I Want Kids But My Partner Doesn't | The Bloom Chat 

I’m 37 & I’ve always known I don’t want kids but some of the opinions I hear from others are cruel & ridiculous 😮 loved this vid ladies! ❤

I'm 37 and never have wanted kids. I enjoy playing video games, having games nights and traveling. Very glad I found a partner that feels the same

I have never wanted kids! Two ex-partners did. I am unutterably grateful that I did not allow myself to be pressured into having them, but at one stage I was doing the 'maybe, one day, if we have enough money saved (knowing we never would)' ect ect ect... It is a delaying tactic to make your partner shut up about something you just wish they would forget about already. Neither relationship ended up lasting anyway and my whole life would have ended up being consumed by someone else's dream life. If you and your partner have such a completely different requirement for something so basic - end it now, fast, then move on to someone whose values and goals are more similar to your own.

The night before my wedding, I said if you don't want kids say it now and I will walk out this door and you can keep the house. 12yrs later, still in the house with 2 kids. My husband is a great father and we are truly blessed, since it was not easy for us being in our mid 30s.

I'm 20. Ever since I was little I knew I wanted to be a mum. It was the same with my mum too, and she had me when she was my age. I know I'm nowhere near ready to have a baby now, but I know that I definitely want at least two, maybe more sometime in the future. I couldn't be with someone who didn't want children, no matter how much I might love them.

I wish this was an hour long podcast with these two! I’d listen every week ❤

I always thought growing up that I would get married and had children and when that didn’t happen, I made peace with that.Would my life have been different? Yeah, it would’ve. But, I have done so much on my own. I have my independence I own my own condo. I have a car that’s paid for and I have a really good job. I fiercely love my independence too much.

Your needs and value no longer meet up. You can't take the risk, it's not worth it. You have to be honest with yourself. He has told you from the get-go. Believe him..

I really, really like this.

Love this... Aloha from Hawaii 🌈💜

Hard to say it but you have to move on if you and your partner don't agree on having children. Compromise on this issue will only make it worse and destroy a childhood and relationship. As hard as it is, go separate ways.

Coming from an Asian household with moderately traditional parents both my parents see women as baby making machines. It's a women's duty to take care of their husbands and all the bs. If a women want to then that's great, but I always felt I didn't have options. I went from thinking I "want" kids to feeling indifferent about it in my early 20s, to eh I'll compromose for 1 child in my late 20s... by 30s I was dating single dads (so I don't have to birth one since they already had kids) but then realize I have no interest in being around children or caring for them either. Now about to hit my 40s, no kids, no regret. I've realize I've never wanted them, only let society and culture brainwashed me into thinking women must have kids.

"This is the man I will marry" No it isn't.

First I really love this. Second, I’m just going to say it, being a woman nowadays is tough at times! You may want children but feel the need to have it all in line when meanwhile, your current partner may be a shit father and you’re running out of time to have a baby in the first place because you’ve been getting your career and shit together and now you’re about 30. Mind you, you may want more than one child and the odds are not in your favor after 35. Whew…

Congratulations ev🥳🥳

Umm can you make this a real podcast? I’m a gay male so this stuff ain’t even relevant to me but broooooo such good personalities giving real hardcore advice, no BS, I could listen all day lmao

I think if its a deal breaker for her it has to end or at the very least she has to be ready to possibly be a single mom... there is a slight chance he'll still change his mind (it happens)but not very likely at this point

How do you deal with infertility?? I'm a twin I DON'T WANT KIDS but that is my twins dream so how do you deal?? I've also had 2 types of cancers my twin has had 1 type of cancer that were caught early enough we both are still alive!?? But how do you answer this??

I had a lot more to say then just below, but I'm just going to say what I've said below and add this; Ladies, please dont play games with mens hearts, minds or spirits. We keep expecting them to jump to our tune without really being 'equal', in a relationship. We have a tendency to sometimes be more toxic in a relationship then anything. I ask that whatever choices you make, OWN them. Don't just blame one party for your mistakes. If you have a child together but break up with your SO, DON'T play games with your kid, by dangling them above your exs head like an emotional toll they have to pay everytime. Please do NOT treat your partner like he's a second class citizen if you find yourself in a position where things don't work out. IF you can't sit down and have an open communicative dialogue about what you both want from your relationship, then contraception is just as much YOUR responsibility as it is his. PLEASE respect the communication you have with your partner, lay out a plan if you want kids and/or a life together. DO NOT PLEASE, use a child to trap him in a situation that harms both your child, him and yourself. I've seen enough women playing games with my family members to know that we can be some of the most toxic creatures on this planet to men and the price paid for that toxicity isn't worth the pain suffered by all parties INCLUDING your child. In the event you are a woman playing games with a mans heart/mind, you may have moved on with your life, but don't force him to stay put in his life just because things didn't work out, because trust me, there are women like me in this world who have good men in their families who are watching them burn because of the selfish, toxic behaviour some women can dish out. This is just a warning to those women who enjoy screwing a mans mind over and their emotional tethers, we're more then willing to flatten you if we ever cross your paths (I'm not a violent person, but things I've seen some women do because of their bitterness makes me furious and I WILL protect my own) because the people who pay that price (even if the fault isn't the mans), is often the families AND that child. Keep in mind at some point lies and toxicities will ALWAYS come back to bite YOU in your arse when you least expect it... Don't cry wolf and wonder why, someone like me will punch you in the face if we ever cross your path. (My apologies for slightly angry rant at the end, but weak women who can't/won't communicate like mature women is a real problem that needs to be addressed because men are committing suicide over these toxic mind f*** situations some women dish out because of their own bitterness.) The first comment about needing to be financially stable with a home, is NOT a poor suggestion. For me, that to me, flags a green flag that he may want kids, but ONLY in a stable home. If you're constantly moving from one rental place to another, that's not a stable home. If they aren't married yet, why not treat their goals as working towards buying a house first together owning a puppy in the mean time and then get married once their situation is stable? As someone who came from a household with that mentality, I wont accept a man who can't hold a job down longer then a few months. My Dad has been in my life my entire life, my Mum and Dad have been through thick and thin together even when my Mum was told she couldn't have kids my Dad NEVER walked away from my Mum. They made plans to travel Australia together and just as things were ready to go for those plans, my Mum pregnant with my Older brother and his Twin (RIP big brother), my big brother survived with a few health issues here and there but he was a blessing to my Mum and Dad. A year later, came me. Instead of giving us everything we wanted growing up, my Parents both worked, they paid their bills and saved so that we got to go away every holiday and every long week end. It was their compromise for not being able to travel Australia. Where was I going with that? Sharing a life with someone is always going to be a compromise. It's always going to need communication. Sometimes, we women are very bad at both. Sometimes we give a little to much and take very little back. My parents never argued in front of us, my Dad was the bad cop and Mum allowed him to discipline us. When they went to bed, they talked about the day and if we got into trouble, they explained everything. If we were sick Mum told Dad everything that happened. If he was to tired because he worked from 4am to 5pm, she'd write it down for him and vice versa. Relationships are work, falling in love is easy, its staying in love, building a life together that's hard. Can you compromise? Or must everything be your or his way? Can you communicate? Can you go without arguing over silly things? Can you pick your battles because kids don't make relationships easy. They'll even sometimes pit you against your partner and vice versa. PS. I am one of three children from both of my parents. They've been married for more then 40 years now. We currently have a blended family, due to accidental drunken moments lol. It's not that difficult to be blended when you let go of your anger and/or self righteous attitudes.

Girl RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN, discussions about the future foundation and values should have been talked about prior; compatibility and both should employed conversations and communications are to be But since the relation inception you received a HARD NO; now you're saying it is now a SOFT NO, which still translate into a NO baby girl. If folks wait for money and a home and more suitable employment then life and opportunities will past you by. Some compromises should be considered. Cheers

I kinda wish this was on a separate channel

My pate weren’t made to be parents

This show has chances of becoming successful. However I request to either change Hamida or let be her less bias. In this relationship no one was right or wrong, it simply was two people wanting different things as the time passed. Being a feminist doesn't mean woman is always right.