INFJ PERSONALITY TYPE -WHY GATEKEEPING IS KEEPING SO MANY OF US STUCK

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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Join us today as we dive into the world of INFJ Gatekeeping. Discover how INFJs protect their insights, energy, and knowledge, often keeping them hidden from others. While gatekeeping initially seems like a defense mechanism, it can ultimately hinder our fulfillment. Let's explore how breaking down these barriers is essential for personal growth and acceptance.
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@Wenzes 25 дней назад

What are your thoughts on "gatekeeping" your truth?

@jeremiahfix5529 25 дней назад

When one tells their mother that they are being henpecked because of a need to control and its ironic how their actions don't match what they expect, that kind of revelation can really make people mad, obviously, so I try to not tell people about themselves.

@leojanuszewski1019 24 дня назад

There is only one truth: objective reality.

@jeremiahfix5529 24 дня назад

@@leojanuszewski1019 , what is the origin of the universe?

@syedanargis616 22 дня назад

hey Wenzes, I do not know that you will see my message or not But I want to ask, as an INFJ, is becoming a diplomat a good idea? Currently I am a student of engineering. I feel that it is not suitable for me. so thinking of changing my career and wanting to pursue career in diplomacy.

@jeremiahfix5529 22 дня назад

@@syedanargis616 , I wanted to be a social psychologist, maybe I will still do that some day, currently learning psychology, if you can use both the feeling and thinking aspects of yourself for a life long job.

@imdjc4 25 дней назад

NEVER let them know how much you know. I prefer remaining alive with them thinking they know me, being misunderstood and remain at a shallow level rather than explaining and complaining myself into a corner where they can go in for the kill. As a child, I quickly learned you tell them the truth (and you think as an INFJ) you freak them out by just being with them. Besides, only one person needs to know all of me - my wife - and that's more than enough. And once again Wenzes, appreciate your videos and like-mindedness by putting it into words. Keep up the great work!

@DonTrump-sv1si 25 дней назад

That sounds pretty right on

@muma6559 24 дня назад

yep, sounds about right. You can't give, you shouldn't give to people who can't take it for whatever reason, we learn that very early on. As you say, no need to back ourselves into a corner, nope. People freak out. And we don't have time to teach everyone, nor do they want or believe in anything better. Pick and choose wisely, you bet !

@sagebay2803 25 дней назад

This video was so spot on. I am just DONE with giving. Maybe it's compassion burn out. IDK. I need to give to myself. No more. Does anyone else feel this way, or is it just me? lol

@bsp5161 24 дня назад

All the time, hon. I find myself drawn into situations…people who are depressed/suicidal, who need physical, tangible help. It’s too much and I’ve withdrawn from most, compassion burnout is a thing

@fa5102 23 дня назад

Me toooooooo!!!! I am DONE!!!! It’s time we give to ourselves like we do for others

@queengfoods 23 дня назад

We're here with you❤ feeling the same way. Hermit mode activated currently

@lightinthedark9201 22 дня назад

I understand you.But you know the more you give,the more you'll get in return,not by people but by the Lord of All the Worlds in the Hereafter if you sincerely do it for his sake.

@I-love-Nox 24 дня назад

This is a survival tactic. And honestly I don’t need anyone to know anything about me anymore. The less the better. I’m tired of people reacting off of who and attacking me with their insecurities. People dont deserve INFJs tbh

@queengfoods 23 дня назад

Thisssss. I feel seen, it always gets thrown in our face for sure. Even when they see we were right time and time again. We need to definitely keep to ourselves. And find a platform like she did to share with others who actually want our services, knowledge etc

@corporaterobotslave400 25 дней назад

I don't have any ppl around me that are able to accept what I keep behind my gate. I have to share all that thru my entertainment media. And that stuff takes forever to get done. I just have to keep everything bottled up until it's in a song or on screen. I think that without any other outlet that this helps me focus on my long term goals, instead of bouncing ideas off ppl who don't appreciate my ideas.

@susangarrard2753 25 дней назад

I only give if I want to and if the person appreciates it.

@VictorTAnderson 24 дня назад

The INFJ population needs to hear this (myself included)

@MrGadfly772 25 дней назад

My gatekeeping instincts are what has led me to draw so many narcissists into my life.

@SonicSpeedfan23 24 дня назад

Same

@priyanshuranjan3047 24 дня назад

Said the truth

@muma6559 24 дня назад

no, that's not the real reason

@matiasschmied1156 25 дней назад

So greatful for having found your channel. God bless you Wenzes.

@SD-rm5ty 25 дней назад

I think a career in counseling or therapy would be great but I know from past experiences no one takes my advice and I don't want to add to trauma I've already experienced in my life. I'm sticking to something creative instead.

@corporaterobotslave400 25 дней назад

Good decision. I was a counselor. Quit because only about 1% actually took my advice and applied it. Creativity for the win!

@FirehorseG 25 дней назад

@@corporaterobotslave400I was told by my therapists that they're not there to give advice. They're there to guide you to self awareness of why you do what you do, and to change this.

@SD-rm5ty 24 дня назад

@@FirehorseG I'm now aware of this but when it's done with criticism that's where I draw the line and tune out. 😂

@bsp5161 24 дня назад

That sounds wise. I went to school for social work and dropped out, went back to my truest self in writing because reality is, change is hard and many people truly aren’t ready for lasting changes. It’s frustrating

@lindateuling7862 25 дней назад

The most helpful thing I got from this, was when you mentioned that the most effective thing we can do is to use what's best for us. I saw this as showing our effectiveness rather than just talking about it. In other words, actually doing what we most believe in. I think that when this gets done, it will be more believable. I wondered how much "gatekeeping" I've done - probably more than I realized - there's a limit to how much I'm comfortable telling ahead of time. But living and most importantly doing what is best for us, IMO, speaks louder than what we say.

@PenelopePitstop0078 25 дней назад

Oooh, the synchronicity of this insight into self today, for me, is spooky good. 😳

@Rachel_M_ 25 дней назад

Maybe it's not synchronicity? We're INFJ and just "know" these things 😉

@DanaAdams-bc5ug 25 дней назад

Having to keep a secret that would benefit mankind

@goontubeassos7076 25 дней назад

Ya, because it will get you killed and used for a small amount of people who call themselves “Elites” Or turned into a weapon. Either way, gets you killed.

@nathanreedy4380 25 дней назад

Whoa! This is a great video on this topic. This being said, not only am I guilty of gatekeeping myself to others, but I feel like others gatekeep me. Because I have other people say to me & think & act like that just because they've been through a certain situation that they think is similar to something I am dealing with that whatever they did or used to work through it will automatically work for me. And this isn't always the case & I wind up feeling misunderstood & as though people are trying to control me & so therefore I can also see how others feel like I am trying to control them when I gatekeep them. 😬😬😬 Thank you so much for this video!

@fredcraven1699 25 дней назад

Policy of Truth Depeche Mode

@realizationstation2173 25 дней назад

I have come to see that the fuller my cup is, the more approachable I am to those who truly want to expand! :)

@elliottsmith7530 24 дня назад

facts! loving yourself first is the initial, most important step. in theory you receive the energy you exert. if other person doesnt reciprocate, then that say more about them than you🙏🏽

@realizationstation2173 24 дня назад

@@elliottsmith7530 Absolutely ... the line for those who want change is far longer than the line of those that what TO change ;)

@elliottsmith7530 23 дня назад

@@realizationstation2173 oooh i like that

@dawnmurphy1169 25 дней назад

Wow! I need to tend to my own backyard first and foremost!

@daily977 25 дней назад

Appreciate = Respect

@bumblebee_mrs 25 дней назад

Wenzes, when I read the title I thought you were going to say others gatekeep us, to stop US from succeeding. This is what I'm going thru, I have people everywhere stopping me from succeeding. Nay sayers.

@bumblebee_mrs 25 дней назад

Just to add, I really like your concept of stopping the self-sabotage.

@selfmademillian4093 23 дня назад

This is very much apart of the infj experience. People will get triggered and try to stop you. If may not even be people. Random things may start to go wrong that have nothing to do with people. But push through.

@bumblebee_mrs 23 дня назад

@@selfmademillian4093 You are so right, it feels like even the Universe is against me at times, or is it another lesson?

@jerome6572 25 дней назад

Wenze's very informative indeed Wenze's I thank you for you and your guidance.Jerome❤❤❤

@ruthhenderson9205 25 дней назад

Thank you Wenzes. Another incredibly helpful talk. The way you deliver your videos is becoming more and more vibrant and powerful. I am really grateful for you! ❤

@java385 25 дней назад

Always great to hear you.

@daily977 25 дней назад

I’m about to blow the gate open!!

@estebannestares2745 25 дней назад

Meaningful and valuable post. Thanks Wenzes. 💙👐🏻

@leojanuszewski1019 24 дня назад

Do INFJs tend to suffer from low self-esteem?---I ask because it seems that you spend a good amount of time in your videos assuring people how knowledgeable, formidable, insightful, etc. INFJs are.

@juliusmuhumuza3018 25 дней назад

People pleasing

@KoyLejeune 25 дней назад

Pretty much

@z32luvr 24 дня назад

Great advice!

@Jasonwritescode 20 дней назад

Wonderfully said.

@this-abledtheextravertedhe5299 24 дня назад

Thanks ❤ I really needed this reminder.

@daily977 25 дней назад

love your videos ❤

@Jaynycreates 24 дня назад

its so difficult!

@nykki21 25 дней назад

Received right on time. Thank you

@nourfattouh6547 25 дней назад

💙

@margaritarota4577 25 дней назад

You are so correct 💯

@miloszgondek 14 часов назад

Any infj in Portugal?😊

@queengfoods 23 дня назад

Available for texting for anyone who needs to talk to someone who can actually relate❤

@briankostich6274 25 дней назад

Is gatekeeping a term for lone wolf? Doing that personally. Had to let go of a toxic relationship and people around me notice a different me. What they see is me.

@royal_lotus8834 24 дня назад

Thanks to your video's and insight. I'm learning to focus on me and notice that the rest of the things are falling in place. Gatekeeping is something I'm still working on. I like to be there for people but not at the cost of myself. But if i really want to help people. I will start a business around it. Because then I know that people will be open for my help! but for now focusing on my infj epic life