There are two kinds of people in this world those who fill your cup and those who drain it. *Joe navarro* This has become my favourite quote Thank you sir
Growing up, I just assumed that my Dad was bossy and controlling. Any complaints we had about his behavior, he'd just say, "Bullsh*t! My Father was a lot tougher on me than I am on you kids!" Now that I'm older, wiser, and have videos like this to help, I see that my Dad was an absolute narcissist. He has been dead now for quite a few years. But even when I was 50 years old and he was 90, he was still trying to bully me, name call, and insult my lifestyle. Toxic doesn't even cover it.
I can say i feel your pain because I have felt that from people I have worked with, ut it is especially hard from a parent, the scars long remain. I wish you well
Thank you kindly! That's very nice of you to comment. I have always placed my focus on those of the victims, those who have suffered under the toxic tentacles of the malignant narcissist. I hope it's helpful.
I’ve had (past tense) the unfortunate experience with one of these creatures in a romantic relationship. A life lesson that served me well only through my gaining knowledge, understanding & the language of who & how these individuals operate. It took a few months to put the pieces of the puzzle together, by dealing with their pervasive patterns of behavior then the rest was self-taught research. I can say with confidence once you realize who & what you're dealing with the most optimal choice is to make a carefully orchestrated plan to exit. I was able to successfully accomplish that goal. I am now better equipped to proceed with caution in dealing with others when it comes to recognizing those traits. Once you have seen it👉 you can't unsee it, experience it & learn by educating yourself in all that comes with understanding the dynamic of the paradigm it helps overall with your human connections the day-to-day.
There’s a running joke that everyone’s ex is a narcissist. People do not realize how serious of a personality disorder it is. It is exasperating and crazy-making to be around. My PSA is unless your ex has a consistent exploitative interpersonal style, than they’re probably just a jerk, not a person with NPD. As a therapist it is so difficult to help them although some modalities like MRT show promise. I am not interested as I was married to someone who has bona fide NPD. Would not recommend divorcing one before kids are grown. They turn vicious when you dare to leave them.
Well, I have to agree with you. Narcissist can be very nasty when they are truly on bona fide NPD. That's why I created the checklist in my book Dangerous Personalities. It is a term that is thrown around very casually when what they really mean is just someone who is self-centered as you know is much different than the true narcissistic personality, which tends to be in different, calloused, and devalues others.
Thank you for this video. I purchased Dangerous Personalities and your ebooks on this/related as it was playing. I especially appreciate your frequent reminders that we have no obligation to be victimized. I will probably NOT be sharing this with my family; it is my mother that I highly suspect - but lack the professional licensure to diagnose - is a narcissist! I had identified all the traits and common behaviors, overtime, but thought of them as individual bad behaviors or decisions on her part, rather than a constellation of traits that are pathognomonic of a narcissist. Having that description is extremely helpful because it provides me the resources to deal with her, as well as letting go the instinct to fighting with her in an effort to improve her behavior or our relationship.
Read the book and just go through the checklist. The checklist is based on what people have experienced. It is not a diagnostic tool, but what it does do is validate what you may be experiencing. May I suggest that you do all the checklists because often traits cross over into different personalities and that factors into how long this is sustainable, what the effects will be and how to best deal with them. I wish you well. Let me know what you think when you read it. Please.
@@joenavarrobehaviorexpert 99… and I gave “no” answers where other explanations or my personal biases might apply (e.g., “Has regularly irritated or upset you,” I’d imagine many daughters have said this of their mothers, although perhaps not persisting into their 40s)
I think the demographic area will also affect the percentage of narcissists. Some places have higher instances of this dysfunction. Also, these numbers are rapidly rising. I think it's because of the immediate rewards of succeeding using narcissistic tactics in conjuction with the increase of people with victimhood.
Thank you for the reminder. In Norway there is an unofficial memorial day for all the harm that was caused by Anders Breivik. Always looking forward to your videos.
Hello Joe, I'm so glad to see you back on RU-vid I love this kind of content ! Also, I read your book 3 times "What every body is saying", I'm a "natural reader", I always been able to read people since i'm a teenager as far I can remember, I thought everybody could do that, it was in my early twenties I realize it's kind of a rare skill (thanks to my best friend who told me regular people cannot see what I see), I wanted personnally to say thank you for your work, you helped me a lot to understand it, having a good interpretation, context, establish a baseline, like making a blade shaper I still have a lot to learn, It help me a lot in my life, but most importantly, to help other people, especially those who hide a depression or a sadness, as an empath, it's really important to me to bring something bright to them even if it's a little bit I wish you the best !
Thank you I am like your. I re - reread books all the time and I always gain something new. Last year I read 67 books 4 of which I had read before and I still can't believe I find new information each time. And I take notes. Its crazy. Continue you good journey of knowledge.
My EX partner use to haughtily bluster so self importantly back into the house and say, "Everyone who is not me stop talking". He meant it. He was forever telling me he was special.
@joenavarrobehaviorexpert Thank you. The problem with him was that he charmed everyone, esp women in the outside world. I am alone but at peace. I often used to think it was because he was an only child.
I am so glad you have a channel now! I have 3 off your books. Dangerous Personalities was my first. It’s a great book, and a great reference. Thanks for sharing your knowledge of these types of people with the rest of us!
Yes, the narcissist can be very manipulating when they leave you feeling as though you have no control, or that control will be taken from you at some point.
@@joenavarrobehaviorexpertI assume those with NPD don’t have disorder-specific body language tells, Instead having context-specific tells or stimuli-specific tells like everyone else.
I have run across a you tuber who displays most if not all of the Narcissist's habits. He has picked a victim to destroy and has spent the last 2 years destroying this family he was able to build his followers to 722000 followers who seem to echo his way of doing things, somewhat like the Jim Jones affect. The channel is called What the Hales. He seems to take small items and build them into mountains. Would these actions be normal for a narcissist? Ray
It is difficult to say without seeing everything that this individual does. It would be interesting to see all his behaviors as they are manifest in the checklist of the book dangerous personalities. But if he's fixating on one individual, then there may be other pathologies at work, including psychopathy, including obsessive disorders and so forth
I don’t have a degree in psychology, but if this doesn’t describe a certain presidential candidate from combover to toe, the world as we know it is one giant lie 🫥
Greetings from India Mumbai, any tips for recovery sir. I married one but now I am seperated with her. My relationship with lot of people has affected and my overall behaviour also I feel very victimized and hard time trusting. I never want to get married again. But I wanna get my life and be happy with myself. Loneliness sure is adding something to my life to new challenges ahead.
Thank you for your comments and I am sorry you went through so much. Don't give up. There is so much good in life at least now you know what signs to look for to avoid in others. I wish you well, my friend.
see the RU-vid channel of DoctorRamani, a psychologist who counsels people on the west side of Los Angeles, where there are many people who are narcissists. She specializes in helping people to understand narcissism and to recover from the pain of having been in a relationship with one or more (a parent, a wife or husband, a boss). She helps people understand why they are susceptible to narcissists (are easily spotted by them) so that they know how to resist trying to rescue the narcissists and how to spot one when you meet them. We cannot change them. The only effective defense against them is “no contact.” But if we are stuck with having to deal with them because of broader family obligations or our career, for example, then she offers techniques for coping with them (“gray rock” is one). Watching her channel gave me a lot of healing, courage, and clarity about these manipulative people. One narcissistic relative is being extremely manipulative right now and she has no idea her manipulation is completely ineffective now. I’m free! Good luck.
Hi Joe, Is there a place I can get all of your books at once, and how many are there now? You know, like the Joe Navarro bundle? Refund time is coming, so I'll be able to buy all of'em for my studies... Thank you.
@@joenavarrobehaviorexpert Thank you! 🙏🏻 I read your book « Dangerous personalities » and it helped me to identify what it was… now how to deal with it on a daily basis is quite challenging! 😔 I will be on the lookout 👀.
I wonder if Joe is an SLDD (or started out that way and with his diligence sharpened out his way to be where he is now) RU-vid SLDD on RU-vid it is an updated term for codependency. 5 min I thought of Dwaine the Rock Johnson and Marjorie Taylor Greene lol. And most people who listen to hip hop. 7:30 another word or phrase is to spew vitriol either behind your back or overtly. I am not for a police state at all... but I believe as a community we need to be more hard on cracking down on their ability to effect the world... I was thinking about making almost like a reputable database( like how money is reputable so far) or just letting people know in your local community... almost like how criminals have a record... there should be a phycologist version of that... I am ALWAYS saying in my head... if only I could have a certified professional tell for certain who is who... who is the P Narc and who is likely the victim and not let it down to mere fallible myopic speculation and truly truth based... I mean just for the mere closure... so much gaslighting going on... that was my whole life... gaslighting over minimizing rinse and repeat.
This sounds like my sister, she could play the victim when it suited her , to get what she wants, to get me in trouble for something I never did/done. She could cry tears at the snap of your fingers then , turn to me with a smug smile once she had achived what she wanted , it was like she was alwats playing a chess game, carefully waiting watching planning to make her move. Could there be a Narcissist the displays all the different Narcissistic traits. Fragile/covert , malignant, +
Good question I will be talking about that in future episodes. In fact many times narcissism can be comorbid with the emotionally unstable (Borderline or Histrionic personality) and that really complicates life for those around them. I wish you well.
@@joenavarrobehaviorexpert thank you, I look forward to that, I'm in the motions of cutting ties with all childhood family members, I'm quite the villan for it, but there's peace ✌ 😊 I love ehat you do Mr Navarro ❤