People like this make me glad I'm not on social media. I love Hannah, but I, for the life of me, had to stop the video. I can't spare any time for those women to dumb me down with their foolishness. Keep fighting the good fight for those who engage willingly.
Then I waited for the tree to grow and bare fruit and I walked threw my apple orchard barefoot in a white linen dress with eyelet handkerchief in my hair and my hand loomed basket, and picked the apples while the sun shined upon my thin, beautiful, natural makeup touched face. Then I skipped joyfully back to the house. 😒🙄🙄😴 Being a stay at home mom was a necessity for me at one point in my life. And I lasted about 9months before I was like....mmm I think it's time I go back to school so I can get a better job, and back to work. 😂😂 Stay at home moms are built different. 💪 I couldn't do it full-time. Being a working mom is not easy either because it's like having 2 jobs, especially if you're a single parent. But these tradwives are just promoting a lifestyle that is not real or attainable to most women. And it's dangerous when paired with toxic religious doctrine and misogynistic husbands.
I hope you rose to the occasion and put on a full face of glam makeup, dressed up in your favourite ball gown and gloves and spent 2-6 hours to scratch make cough drops.
My 21 year old daughter, who will have her own daughter in September, saw the focaccia video and said “I feel like I’m going to fail as a mom, because that won’t be happening”. I told her, and I’d like all young mothers to know that your job as mom is to love your baby, feed it, and keep it alive. Teach your child to be a good human. That is what you should be doing.
That is absolute non sense!! What makes you a « good mom »? Making focaccia or bonding with your newborn… at 10 days postpartum, your job is to take care of your newborn and yourself while you are recovering from labor… Not having people take care of your newborn while you « perform » in front of a camera. This type of content makes me mad because it is a very distorted view of what motherhood really is or should be…
@@karinecoulombe2560Seems realistic to me. I know many mom's that after giving birth go straight to work or drive hours even when bleeding from their stomachs. All I'm saying is that walking to your kitchen to cook something from scratch and post it online seems pretty reasonable and not that hard to do if your rich. If people feel bad watching her because they aren't rich or have people helping them they should stop. Some people are just a little more mentally sensitive than others.
@@Jane-re1ku mom's shouldn't have to drive to work bleeding hours after giving birth. that is absolutely ridiculous and should NOT be normalised. and any woman who's willing to do that is either not in her right mind or under a lot of unfair economic/work obligations. which is a product of sexism. pregnancy and birth should be accomodated by workplaces. and these women are promoting false advertisement. if we saw the nannies taking care of their children and their cooks making dinner while they prep their cameras, people's reactions would be much different. the implication isn't that they're having fun 'performing housewivery', the implication is that they're the real deal and that if other women were just as fit, friendly and feminine as them they could have the same lifestyle. it's a lie, and that's insidious. of course people need to be aware that most things online aren't real and learn to be cautious/not so easily affected, but that's ankther issue.
@@Jane-re1ku oh stfu u would know only if u had a mom or wife who was a homemakers or u r one otherwise not. It is not at all realistic even if she's rich It's so obvious she's not dojng all that herself and has a whole ass cre behind her
I’m an actual “trad wife” dude…. I never look like a 10 around my own home. I’m a solid 5 on a good day. I’m covered in baby puke, my hair is a mess, we are having leftovers for dinner. I try to do homemade food but sometimes babies don’t permit a whole homemade thing. Easiest meals to make from scratch are soups and roasts. Sometimes I don’t always get to the dishes or the laundry. My husband doesn’t always come home to a neat home and a put together wife. What he does come home to is a loving wife and babies who are fed and adore him! He is the love of my life. I’m not his slave. We are partners who both have extremely important jobs ❤️❤️ I’m here with the babies and he makes money so I can be home with the babies ❤️ Not everyone’s cup of tea but it’s the lifestyle we both wanted and talked about when we were dating!
I think you make an important point in talking about what the ideal marriage looks like to you both before the marriage, kids, etc. Don't rush and do what's right for you and yours. Also, baby puke is a phenomenal hair gel. It's renewable, sustainable, washable, and comes in 25 fun shades. 😂❤
Beautifully said, i’m in the same boat I don’t wear makeup i walk around with a baby on my hip oversized t-shirt on and just taking care of baby the house my hubby and last but not least myself i enjoy it hubby also enjoys the dynamic and you know what people who make assumptions/ give negative opinions are usually the ones who are jealous or just not within our close circle
I actually am a SAHM. I homeschool my kids while also handling a baby. Almost nothing I've seen on tiktok or RU-vid is what actually goes on in my home. 💀 I don't think it's bad to aspire to be that put-together all the time, but it's never going to actually look like that.
My toddler woke up sick and was all shivery so went to the stable, sheared a sheep, spun the wool and knitted my poor baby a jumper. When finished he was 7 years old
I had a sudden urge to end that the way Ricky Gervais would.... And by the time I finished the jumper he was dead. 😂 .............. There's a joke he says about he's decided to now become "woke". He's got so trolled for not being woke so he's given in. He says, take for example the word handicapped... that's no longer acceptable, you should say disabled. So one day he's at the beach, and he's still being woke. A woman runs up to him and says, help please, my handicapped toddler is drowning. He says, whoa whoa whoa, hang on a minute, don't you mean your _Disabled_ toddler? She says, well yeah, same thing. He says, no, they are not the same, you should say disabled. So he turns to look at the sea, toddler.....floating.....dead. And he says to the audience, that's what happens when you waste time being woke. 🤣 Your comment reminded me of that. 😅
Imagine asking your mom for a cough drop while you're sick & then waiting 3-5 business days for your mom to make you a cough drop while you hack your lungs out.
Thank you for posting this. I sent it to my daughter who is heavily influenced by these women - she just had a baby and feels like she isn’t doing enough.
"My toddler wanted corn flakes and I don't keep those in the house, so I made some" *3 hours of mixing and baking later, the toddler throws it all across the room and onto the floor.
Crazy there's no children bothering her, hanging on her, shoving themselves between her and the counter, saying I'm hungry 100 times. Because someone else is caring for them right now. Not her. It's not real.
I feel like Nara has made it known that lucky does his part in the relationship so more than likely he could be watching their kids. I don't view her content as trying to be a tradwife
@@peachcookie6624ha keep telling yourself that. She didn't learn all that shit sarcastically 😂 she's making money, that's why she's doing it. She's clearly the breadwinner in that family yet pretending she's not
You are probably the most intellectually honest, self aware, and introspective creator I've seen and it's SO refreshing. I'm so glad someone is taking on these influencers and calling them on their bull... TY keep it up!
What is extra insane to me is that so many tradwife influencers dress the way to do because of the idealized "50's Housewife" with the implication that if they could did it back then, we should be able to do it now, but... no they didn't! Women did not dress like that to do housework in the 50's! June Cleaver, the poster girl for 50's housewife, was a TV character, not a real person, and she didn't dress like that because that was how women dressed, she dressed like that because she was on TV. Her famous "Pearls and heels" combination was because they wanted to hide a scar she had on her neck that the filming lights drew attention to, and because she needed to stay taller that the actors playing her sons for as long as possible. (apparently, in the early seasons, she wore a lot more flats but gradually switched to heels as the child actors hit growth spurts) So the "Ideal" that these women are presenting has always been fake!
Thank you! My Grannie was a 1950's housewife with 3 kids. She wore a house dress with an apron over it. If unexpected company came over, she threw on a house coat. She wore slippers around the house and would switch to flats or low mules for company. She only wore makeup to leave the house, but she had long hair, so she did put it up every day. She dressed like this up to the end
This! I was thinking the same thing the whole time, do NOT give a cough drop to a toddler! I would have zero problem with those videos if they didn't start with those ridiculous premises. Like my toddlers wanted corn flakes but I don't keep them in the house. Then why are your kids asking for them?? If they're never in the house why do the kids even think that's an option?? It's so clearly made up.
What’s so bizarre is that I’ve been a housewife for 26 years. Raising kids, baking bread, cleaning house, taking care of animals… we don’t have time to video ourselves, and dressing in those frilly outfits? What? 😂😂😂
I agree been a housewife for 17 years and I agree! With a very curious 16 month old , cleaning, and other things to do I don’t even have a min to write this 😂. I have disheveled hair( running around and this muggy weather 😂) and wearing “non traditional frilly “ little house on the prairie attire.
As a stay at home mom who feels guilty for not being able to do more due to health issues, thank you for making this video. I needed the reminder to stop comparing myself to wife influencers.
I love the way you're so real and i never saw you being rude or out of point about someone even when they're exposed liars. I have so much respect for you. Listening to your voice is so calming and peaceful. Truely and deeply, love your channel.❤
They are not doing it even right. The blonde one casually seduces the audience by firmly showing a little bit of chest.. aren't you supposed to be traditional lol? That's not very trad of you. But of course she is doing that-the real face of the traditional women won't sell.
@@Laure__Linebased on the comments on tradwife videos, it really doesn’t sound like it. You’re giving people who follow that type of content seriously way too much credit.
@@DivideThatBy9PleaseThis too. The amount of men who look at this content and yearn for this type of wife, knowing full well that this is extremely unrealistic.
Im an emergency medicine physician (im a woman) and my first thought looking at the cough drops is thats a choking hazard for toddlers and children below 7 years old. They can choke even if its a gummy..especially toddlers and children below 5 years old. We prescribe cough syrups for cough and throat sprays for sorethroat in my country (Malaysia). We don't practise these "drops" form of medications for children.
I am a 23 year old SAHM and seeing tradwives definately caused me to downspiral mentally cause all of a sudden i thought i wasnt doing enough for my partner or my kids or i needed to look better, etc. I cant believe i fell into it so hard but im finally feeling better and im glad i can see now how ~not real~ it is 🙃.
Today my toddler said he wants to be an astronaut but I don't usually keep spaceships around the house so I immediately got my aerospace engeneering degree and using all this parts I had in my garage laying around for no reason I built him this amazing spaceship. And I didn't even dirty my hands. What do you mean you BUY cereal from the store???
I know you're joking, but Stockton Rush of OceanGate told his parents he was interested in space and they literally paid for an astronaut to talk to him about his career aspirations and give him advice.
@@elizabethschreiter1127 That makes a lot more sense than making corn flakes by hand. Although a visit to a planetarium would probably have been sufficient for most of us.
Wrapping up this series. Wow! 1. You have very level-headed and fair takes on everything. You never resort to anger or hate to call out these influencers. 2. This should be required watching for students, teachers, and parents. 3. I really appreciated your perspective about how you can enjoy some influencer content even though you know it’s fake. I think that can be harmless UNTIL you’re ordering the products they’re advertising. I’m sure I’ll have more thoughts but I just wanted to say thank you for making this series! It was so refreshing!
kind of disagree with some of these comments. nara smith has said she struggles with eczema and that she makes most of her food from scratch which is where her videos started taking off. then, i think she started to make “satire” commentary about how she makes them cornflakes or cheetos from scratch. do i think it is a damaging influence for other moms to see this and compare themselves to them? yes, especially in this economy, it is IMPOSSIBLE to live with two kids if both parents arent working (and dont even get me started on single parents). i do think naras content is damaging in the way that she portrays that she makes all of her food from scratch. i just think trad wife culture itself is horrendous so.
@@annawhite7998Then they shouldn’t watch her. If her content is damaging to some and if they can’t help but to compare themselves to her then they should learn to swipe away. No one is forcing you to watch anything. She is merely an entertainer/content creator, that’s her job. She is not trying to be realistic or telling women how to live their life or to make anything from scratch, she is just showing what she loves to do with HER life and you have the freedom to look away. She has said many times that cooking is her love language and she just wants to share that. These women also have the choice to follow creators that are more realistic to them and aren’t millionaire models.
@@wandooayabam1406 thats not what im saying? trad wife content is pushing the narrative that woman need to do 10000 things at once to be considered attractive or “wife-material”. and this is coming after we just made it out of the trenches. i think nara is a good person but trad wife content in particular is bad. and as a content creator, her job is to produce content that actually has a meaning/purpose. like i said, she started with normal content until she gained traction for making stuff from scratch. so, she continued to do that. i think her videos are just normal cooking videos with a satire commentary with it. AND, i didnt say anything about nara doing any of that. i said trad wife content makes people want to be able to do that
As a chef...I cook about 6 to 7 dinners a week. I can say for sure...I have ruined about three to four T shirts a week. I DO not cook in an evening gown...and if I am wearing something nice, I will use an apron... This is next level SCAM.
Your TODDLER asked you for a cereal you don’t keep in the house? Where would they have gotten the notion to ask you for something you’ve never given them? 🤣
Except it insults cosplayers. We know reality and we are not trying to tell the internet we ARE the character we wear the costume of. These women are equally in costume but pretending otherwise. The dishonesty they display in this is not found in cosplay. I'd say it's more that they are "playing house" like little kids, but that probably would insult the kids....
I'm pretty sure most people are very aware that they are actors. This is just entertainment. Then again, there are still people that think TV is real, but those are the exception. Feeling bad that your life isn't like that is no different then wishing you were Ironman. You outgrow it.
Same! For example I don't understand why people get worked up for the first woman making those cough drops when it's obviously a fabricated story around those drops. Isn't it obvious that no one would do what she did in real life or at least not in these circumstances? Also if I'm not wrong she's not calling herself a trad wife. She just loves cooking and tries her best to sell her videos by giving everything a background story. I think it's a lot of jealousy and no media competence. I think a lot of people only see something they kind of envy and lose the ability to think critically.
Social media has made people lose their minds. "I saw it online, it must be true!" Of course that handsome soldier is in love with me, let me send him some gift cards. "He must be real, I saw his picture!"
@@B.H.56 Have you personally seen this behavior? Or just believe it because you hear people complain about it on social media. I only ask because while I've heard this many times, I have never actually met anyone that behaves that way.
@msSweeTae you're joking right? People don't dislike it because they're jealous, they dislike it because it's disingenuous and preys on the ignorant. Her comment sections are proof that people absolutely believe it. 12:56
When my kids are sick I also put on a gown, full face of make up, and do my hair. I also spend all the time away from them filming a video making them a choking hazard.
feeding them anything like that, gummies, cough drops, and even uncut grapes are choking hazards. She honestly sounded like the one who needed the cough drops, judging by her voice.
@@pettykittyfamWrong. She said the honey reached its crack stage. That’s how you test hard candies to make sure they’re ready to pour. In order to make gummy candy, she would have to have used gelatin - which she did not.
Not to mention, taking the elderberry syrup on its own would be way better for you if it is something you had on hand. Why bother making the cough drop for anyone in the family who is sick?
This is so on point! Thank you Hannah, for making this video. BS influencers like that ballerina farm woman pretending to be a sahm when she's in fact a shrewd businesswoman who sells her kids to the internet for views! The hypocrisy is appalling.
And without an apron. I'm shivering thinking about it. Imagine the cleaning up process. At least kimono mom, although dolled up still wearing an apron.
What these influencers don’t show you is the amount of support they have behind the scenes. They have assistants, house cleaners, groundskeepers, and even NIGHT NURSES. Kids or not, No one can do it all at once every single day.
Really well said. I'm a mom of young adults, but, can remember being home, on maternity leave, thinking everyone was doing everything better than me. Looking back, and watching your video reminded me of that time and made me ache for those new mums today watching this content and comparing themselves. Important video, no hate to these content creators, but yeah, this reminder is needed. It is their job.
The way you speak is so eloquent, consice, kind, and informative. You are amazing! Thank you for this video. You explained things that I didn't think about, and I really loved how it was simple yet well-defined.
Bless you Hannah for wanting to help the lost.. These people want to believe the lies and illusions.. Nara and all these other influencers are getting PAID handsomely from their followers inability to think. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Now we can honestly say “There’s a sucker born every second.” Great video.. first time viewer.
I'm a trad wife. I make as much stuff from scratch as I can. We rarely eat processed food. I grow my own garden. I also put freezer meals away and usually wear an old t-shirt, my hair is in a simple ponytail and no makeup. I have a meltdown at least once a week because it is too much work. If I made those cough drops, I would make a huge batch and store them. This lifestyle is not portrayed realistically. The reason I am a "trad wife" is because I have sensory processing disorder and likely autism and cannot handle the sensory overload or constant socializing of conventional workplaces.
Right? My mom used to just take like 5 minutes to make a cup of tea with a bunch of lemon and honey in it. But of course, you can't really link a bunch of obscure ingredients and supplies for that to make money off of. And if we had bad chest congestion, she'd put a bit of bourbon in it. It tasted awful but it would make you sleep and you always felt a lot better when you woke up. Helped loosen the phlegm in the chest.
@@mommy2libras I was going to say the same thing. Just make some tea with honey and lemon. And, they won't even choke on it, lol. As long as they are over a year of course. You aren't supposed to give children under a year honey.
Getting dolled up and cooking that complex of a meal 10 days postpartum is absolutely psychotic and the fact ppl think it’s aesthetic or should be standard is concerning.
Idk... I know a few women who give birth and the next day or so took a walk or re-organized the house to "get the circulation going". They genuinely terrify me....
(For context, though, I LOVE cooking and have been doing it for decades, it's very second nature for me. Even so, the level of spaced-out exhaustion and pain you can get postpartum makes even "easy" things harder)
I really love how you make sure to point out that you don't judge these influencers' chosen lifestyles and that you say they can still be inspirational and that they do put a lot of effort into their content. Your video is so carefully put together, showing that you truly do respect the hard work of these women, yet at the same time disaggree with their way of presenting it as if the content created was everything there is to it. A huge thanks for this video!
Excellent video. Hope we can start putting our phones away and gradually dismantle this crazy influencer culture that just makes us miserable. Time is the only currency we will never get back so let's try and spend it on other more important things. Keep up the great work!
50s housewives usually gave their small children so morphine or something to knock them out all day so they could housework without having to stop to take care of them,
Honestly I think that's the point of these social media agendas... not to go all conspiracy theory but it's giving "destruction of healthy relationships" by setting this up as somehow being how you "should" live your life and if you're not up to this standard then somehow your inadequate and your spouse begins to resent you for it. It's simply not realistic 😅
I am an actual Stay home wife and mom and these “ influencers” are just acting. It’s so ridiculous what people will watch. Makes you wonder who’s taking care of their kids if they’re spending hours doing stupid stuff like make gum. Don’t waste your time because this isn’t real life.
I'm over 70. I used to see commercials when I was younger. Wife's in fancy house dresses and heels, running a sweeper or cooking a meal from scratch. As I stood there, with my toddler in a playpen, in Jean's and t shirt, waiting for nap time to go hang clothes outside. LOL.
Any normal mom who has sick kids will understand that it's fake. When you have a sick kid, you don't think of doing your mom or taking a video of yourself. She is a scam yet people believe she is a real trad-wife
Thank you sooo much for this video! My baby is 10 months now and I had postpartum depression because I thought my life would be like that, it took me till now to realize why motherhood wasn’t that good…poor new moms who think their lives would be as perfect as it.
If you don't have time short version: be kinder to yourself and loved ones people are so conditioned to faking less work, rather than accepting the work as natural, and saying the joy comes from that, not a become super parent quick trick. All the work kind of feels like it was worth it, and really the only thing ya wish for knowing they're now whole doctors and lawyers truly is more time. Long version: Yeah the sleepless nights and sometimes babies getting colic is no joke. I think that's actually what broke my cousin and his wife. Damn kids got me with the doe eyes and doing a whole presentation thingy on paper like mine, but as best as they could. Then thanks to being blessed with wonderful parents my self expectations of good parenting kicked in. It's honestly easier I think having an understanding of the work involved in the phrase "don't lie to your kids, should never need to do that." There is no way you can fake true genuine care and attention so it's just mandatory. Man I see all these clowns online arguing about what a real man does and oh my God did you know I actually had four whole kids for a solid two and a half years. Due to unfortunate situation and the ole if you have the resources and got kids not only is it a moral obligation, how do you teach the value of people over money, if you decide to leave two kids to the whims of the foster care system, when all it takes out of you is a bit of effort. I'm not sure what prescription of man is being taught of online but I'm so much more concerned with being able to tell my maker that I gave my best the whole time to live up to my ideal of man that I hold myself up to. Not sure all these kids and their arguments of insults based on raising others kids work like they think they do. They seem to not understand that the relationship you build with the child needs to be one that is separate to the one with the mother, in actions, acts and basically everything. This is usual instinctual honestly but these dudes online moving like odd androids. Arguing on the most asinine irrelevant nonsense unwilling to just literally go attempt communicating respectfully with any girl. Yeah I changed the course of my 20s life for sure but being at 33 and knowing that my nephew in law school, my niece got into medical school, and just got her white coat, so the change of course feels like the route that was best regardless. I can't even equate the thought of trading for a life of meaningless sex that these dudes think I missed out on. There is never anything close to perfection, perfection is in the journey to the beatific vision, or construct of heaven in the soul of man. The joy is not found, it is created between you and your loved ones, over this joint journey taken through time and space, building bits of order against the chaos that is reality. To strive, seek, and never yield, was originally about this, as the patriarch you are not piloting a ship, you are guiding the essence of purpose, which is why you must strive and seek as well. A man cannot speak love into existence, he must show love, since to love is to hold purpose and make sure it never wavers. This is super heavy stuff for a young man, not sure how they expect to harness that kind of gravitas, it was only possible for three men of that age in all history. Alexander the Great, Mehmet II and Genghis Khan. I'm unsure of the surety I hold even today withstanding in the face of that kind of goal and expectation.
Something that annoys me about Ballerina farm is they promote "local farming" yet won't say where all the overpriced meat they ship around the country comes from (it's not all from their farm they do not have the capacity for that)
Her toddler woke up coughing and the first thing to do is to put on a dress , put on some make up , do a nice hairstyle than make a cough sirup from scratch. That is total BS.
I was having a giggle at that too. First she spends 2 hours putting on an evening gown, full face make up and hair and then proceeds to spend make cough drops - not suitable for toddler - from the scratch. All the while the patient little one is sitting hands folded over knees on the white on white sofa. When my toddlers woke up with a cough first thing I did was mutter some curse words because I knew my next weeks sleep was ruined.
@@Dominique20 to be fair, making yogurt from scratch is a process that you start about 24 hours before you actually WANT the yogurt, it doesn't just get whipped up. (It's also pretty easy if you have an InstantPot. I go through phases when I do it, but currently I am in my 'cannot be bothered' phase.)
Great Video! These influencers are truly horrifying. It pisses me off that they present a facade of superiority, damaging the spirit of ‘normal’ Moms getting by each day in this crazy world. Hannah you are a smart woman & right on point!
What’s also super meta is that the tradwife influencers while promoting a stay-at-home lifestyle (where the woman prioritizes her children and family) are actually being entrepreneurs and devoting all their time to their business lol
I'm definitely not jealous of these women. Who wants to spend all day making absolutely every morsel of food consumed in your home by scratch?? Not only do I not want to do that, I also don't want to spend hours a day pretending that I live that way.
Some of these women are probelmatic but how is it fake from Nara? You guys clearly dont watch Nara's content. She never touts herself as a normak SAHM or a tradwife. She loves to cook and she has verbalized multiple times that she loves it, it is not expected of her, and her husband helps with cleaning and other things. Clearly they have money and help, her videos are literally about her passion of cooking.
I love the way you explain what you mean and qualify your statements. You bring up topics in a way that points out the problematic parts without completely bashing the other creator or devaluing them. You just explain how it could be damaging if taken as anything other than entertainment.
Thank you for this video. Lately I have been feeling so “less than” and I noticed it’s because I’m watching a lot of these influencers. Thank you so much for putting this out.
If you're feeling this way over something simple you need to get off social media for your best interest. It's a simple thing but a big thing to you meaning you're mentally sensitive( like most people under the comment section of this video). It's a realistic lifestyle for them because they have time and rich husbands. It's unrealistic to you because you don't have time and aren't rich. There is nothing wrong with that but you need to stop comparing yourself and making yourself feel bad all on your own. It has nothing to do with them but all on you because of your confidence. You think with your feelings instead of logically which makes your life a little more difficult. But then again your not the only one which is why I'm saying you need to either stop watching social media or stop comparing yourself in a negative way.
What I hate about it are the men that see this and expect their wives to be exactly like this. Men like my ex-husband. When I became a stay at home mom he expected perfection. He would compare me to women like this, women with nannies, and maids and expected the same. That's not reality. I am so glad I got out of that marriage and now have a husband who truly gets it and is grateful and wonderful about all I do.
I got divorced before having children because my husband expected perfection despite me working over double the hours he did. He called me lazy, and then demanded we have children. I got out so fast after that. There was no way he was going to help me, and there's no way I'm going to subject myself or my future children to that kind of behavior. So glad you got out and found a real man who appreciates and values you
I totally understand you! When I was in maternity leave, my husband began to behave delusionally as he was the only provider of the house, and I was just "the stay at home mom". He even started to make important decisions without consulting me... Well, he's now an ex-husband...
Your ex is a loser and good for you getting out and getting your life. Not for nothing but if these men want perfection from their wives then SURELY they can provide the nannies, big bright state-of-the-art appliances & kitchens and luxury beauty budget, easy breezy, right? Oh wait.
I just found you and I love your content! Is crazy how influencers make us believe that life is that simple, specially when you are a mom taking care of your kids 24/7. Greetings from Mexico.
I’m so glad somebody finally said it in a healthy way. There is no hate just a reminder to everyone that they should not compare themselves to a fantasy.
As someone who was raised very Christian and conservative (no longer), I find it so funny that the last lady is preaching modesty while simultaneously saying to put on makeup all the time even when going to the gym. Makeup, biblically speaking, is the fundamental opposite of modesty in every way
Lol the "science bad" trend is both stupid and extremely problematic. I use home remedies for many minor illnesses or discomfort, but I still take all my prescriptions when I need them. My home remedies usually involve honey, teas, soup, and Vicks -- all of this I learned from my (boomer) mom as a kid. These are all very common household remedies around the world -- they are nothing special and usually cost a few bucks at the grocery store. It isn't glamorous like this person pretends they are.
It's complicated cause I want you call a traditional life. I tell my husband died anyway and I did a lot of what they're doing, but I had a time obviously and in my j's. I didn't do it in A. Full face makeup
If my toddler woke up sick, I would be cuddling with a sick toddler, not making cough drops from scratch while my toddler suffers in another room for hours.
This was my thought too. Like he’s suffering so you what, just left him to himself and told him to stay out of the camera shot? More likely, his nanny was taking good care of him while mom made the content.
I think we have to remind ourselves that this is a fabricated story to sell her video better. It wouldn't get that much engagement if she would just upload a video about mking those drops. And that's why I think it's wasted energy to get worked up over something that's just a nice story like things you see in the TV.
My toddler woke up hungry this morning so I baked some bread, milked my cows, and since we didn’t have any veggies to be healthy, I planted some carrots and they’re gonna be ready to eat in a few hours! It’s gonna be a delicious breakfast.
I am a fulltime housewife. If my kids cough or get sick and I have lemon and ginger, I just make drinks and ask my kids to drink. I have no time to make lemon candy.
Right. I'm like lemon, ginger, elderberry,. I have right now in the kitchen. even arrowroot powder is not that crazy to have either. Those are things real housewives get for their families. It's the cough drop molds that's silly and how perfect she looks. I don't think it's all a sham. Some is realistic and some is staged of course to perfection. I think we need to have a balanced view of it
Even the best men are trash. As a 41/f single mother... you need a degree and career to protect yourself. I didn't and I regret it. I'm now a student and trying to get to my career late in life.
Brilliant. Your analysis goes deep and reveals a lot about our culture. I came here for entertainment and I got much more. I work at media but I've never before stopped to think about the reality and meaning of the influencer's work. Than kou Hannah!
The difference is that if a tradwife gets a divorce, she is still a millionaire. But if a real house wife get a divorce, she will find herself broke, jobless, with no recent working experience, with lots of debts and expenses and with children to take care of. So, with 50% of marriages ending in a divorce, the fantasy ends there...
My gosh that was dark. Also it’s not 50% of marriages… that stat is a few decades old and people just keep repeating it without actually knowing. It’s less and if religious it’s much less. Some reality thats positive for all the married people reading your comment 😬
If an already wealthy tradwife gets a divorce she is still a millionaire. There are older tradwives who are now divorced coming forward on social media to give the truth. Most tradwives are not independently wealthy and when the marriage ends, they end up with nothing.
it's still pretty close if I consider all of the weddings Ive gone to and who is still married....I would also venture to say that a decent percentage of people in a marriage arent happy either. Im 50 so Ive seen a lot of relationships at this point in my life
It's a dark thought, but honest and needs to be prepared for - 100% of relationships end in a break up or death. Ignoring thus is doing the family disservice.
My toddler woke up sick this morning and, he puked on the sofa then the dog tried to eat it and while I was running to help my baby I kicked the table and broke my toe. The rest of the mornin I was cleaning up vomit and obsessively taking temperature and worrying and limping. That is the reality, I know I lived that life. Nobody is making homemade medicene while looking beautiful with sick kids
And two days later Mom is sick herself with killer-toddler germs and puking all over the place while still having 100% of her responsibilitys and a toddler who is well and active again... but I guess one could do that in a fancy gown, why not 😅😅😅
That's a whole different kind of content... real life! I can relate to all of it, I hope the toddler is feeling better and I'm so sorry about your toe.
People, please please please learn this once and for all: the BEST way to protest against these phonies is to STOP watching their content. Don’t give them the views, PERIOD.
The old adage, “Don’t feed the trolls,” comes to mind. In a way these tradwives are trolling us all, pretending to be something nobody in the real world can be.
I straight-up REFUSE to watch tradwife content. It is so unrealistic and it is detrimental to the younger generation of women to portray this tradwife lifestyle, because it makes you feel bad when you can't achieve what they are portraying as gracefully as they are portraying. Reminds me of old 50s & 60s commercial advertisements, especially home appliances. You know, where the tradwife is dressed up like that Estee Williams meeting her husband at the door with slippers and a cocktail, then having the dinner table set and dinner served within moments of the husband walking thru the door. They're fakers and I don't like it. I don't like the ideology behind it. It influences ppl like that football player to make speeches discouraging women from pursuing anything other than a homemaker lifestyle. Which is fine for some, but there are a lot of ppl out there that have absolutely no business having children. As a pioneer of the opposition of tradwife ideology, I have been thru it. I still go thru it. I'm still made to feel bad because I didn't breed. Recently, my very own father said to me, "so my line ends with you." Which was a direct comment to me stating that No, I was not going to pursue fertility treatments to have a child because I'm beyond the "breeding" years for a human woman, and my childless husband is fine with that. I could really go on about how I married pretty much out of HS, how I was almost forced into having children by my 1st husband thru sabotage, etc, but it would be a novel. Just know that I've been thru it, and I totally disagree with the archaic ideological traditions that are being forced upon us, women, today. Personally, I will fight with tooth & nail to prevent us from every reverting back to that dead-end lifestyle for women.
Thank you for showing the truth. And I LOVE your cat interrupting you in the background, makes your video that much more real! So happy that you decided to leave his voice in eventually (don't edit too much, you risk becoming unbelievable, like the influencers :-) )
Thank you so much for your video and your honest thoughts. You are so on point! I’m thankful I wasn’t exposed to all of this when I first became a mother 9 years ago… it would have crushed me. We already have such high standards for ourselves, we don’t need to be made to feel less “inadequate” by normalizing this. Those influencers set very unrealistic standards that would make us miss out on all of the beautiful messy reality of being a mom if we tried to be like them and compare ourselves to what they are displaying on social media.
As a full time house wife I feel absolutely insulted by these fake house wives trying to convince the masses that being a house wife is a breeze when it’s blood and sweat everyday to make sure that everything is clean and in order.
Oh it is. I am not even a housewife. I don't even have kids. I don't even work I am on SSI! But it's unbelievable how difficult it is to keep everything in order all the time. Someone at church years ago said " If you see a spotless home with kids in it..suspect child abuse". And this was a statement by a SAHM. I do see spotless homes that are not a lot of work but in those cases the homes are only used to sleep and watch TV in and the person is working all the time. In cases where the home is LIVED in...projects, cooking, art and crafts...etc. Nah..it's going to be a wreak.
I don't have children but I have a mother and believe me, most people know, and most real life people would laugh about this kind of content/believing this could be real for anyone.
Kids are messy, cooking & baking is messy, gardening is messy...and yet these trad wives are always perfectly clean not a single stain on their clothes
Prediction: one day, we'll get a tell-all memoir from the nanny and/or housekeeper of one of these trad wives, all about what was going on behind the scenes and what it was like to be the person ACTUALLY taking care of the house and kids.
