Thirty Years Worth of Marital Advice | Hina Khan-Mukhtar 

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This seminar was delivered at the Muslim Community Center - East Bay (MCC East Bay) in Pleasanton, California on December 9, 2023.
Hina Khan-Mukhtar is a married mother of three young men and one of the founders of the homeschooling co-operative known as ILM Tree in Lafayette, California, which now serves over 35 homeschooling families in the East Bay. In addition to teaching Language Arts to elementary, middle, and high school students, she is also involved in interfaith dialogue. Hina was a monthly contributor to The Muslim Observer’s “Raising Our Ummah” column. She also writes for Seeker’s Guidance, where she shares parenting advice and ideas for nurturing spiritual traditions in childhood. Learn more about her at hinakm.com
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Talk notes
00:00 Introduction
3:10 Make Allah your main concern
7:00 Love and affection
10:30 Special routine
11:47 Passion and interests
14:00 Fulfilling sexual needs
14:52 Praying to Allah
15:40 Men need to be respected
17:48 Social media
18:24 Laughing rules
18:33 Make your home
19:30 Crucial points on contact with non mahrams 21:34
20:07 What does domestic bliss look like
21:23 Everything about you should be…
22:12 Conflict is inevitable
24:22 Self reflection and apologizing
24:50 Everyone gets angry
25:55 Don’t be disrespectful
27:04 Your spouse is not a mind reader
28:30 Sleep on it and snuggle it out
29:05 Avoid arguing in front of kids
29:32 Holding grudges and learning to forgive
29:50 Keep a sense of humor
30:48 Being a family uniter and not a divider
31:26 Relationships with in-laws and parents
34:03 Don’t try and keep up with Joneses and don’t ever pay interest
35:02 Only complain to Allah and be grateful
36:33 The little things that irritate you: everyone has flaws
37:22 Happiness Vs Contentment: Don’t take one another for granted
37:58 Have a mentor in marriage: Needs to be a Muslim
39:40 Soar spiritually
40:28 Your spouse comes first
40:55 Grow spiritually together
Other notes:
1. Make ٱللَّٰه your main concern.
2. Know love languages.
3. Have something special between two of you and guard it.
4. Have your own passion projects (have healthy interest in their interests).
5. Fulfill sexual needs
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