Just turned 26 years old, staring down 30. I still have no idea what to do with my life and I don't have a significant other. Taking things day by day, enjoying the weather and nature is what seems to give me any sort of reprieve.
I’m 24, just graduated uni with a engineering degree, got a good job and a gf but i just feel so out of place, like we were promised something else about life. I guess we didn’t knew how good we had it as kids.
@@labrax.0 that’s fine. I was scared of this feeling at that age and hard committed to a career that I later learned wasn’t a great fit for me. Take your time.
@kathan This means that the elderly people have more knowledge ( not specifically knowledge, more like wisdom), and youth have more physical capability. If youth knew what the elderly people know, they would be more mature or something like that, you get it. If elderly had the same physic, they'd do wonders with it, because of wisdom and that. Hm, that's what I understood at least. Sorry for my English, I'm Arabic
I encountered this fear when I graduated from high school. All my close friends had moved away, part time work didn’t seem as light hearted and fun anymore, now that I too was one of the adults out of touch with the younger kids, even though I was only 4-5 years older. I decided to go to uni, possibly to learn something, probably just to sink back into a familiar routine I had become so accustomed to over the 13 years prior. Although it wouldn’t be the same. My friends weren’t there, the world was unfamiliar and I didn’t have a reason to be studying, nor the motivation to do so. I’m still relatively young and I’m yet to find any semblance of the old days where I was care free and had too much time on my hands. It’s something you got told about when you were young. About how when you grow up, you’re responsibilities pile up, you get virtually no time to go outside and play, and the world begins to bite back. But you didn’t listen to the adults, what did they know after all? Before you realise it, step by step you’ve sunk into the disjointed reality they always described, but you just took as a lie to scare you into doing your homework, to get good grades, and to go somewhere in life. It’s something you can only learn in retrospect, once you’re old enough to understand how good you had it, but too old to take advantage of it. So yeah, I’m shit scared of growing old too, because I can’t imagine how awful seeing my whole life in retrospect is gonna be.
I'm quite young myself, just started in university half a month ago or so... I went through a similar experience as you, but once I finished college/high school, it all changed. Things didn't change, I changed. I've come to realise that things are exactly what you make of them. If you believe time is cruel, happy people are annoyingly naïve, that's how it is and always shall be. If you see everything as the opposite, the cloudy fog in the hill, mountain or whatever may be your case, as beautiful and smile at it, that's how it shall be. As people often say, "smile at life and it shall smile back". You don't need to be old and enlightened, young and naïve or any of the sorts to achieve happiness. I'm amazed at how I went from being grumpy and behaving like an old woman with juvenioa to people saying I'm the most lively person around. Shockingly, it nearly happened overnight. Tl;dr: don't rely on external factors to achieve happiness or whatever you seek in life, change comes from within. God, now I sound like an old twat. Edit: but basically, if you feel old, you look old ("old spirit"). If you feel young, you look young and lively. The external doesn't matter that much.
I have one comment to add, You are not actually afraid of getting old, you are afraid of the unknown which is different. Being afraid of getting old is a fear you have right now, being afraid of looking back (at your life) when you are old is being afraid of the unknown…
What I've learned from old people is that no matter what they did in their youth, they'll feel like they wasted it. Even if they did amazing things. It's all a matter of their perspective
@@andrewgodly5739 exactly, disappointment always stems from expectations, people expected so much from their lives bcs they get told by media and family that they can do everything they want and can reach their dreams, so we grow up with high expectations, thinking we are meant to do great things in life but that's not true, only the smallest percent really reach their dreams and even these people aren't fulfilled because of our human condition, and well the rest of us live an ordinary live and feel betrayed and disappointed by life bcs they think they didn't reach their potential and what they were meant to be, but that's all an illusion
I like to think about the Stoic view about death when feelings like this come over me... death is a natural part of the order of the universe; it's neither good nor bad in itself but the value judgements we make about it is what makes us so terrified. I think this can be applied to old age as well. And besides, the best time to eat a fruit is when their season is almost over and the decay is on the horizon :)
YES! THIS right here helps me immensely as well, with all of the struggles of life. I even tattooed ataraxia on chest to not forget what it is that truly heals, to adapt a tranquility about it all.
growing old just seems like something inevitable, maybe it doesn't feel as bad because im still young, but this feels like a reminder telling me that i should make the most of what i have now, try to do everything i want to, because in the future, i want to be able to say that i did all i could and have no regrets. thank you Sis for the thought-provoking video.
I've dealt closely with quite a few loved ones passing in old age, and the one binding factor was their regrets. Not a single one regretted anything they did, but all of them regretted the things they didn't do. It's the missed experiences that we think on in the end. Have as many as you can, because you only live once, and only for awhile.
Wow...you mortals really have it tough. Seriously though, I'm turning 60 next month and I remember how down I was when I turned 30. I'd kill for 30 again. It's unbelievable how the years turn into decades at the blinking of an eye. Enjoy it while it lasts because Father Time takes no prisoners.
I’m only 21 and having a serious quarter life crisis. All those years in grade school - hs and with absolutely no worries. Gone in a snap. A month used to be an eternity. After working a shitty job that ate up most my time the last few years, I feel like it didn’t even happen.
I will be 50 in 2 years. Im fine with it. I partied and lived life to the fullest and have recently slowed down to delve into philosophy to get me prepped up for what’s to come.
@@thedog5k yooo. Get into the mortgage industry!! You won’t regret it. Most positions don’t require bachelors( I know people lie) and they are paid above minimum wage. Definitely a lot of room to grow in all areas of the company is training. The commission based ones are good too: Loan Officer/ underwriter. Don’t feel down, you just haven’t been given the right opportunity in life. They don’t teach us about so many different well paid positions in school. I hope you check it out, this will the financial stability to worry about what you want to do with your life. 🙌
I'm 19, I recently woke up one day and realised my mother is turning 56 and my father 59 and me almost 20 as I type this is September of 2021. I'm scared of losing those I care about. The river of time is going to keep flowing, that is inevitable
I just completed my nineteenth birthday last week. I barely happy these days about getting old and all of my family members are sick and not happy. I barely study these days. can't move on all I can see is life is sad and we can't control it when I get older my family will leave me. my mom and dad will die. I'm an only child I don't know how to survive this sadness like. I don't want to age and dead and I don't want born again. I don't want to be part of this cycle can' t stop thinking like that. I'm terrified.
@@dewthennakoon you better get over it fast, I'm 26 and I have felt this way since I was 18, I did eventually lose family, but now I'm also homeless from drowning in self pity
@@xavier4519 At 18 you’re still a baby, in comparison with the rest of life. Life expectancy is around 80 years old today, whereas it was 53 around 100 years ago. That means you’re only in your 10s… you got 7 long decades left. Just 1 out of 8. Go for it, you won’t regret spending time practicing a talent you love. I wish I had taken piano/guitar sooner.
I’m only 19 years old but I’m approaching 20 in 3 months. Kinda a teen crisis. It sucks because I can remember clearly being in kindergarten, not a worry in the world. It’s crazy how fast time goes. I’ve recently watched home videos of me and my family back in 2003-2008 and it made me sad. I know it’s going to hit even more different when I watch them in 20 years. I cry because I don’t want the people I love to age. Even popular RU-vidrs. I just don’t want no one to age. I hate it. I also don’t wanna envy younger people than me in the future. Honestly I can’t picture myself being 50 one day but the truth is I am and that’s life. I hope I get over this fear soon. I know I’m lucky to be 19 right now.
@@itsnotadriantho I too am 2003. Funny how old pictures can make us nostalgic for periods we've never experienced. Even funnier how we can talk us into remembering things from our child- and early adulthood. Nostaligia is a dirty liar, as everyone knows. But even Memory's more about selectively reconstructing the past in a creative way, filling in details that weren't there but might have been.
@@itsnotadriantho The past is but a haunting idea of what might have been. And the future's that thing that taints the present with short events that may or may not occur. The presence is the only thing you can grasp because at least you know it will have passed before you did so. That's where the great battle of being happy is fought. No matter how rich, popular and beloved you are: It is still going to be the same, your mind, your mood dependent partially on what you ate, how much you slept, and whatever, and depending on the habits of how you think and perceive the world. The level of ease, stress, anxiety or humor your thought patterns tend to conjure up. The presence is what you need to be master. How many polluting the whole experience because of the prospect of experiencing moments, in which their short comings will manifest themselves on the world; When it's about being too unattractive, unlikable, unintelligent and insufficient in life... The whole experience of life is comprised of how many of such rare moments? So what's it matter.
Dude, I'm 58. My existential crisis didn't hit me until i was 53. Finding content like yours and Exurb1a's helped in lots of ways and I'm grateful for it, but finding Camus is what ultimately pulled me out of the dark. It gave me an explanation as to why I love Python like I do. Always look on the bright side of life. Though being diagnosed with ADHD at 54 and prescribed regular amphetamine may have helped as well........
@Artsu Sorry, I meant Monty Python - Always Look on The Bright Side of Life references the song at the end of their movie "Life of Brian". If you haven't seen it, I recommend it highly - absurdist humor at its best.
Is there anything to look forward to whilst getting older? I haven’t been able to find anything talking about actual positives about it and it’s not a help to getting rid of the mindset of apathy: why bother doing anything, if when you get older you’ll just get more miserable? If our younger years are our best, there’s honestly no point living past what is considered “young.”
When I was little, like 7 years old I told my dad that I was scared of dying; when I close my eyes I saw myself death. His answer wasn't the best (he told me to pray). Time passed and I got over it, but it really sucks to face an inevitable fate
@@careypridgeon You’re assuming that the only way to be immortal is to be the only one who is immortal and that you would develop conditions (which is not necessary). If this were reality, it would probably come from the halting of biological aging. Since this would come from science, it’s probably going to be public knowledge, so you won’t be the only one. Most conditions are age related, so halting aging will halt the development of these diseases as well.
I've always been afraid of getting old. My fear has always stemmed not from the fact that I'm going to die, but from the fact that I might not be making the most of my youth, and that some day I'll try to do the things I should have done when I was young and by then I'll be too old. I guess it's more of the fear of missing out.
Really good thoughts on getting old, but I dont find the necessity of looking at getting old as something bad or terrifying, since time is unstopabble and for us to enjoy the finite time we have being alive is, simply, spending it optimally doing what we most enjoy. Why be bothered by something we can't change?
I know right? And if time is infinite then isn't each of our actions infinitely meaningful? Either way there's no reason not to try and enjoy the incredibly interesting and rare thing it is to be a human being.
@@GirlDo3 same, i wish i could just properly experience childhood, even when I was 4-9 I was extremely pessimistic, I didn't enjoy myself but I judged others
There's a song called 24 by Red House Painters you might appreciate; "So it's not loaded stadiums or ballparks And we're not kids on swingsets on the blacktop And I thought at fifteen that I'd have it down by sixteen And twenty-four keeps breathing in my face...."
i’m only going into 8th grade. it’s not me getting old that i’m scared of. it’s losing my loved ones when i get older. i see myself growing already. i wish i was that little girl i used to be. people say “oh your still young you have lots of time”. but no. one year till highsxhool, four years till college. i have 5 year till college. (my math might be wrong). i’ve gotten to the point where i don’t really wanna hangout with my friends anymore. i just wanna hang out with my parents. stay at home and play board games with my grandpa and help my grandma cook. i keep thinking of the day when i’m all alone, no one to love me. and what if i’m alone forever. i keep thinking about my loved ones gone through the years i get older. i wish i can just pause time. i keep telling myself get off my phone and do soemtjing with your family. but it never really happens. and i’ll always have guilt in me. if i was in an interview, one lesson i would tell is dont take anything or anyone for granted. i can’t imagine my life as i get old. i want a family that i can comfort and i’m hoping in the dark times they can comfort me too. while still having my loved ones now in my life. idk if any of my friends feel this way. probably not. so usually to the people who do i just wanted to tell you your not alone for feeling this way ❤️
I’m about to turn 16 going into 11th grade and I’m reallly nervous. Soon im going to start driving and then I have to pick a college. I’m scared of moving away from my parents. I don’t want them to get old. My grandparents are most likely going to die soon probably under a decade. But we’re better off living life without these thoughts. Every human goes through this. Instead just have fun and make the most of your teenage years before you regret it. If you need somebody to talk to you could talk to me.
@@sammiethesalmon i had it too...but things change massively too and your feelings too...this fear of losing your family must never get in the way of you securing a good future where you might be able to pay the bills for your family too and take care of them in their old age... that's how it should work they loved you you love them back and take care of them...one day you might have your own kids and they say nothing makes you happier than seeing your kids around you
I just completed my nineteenth birthday last week. I barely happy these days about getting old and all of my family members are sick and not happy. I barely study these days. can't move on all I can see is life is sad and we can't control it when I get older my family will leave me. my mom and dad will die. I'm an only child I don't know how to survive this sadness like. I don't want to age and dead and I don't want born again. I don't want to be part of this cycle can' t stop thinking like that.
@@dewthennakoon i am also an only child and i feel like its gonna be hard when im all alone because i have no siblings to grieve with. but its just part of life, and we all learn and grieve in different ways. these comments make me feel good that im not the only one feeling all of this.
@@sammiethesalmon yeah. And I'm now feeling a little bit better too. Because I don't even know if i Die soon or later. But if I live in the present moment without thinking too much. I'll be happier. Life isn't That long . we have to stop thinking and ofcourse I found a way to relax I'm not that religious or something but when like I'm sad because I'm getting old. I'm old because I was born. And lord buddha is someone who Understand the sadness of life. If I follow his path One day I'll be free. Maybe It's Not This soul And I don't think I'm smart enough to figure out a way alone. I'm going to be good person every day( someone don't think too much) and help others and animals . In my religion I have heard of a next buddha will born so many years later. I know its maybe a billion years ahead But I'm going to be a good kind person that one day when he's born Not my this soul but Just one soul I'll meet him and I'm going to be good enough he can only help if a person have a wisdom or something like that I'm not good at English
As children they pump our heads full of dreams. After all, kids are pure potential. But as our lives drag on and time passes, our lives become cemented in history. We become more depressed as we fail to achieve those expectations. And if you dare to share any ambition with another, they tell you to be more “realistic”
@@thedog5k The worst part is how life passes you by, i was always told that i would meet somone as a kid, but as a grew up i noticed how nobody wanted me and at some point your youth is over. And when you talk about being lonely people call you an incel and tell you that its your own fault, i mean i guess it is. But i tried and in the end i never found anyone. I mean i tried. But nobody wants somone who is ugly and ill. The movies never told me that.
I think statistically people hit there peak at 35 so you’re fine. I don’t really consider someone old until like 55-60+, I’m 23 and feel this way sometimes and just have to remind myself I have another 40-60 years left on this planet yenno?
Solitude is an essential thing to make peace with. I've seen a lot of people who feared it make unwise choices just to avoid it, and then their lives were basically set.
I turn 19 today . This was on my recommended so decided to give it a go . I'm scared of getting old , not for myself but my parents, my friends, the people around . In their existence lies mine . I don't believe that I have my own individual self . I believe that this great grand story we call life is an interconnected web of people and stories. Will things remain the same ? I don't know . I wish that I would have the opportunity to finally reminisce some day .
I think my fear of aging comes more from the fear the beauty industry has instilled in me. At 17 I remember asking my beautician how to prevent wrinkles. I’m scared that I’ll lose my value to the ppl around me because I’ll no longer be viewed as beautiful. I’m terrified of my body deteriorating as my mind does the same until I can’t do anything myself and no longer know who I am, ending up like my grandparents. I know realistically showing my age isn’t as big a deal as it feels to me, but I keep hearing how my generation look so old for our age and knowing that women are often seen as unattractive once we reach our late 20s/early 30s. I’m sure it seems like a bigger deal than it is to me just because the internet shows the most extreme ideas, but knowing there are ppl out there who stop valuing women once they no longer look like teens, and wherever I go I keep seeing ads trying to sell me anti-aging products. Idk, I just feel like I need to rant about this, sorry for doing it here
The 'enjoy it while it lasts' mindset is absolutely mindboggling to me. Yes. Yes I will enjoy it while it lasts. And I'll enjoy the next thing too. And the next thing. I'll enjoy starting my first job, getting my first promotion, being a parent, a grandparent. I'll enjoy retirement, and telling stories about all I've done, and all I will do to the long term loved ones I will have met along the way, or to the new people I will meet. I'll enjoy my life. Views such as the one expressed in this video choose to focus on that which is lost through time, not what is gained. Being down about losing things, or the prospect of doing so is natural. But dwelling on loss does not help anyone, focus on that which you've gained and will gain, because there is a lot. Sadness about getting older is natural, I believe sadness about the prospect of getting older is a choice. And an easy one to make. It is easy to envision all you will lose, because you have it now, it is more difficult to envision all you will gain, because that requires creativity and foresight. Maybe this is where optimism and pessimism differs.
I needed this. Just a couple of minutes back, I was absolutely terrified with the thought that I am getting old and my parents are getting old. The knowing that all this is going to end, knowing there will come a day when I won't see my dad, knowing that I will no longer look the way I look now, gosh, absolutely terrifying. And I just don't know how to deal with this.
I don't know. I'm on the verge of turning twenty and I'm already beginning to develop a fear, not of getting old, but of growing irrelevant; as a woman I know my value within society (a dysfunctional one in that regard) the perception general strangers have of me relies in my youth, on whether or not I'm perceived as attractive. I don't want to be irrelevant, or be regarded as a waste, as the echoes of what was once beautiful or worthy. I try, ironically, making myself feel better by remembering the perception I had of women as a child. I also try to think about how much I know now compared to a few years ago and that I'd like to think that young me would be proud of the person that I turned out to be; about how maybe my vocabulary will be more ample, how I'll have read lots of books and maybe speak more languages. In western society youth is overvalued, youth entails energy, beauty and strength but also ignorance, often disregard for things that are important like friendship, family, kindness and culture. Life is hard, but I think it's maybe not the best wasting it away for things that are out of our control.
I feel you, and I think we're all a waste if you think that irrelevant means something like "nobody's gonna remember me in +100 years", I had a really bad anxiety episode when I first realized that, to the point I was thinking about having a child by ~35 just to feel a little less irrelevant (I'm a 26yo lesbian in a 3rd world country and I just broke up with my gf). But now I feel good living just for the sake of living, really.
@@LuceroAlvarado Certainly, essentially, living is an absurd concept. To me there are two alternatives, either commit suicide or just go on. So I just choose the lather, and from that I choose everything that makes existing a bit more bearable for myself and others. From your name I'm guessing you're somewhere from Latin America. Qué gusto encontrar a otra latinoamericana por aquí, jaja.
I totally agree w what u said. Being a young "fertile" woman in western society (specifically heteronormative society) is grossly fetishized. And the romanticized belief that all women should have kids and spouse bf they're 30 just fuels the fear of growing old. I'm gonna be 21 in 6 months n already worry abt what I want to do w my life while I still have the time/energy for big lifestyle changes. It's like there's this pressure to have my life figured out abt now, but I think that's largely thanks to our western culture having unrealistic expectations for young women in general; and I feel it's subconsciously influenced the choices I've made for myself. I think it's natural to be intimidated by the thought of growing "old" n to fear death itself. But I'd rather be some old badass woman than be a young ignorant girl, the knowledge u learn n accumulate along the way is more meaningful than being young n ignorant, even if ignorance is bliss :)
You saying this made me feel better. I know other people fear it, but it felt like someone else actually aslo felt it, just you saying it. All we can do is make the best of our life as it is. Rage, rage against the dying of the light. It's not a crime, it's just the cost of having life.
Yeah it’s weird man, it kinda just flashes by. I’m 26 now and feel like 17 was just yesterday. I still feel young af but I’m aware of my age and of time creeping up on me
I think I fear getting old so much because of the fear of losing the opportunity to have experiences like I did in my very early youth, and also the fear of becoming irrelevant and "ugly" (even if I already hate my looks as it is). The second reason especially is really stupid and vain, but even if I know that, I still can't shake the feeling of dread that I would feel if I thought I was being perceived as irrelevant, out of touch, unattractive, old, or boring by other people. If I could just get rid of the way I base my self worth and identity almost entirely on what other people think of me, I could be happier probably? The thing is I have no clue how to do that. I like to think I know exactly what my problems are, but I have no clue how to actually take action and fix them.
I’ll be 66 in March and I’ve been a little sad at getting older. It is scary but then, every living thing dies at some point. It’s as inevitable as the sun rising tomorrow. Make the very best of the time you have and live in the moment. Be who YOU want to be and to blazes with convention. Grow old disgracefully if you want to. I certainly shall do as I reach the age of retirement. I’ll dye my hair pink and wear eccentric clothes and big boots or wellies. And sod what anyone thinks. 👍😃
The issues start in late 30's. You are still young in terms of older population, but old judged by young ones. You are not getting younger - so you realize that you slowly drifting toward that 50s, 60s and death
In about 5 years time aging will intensifi. It comes when you least expect it. Suddenly you wake up and realize you are no longer young. You can see it in your face. Oh 3 years from now since your comment is 2 years old
Aren’t we all. Getting old is closer to death. Death, of which is unknown. Religion is merely a way to cope with the end. You realize your life is coming to an end. Perhaps a paradise, perhaps an endless nothingness like a sleepless dream. The only memories you can think of are the horrid ones. There are good things but in the end it’s pointless. As we grow old everyone else does too. One day our parents and loved ones will die. 30 years from now where will you be? Growing old is the unknown. On a more positive note: growing old can teach you many things in life. Never focus on the unknown ahead. Focus on yourself and live in the moment.
@@illitaret8780 I’m not sure about that. Optimism can be just as detrimental as pessimism in certain circumstances. Medieval lords used this optimism to manipulate their serfs into slavery by promising them an eternal reward if they followed orders. If all of those serfs had been pessimistic enough about the afterlife to realize this, maybe they could have taken more control over their own lives.
A few months from now I'll turn 19 yet I am already scared of getting old. Not because one day I'll die, to be honest I couldn't care less, but realizing that the world is growing old as well. I just want time to stand still, to keep these days I have. Days that I am just sitting at the desk doing absolutely nothing, days that I am with my family and enjoying my time with them, days where life is simple. I just hate that I didn't took advantage of my past years. If I had known death sooner I would've spent all my days with the people I love and not stuck looking at my phone all day or ignoring my family. I hate being 70 or 80 years old thinking "did I live a good life?". I don't want to burn my days aimlessly staring at the screen or waiting till I graduate college and spend the rest of my life slaving away for a minimum wage. Now that I know every passing day is one step closer to an abrupt end, I want my life to go exactly as planned. To have so much money that I can retire as young as possible. Not to spend it for myself but to use it to cherish every second with the people that I hold dear. I am not scared of dying, but I am scared of losing time with my loved ones. Cherish every moment with them, spare no second enjoying your time with them.
SAME HERE BRO, I am realizing how good I have it that my family is still alive and it took me until 17 to realize how important spending time with my family is, because one day, they may not be here anymore, and that terrifies me so much, I also want time to stand still, I want things to stay like this forever but I know one day I'll be looking back at these days as the "good old days" after reality hits me
Can't stop thinking about these lyrics. Roger said the idea of this song is, To be here now, this is it. Make the most of it. I recently turned 20. And how i wish time could just stop here.
It's somewhat fascinating and somewhat sad isn't it. As a kid so many want nothing else then to grow up even though we hear the words of warning of the old. But we will be different their peril won't effect us how could it from outside the advantages of being an Adult seem so enticing. But with each year the nagging feeling that they might have been right grows louder in ones head. It first really hits you when you leave school and you don't see your mates daily anymore that you grew up with in and out of school. Some of your friend grow somewhat distant as they spend more and more time at work. But it's not to bad yet. Then in university you still see your friends somewhat regularly and have time and some money to spend with them. But after that when you and your friends all work now the slow gnaw of time shows itself more and more in the open. Your grandparents die and your friends start family's. Every one is just busy all the time including you. Your body lacks the strengths of youth it once had more and more. Instead of going out every weekend or so with the mates you try your best to relaxe from work and get some sleep or sink some times on your hobbies. All this is your reality now and you wonder if that is really it. This is all there is to it just continue the struggle to your grave. You can't stay a child forever, as the story of Peter Pan shows so well, staying in Neverland forever is no way to live. But alas their is no worth in complaining about this kind of inescapable torment. "One always finds one's burden again. But Sisyphus teaches the higher fidelity that negates the gods and raises rocks. One must imagine Sisyphus happy""
@Nozzle You're right, Sisyphus will never be happy, but that isn't the point that Camus is trying to make imo. He doesn't need to be happy we just have to imagine him as such. "He (Sisyphus) concludes that all is well. This universe henceforth without a master seems to him neither sterile nor futile. Each atom of that stone, each mineral flake of that night-filled mountain, in itself, forms a world. The struggle itself toward the heights is enough to fill a man's heart. One must imagine Sisyphus happy." Happiness is a not a state one can exist in for a prolonged period of time. That much is made sure by the human condition and life and it's unpredictability. Camus trys to reconcile the fact that our lifes are just a struggle to the grave. So the question proposes itself if that is the case how can we make the best out of it? By imagining Sisyphus happy. Instead of crumbling under this grim reality we rebel against it fully knowing the we can't win. That death is unavoidable and defeat is ever present. This simply act of defiance enables us to break free of what objectively should be constante torment and suffering. It grounds us in the present and guides us what to do in our time given. And thous sets us, or in this case Sisyphus, truly free. He is the master of his own fate. Even in his condition of eternal condemnation.
@@ronondex6 That's the paradox in it for me. I have a part of me that rationally acknowledges how, in final analysis, anyway I live, anything I build and do, is completely subjective and thus, ultimately unreal, all of which dies with me. So this side of me ended up being the force which incited me to avoid living a life, in principle, aiming to avoid forcing myself to suffer without a reason, it's an absurd to do that while knowing the ultimate reality. Meanwhile, I know how a more fulfilling life is considerably connected with being close to the reality, almost embracing the flow of life, embrace the rock that is your burden. As if all the implications and consequences of embracing and struggling with life were something that is more natural, simple, and logical than living a life based on analysing and recognizing the true absurdity that is our condition, and - supposedly - avoiding unreasonable struggle and suffering. It's as if this specific kind of struggle, that is embracing the absurd, is existentially _less_ taxing and stressing than rationally and consciously avoiding those very ailments. It's as if, whilst being aware that you're _not_ being objective, creating and maintaining a complex subjective realm of experience is the best - and even easiest - thing to do, completely aware that all the sweat and suffering it cost you was on something that isn't real, not beyond yourself. This is bananas to me. And indeed, at the moment I can't swallow it. That 'first part' of me has made me avoid building any life and kept me in severe depression for a decade. I'm going through changes but that "rational" analysis and conclusion still is what makes more sense to me, even though ultimately there clearly are holes in my rationale of life. How can a subjective act of defiance challenge an objective torment and suffering... sounds nuts. Sounds as if being out of your mind is the most rational thing to do.
@@metametodo It is like you say indeed bananas or absurd ^^ What you describe encapsulates Camus observations perfectly. Life is indeed inherently meaningless and insignificant within the scale of it all. All we create, all we are, all our friends family and earthly possessions will end in a blink of an eye in the cosmic time scale. We can't change this fact of nature through our rebelling, just like Nozzel said Sisyphus isn't happy. So how can we put Camus philosophy into use even though we rationally know its unreal. This is the crux of it, how do you fight your own destructive rationality and challenge it with constructed rationality. I don't think there is a clear or "right" answer to it, besides what makes it work for you. For me the way to obtaining it is taking responsibility. There are two modus operandi either nothing matters and everything is meaningless so why try or everything I do matters. So to choose between valued responsibility or impulsive low class pleasure like Peter Pan. Why lift a load or Sisyphus rock in the first place if there is nothing in it for me in the end ? Responsibility, pick one and carry it. You get to choose yours but you have to choose on and start carrying that rock up the mountain because if you don't you end up like a sled dog without its sled tearing pieces out of its own leg because its bored. For me in part it's the responsibility of picking my suffering and bear it. Trying to be a "good" person and to try not to make it worse for me or the people I care for. Every one has a really good reason not to be a good person be it unfair suffering or the meaninglessness of it all. But if you life out that resentment you make everything you're complaining about infinitely worse and not just for you but also for the people around you. There is this idea that hell is a bottomless pit and that's because someone can always figure out a way to make it a lot worse. Life is suffering that's what the religious people have been right about for so long. So what to do in the face of it ? Accept it and try to reduce it for yourself and the people around you, make that part of your responsibility. We all know to a degree what is wrong with us so start there too. Take the smallest thing that is wrong with you, that you can tackle in your condition, and start there. Piece for piece you will make yourself better. That's your responsibility if you just choose to carry it. The only way to overcome the suffering of life is to be a better person. That is hard and it takes responsibility. You want a meaningful life, everything you do matters, but everything you do matters. "He who has a how can bear any why." ~ Friedrich Nietzsche Nobility of purpose that's the way you can rebel against it all like Camus advises. To pick up the rock and be "happy" . "The struggle itself toward the heights is enough to fill a man's heart."
i am only 16 and I want to be 5 again. i dont know why but I always wanted to grow up and be an adult, ironic that now that I am not even an adult, I want to be a child solely because children have no responsibilities and are free to explore what they want. As you get older a lot of responsibilities are given to you like studying etc, for me its only studying but I know once I grow older there will tons of responsibilties. Studying itself is hard I cannot imagine how much harder it is going to be as an adult.
I used to struggle so much with this, every time I would even think about getting older I would start crying (and I’m not someone who often shows their emotions). It’s a little bit better now but I’m still so scared that I’m not going to achieve anything in my life, I’m fighting though Btw the sentence “The light is fading, the audience has left, and yet you insist that the play is just getting started” really hit me, that is what I feel (even if I’m still very young), and what I fear I will feel in the future, when I’m 50 and have nothing to look back or forwards to
31 going on 32. The obituary thing about Facebook hit home - as many of my friends I confided in were older. I can’t ever bring myself to mourn their loss by posting any memories on there, but I see some find comfort in talking on a post on his page. 30 was especially cruel in that my body has severe arthritis now. If only I could go back to my early 20’s where I drank and cried my youth away. I can’t help but feel my heart grow watching a 23 year old friend experience love and be surrounded by the company of his friends. I feel envy almost in his sure belief of purpose that I once had.! Solitude is my friend, while many others I have removed by my own accord. Finding Solace in nature or a good book helps sometimes, but it certainly isn’t easy. Thank you for this.
_32 is a real young adult tho you're not middle aged until 45-60 you're not old until after 67(retirement age). Don't feel old you have a whole 30 years under your belt to go hope this helps and hope you feel better youngin', also sorry for your losses🗣🙏_
I think I commented this on a previous video, but I really love the way your aesthetic and style has evolved over time. The chromatic aberration, film grain, and colour changes make the visual experience a lot more dynamic.
At one point, I could not imagine myself at 30. now at 44, getting older is just a matter of knowing what doesn't serve me anymore and having the faculty to do better.
I love the content you create man. I can tell there’s so much passion that goes into it. Keep doing the stuff you love. “Don’t be hesitant to make anything to your fancy, as long as is specially made as art.” -Jimi Hendrix
In a way I think it's a good sign that you get the feeling that you dont want to die. It's an indication that your existence is meaningful and interesting. Life is awesome.
I started to feel like this when i was a freshman in highschool. Im a junior now and i still feel like this even though im still very young and i just can't let go of it.
I used to be terrified of death. For years i walked through life with an anxiety of death to point where i wasnt even living. I had stopped celebrating my birthday at 22 bc it became too much to bear. However i eventually learned to live and enjoy living not in spite of death but bc i will one day die. It helped me come to terms with death and my only goal now is to make my death as regretless as possible.
@@olsaaan It’s depressing to a certain degree. Your youth left the building at some point, your body is changing once more and not in ways you probably would hope, your inching closer to deaths door which puts everything you’ve done up to that point into perspective. I’m only 22 but in 40 years I’ll be 62 if I live to see it. Based on current life expectancy I have about 55 more years to experience life before im expected to die and take my possibly infinite dirt nap. Who knows I may be one of the folks to make it to 100 years if I’m alive another 78 years from now.
I've drifted apart from many friends, I've seen many of my family die, I've more wrinkles than a person has at my age, but I've never been afraid of being old. If anything, I've always wanted to be old. My grandfather was my father figure, and he lived to the fullest even in his old age. Him and I were sparring regularly just 2 years before he died of stage 4 lymphoma. He had so much experience, wisdom, love, and goofiness to him all the way until the end. He only improved as he grew older, and so him in his old age was the peak of his wisdom, understanding, and happiness. With that example, how can I not too be excited to see a life fully lived until the end?
Man, this was beautifully composed, dictated, and written. As a person who is terrified of aging (33) I resonate deeply with how harsh this all comes across. Because aging is harsh. Unstoppable. Inevitable. But I also hate how truthful the options presented here are. Make peace with it, or become unhappier every year. Or of course, opt out of life. You want so badly to be a fourth option. And man the whole facebook thing full of obituaries was so DARK XD it struck something in me, really disturbing. lol that got me. Still, all in all, great stuff.
I'm not scared of dying, I'm not scared of my loved ones eventually leaving, and I'm not scared of my body aging. I'm scared that I missed many opportunities. I look back and see someone shut in. I'm glad I learned not to after quarantine and, ofc still being safe and responsible, I'm enjoying every moment, every football game, every opportunity to walk up on stage, everywhere I can put my name under a good deed, I'm enjoying it.
Thank you for this, I really needed this This has been on my mind alot recently, and its been getting in the way of my preparation for my grad exam from high school, because I cant help but start thinking about this when I’m studying, and it really got in the way This provided me some ‘closure’ and recognition of such thoughts I suppose, and it helped me to be less distracted in whatever I was doing
i cant with all the middle schoolers in the comments saying they’re scared dude im turning 18 in 3 months 😭😭😭 literally shaking rn. why is this world so cruel to us i wonder what we did to deserve this
This video is anxiety condensed. In the most literal way, there is uneasiness and fear about the future. And it's a thing I can deeply relate to, and I coped with that, with the acceptance that it is a projection of my thoughts and action. And in being so, it's not tangible. The only thing we truly have is the present. So, while aging does arouse this feelings, it's also important that we know that we only have one age, and it is the one we have now. There is no need to think of what is not present, if not to take action.
Thank you Sisyphus. I always appreciated your videos before this one, feeling they touched on topics that other people need to hear. But this video goes above and beyond that. This video feels personal. I sincerely thank you for talking about such a normalized topic in a deeper manner, especially the "virtualized obituary" part... I always thought about these things as a kid but never got answers or any closure to the topic because nobody else thinks this way, nobody else is so aware about the normal parts of life being just as melancholic or awful as everything else. This really reinforces the point of "life is suffering by default". Even if hearing the truth is rather depressing, there's no one I'd rather hear the truth from. Thank you.
"In fact, the opportunities to act properly, the potentialities to fulfill a meaning, are affected by the irreversibility of our lives. But also the potentialities alone are so affected. For as soon as we have used an opportunity and have actualized a potential meaning, we have done so once and for all. We have rescued it into the past wherein it has been safely delivered and deposited. In the past, nothing is irretrievably lost, but rather, on the contrary, everything is irrevocably stored and treasured." - Viktor Frankl I do apologize for the lengthy text, but I believe it is worth the read.
I will never forget the heartfelt catharsis I had reading The Man In The Glass by Peter Dale Wimbrow Sr. As I finished reading it, thinking that, is this the goal? Can there ever be anything close to a goal? What does matter, or does it even matter? to loved ones? To oneself? To ones world?
Glad I took care of most of this struggle with some acid. It'll come back in due time, but it's been staved off for a smidgen. Your new beats are nice.
wow man. your videos are amazing lately. i'm so glad you decided to make this turn, to more intimate videos. This is art, and I love it. This year I've been feeling really numb and uncomfortable, and for a little bit, you have made me feel something. so, yeah, thanks for that, I really like your work.
My biggest fear is. After death. The thought of. never experiencing anything again, it just freaks me out. My mind just. seemingly can't comprehend that, and every time I try, it sends me into an instantaneous panic.
I recently reached a point where I feel right in this world. It involved accepting all that this existence entails, and focusing instead purely on myself. Who I am. What I want. What I can get out of this life. Now I live for enjoyment and the genuine goals I've managed to make for myself. I really like the concept of memento mori, as it often helps me see what I want from life before it all ends. I've accepted death and pain and I feel more happy and alive than ever. Debilitation from aging be damned, the world be damned. I want to burn bright, so that's what I'll do.
Im graduating high school in 5 and half weeks and I’m so scared 😭 I couldn’t even tell you why because I don’t even really fear dying, I just don’t want to be old?? And by old I mean 18, like I’m not scared of being 30 or 80, I’m scared of being 18!
Hey man, I really hope you feel better you’re the only one who has my issue right now, I’m gonna turn 18 in December and i can’t help but cry everyday, of you maybe, somehow found a way to be in peace and accept your age please tell me, I really need to feel ok too
Do your best to make as many friends that you can while you still can, and preserve them. After 30 it's getting much harder to make new friends, after 40 it's very rare. The second half of your life is going to be very hard without them. I wish I knew that.
how can you have such insight for a young guy? I'm 53 and - yes it really is that shitty - it's very shitty getting older. But there is an upside that you didn't quite mention, although you got close. I now see that having fun and playing around *is* the serious stuff that matters most. And that's actually fun.
turning 14 was so much hard for me, i even cried at night because we all are growing and getting old time is passing soo fastt i can't imagine that 2017 was 7 years ago and 2030 is just around the corner and sadly I'll be 20 years old in 2030.. i wish, i could stop the time
All I think about is aging and people that I love dying, I can't focus on anything because it's always on my mind . I'm 15 and a happy person with an average life but I feel like I'm just wasting my days , I want to make the best out of my life but I don't even know what the best is because I don't enjoy anything anymore because I know it's all going to end .
@@merwan8222 the fear started when I was 14 because many people I know kept dying. Not people I was so close with but it just made me realise how sudden something like death can happen
one of the most common reasons for age anxiety is lack of achievements. People get old and realize they haven't achieved much and wasted years not working hard or giving their best. You're young. You have time to work hard to avoid this feeling. If i could go back in time to when i was your age, i'm 23 now, with the knowledge i have now, i'd focus on playing sports and getting in shape because getting in shape when you're older is harder. I'd develop skills, both skills that i like and skills that would be valuable to have when growing up, things like coding, car repair, cooking. i'd work on developing my social skills, i'd talk to girls and try to make more friends and enjoy my youth. I'd try to become disciplined at an early age by doing things like waking up early, sleeping early, eating right and avoiding habits that are harmful to my health.
in regards to my first comment, only few get to retain that happiness, the grumpy old man stereotype exists for a reason, and that's what I fear, becoming a grumpy old man with no soul one day
What really gave me a whole different perspective about actually enjoying and appreciating life and youth was working at the hospital. especially the non-emergency transportation of old and sickened folks. I noticed the fragility of existence when I tried to reverse roles and think about what the patient that is lying there on the stretcher feels like. It's mostly confusion, I guess. They don't know what's going on, why and where they are being moved (to hospice, for instance) and I can only imagine how terrifying that must be. I just had to stop thinking about things like that and do the job, but it's sad, really, especially since all of us will end up in similar situations as the elderly in the nearer or further future and I'm kinda scared of it.
I do not fear old age or death but the associations with it of the loss of those I hold dear, friends- family. Life is nothing without them to me, I could have every single material I want but to what use are toys without someone to play with..
I’m 25 and have the chronic fear of the unknown which I originally mistook for a fear of getting old. I don’t think that many people fear aging. They fear not knowing the future. I often think about a possible future where I never find my life partner and only have myself. Most of my friends have long term relationships and are now engaged and married. As where I have never had a relationship past 9 months. I always have chosen money of relationships. And though I do well financially now, my personal life is quite empty at the end of the day.
