perhaps to a more accomplished but less personable man, with whom she will be equally unsatisfied but for a different reason.

@@cisium1184 She's 60 and still hasn't learn, I doubt she'll start now. She'll continue to go for the guy that made her feel good and tingly.

@@terriesmith2616 At that age I think the tingle is just from bad circulation.

@@cisium1184 LMAO 🤣😂🤣🤣

Exactly

Yes! And as a divorced woman in her 60's, good luck finding a guy who will treat her well and be nice to her. She jumped into a marriage so she would not be alone. Now she is unhappy once again. Some people are never satisfied.

@@KENTUCKYUSA1 Only 99% of women are not happy, the rest are just content.

@@KENTUCKYUSA1 it’s a shame you think that women who are divorced or older, are no longer eligible for a man that treats them well and provides for them. He’s taking advantage of her.

@@drrush3421 Did you ever stop and think that maybe the problem isn't just him? Maybe it is her too?

@@alinatamashevich3354 I largely agree with your comment. The only bone of contention I have is when you said "the rest are just content". I think that what you ACTUALLY meant to say was "the rest are just DIScontent".

Exactly my thought

Lol yup

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

Also, she doesnt care about his money.....but give me your money lol

First she was complaining that she had to pay for everything then later she switch up that its not about the money its about respect. Im confused 😂😂😂

Us men are simple, straightforward, literal minded creatures. We need CLEAR info, in BIG, BOLD, BLOCK PRINT!!! We are NOT mind readers! Please don't be angry because we aren't!!!

Naw. This guy knew exactly what he was doing and he moved right in with the scheme. I've SEEN this happen with three different women friends of mine. Bottom line, it IS ultimately HER fault because she was not using her head. HE was fifty eight and in her words, broke, when they got married but "he treated me so well and respectful and he was a Godly man". WHY would you even ENTERTAIN marrying someone on the totally polar opposite side of the financial spectrum that you? Recipe for disaster and I'm NOT talking about personal wealth, but personal conduct and pitching in, even if it's not a lot. I've SEEN this too many times. If anyone is fifty eight, broke, and looking to take SS early and has NO retirement ............. RUN for the hills - DON'T marry the guy!!!!!!!!!!!! You're signing up for a sixty year old toddler who will very soon have health issues and then you'll go from being his mother to his nurse. Now she's "afraid to confront" him and dude's happily sitting around paying for nothing because SHE trained him to do that. A GROWN man - IN HIS FIFTIES at the time - dating a woman and she's paying for everything?????? This guy saw her coming a mile and a half away and unfortunately, other than divorce, she's stuck with this LOSER. He searched and searched for a lonely, well off woman who had a horrible marriage and divorce who was emotionally down and very much damaged and hurt - to "charm" ..... and it worked. I literally know three women who went through this and they all ended up divorcing the guys WELL within a year because they were all middle aged bums who just used women and wanted to sit home and do NOTHING to enhance any type of their lives. I even tried to warn the one friend of mine because I could see this "player" she was engrossed with was a fraud, but nope. He was a "reverend" and preacher and a man of God and had his own podcast each Sunday night. He was a bum who just wanted to lay up in HER house and spend her money. Nope. This lady needs to kick this clown to the curb. Not because he's broke, but because he's not a man as NO MAN would allow his wife to take care of everything, regardless of each other's incomes.

I'm glad John called out-- this isn't a money issue.

No Sugar Babies?

So he should have stuck with a woman who had nothing.

So you won’t be a boy toy?

It’s okay for a woman to be the gold digger but it’s a problem when a man is I guess.

​@@mikezerker6925no one likes gold diggers. Only lonely people do. She is lonely.

Me too.

Me too.

I'm shocked Dr John didn't ask if she's safe right now. 😅

That's a given that he needs to work.

Because it's not a money issue she's scared to confront her husband

I agree.

This is called the bait and switch.

The part of her brain that is hardwired for hypergamy, the desire for a mate higher up in status hierarchies, is causing feelings of disgust every time she has to pull out her credit card and pay for dinner.

@@alberttang6955 As it should be.

Right??

He signed her prenup.

She’s not attracted to him. She married him because it was something to do. Now realizes it wasn’t worth it.

She’s angry because she hit the wall long before her hypergamy could secure the man she thought she deserved. Nothing this man can do short of winning the lottery to ever gain her respect.

@@tonytoni1150bingo.

Men tend to have their self-worth wrapped up in how much money they make and in how women respond to them and would be a lot happier if they worked on developing true self-esteem.

No. You keep spouting that because you listen to too much incel stuff. Why would you listen to advise about relationships from men unsuccessful in relationships? You live in Bittertown.

He made her feel good. That was her only expectation of him when they got married.

She already set the pattern of how their relationship was going to be from the beginning, she pays for everything. But now she wants to change the rules. Too late, lady. If the gender were reversed, this call wouldn't even happen.

@@terriesmith2616I agree except for if her financial situation changed which she said it hasn’t. I have heard a call where a man wanted his wife to go back to work after she finished home schooling all their kids but she didn’t want to.

I see inheritance as being a good steward and passing on to future generations. It shouldn't have anything to do with monthly budgeting/spending. The issue is that she wasn't clear in her expectations.

She puts in the majority and that is fine but he could put in 80% of his social security into the joint account. How does a grown man think it is okay to not contribute to the household. WHY SHOULD HE GET TO BLOW HIS ENTIRE SS PAYMENT AND NOT CONTRIBUTE TO PROPERTY TAXES, GROCERIES, UTILITIES. AND ENTERTAINMENT

@wisdom she might have cared for them in their old age. He's not entitled to any of it. It's her family not his.

It sounds like he’s not chipping in at all- or very little.

@@eileenwatt8283 they’re married. Thats literally how marriage works. We become one and all of mine becomes all of yours. If that was the mindset they should’ve never gotten married

In most instances the woman is taking on the role of child rearing and they both agree to a stay at home arrangement for a limited time so they both benefit from child care savings. Caring full time for children is considered an equitable contribution to the household.

Most men aren't sole breadwinners. I don't know any men who are sole breadwinners and in most marriages both people are contributing to the household financially.

Some women will complain they make 75% for the same job a man does, but also don’t respect a guy that doesn’t make at least 50% more than them. It’s a bit of a paradox

@@drtij_dzienz Then a business owner would be smart to hire all women and save 25% on payroll.

@@alinatamashevich3354 definitely, lots of PR, fashion, media, and social work firms are kept afloat by low-paid young women

And she will resent every single penny of her money that is spent on “our” things

Legally speaking, inheritances aren't usually considered community property

She is roasting him on national news.

She said she is explicitly asking him to pay for stuff and he isn't. He's a bum

He needs to go, no run, she is not worth the lousy life she offers , he is better off poor and free of her.

"I wanna rewrite the rules, I guess" -Caller Sounds like this guy married Darth Vader. She is ready to alter the deal lol. He should pray she doesn't alter it any further after this. If I were to marry someone who makes significantly less money than I do and we both make it to retirement I'm not going to go out of my way to disparage them having low income. You can't unbake that apple pie.

Is he? It sounds like she keeps her mouth shut and doesn't bother him. He's probably cool with the situation. @@garys8415

Exactly, say he makes $2,000 he needs to put $1500 of that in a joint account for daily expenses.

In most instances the woman is taking on the role of child rearing and they both agree to a stay at home arrangement for a limited time so they both benefit from child care savings. Caring full time for children is considered an equitable contribution to the household.

@@Babydoll-gf6cm please. The caller is a 60 year old bag.

⁠@@Babydoll-gf6cmthey are retired. No kids to rear. Equal rights!!!!

In most marriages men are definitely not providing 100%. Where do you guys come up with these myths? Look at the research.

@@RepentImmediatelyyour clearly not married if u had to go do your research I’ve been married multiple times I try to put money a side and women come along and spend without think about the repercussions just rember that most men build and women act like kids at the toy store

She was thinking with her Little Karen.

You certainly are a richard​@@shirtlesslager

She is the villain

I wouldnt say she is a villian. She can't help that she doesn't want a guy who is a total loser. She tried to force something that is not natural and it didn't work for her. Maybe she should say something to him but not doing so doesn't really make her a villian. Maybe a coward.

@@RobertoLopez-ew6lycoward exactly. She wanted her cake and eat it too. Didn’t want to end up lonely with no one but money in the picture wants to protect herself prenup.

A bit simplistic. But both need to contribute. What they contribute my be diffrent & it is not all about money

Juicer doesn't fully juice the carrots shoved into me.

She bought her second husband and now buyers remorse

That’s exactly right.

You get it

We have a visceral need for a man to take care of us, however modest the means might be. A woman with $100 billion can use it for extras and upgrades, and will be happy if the man provides the basic necessities. This is the basic idea.

Dumbest comment section ever

Right? It would be expected.

You know it! If the gender were reversed, Dave and Baloney would totally say that's how it's supposed to be.

Because that’s the traditional way it goes. Men provide, women support.

i agree with Dr. John on 90% of things, but I really wish he would encourage prenups. That way, people can structure out their finances and protect themselves, especially against someone who racks up losses.

This woman had a prenup. Didn't really make anything any better if you ask me. @@williamjohn8633

He "spent every penny you have" what does that mean?!?!?! Lol did u allow it? If so thats your issue not his and if not he robbed you and u should have pressed charges. Take responsibility for enabling for petes sake.

When you are married, and his name is on the checkbook, savings ... everything, ... he was a gold digger and loved to spend money as fast as he got his hands on it. When you are married, BOTH have rights to marital assets. @@NatalieS-kh3ck

Wow what a way to honor your husband.

She is sharing her wealth with him. She wants him to contribute. He has an income. What's the problem.

@@RepentImmediately I can guarantee you he's not spending his income on just himself. It's outrageous to me that she's sitting on her pile of cash and throwing him scraps. They're married, her inheritance should be THEIRS, not just HERS. She has caused this situation by keeping all the money for herself. She should tear up the prenup if she really loves him, but I get the feeling she loves the money more.

⁠@@rickenbacker472I guess you don’t know the law in most states when it comes to inheritance. Typically it’s considered separate and not subject to division in a divorce. My grandfather inherited land from his parents which he sold. He gave his wife my grandmother none of it nor was he obligated to. Also at the time these people were married, the wife hadn’t received the inheritance. She said she had the prenup drawn up in anticipation of an inheritance.

@@devra5186 Well, if my wife refused to combine finances I'd feel entitled to walk away.

She chose to married a beta, she’s better staying with the guy and working something out. Because if she divorces him (like most women do) her SMV will be diminished and men notice that

He snowed her.

Ummm ummm

😂😂 FOR REAL!

That's why the husband is not taking her seriously.

She's still talking.

Already

Lol right😂

Exactly

Dave and the team have caught on to these women. 😂 👏

Yea and you could see in their eyes how much it hurt them. It was too cut and dry that the woman was wrong but even these two simps couldn't bring themselves to blame the man

@@yourgooglemeister6745 Nice picture. I still remember the whale who called herself a 10 on the whatever podcast. Almost died laughing.

John took control on this one, Dave definitely would have took her side more if John hadn't spoken up first

Careful Asa, you’re about to choke on that Red Pill! 😂

You can’t make this shit up! Godfather signing off

Good decent men are fine to spend time with but marriage is pointless.

What is he a kid? She was paying her bills fine before he showed up😊

Too generous????? She kept her inheritance all to herself and wrote a prenup so she wouldn't have to share it with him - her husband. He should run.

Running would solidify the prenup being a good idea 😂

@@rickenbacker472 No man should touch - or worse run off with - one dime of the hard-earned money her parents left her.

Bingo! 🎯🎯

Funny thing is, I think I watched a Ramsey clip like that yesterday. Everyone grilled him.

It's not the woman's job to provide money nor security. It's the man's. You need to up yourself to work harder to support many people besides yourself so she can move in

@@timothygibney159 Ok, simp.

@@terriesmith2616 ok, incel

How convenient for him! He had nothing, but all he had to do was be “nice” to a lonely woman and now he gets to fully benefit from everything she has accumulated in 60 years! She better keep things separate or she might come home to an empty house and bank account one day

@@Babydoll-gf6cm Then she didn't do her due diligence when it comes to picking her life partner. People are way too quick getting married. You would think one of the first things you do when vetting a spouse is seeing personally if they are responsible with money. She said they've been married for a couple of years and have a joint account but didn't say he runs through that money. Chances are he wouldn't if the combined all their income.

@@josh-ed7je I agree she shouldn’t have married this man. Most likely she was manipulated and love bombed because he knew she has deep pockets. In terms of the joint account that he hasn’t contributed to… he may not have wiped her out thus far but he is still benefiting by living for FREE ! As a man he should be embarrassed to be kept by a woman. She is already in a bad situation, why make things worse by giving him even more access to her money?

@@Babydoll-gf6cm Because as long as she continues to look at it as HER money not THEIRS then she's never going to respect him and will go down the path of being twice divorced. He could put his entire social security into that joint account but as long as she think in terms of mines and his she will never feel like he's contributing enough.

@@josh-ed7je this is just a bad match and as such, the dynamics are playing out this way. She is forced into a masculine role and the resentment will continue to build. She should have married her financial equal or just stayed single and enjoy his company in a dating situation

Really? That’s pathetic.

@@hiddenhand6973 losing someone’s respect is like death to a relationship or acquaintance. Think about it. If you lose respect for someone at work or in your family do you see that person the same after that?

Same quote as Tony Robbins... "In life, we don't get what we deserve, we get what we are willing to tolerate" .

@@terriesmith2616 I love that

Agree 100%

I would agree with that but in modern day society feminism has completely removed the expectation for the women to be in the feminine “nurturing” role in the family, and so I would think that the man should be exempt from needing to be in the provider role

If they divorce, his Social Security checks will continue to roll in every month.

@@genxx2724 obviously, after he has paid into a failing venture for years. He will never get that money back. Of course money is not the most important issue in the failure, But it is the subject at hand.

Not confusing. She gave no specifics on how he spent his social security benefits. She mainly spoke about going out to eat. 😂😂😂😂😂 People are literally avoiding the main part to spin a narrative. It's HILARIOUS.

@@Mr.Boring_Man What "main part"? You seem to have somehow divined what the "main part" is, when the caller doesn't even seem to know. Ramsey and the other guy are probably not analyzing the problem correctly, but they're grasping at a straw because she's given them almost nothing to work with.

Right! I can't even find someone to like in 7 years😅

Why? So he can have full access to take even more advantage of this woman? He hasn’t put anything in the joint account they currently have!

She said he gets 2k per month in social security. What does he do with it?

That would be self-immolation.

Not sure what difference that would make. Its not like people aren't still keeping score who put in what

I wouldn’t say he doesn’t care about her money but may not care about it beyond him being able to live comfortably. As in fed, warm, and housed. He had to have been paying bills before they moved in together. When he moved in is when she should have asked him to help with utilities or food or whatever or forever held her peace.

According to the Social Security site, "if you’re under full retirement age (in 2024), the annual earnings limit is $22,320. Starting with the month you reach full retirement age, there is no limit on how much you can earn and still receive your benefits."

@@BIBuildy Proverbs 21:9 - 'Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife. ' Anywhere is better than living under a roof and getting disrespected

If I made $30k/month, I'd tell my spouse to do whatever she wants.

If she's so unhappy living like a pauper, why doesn't she leave? She must love it if she continues to tolerate it. She'll get what she's willing to tolerate.

@@terriesmith2616 He gave her $500K to hit the road, she took it. He got an 18 yr old Sugar Baby.

@@SRTBOAT I'd be the exact same way and I'm not going to question how much money you spent and where as at that point I don't care as long as my spouse didn't start spending so much as they are going into debt or asking me for money then I'd step in and start asking questions.

I make $25K/month and my wife makes 3.5K/month. We direct deposit all of our money into the same account. It doesn't matter where it came from. It's what life partners should do. However, we both started off together with nothing. I would be hesitant to combine _everything_ if I started off with millions and married someone with nothing, but I would combine all post-marital earnings (wages, social security, pension, and even investment gains) together.

Is it using her if she enjoys spending time with him and being with him?

He's not using her. She's allowing herself to be used. That's the difference. She set this pattern of paying everything for him since the beginning of their relationship and she knew he was poor, so what did she expect. She knew that going in. She's allowing it.

They are married. So her retirement, is his retirement.

@@terriesmith2616 but she’s not enjoying spending time with him with no financial assistance thus her call.

@@bnorvs5929 but she’s not enjoying spending time with him with no financial assistance thus her call.

@@11B_RTO They are, but will never admit it. The only way to protect yourself is to exploit them and never give in. Whatever $ you lost on females was on you man.

Good morning hope your day goes well and have a blessed day . ❤

The man provides sooo, yeah. The women cook and do a majority of the cleaning and child care. If a man doesn’t do his part, that upsets people and rightfully so.

@@hiddenhand6973we don’t know if the man isn’t contributing in non financial aspects he could very well be, plus with modern day feminism saying that women shouldn’t be burdened with the “nurturing” role in the family, I think men accordingly should not be burdened with the “provider” role either

Modern day feminism doesn’t speak for all women. Nice try though.@@TowKneeChee

Interesting, but that is not how social security survivor benefits work. The rules for SS survivor benefits supercede any prenuptial. And that's a good observation that he may be saving his SS check for his own future, since evidently he can't get to any of her money. In fact, this would be very wise of him!

​@@DoctorSmartyPantswiseness would have been not retiring early.

Good, she’d be better off! Why should she fully support a grown man who doesn’t contribute anything financially? She shouldn’t have to beg him to contribute to a living situation that he is benefiting from! I do blame her for allowing things to get this far out of hand though.

@@Babydoll-gf6cmWhy should a man have to support a fully grown woman? It's funny how when the roles are reversed it's fine. Heaven forbid a woman be the breadwinner for once right?

@@TheFlyingZulu In most instances the woman is taking on the role of child rearing and they both agree to a stay at home arrangement for a limited time so they both benefit from child care savings. Caring full time for children is considered an equitable contribution to the household.

I'll explain, we are both retired, I pay for everything. We both have pensions. We both end up with ~$1500/mo pocket money. Combining finances is for Building Wealth. once you're done and just living, Why?

@@aolvaar8792 Then why get married at all?

@@josh-ed7je That is the perpetual question, in every potential marriage situation. Why involve the government in your relationships?

@@josh-ed7je The pensions are Fully survivorable to a SPOUSE. A spouse gets Free Lifetime Family Healthcare. Community Property Title only applies to Married couple. Double step-up in basis.

@@shirtlesslager You and your GF go to the town square on Saturday morning and stand on the marriage block. You both introduce yourselves as Married. Done, you're married Gubment?