WHY THE INFJ CONSTANTLY ESCAPES REALITY (& LOVES IT) 

Two things here. I don't like putting negative sign on escapism because it's all but negative and it's actually not escapism, but tapping yourself into different dimension of reality. The 3D reality is simply not the only one existing. And secondly affecting reality don't depends on how you are included in the 3D Se dimension, but on how much you know and believe that the power is within you and only there. Sure, you can affect reality by approaching it with Se methods and you can be cheered on as you are walking in from the front door, but we neither need the cheering nor the front door and that is not a problem. Yes we are different, but it's not we that make ourselves negative with this and we never have to internalize other people limitations for our problem and for a problem at all. The problem comes when someone is rejected based on who he/she is, it's not in the difference of perception and the ability to imagine worlds that we have, compared to most people who are extroverted sensors. I was just looking for a topic to comment in my next video so thank you again for the inspiration. For example we don't have the power to make ourselves cheered on the front door, but we have the empathy that make us create emotions in people and the insane power of mirroring back rejection and insults if we believe that we have the power within us and be confident without Se related arguments for that.

My experience is that escaping reality for me is in order to recharge and/or plan (or maybe avoid doing something I know I can pay someone else to do, at least eventually). I just was talking with a coworker today about how I am an introvert who invests energy in acting like an extrovert. (I am trying to establish a corporate Toastmasters club and am using my motivational and leadership skills to form a team towards that goal rather than it just be me pushing it.) He reminded me that it is because I like helping people. A couple decades ago I discovered that I am rarely motivated if I am not helping someone else, but that it also had to help me also or it isn't actually Win-Win. Life changing. I feel grateful for all I have and the opportunity to improve lives, including my own. Plus I embrace being at least a bit strange, but I am a scientist...so we can call it eccentric. :) Then I chatted with a different coworker also today and we were talking about a coworker who "wings it" lots of the time. He said that she should build a "safety net" if she is doing something big. I said that I have encouraged her in that and that I like to have a back-up plan to my back-up plan so I can "wing it" and he reminded me that I don't create strict plans...more the "safety nets" he was talking about, and I had to agree. So that is how I balance it. But it varies a bit through the year as my energy levels change. Summer is great energy while Winter is not so much.

you cant do it forever, Its like going to disney land. You can only vacation so long. And if you work there, its even worse.

An idea for a video and/or with a survey : Could you make a survey (you can use surveymonkey or anything really) asking in what ways your INFJ viewers are malfunctioning on a practical level : financial, romantic relationship, friendship, job, quality of life, health issues and separate category for "I'm perfectly content with my life". I know that self reported results on a scale from 1-5 aren't the best but it's something. It could be interesting to see the results. I believe almost all viewers of this channel would benefit from less daydreaming since almost all of it maladaptive. Personally I've completely failed in that regard. Every video of yours strongly resonates with me but they only leave me sad and hopeless. It feels like everything you say checks out but it doesn't apply to me. Others will probably benefit from it but not me. Could you make a video about what to do when our vivid and powerful fantasy turns very dark and we cant control it? I know inability to control thoughts is a very OCD, rumination and personality disorder kind of territory. As someone who needs a lot of help with mental health I'm doing nothing about it despite having good understanding and awareness. Combination of fear and hopelessness prevents me from doing anything productive or even visiting a specialist. I don't know how to DO. I just feel, think and suffer. My reaction to every proposition from your videos is I'm too scared or i can't do it. It feels horrible writing to you something so negative since what you're doing is very valuable, helpful to many and incredibly relatable. Hopefully you can at least use my idea in some way for the benefit of others not as a message that will bring you down. Thank You for making this channel.

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I am proud of you too. I understand how exhausting it can be sometimes. We can do it 💪🌞

I’m proud of you!!

Yes, very much my own understanding. There are definitely periods of needing to pull back in, while always being creative life has an ease and grace to it. Right now I am staying away from the world to recover from having my trust taken for granted, but am really good in myself while accepting the pain of a recent loss.

Escaping reality helped me many times. As long as we don't escape totally, as long it's just temporary, it's good.

Similar. I find that taking time for myself is important in order to gain clarity about my current reality. I call it entering into my 'hermit mode.' Sometimes, I use this as a way of escaping, but when it works in a healthy way, it can be very helpful for gaining an overview. Keeping busy is not something that works well for me.

Yes!

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Narcissistic parents can't stand to see us happy when they can't be. They don't really have the power to take away our talents (nobody does) but they can mess them up. Good luck on the road back to you 🍀

Right there with you. My sense of self is completely shattered

I want that on a tshirt 😄

You will find a better environment. Stay positive.👍

Same here 🙋‍♀️

I've been called a "daydreamer" from the time of being old enough to talk (which happened before turning a year old, BTW). As a child, my parents and teachers got after me about daydreaming, making me think it was a liability. I later learned that it's not a bad when "using it" instead of letting it use me. My times of getting away from so-called "reality" and letting my mind wander can be good instead of not bad. I'll soon come back to "reality" and maybe even try some new things that occurred to me during this "escape" time.

dont cha mean Puuuurrfect? Cause cats are required for a perfect world.

Same with autism

Gross. Deceit and cheating. Low vibe shit.

@@florptytoo we can't communicate in the physical. Only supernaturally. You don't understand the soul twin nature. We have the same soul. Have only been friends on earth. But we can have supernatural relations.

How can you understand what you do not experience it so wonderfully. Foxes always smell their own hole first.