In Defense of Taking Offense | Belief It Or Not 

Sadly too often :(

I’m trans. They can’t hurt my feelings and at this point I’ve stopped even showing them basic human respect. I go in to mock and offend, and they answer the call every time. I can come up with much better things than they can. 😂

I love this. Thank you for this comment. It really helped me!My mom currently wonders why I have become estranged from her. Uhm - I don’t know mom. Maybe I learned it from you. Maybe if you wouldn’t have talked about disowning me over trivial things like being mad about the fact that I might be having sex as an adult, asking me constantly if I go to church when I am an adult living on my own. I had to hide who I really was until I could get away from my parents.

This are also the ppl who H8 being called transfobic, homophobic, racist, sexist, misogynistic, ext, cuz they are too sensitive to people pointing out that what they are doing is bad, and wanna think they are fully good people and are too sensitive to admit that they are jerks, not in the edgy sense "yeah I'm a jerk" cuz usually they see it as "I'm a jerk who tells it how it is and I tell what people need to hear", no they are jerks in the sense that they are just flat out wrong and hurt people wrongfully, like someone punching a person they heard stole from someone, but they didn't steal, and they just punched an innocent person, they aren't a hero even tho they wanted to pretend to be, they are just dumb and emotional and fell for a rumour without even asking if it's true

But that is 'different' because that is something THEY don't like 🙃😜 You keep forgetting that freedom of speech for these ppl means 'the right for THEM to say whatever they want " not for other ppl ofc 🙃

fr lol

“Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain; for the Lord will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain.” Seems to me Yahweh is the ultimate easily offended snowflake.

I've been berated more than once by customers for not saying "Merry Christmas".

@@pansepot1490 Oh God is a huuuuge snowflake. He gets mad over things way out of proportion. Like when he sent bears to eat those kids.

Would that be judaism? The one christians stole, or islam, the brown christianity, or is it Hinduism which christians hate because it's the oldest practiced religion and it destroys their ego?

That's part of the reason why I stopped going to church as a teen. :P

At least when you ask a jew or a muslim i dont think theyd avoid answeribg questions about their faith cause they arent afraid of being intellectual about it. At least most of the time

@@quasi8180 whats intellectual about faith?

@@bayardkyyako7427 not much im afraid but to say that some people of faith arent intellectual isnt quite fair. Playing devils advocate if you will.

They never grew up.

I'm sorry about that...

How petty… (The bullies, I mean.)

glad?

Sick ish🙃🤣!

I remember when my school started the zero tolerance policy for fighting - even if someone was beating the shit out of you, if you fought back at all, you were equally guilty. My parents straight up sat me down and said they dgaf about the policy and to defend myself if necessary. I never had to (my bullies chose psychological violence), but it definitely stuck with me. But looking back, I think you've got a point. Bullies capitalized on the rule-following of their victims to not fight back. Now that they face any sort of pushback, they're baffled.

​@@Elaan021im so glad that they are phasing out zero tolerance. I fought back when I was genuinely worried that a bully was going to kill me within the next few seconds. I was the only one who threw a punch. And he was the only one who got punished. It still swings too far in favor of the bullies, but at least administrators and teachers are trying to slowly improve.

It's even funnier if you remember that their mockery is a reaction to people being more accepting and tolerant of one another..their mockery is their way of being offended.. all we gotta do is just call it out.

You say "without realizing" but I think they're very aware of it. It's pure hypocrisy

Well, the abrahamitic religions, atleast.

@@torbjornlekberg7756 All of them. Absolutely all of them.

@@nerissacrawford8017 Having studied Religion Science, I have to disagree with you. Some have that aspect, the abrahamitic religions (judaism, christianity and islam) especially, but far from all. In some religions they dont even have gods, and among those that do there is rarely a fear of them. Many versions of Buddhism does not teach fear, using the metaphorical carrot rather than the whip of fear, as not all speak of hells (yes, that is plural). In the old Nordic religion the gods were not feared and there was no punishment in the afterlife. In Zoroastrism, the only fear is for what may cause illness (dead bodies, parasites, etc). Most folk religions also dont rely on fear, beyond the occasional bogyman, used to keep toddlers away from the river or similar dangerous places, and warn adults from overfishing and similar things. And so forth.

Many people use jokes as a form of derision. That's why I'm really sick of hearing "it's just a joke".

My mom used to do this when I was a kid. Say something hurtful and then use that "It was a joke" shield so you can't fight back. It took me years to finally put into words why "jokes" like this hurt me so badly: It doesn't matter how you present it - if you say it, it means you thought it.

My grandma called me an indian(from india) cause I was upset and i gesture a lot with my hands and i told everyone how racist that was and they just laughed it off.

"lmao you're such a piece of shit person the world doesn't need you" -idiot to a person with depression Person with depression: commits suicide cause depression Idiot: bro was just a joke

Being told I was fat every day, that happened to me, too. Not at all funny, and you are SO right, "I'm just joking" does not give you a pass to say hurtful, mean, f***ed-up judgmental 💩 (ignore smile) to children. We were NOT AMUSED when we, at 37 years old and 326 pounds, had the opportunity to view a great many photos of myself as a toddler, school-age child and teen and realize that no, I wasn't. I became fat after being told i was fat, relentlessly, for years. That 💩 ain't funny. And NO, I'm JUST JOKING, does NOT give license to say whatever the hell you want, anywhere to anyone.

Yeah, I'm sorry to destroy your perception of reality, but nobody has a persecution complex. Nobody is complaining about the lack of white history month, nobody wants a straight pride month, and nobody cares if you make offensive jokes about white people. However I will admit, you guys really succeed at pissing us off when you obsess over this pathetic victim complex. You guys need to be better.

Wait till they hear any opinion differing from their exact 1/20,000 denomination of a religion 😂

Tell them about a game about cutesy elemental pets or a rather overrated dice game and watch them go ballistic.

@@SkoomaGodDovahkiin666 "a rather overrated dice game" lol what?

@@GiraffeBloodhe is referring to dnd

He didn't value you as a human being. He showed his *true* values when he chastised you *@ that time.*

I feel that. My mom pitted me and my brother against each other and told me I was "pressuring him into immorality" by telling him that bullying the gay kid in his class was bad, actually. When he called one of his ex-friends the f slur (whole word!) there was silence. Loudest silence I've ever heard. I hate that they're my family, I'm trans and it gets so hard.

@@stinky-smelly My condolences 🙏!

The double standards are crazy. I'm not a fan of saying Jesus Christ as a swear word, nor am I a fan of saying GD, I'd rather say any curse word other than those two, but I know slurs are not "just words". The F-slur encompasses the same hate as the N-word, but against a different group, and I hope any "preacher" that hates any marginalized group faces punishment. We are all human beings, and some people just love their own gender. People hate that.

Your anime PFP doesn’t help

Well, you see, conservatives don't actually care about veterans.

The term triggered is still used in a medical setting.

Conservatives are also very much against helping veterans when they come back, being very happy to leave them homeless. They're pro-military as long as they can die in the frontlines for their profit, when they can't anymore, they're useless and they don't matter anymore. Conservatives are the biggest narcissists around, everything has to exist only for them, and they still talk about other people being "entitled".

Same shit with “woke.” POC in the 40’s used the term to encourage one another to stay aware of injustice and power structures. Now it’s been co-opted as a conservative buzzword. Yay

I mean they've shown that they don't care much about veterans to begin with, so that tracks.

Absolutely, 100% THIS!!!!

AND THE HAYMAKER LADIES AND GENTLEMEN

An entire generation that belittled and berated the newer generations of milenials that broke under the two simple words "OK Boomer" They are the weakest and the most fragile, worst of all the most hypocritical.

Sharing pools and schools was too much, but me asking to be respected? Dx jfc

They absolutely lose their minds all the time. But it's not like being consistent was ever anything that mattered to them before.

And I wouldn't be surprised if their favorite hobby is yelling at minimum wage or retail employees.

No…. To your question of it they consider it.

These people have no self awareness. If they did, they would realize how big of hypocrites they are.

They sure get upset when a football player kneels during the national anthem, though. That’s practically sedition.

It reminds me of all of the boomers in my bowling league who will go on diatribes about how "blacks are too offended by statues and should stop being emotionally fragile", only to later have a meltdown when their beer is 30 seconds late.

When bullies talked to me, all I heard was "punch me in the face", and when I obliged and did what they asked me to do, they used those lines

Well Said. I mean, if you can't think of anything nice to say then, you probably shouldn't say anything at all! which is why I've recently decided to take a vow of silence... jk Conservatism is a scourge upon humanity, and I'm kinda glad my grandfather died before the Trump Era cause I fear he would've worn the red hat!!!

@@blazepetty6233the hat that ended the world!!!

Not sure that’s always true. Just this week my colleague and I both had to interview a candidate for a job and after speaking with him for 30 mins, my colleague thought he would be a great hire and recommend we give him the job. I said, “Well I’m not comfortable only trusting in mine or someone else’s gut feel with little to no verification, no offense.” I think what is really trying to be said here is more like the Ricky Bobby example where there never was a sincere desire to not offend, but it’s said anyway. “With all due respect, you’re a moron… …but I said, with all due respect” type of contradictory dialog. Probably true 80% of the time, or more, just not 100% of the time.

@@jjchello Sure, there are instances like that, but in those instances I feel the warning isn't needed. You didn't need to say no offense to someone for telling them that you can't trust their gut feeling. That's common sense, really. People do get offended, so I guess the warning is useful for caution, but it's unnecessary. With the example of, "With all due respect, you're a moron," well, I've found that typically respect has to do with something someone has done in the past that someone else feels is deserving of respect, like serving in the military or... Being a parent? I don't think either of those inherently deserves respect, but typically when you insult them with all due respect, it is because you still respect what they did, but you don't respect what they are doing. And in those cases, I would think they don't deserve any respect at all. It's not so much as a warning they might get offended and that you don't mean offense, but instead informing them that they're doing something you don't approve of. Also, when it comes to instances in which somebody does not mean any offense, then I find doing what Trevor does is the best thing to do. Have a discussion about it. Don't belittle someone or talk down to them. Explain yourself, ask questions, and make headway. That is the BEST way to talk to someone about a subject or topic that might be offensive.

@@DarthTingleBinks All good points. Thanks for the dialog. I learned something from it. 😊

Genius response to your Dad. 👍🏼

And not just DnD, it was completely innocuous crap like the fekkin CARE BEARS!! I was astonished when I heard that. People were having a hand-waving freak-outtery over the fekkin CARE BEARS because they used "magic". FFS.

What kinds of things, incorrect use of neo-pronouns? lol!! Prior generations lived through a great depression, stormed the beaches of Normandy, and fought nazis in the icy trenches of Europe. You kids cry when your phones don't work. Spare me. You know nothing.

I don't know how old your dad is, but I was a massive D&D player in the 80's and the panic attack over D&D wasn't even close to a whole generation having a collective panic attack. The only adults losing their minds about D&D were both (a) conservative Christians, and (b) American. Nobody else cared.

Then your dad will respond with: "Son, your entire generation is a literal cesspool of degenerates, who spend every single moment of their life complaining about every possible social issue as if their tirade of angry tweets is gonna change anything. Your whole generation is obsessed with this persecution complex, always grabbing every opportunity to feel oppressed. Son, you are in no position to be getting defensive."

They parodize themselves, and combo'd with emergent, popularized meta-irony feedback loops... dogwhistling and propaganda's about to get REAL weird, son.

agreed as a former part of the group........they are the most easily offended people on the planet, and over sh1t that doesn't matter.

@@RolaiEckolo Be careful, anything meta is a part of post-modernism and they are offended by that as well.

@@FakeSchrodingersCat considering how often they use the phrase "postmodern neo-marxism," I'm convinced that they have no idea what either term means. "A philosophy of grand narratives that rejects grand narratives! So logic! Much brain!" 🙄

@@emilyrln Lets be honest there are a lot of words they don't know the meaning of. Those are just the tip of the iceberg of their lexiconic ignorance. Though to be fair I have been assured by many right wingers that I am a postmodern neo-marxist and I have no idea what the phrase means either.

"I can’t oppress others? I feel so oppressed!"

@@lyokianhitchhiker then believe that if they are not the boot stamping down then they are the one being stamped on.

@@fastertrackcreative that’s what I said

Well they lack empathy so they only care if it affects them.

It's the "empathy" part.

@@Napoleonic_S kids are more sensitive (before adults tell them to shut their feelings down), if anything trigger warnings are more necessary. Specifically the trigger warnings Trevor talked about in the video had to do with racism, which a lot of people of color could potentially find very triggering. And I'm not saying don't correct your order, I'm saying don't yell at someone for making a mistake while they're doing their best to help you.

I see Disinterest. Disinterest to be updated on Extremism, even in Belief-it-or-not's fanbase. I mean, how many here have even seen the videos about people requesting a Theocracy? Videos by Telltale Atheist, whos not really seen as the valueable Tool to always know who-to-vote-against that he should be. Qanon or Flat-Earther, that guy keeps warning you every time someone insane runs for Office.

What things are currently causing trauma? Being called disabled is currently one, ill be called ableist. Why do i get called ableist if its just saying that someone has an atribute? I get that saying the Nword is bad, as it was used mainly for racism by white peeps, but calling me lefthanded due to my main hand being left just doesnt do it for me. Am i the idiot here? If so please only respond if you have constructive critism, ill make sure to ignore any insults

My favorite Britta Perry quote

Wholesome vibes 10/10

As a schizoaffective disorder sufferer, I concur.

(HUG)

i've suffered bouts of psychosis independently but don't have a chronic psychotic disorder, and they were quite frightening- it must be difficult to deal with, I hope you're having a good day

@@barmecideblu5323 well man than you’re an anomaly, because unless it’s drug related, I didn’t think you could have psychosis without a shizo-effective disorder, or bipolar with psychosis. Interesting.

Yeah, they can't see that they're being massively immature. Words and actions have consequences. They can't seem to grasp that.

This is a perfect comment.

Same for liberals. Extremists exist on both sides, not just the one you don't like.

@@janusgreenway6934 Liberalism is not an extremist ideology and in a lot of ways it's just as bad as conservativism.

@@_yoursleepparalysisdemon_ Never said anything was an inherently extremist ideology, just that there are extremists there too. To assume that everybody on a certain side is bad simply because there are bad people on that side is a pathetically terrible logical fallacy. To assume the ideology itself is bad truly depends on the actual ideology. Ultimately, regardless, it's pointless to argue with anyone with their head so far up their own ass that they fail to see any flaws with their ideology or the people supporting it.

"WHY CUP NOT CHRISTMAS?" "WHY NEW MUPPET ASIAN?" "WHY AD HAVE HOMOS?"

Tbf, i think they're more exasperated over that than offended at this point. Although, it did seem more along the lines of offended when movies started becoming more blatantly political. But Id say there are a lot more obvious and serious examples like the early anti muslim sentiments right after 9/11. Thats when things like Islam were just straight up seen as anti american and most importantly, some "devil religion" in some christian circles. I find that whole thing bout pronouns and whatnot pretty stupid on both sides as well since neither are actually discussing but poking fun at each other instead. Frankly, i think everyone should chill out and actually do what they claim: to have a thicker skin. All i see are crybabies on the internet who claim to represent some group or whatever. My local immigrant church was very accomodating of different views even though the pastor held strong views on things as well. People should just go touch grass instead of judging each other based on the internet, its infuriating when i see anyone make rash judgments about another group.

@@manipulatortrash Since when is it “political” to have racial diversity in popular media? The US is racially diverse, so why wouldn’t our pop culture reflect that? Fox News had multiple news segments about the slight changes to the cartoon M&Ms; there’s no reason to be offended or exasperated by minor changes in design for a candy mascot. It’s not stupid to treat people with dignity by using the correct pronouns. He, she, or they. Those are all words you use on the daily. Do you argue with people about their own name? Or do you just refer to them by the name they tell you to use? Your takes are garbage and so is your attitude.

..."WHY CATWOMAN BLACK??" ..."WHY TRANS PERSON ON BEER CAN??" ..."WHY FOOTBALL MAN KNEEL??" ..."WHY CHANGE MR. POTATO HEAD??" ..."WHY STAR WARS LADY BLACK??" ..."WHY SPACE GAME HAVE PRONOUNS??"

​@@PatrickWDunneRight😂! Yeah...

Just because they say they care about military service and veterans healthcare they don't act on that either. They don't avoid loud noises to prevent episodes, nor support care availability.

Other non-conservatives: "Hey man, if you voluntarily submit to a deity and claim to serve it, doesn't that make you a slave?"

@@JerehmiaBoaz Careful there, that logic is actually half the biblical justification they used for slavery in the first place.

@@FakeSchrodingersCat Why should I be careful, I'm not the one who chooses to enslave myself?

@@JerehmiaBoaz I was more meaning it took hundreds of years to break the mainstream Christians of the idea that the bible plus racism equaled all non whites should be slaves and we still have a lot of racism around. Stop giving them ideas.

@@FakeSchrodingersCat I know, I was just responding to the hypothetical "burn in hell" christians with the core tenant of satanism which is to refuse to serve any deity. (This is also the reason why christian fundamentalists think atheism is satanic.)

So just a relaxing room to use if stressed out or need to not be stressed?

@@Mr_Reaps25 Yeah, pretty much.

God this hits so close to home for me, moreso than it used to. I met someone recently who's also trans and would love to be able to transition and I'm 100% behind them doing so but the amount of actual hate they get throughout the day from people who apparently love them but don't know yet that they want to transition is very clearly slowly killing them on the inside and it breaks my heart.

@@redmoon383 And I'd like to add that in my case, I've found my family and close friends to be very supportive of me. And yet I still feel a bit anxious because the city I'm in is very transphobic. I cannot imagine how rough trans people who don't even have their family or many friends to count on must have it. I hope your friend manages to find the happiness they deserve.

I am so sorry that you have to deal with that BS. I'm not trans myself but do support your rights to live a long happy and healthy life. These jerks cannot seem to understand just how stupid they are to follow a social construct instead of learning about how gender has changed through the years. Please look up the Bugis of South Sulawesi....They got 5 genders

I'm pretty sure I knew some trans people growing up. I say pretty sure because it wasn't really a thing to be out in the 90s, we were still grappling with people being gay. But, hell, I liked being around the people in question because they were nicer than the dude-bros and the Karens-to-be. People are people and a basic amount of human dignity should be afforded.

^ This. I went undiagnosed as Autistic/having ADHD until last year (I’m in my early 30s) and the more that I’ve been learning more about my disability, who I am, and how I was raised on shitty ableism (how that was NOT ok), the more I need time, space and energy to work on unlearning all the bad stuff so I can finally grow and shine as the person I am, not how THEY want me to look, feel, and especially behave and appear to them. Hateful people like these (and I was raised as a Fundie Christian too so I know this BS all too well) just want those who deviate from the “norm” to be put back inside a box and not be seen by society, which has been OUR reality for decades, if not centuries…and that’s NOT OK…

How’d you get out?

agreed h3ll i left the "antiwoke" movement in part because i was annoyed at how much of crybullies everyone was.

(HUG)

The only group conservatives should be bigoted against are able-bodied men ages 20 to 40 who are able to produce SOMETHING or learn SOMETHING but would rather just sit around and consume, playing video games and smoking marijuana all day. Those really are snowflakes.

The world needs more people like you who are willing to take a moment for self reflection. It's not an easy thing to do these days with all of the distractions! I remember the day I finally figured out that most people's greatest "strength" is really a direct reflection of their greatest weakness/fear/insecurity. Bullies are usually the weakest and most scared people on earth, for example. It makes it a little easier to have empathy towards them. 🙂

100%

mood. I had to deal with my parents saying they didn't understand how much they hurt me by just not listening to when I told them to stop doing things. It took a few years of therapy, but they sort of got it after a while, and were genuinely sorry because they had no idea. They've made a ton of progress over the years, but they still get stuck on this idea that sometimes you should care what affect you have on people. It's weird how the people who like to talk about personal responsibility will always say how them essentially just being rude to others is everyone else's fault but theirs.

The Christian way.

Thank you so much for commenting. My condolences for your hurt. It's so important that you spoke up. It gives more folks the courage to talk about their experiences. More can come forward and challenge what is wrong. Sorry if I'm awkward. Much of this is difficult to put into words. I've been hurt that way. I'm still healing. You have given me such a gift by sharing your heart. Thank you.

There is nothing wrong with being sensitive. We need more people "in-tune" with their sensitive side to make this world a better place. But keep in mind that most of the times you're thinking that someone you don't know is judging you it's your own dialogue. If you're in public where no one knows you 9/10 times no one notices or pays attention to you. I kept getting in my own head so much that I couldn't go in a building without having to take a Valium before. I still stuggle but I am off all meds and facing the world head on. Keep your head up and keep it held high. Never let "them" "win".

she's right. people who treat you badly for having feelings are doing a wrong thing. they're wrong, not you.

I realized I'll always be sensitive, but I can be more resilient!

Its bad because sensitivity is seen as more of a feminine trait which is seen as weaker.

@@jessicayoung3656 nice point! it gets worse considering im afab, people have a tendency to dismiss my complaints even though i identify as male

I agree with you as a member of your daughter’s generation. I’m honestly curious though, what specifically made you think that our generation will be better? Because we definitely still have some kinks to iron out.

@@pastlife960 I became politically aware around 20. I have always been a progressive. But I was never able to get anyone in my own generation to stand up and fight. Of course I met a few like minded people, but we were never enough to really make a difference. We’ve accomplished nothing. And now, because the boomers aren’t dead yet, we’re backsliding, and my generation (Gen X) has pretty much watched and done nothing (there are limited exceptions, but not enough of us to accomplish anything). I have watched your generation stand up and fight back more in the last 6 years than mine has in 30. I have seen more people in your generation BECOME the change that we need than in mine or the one between us. And now when I protest and march and fight back I’m surrounded by the people I believe will succeed where I failed.

Aw man this comment gave me the warm tinglies

As a 22 year old it feels very nice to hear this from an older person vs the usual narrative about gen Z :) thank you

@@00RoxPink Hell, I'm 24 and knowing I'm this generation, I see younger people all the time fighting the good fight and thinking to myself "Yeah, the kids are alright."

A demonic trap that apparently the perfect jesus also fell for. Makes sense.

God forbid christians having to play in the same field as everyone else

Does that mean that demons don’t take bigoted crap then?

TO BE FAIR, the Word Woke has literally Split and is therefore not only used 'wrong' by many Leftists but just in general causes Misunderstandings between People talking abourt it cause its just so damn-badly-defined and such-a-big-word.

Would be totally ironic if that was true. And I find Irony hilarious.

The youngh actually does that again I got multiple Well Friends... That use the n Word AS a Joke

Dude. I would have said you went too far with that joke, but I mean. He DID tell you no joke should be off the table. He should've been able to take it. After all, it was JUST a joke, right?

@@druelia9485 be hasn't said anythjng about overly sensitive people since

Perfect

Power move!

Such a double-standard, indeed. I remember one pastor saying (after he’d been called out on various issues) saying, “I think some of you would find fault with Christ himself.” If I remember correctly, Jesus turned over tables in the temple. He was offended-and probably pretty pissed when people were used.

@@staciewhite6442 Jesus wasn't afraid to insult people. He called important people assholes. hypocrites. The point is why you use the language. Conservatives use the language to demean and hurt victims. The left uses is to call of the evil conservatives when they are abusing yet another group of people for something that conservatives are hysterical about.

@@staciewhite6442 A good response to that might be, "So would you, just about different things!"

Yet they are the ones who get offended when we ask questions

Christians are the ones who get offended ovver other religions who share the same god as them anyone remember the protests against muslims during 9/11

I honestly never understood that particular idea of some kind of "safe space" at universities... If all you need is some peace and quiet, there's plenty of options, including the library. If you want to unload some baggage on your friends, you can do that easily when you meet them later at home. If that's not enough... No idea about other countries, but the university I went to (Germany here) had an entire department of psychologists to - at least in part - support and counsel students who wanted that kind of help, at zero cost of course, and usually within maybe a day of asking for an appointment. So what's the point of a "safe room"? It at the very least _does_ cost the university a free room that could be used otherwise...

@@Wolf-ln1ml I’m sure American colleges vary, but when I went (some years ago now, to be fair), the psychologist on staff was not helpful. All she wanted was to diagnose me with something to get me out of her office. When I told her that I’d been diagnosed with ASD all the way back in middle school, she didn’t know what to do with that. There was no second step. No attempt at actual counseling. Her job was just to slap a label on someone and leave them to deal with it on their own time, with their own health insurance. What’s really wild is, autism stuff wasn’t even why I was there. I was just out of an abusive relationship and completely shattered, afraid of retaliation for finally breaking up with the guy, and all twisted up feeling like the way he treated me was justified and I was just too weak to handle it, just a whole mess of guilt and self-hatred. And while being on the spectrum certainly didn’t help with any of that, it’s something that can and does happen to neurotypical people too. But that didn’t matter. My actual experiences meant nothing to this woman. She just wanted to find something wrong with me so I would be someone else’s problem. All this to say that just because a school claims to have mental health resources available doesn’t mean that they’re actually providing help to people who need it.

@@evieb6359 Yeah, I'll never understand why so many people are convinced of the various oh-so-great systems in the USA, when it regularly turns out they're pretty much among the worst from at least all so-called first-world countries... 😢 Though that still doesn't really explain what good a "safe room" will do...? 🙃

@@Wolf-ln1ml Yeah, to be honest I’m not entirely sure about that either, unless it’s a place you can go to cry without getting campus security called on you? (Because if you live on campus with a roommate, there is legitimately nowhere you can go where you won’t be in someone’s way. I broke down in stairwells on a few occasions because it was the emptiest place I could find.) But presumably that would still be disruptive to other students, so I don’t know.

@@Wolf-ln1ml The idea is that a "Safe Space" is somewhere a person can go an unload any emotional baggage they have without being a disruption to anyone else. And of course, rwnjs want to take up issue with that because they love to attack those that do get upset about the injustices of the world.

As someone who plays ttrpgs, I can say with confidence that having content warnings and hard boundaries actually allows for "edgier" topics to be addressed. You can walk right up to the boundary and everyone is comfortable knowing it won't be crossed. When there isn't any security, people dip out way sooner because they can only go on warning signs.

I'm sorry to hear that ❤

Spencer is a snowflake, he banned me on Twitter and my comments never show up on RU-vid anymore.

What does him being white have to do with anything.

@@melokuhlebhengu6800 everything when the discussion is about racism. I’m white and American, and as a result of that there are certain realities of life as a racial minority I’ve been shielded from. If one doesn’t know about or acknowledge the gaps in their experience then they’re liable to make some bad conclusions

White Christian men are offended when they aren’t the center of attention and aren’t the ones being looked up to. You look away or call them out and they get so upset at being challenged.

Oh my god when Gen Xers complain about Millennials and Gen Z getting participation trophies it’s so upsetting because YOU GUYS GAVE THEM TO US Ugh

Yeah, it's either they gave them to their kids themselves, or are so sensitive that their child's failure seems like a slight to their own fragile egos and just project that frustration in demanding said trophies.

🤣 agree! And your wording is so zesty

I kinda disliked the trophies cluttering up the place, anyway

There are so many ways to take apart that absolutely abysmal “participation trophies” meme, but I think you’re right to single out that particular angle. It’s one of the more short-sighted reactionary -whining- talking points because all that’s needed to make them look like total ass hats is to ask “Who gave them these trophies?”

Wait, Cabbage Patch dolls are Satanic? Is it because they're magic?

*AMEN 🥰😇.*

That's terrible that you've had to become used to abuse. I keep seeing more and more people who are working to change things to be healthier and more respectful and considerate. I hope that you get more of those in your life. It feels like the worst of humanity is the loudest. However, I have hope that people have a chance to get better. I agree that it's the people who are not used to people being callus and inconsiderate towards them, the ones that are not constantly harassed and singled out that act out the most when confronted.

I feel for you. Just being "different" in our current American culture is so threatening to so many people. They hate, out of fear. I try to be just as respectful to a wide variety of people & very different. From polygamous Mormon women to transgender folks...as an example. These people all deserve respect, even if I am not " like" them. Stay strong!

same. I'm trans too, and I've been bullied ever since I came out. Not before though I came out though, and I know it's targeted. I don't show my offense anymore wither, but the people around me get offended by my mere existence, and they actually do something about it.

i’ve become so offended by that stuff that i’m no longer offended and just laugh at it

I think when someone hurts you intentionally like that you have every right to tell them off

and like their not even more easily offended and over sh1t that doesn't actually matter.

Older generation: *gives participation trophies to kids who never asked for them* The same older generation: *complains that the younger generation received the participation trophies they gave them.*

Or ban books…you know, the usual.

Or have any media where a gay couple exists. Simply exists.

Also the same people that are offended that drag shows exist even if they aren’t forced to go to them.

If only there was a way to warn conservatives about an upcoming trigger warning… perhaps some type of preemptive trigger warning warning. 🤔

The boys? Unimaginably based television

*“Trigger warning:* this content contains one or more trigger warnings. If viewing a trigger warning causes you to feel frustration and confusion, viewer discretion is advised.”

Leftards trying to call conservatives sensitive for calling out sensitivity is hilarious. It's the equivalent of calling out someone being violent, because they're trying to stop a violent person. I find it odd how you feel more compelled to call someone sensitive, for calling out someone being sensitive. The irony and the hypocrisy is beautiful.

@@sabersin7694 Except conservatives will freak out as though the existence of a trigger warning is just absolutely awful, and some kind of attack on them. When really they aren’t hurting anyone.

same.

Looks like you'll have a head start on the whole "If thine eye offend thee, pluck it out" thing 😂

Like Vlad Savchuk?

That’s terrible, and it sounds kinda inhumane toward you. Just because they see you as sensitive and whatnot, that your quality of life will be more inadvertently difficult.

No, actually. They're usually people who have suffered the cycle of abuse over and over and over again, and just become the next link in the chain and are pissed off because other people are telling them that that's not right and not acceptable, and are demanding others suffer as they did instead of trying to build a better world.

I mean it can definitely be either one, right? Both? Some people are entitled af and can't empathize bc of lack of traumatic experience. Others do perpetuate the abuse they've gotten bc it's normalized to them. Either way it's fucked up and we've gotta be the generation who stops it. Or at least put a good, deep dent in it. I think the age of information is helping a lot more ppl recognize abuse, which is awesome. Now we just need that energy in politics!

@@defies4626 [citation needed]

@@defies4626 That's certainly another possibility. I think the whole toxic "man up" mindset likely plays a role.

Or they have they just are ignorance to their own trauma and so go I'm not offended! They're the ultimate crap fitters blending so well to the "normal" and status quo that they have no idea they're in pain and won't bother to start seeing that unless something very extra comes along and sometimes not even then! All you can do is find their exact hidden pain and toss that info in their face and hope they change on their own but figuring out what that is could take most of your life so it's best to move on rather then educate them about what they suppressed.

Yep. Deflect and flip. “It’s not what I said, it’s how you’re too sensitive. You need tougher skin, life is going to chew you up and spit you out.” As a neurodivergent person, the blatant gaslighting, arrogance and irony of it all will always amaze me.

The projection of these types is strong.

Yes! It lets you mentally prepare yourself

They’re also useful to know if you should pass over a video and come back later, which I do a lot on days when I’m in a bad place mentally

All the while conservative Christians believe they’re being persecuted! It’s ridiculous.

Don't forget how they get offended when women and young men come out about SA, when a piece of media doesn't align with their morality,or heaven forbid a McDonalds worker is on their break.

There's no group more easily and unjustifiably offended than Christian conservatives

These people have become the quintessential example of a persecution complex.

@@AD-dg3zz "Become" implies they ever weren't. Remember mortal kombat? Or dungeons and dragons? Or KISS? Or Elvis? They've always been this way.

TO BE FAIR, the Word Woke has literally Split and is therefore not only used 'wrong' by many Leftists but just in general causes Misunderstandings between People talking abourt it cause its just so damn-badly-defined and such-a-big-word.

Seriously, this is actually why I like Disney’s Tarzan better than the original. Because it’s actually much more reasonable.

I like Tarzan. It's absolutely a product of it's time, and context is important.

​@@coyoteclockworkstudios3140 I was also surprised when they brought it up because Tarzan is a pretty obviously racist. It's also not really a "child's book" like a book of nursery rhymes, if it was written today it would probably be classified as YA fiction.

I love classics. And part of reading classics is understanding that you will run into ideas that were common at the time which are now at *minimum* problematic. Hell, there is no such thing as a completely PC classic because most of human history was even more racist, ableist, sexist, homophobic etc etc than it is now. Reading those ideas with context and understanding of the time/place is really educational. It let's you see how far some of society has come and also areas where we still can grow. I absolutely am against any sort of banning or censorship of those classics. But a warning or educational aside discussing the issues is vital. (Publishers choosing to let specific works lapse is a very different thing. That's the owners choosing to no longer profit off of something negative. Not all of Suess's works were of equal value. lol) I haven't myself read Tarzan but reading it with an understanding of the colonizing and white supremacy themes in mind would likely only add to the experience. An experience I had was reading The Scarlet Pimpernel. A really fun and enjoyable book. And also the most explicitly antisemitic thing I've ever read. I won't even repeat some of the things but trust me that it was *brutal.* It lead to me to research the prevailing attitudes (especially English) of the times towards Jewish people and what they were dealing with as a people. And how that eventually lead to the antisemitism of more recent times. Classic fiction can be a wonderful entry point into greater understanding of history.

I think that we should replace the word "god" with "allah". I think this would help them understand why atheists despise this un-american phrase on our currency or anywhere in our government. It will always be E Pluribus Unum for any real American.

@@jenniferhunter4074 From what I've seen, even turning things around on them like this doesn't work very well. These are the same kind of people to take on the "my religion is the one true religion" stance when you challenge them with a different religion

@@anothercub6958 Maybe I got lucky? I never tried to prove their religion was untrue. I usually play super Christian and use their tactics before they use them. also, I'm absolutely willing to sacrifice to win. My trolling is backed by my actions. If I say I will do something, I do it. I deliberately pick things that they will fail at. For example, one year, I swore off meat for a month. They can't handle it. I didn't have that problem and even when I was tempted, my sense of spite drove me to the win. Again, you may be dealing with a more serious infestation. My advice is to target when they are isolated. I never targeted them when they are in a group. It's like hunting. You pick them off when they separate from the herd.

If turning a face backwards triggered him imagine if we took the whole phrase out? I can only imagine the absolute wave of mouth foaming insanity that would follow.

Same. I’m a millennial and I’m like “go gen z. You guys are way better than us and I’m loving it. Get ‘em kids. The kids are ok.”

I'm Gen X, & I get *a high* from it🥰😇.

The way I see it, we walked so they could run.

That’s also how I feel about Gen Z. They shouldn’t have to save us but they might just do it anyway.

Christian conservatives thrive on being perpetually offended at everything.

I am curious: what did the paper cup look like?

@@navii7923 Druelia is referencing the red Starbucks holiday cups.

Indeed it’s sad, but not surprising they lie about everything.

As someone on the autism spectrum with shitty social skills I'm just scared of being caught one day saying something stupid and losing my career over it Especially ableism and transphobia The problem is that disability is about having a lack of normal human trates like functions of intelligence and athleticism so every time I exaggerate about someone being stupid it can be misconstrued as ableism And I forget when people I know change their name why will I remember their gender I try to be polite but I'm just awkward and the pressure of suddenly new phrases being offensive and knowing that the punishment for being offensive gets harsher just gets me back to my shell But I'm probably overthinking it

"…, as do things that remind me of past negative experiences." Same bro same

The problem is so many don't ask. They shriek and demand it. Or like in Canada trying to make not calling someone the gender they want an actual crime(no idea if that insanity went through)

a huge chunk of vets did nothing more than their jobs like literally every other able bodied person, and then signed their exit papers without seeing even a millisecond of combat or anything more traumatic than a mountain of paperwork.

@j n that doesn’t really have much to do with what they said though.

@@HiBuddyyyyyy There was a portion near the beginning about war. Reminded me of this sentiment

@@Our_Remedy just to clarify, my comment was replying to the other person. (I like what you said btw.) Sorry If you saw that and I misunderstood you.

I'm genuinely curious, what response do you get from veterans when you say this? If they feel empathy from you, then I'm going to start saying it too.

It's always projection with these types.

Every accusation is a confession when in comes to conservatives (and often evangelicals, to which we all know there's significant overlap in that venn diagram.)

Or complaining about stuff that can help someone else but literally doesn’t affect them in anyway.

And the MPAA (with strong Catholic ties iirc) started adding the reasoning for a rating instead of just saying G thru R. Video games come with a warning -- and of course people are still buying GTA for their 6yo and flipping out over it. I think I lost my thread.....

HorseCardio: That's a great observation that never occurred to me.

That's it, exactly.

My parents are similar. They think everyone is too easily offended and get angry when I use cuss words 😂

How did that guy look like

You can’t question religion either. That just goes to show how weak they know their belief is.

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