True, the meaning of marriage for some men is devaluating their women consistently for the rest of their lives and never see anything wrong with it. Your father telling you that the best women for you, is the one that will metaphorically watch you kiss another woman in the corridor and says nothing is horrible way of thinking. remember your parents are not always right. Age doesn't always equal to wisdom
I cannot believe what I just heard so what they just said is get a woman who you will cheat and she will just act blind if she does her own now and ask you to act blind you will say she is a woman she should pretend. Does being a man mean undisciplined. I hope men will keep the same energy when their wives cheat on them!!
Yeah! that is the way to go if you are in marriage for competition and cheating on your man has been a silent desire. But if you are in a relationship to complete or compliment your man, women cheating back is a no option. Man and woman are not the same biologically or emotionally. Except you hate the truth.
Expecting your wife to tolerate disrespect and constant cheating is according to you, how to be a "good woman". Am sure if she did the same to you, you would divorce her immediately. For you to even think she is not worthy of respect is sad. Why do you think giving your wife money is everything? what about her emotional, physical, psychological and mental well being, let alone the possibilities of getting physically or spiritually attacked by the women you are messing with. You are obviously not thinking about the spiritual protection of your home. I grew up in such a home I can tell you the numerous attacks we got from my dad's side pieces. It's never fun and games for everyone. One day ask your grown children how they feel about your behaviour. You will be surprised, they may secretly despise you for that. But again, children will be quiet and pretend that they are not hurt by the instability. Am very sure your daughter would never pray to marry a man that cheats on her for the rest of her life, simple because she is a wife. Yes, mistakes do happen, and people do change for the better, but for you to not realise even at your current age, how you may have hurt your wife and children for years is sad. You may be old in age but definitely may not have growth mentally over the years. No accountability, no introspection, no change in actions, what a sad example of leadership at home.
My sister I am as shocked as you are. Basically he used money to keep her blind and quiet. To think that with years come wisdom but this is the highest level of maturity normalizing cheating and acting like it's nothing. I hope he will keep the same energy when her wife does what he is preaching
So sad! How could ANY woman defend such an indefensible statement🥲 We all heard what he said. But it’s obvious he was referring to women like those who will take all their bull craps, and call them out of their names on top of it
@@fatokunbosede3112 talking about the nature of a woman being Delilah, is the enticing nature of a woman, it takes a lot of discipline to have a self control over the presence of a woman, “ I mean not having a sense of admiration “ it is in the nature of a man to naturally want to have different women, but again it takes a great discipline to stay true to one woman, it doesn’t change the fact of the nature of a man. So if you understand the struggle of what the man here is trying to paint, I think he still deserves respect to have fought hard, staying with his wife today, and I will give a great kudos to the wife for understanding and believing it shall be well, if understanding does not persist, Show me 10 women with 5 husbands and I will show you 100 of men with more than 10 wives.. ISAIAH 4:1 will give you more insight
When both persons in question understand that marriage is PARTNERSHIP in every sense, then I know they are ready for the JOURNEY ahead. Thank you for this dish of wisdom, Mr. RMD and Mr. Teju. By the way, I’m learning from the silence and body language of @tejubabyface too. All encompassing conversations I must say. Thank youuu, respectfully to you both
Big ups to all Jumobisique women out there. For your blind faith in us men and holding on tenaciously to the fabric of the home despite our many fallings...
Absolutely! Well said about us as a nation building more groups and getting stronger. Individuality is the bane of our country's problem. We have individuals who are bigger than our national system. Elsewhere in more developed climes, there's no one person or group bigger than the governing systems!
Rmd sounded disillusioned at the beginning. But at the end i got his point. He valued his wife! No, he wasn't advocating for irresponsibility for men but rather preaching forgiveness to the women. There's a place for forgiveness! We have made infidelity the unforgivable sin, cos some people say so. Some women have husbands like this and your marriage musnt end because he cheated. All men do not have the same grace. Cheating is more difficult for some men than for others and the wife needs to acknowledge this. Know your man. Bros definitely had some excesses and still carries some of those thoughts around but his wife understands him. She married HIM. She knows him. She stayed for him. Like he said, they both understand it's not a competition. No one he's being cheated. And oh, he makes up for it in other areas, not necessarily in the giving of material things. Beautiful. I started with a frown (like, whats this?!) but ended up smiling deeply. Big ups
When bros talked about the deep connection those from Warri have with each other, it really hit home deep…almost teared up because I know exactly what he is talking about. This is therapeutic! Tnks bros Teju
Real men....real talk.💪....nice one Teju....keep the flag flying and to RMD....u would always be boss and an inspiration to generations to the Contemporary man🤝...
This is my first time on your platform and I must admit, I was pleasantly surprised. Sooo much wisdom - phenomenal!! Such a candid conversation. #AMustShare Remain resulute Teju!
15:06 That settless it. Thank you for bringing it out the way you did RMD. Cos there is a type of woman for every type of man. If he has that mindset from his dad the lady should have also had a mindset of meeting a protector.
Eeew..... I keep hearing such disgusting view points about the expectations of a wife from a Nigerian perspective. I guess Nigerian men come with a label warning... marry at your own risk, like cigarettes. The Bible says he who finds a wife has found a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord. Young men out there, not every women will out up with a cheating husband.
I have only one question, if the ‘weaker vessel’ falls, she is never ever picked up but a man expects a woman to pick them up all the time. All I hear is selfishness and lack of consideration. Total bullsh!t. Congratulations 🎊 to all my sisters who have come out of this slave tomb.
RMD is TRULY "fine wine" His WISDOM with age is TIMELESS!!! God BLESS him & his wife Jumobi🙏WOMEN PLS lPROTECT & FIGHT for our MARRAIGES & CHILDREN! DO NOT GIVE UP ON THE FAMILY GOD HAS GIVEN U it's a PRIVILEDGE & God will CAUSE OUR HUSBANDS TO ARISE TO HONOR & PROTECT OUR FAMILY!!! Habakuk 4:14 REMEMBER the Lord who is GREAT & AWESOME and FIGHT for your brothers, sons & daughters, your wives & YOUR HOME!!! MEN pls be a PROTECTOR!!!
@GlobalDominiongal a little correction It’s Nehemaiah 4:14 and not Habakkuk. It’s a different context although one can use it as an example. I get your point.
This is a ridiculous interview. Trying to blame a woman who leaves you for your lack of discipline. You want a woman who you disrespect publicly by kissing another woman
RMD's wife is a 'content' woman. She's not materialistic. That's why she's not too expressive in response to 'abroad gifts and fat money gifts'. And her love language is obviously not 'gifting'. He's blessed to have her. 👍to Jumobi.
Thank you seur! It’s not old school partnership in marriage 😂😂😂😂😂I said this thank you so much . Every time this young generation it’s old school it’s nature 😂😂😂😂😂these days women is competition and I have been telling men let them go lol! A woman who doesn’t understand for me companionship bye! Like no they go in relationship want to do more than men then fry they are not playing their role want to turn them into mate , like women no way 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮😂😂😂😂😂thank you that we still have men who understand and refuse these behaviors 👌😘thanks seur and thanks to the interviewer who seems to understand the treat we’re in today 😂😂😂😂😂😂love love ❤it gives hope 👌😘
Lesson Learnt: 1] Have small circle of Word filled prayerful/accountability friends 2] Which is the MOST important : Marry someone who has a god fearing heart, a kind patient person and You yourself Must be VERY patient 3] Have a God purpose VISION, you working to accomplish that will lift people up and draw them to Christ
Weak men constantly expecting their women to "fight for" and "protect" their marriage. And still assuming they are the head of the home. Where is the fight for and protection of the woman? Why should the body constantly fight for the head? Good women deserve better.
This is how we were raise too as women expect that things may happen . But when you’re in relationship you have to set boundaries with your partner 😂😂😂😂😂you have to be put your wife in a position to know she is the one and you choose her everyday every day all your life . Now things happen with that knowledge she will fight 😂😂😂😂😂that’s me . Not that when still dating you’re always choosing others 😂😂😂😂😂and I love how you have 10 women but have come back yes! Someone vote for me like that I’m down sorry 😂😂😂😂😂it’s not that men can’t do certain things it’s no realistic but choosing you in the mixt of this priceless . And I love how he said no house help just the 2 of them I love it 👌😘❤❤❤❤me too I will try not to have that seur 😂😂 😂😂😂😂
Women are like Delilah and Jezebel?🤔What do you mean? Not all women! That statement needs to be clarified because all women are not like that! You are degrading some women when you make a statement like that. I respect you Mr. RMD; don't put all women in the same category though!
I did feel initially disappointed when I heard what RMD said about his wife. She actually was a star in fact it gave RMD more substance marrying her. I then paused to decipher his words again. I personally can't marry a person in show biz as I know the chances of scandals is 99.9% and I am super private so it takes a special kind of woman/man to marry them. Someone who can rise above what they see/read about their partner and still stay strong. It takes a lot to manage a home. I have been married for 17 years and I can say, we both are still WI. I don't think his words should be taken literally but TBH, it sounded disrespectful.
Regular men face multiple of temptations...not to talk of stars...I get their point of discussion but if you open the door for rat to enter in the hope that you will kill it later, the rat might multiply b4 you get the chance to kill it...having a woman who will look the other way is like telling the man that he has the hall pass to cheat, maybe once or twice....it does not encourage men to be faithful...after all, wifey can take one or two slip ups...I think this interview tried to be pragmatic and realistic but it defeated the purpose of building men of discipline and self respect
WORDS OF WISDOM FROM OUR AMAZING R.M.D. WOMEN, COVER YOUR HUSBAND'S "HEAD" , PLS . HUSBANDS / MEN LISTEN TO THIS GREAT MAN , PLS. THANK YOU SO MUCH SIR.
I feel some persons are getting the message wrong. What RMD said is just the reality. Wether u like it or not, men system functions like he goat and it takes understanding wife to correct & help him. That's what this crop of new generation wife lack that they are divorcing or killing their husband at the least case or suspect of cheating these days
So only stars go through challenges? Would the men see their wives kissing men in a corridor, and they act like nothng happened? Abeg the word is "discipline". Self discipline is expected from both husband and wife. Whether star or not.
