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@markeayers 2 дня назад

Listening to a man burn to death screaming has to be the hardest thing to live with, and then to realize that man could have saved the other man and it would have been you burning to death.

@hiddenhand6973 2 дня назад

I’ve heard it on a 911 call and can’t forget it. Nothing more horrific besides listening to someone succumb to rising water and drowning. We don’t wish such things on our worst enemies.

@John-c3z2p День назад

Overdramatic

@TheNomadicSunny День назад

@@John-c3z2p weird comments on this channel there bud. someone’s bored

@truckingwithtobee День назад

Nope we have found out that there was absolutely no way to save that man because the fire was completely around him.

@FLIPPER1439 19 часов назад

I hope the Woman truck driver reads this! You are alive because ALMIGHTY GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE! Best thing is to get SPIRITUAL COUNSELING by a Christian who can pray with you, and for you. “””THE LORD GOD LOVES YOU-Turn to HIM””” 📖PSALM 121:1-2

@marjbiehler7628 2 дня назад

She knows it's not her fault mentally, but not emotionally.

@the_real_santaClaus 2 дня назад

Thank you doctor

@truckingwithtobee День назад

@@marjbiehler7628 nope not at all what I think. I have zero guilt not even emotionally. My truck never left my lane. My question of course is how did I survive that incredibly violent crash. I’m mad that I’m not able to sit down with that man and ask him WHY was he driving like that?!

@Krista823 День назад

@@truckingwithtobeeI’m so sorry. I’m sorry you have to carry this and those unanswered questions. I’m so glad you survived.

@musicart2007 2 дня назад

I used to be a paramedic. The sounds of a dying person are something she wont ever forget. Screams, snores or silence.... it all haunts you. I feel terribly for her. I chose to carry it. She didnt.

@RagDoll15 День назад

Thank you for your service. I commend all first response personal. You are important and should be acknowledged more often

@aimeerebecca1 День назад

Thank you for carrying this for us, too. I couldn’t. I don’t have that strength.

@KaylaEchols221 7 часов назад

Snores. I heard my sister passing in her sleep and I had no idea. I'll never forget that sound. Any form of snoring bothers me 19 years later...even though the sound is distinctly different from what I heard at 15 years old around 1 AM.

@PaolaHuezo 2 часа назад

My best friend is a paramedic and an er nurse just because she loves the madness and is passionate about it. I salute her so much, such a respectful role, thank you for your services!

@bettysmith4527 2 дня назад

This poor woman is so traumatized, and I think it's more that she HEARD a man burn to death, and not that she survived and he didn't. She needs counseling very bad, and doesn't realize it.

@hiddenhand6973 2 дня назад

💯💯💯

@truckingwithtobee День назад

I’m getting counseling 🥰

@TartarianTopG День назад

@@truckingwithtobeeI’m sorry that happened to you

@HorseLady1109 День назад

@@bettysmith4527 I think she realizes, but is afraid of what is underneath all the “robotic recitations” as Dr. DeLony called them. Looking inside is soooo….scary.

@marissathomas9327 2 дня назад

As a daughter of a truck driver and a wife of a truck driver … my heart is breaking . 😔😔😔

@BichaeldeAngelo День назад

Dang you’re a part of a dynasty

@builtontherockhomestead9390 2 дня назад

Less than a month before I started 2nd grade I was in a fatal accident. My grandmother made a left turn through a red light and collided with another vehicle. This was in 1968. No seat belts. My grandmother was thrown from the car and never woke up. I was in my cousins child protection seat and only got a bruised arm. I'm now in my 60's and still remember this event like it was yesterday. As an adult I looked up the newspaper article which confirmed many of my memories. I'm still impacted by what happened to me. I hope the caller gets the right type of therapy and can process what happened to her.

@JulieeEliz 2 дня назад

💙🙏🏽💙

@ElsaGabrielaMitreLópez День назад

Wow that's something it gives a new look on things for me ❤

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974 День назад

I'm so so sorry 🙏🏿 ❤

@29stmarksrd 2 дня назад

If someone is trying to pass you, PLEASE slow down and let them pass….it’s not a race.

@supernotnatural День назад

or dont pass like an idiot. if u have dont balls or knowledge to do it. dont do it

@PoetryOf День назад

Exactly!!!!!

@sc00b3rt 20 часов назад

Or..don't try to pass at all when there is that many other cars around you.

@FLIPPER1439 19 часов назад

Amen 🙏

@somexp12 8 часов назад

@sc00b3rt Or don't pass when there are no passing lanes. Some drivers just can't psychologically deal with there being any vehicles in front of them. Always trying to get to the non-existent front of the line. And, then, when something bad happens, they start making excuses for each other and blaming everyone but the thrill-seekers. The guy being passed was in "a race," but the guy passing in the on-coming traffic lane wasn't?!

@smb0621 2 дня назад

I can understand her anger that people were too busy “filming” to actually help. Spectator syndrome is a terror that makes victims helpless even when surrounded by a crowd.

@karenpederson1735 День назад

I wonder too if no one could help due to the flames and fire...?

@mindianaj0nes День назад

It was very frustrating that he wouldn't acknowledge that this and the robotic cop were part of the trauma. Not just some petty things she's hung up on.

@truckingwithtobee День назад

@@mindianaj0nesI 💯 agree with you. It irritated me when he told me that.

@mindianaj0nes День назад

@@truckingwithtobee Oh my gosh, it's honestly a relief to hear from you. I wondered how you were after this call. I felt so uneasy after watching this video because I did not like how he treated you. I was hoping I was just projecting and that maybe you experienced the call differently, but I see from your comments that you felt the same way. I'm sorry that's the case, but I certainly understand why you feel that way. For what it's worth, I wanted you to be able to speak and share your story. He interrupted at some critical moments, like when you said your daughter was on the phone with you at the time of the accident. It seemed he was rushing to fit your experience into the narrative he wanted to deal with - a gross thing to do to anyone, especially someone who's been through what you've been through. Thank you for the comments you're posting. Sending my support through the wires!

@truckingwithtobee День назад

@@mindianaj0nes Your comment means a lot. There are so many nasty comments. I just now sent an email to Dr. John’s producer and ask that they remove my episode. Some person even insinuated that I was lying and making up this story. Another person disclosed the name of the gentleman that passed away.

@Hippie459MN День назад

As a truck driver of 25 years and counting, the thought of this stuff happening scares the crap out of me. I'm only 3 minutes into the video and I'm tearing up. I just want to give her a big hug.

@truckingwithtobee День назад

I decided to get my CDL two years ago to help our business so we didn’t have to hire a driver. I was doing everything like I was supposed to that day and it still happened . I appreciate you listening to my episode and for taking the time to comment it means more to me than you know.❤ as you can tell from this episode, I’m still trying to mentally get over this. I still have lots of injuries that I’m trying to overcome as well.

@DuffyGabi 2 дня назад

My son’s climbing friend fell to his death 44 hours ago. I believe it took a few hours to get the other climber down. I can’t imagine the trauma for the surviving climber. RIP Stewart. You left your friends far soon. (21 years young)

@shroomssadow4981 2 дня назад

RIP

@TheNomadicSunny День назад

wow the one from the devils tower? i saw that story earlier. so sorry for your loss.

@supernotnatural День назад

play stupid games and win stupid prices.

@kaiotikworld8945 День назад

@@supernotnatural 🤦🏻‍♀️ you sound like a really fun, nice guy. Have fun being angry while living in your bubble of safety. What a sad way to live.

@bridgetveldhuis4473 День назад

@@supernotnaturalAre you Autistic or something? 🫣

@mary_syl 2 дня назад

She has PTSD, not just from the accident but hearing the other guy burn alive. It's horrendous and will haunt her forever. She needs professional help or this can develop into serious depression.

@supernotnatural День назад

she can sleep well at night. his fault = his burn

@vidareggum6118 25 минут назад

@@supernotnaturalyeah, logic always wins over feelings…🤡

@judywood4530 2 дня назад

I am crying just listing to this story. Toby, I hope you find peace

@MissM62 День назад

Me too. 😭 This is so sad and she is so traumatized. I hope she gets a good therapist and can work through this.

@Judi4Him4Ever 2 дня назад

Semi’s passing is a very bad decision. So sorry he paid with his life.

@Maryskid 2 дня назад

Aww man Tobee. Massive hugs. I'm crying for you. Prayers you for you.

@mjohnson8206 День назад

Yes

@FLIPPER1439 19 часов назад

Almighty God has a plan for her life. She needs Spiritual Counsel~~find a Christian woman who will pray for her, and with her.

@Ka_Gg 2 дня назад

She mentions being a business owner and a truck driver. She is used to being in control of things. She's used to wearing many different hats and expecting others to do everything she does or at least know what to do. This situation was completely out of her control and she doesn't know how to cope with it.

@sandrachebo День назад

Excellent incite.

@FLIPPER1439 19 часов назад

However, she can find PEACE and find a Christian Woman who will counsel her, and pray for her.🙏

@danielhernandez167 День назад

US 93 from phoenix to las Vegas is such a dangerous road, im glad she made it out ok.

@JudyHart1 День назад

When she told the road, that was my first thought.

@TampaCatGirl 2 дня назад

Such great advice, Dr. Delony! The only thing that helped me get through survivor's guilt was deciding the best thing I could do to honor my friend who lost her battle to cancer at the same time I survived mine was to continue helping those I can and building a life of purpose and live each day cherishing my loved ones. My heart breaks for this lady. Truly a tragedy that she had no control over. Wishing her the best and inner peace soon.

@hwinny2 2 дня назад

One of my dearest friend’s son was visiting me and my daughter from Austria. He was like my own son and I loved him dearly too. He died in a car wreck between my house and my daughter’s. The details of everything is horrible and so hard. There was no way around survivors guilt. Why did her son die while visiting me and my is fine. The grief and the guilt was so hard. There was no way around it. It hits you even though your mind knows you have no part of what happened. It took 10 years before the residue of the guilt was gone. He was an amazing beautiful human being and was only 27. He blessed all those in his life. I was the last one to hug him and our last conversation was how important God is in our lives. You can’t go around the guilt. It just is and you just have to go through it like grief.

@yellowstonekv959 2 дня назад

I'm so very sorry. What a terrible tragedy for all that loved him. My condolences 🙏 😢

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974 День назад

I'm so sorry 🙏🏿 ❤

@purpleviolet2058 Час назад

I'm so sorry.😢 My condolences and prayers for you.💓🙏💓

@hwinny2 48 минут назад

Thank you for your caring. I am doing well now. I will alway miss him, but who he was has brought so much good to my perception of the world, I am so much better for him in my life and he has left me many good memories and life. None of which I would have had if I had tried to bypass grief or the natural survivors guilt; or remain stuck in grief and guilt. I am so thankful to have done through it and made it to the other side.

@moniqueh7948 День назад

She wanted a space to let it all out but he didn't give her one.

@mindianaj0nes День назад

That's how it felt to me too. I hope it didn't feel that way to her.

@lelalulyn День назад

My thoughts exactly. The constant interruptions of this woman bravely sharing her story was painful to listen to. I'm not sure that judging her on the details she remembered & was choosing to share was at all helpful or insightful. These details were part of her story - they were clearly contributing to her misery & preventing her from healing. Rather than cutting her off, the proper thing to do would be to let her share whatever she needs to & help her work through those painful memories. It felt so invalidating & rude. Those details might not matter to him, but they mattered to HER. I think this call was far beyond his scope. Very uncomfortable listen, totally missed the mark on this call.

@truckingwithtobee День назад

@@lelalulynI AGREE 💯. I’m the caller.

@truckingwithtobee День назад

@@mindianaj0nesplease see statement below😊

@suziet1925 День назад

@@truckingwithtobeeI'm so sorry that the help you sought wasn't there for you in this call. I hope you're doing better now. ❤️

@Kathy-qu8zj 2 дня назад

Also sadly, many many Truck drivers are pushed relentlessly by heartless companies that are clocking every second and every movement they make. Many encourage cheating on their log books but will deny if that overly stressed driver is involved in an accident. It’s a pretty hazardous very stressful and many times very physically and mentally demanding and taxing…hard to be healthy with that kind of stress and the lifestyle it promotes is pretty sad..

@YcMdattGUY 2 дня назад

Same thing Amazon does with their DSP drivers. There’s official rules in the book but we are told to cut corners and do things that are unsafe then when something happens they make it seem like the driver just wasn’t following the rules. lol smh

@ElimEx1 2 дня назад

It's not just truck drivers unfortunately. But truck drivers and companies know that their days are numbered and within a decade, will be replaced by self-driving trucks (Walmart and Amazon already have almost 100). Sadly, it's a symptom. The disease is late stage capitalism (that,s when people serve capitalism instead of capitalism serving people). Doesn't change this lady's suffering and probably her entire family. Her kid(s) probably need therapy as well. It's sad and they probably can't afford it in this financial mess. Society is sick.

@Kathy-qu8zj 2 дня назад

@@ElimEx1 AGREED… Capitalism should be renamed Cannibalism.. I’ve gone so far as to reword the Nat’l Anthem in part to, “Ohh the land of the GREEED… and the home… of the.. SLAVE..”

@Kathy-qu8zj 2 дня назад

“ WAKE UP YOU SLEEPERS!!!!”

@Kathy-qu8zj 2 дня назад

@@YcMdattGUY I worked for UPS… same thing they did. One of their computer employees told his wife that the guys in his department think that management purposely tries to push these guys to the breaking point, actually trying to kill some of them. I have family members that work on Trains.. they do the same things to them..

@thesecretlifeofwonderwoman 2 дня назад

I am absolutely bawling my eyes out listening to her. I'm so sorry I am so so sorry this happened to you. I can only imagine how terrifying that was and how that fear is haunting you. I am so grateful you survived so grateful.

@truckingwithtobee День назад

Thank you

@jennabryan1658 2 дня назад

This is exactly how I “process” things- squirrel brain constant avoidance and endless analyzing and rehashing but still trying to magically emotionally avoid it. ❤

@Shelovesthearsenal 2 дня назад

Same here ❤❤

@kal2487 2 дня назад

Me too, I think it's a type of processing of trying to accept each little piece of it. Takes a while though.

@aftersolo 2 дня назад

This is a huge fear of mine. A car pulled out in front of me a few weeks back and I swerved to miss them and almost rolled my truck with a heavy load. I had to pull over to catch my breath bc I knew that person almost died in a split second. It hits harder the older I get. I'm glad the caller is back out there and has a new truck. Definitely a tough lady, but bypassing grief is not healthy. My heart goes out to her. ❤️ 🚚

@HorseLady1109 2 дня назад

I hope she gets real help! Drugs just dull, never heal emotional trauma.

@aftersolo 2 дня назад

@HorseLady1109 Any kind of medication that breaks the blpod/brain barrier makes my brain not function right. Even just allergy medication gives me high anxiety and makes me agitated and depressed. I hope she can handle medication better than me, but its always the last resort.

@HorseLady1109 2 дня назад

@@aftersolo It should be, but it didn’t sound like it in this case.

@aftersolo 2 дня назад

@HorseLady1109 Sadly, medication seems to be the first thing doctors try anymore and everything is considered "alternative." Makes it sound inferior.

@pinkpugginz 2 дня назад

@@aftersoloclaritin?

@sarahjowright1730 2 дня назад

Having survived a crash with a semi, like her, I grieve with her. Survivor guilt is real and vicious and i really wish I could sit down and talk with her survivor to survivor.

@crazeekids9744 2 дня назад

Please see a therapist trained in EMDR. This event needs to be processed before it develops into PTSD.

@Kathy-qu8zj 2 дня назад

@@crazeekids9744 I think it already has.. I’m sure of it.

@V31lCl0ud 2 дня назад

@@Kathy-qu8zjthanks Dr RU-vidr.

@Peanutbutta-ct4vn 2 дня назад

This is incredibly disrespectful to people with ptsd and you should be ashamed. That treatment is pseudoscience. There is no “do this thing bfore it turns into ptsd” if someone suffers a traumatic event, that ship is sailed. Your attitude is exactly what prevents people from getting the help they need.

@crazeekids9744 День назад

@@Peanutbutta-ct4vn my statement wasn’t toward people that have PTSD or trying to shame them in any way. It was about helping this caller. And I would venture to guess that most people who have PTSD would prefer not to have it and the suffering that goes with it, and would have appreciated being offered something that could have helped them experience less pain. When traumatic events are new (less than 6 months) there is a window to step in and help someone process the trauma before it becomes more engrained into their nervous system. Also, not everyone who experienced trauma develops PTSD. There are specific criteria that go with that diagnosis. EMDR is not “pseudoscience “ There is actually quite a large body of research supporting it’s effectiveness.

@BichaeldeAngelo День назад

Hello! MD here- numerous randomized controlled trials and meta-analyses have demonstrated efficacy of eye movement reprocessing and densensitization therapy. Do we know why it works? No. Is it effective against placebo at reducing symptoms of PTSD? Yes. Also, EMDR and cognitive behavioral therapy with a trauma focus has shown benefit in preventing development of PTSD in those with acute stress disorder. Also, please stop diagnosing people on the internet with medical problems. You have absolutely no clue if she has PTSD. Neither do I. Stop it.

@doesnotFempute День назад

I think John would turn to dust and fly away, if he had to go 5 consecutive minutes without interrupting one of his callers

@mindianaj0nes День назад

It was particularly frustrating in this episode.

@truckingwithtobee День назад

And then, if you start listening to some of his others calls, his advice is exactly the same as what he does to other callers. He interrupts people the exact same way that he interrupted me. I was the caller in this episode. This is just a show.The ending of my call did not happen! It was edited in. The muted me the last little bit when I was trying to speak, and he just kept on with his little spiel. And then what they added at the end was completely false. He never said any of that stuff he just abruptly stopped talking and got off the phone and all of a sudden the producer was on the phone. I walked away from this call with a bitter taste and I don’t have the same respect as I once did for him. I actually regretted being on this show. I thought Dr. John was different.

@Periwinkle1859 День назад

⁠@@truckingwithtobeeI’m so sorry. He was very disrespectful all throughout this call.

@sadiemarbee7273 6 часов назад

@@truckingwithtobeeI’m so sorry for what happened and for your experience on this show. Wishing you peace of mind and body as you process and begin your healing journey. ❤

@truckingwithtobee 6 часов назад

@@sadiemarbee7273 TY

2 дня назад

Our thoughts and prayers are with you, Tobee.

@truckingwithtobee День назад

Thank you❤

@hansonallie 2 дня назад

Go Blake Martinez!!!

@spookshow666 2 дня назад

people stand and watch and film rather than help and nothing irritated me more than that…. i hate the bystander effect so much

@lak1294 2 дня назад

Not everyone standing by knows what to do or feels they can help, especially in something as horrific as this. I agree with helping absolutely, if you CAN.

@blessed3584 2 дня назад

Toby, I'm so sorry you were in such a horrific accident and suffering the emotional pain. I am thankful you are still with us. You are so courageous to reach out for help. Please take care of yourself and continue to reach out for help. May God richly bless you with comfort, peace and hope.

@lyndalamb3221 2 дня назад

What a load to bear-she narrowly missed a horrible death but she heard someone else dying like that and then the financial devastation

@briannadickson2884 2 дня назад

Dark pun 😂💀

@beebs__ День назад

I did not like the way John handled this call. He projected a narrative on to her, talked over & almost scolded her for being numb. He could've been far more patient.

@14elvira14 День назад

John is annoying me in this call

@brendan5235 День назад

I don’t like the way he interrupts people

@truckingwithtobee День назад

Me too, me too. I didn’t want this episode to air because I was actually embarrassed by the way he was making me feel like an idiot. I’m the caller.

@sharonb519 День назад

@@truckingwithtobeeI am so sorry you went through this!! I was so pissed John kept interrupting you; I feel like you just needed to get it out! My heart goes out for you and I pray you find some peace. 🙏🏻

@bh5082 День назад

Sorry John. This was your worst call yet. You literally asked her, “what happened,” and then cut her off and criticized her for the details she continued to give. It had to have been very confusing for her. She wanted to tell you how she was processing all of this by listing all the details. You should’ve listened to everything she wanted to say, and then told her the ruminating component is not healthy for her. As you say, it could’ve been “both and.” The call could’ve been handled better IMO. Nonetheless, still a fan.

@vidareggum6118 27 минут назад

Did not a one of you saying this actually hear her voice, tone and inflection? I’m sorry, but you all are dead wrong. He did a good job in a very short time with a severly traumatized woman.

@TuMadre6995 День назад

i drive that stretch of road often and there are too many horrible accidents on it. i actually remember hearing about this one on the news but it's so different to actually hear her perspective. my heart breaks for her and everyone involved.

@bts_vintagearmy3754 День назад

SO MANY great ideas for opening up and coping with a horrific situation- thank you for handling this slowly, with patience and love… I pray Toby will start the healing journey with her husband and daughter by her side. ❤

@Kathy-qu8zj 2 дня назад

This lady has CPTSD… I know what that’s like, I was in an auto accident too. She has actual brain damage from this experience which will make her hyper vigilant and more likely ( imo) to be in another accident.. possibly her fault next time. She should absolutely NOT be getting back in a semi truck. Brain trauma of this nature can and should be treated and she also should be compensated as with any other injury. I feel for her so deeply..

@crazeekids9744 2 дня назад

She has PTSD. CPTSD developed after long periods of sustained trauma and abuse.

@Kathy-qu8zj 2 дня назад

@@crazeekids9744 OK

@Noname11364 2 дня назад

No, it is not post traumatic stress disorder, complex in nature… that is reserved for REPEATED traumatic events, over a long period of time, as stated above.

@louisvuitton1859 2 дня назад

CPTSD is “small t” trauma, sustained over long periods of time. (being told “be quiet”, “stop being so loud” as a kid from ages 6-10. not huge by itself, but over time, aggregates to big behavioral changes, or self beliefs) “big t” Trauma (PTSD) is one very traumatizing event (or many huge traumatizing events over a period of time)

@Noname11364 2 дня назад

@@louisvuitton1859 let’s not minimize the CPTSD. CPTSD is being assaulted and impregnated on Monday, nose busted off face on Tuesday, chased off the road on wed, spat on face on thurs, strangled until wet on friday, walls and doors broken on Sat, leg broken on Sunday. Repeat until the law finally decides to not allow bail, while society tells you, you deserved it and enjoy being abused, stalked and terrorized… now THATS CPTSD! Don’t minimize the diagnosis. When someone gets a criminal diagnosis of CPTSD… that’s means TERRORIZED!!

@tritosac 2 дня назад

John stop interrupting the caller. What's your deal man?

@flashthecorgi2053 2 дня назад

He’s doing that on purpose to STOP her from continuing to replay the trauma. Do you see how he keeps asking “ are you with me?” Or “sit with me?” He’s trying to get her to stay present and not get back on the replay of the accident. Delony knows what he is going. To the average person listening him interrupting may seem rude but there’s a greater purpose for it!

@11plus3 День назад

Seriously!!! She is rambling and needs to slow down and breathe. He’s the professional let him do his job and you stay in your lane. Ok? He’s got a handle on this.

@viciousLUA День назад

He is having her slow down her roll. She is speed talking and speeding through the all the various events that happened. She needs to do more introspection.

@tritosac День назад

@@11plus3 Let him do his job? Well, it's not like my comment after the fact STOPPED him during the video. Dumb rabbit!

@tritosac День назад

@@viciousLUA Since when are you a professional to make that assessment? Slow your roll & stay in your lane.

@AzMtns4Me 2 дня назад

Sincere condolences to you and God Bless. My son drives the 93 often as a Tanker Driver. This is our greatest fear.

@machaelaailene День назад

As a wife who almost lost her husband, it is vital that he takes the time to heal as well. The trauma hits just as much but in different ways.

@wrjsn231 2 дня назад

I was in a head-on. He pulled out to pass. I had 1.4 seconds to react. We were trapped in the vehicle for 30 minutes before they cut us out. I saw my passenger’s bones sticking out, and bleeding. I listened to her moan and call out in pain. She passed away. She was my mother.

@joycegreene8600 День назад

I am so sorry you went through that. That must have been horrific for you. I hope that you have found some peace and comfort since then. God bless you 💕

@viciousLUA День назад

Okay that was absolutely hard to read… my goodness the description. My condolences to your mama 🩷

@animatedaries6806 День назад

That’s terrifying

@wrjsn231 День назад

Yes. It has been horrible and terrifying. When my mind flashes back to the sights, sounds, and smells, I practice the “Delony Nope!”, but that doesn’t seem to work very well for the nightmare terrors! Hopefully it will eventually pass.

@Nostradevus1 2 дня назад

If I was a solo bystander to an accident like that I would absolutely be helping the driver who caused the accident last. Not that I’d wish anything bad on him/her, but that’s just the way my brain would process the situation.

@mf8125 2 дня назад

Sometimes you don't know

@Nostradevus1 2 дня назад

@@mf8125 Yes my point was there are 1000 legitimate reasons why no one helped that guy that have nothing to do with her. Or like they mentioned, maybe they tried and couldn’t.

@catH727 2 дня назад

Thank you John! She needed that.

@denisesalles7248 2 дня назад

This poor woman has serious PTSD - I hope she can work with a therapist who can offer multiple therapies (talk, EMDR, possibly ketamine, etc.) Poor thing - so sorry for you emotional distress and the loss you have experienced.

@alfacentauri3686 День назад

Get a special candlestick and light a candle whenever you think of this event, and feel grateful for living another day. We have a small candle on the piano after our still-born son. We still light it at times after 20 years.

@elizabethmurray7815 2 дня назад

Survivor's guilt is hell

@Kathy-qu8zj 2 дня назад

@HorseLady1109 2 дня назад

The cop reacted that way because the average cop sees more death in a year than the average person sees in a lifetime. They see it as it happens….all the blood, the smell, the sounds…..not sanitized in any way. They have emotional calluses just to be able to serve the public. They have trauma, too. Trust me.

@azteca6695 2 дня назад

My dad was in the ER getting assessed by a nurse. I was there with him. They brought in a young man. who was shot. The nurse told me I'll be right back. They couldn't save him. The nurse came back and picked up where she left off. The other nursing staff, who was there on the the kid. where talking about their weekend plans. While I'm sitting next to my dad. In disbelief. "A kid just died!" But for them, it was normal.

@kathleenramirez2379 2 дня назад

More PTSD in cops and firefighters than we realize. Mad respect for them for taking on such a challenging career.

@HanaHana-ft9li 2 дня назад

@@azteca6695I find death very normal and am not a nurse. I don’t know why but I hate to show my emotions esp in front of ppl. I had my best friend died when I was 15 years old. She was so dear to me. Died bcos of unknown disease like within three days of complaining of stomach ache and horrible headache she passed away. I was so shocked. I refused to believe she died until I went to her family home and saw everybody crying. I couldn’t cry I was comforting the mother and started cleaning the house and making food for everyone. Everyone was glad I was there bcos the house was a mess and everyone was ready to eat after several hours of crying. They don’t know I had to find something to do bcos I can’t show emotions nor bare to see others cry. I still don’t cry over the dead I just behave normal in situations like this. I envy ppl who cry out and show emotion. I have no idea if I’m normal but I feel not normal. I feel different than other ppl and this hurts me

@unknownname3189 2 дня назад

They have to do their job, it they breakdown and cry every time someone dies how would they help others.@@azteca6695

@ChrisJericho-yf4db 2 дня назад

Exactly

@calgal5752 2 дня назад

I’m so sorry Tobee. 🙏💕🙏

@sumdankdawg 2 дня назад

My aunt passed away in a drowning last month at 40. Her boyfriend was totally fine … they were on a catamaran (for intermediate- experienced sailors). She’s inexperienced, he has 25+ years experience. They flipped over, he didn’t check to see if she was fine, tried to flip the boat over, found her face down, pulled her 50 ft to shore, didn’t provide chest compressions, remove her life jacket nor her wetsuit… I’m unsure if I should blame him in any way or just accept that it was an accident…

@Jonglohn 2 дня назад

Don’t blame him. You didn’t experience that. He did and it’s not fair for you to decide what should have and could have been done in a situation you couldn’t even imagine being in. It sucks, but don’t blame him.

@susanlovesjava4961 День назад

Unfortunately quite typical for men to drag their girlfriend on activities that they have no experience with and don't provide any training beforehand.

@birsancristina9278 2 дня назад

So terrible. One of my uncles was driving and this woman jumped in front of it. He wasn't prosecuted, there was nothing he could do so on that front he was ok but he never drove again after that. It's been over 30 years since then and he never drove a car. It's just terrible.

@thenubianspeaks4329 2 дня назад

I think it is instructive to observe the idiots hanging around taking pictures rather than trying to help. It says a lot about the society we live in today and everyone wanting to carve out their little moment of glory on Social Media. Sorry, Doc, you might not want to hear but it is really dysfuncitional society we live in and it is getting worse, which alienation, and insensitivity. She sounds like a really sensitive and caring human being and that kind of behavior bothers her, so let her talk about it, rather she can change it or not. She has right to rant.

@truckingwithtobee День назад

I 💯 agree with you! I walked away from this call with a bitter taste in my mouth.

@rajhansakima 2 дня назад

He's giving her the advice she needs, but many are not likely to heed. Many people are not habituated to process pain...slowly. But she HAS to do this to [begin] purging this experience from her soul. I pray her husband joins her in the writing exercise as well. There's a shared trauma here he has to acknowledge and process for her/his/their sake as well.

@MarniTurboHoarder День назад

I really like the idea of writing and sharing the letters It’ll make you guys feel and acknowledge what you’re going through, solidify everything Powerful

@yoavmor9002 2 дня назад

Damn. You need to enter robot mode just to watch this video.

@SoosLives1 День назад

My older brother died at age 22 from a head injury from a pretty bad incident. While I wasn’t there physically, turning 23 some year back started giving me some sort of survivor’s guilt. Questions like, “He’s the eldest, he should be here getting older with us. Why am I the older one now? I shouldn’t be. Why him?” I’m 27 now, and I still miss him. I’ll miss the older brother advice he would’ve had. Especially when it comes to dealing with mom. 🤣 I spoke with my mom about my feelings, and she told me she had the same questions like “Why him and not me?” Her advice was to just live how they would’ve wanted you to. Keep them alive in memory.

@ElsaGabrielaMitreLópez День назад

I cried the whole video long... sending this lady and her family many prayers...you deserve your place on earth toby you survived a heck of a terrifying ordeal but you are just as worthy of everything as you were one second before your life changed..go get everything you wish for ...all the best

@furryplantsandcoins9070 2 дня назад

I don't know if anybody else is having the same issue but... The way John talked to this caller was BS! If this would have been your mother or your sister John would you have treated her that way? The amount of times you interrupted her! Not to mention the tone of your voice! I don't know I just did not care for it!

@ChrisJericho-yf4db 2 дня назад

I think maybe he was just trying to follow the story. I know I was having a hard time because she talked to fast

@catH727 2 дня назад

Why are you here. It’s his method to help gain control of a situation

@positvelyexpectant1383 День назад

Same, wrote something similar above. He handled this call terribly, that poor lady.

@humbledwarrior3314 2 дня назад

I felt guilty for my ex too because his mom died on the night he went out with me. I felt like what if he was with his mom that night, he could maybe save her…

@brimarie1632 День назад

Where im from there was a woman that hit a girl who stepped out into the road to get to her school bus all while her own baby was in the car. I still think about her from time to time because in a situation like that no one wins. I just try to hope that life doesn’t end here. What type of cruel game are we playing if all Life is work for 50 years before you retire hopefully and then hope to wither away to old age. There has to be more to this

@jackcurl2005 День назад

I had to stop watching at the horror of the whole situation when she was telling the policeman. I'll continue in a minute, but it struck me that she experienced two deaths that day. The first was the destruction of her of her business before her very eyes, and the second was she was there in the death of the man. There's nothing she could have done for either one of those situations. She definitely need somebody to help her, to help her emotionally. She is still stuck on that day, and like Dr. John said in the beginning she's just turned into a robot, and that's the only way she's able to handle it right now.

@truckingwithtobee День назад

That assessment was wrong. That’s not what I’m doing. I wouldn’t be looking for help or I would not have called the show if that was the case.

@gilbertlopez2333 День назад

My fiancés dad passed from a sudden cardiac arrest and she had to do cpr on her own father, that was four years ago now and she still can’t forgive herself :/. Tough

@NvrDieNvrSurrender День назад

I know this may not help because TV shows make it seem like CPR works more often than it does, but she really did everything right! Most of the time, there's nothing we could do even though we are doing everything for them. As someone who used to work in law enforcement, dealing with life & death, I hope she knows that she did everything right by doing CPR on her own Dad! She is beyond brave for having the wherewithal & fortitude to jump into action for her own dad. My heart goes out to her, I hope that she realizes just how amazing she is!

@RG-hf4et День назад

This topic & pain is too complex for a single phone call. She needs deep therapy. Nobody can change what happened. It's a horrible tragedy, but it is going to take time to emotionally heal.

@fire12731 День назад

John stop interrupting

@mindianaj0nes День назад

It was so cringey to watch him silence her over and over.

@sharonb519 День назад

He pisses me off to no end when he does this! Let her talk and get it out !!

@Mooseberryies 2 дня назад

My husband was in a car crash with a semi , his little sister and his mom and step dad they hit the semi and hit the side rails and the engine crushed his moms legs , step dad was less injured (driver) husband was behind driver he had his spleen, removed two floating ribs and was told that he if he lives the surgery he’s only gonna live to 30 and right now he is 22 and has kids with me .his sister. She broke her neck and if she wasn’t wearing a seatbelt and she was sleeping and she ended up on the floor, crushed in between the driver and the passenger seats and the back seats , but his sister was airlifted to the next city over and she was in critical condition and we thought we were gonna lose his sister and him the same night but luckily they are still alive. All just cause his step dad wanted to hit a dab pen and it fell on the floor

@viciousLUA День назад

Omg!!!! What??? A dab pen with kiddos in the back? Thank goodness they’re alive!!! 🩷

@animatedaries6806 День назад

My brother is a truck driver and I couldn’t imagine him being her or others drivers position. :(

@MsJoyce31202 2 дня назад

Shheez. Those trucks burning so fast.

@Thesussysuscat День назад

As a semi driver this head on collusion is one of my big fears. Think about it alot when leaving my kids in the morning

@viciousLUA День назад

Pray for your safety always 🩷

@MsJoyce31202 2 дня назад

Survivor's guilt? She's hurt and is scared of the right now and future. She never said "Why me"? though.

@positvelyexpectant1383 День назад

Sometimes I get when John does this, but I think constantly cutting off or stopping the person is off putting. Let them vent, get the story out and then you can pivot but 3-4 times of doing and his tone, was a bit disrespectful. She's clearly still dealing with a lot and wants an outlet, let her say what she needs to.

@justinewhite-hadley3138 2 дня назад

Good God Almighty.....sweet lady, I am so so sorry. 😢

@mrsh2167 2 дня назад

praying

@carolineb7796 День назад

John is so annoying in this call with his stop stop stop stoooppp whoa whoa whoaaaaa shut up shut up hold on hoooooold on. 😡

@auroraguzbeth2255 День назад

I am waiting for the book ‘6 seconds away’ Writing a book heals a lot 🙏

@RenovationsandRepair День назад

lol he is going slow and slowing the conversation down like he is paid by the hour.

@erinhawkins-terriquez7173 2 дня назад

I just got chills. Baby you cant blame yourself. What could you have done? Nothing. God saved you, this happened for a reason. Please Please Please Don't forget to love yourself and understands god has a plan. I'm so so sorry.

@delightschwartz2155 День назад

This hit me in the gotchas. I'm an OTR driver, only got to drive one yr. Been back home because the hubby's health was worsening and I just couldn't throw him under the bus. I've driven that route and it, and so many other routes like it, can be utterly treacherous. I narrowly escaped going thru our truck's windshield on Donner Pass, my codriver was finishing up his shift but he had to lock up the brakes with everything he had to avoid hitting a terrible 18 wheeler wreck that had totally blocked the road... on a downslope. Our trailer almost jackknifed. I was coming down the ladder but lost my grip and went airborne off that ladder. All we could smell afterwards was the smoke from burning tire rubber. It's amazing how fast 80k lbs can move when you're praying for a couple more seconds of braking time to avoid the wreck and not go off the cliff. I also had someone pull a gun on me at a stoplight because they were drunk and pissed off. But the nottom line was that we survived. Maybe telling this tale will help the next driver slow down and think twice before driving so recklessly. Extra important what with new drivers with lots to learn. Bless your heart. You will find peace.

@dennisleporte2327 2 дня назад

We don't get to choose. My grandmother used to say "let her cry it out". The emotion needs to get out. I had a best friend drop dead 2 hrs before I was supposed to pick him up for work. Why him not me ?

@Younghypes День назад

Wow this one hits home I’m a truck driver as well last month I was going to work. I was on the 215 freeway 2 lane highway 3am in my personal vehicle and a car was parked in the number 1 lane no hazard lights no running lights and if anyone knows that freeway in Cali by San Bernardino knows it’s really dark area by the time I seen the car I swerved and ended up rolling and everything turned into slow motion sparks everywhere while I’m sliding upside down finally my car stoped and I ended up on the right shoulder my adrenaline kicked in my window was busted I took off my seatbelt some bystanders let me use there phone and next thing you know the bystander says oh another one I hear screeching the car I hit another car hit that one and ended up 10 feet from my car. Everyone was fine and I only got a broken foot but I’m scared to drive now and I can still smell that burning smell. Prayers to all in this video that’s traumatic.

@bobbaldwin9267 День назад

I've lived that, the other woman didn't sometimes I can talk about it other times I don't want to, it's been 15 years. One night I was in the yard late, everyone else was sleeping and I thought ,at least I'm still here looking after them I went in lit a candle said a few words to Her and God, had some more thoughts them I blew the candle out and said goodbye.

@calebchristian404 День назад

I thought John interrupted and stopped her too many times. The one at 5:25 I thought was over the top

@tomw485 День назад

Agreed… I think he should have let her keep going. In recent calls I’ve been noticing him do this kind of thing more often. Interrupting and steering the interaction in ways that I’m not sure is all that helpful. He’s telling the callers to calm down, breathe and live in the moment when they’re just talking like a normal person. It makes sense when someone’s being hysterical or they’re all over the place with their thoughts. But lately he just seems to really be overdoing it. It’s almost like he’s manufacturing fake hysteria when they’re doing okay in the moment. Just starting to feel way too contrived at times.

@mindianaj0nes День назад

@@tomw485Agree. It was really cringey this time.

@pamhop5831 День назад

He’s a Therapist 💙😭💙

@mindianaj0nes День назад

@@pamhop5831 He's got some degrees, but I can't find evidence that he has any clinical experience as a therapist. But even if he were a therapist, I'm not sure how that relates to this thread?

@flashthecorgi2053 Час назад

@@mindianaj0nesHe was a clinical therapist in Texas. An LPC. He chose not to get licensed in the state of TN to avoid their stupid regulations. He makes it clear this show is NOT therapy. There is a big disclaimer in EVERY show you can find in the description that reads: “These platforms contain content, including information provided by guests, that is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional medical, counseling, therapeutic, financial, legal, or other advice. The Lampo Group, LLC d/b/a Ramsey Solutions as well as its affiliates and subsidiaries (including their respective employees, agents and representatives) make no representations or warranties concerning the content and expressly disclaim any and all liability concerning the content including any treatment or action taken by any person following the information offered or provided within or through this show. If you have specific concerns or a situation in which you require professional advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified professional expert and specialist. If you are having a health or mental health emergency, please call 9-1-1 immediately.”

@aelh123 2 дня назад

Jesus Christ, I’m so sorry this happened to you guys 💔 I’m so sorry , may God heal you ❤️‍🩹 it wasn’t your fault

@d.j.daugherty4945 День назад

Not necessarily in the same ball park but after seeing my mom and best friend die during hospice when I did everything I could IMO and was there for them.. I cannot imagine this scenario really. You have to be a different breed to recover. Stay strong.

@cathyosullivan718 2 дня назад

How can people start videotaping such trauma? I remember seeing accidents when I was younger, and people would line up to watch. Why be so morbid?

@hansonallie 2 дня назад

It’s pretty eff’d…

@thenubianspeaks4329 2 дня назад

So they can upload it on youtube and make money, simple as that. Just about everything in this society is about money. Capitalism has become obscene over the year, warping people's mentality and values.

@ChrisJericho-yf4db 2 дня назад

It's the technology period that's killing humanity. If people didn't have phones they may think to help. It could be thr whole attention seeking thing and money but bottom line is technology like phones/tablets ruining everything.

@josephjones4207 2 дня назад

Married at 16

@hiddenhand6973 2 дня назад

Praying for you, miss. Please pray the rosary every day.

@AaAa-ri4uf 2 дня назад

she needs to see a professional therapist

@Brandon-qr6rg 2 дня назад

He's not?

@ChrisJericho-yf4db 2 дня назад

I was thinking the same. @ brandon I'm sure she doesn't see this dude regularly. Therapists you usually have appointments with every so often.

@curiouslyme524 2 дня назад

@Brandon-qr6rg Over time, in-person sessions.

@truckingwithtobee День назад

I am.

@BigRed2 2 дня назад

Dude let her talk

@fitkiwi1970 День назад

@truckingwithtobee Sending you lots of healing thoughts and love from the other side of the world.

@W.Holden.6 День назад

John Delony masterclass on this one

@Krista823 День назад

Blake Martinez ❤❤❤

@elanafelberg1733 День назад

I am crying!...........

@lizzy9975 День назад

I can't imagine anything worse. She's still in shock. She needs to grieve. The only way to reconcile yourself with such a tragic event is that God has a time, a place, and an alloted amount of time on this beautiful planet for each of us. It was just his time to return to Jesus. And not yours. Police have to deal with this every day. They might sound hard, but if they don't compartmentalise, they'd just be a mess. The greatest gift she can give herself is to forgive herself. And then live every moment as if it was her last.

@kimberlygorgoglione9237 День назад

She needs to take a leave of absence from work, forget about the house and go into trauma therapy.

@royalredus 2 дня назад

I absolutely hate when John goes "stop stop stop stop stooooop...". It SO condescending to someone who's already hurting.

@flashthecorgi2053 2 дня назад

He does that on purpose to shock someone though. It jolts them out of their “robot mode” as he calls it. John’s talked about why he does it several times even though it may sound rude or condescending. There’s a reason for it!

@royalredus 2 дня назад

@@flashthecorgi2053 Oh we're all well aware of WHY he does it, but it can be done in a kinder way, especially without the long, final, whining "stoooop" at the end.

@flashthecorgi2053 2 дня назад

@@royalredus Again he does it to jolt someone. He wants it to be abrupt. It’s not supposed to be “kind”.

@royalredus 2 дня назад

@@flashthecorgi2053 No, you can be abrupt AND not condescending. He himself has used better methods for getting callers to snap out of a spiral.

@flashthecorgi2053 2 дня назад

@@royalredus How is saying STOP condescending? Please tell me? Because I’m pretty sure he thanked this called several times, told her he’s grateful she’s alive, grateful she’s in the gang, grateful that she made it out, etc. Dr. John was the most empathetic in this call. Not condescending at all!

@MrCelticatheart 2 дня назад

Head knowledge is not Soul knowledge

@CouponCutie-s2m День назад

Filming someone who is dying makes them more likely to die bc you're stressing them out and they need that energy to fight for their life. YTA ppl

@joannehetherington445 2 дня назад

❤❤❤it will take time but it will pass and not be so vivid

@johngallo4159 День назад

After the sentence of he was screaming, I stopped listening

@vixter28 2 дня назад

😢🙏💔

@supernotnatural День назад

Glad that she survived because it wasn't her fault. It was HIS fault %100. You make stupid choices, win stupid prizes! Don't overtake like you are great..