Speaking of dating. I recall that once upon a time you "promised" to make a video about overcoming "the ick" - so to speak. Put another way: A video in which you describe how you can engage more and more in a healthy way in a relationship with a person who, on paper, is really the right one for you, and who you can also see is a lovely person . But that person doesn't trigger your old unhealthy attachment patterns or old rejection traumas and the like that might otherwise activate the person's passion. There is too little drama. It's boring. But you are now ready to move away from these destructive patterns and invest in healthy and rewarding relationships. But how do you do when you don't feel this spark and this passion?