I'm not married to your hair 

(Alena) I really enjoy watching you two.

"We don't have romantic language for afro textured hair" Best statement of the podcast. Such a woke statement.

Being a white dude I didn't know anything about the natural hair movement until I started watching your videos. You really opened my eyes to the complex relationship black women have with their hair, and the western European ideals of beauty that have been forced on to women of color.

That was a really good point about there not really being a romantic language for Afro-textured hair and how that culturally impacts perceptions about black women's femininity.

Sadly, the most uncomfortable feelings I've had towards my nautral hair have been through interactions with black men.

Good for you Mr Hallease for not saying anything negative as Hallease experimented to find her comfort zone with her hair .

I'm new and I thought that Mr Hallease was Middle Eastern! Shoutout from South Africa.

Mr. Hallease seems pretty honest and very sweet. Even some black men don’t want anything to do with natural hair or with black women who are not mixed.

None of your points was gone get ya lit up, until you said she looked like Frederick Douglass. 😂😂 I was like Mr. Hallease nooooo 🤭🤫🤣 You during the nondiaspora dreads comment 🤐😂 I like that you mentioned “wanting to run fingers through her hair.” I was 26 before a man said that to me. And I didn’t even realize it hadn’t been said to me until it happened.

I love that Mr. Hallease is willing to learn and accept. His points are similar to Black men. But unfortunately I find Black men are a bit judgmental about hair and the standards of black beauty are not valued.

I literally LAUGHED OUT LOUD at “borderline Frederick Douglas”. I’m sorry, but also I needed that laugh. 😂 This is so real! Love this conversation. 🙌🏾

HALLEASE!!! Frederick Douglass!! 🤦🏽‍♀️ I was literally making this face 👉🏾😬 the whole podcast. Its cool tho...its nice that he is so honest, as cringe worthy as it was.

Cringed a lot through this, but kudos to Mr. Hallease for voicing his genuine opinions despite knowing prior that they’d potentially be controversial. Brave.

“I don’t even care, I’ll run my hands through you hair, you wanna run your fingers through mine but my dreads too thick and that’s alright.” - Willow Smith

I love how you both really respect each others boundaries.🤩

This was a very interesting conversation!I love the straightforwardness. Thank you for taking a chance and sharing. My husband is white and learned a LOT about hair after I started my loc journey (just made it to 3 years. Woot woor!) After I decided to loc my 4c hair I had asked him what he thought about my decision to loc my hair (he didnt say much about it at first and so I was super curious about his opinion lol). He asked me if it would make my life easier, I said yes, and hes been super supportive the whole way. He actually oils my scalp for me, too. While I didnt need anyone else's support in this decision, it meant a lot that he was all about embracing me for all of my features and wanting me to just be happy with my hair and not spend hours and hours just to look "presentable".

i'm literally sitting here like mr hallease dont mess this up we love you. he did a good job! and i love how honest yall are too each other. he even knows what nappy is and fuzz. this is so cute. next video can we get a "what was the prayer" so we know how to get our own version of a mr hallease!

he was more nervous about his appropriate comments than the Fredrick Douglas one which was actually triggering. lol

Deep cleansing breath - here goes. Admittedly, hair is my blind spot, I wash, moisturise then cut and taper or style in afro, twist or plait and I go, anyone who doesn't like it probably isn't drawn to me and that's fair enough because I wouldn't want them to be. No one is ever going to catch me referring to hair on my head as a problem, I'm too preoccupied with what's going in inside my head. When I see black women describing their natural hair a problem and or petting their long weaves and wigs I find it disturbing and creepy. I'd like to think that I have enough imagination to work with what I've got like the many millions of black women before me - shortish and curly. Exhale

I know Mr. Hallease thought he was gonna get dragged but I don’t think there was really anything he said that was a draggable offense (besides the Frederick Douglass comment but that’s more of a bop upside the head because you really tried her 😂💀🤦🏾‍♀️). It’s clear he’s learned and he knows this topic is important and can be touchy and he was conscious and cautious of his words and I appreciate that. My bf is white and I’m a loose natural. He enjoys my natural hair and likes when I experiment with protective styles like twists or braids. He’s definitely more of the Mr. Hallease mind when it comes to telling me what he likes or doesn’t like because he knows at the end of the day I appreciate his opinion, but it doesn’t affect my decisions. I don’t have deal breakers on hair or features and I’m not sure if he does. I’m definitely curious about his answer. Also! In case Mr. Hallease wants a quick educational read on the history of Black American hair, I’d recommend Hair Story by Ayana Byrd and Lori Tharps.

Its not what you say but how you say it! Love the open dialogue and transparency in Beast Cast episodes.

I have to say that I've watched this one a couple times, and, though it's obvious that Mr. Hallease was nervous about voicing his concerns, thoughts, and overall viewpoint regarding his own experience during your journey, this episode is a such a gem. It's far reaching in that it can connect those in the diaspora who are literally all over the world and our loved ones but also because it really reaches deep within the soul. Some may react negatively, likely due to some painful scars of the past which saddens me, but I value the sincerity of the conversation and I definitely appreciate your willingness to allow us to engage with you as though, we too, were sitting at the table. Many thanks!

I LOOOVED this podcast. Such a great convo.

This is an interesting topic. I love that yall get into this cause natural hair is a sensitive/touchy subject to discuss with black women. Mr. Hallease even has NOTES for this lol.

Mr. Hallease has a point though about asking men of the diaspora why they try to impose certain looks on women. I enjoyed hearing this conversation lol and I think he was right to keep his opinions to himself about how you wore your hair or if he liked it or not (until after the fact at least). The Frederick Douglass comment had me gone 😭😩

I'm not a male of the diaspora, I'm female and the answer to your question is slavery, racism and media.

I’m very much enjoying watching these older podcasts I’ve “discovered “. Thank y’all for sharing so much of your truth.

I loved your candor Mr Hallease, like Hallease said, there’s nothing wrong with any of your thoughts bc that was your truth and perspective at the time.

Poignant beast cast! Needed conversation. To some from the outside looking in, this conversation may appear to be superficial but quite the contrary. Mr. Hallease's comments, questions and concerns were and are valid. There wasnt any disrectfulness here. I respect the fact that you, Hallease respected his opinion but still honored your truth by doing what was best for you and your hair. Please do a beast cast on the reactions/ feedback from us, the subbies. It would be interesting to see how people view each one of your opinions. Like you Hallease, I dont see myself without locs or short cut. I feel i am my most beautiful and confident with locs.

I grew up around people that had a mixture of hair styles going on. The one thing that they all had in common though was that.....THEY ALL LOOKED FLY to me!!! I saw the beauty in all those styles. If they went with short hair.... natural, relaxed or added on.....they WORE IT! If they decided to go with long hair... natural, relaxed or added on....they WORE IT! It was all about what you liked personally and rocking it confidently for the world to see without explanation. These days.....I notice that there are a lot more questions about why people wear their own hair the way they choose to wear it. Questions are awesome if the goal is to truly educate yourself about personal beauty. On the other hand, it could get kind of annoying feeling like you always have to give an explanation of why you choose to wear you God given hair in the way you choose to wear it. Our hair, no matter the texture, is an extension of our outer selves. The real beauty is always within. Sometimes you can see the beauty from afar. But most of the time, you don't see it until your up close and personal. I love that you two talk about things like this. Just saying.

"If it's important to you, it's important to me". That's the most beautiful thing someone could ever say to another person. I love that!

This is hilarious, cringey, eye opening. I felt like I was holding my breath every time Mr Hallease was about to speak.

I guess this depends on how much a person's appearance matters to you in a relationship. The older I get the less it matters but also my maturity level has developed to this point. It took me years to mentally examine why I found certain guys attractive. I never asked those kind of questions when I was younger.

I love the Beast Cast, especially this one. Very insightful and honest.

Great conversation guys! After more than 20 years of relaxing and using weaves , I’m now learning to love and take care of my natural hair. My husband is also getting used to it too and he has to tread lightly on what he says about my hair cause I’m super sensitive about it.

I love this open and honest discussion. I think you guys are hilarious, I love that you both were flexible in letting her be her self/grow/try new things.

What a beautiful, down to earth couple. I loved watching you both speak about your perspectives on hair, life, love, and marriage. Loved how hair was a starting point on learning about each other's cultures, opinions, state of mind, and state of life. My boyfriend has seen me through buzzed hair, skater hair, and long locks all multiple times in cycles throughout our relationship. He has his preferences but supports whatever spontaneous thing I do. Learning how your significant other takes care of themselves gives a lot of insight into their personality and values, it was cool listening to this.

I love this podcast/video-cast! Keep it up Hallease & Mr. Hallease

Confession: Sometimes I feel my locs on my neck and think something is crawling on me and when they're dry it makes my neck itch lol! Where is the lie?

What a lovely husband! It is fantastic to find someone who doesn't care about our natural hair, at such a young age (Chris's age). Great channel!

Fascinating discussion. Strangely, natural hair can be a controversial topic among Black people. Some of us just don’t like how our hair grows out of our own heads. It’s so messed up. Great to see so many Black women embracing their natural beauty.

My fiancee is Caucasian and loves my natural hair. He met me with an afro, loved when I would get it braided and when I said I was thinking about getting my locs again...he was right there with me! I'm on month 4 and the going through the stages where it's doing whatever and I'm trying to figure things out. He's right there. Nothing negative. Indulges my hair regimen and even let's me rub my hair oil on his scalp lol!... Next I'll have to show him how to help retwist...he used to do my double stranded twist outs...😁😁

I love watching you guys.

Awesome topic and discussion. Thoroughly enjoyable. I'm still trying to find my baseline in terms of hair. It truly is a journey. One thing that I've come to realize about my hair is that it shouldn't be the definition or limit of who I am and/or what I am interested in, just as your video conveyed. I've learned that as long as I care for it, my choice of how I choose to wear my hair should surpass any other person's opinion (or even that of society). I can still have my afro and operate in a conservative world, or have straight hair and live a more bohemian lifestyle (and anything in between). Anyway, thank you again for having this discussion. Unfortunately it isn't had enough, and it's nice that it is being discussed in a comfortable, relaxed (no pun intended) light way. - Yetunde

Interesting topic that I'm finally getting around to listening to!🤣 My husband has never attempted to tell me how to wear my hair. His only preference was that I keep it natural. He liked it short, liked my big fro, liked my twists and braids, likes my locs. Any time I ask him if he has a preference he just says "do what you like". I may find after the fact that he wasn't really feeling a style, but he's always so supportive of whatever. He's hanging with me through all the iterations of my outward expression through my hair.

On the point of "seeing the scalp" when it comes to dreads I would suggest has to do with the technique. When you get your hair professionally done, there is a level of neatness in the parts, symmetry and attention to detail that can be displayed in dreads, similar to cornrow or braid styles; it shows good workmanship.

I love love love this topic. I think it may be worth expanding this conversation to include guests to respond to Mr Hallease's question regarding the men of the diaspora's preference on hairstyles. I think we as women sometimes (emphasis on sometimes) choose hairstyles to attract men sometimes to our discomfort / expense.

I think Mr Hallease is handsome (I like beards) and your are gorgeous (all that deep melanin,) you make a lovely couple. While our partners finding us attractive is obviously a huge factor in anyone's relationship, a deeper relationship is forged of stronger stuff, something deeper (which obviously includes finding one another attractive) but also loving who the person actually is. It would be prudent for us all to challenge why we subscribe to the beauty ideals that we have. Its lovely to see the pair of you being comfortable enough to share in this way! Its a beautiful thing guys x

lol i am over here rolling.😆 He said her hair left red spots on his skin. They are cute and funny.

I realized that a lot of people put value on my hair due to its texture paired along with my skin tone. I am the same color as hallease but my hair texture is in the 3c-4a range and specifically black people are trying to understand how that’s possible. Honestly when I first started taking care of my hair myself in middle and high school, I didn’t get many comments of infatuation with my hair due to the fact that I poorly maintain and UNDER moisturized it which made its appearance look rough and things of the sort. When I scaled back all the theatrics and expectation of what I visually wanted to see from my hair and focused on health, not length, not style, hell not the edges is when I got the most infatuation. Black loooove commenting “I wish I had ‘good hair’like you” or “it’s easy for you to do you’re hair because you got ‘good hair’” and I’m like noooo, it makes a lot of a difference when you focus on healthy MOISTURIZED hair, your texture will APPEAR more manageable because you are nourishing your hair. Hair to me now is not that big of a deal to me. Now I understand how it affects the perception of me to others and I attempt to occasionally placate others in my hair styling (aka baby hairs SWWOOOPPPPEDDTTTT). But for the most part I don’t let it be a factor in adding value to my person and I’m lazy too but that’s a whole other subject. Regarding my personal preference about hair for others, I think not every style fits every face. Go with something that fits your face and if need be the occasion at the time and that’s it. Because if your going to a black tie dinner looking like you going to the beach doesn’t match and vice versa.

😂I love your honesty Mr. Hallease! No slaughtering will come from my direction...today😌.

Yooooo that Frederick Douglas comment was real 😂 My husband has told me that a few times. It took him a while to get use to my natural as he had never dated anyone previously that wore their like that. And of course he didn’t tell me this right off. But now he loves it and encourages me to try different styles as he learns more about why women wear natural hair. and he’s even starting to like locs now (something he never liked before).

You guys are my favorite couple to watch. The alluring way you look at each other is captivating. Thank you for Sharing the strength of your love with the world. Can you please do a segment on the evolution of your attraction to each other .

Thoughts I had as a male of the diaspora: I grew up suggesting to my mother and sister that they straighten their hair or relax it or get a weave with straight hair. But as I got older, and more informed as well, I reverted to a more natural stance and now my position is usually one of disappointment when I don't see natural hair. I have made conscious decisions not to go out with people or stop something in its tracks because of the lack of a natural hairdo

I like the way you guys sound together. I like you twos voices. I listen to you while I clean lol

I so enjoy your discourse I lol’ed a lot. There is no reason to roast Mr. Hallese for his honesty. He is still invited to the bbq. I think more of the conversation is necessary to a wider audience. People,place such emphasis on hair, and complexion in our community. We have to do better. Thanks for the beastcast..

I just watch "Good Hair" after your recommendation. It was actually really interesting! I really learned a lot.

The title had me click so fast 💨 and i can’t wait to hear the dialogue and perspective 😍😍😍

First day of your, second video... I likey... Refreshing!!... I too buzzed my hair and I too am on my second set of locks and learning how to take care of my hair better... Oh yeah, Mr husband you are safe!! Your questions/comments are welcoming... Again I likey! We need more of what you and sharing... Thank you for your contents

Mr. Hallease’s comments cracked me up! There have definitely been days I restyles my fro to avoid having that Frederick Douglas look lol. But to the point that he doesn’t know what does or doesn’t look good in the black community, it’s tricky because even within the black community there’s confusion. I could be having a great natural hair day and my grandma could make a comment about my texture or put down her own texture. And I do worry about how potential dates see my hair. I’m a loose natural with tight curls, so the day I style my hair it’s shoulder length but the next day it shrinks to chin or even ear length.

Why do you have to see the scalp? That was deep...I cut off my locs because I was just tired.

If you're interested in reading Mr. Hallease's response to this episode check out the blog post: thebeastcast.blog/home/2018/11/28/im-not-married-to-your-hair

Ooohhh this is good hahaha.. And He's cute too Sis 😊 Good job Edit : And I have always heard that non black men like OUR hair more than weaves. It was interesting to watch your man verbally confirm this. Nice. Im 5 years Natural 4c Chile and its BIG n fluffy lolol

So love this podcast!!! Hallease, please insert photos during your next podcast, (ex. Google photos). Also, we need to continue teaching our men of all races, and not just our girlfriends.

9:53 OK NOW Mr. Hallease, that comment might will get you popped lol This was great though! Fun Fact I watched this while shampooing my type 4 natural hair. I don't have many hair dealbreakers except lack of hygeine and white boy dreads. Hair that is not regularly cleaned is gross PERIODT, so whatever you've got it has to be cared for! You touched on it a bit, but in the black community locs are a style that are maintained and sported across class lines from artists to attorneys and it's just another way to take actual care of our hair..."we call them locs not dreads because our hair is not dreadful". HOWEVER I have yet to meet (I'm in NE TX outside of Dallas) a white person/ man who has locs that are cared for... they seem to use dreads as a way to ignore hair care. Additionally, it's not a style that I've ever seen on someone in my college classes or in my prospective field: law ... not at the courthouses of Hunt, Dallas, Rockwall county or any law offices do I ever see non-black people with locs... I see it on overgrown skateboarders, wannabe hippies, and sadly chronically homeless people who obviously lack the ability to invest their limited resources on hair care. I don't date white boys (or any naturally type 1-2 hair textures) with dreads. "It's a no for me dawg" Everything else (ok not spiked mohawks or mullets *sorry not sorry*) is cool though: fros, fades, braids, cornrows, baldies, type 3 & 4 locs... Idk the masculine styles for straight hair... short? long? swoops? side parts? all those are fine! I said what I said.

Lol! At the facial hair dialogue.

Hi, Great conversation guys. I appreciate the honesty and the open minded way you communicate with each other.

Hey I just joined your channel. I’ve been on the loc journey for almost a year and I have learned so much since I first started. Thank you for this powerful discourse. I agree that locs always been viewed as masculine but to also acknowledge that locs are Americanized in a way that getting them “manicured” is the norm.

Although your hair does look fantastic up, I personally think that when it’s down that it looks wild and amazing!

I love this segment concerning hair. COMMUNICATION AND CONSIDERATION IS KEY. I think CLEANLINESS and well MAINTAINED HAIR IS MOST IMPORTANT as well as ONE NOT STRAYING TOO FAR THAT ONES ATTRACTIVENESS TO THE PARTNER NOW COMES INTO QUESTION.

I'm new to your channel from your plant videos but I love your personality and this topic of discussion was so interesting to see what you guys thought. I'm feeling so inspired~!

can you please tell us what you read (books, shows you watch etc) Not to be rude but you are so articulate and I want to be fluent and aware like you...

If you can't embrace me with my Ms. Celie braids, you don't deserve me with my best twist-out🤣!! Also, Frederick Douglass's afro is iconic AND sexy. Periodt :P

Beautiful couple. Honesty builds relationships.

I enjoy the honest dialogue. You hair looks fantastic on this video Hallease!

Going back through the archive of episodes here in 2023... and the part of this episode at 39:27 where Mr. Hallease explains to everyone about PPE is just so quaint. This really was the before times.

I'm semifreeform too! A lot of people don't get it.

Your voice is so calming.....

I Love this, Hallease we are just so similar I feel like we could be great friends if you lived in Michigan. My spouse is a different ethnicity from me and I've went through my wig phase with him, perms, big chopped twice, started my locs twice LOL He has seen it all. You two are just so authentic.

Absolutely loved this video, all you can give is your truth and open yourself up to receive new information ❣️

Sorry! Black Women are beautiful any way they wear their hair missy,lol!

To me honest I hated "Good Hair". I think it did more harm than good. Maybe it could serve a purpose if one watched it with someone who actually is part of that hair culture. I can imagine it wouldn't seem so problematic to someone who doesn't have black hair or do any of the styles shown in the film. I do think a good point was made that there's a proportion of Black men who are completely clueless and black women and their hair, aside from trying to dictate how Black women do hair (like the rest of the world/ society).

the art of cursing without cursing! the art of civil conversation ! i like the way you choose your words carefully! Girl I like your updo hairdo . it reminds me of the elegant updos that white ladies use with the tresils/tress(curls) at the back!

I love the honest conversations; they are full of wit and humor and so intelligent. I prefer a clean-shaven face on a man, and I'm neutral when it comes to locks. I came to the US from Jamaica when I was in my mid-teen and at the time I really didn't see any Americans wearing dreadlocks. The only wearers I knew were Rastafarian men and women back home. I noticed dreads began to take off in America around the late '80s, maybe early'90s. Jamaican immigrants were the ones who brought rap music to NY, thereby introducing it to America, and I suspect that dreads arrived around the same time, since many of the artists, such as U-Roy, wore dreads.

enjoying the maturity of this conversation. Hallease you can pull off any hair style.I can't imagine you looking busted, just lovely.

That was my best friend who gave this podcasts topic! Follow him on IG @christopherlavoir

This is a wonderful couple

Interesting topic. Have been on a natural hair journey for a while; and while I wasn't always comfortable with my texture (4a,b), especially after experiencing black men who negatively commented on my twa some years ago, now that I'm older, I've grown to like me and my hair which is flourishing. Your hubby is accepting and funny too.

Great conversation, Mr. Hallease was speaking his experience, but the Fredrick Douglas had me dead😂. Love the beastcast and the people staring at Hallease are either: 1) admiring because you a 10 2)interested in a multiracial couple 3)weirdos that can't be saved. ♥️

19:50 LOL whaat ...i cant believe my ears

Good afternoon, I am coming late to this discussion, but I just want to express my thanks for educating me on locs. I am an African woman who lives in the USA, locs were just perceived not in very positive light on anyone when I was growing up from the part of Africa I am from.

I def relate to your natural hair journey, I had a similar experience. I appreciate Mr. H's transparency, but some of his comments came across as a little harsh, though his delivery was really funny. I know that wasn't his intention. That being said, I think many BM also have ignorance about Black hair and Black femininity and are capable of making similar comments. Mr. H being a White Latinx man saying these comments adds a whole other dimension & complexity to the conversation. I'm glad that yall are able to talk about this though.....

I really love this discussion. I have natural hair and nothing you have said about natural hair can compare to comments from older black people.

I mean it is what it is but I found it funny how he prefaced by covering all his basis JUST in case. I always like your up dos Hallease. Do you keep them up with Bobby pins? Cos I find they even tho my locs are long I can’t- tender headed

my brother sometimes calls me Frederick Douglas when i'm rockin my lazy 10 day fro. lol. i'm actually not offended by his honesty. this was such a good discourse pushing conversation.

My hubby is white and he loves my hair. He's a typical bloke lol so it's literally if it looks nice or not.

If I had watched this a year ago I wouldn't have known what Mr. Hallease was talking about when he said he could not get an N95 over his beard. Now, because of CV19, I basically know every type mask grade there is. Interesting times.

"You borderline look like Frederick Douglas". I'm deaddddd! Hallease, you gon let him roast you like this?😂No, but really. It happens. When I first went natural and was trying to learn my hair, my mom would call me Buckwheat lol. That first phase of being natural is ROUGH😬

Thats enlightening of him to not want to control or care of her hair bc even as a white woman Ive had boyfriends and husbands who didnt only comment on my hair but tried to control my color or length or style

Omg the same thing happens to my guy when he goes out. Like my brothers thinks that he’s of the Muslim faith. And he’s like nope just part black and part white lol