Mel is a very generous soul. She gives of herself and is willing to reveal her vulnerabilities. She has overcome a lot of issues. This makes for great mentorship. I enjoy these support videos.
Mel I'm so grateful🙏 to you for taking the time to make this masterclass for us. It really means a lot to me. Big hug🤗 from Silvana from South America Uruguay 🇺🇾
Didn’t watch the video yet, but recently started expressing boundaries in my relationship. Did it today again, I’m feeling proud of myself, but I’m having a lot of anxiety and stress now too. Saw an interview with the author of “no more mr nice guy” and he’s says this is a common thing to feel at first. Just don’t want my gf feeling like I’m being too much or nit picky..she’s a genuinely good person and I always feel like I’m being too much if I’m being critical. But if I keep my mouth shut I start feeling resentment which she doesn’t deserve either. I’m feeling stuck in a catch 22.
advice from an old girl : choice the big things ...learn to let go of the smaller stuff...when we start doing something ..that we feel we should have been doing ...we tend to go to far the other way when we first make a correction...so for the sake of ur relationship and this lovely woman u are involved with ...keep this in mind. Being in a relationship with a genuinely good person is precious ..a unicorn...congrads! Tc :)
I cant tell you how much I appreciate and love you Mel. Your guidance has changed the way I deal my relationships and look at my future. I especially can relate to the segment on narcissistic relationships and setting boundaries. I can't change my children, just accept them for who they are with all their flaws. I can set boundaries to protect myself and change the way I see them.
My initial instinct was to say "I have seen enough boundary videos". Boy was I wrong. Everyone brings different perspectives on the issue, and reviewing what one already knows is also quite useful
Love you so much Mel, always learn something from your videos. ? Are you substituting AND for BUT, that's what I'm hearing, or am I missing something? Thank you in advance for your answer❤❤❤
What about when a relationship with family members are one-sided, but you want to keep them in your life? But, when they don't seem to be respectful at all to your needs, you just had enough and tell them to stop communicating with you?
I’m so excited that I just found this channel , I just subscribed! I’m desperate at age 45 to develop boundaries, and I want to share this video with my daughters so they have the skills and feel safe to have boundaries with me, I am going to brave up and love myself enough to do this for myself with my own mother. You explain this in such a helpful way, Thank you!
Mel and the team, please know that your projects and videos are so valuable lessons to heal, charge and grow. Love you all! You don’t know me but I hug you virtually every time I listen to your advice)
Back in the day there used to be social conventions to enforce behavior but that wasn't good enough for jack wagon therapists and "relationship experts" so now we have the vastly inferior system of "boundaries". Due to that change it is now much better for an individual's well being to avoid relationships all together.
Thank you Thank you Thank you . This was so informative I am learning better communication skills and your video gave me some great insights . Much appreciation for sharing 🙏🏻
Loved how you said to set boundaries but I don’t understand how to stop a friend who needs you to stop talking about their need in six months. A death in the family, cancer or a marriage falling apart takes longer to deal with than 6 months. If the person is getting help but still grieving which is the process all 3 examples are, then they are abandoned again. Maybe limit the time to talk about these things?
Finding your messages are like finding a long lost love. I am so thankful for the courage you have to not only overcome your challenges but to want this for all. Inspiration every time ❤ Bless you and all that you are about.
I think there's a time and place to talk about politics, especially if there are a lot of people being affected by it nowadays. However, if the conversation is taking a negative turn or you're going in circles trying to change someone's mind or something of that sort, then it's best to leave the conversation and talk about other things.
This really hit close to home for me, I’ve been working on boundaries with family for over two years. It feels never ending but Mel this video gave me some really helpful tools to continue on….thank you and I love you too!
This is so good...am going to watch it again. Have always thought of boundary talk very much in the vein of those people who flounce about talking about how their boundaries have been violated and found it quite tiresome, but it's clear from this that boundaries are the action of love and compassion towards ourselves first and others second - and that seems fair enough - especially if that's the way we approach talking about them. Thanks :)
Great advice; but what do u do or handle a family member when you do this with them? I am afraid my son will leave me. He’s always guilt tripping me about how he didn’t get x, y z as a child n preys on that. He lives in the past n his gf gaslights the situation. He’s threatened to write me off before. 😢
Wow this was great and what timing too! I am just getting introduced to you and really enjoyed this - I definitely do not know what boundaries I need to set for my specific situation yet, but feeling a lot more empowered letting the idea sink in that my boundaries can’t change other people’s behavior, but they CAN protect me from becoming a doormat or a nag - do you do couples counseling by any chance?!?!?
You are amazing and I have learned a lot from you, but I have to disagree on toxic behaviors and toxic people. Toxic means fatal . It is no easy topic to be treated lightly. Talking loudly on a plane or in an airport as you said is not "toxic" it may be disrespectful, not polite or else but in no way toxic !
Have you had counseling (not just talk therapy, but actual guidance)? The 12 year old probably needs it the most, especially if they are/were a part of this dysfunctional family. Family dysfunction contributes and even creates oppositional defiance in kids, bc the dysfunction they live in is constantly programming their nervous system to be in overdrive. 💜
Yes,, that is great content and I hit unsubscribe and dislike over the sheer volume of RU-vid ads. There are better ways to monetize content. Please use them instead. Message me if you don't understand.
