I’m absolutely in agreement. I had to do a reset this year because of life and I found friends doing my reset that make this much more enjoyable man. Do your own thing that makes you happy. The subs are here for you
The one issue that I’ve had with trying to find friends is either A) they SAY they’re interested but when time comes they back out, and B) trying to find somebody who won’t bail. It’s a tough thing to do, trying to open a shop and finding those people you can trust
Don't worry man, a full reset at 29 years old is so good. You learned a lot in a short period of your life, and now you know your boundaries going forward. Get back to where you're from, and settle down for a bit. Set yourself up with a good group of partners/friends and take on new work that excites you, and that you can balance with your personal life, which is most important. You'll get through this man.
Kalvin is going through what many of us as men go through. Burn out and losing your taste for the thing you were so passionate about. Life is not easy and him being so open about his struggles is good for our community.
I am not saying this to toot my own horn in any way shape or form but man this comment really helped me feel like i am not alone. Was making well over 6 figures, buying things i thought would make me happy. Burnt out. Took a break and now idk what to do. I know money wont buy me happiness so i dont feel motivated and that hunger i felt 2 years ago.
Man, I rarely ever comment on YT but I feel that this is one of those times when I really have to. It was late 2014 when I discovered some YT Channel from a guy with an RB swapped 240sx, this guy would get crazy stuff done on his garage and that really inspired me to get myself my first project car, with a RB20 in mind as one of my goals. Fast forward to 2022, I got myself a Laurel C35 with an RB20 NEO that wasn't even running for around $1100, by then end of that same year it was back in the streets, it barely run mind you. It's been a 8 years trip to get where I am, but what made me want to be here in the first place was you. I know things will be hard as shit for you know, but I'm sure as heck you'll get through this and come back stronger than ever.
I'll be forever grateful for you moving down and getting the opportunity for you to do a full build on my s14. Not just an engine swap, but everything has been touched and then some. You've earned a customer and a friend for life. I know you'll excel in your future, you've learned valuable life lessons and at the end of the day you're a fkn grinder and a fighter bro. Hang in there, you'll get through the storm. Good days are ahead
DO NOT MOVE TO FLORIDA. We are already flooded with northern idiots and snowbirds. Housing is skyrocketing, cost of everything is skyrocketing, and the driving situation is going to "new york city" and "the north in general" levels of danger. Seriously, stop fleeing your craphole blue states and coming to Florida. You yankees are killing it here too.
Really sorry to hear bout all this. Terrible situation. I really appreciate the honesty. I know it isnt much, but you’re a stellar dude and you deserve way better than this. Much love and, for what it’s worth, make sure to get sleep and eat
I don't know if you're going to read this comment but it's going to be long. 10 years ago I was homeless. Sleeping under bridges, in my car, wherever. Then one day I figured out that the mother of my youngest son I couldn't take care of, was going to give him up for adoption because she didn't want to be a mom anymore. So I did The smartest thing I've ever done, exactly what you're doing. I swallowed my pride, realized the road ahead was going to be hard but I needed to make a change, and I moved back in with my parents and became a single dad. 4 years after that I was a college graduate with presidential honors. 3 years after that I had been working a career job making good money. A year after that I got my own apartment, had that for 2 years, a bunch of cars, you know how it goes. All of a sudden one day I realized I was absolutely miserable and I wanted to put a gun in my mouth. Like an inner voice was screaming at me to do it every second of every day because I hated my life. So you know what I did? I went on a government auction site and bought an old paratransit bus. I gutted the inside of it and turned it into an apartment. Moved my kiddo and I into it, quit my career job I hated, making good money, and started from scratch. Now I have inner peace. Money everyday and don't have to struggle super hard like I did, skills I can make money with anywhere, and now I am a residential and commercial painter, the easiest job I've ever done, and I make more money. And my bills are about 1/5 of what they used to be. Now of course sometimes my inner voice, and other people make me feel less because I live in a bus, But I'm happy. My kid is happy and healthy and has everything he needs and wants. As do I. My point is, taking a step back, taking a step down, is the hardest thing you can ever do when you've worked hard to get to where you're at. But at the same time, it can be the thing that shows you the path with the easier steps, that take you to a place you don't have to regret. Keep your chin up, do what you need to do to be happy above all. Don't do What you think you're going to get successful or Rich from if you hate it. Because that inner peace is the most valuable thing you can ever work towards.
Being happy with who and where you are is something put aside to grind, and we forget what we grind for at times. I'm happy to hear you've found that balance and the best part is your child gets to see a man who has built that peace.
Love your content and thanks for showing us what's going on with your personal life. We need more people to join your Patreon. $1 a month from several people can go a long way for you!
I been his pateron for years, actually I'm his only pateron, he said on a live before. He was wondering whom was still paying $5 a month. It was me after all these years
I had my workshop for 3 years, also running it by myself. The amount of multiple all nighters I pulled, often going 2-3 days in a row without sleep, to getting an hour or 2 of sleep in my car outside my shop. I was absolutely miserable. Closing down was the best decision I ever made. Maybe I'll try again sometime in the future. As for now, I'm currently working from home again, trying to rebuild. Good luck and trust your gut.
I feel you man. Being in those isolated places really mess up your head. Proud of how far you’ve come bro, you’re one of the goats for sure. The next chapter of life will be bright and packed with stability man 💪🔥💯
Hey Kalvin Business is hard, sometimes you just have to downsize, reevaluate your methods and business practices. Work out where you were wasting time, money and overheads. I failed many times before I hit on a business that became successful. You have the right attitude when you see the ship sinking you look to change. That is a good thing buddy. Not a bad thing. You learnt a lot, take what you learned and better it. My advice to you mate would be go to a local night college and learn the basics of running a business. Once you have your head round it you'll understand more where you went wrong or where you could improve business wise. You have the right attitude, you saw a sinking ship and you got out. That's ok. Go to where you feel comfortable, have support around you. Recover, reevaluate and move fwd dude. Good luck into the future I'm sure you will land on your feet. As for transporting maybe hit up rob from super speeders he might help you out with moving your cars. He has multi loaders etc. Tends to help out tubers who need it. Good luck buddy. You didn't fail you just learned.
Really sucks to hear, don’t try to hide the emotions tho, people can relate to struggle and hardship and will bring in views which brings you more money. I really hope you and your girl are still together and you find what makes you happy.
Not many can actually say they went out there and tried to achieve something man so at the very least be proud of that. Sometimes a change like this is what is needed for things to turn around, and what doesn't kill you makes you stronger as they say. We believe in you!
One thing I’ve learned is everything is a lesson. I hope you never delete this video so you get an opportunity to look back and see how much more you have grown.
Bro your talented!!! Just keep grinding my guy!! Start your business by yourself & in a state that makes it easy. Your determined & focused you'll succeed. I wish I lived close enough to help you out! I feel your pain.
lets all come together to make his miracle happen, this man is talented and loves what he does, obiviously we cant over work our selfs with anything if we love it or not. but im going to contribute what i can.
Hang in there man, first vid I’ve ever watched from you but I’ll definitely be watching some more for support 👌🏾 sorry about the shop but hopefully there will be many more opportunities once things settle down.
I takes good character to come foreword with yourself to tell about your situation. Your a good and smart person, your time will come in good favor for you. This wil be new beginning of a new chapter. Keep a open mind, things wil land on there Feet even in bad times good things wil hapen. Me personally wil always be a big fan of your work and skills, i learned allot from you. Keep your chin up and always stay proud about yourself a what you have accomplished along the road. Stay strong 💪 brother.
When you stopped making regular content, I knew the shop was taking over your life. Honestly I would have preferred seeing you build your own cars over and over or just taking on a few customers in a small garage. Obviously you gotta do what's best for you, but I think moving away from the shop which is sucking all your energy is a good idea. I think most of us just wanna see more content from you, so hopefully that can be part of the plan! I know how hard it is to grind out content though. Best of luck.
You're not alone bro. I'm 29 myself. I feel the same exact way after taking over my dad's used car dealerahip when he passed in 2019. Been working with him since 2012. At first it was peachy, but since summer/fall 2021 I've just lost more interest as people have stopped paying me and car prices were way too high. Nothing is floor planned and I'm buy here pay here. So everything I buy is with my money and customers have to pay their notes so my bills get paid and I get paid. I've paid myself like 3 times this year. Sending out prayers for a good outcome on your situation bro!
Time to go back to the drawing board. May have to restructure, Unfortunately most people that go to bhph dealers aren’t the most responsible financially so not paying is common and repos are high. Have you looked into focusing on cash cars? And finding some finance companies like credit acceptance that way they hold the note you get paid and don’t have to worry about chasing customers? I deal strictly cash and I deal with credit acceptance, Bhph you can make good money but I don’t wanna be the guy that has to chase down the customers that don’t pay. And I’m sorry for your loss! But think what would he want you to do in this situation? Keep pushing!!
@@DMoney505 in a season right now where I'm sending out repos to the repo man. I have done cash only stuff the problem is I'm in the city, and people can't always afford a $5-10k car straight up. That's been exaggerated even moreso since covid. On top of that it's hard for me to buy cars at a price point that would allow me to do that. I have a couple but stuff that I need on the lot typically costs $4k+
When you said you just wanted to be happy, then repeated it right after, that hit home for me. Take things ONE day at a time, I know that seems nearly impossible when you’re worrying about “what’s next”, but you got this mate 👊🏼
Kalvin, you did it! Go easy on yourself. Roosevelt's "Man in the Arena" speech comes to mind. You actually got in there, and did it. Some dream and never take the risk. You are 29, believe you me, you have your whole life ahead of you and you will glean invaluable nuggets from this experience. Don't see it as a loss, lift your head up, recharge and go at it again. You will succeed! And as others, have stated on here, this community is behind you - You are not alone! On behalf of all of us, thanks for the amazing content and we will be with you on your next endeavour.
Most people in life are going through what you’re going through. Life is about the journey and learning along the way. youll cherish these times and pull through in the end. Good Luck and Keep ya head up!
Sorry to hear about the company and the burn-out. Bet you'll feel better when you get to your next destination. Keep the videos coming, we'll all be watching!
I honestly think this is the last thing he needs. Kalvin is an incredibly talented guy. I have tremendous respect for him. Calvin is going through a down season. Les Brown says in those down moments that's where the growth takes place that's where the work is. They are the hardest times of our life but it's where we grow the most. To be rescued when we've been knocked down is a disservice. Let him get back up on his own and keep fighting. He knows how to work on cars He knows how to paint and restore. Now he needs to dig in and learn how to run a business. Once he does that he will be on his way to the next season of life. However that said that doesn't mean life is always going to be happy it doesn't even mean you're going to be happy 80% of the time it doesn't mean that you're going to be happy even 50% of the time. What he said in this video about going to work and not bringing home hardly any money and not having any friends to hang out with and then just going home going to bed and waking up to do it all again tomorrow. As crappies that sounds for many of us that is what adulthood is. I can tell you it gets better. As you gain more experience, and as you get better at all the things you do, things also get better. More opportunities come your way, more money comes your way. But those things don't bring happiness either. I don't really enjoy what I do for work either but for 8 to 10 hours a day that place has me, and I am going to give my 110%. I'm not going to be lazy about anything I'm not going to complain about anything I'm going to ensure the company I work for knows that I am an absolute monster of an asset. That if you want something done you contact me. I pass up and destroy the lazy people and I help build up the hardworking smart people. That formula has worked out really well. Some days are complete hell and some days are incredibly rewarding. Do I love what I do? Absolutely not. But it pays the bills for me and for my family and allows me to have hobbies and provides my family with a good living. So much of life is about perspective. And I think social media has given a lot of people in Kalvin's generation The perspective that success brings happiness, that money brings happiness, that fame brings happiness. And nothing could be further from the truth. As you can see Kalvin has been going through that for the last 2 years. I'm sure in his head he thinks he just needs more, more money, more fame, more success. But with all of those things comes more stress. What you need is a relationship with Jesus Christ.
You are crazy, om not going to give a penny to him. RU-vidrs come and go and im only going to watch them and not giving them money how sad there story is. I really dont give a fuc.. about them!
He doesn't need money nor would I ever give him money. He has a easy $150,000 sitting right behind him. He's just crying because he has to work hard like most Americans
I feel you brother I'm living paycheck to paycheck here in Houston TX. I'm in a big transition part of my life too. But keep moving forward one foot in front of the other. that is the only way to do it. We love you bro. Keep your head up and just keep pumping out content
I started my company up at 32 years old and am going into my 3 mid year. Running a business is Scary, tuff and constant pressure making sure everything is operational and moving correctly. I applaud you for taking this leap on your own. It’s tuff and it’s ok to fail. You now know what not to do on your next adventure and it will get better.
Hang in there man... I started watching you long ago and was amazed how hard you worked and how much you could grind, but you cant do that forever. Take care of yourself. I've been meaning to buy a shirt, so I hope that helps at least a little.
Kalvin, I know exactly what you're going through. Understand I'm not just saying that. That's why I started sending you small donations to do whatever I could to lift your spirits. If you come up to Maryland area, let me know. I'll try to help out as much as I can. I wish you well!
You only fail when you quit brother! Stop and think what it is you want and what you’re doing to make that happen. I can resonate with the business part, I started a shop with my brother a year ago and it hasn’t been easy. We learn from our mistakes and make sure we don’t repeat. Sometimes you win sometimes you learn. Praying for your success man!
I am from Brooklyn, Franklin ave and I moved here to Houston in 18 and I honestly understand how you feel...This vids hits hard for me because I know how this man feels right now
Then go back? Why move cross country to a place where you struggle and whine about how much better it was somewhere else? WTF is with you carpet baggers and coming to the south then whining about how much better it was back home. Seriously.
As a content creator it's heartbreaking to see Kalvin suffering like this. He definitely needs people around him. Cannot overstate the value of the energy derived from collaborative efforts with friends/ other creators. Being alone isn't good for anyone. Would totally reach out if it wasn't for the distance. Hope to see him come back to the Northeast happier and better off. :/
as a new subscriber (this year) and someone who owns a wrap shop dealing with the same struggles i completely understand the overwhelming feeling and frustration and exhaustion, do what you gotta do we are here to support how we can
Been a OG subscriber since day 1. I’ve been with you since Ny days man. A lot has changed. I’m sorry for the situation you’re in. Life will throw you a million obstacles, you just gotta keep fighting bro. The sun will always eventually shine. Love from Queens NYC ❤️
Hey man I just wanted to tell you things could be a lot worse. You are not blind, you're not handicapped, you have all your limbs, you're not dying of cancer, you don't live in a third world country, etc. I know how hard life can be but you have to look at the positives when things are going so bad. I'm going through a similar situation and it is not fun but count your blessings as they come. Much love. If I could come help I would but I live in Portland
Long time subscriber and viewer here man. This is a tough video to watch man and I just wanna say that we are rooting for you no matter what. Shop or not. Texas or anywhere else. You have inspired so many of us to get out and wrench even in our parents garage. This is a tough time for you but when you are finally said and done with these stresses, the weight will be lifted from your shoulders, and you can start again from square one. Keep pushing man, you have a whole army behind you and please dont hesitate to make a GoFundMe or something along those lines to help with the move! Id be happy to help 🤟
Ill say a prayer for you brother. It's hard to see sometimes, but there's no Easter Sunday without a Good Friday. I always heard that if you offer it up, Grace can come through the worst suffering. Hoping you can persevere and find your way through. Blessings.
Hey Kalvin, Praying for you man. I'm a young kid fresh outta high school also from upstate by which is funny starting a summer business to make money for college, I'm not old and wise so I don't have any good tips for you, but it's encouraging to see you share your hardest times and know other people have those moments of struggle but fight though them. it's so awesome to see you be so real on camera and see your audience encourage you in what your doing and give you tips and guidence. your a great man, just keep at it, keep working hard.
I don't know you personally but you're speaking in a way that has me concerned for your mental health. You hang in there. You hit it right on the head; keep praying and keep fighting. Your true friends will reveal themselves real quick in these type of situations. Last year, I was dealing with serious mental health issues. Was having relationship problems. Then I caught covid. When i returned to work, a month later my father died. I was out for another month. Once I returned back to work, they let me go two weeks later. Then my financial troubles were piling up. Its a cruel world out here. My mind was in a dark place. You just have to believe and know there is something way better out there for you. Now I have a better job and am recovering mentally and emotionally. Keep your family and true friends close. Hang in there Kalvin.
Hey when I'm having a down week or month, when I get up in the morning, I try to make a point of listing all the things I'm grateful for in my life, simple things, and it can sometimes improve the day.
I feel you man, I’ve been through a situation similar recently myself, lost basically everything I’d worked for all just in front of my eyes after giving up everything for it. Main thing is to just keep your head up and you’ll get through it, you’ve learnt a lot from this which you can take forward, you’ll know what you need to do for next time, but always get a mentor, try and learn from the mistakes of others. Don’t give up on your dreams, you’ve got it bro❤
No need to apologize for how things are. You gave it an honest go. Having friends around makes a world of difference. Know i enjoy your channel and content. If I was down there id be giving a hand.
Keep going Kalvin, you’ve got what it takes to be very successful. You’re a talented guy but everyone needs a little help sometimes. I know painting cars is tedious and not the most fun work but maybe you can open a shop in the future that focuses mostly on that. Just a thought, stay strong bro!
There is a lot of great advice in this thread and support. Most importantly, never stop pursuing your dreams. There is nothing better than doing something you're passionate about. It gives you purpose and reason. Failure is not an option. Just go into the fall back position and attack your dream and succeed. You do outstanding work, it will pay off someday. Never give up.
Man this is very upsetting to know how badly you have been struggling. I feel for you and wish i could help do something like cleaning up things or whatever needs to be done, but live in georgia😢. wish i was closer. Again always loved your content and work ethic. And i really hate the fact that you dont have good buddys you can trust to have a decently ran shop. You deserve a hella lot better. We love you man. Just keep us updated.
Man, a part of me hates seeing this video but a part of me always wondered how that area would work out. I feel like you should have 500k to a million followers given the quality of videos and work that you put out. Starting a business at home is hard enough let alone in the middle of nowhere with no one around. Even with that, do not look at this as a failure or mistake. Just experience and lessons. You started a business AND moved across country in your 20's which most can't say. Hold your head high, learn and keep pushing. I wish I was closer I'd definitely help but I'm all the way in Maryland which might be a good area for you if not back to NY. Best wishes man, you'll be fine.
You've got an awesome work ethic man, if you can hang in there you are bound to catch a break. Your work can certainly speak for itself. I for sure will be rooting for you for a long time to come
Your pain shows through the camera. I wish you well and success in whatever comes next for you. I'll be watching any content you put out, even if it's a black screen of nothing.
It feels bad to see this, but I’ve always wondered why you don’t have a million plus subscribers. The quality of work you put out is amazing. I hope it gets better bro no lie! But like many have said you didn’t fail or anything you def learned and will be growing from this!
I think any guy would be called lucky to have you as a friend, you seem like a down to earth easy going guy. Ps. If you ever wanna hangout send me a pm and I will have 2 dirtbikes loaded on my trailer ready to go. Btw I'm in New Zealand too 😊
I completely understand. I moved to Louisiana for schooling / work. I've been in California my whole life. I hated the state, it's such a huge difference from home. I moved back after about 4 years. It was the happiest I've been in my life finally leaving. You know what's best for yourself.
Hey don't over stress yourself just handle things 1 at a time. You got this bro you've come a long ass way. I would say come to FL but it's a bit expensive too lol but you'd get more work have more fun and get some support so you not running this alone. But all in all dawg chin up and do what you gotta do nothing in life is as sweet as it seems . Make them videos so I can watch and like
Been watching you from the start. I've seen what you can do. You built a whole car in a garage in the cold in a month. No matter what you move on to do, it will be great. Mad respect for you bro.
I feel you man I live in ft worth now moved down here from Minnesota and it’s been rough. I have a decent job and make money so money isn’t the issue. It’s the relationships. No friends, no family, it’s like I just work, eat, and sleep. The daily life is not enjoyable at all and I’m looking to move at the end of my lease too. Just don’t know where yet. But don’t dread the move just know it’ll get done and you’ll make it happen. Keep that end goal in sight.
Should've thought of that before you moved legit across the country to a new, and very different, place? I wish you northerners would stay in the north.
@@basedemt6608 your a tool, no support just an ass. Like what are you doing man people move, people migrate, it happens so get over it. Stop complaining about people moving to your state because without em you wouldn’t have any economy like Missouri or some shit. And why don’t you try supporting people especially other car enthusiasts if anybody. You are the type of person that just took a good opportunity and made it negative. Congrats!
Easier said than done but you keep your head up brother! You are an entrepreneur who's just burning out right now but your flame will always stay alive and you'll become bigger and better with time.... ....we believe in you so dont stop believing in yourself!
I live in San Antonio and wish i knew you needed help long ago man i was definitely looking for work.hopefully things change for the better for you man.
I’ve been watching you for a long time now I just wanna say you’ve inspired me to do a lot with my builds and tackling things I wouldn’t normally try. It’s unfortunate how things turned out I know having your own shop was a dream as it is for a bunch of us watching but stay positive we’re here to support in anyway 👍🏻
Thanks for keeping it real with us. I been watching this whole journey and man it’s been cool seeing the process. I may not always comment but I do watch every video. I pray things look up and you find your new grove and your new happy place bröther.
