If You Don't Decide on Something, Something Will Be Decided for You 

It definitely didn’t happen over night, but everyone’s timing is different and valid.

Comments like these are very disheartening because they immediately reveal that you've probably never heard or read anything else I've shared online. I will outwardly say in almost all of my work to not shame ourselves because what we struggle with is often conditioned into us or completely out of our control, but that accountability is important as an act of KINDNESS (as I say in the video) toward ourselves because it is. It's disheartening that you've made a judgment on my work outside of the context of everything I've created. Also, I don't position myself as a coach or guru. I'm just a person who shares her experiences and lessons online in the hope of forming a supportive community among others like me who relate to the way I've experienced the world. And ironically in your attempts to emphasize not self-shaming you've commented something that has a very deep undertone of shame to it. I hope you can recognize this hypocrisy and use it as a point of reflection for yourself.

@@kat.eleftheriou maybe your other content is valuable, I might check it out. I just don’t like the onus on “individual choices” when most of us are run by subconscious patterning and economic choices we are born into. If I am evicted and made homeless because I can’t afford the ever increasing rent, where can I exercise my agency in that scenario? Do I choose to put my frown upside down and look at sleeping on the streets as a new challenge! Doesn’t that sound absurd? This is an extreme example but not really as it’s happening to more and more people and almost happened to me last year. Subconscious patterning and economic realities cannot be overcome without emotional and material support. Does that mean I think we are all doomed and should give up? No way, but to not contend with the realities of this world and emphasise personal choices as the path to freedom is not empathic, irresponsible and not based in reality. And I’m really exhausted by online people/coaches/gurus/influencers monetising the cure for human suffering behind a pay wall. If you are confident in your convictions and your ability to help people suffering so much, that you charge for your expertise or insight then be prepared for respectful criticism. I am harsh but still respectful to online creators selling cures or answers. People are suffering and vulnerable and are desperate to cope in this cruel world and I don’t like people preying upon them. Maybe that’s not what you are doing consciously or on purpose but the road to hell is paved with good intentions. Maybe you are helpful to others and that’s great, I just offered alternate online creators that aren’t selling anything if people don’t resonate with you or you trigger shame in others. I don’t think my comment was hypocritical, I think giving shame back to who it belongs to is powerful. To give shame back to abusers, to give the shame back inhumane landlords, to give shame back to predatory people selling courses and e-books and sessions selling the “answers” (maybe this is not you, but the bare bones of what you were saying was in my opinion very reminiscent of people that are). I’m glad that you are trying to help people, but in case you aren’t I offered alternatives - Gabor Mate, Heidi Priebe, Patrick Teahan and Daniel Mackler. All very thoughtful insightful people that help in understanding your own psyche and behaviour. Heidi has great and has very wonderfully communicated tools that she isn’t selling. I’m allowed to be critical and skeptical of people online. All the best and I hope you engage critically and not delete this comment

@@atesah I literally say in the episode that there are many instances where you aren’t able to make the choices you want to make and are forced into circumstances that aren’t aligned with you. I think all voices can be beneficial when discussing topics like these. Some study it, some experience it. It’s all helpful when it’s coming from a place of authenticity and genuine intention.