I absolutely loved this message. We will never have it figured out and the more embrace that and celebrate it as learning opportunity, the easier it is to get unstuck. The beginner's mindset also allows us to just focus on exploration instead of expectation of perfection.
I once heard this valuable bit of advice that has helped me get this far through my 20s: “Your 20s are not for finding your footing, so much as they are for learning how to survive not being able to.”
dont want to be a downer, but: if it keeps going at this rate - every new decade my be simply another 10 years of trying to figure out how to survive...
Wow this is a great quote! I'm 29 and it's definitely been a decade of figuring things out and learning to pick myself back up again when things don't go as planned. the 20's is a great time to develop resilience.
i'm leaving my 20s now, and i still remember this "lost" feeling i have during my early 20s. but hang in there everyone, you will find your path. anyway, you just earned a sub. keep making great stuff my man.
I actually feel embarrassed whenever my friends and former classmates call to hang out coz there was once when they were all talking about their careers and then the spotlight was on me and I was like "hey im just at home u know like cleaning and cooking ha ha 😅" like wtf.. they all sound professionals and here i am still living under my parents wings(im 23 btw). So whenever they call to hang out I just simply make excuses coz im so embarrassed about having achieved nothing compared to them 😞
Im 22 years old, and I still live with my parents. Never compare yourself to others. Find your path, with the stuff you like and what you wanted to do. I'm still figuring mine out.
This is me currently. When the pandemic hit, my anxiety got worse and it was the perfect (and by that, i mean the worst) time for me to realize that I didnt like my career path anymore. No job, no goals. All I can say is be kind to yourself, we'll all get to a place of contentment one day.
I turn 29 in 2 days. This really hit me because I thought I had a clear path to my dream job but that clarity has completely shattered by realistic standards. My definition of dream job turned out to be: what you are able to tolerate without being drained and being alone is ABSOLUTELY the best time ever.
There are jobs where you can live out in the forest alone and take care of certain things in a national park. All it takes is complete solitude for a very long time. We need these people.
I turn 25 in 8 days... still figuring it out. I feel behind compared to old friends but I'm working on myself. I know what I want to some extent, but I have let social anxiety control my life since I was a young teen, living most of it in fear of what might happen or what others think. I think I'm finally finding the courage within myself to seek treatment. Because if I don't I may remain stuck...
Here is some advise that will help anyone feeling this way. Go and get a warehouse job...or work on an oil rig or something blue collar before working at a white collar. Believe me...this will help you a lot to find yourself in life...The job itself is gonna probably suck...but the people you meet at these blue collar jobs are real men and real women...they aren't the "fake smiles" you see at a white collar jobs, and after reading below, you'll see why this will inherently give you an advantage over other societal slaves. You'll eventually realize that the people working blue collar jobs are real men and real women that are just adult sized children...and in fact that's the ideal human being...confident in speaking to others without the ego blocking them, they have families with kids to support so they understand responsibilities, and you will eventually emulate their behavior by being around them. You need this skill (confidence in interaction) because in school you are taught how to be a politically correct slave, and that actually messes with the structure of your brain...it leads to anxiety and existential suicidal thoughts, like thinking that you are a fake, or that everyone around you is a fake, or that you are competing for fake life points. In addition to that: Stop lying. Be honest 100% of the time. Lying to other people messes with the anxiety build up in your brain...when that anxiety gets high enough it will borrow energy and structure from other parts of the brain in order to maintain the consistency of the string of lies you've told to people...and this is where you start losing the ability to talk, you lose the ability to empathize and to listen and to properly react. You become a goofy shlub. So it's really simple...stop lying to other people...stop hiding things from your family...stop lying to yourself...start telling the truth to yourself and start telling the truth to other people. When you do this, your brain will have more energy to dedicate toward your sensible emotions, and behaviors. If you need to have a little alcoholic drink before going outside...go and do that if it means you are going to more easily talk to other people and tell them truths rather than maintaining lies. Once you do the above, you'll basically overcome the one thing that is ACTUALLY stopping you in your life...which is your own brain. The brain is this funny thing where it is in control of you but it conforms to what you tell it to do. You feel depressed? It will mold itself to make you feel more depressed. You feel happy? It will mold itself to feel more happy. Why does that happen? It's because of this thing called Feedback Loops. The only way to control your life is to take advantage of this molding of the brain in a positive direction.
So true! I've worked in corporate and in warehouses and I much prefer working in warehousing! Not so much the job but the people were just so much better which actually made doing the job more bearable. Working in corporate just made me hate people. So fake, phony because they were behind a desk. I'm glad I'm working from home now so I don't have to deal with all that BS!
Ive worked at a tire shop since I was 16, I turn 22 in a few weeks now. This is so true didn’t know how I didn’t learn about it sooner. Almost never any real malicious problems or fake smiles with me and my coworkers, and half of them are double my age. Still being a child at heart with the discipline of an adult is the end goal I think. It’s depressing to think about with how much magic and wonder children experience life in, I’ll be there again eventually I know it
@@Phil-fy2rl Yeah I make about 170k a year. It's stressful work, and while it sounds like a lot of money to most people, im still a prisoner to the corporate machine.
@@boot-strapper it might not be the best place to have a long discussion, 😅 But you should probably start stockpiling up funds or something for now. Invest? Entrepreneurship? Develop some income streams? Meet a therapist? You’ll probably want to think about leaving your job if you feel dissatisfaction. If your on contract and can’t leave, then develop a hobby, or develop important relationships, meet an old friend, have a group or club, or volunteer. Figure out what to do so that if you decide to leave, then you’ll be ok after. The options are E N D L E S S S S!!!😇 There was a video named “things I wish I knew when I was 20” that had an important list to remember. 1. Meet your needs 2. Be grateful 3. Be successful From that video, I believe some people try to reverse steps 2 and 3. (It doesn’t work actually) Anyway, I prob said a lot, but remember you have options. It’ll just take some planning + risk + sacrifice + money + effort + adaptive ness = ???
I'm in my 40s now, unemployed, trying to figure out what to do with my life and to all the 40 somethings out there: it's okay to feel lost. don't worry . you will find your way. study hard, apply for scholarships, don't miss out on medical check ups, the biopsy will come negative, trust me, your ex wife will come back some day, don't worry about that, and you will get a good job at 50, just relax
@@blacklyfe5543 not at all. long careers at medium or big companies are gone. lot of middle age people are getting fired everyday and they need to eat, you know.
@sapitron yeah I get it, but you're 40, my guy. I'm 24, so I'm like like 16 years younger than you. If your lost at 30 or 40 that is scary because by than you were or are supposed to been have your life figured out or together unlike most people I been knew what o wanted to do with my life I just feel stuck not lost there's a difference. I should be looking at older people like what they wanna do with there life for wisdom not about being lost that's crazy to me if I were your age I would probably be rich by now or at least on my way to become rich.
@@blacklyfe5543 Can you elaborate more about you feeling "stuck"? I'm interested in what you mean by that as it could help others who feel the same way. Also, how do you think you'd be rich or on your way to become rich in your 30s and 40s?
I’m just turned 23. I left my soul-draining job and is unemployed now for a month. I don’t know what to do but all I know is what I don’t want to do. I feel so lost but somehow I know in myself that I will make this through. Thanks for your content! ps: thriving at my new job now 💕
Honestly, Friends and How I Met Your Mother gave me false expectations on how friendship works, who the hell actually go drink at a coffee shop or a pub every single day?
As a fellow 23 year old, I view the 20s as the "wandering years" versus being "lost". Life is a big journey, sometimes without a map, but we will all arrive at a final destination!
This is real talk!! I graduated during the height of the pandemic and just turned 24 last month. I thought my ambition would carry me through anything, but I've felt terribly lost and lonely in this phase of life. I decided to take 2 months off, had an amazing travel experience, and got inspired to start this channel, purely for enjoyment. Things are slowly, but steadily shaping up. I just found your videos today Sam, they're great.
This was the Video i needed right now. I'm now since February 20 years old, and i allways felt like i was behind.. everything. I never been to ''real'' party once, i didn't know what to study so i'm now in my second year of working in 2 jobs, feling guilty for 'hiding' from the questions where i want to be in my future. Just seeing my sis study hard and going on huge trips and stuff. Seeing how my now ex girlfriend can draw compered to me. That i'm not keeping my perfect health, sitting most of my time in front of a screen. Just feeling pointless, yeah even useless sometimes. But i never really considered looking at me. I've growen so, so much since i finished highschool. And that it may be okay to feel lost in my twentys, cause like... Everything is new. And we are just some lil creatures on a flying rock in space. :3 So thanks dude. Made my night ^w^
I am in my 20s. Finished a business degree. Focused years of my life getting good grades. Then, I graduated and only applies 5% of what I've learned working in a marketing firm. It sucks how the educational system works. There are so many interesting opportunities outside school that I could have ventured but too drained to allot my weekends for it. Now, I got more time in life and am learning other things to prepare for a career shift. But only after I secure that emergency fund. Thanks for this, Sam. Your voice is motivating and soothing, which hypes me up but also draws me to a deep state of relaxation. Wishing success to your channel
Ohhh you're so right about everything. I think that it is normal to feel lost in your 20s - in our century we have to deal not only with what our parents/grandparents had to deal with. Especially social media/career pressure/perfectionism of our generation can really make us feel worthless and make us compare to strangers on the internet 😔 So slowing down and having some introspection about your life is an amazing idea (even if that's hard to learn haha)
Having introspection as a routine is great but we gotta make sure we’re living life too :) it’s a new problem we’re facing but it’s pretty cool we get these years to grow and personally develop!!
Absolutely, I think it's quite normal to feel lost, especially having been taught the 'norms' of other generations that no longer apply to many of us today.
I feel you man. I'm 27 and all of my siblings have kids. Even my youngest brother and we are 5 years apart. I've been so focused on myself and with my career that I have just not had time to just go out and date. My social life is pretty much zero. I told myself once I get this promotion this year I'll hit my career goal where I'm comfortable to get in a relationship. I learned from my parents that rushing into something where you are not financially ready for is a mistake. Some days I'm lost when I see what things I'm missing out on. Other days I see the things I have and feel I made the right choices.
Focusing on your career isn’t necessarily a bad thing! Seems like you’ve been making something out of yourself, and that’ll help in the dating market ;) lmk when you find someone!
Reliable. I tried on a few dates, but nothing came to the spark. I've been focused on my creative career and stuck on dead-end jobs. (I need to switch to my dream job yet stable asap).
Subbed. I'm also in my 20s and approaching 30s very quickly. Feel like I've wasted my 20s but this video brought things into perspective. Its nothing new I didn't know about but what you said and explain things really brings things into perspective and reality. Thank you. Best of luck for those also in your 20s. We're all gonna make it!
Enjoyed this video. It’s interesting, at age 20-25 I thought I knew exactly where I wanted to go and then I got there and realized it didn’t fit the life I wanted for myself. Recently started my channel and struggle with what I want to do and now hitting 30 very soon, I feel more confused now than I did at 21. Learning to have the beginners mindset and not focus on the outcome but on the doing. Definitely not easy to do, but worth it! Thanks for sharing!
I just happened to come across this video completely by chance but it really was what i needed in this exact moment. Wow. I've been in semester break for past month and since there isn't uni to distract me I've been constantly overthinking and stressing my own self out by trying to figure out my future. I thought I was being smart in using this break to figure things out, but it's just been a downhill spiral just as you put it. This video is... relieving. really, thank you for sharing this!
i genuinely appreciate the relatability and reassurance you bring to students like me. as rising junior in undergrad and as a business student, i can't help but feel so shameful and so worthless whenever i see my peers getting internships at these huge companies and firms while i can't even manage to land some jobs on my own campus. i feel like i've honestly always been lost throughout my whole life but thank you so much for being open about it, much appreciated. subbed. :)
I'm about to graduate from business school and have never felt so strongly about quitting before. My passion lies in game development but I have realized that if I had to depend my income on my creative work, that I would lose my passion. So maybe working part time in business and having my own art related business is the best course of action for me. I don't know of that is sufficient enough to be able to live abroad (because that is still my ultimate goal) but I hope it works out. Good luck to you too! You've earned yourself a new subscriber
Have you considered getting a game development or software development related job?? It’s a tough decision to make, considering the time and money you’ve invested for business school, but if you really don’t like it, it’s not worth your time commitment and energy for the rest of your life.
@@astghiksahagian7132 Most of my interest in game design lays in Character design, Music production and writing story. I am currently making my own game to see if it's even possible for me to complete a small project. If it works out, and I'm able to make something playable (and actually finish the project), I might consider it. But you are right, as cheesy as it sounds, you only live once so you shouldn't waste it on stuff you don't like to do.
Hello! I'm also in my 20s, and stuck in the exact funk of not knowing what I'm going to do especially since the college graduation deadline is ticking nearer every day. Thank you for reminding me that hey, I'm just starting out so I shouldn't be harsh on myself for sucking the first time I try something new. Have a good day Sam, enjoy the new sub :D
I'm 26, 27 in October. I was an organizer leader of a group years ago - but I met a girl in the group who ended up ghosting me. When I was seeing her at the group before she ghosted me, each week I began changing my motivation for running the events; I began going because I wanted to see her. When she left I found myself not enjoying running the events anymore and eventually I got burnt out and stopped. It's taken me nearly 3 years to recover to the point where my motivations are in the right place and I'm feeling ready to take on running events again. This time if I meet someone I'm going to be very strict with them - when I'm running the event it's all business, but afterwards, then we can hang out - assuming I meet someone. But my intention in starting the events again isn't to meet someone; it's to have a good time and deliver a good service. When we think about doing things, we often have motivations for doing them - my advice is don't ignore your motivations, don't lie to yourself about the truth of your feelings. If you aren't doing something simply for the pleasure of doing it then you are setting yourself up for disappointment; if you start trying to learn to play the guitar for example because you want to attract a girl - what if you never do attract a girl with the guitar? You may start finding that you losing interest in playing the guitar. Our truest motivators lie in our past when we were a child and also the significant experiences we have in life. Part of the key to finding what you want to do in life revolves around understanding who you really are - you're true authentic self, stripped of all your insecurities. This version of yourself wants to feel safe first, then you want to help others feel safe. In essence, we want to make sure we are cared for first, then we seek to find a service we can deliver to our community to improve everyone's quality of life. You are looking for that service you can provide that you love to do simply because you enjoy doing it; you feel motivated to do it as it resonates with who you are and what you've experienced in life. Just know that life isn't about the end goal; life is the journey. Enjoy it whilst it lasts. x
Hey Sam! I am an incoming college student with many worries and uncertainties about college. While your videos are still helpful, it’d be really cool if you also made videos for 18-19 year olds to help guide us through our first steps into adulthood. Love your videos!
Congrats! College is lots of fun, and for me looking back on it, the most value I got was from networking and getting to know a web of people across the country more so than learning any hard life skills. I'd say on your own time start to focus on learning how to take good care of yourself and your health, manage your finances, and take the opportunity to try lots of good things!
Your message here is so good, and so relatable to a lot of 20 somethings. I remember the 'lost' feeling really well, because what I wanted really strayed from the traditional narrative of a company job, getting married, and so on. I ended up starting my first business right out of school, instead of hopping through jobs looking for what I wanted to do, and have never looked back. It might not be the answer for a lot of people, but I think traditional education doesn't teach us about entrepreneurship and it's actually a viable path for a lot more people.
Props for starting your business right out of school! You are so right: entrepreneurship isnt for everyone but its quite lucrative and a very valid path for people.
I'm glad I'm not the only one. I try not to think too much about the career I want in life. I just go with the flow. If I figure it out along the way, that's cool. But many times I go into a frenzy of worrying I'm on the wrong path
"Feeling lost" I used to feel and think that as negative. But doesn't have to be, it's fun not to know where you are going and just enjoy the journey. My videos topic being all over the place show that I don't really have a direction im going to yet. and it is fun experimenting for now. I Dont have it figured out. and it's OK.
Thank you for this video! Also 23, I started my career very early in my life. I was already a licensed nurse by 18. The government trusted me with dealing narcotics before they trusted me with drinking alcohol lol. Most people from that fact alone would see me as successful. However, fast forward 5 years and I’m so lost. I’ve been feeling a lot of pressure recently to figure it out already. But I just don’t even know what I want. I was really feeling down about it and then this video showed up in my recommended. This is the first time I’ve really smiled in the past 5 days. So… Thank you ❤️
@@swiggityswo9558 A career isn’t everything there is to life and within a career there are many decisions. Should you stay at your degree level or go for your Masters or Doctorate degree? What should you get your graduate degree in? Wait, do you even like your career? Is it too late to change career paths? When should I focus more on family vs career? etc. Having a career brings its’ own stress. It’s a different stress than living in poverty, but money doesn’t buy happiness (corny I know, but it’s true).
I always hate when people say "life is short" when its literally the longest thing you can experience. even if you only live one year (hopefully not) it may seem incredible short to others but to that person it was the longest thing they will ever experience. Rant over.
oh my gosh finally i find so many people going through the same thing as me. I've ask myself so many times "What should I do next after college?" or "What am I doing with my life?" etc. but i could never answer them and because I couldn't find a answer to these questions, it really caused a great deal of stressed. I found it so strange going through so many years of schooling and reaching the end of that and thrown in to the real world. I was so confused.
I found the same thing, I graduated into a field I didn't want to work in just because I had to study 'something'. I started a business just before graduating and it provided a tonne of purpose and direction during that time in my life. (and I just chose a random business too, wedding photography, not at all related to anything I had studied or been interested in thus far).
I thought my degree/credentials were enough to get me a good high paying job, but not being able to find one made me feel even more lost. Engineers and other professionals aren't paid well at all in my country, not to mention I didn't really have the interest. I'm at a dead end. Eventually chose to pursue music even if it's risky. I still don't know what exactly I'll do afterward or if I'll succeed but I'll take my chances, at least I have some side income right now. It's my passion and pretty much the only thing that excites me. EDIT: I still feel like shit though, seeing my peers having good jobs/businesses, earning more than me, seemingly having everything set and figured out
Just found your channel, love your videos! I can really relate to that "lost" feeling and finding this channel helped me feel less alone and even reassured that we'll all find our paths one day in the future. In a way we're already on our path, we just won't be able to know where it reaches until later on down the road. From another lost person in their 20s, thanks for the bright and insightful talks! :)
I turned 21 this year and I left my job and got married in May. I had a job ready for me at the end of May but that fell through. Luckily I had quite a bit saved up to live on while I have been looking for a job. So far have been turned down for everything that I have applied for. I have been having so much anxiety and I have been feeling so lost even though such a good thing happened to me this year. Keep going people.
I´m 2 months away from turning 19 years old and I feel like I haven´t the motivation to do the things I want and I always end sad or not doing anything because i end up feeling that I haven´t people supporting me, it´s hard to do a thing and don´t talk about it because I feel that my family thinks it´s not as important as university or studying. I love animation and drawing and I´m learning to draw, i´ve been watching a lot of this kind of videos and i´m thinking of making a video like this myself, but my english is not as fluent as yours and as soon as i think about doing it my motivation just drops, that happens with everything, any minor detail makes me don´t want to do the things that I need to do to grow. I think that life isn´t as hard as before but is much more complex with the internet, knowing what everyone is doing makes me want to work hard, but I end up watching and watching videos all day and then feeling bad about it. I don´t know what to do with my behavior or how to stay consistent and a lot of problems comes to my mind when i think about ANYTHING. But now i know time is limited and just isn´t enough to stop and question every single thing. Everything is just to hard when i think about it but ends up being easy when i just do it. It´s harder to think about doing something than just doing it.
Someone out there probably wants to make a video but is also afraid their English isn’t great. What if he/she saw someone else making videos who wasn’t fluent in English?? 😉
Not really. The average lifespan is still in the 70s, only a select few of us will live into the 90s. Unless we get some medical breakthroughs, the average human lifespan will not increase much in our lifetime.
Your not alone. And I'm twice your age. But I created this channel because I noticed how so many don't know or do but nothing current. And not community based.
Having had a delay in my education and graduating University at 25 and not knowing what the actual hell my life is supposed to be about, as friends find jobs that I can't seem to get despite knowing that I am a smart guy and some find romantic relationships and get married kinda hurts. I organized myself by going into entrepreneurship as I kept on applying for jobs. My business is struggling as I have much to learn in being a poutry farmer about anything. Along the way, I've landed a blue collar job has completely nothing to do with my profession. It's financed my business failures and helped finance the expansion... All in all, life could be better and I am hopeful. For better days. Hope everyone here finds what they want to do with their lives. it's a process and the vision can only get more clear, it matters more that we start something.
I am so glad I found your video through google searching “i feel incredibly lost in my 20s”. I am 22 and about to graduate soon and the thought of what do i do next besides apply for internships and starting a career scares me. It feels like you’re running out of time from not figuring out what you want to do with your life. Struggling to find a purpose and making decisions that affect your future is daunting. I hope one day I can make a video on youtube and inspire people about my early 20’s journey. I will also remember you and everybody in this community that felt this way too ❤
Hi I was wondering if you have made any progress with what you were struggling with a year ago. I'm interested in finding out about post grad life and navigating the struggles in your mid 20s. Thanks in advance for any update.
Hello Sam, I def feel the same way, I am only 20 and I don’t know what to do it feels like i am hitting my head against a wall everyday.... don’t know what career or thing to do...... I really enjoyed watching this vid! Keep it up (:
Omg I'm 21 and I have been feeling so lost recently. In high skl, I was an overachiever but ever since I was diagnosed with bipolar, things have just been going down hill for me in terms of academics. I dropped out of university last year cos my mental health was extremely bad and now I'm luckily somewhat recovering but haven't thought of what to do in my life since. Cos I used to think i would have things figured out by now, like be in a good relationship, have a cool job, and be financially independent but none of that has happened to me, instead I've been really suffering and feeling super lonely and stressed about being 'unsuccessful' But thanks, this video made me realise that when we our in our 20s we are still young, we shouldn't expect to have things all figured out just cos society now calls us 'adults' and instead we should work on challenging our limiting beliefs and doing our best to slowly discover what our passions are because we honestly do still have so much of life ahead of us. Nothing is ever as big of a disaster as we think it is, we just need to rewire our brain which tells us that and learn to think more openly without imposter syndrome or societal norms or ideas about what success looks like bring ourselves down Everyone's journey is different, aslong as we are doing are best to look after ourselves and keep our minds in check when we doubt ourselves, that's all we can do and we shouldn't need to stress or feel bad about ourselves no matter where we are in life
Definitely have felt this having started work this year and trying to finish the CPA exam. A lot of what you said stuck a chord with how I've started to see things over the past year. Overall, great video!
Don't worry dude, I'm already 31 and still living with my parents and working a factory job I m getting tired of. But I'm always looking for the beauty of life within many things like people, stories , academics and spirituality. The freedom of not expecting what is coming next is the best feeling one can experience because it is not predictable. I agree with everything you said and I know you have a good mindset towards a fulfilling life. I started a youtube channel too this year and I understand your points in creating videos. Positive Vibes to you and the days ahead of you =)
Sam, Great video. It clearly is striking a cord with many viewers. The beginners attitude is brilliant. Suspend your disbelief and go for it. What about a “dreamers attitude”. Dream what you would like the world to be, then pursue it. Think big. Ask what skills do I need to make this dream a reality. Put every skill you now have to the test. Let nothing stop you. That is what folks like the founders of this country did. That is what every entrepreneur does. That is what every good teacher who believes in students does. That is what you did with this site. You imagined a mode of expression to help yourself and others. I think dreaming, imagining a better future, is so important.
So glad you got to watch a video of mine, Judy! I love this 'dreamer's attitude' -- it's something I've had tucked in the back of mind that you were about to verbalize so well. It's really about breaking down what you think would you'd like your dream life/world to look like into tangible steps.
I really enjoy watching your videos. Your messages are simple and structured. I personally can relate to it. Thanks for spreading positivety. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK 👏
Hey, I was wondering if you have made any progress with feeling lost. I'm interested in learning from people about feelings of struggle and how or whether they've figured things out and what they did. Thanks in advance, any feedback would be appreciated.
This is such a relatable video wow. I've felt the negative pressure of trying to figure things out recently and this video is JUST what I needed. Glad I found your channel! :)
somehow bumped into your channel, incredible content and wisdom for someone your age, subbed for more! this is incredibly common and I am going through this exact feeling right now - know the dots will only align when you look backwards. good luck to all the lost souls out there
Hi Sam, I'm 30 and the sound you made at 3:39 describes me perfectly LOL Seriously though, your content is really great, super insightful, you're wise af. Cheering for your channel to blow up (you deserve way more than 18k subs-cmon viewers, click dat). Hope you're well!
@3:34 You said: "If I'm still feeling lost and confused in my 30s, then... oof." Oh man, it only gets more and more unclear with each passing year until it's all over. I think what changes is that you adjust to it and stop worrying about it. Honestly, you actually start to enjoy it the unpredictability. Why? Well, (at least for those of us on the higher end of the intelligence curve), everyday life (and even everyday pleasures) can start to become monotonous; It's easy to be bored. Middle-aged people have this reputation for being boring as a reflection of this fact that we're bored. The simple fact of the matter is that there are fewer and fewer things we haven't already done several times. Not knowing what we're going to do with our lives makes our lives a story where the next chapter is something worth anticipating.
For those who are nerd about productivity , I utterly recommend you guys to watch Ali abdaal on RU-vid . Really it's a life changing . Second , for those who wanna get depper at what he said in this video , read the book hatomic habits , in which talks about getting better every day and therefore will build up a massive thing . It's basically what he talked here but in a depper way . I pay you a dollar if you don't like the book and don't learn anything with it .
Been thinking about the 20´s being different for previous generations as well. People had of course more restrictions to what they could do before as in having to settle down much earlier. But those restriction also made life more predictable and less chaotic. Edit: Top that off with no such things like social media that invaded your life.
Hi Sam from Canada. Thank you for sharing your feelings and tips in this video. I can totally relate as I'm in my 20s now and was manifesting these anxious feelings since I first began post-secondary and now i've graduated for a few years and still learning to navigate life and try to be happy each day
Hello fellow Canadian! I'm nearing the end of my 20's and definitely still feel the anxiety as well. Looking back I realize some of my biggest regrets were times I played it safe, and my best moments and discoveries came from stepping out of my comfort zone. You've got this, enjoy the upcoming years :).
Funny how this video is relatable to most of us.....im 24, 25 in 3 months and I feel this and I'm in that space and phase I know my goal but not having my tools to do something is kinda putting me in a slump . Just finished my computer science and software engineering degree and waiting to graduate but my love for programming is not their unless I'm in like a class or environment with deadlines is only when I love to work idk but I love ai and machine learning more everyone else says I'm smart and have everything figured out and it's like they see that but I feel I'm failing myself
Hi! Great video. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I have always played soccer on a high level and now that I have quit, I lost purpose. We can feel so much pressure because of the need to "do something" with your life. However, we are probably always searching for who we are and what we want. There will not be one answer to what you should do, this will evolve. I just started my youtube channel to look for excitement and growth in the creation of content. Keep going Sam! Great content.
I feel this so hard! Life after a sport ends is so weird and disorienting. You used to have a goal and you knew how to get there. Now that it’s gone, you gotta learn to find goals outside of your sport and apply that same level of discipline and consistency to something you might not have ever done before, and that’s SCARY 🥶. Great comment, Lisa :)
Hey Lisa! I just started a youtube channel for a similar reason. It was time to push myself on to something new and uncomfortable. It's kind of a freaky place, but so good to learn from! Hope you're enjoying :)
I'm kinda lost even though I have a direction. I lonely and like my career efforts take forever to pay off. Everyone tells me to be patient, which I guess is all I can do.
Damn I wish your videos popped up before in my life cause I needed some reassurance. I was thinking about joining the military (army) cause Im still a NEET and I have no real motivation of what to do besides playing the game really.
you are spot on, whatever you do mate. Keep making these video's personally im in the exact same boat as you .our gen is just..... f*cked but we keep doing what we love and i believe eventually you'll become better. make 100 crappy vids and learn from every vids. thanks for the video :)
Great message. Thanks. P.S. invest in a good mic, would make the video more enjoyable to hear you more clearly. I'm kinda struggling to hear you from my mobile audio speaker lol
