INFP Emotions | Why INFPs Don't Share Their Emotions 

Yup. Maybe I should’ve hit that point harder.

Yes, this

I agree.

Oh, this makes a lot of sense😯 Not an INFP (I'm an ENFJ) but I'm trying to understand my INFP friend better. I was worried that he didn't like me 'cause he doesn't share anything when we talk about personal things like our childhoods; but, I have hope now that this is just normal and I just have to give him time

I agree. I am one.

Very true, my fellow INFP

Even if you don't trust them or feel that they'll understand you, you can still take care of yourself and use the excess joy and love to help others :) Not easy, but it's a nice goal imo

Yes true mitth

Yup especially when you’re raised by abusive parenting styles and or people with narcissistic personality...not fun.

When we get criticized by one person of the family we say to another member of the family our sadness due to it. But in another scenario this family member joins the previous one and criticises us then we feel y the hell did we even bother to share our emotions with that person 😒 because in the end every one is going to judge us and criticize us for not being like them.

Oh my gosh yes! I have said this to my husband many a time.

And, if those feelings "aren't real", why are they never wrong?!

Hahaha that is why I am always misunderstood. The only person who can understand me this way was my INFJ friend.

This! Basically the, "*five minutes later,* I should have said this"-syndrome, but taken way into the extreme.

Takes awhile to get to the T, yeah. :) And by the time you do the context has changed and it's probably not that relevant. But F is rational and there is order to it.

Totally on spot!! Have been going through this as long as I can remember I think.

Yeah, especially in the workplace and dire moment decision, it sucks fml

Are you in my head? This is so freaky. I've never known anyone like me and felt understood. The comment section on these videos is amazing!!!

Some things just outright make my stomach hurt. I later learned to trust that feeling and get the hell away from people and things that make me LITERALLY sick

:D Work on trusting your kinesthetic instincts more - I'm still working on it myself, but it's fun!

@@GeekPsychology Will definitely try to work on it and thank you so much for sharing this information with us. I have learned so much from your channel.

This is so freaking scary , I mean I always say to my therapist that I feel a black , hot and heavy smoky energy filling my stomach , chest and throat even after having a 2 years of therapy , and what I knew that antidepressant make you numb so I shut down my emotions .

@@alaamahmoud8066 I feel the same and a lot of times I don't even know the reason.

Few and far between for me as well

It took me a year to cry in regards to a death that was very significant to me, when I was 16. However, now, I get teary-eyed at the drop of the nostalgic theme music to Hillstreet Blues, and yes, associated with a timestamp where the memories become filled in and vivid.

When I am safe I some time intentionally make my self cry with a good movie or even some music that touches me. I find that it helps me not need to cry during “unopportune” times.

Same. I’m not over emotional and definitely hold things in. Find it hard to express feelings and thoughts

@@carlac8228 nostalgic things make me cry instantly lol

Rip to your mom.. and condolences to your family.. I wish that you’re taking care of yourself!

I'm infp too and I relate to this. I felt like I said too much to my friend who I don't even know that well, because he was encouraging me to open up to him without any judgement.

Lol. Yep. Too true.

Yes I runinating on the things I say to ppl and if they are mad at me for not agreeing with them.😢

Oh that exacty happens to me😭

Every word nailed. You couldn’t have possibly said that better. I feel like that is the social anxiety speaking, but it’s also part of our nature to overthink past events/interactions. Wish I could confirm though. I’m currently researching into my own personality type deeply.

lol thanks

Find other NF types like INFP, INFJ, or ENFJ or ENFP or balanced NT or ST types. :)

@@saranox7319 thanks

same here, I tried to share my feelings with my family and friends but none of them actually understood me. my parents got mad at me, my friends called me crybaby and said that I was being too sensitive over the smallest things. but two years ago when I first went to high school, I met a girl who was just like me. I asked for her mbti and it was at that time I realized we were both an infp. I was like so that's why she understood me very well and never criticized me or talked bad to me. our personalities are literally the same, it's like we're soulmates. and now we still continue our friendship. whenever I feel bad and I want to talk about my feelings or cry about it I always talk to her. it's the same for her too, I listen to her all the time and she listens to me. even tho the things we do or say may sound weird to other people I never think that she would call me weird because she has these "weird" thoughts too. so, it would be the best for you if you became friends with an enfp, infp or enfj. I think they are the best ones to befriend with us infps. have a good day 💓

​@@saranox7319... NTs are the worst at understanding this ..they play the game of "using logic " .. !.. I'm very logical , the problem is always the same :" I understand them , I read them .. but they do not even try to understand me .

Aw same 🩹

"You can make MANY mistakes at this stage; actions that'll haunt an INFP for their whole lives. And thats a truth." Anit that the truth and most people will never know because we tend to carry it ourselves and because we feel no one would understand our process. We carry heavy burdens our wisdom doesn't come easily it comes through alot og trial and error, and sacrifice at times. If we can sometimes give good advice or propel others to be more who they are its because we already lived the storm within ourselves and analyzed the depth of our knowing and experiences, its not cheap yet we tend to be disregarded or underappreciated, because often times what we have to offer isn't necessarily always physical but spiritual and or psychological, that goes deep into someones soul or it can be triggering. LOL Triggers, triggers triggers. But an older INFP has probably become comfortable with their shadow and triggers through in-depth analysis of self to a degree many others haven't and that can get us into alot pain and trouble when it crosses boundaries we don't even know we are crossing because to us its normal.

I feel you! I'm a virgo and INFP, too 🙃

I relate to both of those points very strongly. Expressing them is way disproportionate to what's going in inside.

lThankyou so much for expressing these things. This is a tough learning journey and we will pass through and arrive at beautiful feeling places, In the meantime, I think we all need to look after ourselves, see and feel our own protection and acknowledge our strength before moving on.

That's very kind of you to say! Link your comic - I'm looking for some artists...

That’s cool, I’m here because my daughter is an INFP. What type are you? I’m INFJ. My mother is ENTJ. You’re talking about religion and my INFP daughter is actually just gearing up to deep dive right into all that. She told me just this morning that she intends to read several versions of the bible to compare and contrast. She also listens to audiobooks all day at work. Lately she’s been big into Jung. She also knows brain functions and anatomy in a somewhat intense sort of way, lol! She even knows how it grows and develops. I’ve learned over the years, that this seems to be a VERY common thing with these super interesting people😂🧠

Thanks for your comment! I came out as INTJ but I'm still only 16. Reading the Bible is great because it is God's Word to us. Personality is indeed neat. Have a good day :)

Pearl Loves Jesus - I can’t even believe I forgot about my dad!!!😂 HE is also an INFP! So, like you, I also have an INFP parent. I’m glad you have such an intense passion for your spiritual beliefs. Religion is such an amazing source of wisdom and comfort as well as a beautiful tool for spiritual growth, expansion and understanding empathy.

Yeah, I can kind of predict (calculate a future) based from the possibility of happening events lol well, I did had a strong unexplainable premonitions twice lol I had a glance (not déjà vu) into the future twice years ago, not sure how, or why it happened :| and some weird dreams with messages (this one are probably just dreams, or not... Idk XD)

This was breathtaking and profound… thank you so much for conceptualizing & putting into concise words the process i embody in every social interaction … I’ve never felt more empathized with by another soul in my life

Thanks :) Happy it helped.

I think is because they can be at the same situation like you because it can happend to many people example feelers so u can relate with stranger because it can be a similar situation and your family is more grown up with the old system and this is what they have learned and they never question themself so they think is the right way to approach you.I hope this makes sense

Don't bonk them over the head trying to make them understand you just because you're related. Being understood shouldn't be your end goal, living a happy life is. And if they're not onboard, just let them be. Let them stand back and watch you glitter.

@@fidellerosa Yes, but Being understood would make things go a lot smoother. Growing up, I have always felt like an outcast, and in my family, it made things difficult. It was almost always My feelings, values and beliefs vs theirs. It lead to a lot of anger, resentment and created a lot of resistance between us, hell, my grandfather and I once ended up getting into a fist fight in the middle of church. And, regardless of how much I was surrounded by people that cared about me, I Still felt Alone. It was Frustrating. And whenever I would muster up the courage to talk to them about it, it would usually get shot down/belittled or it just didn't make sense to them and my feelings would basically just be seen as irrelevant and got told to toughen up or get over it. I'm not saying that being understood is the end goal, of Course I want to live a happy life. I would just really appreciate it if they did. We're doing a lot better, now and we've reached a state of... balanced happiness with each other, if that makes sense, but it took a lot, and I mean a Lot, of fighting, knock-down drag outs, arguing, and a ton of other stuff to get there, when a lot of it honestly could've been avoided. A quote I got from another infp channel: "So you've got the infp over here and you've got the external world and the external world has structures and codes, social norms, collective agreements and more often than not, the infp is feeling like we don't fit with those pre-existing external structures. Although, a little more accurately, we could say that, as infps, because we're referencing Ourself for the truth, we feel like those external structures don't fit Us." Truer words have never spoken.

ah i am so sorry. i forgot that we INFPs are idealists, especially when it come to relationships. glad you've reached some sort of peace and acceptance.

Yah especially when the answer with, "everyone experiences that, though" well, i know but how do i solve it? i'm not saying im the only one in this goddamn world who has that problem, i just feel like others' solution doesn't work on me

You're welcome, friend :)

@Ana Bunnies lol not a lot of writing at all..actually looked quite short 😜 but ty🙏 honestly I don’t think you’re unhealthy and I don’t think I’m unhealthy compared with those I’ve been around. If anything I assume to be mentally healthier than what I understand is toxic or unhealthy. If anything I stopped writing cause I would write in a journal and people would find it and read it..and so I stopped journaling and I started writing songs and would draw. People stole those too and my bf has a brother that posted one of my songs i was free styling and and croming up with right in front of them and he literally copied every word and rhythm and he was getting fans off my own pain and stories....and at the time my bf sided with him but eventually realized he was really wrong for it. And I think he stole my drawings too cause I would make these realistic animal portraits in pencil and there was this tiger I was making and I was almost done..actually was gonna sell it but just disappeared from the room after we came back from the store. And when I was bedridden I ended up losing the ability to use my hands effectively so even if I wanted to write or draw or make music I literally couldn’t. I mean on top of the psychological stuff I mean would cause anyone to fall into a deep depression. Let alone a pessimistic one. But I took the personality test again and answered it how I think now applies to me and I ended up getting enfp. Apparently this type is more similar than the infj..I thought it was confusing cause I usually would get the infp/j ..but seriously since I’ve been working on how to deal with the negativity I really don’t think I’m as introverted as I thought I was. But I know I grew comfortable with the lifestyle cause I had to..kinda had no choice. But I do get turbulent in every test I take. I assume it’s just me completely lacking self confidence when it comes to me but I know I don’t shy away from protecting anyone else. If anything I’m usually the only one brave enough to get in someone’s face or come to someone’s aid and putting myself between the aggressor and the victims. My bf has had to hold me back cause sometimes I don’t see the real impending dangers or that I can’t help the situation at all and that only makes me try to fight it even more. Like he held me back cause we were in downtown, nothing but bad people there. Saw a guy unconscious on the tracks bleeding from his head. These 2 teenagers or young adults about my age at the time were on top of him with their phones out laughing at him. I didn’t think I just reacted and started running and scream at them to leave him alone. An old man unconscious.. my bf held me back while I was fighting back tears and screaming at them to stop and to get someone to help him. My bf told me there are dangerous crack heads and gangs out here and he was trying to protect me cause he made a point that he saw the man on the ground was being erratic earlier that day and trying to fight with people. But to me I don’t care he’s dying and no one is doing anything. Another time was at church. Was 5/6/maybe 8 but there was this girl with that glass bone disease. So she had the whole body cast get up and crutches that wrapped around her arms. And these kids would hit her and push her to the ground. And I would sock these kids in the nose and make them bleed and scratch and chock them out or throw them again the wall and floor or throw chairs at them cause they wouldn’t stop and they were basically being allowed to practically kill her cause the teacher wouldn’t do anything but laugh and walk by. If she fell right next to her she would laugh and not help her up and ignore her. I would get punished for defending her. It would get that bad to the point the church asked my mom to relocate us. The girl cried and told me I was the only one protecting her and she thanked me for showing her what a real friend looks like. I cried cause I felt responsible for her. But I remember she told me my confidence gave her enough strength to use what I taught her. Cause I knew tae kwon do as a kid so naturally I taught her how to use her crutches or her shin guards. In high school these kids I knew that were in the class that needed extra attention and patience would constantly get bullied. This one kid I grew up with Josiah coolest white boy with the biggest blondest Bob Marley dreads ever. Especially if white kids were the minority in the schools we went to. These freshmen would just tease the fuck outta him. At first thought they knew him and it was harmless cause I know when he gets mad. He didn’t get mad, after about a few days I realized what they were really doing cause he got explosive and he’s like one of those really really sweet kids. So when I saw him chase them and he slipped and fell I went and picked him up. The next day I saw it happen again I chased the mf who kept doing it and he wasn’t expecting me to be running up right behind him. He turned and saw me and got scared and turned around and I put my forearm up against his throat and pinned him against the wall. As a girl that really must’ve fucked with him. His buddies couldn’t pry my off him. I wasn’t suffocating him..till he tried getting smart and I told him if you keep messing with my friend her you’re little friends won’t be able to help you. Clearly they can’t now. “He said you’re crazy” but when I stomped towards him ..😂😂him and his little friends ran away. Every time they walked by that area they didn’t mess with him again. Same school and I think same year there was another kid like Josiah but this guy was in my history and math class. He was incredibly smart. Just different. 🤷‍♀️ he didn’t do nothing to anyone just kinda tried to stay hidden. Sweet kid. But he had a cast on his foot this one day. Like a pep rally or something and we call him Johnny Appleseed, I didn’t know he hated being called that but it’s how I assumed his name cause he never talked. So this guy who was a giant Samoan football player..like the dream linebacker and quarterback for any football team. The guy was way over 6 ft 300 pounds but like that fat fit. And Johnny wasn’t even half his size and neither was I. I was actually sitting right behind Johnny when this tool came up to him like some really bad movie of how high school jocks are. He was dead ass picking on him and Johnny told him to leave him alone and asked him and begged him to leave him alone. And he just kept pushing him until he snapped and jumped on the table and got in his face with a casted foot. And he pushed Johnny and he fell and he was gonna start hitting him and I just jumped over him and blocked him. Not thinking. He told me to move. I didn’t say anything and just picked Johnny up and asked him if he was ok and sat him down. Then I turned back around and got in his face and screamed so everyone knew what was going on..I was like “wtf is wrong with you..you know he’s different. Why the fuck are you trying to pick a fight with someone much more helpless than you. What you mad that he’s smarter than you and your fucking dumb as rocks?” And he charged at me and that’s when everyone else held him back. I didn’t flinch. I kept going. “Were you just about to fucking fight me? Yooo you need to dump his ass he is clearly abusive af if he’s willing to attack me and helpless Johnny.” I knew his gf and she was my friend. She did at the moment. The next year was an entire class that picked on this teacher. Told everyone to stfu and leave her alone. Made them look pathetic cause they were being obnoxious to a sweet old lady and recording themselves. Doing it. I was the only 1 outta like 20 kids to speak up as a senior in high school. Also did ASB and helped remove a teacher who was trying to use her position to fail everyone cause she had ten year or whatever it’s called and did what she did cause the laws protected her. And managed to help the students get community service hours at the elementary up the hill cause no one would be able to graduate if they couldn’t get those hours. So I honestly didn’t think lots of my ideas or things I’ve done with the ASB would excel and do really really well in. Everyone but I think 3 people didn’t graduate. I was constantly involved with everyone. But my bfs brother told his boss he did all that when I was applying at the McDonald’s he worked at. And the boss was like “oh really? That not what Raul said. He said he was the head of ASB and he did everything u said u did. Who’s really telling me the truth.” I looked at her in disbelief and told her I got the teachers number and I can call her cause this teacher was involved with everything. He was never in the ASB especially doing what I did. If this make me turbulent and an infp.. then fuck 😂😂 (Sorry..this was fucking long) 🥲😅😅😂😂

@Ana Bunnies I got caught up in the vivid memories of when I stood up for people and since I don’t talk much or write much about myself I kinda forget that word vomit is a thing ..😂😂😅 ty if you decided to read anything, this was my short list..I got so many..😂

@Ana Bunnies thank you, this comment really made my day. 🙏🥰 But not violent actually ..but instead willing to do what is necessary when it involves someone else’s life being in jeopardy. Sometimes with some people being civil either makes things worse or wastes time cause those split second decisions can’t be contemplated too long cause then opportunities are missed to resolve the situation accordingly. More of a realist if anything. There was a quote I think in the book art of war, said something like “a warrior who knows how to use his sword but chooses to keep it sheathed is the better/intelligent warrior” but another quote from the book was saying “it’s important to know how to use your weapon 10x more effectively than evil cause if evil knows how to wield the sword better against those who are good then who will be around to defend the good?” Einstein even said “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.”

In some cases empathy is employed as an adaptation to detect the mood of abusers so you can anticipate threats coming from them and prevent or mitigate those threats either by appeasing their wrath, or by emotionally compensating for the harm they cause. It can serve as a survival strategy. Different people adapt in different ways, but empathy is an ability INFPs can rely on. Beware of counterproductive behavioral patterns that come from empathic survival strategies. Empathy is a tool to help you understand your surroundings, but can be exhausting if overused, and may even encourage self-inflicted emotional trauma if abused. Something that helps me stay free of empathic entanglements is a daily routine, and projects that I can revisit often and build upon. I wish you well as life has dealt you oppressive troubles. Do not be discouraged. Most people will not understand how hard you have worked to endure and overcome great obstacles, but you have.

Same in rot it’s actually paralyzing to the point of not seeing reasons to keep going it’s actually sad

Next time: SPACE

Parsing whether it’s their emotion that you are now stuck with (INFJ) or your nearest replication of their perceived emotional situation (INFP) is hard... I’m (now) usually in control of my emotional response despite whatever is going on around me.

Yeah. Emotions are usually in those forms in metaphors. "It fills me with rage." "I'm drained." "I'm not fulfilled" etc.

Probably better than letting it bubble up for so long. And you get more practice at sharing that emotion and explaining it in a useful way :) Not easy tho :/

Thanks Sam :) Happy to help as always!

Thanks :) glad I’m not wrong about my experience being something that we INFPs share!

I am experimenting with breaking an INFP out of his shell but I just let him do his thing and not be overbearing or clingy. We'll see if he chooses to reveal anything to me. Their shelled self is still very attractive to observe for me so I don't mind. :D

Same, but with an infp I'm dating. I have patience still tho.

Good to know that it didn't make it less credible. :) I debated re-filming but since it's mainly INFPs that'll watch it I knew there wouldn't be much, if any, trolling.

Glad you like it! I'm getting sick of poor chromakey and lighting though lol...

^^ welcome

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I don’t remember what I said :(

I think we can know a lot but it depends on how much life-experience we have... we can be really off if we shelter ourselves too much. But are we understood? Rarely.

@@GeekPsychology I see. Thank you always for your insight. My best pal and I have a planned trip to go to Japan in 2 years.. you should make a video on awesome places to visit maybe? 😉

Gotta keep trying till you figure out the best method for you :)

Sounds like you have given too much time to people who have yet to appreciate your time and input. Yeah stop and gather back your strength. Draw those boundary lines firmly. Feed your own soul to recharge. Stay well and keep well 🌱

That’s a great way! Nobody wants to be told what to do, they want to figure it out themselves.

Just don't put down her interests and encourage her to be more active with the things she dreams of or enjoys hobby wise. We can shut down when people dismiss our view points or passions in life and not feel comfortable bringing those things up so we just prefer to stay quiet after, we despise conflict or arguing.

@@Jona7Fer well, good I do all that.

The answer here might be to try and be more conscious of your own emotions.. looking back at my own INFP interactions with your personality type, for instance the ESTJ and ENTJ bosses I've had.. the difference between me not liking them and me feeling great loyalty and a determination to not let them down has always been how connected they are to their Fi compassion. Feelers like your daughter might struggle to connect with and trust you if you come at her with pure Te, but if your emotions are involved it's a big difference.. just don't try to fake it, we will detect that and think you are being inauthentic, it needs to be there for real. :) I know that ENTJs can sometimes want to ignore their own emotions, seeing as you are quite tribe before self oriented.. and also because you are terrified of showing emotional vulnerability and thus opening yourself up to being hurt. But please remember that INFPs usually would sooner take a bullet than hurt the emotions of someone we care about, and also that we are capable of great loyalty if we trust you, and that loyalty can be something that ENTJs deeply desire. Shannon of Objective Personality is a quite good example, in this video: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-hzsWef86FgA.html at around the 3 minute mark, she is asked about the world of difference being in touch with her emotions has made with regards to connecting with other people, compared to pure pushy Te. She reminds me of those really good ENTJs I mentioned, so if you want a more detailed insight into the importance and benefit of Fi awareness, I recommend. :) While you hopefully work on your own emotional awareness, a starting point with your daughter might be to consider what she enjoys and try to use your Se to provide her Si with a good experience connected to that, if all goes well and you see a positive reaction it might make you feel quite validated.. and also you've showed your daughter that you care about what she likes, which will make her trust you a bit more, and help you bond with each other. The potential for a great relationship is there.. I don't know how old she is, but at some point she can benefit a great deal from your Te in pursuing her hopes and dreams, and you can benefit from her emotional awareness to help your own and thus be able to forge stronger bonds of trust and loyalty with people.. especially with her. I wish you both the best, good luck. :)