When I try to get motivation and inspiration, I watch RU-vid videos about productivity and goal setting, or cleaning videos, then I get stuck on RU-vid for hours and don't even get started on anything.
@@Runner8617 we search for external inspo but should find inner our lives! i use meditation to do it (mindvalley) and journal or plan and see the grear vision of my life ..
You mentioned in a few videos about emotional dysregulation which i think is such an interesting topic, i would love to hear your take on how to better manage it. Sending lots of love from Italy☺️
I would love to see a video specifically catered to/about ADHD! The way you present information is so digestible and actionable which is so helpful to me with ADHD.
“When a reward doesn’t exist for a habit it is really hard to maintain “. That’s the single most useful bit of information I have learned today. Thanks for that! Also it’s funny how RU-vid allows the phrase “screw it” but not “f@#& it” when they essentially mean the exact same thing.
i'm not going to lie... retirement is a waste of time. yes, i have unencumbered days & i can read ALL the books and i am very physically active... all amazing things im grateful for... AND, i just feel like im filling blocks of time. (i had to retire early bc of a health issue, which still limits me in many ways)
Cool video, some great tips. I love the one about raising your awareness of the triggers and how they make you feel / how much satisfaction you're getting from the activity. I remember HealthyGamer's story in one of his videos about how a monk tried to break the addiction of eating chips and he was instructed (by his.. monk master? 😁) to, instead of trying to cut down on them and forcing himself not to eat, to buy a few more bags instead and eat them but stay mindful of how he feels about eating them. The idea was to bring some awareness to this addiction that until then had mostly been unconscious, and it worked. That story has stuck with me for a while, so thanks for refreshing that ;) As a side note, about "changing your behavior when coming from a place of shame", I actually have to disagree with that it's harder to do. The way I see it, people either accept their behavior (meaning the undesirable habits, of course) and become accustomed to them to the point that they don't care about changing anything, OR they will feel shame and it will be much easier to initiate the process of changing your habits and figuring out what you can do to improve. Basically, it's much easier when feeling pain to start making changes than when you're indifferent and accepting (for a lack of better wording). The sweet spot is probably in the middle (too much pain and you're also not going to do anything), and you want to use these feelings strategically - e.g. you probably don't want to keep beating yourself up once you've identified the problem and started doing something about it - but generally there's a reason why so many of success stories feature people who've come from a really low place in their life.
Oooh, that's a good one. Reminds me of when parents force their kids to smoke a whole pack of cigarettes after they catch them smoking 😂Pain can 100% be a great motivator, but I don't agree that shame is a good ingredient for change. Pain can exist and motivate without shame. You can experience pain, practice non-judgment and not make *yourself* the problem but instead make *the behavioural pattern* the problem - then choose to create change. Acceptance is about "recognising what is true" rather than being indifferent. It's just seeing what (behaviour, pattern, etc) exists, noticing the impact of what exists (e.g. the pain) deeply, and not personalising it or beating yourself up about it - then choosing to change based on what you notice. We may have to agree to disagree here tho; but I think this one is more about semantics, we just have different ideas of what shame and acceptance are!
Shame just makes me want *more* of things like sugar and escapist content! Self-acceptance, change "experiments," and noticing what I'm doing *right* have worked WAY better for me. ⭐⭐
@@muchellebYess, it does seem like we're more or less pointing at the same thing haha. Regarding acceptance, you're definitely on point that it's not supposed to lead to indifference, it's just that in reality it often does end up that way for many people (maybe even the majority, in my experience), which is unfortunate because it's just missing the point and making things harder for yourself later on. I think I've actually heard of that thing with cigarettes! A bit drastic but I'm guessing probably effective 😂
@@bellaluce7088 I used shame as a potential positive factor because it really accompanies a lot of the pain that we're feeling. As in, there's always a degree of shame due to circumstances that then results in pain. But yeah, it's a fine line and things can turn bad if we let them. But I'm glad you've figured out something that works! 👍😉
Cant explain in words how much my life gets infulenced by your videos. every time i burn out or am on survival mode,you help me get back on track . I will always remember you 🥰🥰
since im early i have to tell this story - every day i drive by “barnes sewing” and everytime i picture you trying to sew your skirts😂 ive been a fan for years so i love the little muchelleb reminder in real life!
OMG - you are psychic - you need to come and let me carry you around on my back piggy-back style for the rest of my life so that you can tell me what to do so that I can have a life! Have you been sitting outside my living room window taking notes? I am laughing hysterically right now! Thank you for this! 🤣😘
Muchell could you share your current entire productivity/organisation system? Like for example what's that thing in your door with cute small sticky notes?
do you think you could delve into how to create a planning or organization structure for those getting started? it's a but overwhelming with so many tools and i wonder if you have any advice as you created your own system
5:47 - when I took a psychology class in college/uni, my professor said something very powerful that was a much needed revelation to me about mindlessly going to eat when you feel different emotions( sadness, anxiousness, stress, etc...). She told us that this behavior begins during bottle feeding, when a baby starts crying and the mother quickly ASSUMES the baby is hungry, even through the baby could just want attention or play, or physical comfort. And the more often the mother tries to "stop" the crying with a bottle, the more the baby's brain will corelate food with comfort from all the emotions. It was mind-blowing to me and answered my own question about my very emotional eating habits. I eat when I'm stressed, and it's to the point that I started noticing this habit back as a teenager. It's still pretty bad, and I'm trying hard to break this habit. I do remember my parents saying I was a cry baby and cried a LOT as a baby. I also think my mom had severe Post Partum when she had me, which is probably why I think she would try to shut me up with a bottle from crying. 😟 I'm trying so hard to break this habit.
I'm a stress eater as well and a few little tricks I use to make my brain think I'm eating is to Chew gum, drink water, and /or make tea. All of which are low/zero calorie. I also will get up and walk to get any nervous energy out. Hope my little tricks help you.
Hey muchelleb , really nice video! I was wondering if I could help you edit short videos from your long form content and also make an highly engaging thumbnail , let me know what you think ?
but i really dislike what i'm doing, i'm doing it because i greedy for the degree/ qualification... but i really dislike the industry that i am in, but i keep telling myself i'm stuck in this industry and in order to have more chances of better pay, i'm working for a qualification which is really demoralizing because of all the responsibility that this job holds? ... that's why i'm on youtube instead of studying for my exams :(
You will end up miserable for the rest of your life. What do you love doing? THAT is what you should be doing. I love art and wanted to go to art college but my career advisor told me there is no money in art and suggested I follow a secretarial course instead. I stupidly took his advice and nearly 40 years later I still regret this decision. Yeah I earned a decent living and actually followed several different career paths in the end, but never did the one thing I really wanted most of all. Money should have come secondary to happiness.
Could you please reduce the speed of talking in the videos or maybe just allow for some punctuation between sentences? I find it so hard to follow through unless I'm listening with 100% attention.
Hey! The best thing for you to do is use the speed function to slow down my videos. I have tried to intentionally speak slowly in videos before, and it leads to me sounding like a robot.
