What if she's really good at hiding all those red flags and only showing you all the qualities she sees you looking for? What if you only find out who she really is after you marry her? I'm pretty sure this is far from a rare situation.
I hope you're right. I can't help but see it as just a list of assumptions that are projected. And without any proof you are eternally guilty. And if you say anything to point out the absurdity, you are obviously guilty. Exactly why I'm not married. I'm blue collar. The women available at my smv are not worth dealing with.