@@pimaggot Exactly... no reason he will leave Russia and the women for an American. Come on. Exactly why Russians think American's are stupid. Go visit him in Russia even then you can't uncover it all.
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@@pimaggot because they are desperate to leave their country. Desperate people do Desperate things and anything- Russian women/ foreign woman are in survival mode to have a better life.
15 seconds on Google and I literally found three entry-level marketing positions posted this week in Fresno... But sister is going to move to Los Angeles with no experience...
I just moved to LA with 3 years of experience and it still took MONTHS to find my job! It’s a GREAT job now but I postponed moving by over a year so I could find the job before moving. I really hope this girl makes a wise decision.
I grew up in LA and I never understood why people flock there. It's expensive, the people are rude, and everything is fake. I bet half the people on skid row had the same dreams.
Well I used to wanna be an actor. Make fun if you want but now as I've gotten older..and I never moved to LA but I have visited...I figured out that I love the South (especially with this election going on..I would be a total outcast in another part of the country) and I love to live like 30 minutes from a big city but live in the countriyish area...not too country but small enough town where people are rioting in the streets I guess.
6 years later. "My Russian husband became a US citizen and divorced me, leaving me with tons of debt & 2 kids. Now I'm back living with my family in Fresno ".
He won’t wait that long and the damage he leaves in his wake long after he’s gone will continue to haunt her because if he’s not a citizen when he leaves her she’ll still be responsible for everything he does in this country. It’s no different than being responsible for anything a minor child does except he’s no child and has no incentive to do the right thing once here.
Ehhh... not really. People in SF are moving to LA because it’s cheaper. And by that I mean, SF is $2000-$3000 a month for a one bedroom while LA is $1500-2000. Anyone poorer that could afford to move is leaving. Edited for clarity.
She won't especially if this dude is on some bad stuff he probably convinced her of all this they make you uproot yourself and move away from people close to you then you go missing it's true man that trafficking thing and he could just be trying to get citizenship and then move on
I mean my thought is - unless she knows him from like school, where she actually knows him - it doesn't make any sense to attach yourself to someone who is currently in Russia & you're trying to make plans *in the middle of a pandemic*. Now if they know each other it may be a different story.
As someone who worked at Target for exactly 3 years and 1 day, I can tell you first hand that they WILL give you a $50,000+ a year management job just for having a college degree. So she definitely was not applying herself and didn't care to.. Target does a lot of business with high end retailers and designers so that would be a perfect segway into the line of work she wants to get into.
Huge Kudos Dave! I'm a former Law Enforcememt Officer and Military Vet and we are on the same page about this scenerio. Red Flags all over place for this young girl. Hope she steps back and takes a mature look at this because it is scary and very dangerous.
She makes $20k a year, has an oversees bf from Russia that is planning on moving here, both want to move to Los Angelos together, with 0 marketing experience hoping to get into her dream job.... smh. Sounds like this is not gonna end well.
@@TaylorEmmersen the length of time you’ve been with him is irrelevant. You need to establish your own life. You are showing extremely codependent tendencies living with mom and dad and then spending NO time to establish yourself and your career before running away with a dude. Idc if he’s from Russia or down the street, either way you need to establish yourself with out mom, dad, or boyfriend.
If the girl who called in reads this : hun, I AM AN EX RUSSIAN. I currently live in the UK (normally) but am temporarily in Russia. Let me say this. This is said out of love, and deep compassion. I am 25, finished a degree in marketing. Also feeling that uncertainty, I understand why latching on to the idea of LA and love is the most comforting thing. But as a RUSSIAN, I am saying to you, BEWARE. Russians, are notorious for using ANY MEANS NESSESARY to LEAVE RUSSIA AND MOVE. Russian men, and charming, and handsome, and clever, and calculative. It is VERY likely, this isn’t as beautiful as it seems. Long story short, hi. If you want to just chat to someone about this I’m honestly here, and I could evaluate this from a Russian expat perspective. If you don’t, let me say this, if they are from ANYWHERE BUT MOSCOW, it is VERY untrustworthy. The REGIONS and MOSCOW are two different versions of Russia. The REGIONS will do anything to leave the regions, and tldr caution is what if advise
St Petersburg is iffy. It’s what we call a major city yes but not the same level as Moscow is. But anything that isn’t Moscow or St Petersburg is considered “regions” (even if it is a million city). Plainly put, regions,are a whole different level of needy for other options. OF COURSE, this is a MASSIVE generalisation, you cant boil down someone’s core personality based on a city, but it is perhaps that one extra percent you may want to be aware of
My hubby is from Germany but he's Russian descent. Everytime he sees a Russian guy or girl trying to immigrate here he laughs because he's know they're trying to escape. They try to do that in Germany too.
The moment this boyfriend asks for money to pay for the flight to the States, you can be pretty sure it's a scam. Chances are you will never hear from him again. There are a lot of cases out there with that tragic storyline.
She should stay in Fresno with her parents and get SOME experience doing ANY kind of marketing, before moving to LA with a "boyfriend" you've never met in person.
She’s right about Fresno nowheresVille. The Russian boyfriend ain’t getting a job at LAX airport he’s not a citizen or permanent green card holder and Air travel is way down so they aren’t hiring Good advice Dave ..!
RE The Marketing Career: As someone that works in design and majored in in college, you're probably NOT going to get the perfect job or the specific industry you're looking for. Doesn't mean it can't happen, but the problem of limiting your marketing expertise right out of college to cosmetics/luxury retail would cripple your career takeoff. My first job in my career was designing apartment community websites. Use your first marketing gig as a stepping stone, because I can assure you that it's way better and easier to work in marketing in some other industry and gaining experience until you find a cometic/luxury retail marketing job, than making $20k at Target with no marketing experience.
Also, it's a pandemic. Pretty much any company that's doing business correctly has a majority of their employees working remotely. Look up remote gigs, but don't limit yourself to fkn cosmetics and luxury retail.
Sounds like the "stranded lover" romance scam. My guess is he will start asking for "travel money" real soon. "Oh baby, I really want to be with you - if only I had $5,000."
My grandma has given tens of thousands of dollars to multiple different catfish scammers that say that they are rich and want to take her to travel the world.... but he needs $1200 to get out prison in Turkey because he works offshore and there was a passport misunderstanding.
@@ChadKirk . Oh my world, that’s what these guys used to say to me..my response: “call me when you have money to send me because I am totally broke” and I would blocked them.
Agreed. I was very codependent in relationships so I decided to stay single and move out on my own even though I was scared. Best decision I’ve ever made.
She sounds very young and naive. I met my husband online we were both 21. 14years later we are still together and he moved to my country. Not everyone on the internet is out to scam you but you have to have enough common sense to pay attention to the signs that things may not be what they say it is.
Californian who lives abroad - my British husband and I have investigated relocating our family back to the US for years and know that - there is ZERO possibility that some guy from Russia can show up in America right now and be able to get any kind of a job. If you come to the US with a specialised skillset you can possibly get sponsored by a company that wants you so much they are willing to go through all the paperwork and hassle and expense of hiring this person, but they need to be able to prove that the job could not be done by a legal American. In the BEST of situations - it will take 18-24 months for a SPOUSE to get a Green Card and be able to work in the US. And as far as Los Angeles goes, people are leaving in DROVES because they can't find reasonable priced housing. Working people in LA are living in their cars because they can't afford rent. This woman needs a wakeup call. How did she get through University? She needs to get a job - any job and start paying back those student loans because the interest Doesn't stop accumulating just because you aren't being asked to make payments. The majority of people graduating now can't earn enough to ever pay back their student loans and it becomes a millstone around their necks, and the necks of anyone stupid enough to be a co-signer for student loans - for the rest of their lives. In order for this guy to get into America from Russia, he will have to be sponsored in order to stay on anything other than a tourist visa. And if he has a tourist visa he will not be allowed to work. The only people that would hire and illegal from Russia are doing illegal and dangerous things - and that's somebody you don't want to be anywhere around. This girl needs a very strong talking to. It's not hard to verify anything I've said about visas and working conditions and living conditions in LA etc. It's not the same world it was in the 1980's when many of us travelled and worked all over the world. Working laws and visas are much harder to get now than they ever have been.
Everything you said is correct, but I think spouses get a temporary green card allowing them to work, followed by the permanent green card 1-2 years later. If I'm not mistaken, the foreign spouse can actually apply for citizenship after 3 years.
@@GUITARTIME2024 And every step of the way costs money. That dream of hers already has so much money tied up in it they’ll have to do illegal or immoral things to be able to come up with that kind of money. I don’t see any other way. And LAX? Why on Earth would you want to work at an airport of all places?! Seems fishy to me.
You should live with someone before you marry them but after it looks like it's going the marriage route. No good marrying someone to find out they can't wipe their own arse.
Fresno Caller, LA is expensive, has major homeless issues, and currently the pandemic job market is not good. You really dont know what you are doing. And some Russian dude who "wants to work at LAX" sounds shady. (Also, if you marry him, you are on the hook the next 10 years if he leaves you and applies for any U.S. welfare, WIC card, subsidized housing, etc. The Fed govt will sue you for any funds he gets. This doesn't even include how your credit rating can get totally jacked up.). PLEASE get real.
This is really Jerry Springer material. I know a young girl who has a degree in fashion design (4 year college) in Los Angeles. She found out the reality of this industry. Just this year, she finished her PHD in physical therapy!
I love that Dave used the word “fantasy” lol so many people who live in LA moved there under a fantasy with no talent thinking the city will make them successful. This is 2020. You don’t need to live in places like that anymore, especially for marketing. Build yourself up locally, then regionally, then nationally, then internationally. Not everyone can get passed all those levels. That’s how it works.
Yet .....a majority of big influencers and marketing folks live in LA . There is a reason for it , there are more opportunities to expand into other industries there . It’s not a great fit for most , but along with NY it’s the most lucrative part of the country .
@@razojacqueline you don’t start in high-end. You work your way up. That’s the point. That’s like saying “you just graduated film school yesterday, direct this 200mil feature film for us please” lol you gotta make student films and short films first. You don’t just go from 0-100, which is her plan. High risk with relative reward to the local or regional market. There’s also other cities than LA.. ever hear of the internet? Most marketing people I know work from home.
@@bangladeshirealtor Funny... I thought the global market was bigger than NY or LA 🧐 weird how a career from home, online opens up even more possibilities than limiting yourself to one expensive city. Most marketing people I know, who work for BIG clients, work from home or own their own marketing company. Also, her chances of just graduating and working in high-end marketing are slim to none, no matter what city she lives in. You gotta start smaller. If you’re good, and a big city is your goal, it’ll eventually happen. Just don’t dive into the ocean without knowing how to swim for a man you’ve never met lol
@@RyanAnthonyDigitalMedia I don’t disagree with you , I was just stating the reality . A lot of opportunities exists in those 2 cities . This caller is strictly looking at domestic opportunities, and so is her significant other . So anything international is an irrelevant point lol . You are stating the obvious there . You don’t necessarily have to start in a small city . She more so has to have roommates after getting an entry level opportunity in LA until her BF can get a work visa and help contribute on housing where they can split rent . I actually listened to the call rather than make assumptions. There are lifestyle desires and factors in play as well.
My only thing is she never said she hasn’t met him. However, all the points I agree with. Don’t move with the boyfriend, get yourself some confidence then live your life.
Agreed. She didn’t relationship in detail. What if she is of Russian decent and used to live there herself? Or he could have been a foreign student at her college here in the US. Not saying these are the likely scenarios but she didn’t elaborate so not sure why they are following the narrative that this guy is a catfish.
And she didn’t say she was helping him immigrate- but I think it’s her naïveté about the rest of her “plan” that gives the sense that she may be gullible enough to get catfished.
@@olivias2836 Maybe his family is well off and he already has relatives living in LA. There are a lot of nouveau riche in Russia, some are wealthier than Dave Ramsey :), hence the “living together in LA and working in luxury retail marketing” fantasy. But the LAX job sounds weird, and in any case she doesn’t seem mature enough for a long-term relationship.
She can do all that online. No need to move. Work at home with her own online marketing business. That or there are companies that hire online marketers as well
No one wants to sit at home working behind a pc all day, and no employer would hire anyone remotely if there's any chance they could find someone willing to work on site
@@Simon-oy7kf Absolutely no one? Hmm that's funny; have you ever worked in that field? There's a huge network of entrepreneurs and people online working from home. It's nice to not have to depend on someone else for your salary. But whatever floats your boat negative Nancy
This woman is never going to work in any kind of marketing role. She all but admitted it in this call. "There are no marketing opportunities in Fresno?" "Well there are but... I'd rather work at Target and just talk about how I am going to move to LA and get a marketing job instead".
Los Angeles has one of the worst job markets for a major city in the world. I lived there for 10 years and as soon as I moved to NY my income and opportunities shot up substantially. Los Angeles is a dead city.
Best case scenario, two young people in love with no jobs in a very expensive city. He has no credit, she gets in debt all during the pandemic. Then the only option is to return home with her parents because she is all his support system.
She can build her career path with Target as a cosmetic marketer in couple of years to gain experience and increase her salary. Pay off the student loans and then transition to high end. Some of these young people don't want to crawl before running. They just want to run and live that Instagram life. Slow down and let that boyfriend sort himself out and also build financially.
Hard to believe that with all the info out there, for years now, that girls still fall for these overseas scams. Also, the fact he "Wants to work at LAX" to me screams smuggler.
That young lady must 🛑 ✋ stop/ go back 🛑 I’m an older lady who married a man from Montana who said all the right things even knew the Christian books I read and read them to me..,Left my house 🏡 and all I knew with love and hope in my heart when he came to get me after month’s of talking and shared dreams of ranch life and family ties and church. We married and by Christmas I was newly married homeless and shamed. NEVER trust a situation like this., It will take years to regain your personal and financial life.
@@blackworldtraveler3711 I know so many people who think it’s ok to be renting as they hit 50 in HCOL cities. Retirement will be nearly impossible as rents keep increasing.
As a fellow Fresnan, I'd agree that there aren't many marketing type jobs here. However, this girl definitely needs a better plan that focuses on her and not a relationship.
She could do some low level marketing as a free lancer. Making offers to small businesses. Shooting videos, writing better copy for their websites, organizing social media / FB ad campaigns for her. (if she works on a success related base she could sell that even now. She controlls the metrics and details of such a campaign, she would learn a LOT how to tweak such campaigns. and it is knowledge that makes you independent (you can make a living being self employed, you can make extra money, you can work outside the expensive areas). Being good in online marketing is a skill that she can sell as free lancer to smaller companies OR it can land her job opportunities. It also shows a potential high end employer that she is resourceful, determined, can execute a plan. Carving out a niche as free lancer is harder than working as employee, and recruiters KNOW that. Might not make a lot of money, but she is making contacts. with some luck a business contact in Fresno knows someone in L.A. S.F. or N.Y. It would look good on her resume. She would learn about marketing herself. And freelancers work from home anyway. She could contact freelancers and offer to help. If _that_ works out, she has a foot in the door to become a freelancer herself, and she LEARNS a lot of things. In marketing you have to be resourceful. She isn't. At all. So either she does not (yet) have what it takes - or there are some serious psychological issues, that hinder her to spread her wings at least in the career. There is no shame in not being a super ambitious, driven person - but then you should not "dream" of moving to L.A. where they are just waiting to provide you with your dream job. The times where you got a degree and then the secure jobs line up are over, marketing graduates are a dime a dozen. In L.A. - and in a high end (prestigious) niche ??? She is going to have a lot of very passionate, driven, ambitious, determined, resourceful, smart competition. (Methinks she hopes she will find a job where she can FALL AGAIN into a structure like College was a structure, or living with her parents was a structure. Not gonna happen in this era, and definitely NOT in L.A. in a high end field.) Not many opportunities in Fresno. She could try to CARVE out her niche. And she is a fish in a _smaller_ pond. if she - for now - goes for the less attractive jobs or gigs she at least gets experience. And trains her frustration tolerance / resilience (that will come in handy if she ever moves to L.A.). Luckily she can live with parents for cheap.
Honestly as a person who works in high end beauty she can literally work from home to do that work. Many beauty companies use freelancers or outsource to different marketing companies. THERE IS A PANDEMIC and people in marketing are working from home. If her job really needs her to move she should; but more often that not a quick zoom call and a bunch of emails later she can work from home. Save money and don't move to LA. Paying a lot of $$$ to live next to a homeless person if you do.
When my brother was 16 yrs old he Spend alot of time online on a website called "cool teen chat." Eventually he fell in love with a girl around his age. She send him a 💍 wedding ring A ▶️VCR, a 🖥computer monitor (which I still keep as a souvenir). He never met her but he romance her really well. He sing her songs He spend hours on the phone with her until they fall asleep. All that romantic stuff. they planned to meet but she got into an 🤞🏼accident that threatened her life. Long story short she was a faker at that time She was 40+yrs and was married. That was almost 20 yrs ago She is around 60yrs old now 😦 she is older than our mom! Still I think that relationship that my brother had with that woman was the best that she ever had.
This screams trafficking to me. I really hope she didn’t do it...she’s a little naive and immature. Get established and grow yourself independently first. Would love an update from this one .
Yeah maybe I'm wrong but generally speaking it's probably not a good idea to make people you never met that live in another distant country your boy/girl friend.. This is probably true even if you met them 1ce or 2ce
This reminds me of that call Dave got from that girl who was wanting to marry the guy from the Dominican Republic. Video is titled as “This Call Scares Me” if I remember correctly.
Why not just apply for jobs and move once you've landed a job? Just remove the boyfriend out of the equation. If you want to go to LA, find a job there, and go. If you can't find a job, don't go.
As an immigrant myself, this scared me as well. I remember when my girlfriend (now wife) told her parents that we were dating, they told her to be careful and make sure that I was dating and tried to marry her for the citizenship. I remembered being quite annoy at that but now, knowing my in laws, I understand why they were worried. There are a lot of bad people out there and usually, they ruin good people reputation, so better "be wise as serpents and innocent as doves"
As a Fresnan, I guarantee she can get a job here easier than in LA. And save A LOT on cost of living compared to LA! Fresno is not as dry of opportunity as these whiny millennials make it out to be.
As long as she considers the high minded plans in the far away city with the far away boyfriend - she can excape the reality that it might be hard to get even any ! marketing job in Fresno. The common sense thing would be to get a job in marketing no matter how lowly. Or to work as a freelancer. Even an internship would be better (for 2 months or so). At best that is some psychological issue, where she does not dare to spread her wings. (I am all for her staying with the parents, but at least in the work field she could start growing up). Insteads she pursues TWO unrealistic scenarios (well three). Good job in a specific niche of her profession (and she does not bother to get any related experience). The far away "boyfriend". Making it in the VERY expensive city that spits out (ambitious) people with a plan. She is either very naive or has psychological issues that make her falling for delusions.
Thèse cities have one million people who are more ambitious already there, so it is incredibly difficult to get established. Throwing away security to be with someone that you do not know in person is so risky. This girl is scaring me with her plan. She sounds like she is chasing a nightmare that she might regret ten years from now. I hope I am wrong.
The girl needs to take a marketing job even if it’s not exactly what she wants. Get that resume going. Regardless of if the boyfriend is genuine or if he plans to use her for several years is irrelevant. She needs to get her resume going and secure a job in LA before moving. As far as the boyfriend getting a job at LAX, I think that’s going to be quite difficult. He should establish a plan B as well or move here with at least (barest of minimum) 25k USD to help him support himself the first year he’s here looking for a job. If he knows 2+ languages it will be easier to find a job but the competition in LA is steep. If they went for a smaller metro area of a big city / 30-45 minutes from one they can likely live a more comfortable lifestyle and find jobs.
My fiance is Russian and I can't say anything bad about the Russians i have met. That being said people from all over the world are willing to do anything to get into the US. My fiance got her citizenship before we met so there was no worry of that for me. She needs to get her life together before she complicates it with a person from anywhere, much less the other side of the world.
Ya. Get out there an become a strong independent woman. That's what makes a perfect wife. Every real man is looking for that for sure. Only a guy with daughters would encourage that.
She must be BIG mad. I see she has replied to several of the comments. Sometimes experience is the best teacher because she believes none of what you guys told her about this guy..smh
Yup. It seems that Communism has become a synonym for anything vaguely non-democratic (not that I condone Communism, it's still pretty bad). Unfortunately, Russia does seem to be moving towards Authoritarianism.
I have told my 17 this!! She has got an attitude with me over friends I deemed inappropriate and actions she didn’t care for it. I stated clearly my house my rules if you don’t want to abide to may move out
Wasn’t there a call like this where a girl who never met her fiancé and only saw his mechanic bf in pictures wanted to bring him to America. Papa Dave stepped in to advise her on not to do this.
One of the first things that caught my attention, is the boyfriend is going to move from Russia to get a job at LAX. Really? For one thing, there can't be many jobs at an airport in the middle of a pandemic. For another thing, he will probably just be moving baggage if he can get a job. Then, there will probably be all manner of security checks on a foreign national until he can afford to pay for citizenship, even if she does marry him. I've seen cute women immigrate from that area and marry just to get citizenship, then maybe move on or maybe not. What a mess.
So many ppl grow up being told they can do whatever they want and have their dream job handed over on a platter. At least for me in an engineering degree, the only people who could actually do whatever they wanted were the top 3-4 kids. That's it. Everyone else yeah you could get good money but you'd have to make compromises like working in the middle of nowhere. Sometimes that's what you have to do to eventually get to the dream job but kids now don't understand the process.
I received an email from a Nigerian princess looking to marry me and inherit her family’s fortune of $500 million. I just need to provide citizen clearance for her 10 associates and provide a $10,000 account startup fee to transfer this wealth. I have proof this is real because she showed me a picture of herself looking strangely similar to actress Halle Berry but this just means she’s just that beautiful of a model! /sar
This is why there are so many homeless in LA. People from all over move here and have no plan but assume they're going to "make it". LA is BRUTAL, don't move here unless you have an impeccable work ethic, business connections, or acclimated friends prepared to help you who already live here.
This is crazy... She's too young to be making this decision... She needs to worry about herself before she worries about anything else. Grow professionally, personally, and financially first WHILE being at your parent's house. She has such a good situation right now and she's going to throw it away... Smh
Korey Paul So sorry, I didn’t get the facetious vibe in your comment. Maybe adding a 😉 imogee would have helped me with the uptake. Have a wonderful day!