INFJs can't see the trees for the forest. 

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Me: I don’t try to categorize people. Also, me: Extremely intrigued by personality tests and other people’s results.

"Tell me what we're making or I'm not cracking one more egg! " I laughed so hard, it's soooo true and relatable

One thing for sure about INFJ’s, we love hearing about ourselves.

Why did I even take all those psych electives at university when I could have just watched a 12 min yt video to understand myself O.O

I’m so glad I found your channel. It’s amazing how these short videos make me feel less alone in my infj head and feel like there are people who get it. Thanks for sharing and making these videos!

I'm not cracking one more egg until I know what we're making MOM :')

Anyone else wake up slowly in the morning like, "Oh shit. Still doing this consciousness in a personality/body thing. Ok." And then gradually remember your "identity". ?

Nothing makes me more depressed than feeling like things are random

Me: *I’m not a planner I just go with the flow.* Also me: *has next 7 days planned out in my head that prepare me for the next month I’ve planned out in my head which will prepare me for the next 12 months that will prepare me for the process of life for the next 5 years* Also also me: the next 5 years isn’t planned out though it’s just how its going to happen. Idk how I know I just do. idk

Since discovering what an INFJ is, and that I am an INFJ to my very core, I have spent the last 3 days listening to you tell me about myself. It's freaky and every now and again I have to keep checking myself like "is he just convincing me I have all these traits?" I don't know how to describe how unsettling/comforting it is to feel like someone I've never met knows me better than I know myself, especially after 30 years of feeling like a total enigma and outsider. Thanks for all the work you do.

I hope you don't mind me commenting on all your videos. I'm binging them and finding myself relating to everything you are talking about lol. I feel like most INFJ channels/videos miss the mark, like maybe they aren't really INFJ's or they don't understand our functions well but everything you're talking about it so freaking relatable.

0:36 INFJ dilemma: trying to please everyone by saying "we love everyone", but retract because some people may not like that statement.

"If you had told me where this was going I wouldn't have made those mistakes." YES!!! I worked under a teacher who wouldn't tell me the end goal and therefore leave out details assuming I could magically read her mind on where a project was going. Yet her lack of communication was always my fault. Hated that woman 😡

Frank you’re a smart young man. I’m a smart old man. I wish I was a smart young man. BTW, you are a very perceptive INFJ. it’s all about the big picture. You’re on the right path.

My life get's ruined by big picture by my constantly helping because I'm a "Humanitarian" and then I forget to do my laundry or whatever, then I isolate and take care a bunch of my shit and then I go out and take on the big world again... I love the snow shot... the black and white so beautiful

Wow! You hit the nail on the head again! The scariest thing in the world for me is to release that control that I cannot know. I feel like I have to know. It drives me insane. I want to be prepared. My Se must be tiny. I'm not real sure how to live in the present. My daughter (ISTP) and I watched this together. She was laughing at my look of horror when you mentioned that we need to accept that we can't know everything.

you're gorgeous

Ugh i needed this. Ive started a new job and i dont understand the context of what im doing and im just completely miserable - too many cracked eggs ahhhhh

Peace F_J . Something tells me a lot of INFJ's may do poorly in things like Algebra. Unless they have a teacher who explains the "why/what for" part, of course.

Yes, yes, and yes. Spirituality is the one thing that keeps me grounded. And I cant tell you how badly I want a literal mathematical equation for existence, bringing science and spirit together lol.

Meditation helped me stay in the present moment. I’m a Buddhist atheist. I think I was drawn to it for the reasons you mentioned

Let me know in the comments how your life is being ruined by being so big picture oriented!

The introverted thinker works out the big picture or the quickest route to solutions so we can get back to being an introverted thinker...I think😕

Haha this is so true about losing control... if I don't get enough time alone to work out the patterns I start to feel like I'm losing my whole identity / understanding of the world. Also my Ni will keep grinding when I don't have enough Se, trying to squeeze all the juice out of one slice so to say. Kinda in that situation at the moment when I can only throw my best guess at what the truth is and it's frustrating because I can't prepare myself for what's going to happen next...trying to deal with it by just pouring feelings into creative outlets 😊

Of all the videos I've watched. This is the most simplified of what an INFJ really abt. Now i understand back in skool, y geometry subject is the easiest for me n ther hardest for the rest. Instantly categories the patterns when others cant even see one.

I'm the MOM. My INFJ son is 30 now and it's been quite a ride with my special guy. These videos are spot on. And I hope he doesn't feel so alone when sharing. I'm an ENFJ and I tried to help when and where I could, but at the end of the day, I can paint him the big picture, and I can walk with him through patterns and help him identify.... but I cannot help him find the inner peace he needs until he can understand he can't know everything. Bless him for trying. He's a visionary genius.

I work with a Ne dominant individual and am frequently frustrated by the new puzzle pieces being thrown at me on a regular basis. Your description of Ne vs. Ni is excellent!! I also love the sound effect you used for Se as it relates to the INFJ cognitive stack. Well Done!!

I need to mention how much I appreciate you look right into the lens and not yourself on a screen. Way more impactful with just that difference. People rarely do that these days. So, with that and the accuracy of what you’re saying, it LITERALLY feels like I’m looking into a mirror.

You seem like a completely different person compared to some of your older videos (an INFJ thing I'm sure). You have really helped me lately with your insights. Thank you for being so generous.

I do believe you’re my spirit animal. I love the content you’re putting out here. Keep it up

Amazingly well put! And I agree to the fullest, spirituality is the key to finding ourselves and to find peace, love and "the now".

I am growing and understanding more about myself and other INFJ’s thanks to these videos .Thank you so much for the time, effort and self that you put into these videos .

Thanks, Frank, for your insight- that is why I was asking myself the meaning of life and death when I was 8. I needed to try to understand the big picture. :) I liked your recipe analogy. We need to have a grasp of the finished product. "Okay so this is who they are and where they are going, now i need to hear and respect their current needs." I stopped watching tv in November 2016. Sometimes I see something so obvious and others just don't see it, and I begin to question their intelligence/ethics. That is all I should say about the way things are going in this country. I will say that minimalism, renewable resources, and living off the grid is going to be necessary. I am hoping we will learn from our mistakes. Radical acceptance is accepting the limits of our human knowledge and control, asking for Help form a higher power and doing everything we can within reason. Wise idea to refocus on connecting with nature- it touches my heart, reminds me that I so want the best for everyone and everything. It puts it all back in perspective. Just my ideas, not telling anyone else what to do. Thanks again.

As an intuitive (INTP) i definitely relate to the big picture conceptual thing. Especially when I talk to high Si or Se users, it’s like they wanna grab onto a particular phrase or word I said instead of listening to the big picture statement I have to say. It can be really awkward cause often I’m not aware of the specific phrase/word I said since I’m more focused on conveying a general “vibe” (conceptual idea). I guess the way we intuitives think is “zoomed out” from what’s really happening, while sensors just wanna stay “zoomed in”. This has caused a lot of frustration and miscommunication for me, for example when doing group projects with a bunch of other sensors.

Lmao you’re hilarious. The subtle jokes are great, I love it

"Where you don't know enough" story of my life (an INFJ)

SO true! My faith has helped me soooo much with my weaknesses, underdeveloped functions, depression, disappointments, and well, getting me out of the prison of my mind. Jesus saves and heals everything ❤ Also, after 2 years in Egypt and living mainly in Canada, while I LOVE when it's snowing...I don't like interacting with it afterwards...I'm slightly traumatized by our very long winters...

Probably why I'm so obsessed with the question of what the heck we're all doing here anyway, and find it weird that not everyone is so bothered by this pretty big mystery ... Got super into spirituality too, but am also finding all the weird synchronicities (and patterns) that have come up as a result of my new 'awakening' leading me to ponder other ideas such as simulated reality theory... Not sure if these things are mutually exclusive though. Who knows. Great video, puts so much into perspective again, thank you!

Thank you! This video really helped to clarify my understanding of introverted intuition.

Thank you FJ for explaining the functions as I have not been exposed to that concept before. Thanks for inviting this INTJ to listen in on your evaluation of our shared functions. And yes, I am a very pattern oriented, and a phenomenal conspiracy theorist. So, I am considered somewhat looney but just wait long enough...I am nearly always right. But the lack of facts will derail me once in awhile. Not good with details, and in general, I don't notice details. But when I am motivated, few people can lock into and focus on details like I do. It takes all my attention. Thank goodness because it became very important, life saving in fact, for most of my career. This was a great video.

Spiritually; yes indeed. My Catholic faith is my bedrock. Perhaps something else would work for you. But yes, find your spirituality. And yes I love the snow. So cold and pure.

Your discussion was succinct and straight forward. I needed that exposition. You did it for me. I now know that my suspicion of INFJ was correct over the INTJ from MBTI test over 50 years ago. Thanks.

You used the theme of my life in your title. This is the third video this morning of yours I have watched. I feel a relief after, thank you. I sure hope you are going to make your major in college/career in psychology. THE WORLD NEEDS THERAPY! It is good for the soul, if the therapist is good(and human). Blessings and Love.

4 years of depresssion about everything without knowing why. that test and your videos helped me more then any therapist did in such a short time. thanks a lot.🥲

YOU ARE MY PLATONIC INFJ LOVE! & BEST RU-vid INFJ FRIEND EVER! 🙌🏽😍🔥🙌🏽

So much wisdom in a young man, thank you for sharing your Self.

Wow. I was just thinking about this thing, and here you are talking about it. I’m having a hard time getting myself, and seeing the big picture of myself. But I have a personal relationship with Jesus, because that’s the only way I can be free. I’m not so good at explaining this, but the reason I can cope with my thoughts and feelings is because I have Jesus in my life. It has really been a source of strength for me. And I must say that what you’re saying about focusing on the here and now is so true. I feel that its going to be very hard for me to do that. But I have done it before, so it’s not entirely impossible. We had snow here too, and I too love the way it looks and feels. It’s just like you said, it’s quiet and beautiful.

I just found your videos. As I read through the comments..it’s so clear that we’re unique. I finally found my people! It only took 41 years! Thank you

This made me laugh. So many times in serious conversations (especially political) when somebody points out an issue, I always think to myself, your pulling me into the middle of a forest fire and saying, "we need to put out this tree"

Is this why I love snow above all things? All my life snow has been magical. I'm 52 and I walk out to snow and I'm 10 again. Always been the odd duck. I'm beginning to understand why. Thank you Sir and thank you for the snow. I'm a hospice nurse and today's probably going to be rough .. Your walk thru the snow put a smile on my face and light in my heart.

Oh man, I love your channel so much. So much gold here, dude.

The part about not watching the news - ugh! Yes! I am an American living in the UK and since 2016 with Brexit and US politics (and all that goes with it) these things have left me in utter turmoil. As an Ni, I can see how catastrophic it could all go and I flip between wanting to fight and take action to feeling clinically depressed and helpless. I want to watch the news and be informed, but I feel like I need to protect my mental health at the same time. I sometimes wish I could be like other personality types and not care so much, but then again, the world needs people like us.

I am so happy I found your channel. So much of my life I have felt like a freaking Martian and now I am really starting to gain an understanding of who I am. Thank you for doing this!

I have used this exact phrase - I can't see the trees for the forest - several times. People usually look at me like I'm insane. I was shocked to see the title of this video. For me, I get so wrapped up in the whole picture that I get panicked and can't just focus on the details, the singular step I can do right now. This leads to paralysis. Thanks for sharing your insights. Glad to know I am not alone.

I'm Catholic and I always find comfort from knowing that God loves me. I love you all guys.

Oh my god.. see I cannot find the words to describe these thoughts.. spirituality has brought many many realizations to me. Being present, exploring my mind, using my mind instead of it using me, being authentic and many many more things. Sharing my thoughts through text is easier than speaking them. More time to articulate and think. So happy i found you! I couldn’t find many intj pages on RU-vid or any social media for that and now look at all of us comig out the wood works

Watching ur vids is like falling in love! Love at 1st sight exists people!

Spot on..I am so big picture when I need to learn it's okay to be in the "not knowing" in certain moments where something on a larger scale is developing.

Love your videos Frank keep them coming. I too have just ended a long term relationship, and am exploring spirituality more than I ever have before in my life. I am finding the time spent researching spirituality is helping me to stop in the forest and sit under a tree and live in the moment. Still thinking about the big picture but feeling every moment I can on a daily basis.

INFJ. LOVE your videos! I can relate so much. Thank you. This forest for trees thing is so real, in more ways than one. In life drawing class I was lost trying to do a landscape drawing that included trees because I couldn't break the overall view of the "forest" (really more of a grove) into manageable pieces that I could represent on page. I am an OK artist, quite good at drawing people and individual subjects, but when I tried to "zoom in" I could only focus on individual leaves and branches and got overwhelmed with thinking "I've got to draw thousands of these things I am never going to do this I can't possibly even start..." and my brain went into meltdown. All internal, of course. From the outside it probably just looked like I was lazy and didn't want to do the assignment.

I just found your channel and watching you is so hipnotizing. You make so much sense of what I see in myself. Thanks for the insight! and why do you never smile? wait, it think it is because you are on serious ,mode. You are being a true INFJ.

The recipe line was so good!! I’m not learning how to just accept life as it comes and be more present. Focusing on being responsible for achieving my personal goals and upholding values regardless of a greater understanding is what I’m trying rn.

I'm currently doing my PhD in architecture and urban design. Typically during projects I will go for the 'big picture' first, then work my way back to justify that concept/pattern. But with a PhD, you have to let the details/literature/precedent govern the direction - not my gut instinct. It was all backwards to what I was used to. It takes so much discipline to switch thinking like this, but I am still working towards that initial concept that was inspired by the Anthropocene, climate change and the effects on coastal communities - the big picture stuff - which lets me see through the day to day obfuscations that the world throws our way. -___- Another way I deal is to take on a persona while dealing with the details. I imagine myself as a 1950's pulp detective solving a crime, my research is the leads that I am looking for. I don't know why that helps, but it does.

Love the recipe line by line analogy. I have quit jobs that had no real purpose that I could discern. In truth I usually cross train as much as possible and have even filled in for my entire department when the flu was going around. All too often, though, I get bored once there's nothing left to learn. The only job I've ever had for more than two years was 3 1/2 years work study at the university library-but it was the freakin' library, so I could always choose to peruse books or journals and usually could do all my work with a walkman. :)

This helps me understand my boyfriend's struggles better. THANK YOU SO MUCH from an INFP

True true video! And one thing I took from this video better than anything was the tree in the forest analogy. Because I never could figure out how I could answer that MBTI question of “Are you a detailed or big picture thinker”. I’d always say both. But now I see that I’m just an organized thought person. Also... I just noticed that I love the snow for the very same reasons. Simple palette and quiet. Easy to experience. Easy to take in. I’m proud of you for pinpointing the WHY in your preferences. I would love to hear MORE of those observations in your videos so I can learn how to observe mine in that way and pinpoint my WHY so I can better communicate what I enjoy and who I am with other people. I sometimes have the worst times trying to explain them.

Yep. I definitely have the introverted intuition thing. A problem for me is understanding too much and feeling caught in the middle of seemingly conflicting ideas. I can sometimes see both as being valid. Also learning new concepts all the time trying to figure out the point of existence. I think I start to understand until I learn something else and then it's back to the drawing board. Thinking myself into a corner like painting yourself into one then looking around like shit, this isn't right either lol.

Wow you were so right about the news thing. I watch even news stories on Snapchat like “unarmed person of colour killed by police” and I would end up crying myself to sleep thinking about how the world is terrible and no one really cares.

"No, no. Tell me what we're making or I'm not cracking one more egg, MOM." 😂😂 I may have said this before.

Snow, cabin and a fire burning. INFJ wishes... Thanks for the video!

I wish I could articulate my thoughts the way you do! I've found regular quick meditations help me develop my extraverted sensing and living in the present. I love being "big-picture" oriented most of the time but definitely not when in a cynical-downward spiral-mood.

You were right about the puzzle. That's how I always separate them- first I grab all edges and connect them, then I organize pieces by how a piece is related to another piece (put all parts of a flower in one pile, etc...) just like how you said it. I'm addicted to jigsaw puzzles since I was little.

Hello F J you bring truth in your words! I had a job wherein the training was at a minimum, in a specialized time-sensitive capacity. The pressure was unbelievable. Management was constantly on my back for quick results. I had to quit because it was making me physically ill. I don't care how hard I tried putting everything together in my mind the outcome was negative. I did not have time to intake all of the big picture on this job. I felt as if I was in a fog blindly trying to fight my way out. And as a perfectionist it was unbearable trying to figure out what to do to meet my goals. Working at the speed of light, putting 110% of what I knew and getting results that were horrible. Quitting was the best thing that happened to me, even though family members thought I was fired.lol Sometimes, one has to do something drastic for self-preservation. Now I can sleep better at night with peace. BTW Thinking of taking meditation classes, for spirituality. I had a great experience in college when a substitute instructor introduced the class to meditation. It was the best mind experience I ever had for clarity, relaxation and peace of mind. Thanks for another one of your spot on analyses on the INFJs.

I awoke and began seeing patterns everywhere, some accurate and meaningful, some the opposite. I saw the patterns of trauma in both my family and my girlfriends.I knew she would leave me when I "awoke" her and she did despite her saying at the time it would never happen. In the end I now realize we were a wounded match and she was keeping me from growing. What I didn't see coming was the narcissistic no contact and flip of a switch abandonment. Now that I've grown enough she could lean on me to grow but she's gone and not coming back. The sad thing is I foresee her ending up in a highly abusive situation and there's nothing I can do to protect her.

This was a clear & comprehensive vid. Patterns, Yes! Obsessed. Thx, Frank!

This is great! So relatable and authentic! INFJs really are apart of a strange breed, and sometimes it is really hard for us to integrate ourselves into other social groups. So glad that I found this channel!

I think that is why i get fear paralysis whenever I try to understand where my life is going 😐 ..

I don't know why I didn't see this post until now...but this describes me exactly. I think the most interesting one you mentioned has to do with a job and not being shown the big picture. Exactly. This is probably why I have hated a lot of my jobs.you do such a God job at describing how we think 😊

This video has made me feel so much more connected and understanding towards myself.

I'm right there with you! ruined so many relationships based on the big picture.

This is the most comprehensive explanation of Ni that I have ever come across.

I’m so happy I’ve chosen not to watch news all together. You ask how being big picture oriented is ruining my life; it’s in any way that you just mentioned already. The world is slowly falling apart because of humanity and I work in preschool, hoping that I can make the slightest difference for even just a few kids that might have ended up depressed in the future. I wish to see the people around me more in detail and I wish to enjoy my relationship, not constantly wondering if I ever chose the right partner. That last part is the one ruining me the most.

INTJ here, and yes, this makes so much sense. I like to sew and crochet. People think I’m crazy because I make all my own patterns, but THIS is why I do it.

I love your videos. I am a classic INFJ. I am older than you and as far as spirituality goes, I MUST SAY (and thus is not a plug for Christianity), but the Bible has GREATLY answered my big picture questions. You want to have an apiphany of the universe and what it entails, read the Bible. It will blow your mind, my friend! It frees INFJ's from their tortured spirit and our wanting ....no...needing to see the big picture. Go for it!

No never ruined. My insight and ability to see the big picture, break it down and problem solve has been my source of income. I did learn that until I had the right audience I didn't tell anybody about my solutions because I told the wrong people in the past and they claimed all my kudos!, Love the snow scene. Thank you.

lol @ the recipe metaphor----so accurate!

...I think 🤔 ahahahaha. Love this. You two years ago and how you look now is fascinating to observe.

My favorite job I ever had was being the Coordinator for a Mentoring and Retention Program for my college. I loved this job. I was consistently helping people with my programs main goal: staying at the college and having no major issues in all aspects of that college. It did frustrate me when I failed though. No matter what, about 17% of the first year kids just couldn't do college, or at least my college, it was quite different from other institutions of learning. Ever since I left college, I've been having trouble finding another job like this. Most jobs don't have a single overall goal (that they can tell you) and the jobs that do, get taken up by either Ne doms or other Ni doms. Honestly, what's frustrating me now, is finding a new job. My last job I had a manager who was asshole. He wasn't even my supervisor, I think that botheres him, because he constantly belittled my job, but then again he belittled everyone. People would come to work happy Monday to Wednesday, then he showed up Thursday through Sun and sucked all of the happiness and joy from people's souls. It was very depressing, and I couldn't deal with it that for more than 6 months.

“And so you run into a tree because you’re not paying attention to the details”... no, not a tree... a sign... on a field trip with your class... in front of said class... I did that when I was nine... I focused so much on the beauty of everything around me that I literally ran into a sign and hit my head... and I’ve almost done it several times after that as well... details can be important... it’s very reassuring to have someone to pull you onto the pavement when you’re about to crash... I think we sometimes need someone to do that... someone who says “yeah, I see your big picture. How about the details? Have you worked out the details in your big picture? You need details to make your picture beautiful”...

Thanks for the subtitles :))

I don't normally comment on videos, but dude thank you, this stuff is gold. You've helped me understand why I grind my gears and get frustrated when I'm told to do specific tasks before being made aware of the big picture.. Cheers for helping me connect two pieces of the proverbial puzzle :)

Cool video! I have found when balancing my feminine and masculine energy I became more balanced and can live in the moment and be aware of everything within and around me. As well I can feel into each part, also the trees and the forest at once. Quite and awakening experience. I appreciate your video. I love snow too!

I am an 8w7 INTJ. I am not ashamed to say that I have cried a couple times in my life thinking I am becoming so robotic analyzing and judging people and that why are people not taking me seriously. It got to a point where I completely withdrew and just cut-off contact from everyone completely except my family since we lived together. However, that withdrawing gave me time for self-reflection and healing and it’s scary how accurate what you said is because I literally decided to analyze myself and think about why I even think think like this in the first place and that’s when I got into MBTI and enneagram. I think it is extremely important for us INxJs to just take a step back and breathe when our brains are trying to suffocate us. Even though we might not seem that way to others, I think these types are some of the most sensitive because we are always thinking about stuff that is probably the least of other people’s concerns. Btw, all your videos are a lot of fun to watch. Keep up the good work! :)

1:48 AS AN INFJ THAT IS HOW I SOLVE PUZZLES LMAO

Wow this is so spot on. Especially at 7:40. I hate not knowing the direction of my life and I feel like everything needs to have a purpose. People always constantly remind me that I can't predict the future or "that's life!" which drives me crazy lol.

Hi INFJ I'm ENFP

The pattern is the pattern.

Okay, so as an INFJ who is struggling in the area of relationships with other people... Can i request you do more videos about focusing in the moment

When I look for a utensil in a drawer, I have to train myself to focus on certain features, like the handle of scissors or the prongs of a fork or I won't even notice what I'm looking for.