INFJ's Take On ENTJs 

As an ENTJ. I was getting frustrated why you hadn’t stared the video already until 4 minutes into it

The video starts at 3:20 - ENTJ

I find ENTJ-INFJ interactions to be productive, especially when both are calm. Both have Ni and Te or Fe, which proves to be a very insightful point of difference. But when there's a conflict, my goodness, does poop hit the fan.

My aunt is an ENTJ. She is under 5 feet tall but she will own you! lol Super smart, perfectionistic, organized (notes everywhere yet clean), and sweet at her core. Her alpha nature at rest is super sweet in a suprising way to me. But once its business again watch out, sweetness is gone, put on your gloves lol. ENTJ's, you are great people!

My dad is an ENTJ. I am an ENTJ. We're always fighting.

Video starts at 3:22

My fiancee is also an INFJ and your take on ENTJ's mirrors her's. I just want to share with my fellow ENTJ's that being vulnerable with people and vocalizing my acknowledgement of others transformed my life. Thanks for the video!

I think it's a big misinterpretation when one thinks an ENTJ is "closeminded." We are not. We think very outside the box and are always accepting critisms; we're just super confident when we belive something is correct. Also, I'm love with INFJs lol They're my favorite type and the one I want to marry, but everyone always says how terrible it is xD I think it can be great if the ENTJ recognizes the INFJs feelings.

Oh yes, stroke my ego kind lady !

You dont need to be gentle or politically correct in your criticism of us ENTJ, we wear our stubbornness like a badge ;)

I have an ENTJ trainer in my gymnastics class. He's very charismatic, intense and inspiring. He was able to remain cool-headed when someone in our group broke their leg in the middle of a presentation, which was certainly a strength (like you said at 10:20 or so), as he prevented us from going over there, and got us to finish our show. I think in a time of crisis, the ENTJ will not be the one to console, but to fix the problem or adapt as well as he/she can.

As an ENTJ: I think we are too efficient, to the point that even a tiny bit of feeling is seen as inefficiency, however we will cry like a baby girl about puppies and seniors…lol You are right, for ENTJ, it is a constant effort to battle with "inefficient" people around us, hoping at the same time grow our Fi. You seem Fe dominated, which will act like a mine around ENTJ, at some point , your feeling is gonna get hurt,lol sorry :P good video!

My ENTJ EX won't leave me alone! I am super direct with him about there being no chance of romance for us again in the future, yet he keeps trying to creatively problem solve us back into a relationship. This is not romantic to me, it's just disrespectful. This is part of the reason I don't want to be with him ever again.. BC he is so pushy and it comes off manipulative and emotionally insensitive. Written by a frustrated INFJ. Thanks for listening 🙏🏻

You’re sweet, intelligent, kind and speak your mind with honesty. A true INFJ. Subscribed!

Personally, romantic relationship is the biggest struggle. I come across as cold and distant even when I love and value my significant other.

I'm an ENTJ and I have a lot of negative experiences with INFJ's, especially other males. I respect this video though.

I'm an ENTJ and my younger brother is INFJ. We grew up together, being in same grade we were always together. In childhood we used to fight a lot but now we love each other extremely.

As an ENTJ, I have three things to say about this video. Melody, you are one of the most beautiful creatures I have every seen. Two, this video is spot on. As an extremely self-aware, successful, and powerful ENTJ, I can assure you this is accurate! Lastly, while the ENTJ may seem "arrogant", confident or overly confident are more accurate descriptors. The reason for this is because of our previous successes. As such, the older ENTJs (not me, but I see me going down this path as well as other ENTJs) are even more confident and sure of themselves, but they also (as the video suggested at the end) begin to ease on their expectations of the world as most cannot meet them. That's not a slight on other types as we ENTJs rely on others to help us. I'm just being forward...you know...like and ENTJ! Lol Take care all!

Be forewarned: the following can come across as highly arrogant and cold unless you are familiar with how blunt and direct ENTJs' minds can be. That said, I think that perhaps the most common emotion for ENTJs is frustration mixed with melancholy as we often deal with others that either can't see our "vision" or are unwilling to reciprocate support for our goals to the same degree that we would do for them. In those moments, we probably tend to think something like, "How can you possibly not see or consider things from a different perspective than your own; have you always been this narrow-minded?" Or, "I was willing to go to the ends of the Earth for you, but when it comes to my needs, you aren't even willing to cross this measly 'river?'" [Here it comes --] To us, a lot of people seem to either prove themselves cowards or ignorant imbeciles. This can be deeply disappointing because our very goals are designed to enrich the lives of those very people we once had such faith and high hopes for before they likely "got in our way." ...and yet we press on, even though the clashes and heartbreaks along the way bear their fangs upon our bleeding souls behind the scenes. Something that Intuitives, especially NFs, probably see, and others don't. However, I guess that's the weight we've got to carry, being ENTJs and all. It's the "cross" we've got to bear in exchange for our world-changing ways. Hopefully this adds some light to what ENTJs are like. Cheers.

I find ENTJ’s very obnoxious and lack emotional intelligence but are good at strategy and delivering projects!

As an ENTJ, i can tell you i am an empath, and it helps me asses people. I can sense a room. But i can also not give a fuck. Which helps with the empathy. I also read gestures and faces though, so that further boosts the ability to avoid getting overwhelmed by the feelings around me, if i can asses the room quickly. I have a really close INFJ friend, she helps me stay grounded and not get all focused on my goals. She reminds me that people are the reason why we're all here in the first place. Which takes a lot trust me! And that being an ENTJ is just a tool to help the world in some way.

Stubborn? Rigid? Nah, most of us just believe in what is logical. :) If you can prove our beliefs or thoughts are incorrect though (with proof, of course hehe), we'll look into it and (most likely) change it. Most of us will thank you for it, too :) Also, we *do* have that "emotional noise" you mention in your video, but we just sort of... set it on a shelf... to look at... later. o3o;; Great video, thank you for sharing! :D

Could you tell me about INFJ-ENTJ relationships? I tend to like INFJs a lot because of their fierce commitment to help others in a different way we ENTJ do. @MissMelody

I am ENTJ and I do like INFJ in general .,

summary, infj asking an entj not to goal driven is like an entj asking infj not to have an empath

Close minded? Interesting. My feedback from supervisors has always been that I handle constructive criticism well and even solicit it. I want to improve as much as possible, as quickly as possible, and I can't do that by being close-minded. I think ENTJs have the confidence to not get defensive and to evaluate and accept alternatives that are more efficient/effective.

I have been married for 25 years to my husband who is a ENTJ. I am a INFJ and I love him with all my heart! ❤️

Melody Grace it was a wonderful description and I recognize myself in it! I was in a great romantic relationship with INFJ. I offer protection and self confident and she knew how to develop my feelings! It was very easy to talk deeply between an ENTJ and a INFJ! Thanks a lot for this video, it reminds me good memories! =)

I’m an INFJ and definitely love that I am I’ve met an ENTJ recently and before I knew he was an ENTJ I would have sworn he was INFJ but come to find out it’s the intuition and judging I was seeing. All in all super nice guy that I can see getting along with just fine

where are my fellow ENTJ’s

Great video. Love your speaking style. You seem to really be able to put yourself in other's shoes by understanding their functions. Thanks for sharing!

With the exception of a handful of lovely Entjs, who left genuinely thoughtful comments.....I’ve never read so many tone deaf, obnoxious comments in my life, regarding a thoughtfully made video, that someone bothered to spend her own time to make, that so many of you choose to criticize, thinking you are somehow being appropriate, or funny, or simply not caring at all, when it is so, incredibly rude. And a number of you are delusional enough to think you are empaths, of all things, and leave this as a comment, on a video made by one of the only types who actually probably is an empath. You could learn a thing or two from this person and her lovely, intuitive, insightful video.

I appreciate your perception of ENTJs and the feedback to help us grow.

Another thing is that as an ENTJ I believe my success is largely a reason of my ability to defy people.

Pls can u do "INFJ's take on INTP"? (gets u a lot of views because their HOME is the internet) ;D

The symmetry of lights is why I watched until the end.

Aw! Thank you! Seriously making ENTJs sound better than we deserve. And yes, my goals need to chill out. XD And expectations need a serious turn down. Lol! Work on putting my silly pants on more and leaving my suit at home. :D

I'm an ENTJ married to an INFJ for 8 years. It's been a bumpy road as I struggle to keep up with her feelings and she can't stand my bluntness. It's almost like she lives in a fantasy. She wants to live in her ideal world when real life is another thing. We clash as I'm very logical and she comes across as a fantasist hippy. I struggle now and again however how I dealt with it is through maturity. I had to be open minded more as naturally I am very loyal to her and love her to bits. I don't agree with her many times but I agree to disagree to stay married. Lol Romance is hard! I feel like I'm suffocating when talking about feelings. Ewwww. She always wants me to be romantic. I'm learning though. How I learnt is fulfill her requests and literally act as I'm interested... Lol. Hope she doesn't read this. 😆

Hey - I just wanted to say I have watched your channel for a long time and I'm so glad you're back and making videos. Keep it up!

I will run fuckin circles around you. This is how I feel 99% of my life The only thing that makes me cry is extreme frustration.

You're 100% an INFJ. No doubt. I'm an INFJ and have such authentic synergy with my ENTJ business partner; what you said is spot-on. Thanks :)

I am an INFJ and my mom is an ENTJ and 98.999% of the time she’s trying to pick a fight with me with anything it’s so exhausting, I can’t wait for the day to move out of her house really...

I’m an ENTJ and a lot of this is spot on

This could have been organized better. ;) I had to fast forward and precious seconds were wasted- Commander Skyla My little sister is a Consul..... poor thing.

When you do a video about ENTJ's, the one mistake you shouldn't make is being inefficient. Which you were. FOUR damn minutes of ranting, do you want to frustrate us? XD Yes, of course we are stubborn. Why? Because we are rarely proven wrong. People want to change our minds, not because we are wrong, but because the truth hurts your feelings. Hell, if you can prove us wrong with logic and facts (which is what really matters), you immediately gain our respect, which very few people manage to earn.

thank you for not just spewing info that youre not sufficiently educated on! this is the first vid of yours ive ever came across & youve just earned me as a subscriber within the first minute.

Their intensity and the higher energy level that distinguishes them from INTJs is due to the Se function .

I love it when others flaunt about me for me. Even my mom calls me arrogant. But at least im not really an asshole, but that's if i like you. -ENTJ-A

I watch not just because your information is correct or you have personal experience with it but also because your imperfect opinions are very valuable as long as you stay honest 🤣 I subbed. Opinions are good as long as you let people know is just an opinion and not a statement.

Please do a video on INFJs and finding love/giving up/best matches. Thank you

I agree that they’re close-minded. Especially, if they’re immature, they think they are always right. If you disagree with them, they dismiss you immediately. It’s really frustrating when this belief is something they have of you and it’s a wrong assumption 🥲 As you can see… even in the comments, most are disagreeing. Which kinda goes with my point how they don’t see a true reflection of themselves

I'm an entj woman. I'm also an empath. I spent a large part of my life never understanding why people would say I was being a "bitch" I mean I'd be completely clueless why they would think that , when I know I was trying to help and I was right. I'd begin thinking they were just trying to divert. Until I was typed and learned that I'm not naturally intune with peoples feelings. I feel we are one of the most misunderstood types. Most people view us in a negative light. We have feelings. We do care. Theres just some things we have Expierienced and know through trial and error work and we wish to share our knowledge. Feelings have nothing to do with logic and results . I for one understand the importance of others mental well being . I have the " We are all in this together ", mentality. Seriously, other's successes equal our success. As I've grown older. I do still have to make a conscience effort to take peoples feelings into consideration. I spend most of my days occassionally being accused of things that are not true about me , by people who I'm most close to , even considering all the proof in the world I am not any of those things. I'm not a hypocrite, I'm not bias, or jealous. Of anything. But these things are projected on me. Because we live in a world where people dont want to admit the truth about themselves. I dont care to win. Or always be right , no one is better than anyone. Etc. How about quit stalling and get your shit together. Lol. It's impossible to lie to me once I know you. And I know people fairly quickly. I see everything, read between the lines, and dont forget anything. My job if you're in my face to send you in the right direction to get your shit together. If you dont like it or dont want to do the work, I assure you, I wont be in your face . I just dont enable bullshit. Doesnt make me a bitch. Means I care.

Great video. You were correct in everything, but one. ENTJs care A LOT about what people think about them. Our Se and Ni forces us to always consider what people think about us, and how we present ourselves to others. Our Fi is at its best when we are perceived as successful and important

Thanks for this video! My favourite part was your self correct about the third function. PS Your lipstick is great. Would love to know what it is!

Video starts @3:25. Btw I’m an entj.

I’m an ENTP and I just watched your take on ENTPS from 3 years ago and it’s great because I could relate so well my best friend is an INFJ and when I started learning about MBTI I told him to try the personality test because I figured he was an INFJ and it was spot on and your videos give me more insight 🙏

Shalom from France Jesus loves you!!❤❤

My uncle is INFJ and we get along pretty well. Though interestingly, he's a physicist which you wouldn't associate with INFJs but he's pretty caring for a scientist type. As in he doesn't come across as cold. I do, however. He sometimes gets surprised by my attitudes about people and life Like how I don't care so much about people but care more about pragmatism and efficiency.

Not sure if my husband is just an unhealthy ENTJ or what...but that black and white thinking (no gray area) is just Aaaaaack! So frustrating to have a convo with.

Could you do a video about INTJs? Cause I as an INFJ are strangely drawn to them...ENTJs not so much which is a bit weird but probably they are a little too harsh for my feeling based personality 😂 I think one of my colleagues might be an ENTJ...I sometimes think she is changing her personality like 10times a day....she can be friendly when you talk with her in private but when it's about work she is ignorant and cold and doesn't seem to care if she just hurt you. She knows everything better although it's not even her special field. If you want to ask her something simple you have to better announce it like 3 days before otherwise she feels disturbed during her work and gets rid of you with fast words. I am frightened of her sometimes. But then her other better personality comes around she suddenly behaves like she is an old friend of you. She is freaking me out so much honestly.

I love these videos! I can’t wait to hear you continue to talk about other types. Thank you :)

we are BOSS, CEO and leaders all the way. People fear us, but it's more them than us, we truly love people but love getting shit done more than anything for the betterment of others not ourselves. Ironically I thought I was an INFJ for the longest time, but I'm too driven for that and an extrovert...

Thanks gf .. appreciate that!

I've definitely made the mistake of putting that pressure on loved ones and it's a constant struggle to just chill. I'm engaged to an ISTP, go figure that one out lol

Entj here :)

3:21 - you’re welcome fellow ENTJs

Hello Mrs. Melody. Been following your series regarding MBTI and Enneagram. I just wanted to say I’m thankful for your efforts and genuinely looking forward to watch a video about your subjective take on “ INTPs “. And thank you in advance ~ Ebra ~

My husband is an ENTJ and the man believes he is comprised of facts. Not that he has facts...that he embodies facts. Feelings/intuition are not logically measurable...thus invalid. No, go ahead and say it; arrogance is a good word. It's a challenge. I frequently have a hard time putting understandings that I intuit into language that he can understand and presents with his version of validity. He's often concerned only with completing a task efficiently. The scars of what it took to accomplish it are not within a spectrum that he is aware of. If he hurts my feelings or invalidates me, my hurt is a personality flaw. I try to give him the example that it's as though there are colors that he is blind to that I can see but he can't. Haha...he instantly dismisses that as ludicrous. He is good at anything he takes on. He gets shit done. He throws himself into anything he does and becomes the best at whatever it is. I love that he's always trying to move forward and better himself. He's very loyal and responsible. So, it's not all negative. I just believe that INFJs and ENTJs is a very challenging union.

I think with that whole mistyping thing, we are all complex human beings and I'm an ENFP who knows many other ENFP's who are quite different from me, yet we share the same core characteristics. May those people see the auxiliary, tertiary or inferior functions more.

this was a good video. there arent that many people that describe eNTJ in a positive light so i usually feel misunderstood and put off by any 'advice' but since you acknowledged the positives i was able to take more of the advice to heart and i think that this video provided value

I like INTPs and INFJ dont know about other types yet IM ENTJ 8w7 best

I have a new ENTJ friend who loves Kpop, but she doesn't love it, she knows almost everything about it. A certifiable expert.

I like your bedroom set-up. It looks cool and at the same time has a relaxing vibe to it.

You should be talking about ENTJs in this video rather than including INFJs. I am expecting that you are going to talk about how these two personalities interact, learn from each other and flourish together.

ENTJs are ridged when they have not learn to use their full stack. I see many flaws in the venella ENTJ and you can help change him by chipping away at his flaws with negativity and positivity reinforcement. I used to be this way and that changed when I started learning about MBTI, I consciously decided to change this behavior because I saw it as a dangerous flaw. It put too much of a limitation on my ability to simulate multiple outcomes and I also became less judgemental when I made this adjustment.

ENTJ here. Reallly struggle to get through the video. Took a long time to get to the crux or the message. Stuck around 'cause you're cute as hell.

As avn ENTJ I appreciate bold, vulgar, provocative speech and action. We're want it raw and real!

I'm an ENFJ and whenever I want to naturally lead a group but feel someone else deserves the spotlight I am frantically looking for you ENTJ's and ESTJ's lol. It's okay though I like being second in command or chief of staff!

ENTJ's Rule the Throat Chakra.

wow! she 's beautiful...and these eyes

our main objective is to let people enjoy their time. so usually i implement changes in order to be efficient and people need to understand that. :) so they know where we are coming from because for me time is very important. 🤭🤗

I'm an ENTJ and I'm very cognitive about people, but I'm terrible about reading people naturally. I read tone and additude to figure out another individual's emotional spectrum. Extroverted social ques had to be learned from people with Fe traits. My ENFP brother taught me a lot.

I tested and entj and believe I am one and you were really nice on describing us . ENTJs wouldn’t of been so nice .

I would've lost interest with the long intro, but I'm playing this back at 1.5 so I'm still here.

I can't tell you how patient I was with her long a** intro....I told myself: Look at the background, her aesthetically pleasing bedroom, and that pleasing asymmetric face to make it to the ENTJ part of the video. I get bored too quickly. Yes, I am an ENTJ.

Te is more of an organization and structure about how things can work effectively. It’s the organizing of people to make things work

I tried dating an ENTJ (they told me). We met online and then went on a date, there was/wasn't a spark and we tried a year later. Still nothing. Weird feeling like it could or could not work, definitely a hit or miss connection.

We will say what they think but people will be scared of us if they melt under pressure we need people to be brave to talk to us INTPs are good for that but they are shy to talk

Agree on that people are super cocky about typing people - This is the reason for me leaving topic related discord - I got so pissed because those shitters were typing whatever came up to their mind - Im ENTJ

Don't try to go into functions. Please, you are amazing. You are an infj, it is apparent. But function stacking, not our thing.

+Miss Melody hahahahahahahahaha 7:45 You're INFJ? I'm ENTJ... NTs (and specially NTJs) are really really good to plan things in long terms and giant steps. Introspective abstracting thinking style, is what you were missing there. =) I like to call it the quintessential Timeless thinking style (which also applies for INFJs and ENFJs for their Feeling style... is why MBTI considers them the best counselors while the other feeling types tend to be more disturbing when dealing with other people's feelings, the same way ENTJs and INTJs are really really good at thinking in comparison to the other thinking types). I really wanted to meet an NFJ in person...

7:59 "Callous." Lol. True.

What should I do when I feel unsafe with someone? What should they do

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I think you described me to a T. Especially the emotional queues parts

We are so similar yet so different. Got me misunderstood

You madam are correct

It's stubborn but most likely correct.

is gary vaynerchuk entj?

An ENTJ consumes a HUGE amount of information and sees things that nobody else does, then we use our intuition like a razor blade to focus all of this thought into one goal, and....well, that goal can be YOU. It's very intense, but if you listen to us, we can provide you with Objective information that can change your thinking, and change your life.