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Something interesting when an INFJ is extremely close to an INTP, it seems the INFJ grows a little more logical and the INTP a little more sensitive. Very interesting.
True, it was like that but then she (INFJ with Borderline personality) got unstable for some bad events in her life and damn, you don't want to see an INFJ vs an INTP demon vs demon, both attacking were it really hurts always aiming for the head, that went for a couple of months until I said I didn't want to see her ever again if she was unstable and irrational and she proceeded to door slam me and we never talked again, not even true love can triumph mental instability, not gonna lie, best time of my life followed by hell, hope she is doing better now I still miss her.
@@WertzOne wait.. what?? That’s what happened to me and my ex too. I’m an INFJ. That’s exactly what he said to me for being irrational lol. And yeah just like you, we were so muchhhh in loveeee like could not do anything without letting each other know. And again like u said it’s hell right after heaven..
@@WertzOneBorderline... Trust me you did the right thing especially if you insisted that she takes care of her borderline when you left. Which I hope she does. Only people who have known persons with such emotional instability / intensity can relate. Take care of yourself, such relations rarely leave one intact, even for just a few months.
@@WertzOne This happened to me. I’m an INTP she was the INFJ and I believe she was borderline. Similar situation but mine lasted a few years before I finally told her enough. She doorslammed me an like you we haven’t talked since. You are correct about mental health. Sometimes it ruins situations with the most potential.
I'm in a very tough spot bruv. I'm an INTP and there's this friend I have known for more than two years and last month in a pub we had this strong connection. she was hugging me, pinching my cheeks and later on Uber we ended up holding hands till we reached our destination. xD and guess what? Just a week ago I found out she's an INFJ and the connection got stronger, but she's the only INFJ I know and I don't have many friends who are close, so I don't want to ruin our friendship but we both definitely know there's a connection so it's a tough spot bruv. 😑
My husband is an INTP and I'm a INFJ and it's very weird how well we kinda "fit". When we first started dating it was like "Yup I like that one. I'm keeping them."
I can not only imagine, I actually do it. Mostly with myself, but when I get the chance as well... Not because it's something people often think it's "beautiful", but because its abstractness can give endless talking. We can't make it concrete, so everyone has a different "vision" about it. Anything that can give endless thoughts and subjects to discuss are "beautiful" to me because of the intensify of these talks and thoughts. I can't be able to speak colors or feelings, but we can always try to speak about it.
Neon pink paint shrieked with fear as blue paint continued to roll to the edge of the canvas. "I don't care anymore!" Blue exclaimed. Pink gasped. "What about the children?!"
I’m an INFJ mom of an INTP son (only child)... I knew my son was different when a toddler he took out all the pots and pans out of the cabinets to play with like other kids do, but he (unlike me) put it all back in order when he finished... He was in K when he told me how Santa traveling around the world was not logical and I explained the St. Nicholas roots and social norm giving him a choice to participate in the tradition with presents or grow up... he chose to stay a child and receive presents 🎁 even from Santa 🤣 He’s been a JOY and my greatest challenge now almost 17 and I am relooking into personalities and how I have been able to just “get” him when others didn’t... I’m now looking for INFJ and INTP differences and contrasts...
INFJ Mum to an INTP son here too. I've raised him on my own from 16 weeks of pregnancy. He's been the exact right child for our circumstances. Grateful. 🙂
Im an INFJ dating an INTP for 11 years.. the first 4 years are so rocky since we tend to hurt each other emotionally but eventually understood each other after all the hardships we've been through
INFJ with an INTP for 8 years. The first few years were rocky too, because we both had to learn trust- never having trusted anyone else before, and hurt each other emotionally despite caring about each other more than anything else.
Same here, I'm an INFJ, he's INTP and for about a year after the first few months of knowing each other (which were amazing btw) we hurt each other a lot because we didn't know how to communicate our feelings having never done so before. We figured it out though and currently we're in the best place we've been in so far.
I’m an INTP and my best friend is an INFJ. We get along so naturally, and we don’t feel awkward around each other. It’s cool to see why we got along so well.
Same here. I often wonder why we get along so well even though we are basically solitary in nature. I just realized that I am an INTP (I thought I was INFJ) and she’s an INFJ (I thought she’s an INFP). I was blinded by my inferior Fe all these years.
I'm an intp. Multi instrumentalist, studying music at school whilst making money fixing technology and i like researching psychology inn my free time. Really hit the nail on the head lmao
INTP here studying chemical engineering. Hobbies are playing the piano and now learning to play the sax and guitar. Love Jazz and EDM. Love psychology and anything about how people think.
You just described me here 😂😂😂 I love music, and you’ll find me skipping from one instrument to another trying to learn all of them but never mastering any 😂 - I also build websites and study psychology in my free time. How is this so accurate 😅
I personally find INTP guys attractive because they seem to be off in their own little world a lot of the time. Most of them are really smart and passionate. I've also met INTJ's before (my father being one of them) and I don't think the compatibility is as good as the INTP with INFJ. I also find ENFP's to be cool but they drain my energy. ENTP is the recommended pairing for INFJ but my brother is ENTP and I just don't think they get along as well as they should in theory. (Not that me and my brother don't get along). INTP's seem to be so calm, patient, and collected in society. I could have worded this so much better than I did but these are my raw thoughts and I ain't got time to edit lol.
Haha, I have two INFJ friends, I think im an intp (or INFJ)I am not sure of. I think they like how I feel unconstrained by the world I live in, I think up crazy things and I am able to distract them from their work.
People say INFJ can easily get along with intp, but mate they're soo fucking emotional they start cutting them selves because they feel useless around me very epic
My best friend is an INFJ. He is the only person on Earth I have never argued with. We’ve never had a real argument, however, both enjoy each other’s views and opinions no matter how contradicting or brash. In college we would talk for 10 hours straight in our kitchen/living room. About everything. Then we’d walk back in our rooms and not see each other for 4-5 days. And repeat. Nailed this video. (Oh, I should mention we are both filmmakers and screenwriters.) As a product of traveling, I have met more people than I sometimes desire. But, out the thousands I’ve met, I would hope all INTPs find an INFJ!
I think that as an INFJ you have to catch the INTP on a good day. When their Fe is exhausted due to overuse, they can becone highly insensitive. You have to be very patient to tolerate it. It depends on the stage of development. When both are highly developed in their lower stack functions, they can be the best of friends. (Better even, they can help each other develop their judging functions.) Otherwise, they can cause much friction among each other.
Jen, that's a great point about Fe. A few INTPs I got to know were hard to relate because they weren't as careful with their words as I would have hoped. But the INTPs I've gotten to know who are kind and considerate are a joy to be around. Thanks for sharing!
PowerRedBull I see where you are coming from, but you do seem to be biased by one or more negative experiences, judging by your statements (which are very generalised, but you mention "her"). The INFJs I know and get along with are using their Ti very much, in one case so much so that Fe got supressed and therefore he occasionally comes across like an INTP. The INFJs you know, if that is the case, probably don't use their Ti to explain the impressions they get through Ni. It is either not very developed or they don't want to develop it. Knowing how Ni works helps a lot with explaining our impressions, just like I got a holistic impression of you from the vocabulary you used and in one instance the pronoun. (And please do correct me if I'm wrong.) At the same time, our Fe makes us sensitive to our surroundings, more precisely the people in it, and usually we try to keep a harmonious environment, so we engage in perception management. Contrary to an Fe-dom, we don't ignore our authenticity, which can make it difficult at times to persuade us (although it is actually comparatively easy). Although we lead with a perceiving function, we are still judgers, which is expressed in our initial stubbornness. But any INFJ still internalises the information s/he rejected at first and thinks about it, and afterwards they may change their minds if they believe the logic is sound. The reason they reject an opinion/argument/fact can be as simple as its delivery or the deliverer. If the person a isn't trustworthy source of information (PoLR Te) or if the person was abrasive, insulting or even unfeeling (for the most sensitive ones), the initial reaction comes from Fe (as a kind of kneejerk reaction), which is unsurprisingly as negative as the deliverer was negative towards them. As you can see, there are a lot different flavours to the INFJ, most being more developed than the version you were talking about. I hope my half-statement, half-explaination (seems my Fe got the better of me and sent me on a tangent) helps you not to see INFJs in general as negatively as you do now. I value the INTP input a lot, even if their low Fe can sometimes come across as intentionally insulting (even if it's not intentional). We usually just filter what we're saying through Fe, and consider how it may come across, in order to be as authentic and non-confrontational as possible. An INFJ who isn't developed or doesn't want to, may not see past their own nose and lash out. It is true that INTP-INFJ relationships are rare and usually don't work out due to Ni being the INTP's countervalued function. At the same time, the INFJ is seeking Se, which is the INTP's blind spot. But friendships are more than likely to happen. With the occasional meltdown or fallout :) So long as noone takes it personally and is understanding towards the other, they can help each other develop.
Hi Jen, I indeed mentioned "her" but that was mostly an example, since INFJ's are more often females and INTP males. I thought about mentioning 'him or him' but thought that it would eventually get kind of "messy" to read since once started, one would have keep mentioning both genders in each sentence following in the whole post and I know my posts are never short (very intp-ish I guess?) and it would be less clear to read. My ideas are based on quite some INFJ's, both genders but more females. I can not really objectively rate how developed those INFJ's are in comparison to the 'average' INFJ, since I can not compare INFJ's I know with the ones I do not know, because..well I do not know them (lol). I think the thing is that most of the INFJ's I know are generally not good at making themself happy and sort of keep struggling in life. I think alot of this comes from (sorry fo the words) being a bit of a (emotional?) unsorted "mess" inside from my "robotic-intp" viewpoint. Not a mess in the sense they're bad people. Very far from that actually. It's more that alot of their inner world seems to consist of expanding , yet often conflicting filters, layers and shields that are formed from old memories and new experiences that are making the INFJ more unhappy than that they're actually helpfull, especially in the longer run. From my subjective viewpoint (such) INFJ's would benefit from more (Ti?) understanding of themself, to view the world and themself as it really is and to simplify things rather than building additional layers and complicate them. They, or at least that ones i know, sort of have all these layers on layers to protect them from this, to achieve that, or be this, but not that, yet to want this, but not that etc etc...(in other words , alot of complicatedness and contradictions) that to me it looks so much like a castle build with duct tape that is getting higher and higher, and about to fall down, but yet the person in question is stubbornly thinking what they're doing is what works and is a good idea because they "believe in it 100%", despite being told by multiple people it does not work what they're doing.. I can not blame anyone or any type for their weaknesses, because obviously with any strength comes a weakness, but I think the thing is that when one thinks one of their weaker areas is one of their stronger ones, the problem is that one will continue no matter what others may say . To me it comes across as me saying I think it's sooo important to not step on any toes when pointing out my opinion, yet as an INTP I know these Fe kind of things are not my strongest areas and more Fe dominants problably know these social rules better than I do and when they say. So a very INFJ thing what you're saying: - logical ideas are rejected because of being stubborn and otherwise if the ideas are not presented in the for the INFJ appropriately Fe type of manner, However, although rejecting these ideas or insights when offered, they later apparently as you mention do (silently?)get valued. I find it hard to communicate with someone when they say 'NO the answer is answer A 100% sure" and then later DO change their mind. Either a point is valid or it's not, and when different systems get's mixed up (thinking/feeling) it comes down to the summery that the INFJ has a limited and specific instruction manuel in how ideas or insight might get incorporated. PS : -I had to look up the "the pronoun " thing since my english is not my first language and I'm far from fluent in it. I still do not really get what you meant there "I got a holistic impression of you from the vocabulary you used *and in one instance the pronoun*. (And please do correct me if I'm wrong.)". So you got an hollistic impression of me, based on 1 pronoun I told you? I'm curious what that impression is? - i also do not know the word "PoLR" .Te stands for Extroverted thinking here right? Looked it up on internet and it showed me mostly watches... ? lol
I think the INFJs that you do know are not very balanced, even unhealthy. They don't seem to use Ni, as it is a function that is actually there for filling gaps and seeing things for what they are, as a whole. The more healthy the INFJ, the less likely they are to reject perspectives, which is actually the whole deal of Fe. I think that the INFJ(s) you know are focussing too much on set themselves apart from the world, and perceiving themselves as special for their rarity. This is also called the "special snowflake syndrome". Indulging in this is not only immature, it is unhealthy, as it keeps the INFJ from connecting with the world and the people as they should. As such, keeping to their own principles is generally not a bad thing, but shutting out every chance of growth which comes with understanding perspectives is counterproductive. So in general, yes, INFJs do well to develop their Ti, but they also have to watch out not to forget developing Ni or Fe in the process. They could fall "into the grip" of their inferior function or get suck in the "Ni-Ti loop". The INFJs that you reference might actually be stuck in their "shadow" (shadow functions), something else you might want to look up. English is not my native tongue either, so I get your misunderstanding me. What I meant with holistic is not you as a person (I hardly know you and if I were to say something about this, it would be highly presumptuous) but your perspective on INFJs. The use of your vocabulary as a whole in that first post was highly generalising and negative, which led me to believe that you were biased in some respect, I guessed from personal experience. I see now that your generalisation is only partially biased, and for the other part actual generalised data that you remembered. It is not exactly a bad thing to generalise (Ni-users do it all the time), but going by statistics is also not a good way to judge people by. We are still individuals, each their own person, with different stages of development. I don't take it personally, but just a good advice from my side, people don't like being judged by statistics. Therefore, I would advise you to use more appropriate (i.e. not gender-biased) pronouns in the future when referring to a personality type. I know quite a few male INFJs who are not in the slightest feminine. Besides, it's uncommon in English to use the feminine pronoun as a pronoun for both genders. Either the male pronoun is used or the nowadays outdated "singular they". Coming back to the topic, PoLR comes from a theory similar to the MBTI, by name of socionics. PoLR is short for "Point of Least Resistance", which is basically the individual personality type's blind spot. I use the information from both theories to gain a more complete understanding of intertype relationships.
As an INTP, I will say the insensitivity is not on purpose. It is difficult for INTPs to relate to INFJs feelings at times. And when the Fe exhaustion kicks in, INTPs will become cold and distant. It is a defense/recharge mechanism. We go from Professor X to Magneto 😁. But if the INFJ is patient and forgiving, the INTP will come around again and also seek peace. My 2 cents
How Funny....... I'm an INFJ and my daughter is an INTP and we are Very Close, it's like we have a psychic connection....... And people have ALWAYS gotten on to me about how our relationship seems to be more like "best friends" than "mother/daughter" like!! Well........ Now I know why!!!😜✌
INTP with mom INFJ. We talk a few times a day on the phone. That's not weird, right? 0_o We bounce ideas off each other and help each other out with the best way to approach situations.
INFJ with INTP son - he is 27 years old and one of my best friends. We share so many interest, like music, writing, computer gaming, science in almost every form, etc. Sometimes other people comment on our relationship because we seem more like friends than mom/son. Sadly, not all comments are nice, because people do not understand how rare it is for introverted people with strong intuition to find someone else that understands them, and how that sometimes matters more than age or can be more important than how and why you are connected to that someone. However, I'll always be very aware that I am his mother and I never let him get stuck in this "friendship" no matter how comfortable it might be.
I do like preparing food and is am pretty good cook! INFJ can like cooking if they see the art in it. I do agree that INTP and INFJ do find each other very attractive
Great statement there Caroline, another INTP here... maybe one day others will understand if they seem confused by your answer.. as for me, I love it..👍😎
My mom is an INFJ, I’m an INTP, sometimes we butt heads over what matters more or is correct, but in general she was the only person I could have an intellectual discussion with throughout my childhood and actual have some response and feedback, I’d be a much lonelier person without her being that way...
There's this one INFJ girl I know. I might see her once every couple years but every time we meet there is this strangely comfortable energy. It feels like we share a similar frequency. I also feel very "seen". It's surreal for sure.
If both are single the next time you meet, get her digits. It doesn’t hurt to date someone who is a friend, first. Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively did that.
9:35 (INTP here) Actually INTP's enjoy dealing with details a lot more than INFJ's do....whenever it is something we are interested in. Like the intricacies of how other's minds work or how a scientific theory works but focusing on the exceptions to the rule to be as precise as possible is what we live for. Mundane tasks we don't like such as what to wear, what to eat, or even what we look like. If it takes away from our thinking processes we aren't interested in it. But whenever there is detail to be had with logic we will usually be the first one to point out a detail missed or overlooked....which in me doing this ironically proves my point xD
I'd love to skip eating, showering, going to the toilet, sleeping and such....they're terribly uninspring tasks. Chewing on food is just boring. I've done that 10000 times already. When I was a kid I would ask my parents if i could get an (medical) infusion, like the one people get who are in a coma, so I would not have to actively eat
Hahah, that's true. I agree with you mostly. As INFJ, we (or maybe I) tends to look at the bigger picture, and sometimes that's made me subconsciously skip the small important details. That's why I think INTPs are intellectually interesting and help us to be a better person.
It may be boring, but taking smaller bites of food, with more chews per bite, will make you feel fuller on less food. This is cheaper and healthier for you.
INFJ here. I don't mind doing daily chores if I need time to ponder about life stuff (e.g world econony) because putting my hands to do low level repetitive tasks is very good therapy. On the other hand, it gets kind of old when I am hooked on something else, but the chores demand my attention. Therefore I always find a way to scale daily chores so that I can minimize the interruption as such, e.g prepare meals that lasts for several days, wear and wash clothes only when they are really dirty, buying groceries and supplies so they last for few weeks or months. I know it sounds so common, but having to optimize time spent on these things are so satisfying, it is like running a factory or some efficient machine where it produces more result without much daily intervention. Oh yea, one more thing that I discovered passion is gardening. Setting up the conditions for the plant, then doing nothing else after that but to watch it grow, it's so fascinating. Just do the work once, then the plants do the work for you.
My long time boyfriend (nearly four years!) is an INTP and I am an INFJ. He was deaf for the first few years of life and does not enjoy music the way I do, but we almost always order the same thing at restaurants without consulting each other. He prefers logical pursuits and answering questions on Yahoo answers. We can spend hours just talking and debating about all sorts of subjects. Thank you so much for these videos. I can't tell you how much the podcast has improved my understanding of myself and given me control of my life.
INFJ here and my brother is an INTP, I’ve always noticed how we had similar interests we always played video games together the most and we understand each other more than our other siblings understand us and even though he’s not as emotional as me he’s very considerate to my feelings and doesn’t say anything that might be insensitive and he’s also better at technology than me I always go to him for technical support and he always helps. What I don’t like is that we rarely talk (part of it is my bad but like he’s the older one) and it just feels like we could be close friends if we would talk more but then we don’t
Well you are lucky, my sister is an INTP the other is ISTP and they're literal cunts. I tried as an INFJ since we have Fe and naturally I want harmony, but I cannot anymore and have door slammed them because I can't take it, what annoys and hurts me the most is that I am very kind to everyone and they hate me for no fucking reason ?! like I try to wrap my head around it and understand why they're so rotten to the core.
That's really spot on! Two of my three boyfriends were INTPs. The second one somehow moved in with me after two weeks of dating and hasn't left since. That happened nine years ago. We've been married for five years now. That's not to say there aren't any attitudes and behaviours about him that drive me nuts, but overall he is one of the very few human beings that I don't feel drained by and I am one of the very few human beings that he doesn't completely despise (his words).
What I like about my INTP boyfriend as an INFJ is that we can be real and blunt with each other without taking things too personally. Yes it can be rocky at times but Ti child needs truth and logic in order to feel better. I grew up feeling unheard and invalidated by an INFP mom. Yes I appreciate schmaltzy and corny things, but those just made me feel like I’m a bad person if I don’t agree with Fi doms
I am INFJ and I typically, in general, reject technology. That may be more due to the fact that I view our entire civilization's use of tech as moving in a very dangerous and toxic direction, than due to my personal enjoyment of it. I do like technology in general I guess, but more just for scientific purposes. Any other INFJs here who love physics and cosmology?
I have the same viewpoint. Just like how the invention of smartphone and RU-vid is great, but any further updates are quite redundant, and if anything it targets profits for corporations.
my boyfriend is an intp and i am an infj, plus we have 2 infj friends and 1 intp friend as well. My boyfriend and I are interested in psychology and all of our friends in computer science/technology, which is definitely in line with what you were saying about common interests. I love this combination as friends and within romantic relationships. It is so beautiful and just a gift to have.
If you’re still friends, and are both single, then what you could do is have a “what if” conversation, and ask, “I’m not saying we need to do this, but if we were to be boyfriend and girlfriend, how would we manage that relationship over time?” In other words, see if you can come to an agreement on having kids (when, how many, parenting strategies), spending, managing in laws, life goal intercompatibility, and whatever else you can think of. If you can’t agree on these important long-term compatibility issues, then you can just remain friends - no harm, no foul! But if you can agree on these things, especially if she’s willing to have such an extensive discussion, then you need to take the possibility very seriously of making the jump. The best, most stable, longest-lasting relationships are predicated on friendship, first. Think Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively, or the Life Uncontained couple. Reynolds/Lively started out as a long-term friendship, then they both realized, “Wait a minute…”
When aliens encounter humans, it create the "3 rd type encounter" but, when an INFJ and INTP become friends/ lover, it become a Universal encounter! Logical Intelligence vs Abstract concept gathering Intelligence. T vs F , we can hurt each other feelings, but we share lot in common. Two aliens that get along in secret, than can share dark toughts and laugh about it. Two different universe but at the same time similar. Matrix Neo vs Master Yoda haha
The love of my life and actual partner is an INTP...we are so different and jet we have so much in common, It's difficult to explain. We REALLY understand each other and we even managed (during our 10 years relationship + 4 years of friendship prior to that) to develop a code for each other to better understand our needs. Like... for when he needs to express his inner thoughts and theories just to feel understood but doesn't really need opinions or help or when I'm in a loop of overthinking and selfdoubts and I need an hug rather that a rational conversation.
Wow! 100% accurate about my INTP friendship!! Great job in always putting all your info together in a super digestable and practical format. Best channel on YT for INFJs!
Very nice, my best friend of 15 years is an INFJ, despite growing up and choosing our own very different paths in life we have always clicked and connected on an extremely deep level. I thoroughly appreciate her Ni and I think the fact that we both use Ti also contributes to our deep conversations and out there speculation.
Have never had the privelege of having an INTP friend, but the few I havr crossed paths with, have enjoyed. Former boss was an INTP. He was my intellectual soulmate. We could spend hours talking about military history. One thing I do fjnd odd about them is their desire to dress up as an anime character and run around...no thanks... 🤣
My younger sister is an Intp and we both get along pretty well. We do have our differences but we definitely have common interests and a similar thought process (infj). Nice video! :)
As an INTP, I love to cook. But cooking seems an experimentation to me. I love to theorize about the effects of vegetable-meat-spice combinations, the relationship of time and size/thickness of slice and modern cooking techniques. I just HATE cutting/slicing and preparing the ingredients. And also washing all the utensils/kitchen tools I have used. 😅
Great to see an intp cook here. I suppose you're a home cook right? Because I'm an intp making my way through to become an executive chef. Everyone talks about tech bs but cooking is the real deal man
I'm an INFJ and I don't know why, but when I found out about MBTI and I saw the personality type "INTP", I just got so attracted to that, even though I didn't read about their personality I just somehow KNEW that I find them attractive, and I was right :)
I am here because I found out that a new friend of mine was an INFJ and wanted to know more about just *why* we got along so well so fast. She practically adopted me. Also, subscribing because nice voice.
If you’re both single, what you could do is have a “what if” conversation with her, and ask her, “I’m not saying we need to do this, but if we were to be boyfriend and girlfriend, how would we manage that relationship over time?” In other words, see if you can come to an agreement on having kids (when, how many, parenting strategies), spending, managing in laws, life goal intercompatibility, and whatever else you can think of. If you can’t agree on these important long-term compatibility issues, then you can just remain friends - no harm, no foul! But if you can agree on these things, especially if she’s willing to have such an extensive discussion, then you need to take the possibility very seriously of making the jump. The best, most stable, longest-lasting relationships are predicated on friendship, first. Think Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively, or the Life Uncontained couple. Reynolds/Lively started out as a long-term friendship, then they both realized, “Wait a minute…”
I went to almost 20 different schools growing up and I am an INTP. I feel like my experience has strengthened my INTP weaknesses! Always being the new kid is a scary never ending test.
As an INTP, the way I make myself take care of myself in regard to food was learning different concepts of food and taste. Also viewing cooking time as a chance to test my theories.
My eldest sister is an INFJ (she is 8 years older than me) and in our old age we get along GREAT, though when we were younger, I felt like she constantly misinterpreted my motives and we often butt heads. There was a stage where I refused to talk to her because she played moral invigilator in my life accusing me of being insensitive and having malicious intent and I accused her of being ignorant and stubborn. Somehow we have come to understand each other and have found common ground and now I feel like we are on great terms. Sure, personality type plays a big role in whether we get along with others, but, maturity does too! Wisdom is priceless... Edit: I am INTP-T (yeah the moody type)
Can you give me some advice. My older brother is a infj and I’m a intp. I’m having a hard time communicating with him and at this point we aren’t talking because we are always butting heads. I find it hard to talk to him because I’m always in my head focusing on other things so when he talks to me it’s hard switching to talking mode with him. I come off rather blunt too because he keeps reflecting on the same issues over and over again and I can’t take it anymore. Then when I give him advice it’s either no I’m wrong or he already knew that. If I keep questioning him about things he gets mad at me saying oh why can’t you just get it. I need to clarify so that I can understand what your talking about. I also feel like he doesn’t respect my introversion. I like my time alone and he gets annoyed about me because my social battery is limited. I can speak hours but not when I’m focusing on something else. I’ve tried to talk to him about this but it seems like we’re going no where. There is a lack of understanding on both sides and I’m frustrated. I don’t know how to improve this relationship. I get along with my Infp sister more because even if we don’t understand something about each other we try or accept our differences. I’m tired of being called a villian because I don’t live up to his standards of a nice sister.
Thank you for helping other INFJs understand ourselves better; w/ better understanding of myself, I'm becoming more accepting of my totality, including parts of me that were thought of as plain wrong. I didn't like difficult, long, exhaustive physical tasks that I perceive as petty aka housechores; but even mental tasks that deal w/ many, minute details. I thought I was only being lazy, irresponsible, impatient. I carried unhealthy self-image bec. of guilt & shame. But I agree w/ the exagerration; I for one, love to cook, prepare food & drinks, grocery shop, organize, take care of everyone/everything I care abt, home design even architecture fascinate & enliven me too. Maybe bec. most of those were like creative pursuits.
I agree, my husband is INFJ and I’m INTP and we’re so similar, it scares me sometimes. We were raised very different, he is Brazilian and raised in the Middle East with lots of toxic masculinity in his family. Also, he has a big family and I don’t, also I been raised in Europe in a pretty loose way. I think if we were raised in each other’s situation, him here and I in the Middle East, we would mirror each other even more. Him and I are very interested in news, psychology, philosophy and science, especially physics, math and engineering. We both work/study the same profession, we both have the same idea how we should “be” in the world, raise family and keep our business to ourselves. I couldn’t wish for a better partner, he makes everything easy for me and vice versa
Toxic masculinity? I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume the term means something different where you're from than in the states, but masculinity isn't toxic in and of itself. If his family is overly male dominant and oppressive to the point of not honoring the woman's rights that's one thing, but masculinity isn't toxic. If there's a guy who is oppressive and disrespectful then he's just an asshole. This, however, would not be an example of the social justice warrior term "toxic masculinity." This term is blatantly sexist and unfounded. Regardless, I'm happy for you that you've found such a successful relationship.
@@jayhorsley7978 She didn't mean masculinity ?! she meant the toxicity that comes with thinking something is masculine when it isn't. Two very different things. Quoting You: " If his family is overly male dominant and oppressive to the point of not honoring the woman's rights that's one thing, but masculinity isn't toxic." How can you know her point exactly and still mansplaining ?!
One of my friends is an INFP and I’m INTP we both like fantasy writing and one day we talked about poetry I remember being shocked that he, “didn’t get it.” The idea of someone with a strong sense of feeling not grasping the medium that is such a pure expression of emotion.
I'm an INFJ and I love cooking and meal prepping! Lol That's not a joke...I look forward to it every week...feels like a creative venture and fun financial game to play (how affordable, tasty and healthy can I make my meals this week - etc)....I also love cooking for people I love...
My uncle is an INTP and I’m an INFJ and we get along really well He graduated from Harvard for Chemical Engineering and I’m in school for Mechanical Engineering and he’s an awesome tutor too! Lol
I have been confused for being an INFJ ever since I learnt about these personalities until I learn more about INTPs About interests 💯💯 Yes I desire helping humanity in a larger scale
I'm an INTP and the personality types that I get better with are INTJs, INFJs and INFPs I just realised lol I really said introverted intuition. Now i'm trying to understand more about each one so thanks
My crush is an intp and communication and him expressing his feelings is my issue....things he should talk about he won’t and things we don’t need to know he’ll spill his guts...
Probably he have undeveloped Fe. It's problem of many (not all) young INTPs. I something read about some INTPs (like me) that are humanistic INTPs not mathematics. Humanistic INTPs like more psychology, philosophy etc. and we develope our Fe with reading about theories about people nature. Maybe your INTP need something like that, or just he need more time to develop Fe. Also he need to understand that u need to speak about feelings.
As a female INTP, my closest friends are ISTJ, INTJ ans ISTP. I have been in a short relationship with an ISTJ guy. Also, I have a little sister who's an INFJ. For sure the one who click with us the best is INFJ, hope I can find more of them 🥰
INTP here. Had a short romance with an INFJ and it was enthralling, magical, and frictionless. She helped me be more in tune with emotions and she became able to think more rationally. I'd go for another one! Currently with a INTJ. We often think the same things and it feels like we aren't two separate people. I also have a huge respect for, and good understanding of how her mind works. It's super comforting because i don't have to expend much mental energy to predict what's going on in her head. Therefore my mind is free to do more INTP stuff. :) The point of friction is that we're both problem solvers and sometimes compete on that. This can become mutually frustrating. I've learned that there are a few ways to handle this: 1) If she is experienced with the problem, i give her the steering wheel and only offer feedback if the idea fails or is sufficiently non-optimal. It can be hard to hold my tongue sometimes though. 2) If we both don't know, i tell her to give me time to think about it and later offer up several ideas for her to chose from, pointing out the upsides/downsides of each. We can discuss it and if there is no clear optimal choice, she gets to decide. 3) If i am experienced with the problem, i make a good argument to convince her i am, and she'll hand me the steering wheel, knowing i would be best at solving it. But she can become frustrated with the amount of time i need and the noodly process. I like #2 the most because it feels very bonding when we solve a problem together. I have an INTJ math professor boss and we've learned to do #2 as often as possible. I use my P to provide a set of fully thought out solutions and she uses her J to chose one. I would say my emotional connection to my INTJ girlfriend and INTJ male friends is basically nonexistant, but the intellectual connection is super intense and feels more lke home than having an intense emotional connection.
I have wondered my whole life why I think so deeply yet can’t connect with people... I am showing the intp personality traits to my gal so she understands me more bcz I don’t know HOW to articulate it..., I feel so complex I don’t know how to put words to it, yet I really care for people at the same time...
hey I'm an intp before I change one of my principle to connect to people to be more sympathetic and after 3 years I took the exam again and now I'm an infp. I think the difference between them is intp uses the brain more while infp uses the heart.
Recently discovered I am actually Intp (not Intj) and in consideration of a couple of recent “happenstance” Infj relationships, I have realized that my life is continually filled with Infjs. I am yet undecided on whether I enjoy the Intp/Infj relationship.
This also explains a lot now why i never liked accounting and math. I was good at maths when i was younger but growing up i felt it drained me and consumed my energy and made my mind tired. I took accounting as an igcse subject and it drained me to the extinct i got breakdowns because of it.
I an INFJ; my dad was INTP. I have two siblings: one is ISTP; the other probably ESTP. My dad got along best with me as compared to the other two kids. It’s that INTP-INFJ compatibility.
I'm INTP-A and my INFJ-T friend said that she really vibes with me and our other friend (INFP-T). At first, I actually thought I was INFP, so she thought she vibes with INFP, but I thought that I'm not that nice lol. When I answered how I am in actuality, turns out I was INTP. XD The INFP memes were so relatable, but it was for a different reason on why they were relatable. 🤣🤣🤣
My older brother is INFJ and I love the man enough to fight on his behalf. That being said, I often wish I could just wring the life from him sometimes. For little to no reason...he can just irritate me like no one else.
*I LOVE MUSIC* ....and mostly chord progressions which are hard to predict. Gives me something to think about. Most music though has such boring, predictable chords. That makes me feel soooo bored... (Ne craves new patterns to explore!)
Jazz to me personally most often tends to sound somewhat similar, and if anything, not challenging to listen to. The melodies in jazz do not seem to consist of the type of logical patterns like in some classical music, but rather mostly seem to consist of solos where each note seems kinda random, like a guitar solo in whatever music. Indeed the melody is harder to predict, but it's more random at the same time. Jazz is possibly complex, but predictable in its complexity, if that makes sense? If for example music consists of a certain scale, then just adding notes into certain chords that are not part of that particular scale, seems to give me that 'wow I did not expect that' moment, while if music was pretty much chromatic from the start, no other tone is really going to surprise me. A movie like a mindfuck movie where suddenly an element of surprise is added to twist the whole thing does it more for me than a movie that is just very complicated the whole time. It's the change of the pattern that does it for me. However, there needs to be a enough of a limiting pattern in order to make something pop out of that pattern. At least, that's how I would personally describe my preference without knowing musical theory. I just know about the scales because I was curious what exactly made me like certain songs/music that had these 'wow' moment for me, and apparently it's either called 'borrowed chords' or something else that I forgot... Also I like music that is more suspensfull /sad or thrilling, and to me all Jazz that've heard so far gives me a happy sensation rather than the opposite which I prefere. However, if you have interesting recommendations I would be mor than happy to hear them! It's really hard to find music that has these things that I like!
P O W E R - R E D - B U L L Jazz is not really written in a key, so that’s why it’s all over the place. I, too, like darker, more mysterious music. But I also like the right kind of optimistic euphoric music.
Orchestral or instrumental (should?) suit you better. Because they varies a lot if you look upon the history of music! I like the classic one more though.
@@astavas8341 I like the classical chords structures, but prefer non classical instrumentation, because that seems more refreshing to me. I like a lot of *genre x meets classical y' music..but there is not that much of that..and oftentimes I already know these classical pieces so well.
It is no exaggeration...we don't like chores. 🤣 I wish I could hire a cook on the days my husband doesn't cook. (I'm an INFJ mom with an INTP son.) One day, my son, who is six, said, "Dear GOD, please clean my room for me." 🤣 I love semi-homeschooling him. He goes to a school building, but I teach him multiplication and division because first graders actually can learn it. Why wait for third grade to multiply / divide when first graders know how to group items? Go for it, parents! 💝
