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Gusun Naz May Allah SWT strengthen your relationship with her after marriage and always keep both of you happy and shower blessings on you both. Ameen.
I am truly happy for you brother! May Allah bless your marriage and reward you for keeping yourself chaste. Your wife will be so happy that you saved yourself for her! I wish you all the best :)
Dr. Dweller why don’t you even go read quran and try to understand it and ask yourself if it is god words or human made No god will tell you to not marry the person you love thats bullshit
@@nofuckinname5206 lmao. I dont mean to be disrespectful but when did this vid say u "shouldn't talk to the person" like u said it does. The brother literally said to talk to her but with a chaperone, or talk to her with ur family and her family together. Nowhere does it say "you cant talk to her" lmao what. When the brother said that the guy and the girl shouldnt talk on FB and have Skype calls at night, etc, etc, it may have caused u to think that, but what he was saying was that you shouldn't have private convos with her without any loved one or family member in on it. Hope you understand mate and have a nice day
Raiyan Islam why would talking on facebook would be prohibited ? Whats wrong with 2 people from different sex having conversations on facebook? I find that bullshit tbh.. You have to admit some muslims like him consider men sex wolves who are insane with women’s sexuality
Raiyan Islam I actually don’t think that it’s fair that a man cannot talk to a girl without anybody else involved. I think that this thing came up cause men used to think about sex and all that stuff with women. But you can talk to a girl without any SEXUAL INTENT. Also, I have a question. Why can you have till 4 wives but you can’t have a girlfriend before marriage ( WITHOUT HAVING SEX WITH HER)
@@mayflower-emjay 01. Peace when you look at their face instead of excitement. 02. They encourage you to love your family when you can't. 03. They love you with the intention to please Allah, thus they forgive your flaws and patient with your true self. These are what I see in my parents. It's not always romantic but you're just there, together with trust. The best relationship is to have Allah's and parents blessing first, and discipline to pray together, and forgiving which is to not sleep with anger. InsyaAllah, marriage life will be filled with ease to the point your spouse helps you to increase your iman. That's why while we're young, we're taught to pray for a good spouse. But first, we must learn to love ourselves and families. Then only it's easier to understand someone else.
I refuse relationships before marriage , im 30 still single because every guy I met , want relationships before marriage , dates , pictures ...but allah before men 😊.
I stupid waited for my parents to help me find my spouse they never did, and now apparently I’m considered expired. So I’m waiting for my heavenly spouse in jannah-tul-firdus
Pique NY don’t give up If u rlly want a wife make dua And believe me there are many that wants to get married Ask some ppl U even can go to a mosque and ask if they have someone
My parents were never antisocial The sadly put theirs own maternal family first due to emotional blackmail causing the children to be forgotten and left behind
I don’t know how he can be so accurate yet send the message with such a humor , I mean. Cmon those advices solve half of the problems in my nation parents are too strict and unrealistic, while the choices became narrower and this is problem. I wish everyone just could understand those words
Know you can respectfully speak up to your mother, father. Get support from family, friends, aunty, etc. Speak with wisdom, not emotion only. Know your religion, as parents should not force you against its teachings. If they do, you have every right to say no, refuse and create another path Allah approves.
Subhanallah indirect approaches are considered a weakness by a majority of women/people nowadays. “Oh, what is he not a MAN to ask me directly!”. The Woman that truly fears Allah will understand. Brothers let’s not sell our honor and dignity so cheap.
@@mdmursalin4546 or cheat on man who are actually trying to honor them as these kind of men are considered beta in this society. smh, what a time to be alive.
@@nofuckinname5206 not exactly gonna disagree with you, but observing their parents will give you a good indication of who you are approaching to. Children are always psychological characterized based on how their parents were, example some girls whose dad were much older when they were born, gets psychologically attracted to older men, etc, also it is an assurance that you aren't screwing around and you are genuinely serious about her. When you approach her one on one, let's face it, we will fake who we really are if both parties find each other attractive, we will represent the best side of us which we are not, until you marry and then "ohhh shyyyt" , Or, you give her a false hope of marrying and then you find someone else, that would destroy her or vice versa, destroy you. I understand your philosophy but it is what it is.
Shaikh Jasem I never said I am against meeting parents , I think that is an important thing to do and shows that we go with the relationship to an other level where everything is serious, I am 100% with families knowing each other and I agree with what you said but not with whats mentioned in the video, rewatch it.. He actually says , don’t talk to her , be indirect , send someone else.. if you don’t you are going to get sexual.. that’s the main problem with people who explain islam.. i don’t understand why there is such an obsession with women sexuality and they actually think that all men are savage wolfs who are just seeking for sex If you have long conversations about alot of of topics with the person you will never get to know them well enough to take such a big decision as continuing your life with them We are not sex wolfs , we are human beings who think with our minds first otherwise if someone thinks with an other part seeking mental or medical help is necessary , he talked about if I would accept that if it was my sister , YES i do as long as the man is respecting her and my sister knowns her values and she respects herself , I want the happiness to my sister as to all other women and human beings , I wouldn’t like to see my sister crying because of a man she had to marry but she knew nothing about till it is too late Life is about love and Allah is about love , no god will prohibit people from loving each other , i love allah but i hate those idiots who try to control people with no sense restrictions
Your life is not ruined beloved brother. You can still make things right, it is never too late, the only time it is too late is when death reaches us. Seek forgiveness from Allah and pray to him for guidance for he is all-forgiving and all-merciful. May he ease your affairs, bless you beyond expectations and perfect your ways. Aameen
"If you want something from Allah ,You can't take it by disobeying him ,Take it by obeying him"(young couple) ,If you followed a wrong path ,Its ok you learned a lesson ,But you must move on and try to reach the good path 🌸 May Allah forgive our flaws and bless us with good partners ,Amen 🌸
I fell in love with my gf, actually she approached me first and then are being together for like 3 yrs, before her i dated many girls,,bt after been with her for 3 yrs i suddenly started watching ur clips through RU-vid recommendation,i was a laymen before,,bt now i have started learning abt Islam,, I can't leave her because she is too young and Virgin and i dnt wanna break her by leaving her,,so we made a deal that we would be better Muslims and we won't chat and after 3,4 yrs as soon as my graduation gets completed we will marry,, Now we both are learning abt islam and we speak like once in a month ,,, I wanna say to all those brothers out there that if r in such haram relationships ,dnt just leave them,,speak with them and make them understand it's haram and if u both love each other then get married as soon as u can,,bt dnt leave her by making excuses like i need to leave her , it's haram,...and marry someone else after few yrs!! Assalam walaikum 🤗
@Eternity people aged quicker back then and they don’t need to follow American laws because that was over a thousand years ago. If that’s the case everyone back then was a pedo.
Alhamdulillah i have great understanding parents. I have lived 18 years of my life without any relationship and i pray to Allah that i wont do that in future as well
I'm 25 years old and i never ever had a boyfriend or date ✌️Hamdoulilh I'm proud of my parents's education and proud of being a Muslim we have to believe that God who guide and choose the best for us so let's just pray to have faith i' God and Lear to love him then He will send send until our roads and hearts the best people 💚 💜🌹 ولا متخداتٍ أخدان ولا تخضعن بالقول فيطمع الذي في قلبه مرض
and I sought her for 17 years, when I realized that there is no girl who dresses for her clothing as God has created, I lived a life of pleasure until God guided me. and when God guided me, I thought I found her, so I asked Allah for the right clothes for me, then looked around for one of all the women around. God sent me a loose woman. and God sent one with whom you can still hunger, but nothing else.. I understand the signs of God that the poison and half the ribs from my heart that God has clothed are not in this world for soon the hour is up
"That's not falling in love that's your hormones, congratulations you're a teenager!" That was hands down the funniest thing i've ever heard HAHHAHHAHh
Assalamualaikum.. . Im a teen muslimah. Im making videos about islam and art And i need ur support . If ur interested can u check my channel. JazakAllah✨😅
I went through a bad break up (yes I know dating is haram). Thankfully we didn't commit zina or anything. But I feel like my heart is destroyed. I dont want to fall in love ever again. I'm just going to turn to allah and do things the halal way inshallah.
InshaAllah you will be given the best spouse out there for you. I can relate to some of the things you said, i didn't date but almost got my feelings involved. Yes im still struggling to not get tempted into useless conversations, and yes temptation is scarring me. But yeah, keep calm and remain patient. Allah before men/women 💪🏼
I’m 24 , never had any kind of relationship with any girls nor ever have I tried talking to any one on social media. Don’t stare at them going shopping (Bazar) etc. Guess what my friends say” tum Khusra(Hijra) to nahi ho”. That’s the kind of society we live in. (Pakistani)
Just tell this to the families, youth is helpless to achieve this by themselves, they will get into a fight with their parents eventually as you suggested here 5:15. When that happens one should follow their own hearth and if their sprouse is faithful then they should stand up for that relationship. One can not be the protector of the ummah while being helpless to defend his or her own rights. Getting married is a right and unfortunately some parents are not prepared to see that happen. They can be immature on this subject while being very wise on others (well this is common, actually)
You hit the nail on the head man. Nouman Ali Khan is undoubtably very sensible, unfortunately the majority of our parents arent so, or are too busy with societal politics to take things seriously, yet have a problem with their children looking for a spouse themselves. I will always keep things halal to the best of my power, but Im not putting my future in the hands of my parents.
I’ve watched many of these videos and know what the islamic way to finding a spouse is supposed to be like. I’m sure all of us know, yet we still come back to these videos seeking guidance. It’s because a question isn’t being answered; What do we do when the majority of the world doesn’t operate in this way? It would be soo nice to be approached indirectly, but on a personal level, i’m a very private person and i don’t want too many people involved - why? Because they TALK sh*t. Alhamdulillah I am selective and keep good friends close to me, but this can’t be said for everyone. Some people are naive. And not everyone decided to approach indirectly. And families WILL take it seriously or they wont listen because you have to marry some incompatible cousin. We say we must have a conversation etc but its not easy to have conversations about this. Its easy to say but not easy to do.
Just don't listen to these bullshit and get to know a girl yourself. You can't have sex before marriage in Islam but you don't have to be always surrounded by your family
Dating someone you’re really interested in marrying doesn’t have to be straight up haram AS LONG and I repeat AS LONG as you get your family involved within this relationship from day 1. Often times muslims keep their lovers a secret from their family and thus leaving the door wide open for Shaytaan and his evil influences. When me and my fiancé were getting to know each other / dating (always in public of course) I told my mom about him and his folks straight away and Alhamdulillah it all worked out. We’re engaged now and soon to be married and start living our lives together In sha Allah! 🤲🏼☪️
„If love is not allowed“ -Love is allowed, only interaction with the opposite gender is restricted to a level of modesty and respect . What a weird representation.
prince charming Ma dude, sorry for misspelling a word. I don‘t want you to bring across anything. What you said was basically pointless. What kind of love did they mean in the video?
I married 5 years ago and I am 23 years old and she left me because she dont love me anymore.. we try to came together but we just had an dispute with her and her Family.. But now I Miss her and I cant Continue my life without her.. may allah bring back my beautiful wife to me...
@@FarhanKhan-vl1db bro its very immature to say something like that..Its not the problem of zina only but several other things involved in it..Its not a straightforward thing..Stay blessed
Asalam Aleykum brother, Can you make a longer video or more videos on this topic please. As a university student in the US I feel like I need this reminder. Shukran
After watching this i realized am in such haram relationship and am 18, idk what to do please pray for me to go to the right path where is allah is pleased with me amen
Maybe this’ll help someone. Also before I continue my actions have been set and done and I couldn’t care less if any of you have something to say about my past because again, Islam is all about your relationship with you and god, not anyone else. I am 19 years old. Obv a Muslim. I dated a girl for 3 years. Had sex let’s get that out of the way. But apart from that I really did love this girl. For a good amount of time she looked after me very well and our families were very supportive of us. But she became very toxic and abusive as time went by. I really thought I was going to marry this girl after we both had finished uni together. Started in high school and even went abroad together for uni. But I find out she had cheated on me with multiple people. I thought okay she’s young and has a lot to learn so I forgave and taught her lessons but she never wanted to learn. My family and friends grew to hate her but I still defended her because of how long we had dated. After getting a lot of strength I had recently finally ended the relationship. And one thing I find 1000% true from this video, is that I have been left terribly scarred and don’t know if I can ever ever trust anyone again even if I meet a girl in this Islamic way. So whoever is reading my advice is, be careful. Take things slow. I know there are a lot of viewers like me who aren’t fully religious but still keep allah at heart. If you want to date then date, just be aware of your religious consequences and also your consequences in this life as well. Slow and steady has never meant so much to me than before. I don’t care if you have had sex before marriage, that judgement is between you and god. But if you ever want to take part in something that is very sensitive and very spiritual between you and your partner, I repeat, BE CAREFUL.
May allah swt lets find you a faithfull Muslima and dont worry your past wont stop you to continue as a servant of the Mighty and Merciful Allah swt. Brother can i ask if the Girl was a kufr you dated or was she a muslima?
but what happened to you is precissely the reason why you should have a relationship before marrying someone ( if you think marriage is definite and don't want to even think of divorce) because what happened yo you can happen if you are married to, specially if you marry after knowing someone for only a few months and and not having real interactions with that person without someone chaperoning, and in that case there a divorce though not necessarily a bad thing,does have legal complications.
How dose one even take the indirect approach nowadays? I am just some 18 year old kid who dose believe in true love and clean hearts. But I feel like the world's against me and because of my morals I have no friends just only my parents. I live in the west and I see so much lust, deception, and dirty hearts everywhere. Sometimes I just lose hope. Like I will find nobody.
no friends means...u r so goid hearted that their mean hearts doesn't attract u to be frnds with them...i went through that but have hope u gonna find a good friend nd the other u wanted too
Learn more about Islam and seek into the prophets ways in life from both quran and sonnah , read the quran translations .read hadiths about allah I'm sure that will tighten up ur faith .. I meant to say that the ignorance of why we try to follow the right path and being away from Allah will just lead us to not caring about anything related to halal or haram . btw sometimes you won't realize how clean was your heart until you give up and throw it in the swamp
Bear crum Don't say like that you have parents you have clean heart you believe in love If Allah has given you that sort of thing Then he has given to many its just that bcz what you see you realize there is no hope if life was ugly Allah would have not given you Good heart good parents to believe in love Its a disrespect to (God) Allah that he'll not give you believe in him & pray for whatever you want bcz he has given you what you need or want from others (friends or family or relative or spouse or neighborhood) I hope you understand
Did you ever ask your creator? Human beings have a limit for thinking and we Muslim believe that Allah just know everything. Did you ask ? Why should Allah help when no-one asks? When I changed me, the human in the mirror, my life changed. People around me changed. I meet very lovely people. Alhamdulillah
I took an indirect approach and now she is married to someone else. And it's real I am not lying Everyone wants to talk a bit directly with you before they are married to you which I certainly didn't do out of respect for her and someone seems to have been doing all this time she is gone. I really liked to spend my life with her now feeling at a great loss
It really sounds easier than it actually is ... Even for a decent guy it's so difficult, cos in my country family and friends are not involved at all.. but it'll be ok insha Allah, maybe I'm not ready, though i've been telling that myself for quite some time now
I agree wholeheartedly with the analogy of the scale metaphor, I believe weight must be taken off from the left in order for the two to meet at the middle. parents overwhelm their youth and the youth don’t bother, imagine if an extremely difficult exam/task is thrown at you, most of us will just decide not to do this exam/task at all because of how difficult and strict it is, similarly the youth see all these expectations as just impossible and they’d rather just take the easier path. Of course those who take the hard path emerge much stronger, but that is very few of us, I believe if parents were more understanding the youth would be much more open to Islamic processes, at the end of the day I don’t blame parents as that is how they have been raised and taught, but the reality is this very strictness is what’s scaring the youth away and parents must be able to see this than just blaming the youth.
I thank my Allah that he made my mind like this. If i see a girl i would always look away from her and if a girl is passing by my eyes go down. I am not your typical type of guy who swears a lot . I never swear and my friends know i hate swearing and so they have stopped swearing at all because they are near me. What you will do will come back to you so always watch your actions
Yes. Thats good. In my culture family doesnt want to get involved but its good to get your closest friends involved. Introducing a man to the best friends and listening to the best friends opinions is a good way to do. 👍
until when are we gonna keep viewing a woman as "somebody's sister" "somebody's daughter" or "the respect and honor of somebody's family"? a woman is her own independant person, and should be respected like everyone else.
He isn’t talking as if she’s a object, he’s saying that she is a human and her own independent person, he’s simply saying that for us to realize that every ones honor should be protected
He's saying that there are people who care about her and that she is important to them, and drawing an analogy that's like "What would you do if this happened to the person you care about?"
Muhammad Zulkhairi Mohd Nasir asking Allah for forgiveness and not repeating the same mistake again will clean your heart.... it’s never too late... you still have time to ask for forgiveness. :)
Ekrem Bulut it doesn’t need explication my brother, love who you ever you want , talk to whoever you want to as long as you are reapectful , don’t hate no one don’t harm no body You will go to the heaven Why would a god put people in hell for loving each other ? Doesn’t that sound shitty?
Subaru.sakamaki.student.kista Sakamaki “I won’t like him” you have the wrong perspective be a little more optimistic you put that kind of energy out that is what u will receive
@@rdccrfedefd1088 but people who want a good spouse can get a bad one. They said that a good woman is for a good man, and my mom is a really good and a pious woman, but she got married to my dad who is not a great man. Now I'm nervous that Allah has written for me a spouse similar to my dad
@@utaeia1505 Be optimistic, I understand your concern but choose someone who has amazing character, keep searching and inshallah you will find the perfect man
But how can I involve my family if its not that serious and i feel like if i involve my family that then I would have to marry and not marrying would lead to a bad reputation on you and feel like that the girl's family won't like it
