Hi guys, thanks for watching! Are you also someone who falls into the trap of wanting to change something about your life but you have absolutely no idea what you want?!
I love models. I started understanding style, when I found out about the Kibbe Style types and the Seasonal Color pallets. Also finding out about MBTI and attachment theory was so helpful to me. :)
As an infj black male its difficult for people to understand me. Society expects me to act and be a certain way. My friends are all into non-sense(garbage music, partying, drugs, etc) and see me as odd ball because I'd rather research and sit alone
Lavance Chase those aren’t friends, they were just there at a certain time. You are just too comfortable in your place to make friends that align with you
Hard truth but it‘s true...we all have been there. It takes time and effort but if you get out of your comfort zone and actively look for people who you can share interests with, it won‘t feel like you are not undstood
Same. I am an INFJ and didn't figure out till the end of high school, so those were trying times. Coming out of that into college, I had to get really philosophical and psychological about what I felt was my best creative paths, as they align with my actual passions and the growth of my mbti cognitive functions. My weakness was shyness and expressing myself. I realized that either I give in and never show up in this world with my gifts, or I go extra hard in my self development to surpass the status quo of social expectations. I was really good at puzzling words and abstractions in writing together so I decided to rap. I realized this could be a kind of social hack in that you could be who you actually are and get people to see you as cool and confident for it while staying true to what you care about and think about. And when I eventually grow socially in this way I can filter for the people who like me for who I am, while not having to rely on them for confidence because I create my own internal competent-confident loops by Se exercising my passions. I whip my inferior Se into better shape in ultimate holistic service of my Ni and the other remaining functions. We have the power to persuade people with our Fe. Once you find that creative image of yourself, you can use the power of your inner world to manifest it. You don't have to throw out you Ni or your Ti.
At this point in my life, I'm very fortunate to have good friends who are also in my profession which is teaching. It's a good feeling when you know that you can touch base with good like-minded friends and we support each other and other things besides teaching as well.
@@Wenzes I enjoyed them a lot. You're right. I did watch lot of them at once because lately it's been topsy-turvy for me health-wise, and I didn't always get a chance to see them as they came out. But I sure found them worth watching when I was able to do it! 👍❤😎
I had the finance problem as well. Accumulating money just goes against so much of who I am, and because of that a lot of budgeting and saving techniques did not work for me. Until I realized that it's not about copying someone's finance management, but adapting it to your values and what you want to achieve with it. So I include things like 'charity pot' for when an opportunity to donate arises, 'friends and family' pot in case there is a moment when they need money, and 'emergency pot' for my own needs if something goes wrong. Basically, it means I feel prepared to be generous instead of being caught off guard and unable to help out (as happened before). You have to address your budget because whether you like it or not money is a part of your life, just make it work for who you are.
I agree with you. I've also had similar objections until I realized that money can just be a way of getting into better alignment with my values and what's truly important to me. The book, "Your Money or Your Life" (2018 version) is really helping me in a very practical way to determine what's really important to me, how much money will actually be enough for my lifetime, and how I can start today to consistently achieve this freedom.
Great! I also love working with rolemodels...that helps me a lot. I think it is because we can absorb so much of that rolemodels energy that we start feeling like how we think THEY are feeling ;) One more reason to surround ourselves with people that are where we want to be :)
Hi Wenzes, I was wondering how you fit spirituality into this kind of model? Would it be a whole new pillar on its own? Or would it be the source from which the pillars spring or the end at which they meet? or the foundation on which they stand or the capstone/ceiling under which the pillars reside?
I can see some issues that may be causing my 'paralysis': relationships management - not enough engagement. I have few great friends and we do not meet so often. Wealth management - less of a problem, my stand is here that I want to be successful on the market - not exactly rich, but it is connected. Yep, freedom for you. That's it. Vocation - no big cause, no radiation from me. Ouch. Priority management - I get distracted so easily... I want to read a book, it's not that luring so what do I do? Go watch videos on youtube or read FB. Basically I'm not even sure if I want to change anything. I've always had this idea to have everything figured out before 30. But I don't have my own place or girlfriend... Economically own place would no make sense. Girlfriend would be nice but at this point it seems hopeless to me. Girls I like usually have a boyfriend or I repel them with Chandler-like behaviour.
It‘s always a matter of how much we want to invest into bettering our life...maybe getting a girlfriend right now is not the first priority 😉 but there are things you can do that will make you feel you are more in control of your life
Although many reach out to me for my opinions and outlook on their issues or situations. I'm the one stuck at the end wishing I had someone to relate me or understand me as I do others. Its difficult sometimes
