I am an INFP-A but tested as an INTP-T for over 10 years. A few months ago I learned and accepted what Fi really meant and it fits so much more than Ti. People always mistake me for an extrovert and compliment my dedication to my sense of self/right and wrong. Since I was a kid, I would stand up to bullies and couldn't let it go when I saw people actively deciding to crush others for their self-gain.
I'm an INFP-T and you've definitely described me down to a T lol. I'm very socially reclusive and in high school, I was very much what people would typically call an emo in the sense that I had all the mannerisms of that; shy, awkward and a loner. I hate conflict so I try to always be on everyone's good side by not stating my beliefs and feelings about things because they were always different from everybody else's. Coincidentally, I could never stand up for myself whenever I was confronted hence why I was bullied so much by virtually anyone that came my way. I guess it boosts people's ego when they take advantage of someone more vulnerable than them.
I finally found another Assertive INFP! I'm an 89% assertive INFP, and I watch a lot of these videos about the INFP typw, and I'm like, "That is not right. I don't think this is right..." I also do and don't have the perfectionist thing. If I REALLY care, it is terribly present, but if it is just some random thing I am like, "Eh. It's good enough." I don't love people, but I love their stories. I don't so much want to speak with people, but rather sit back and listen to them speak. I think this might be a habit of being a writer, but I enjoy collecting people's stories, experiences, purposes for existing. I find people utterly fascinating while simultaneously not really wanting to have to be around them at all. Hahahaha.
That’s how I am about history I am fascinated by people and their lives...old homes, old clothes...the people that lived before us. My dad is a writer, my brother is as well ...I also love to write but don’t “practice enough”...Probably because I have too many interests lol nice to meet a fellow INFP-a
“I don’t love people but I love their stories “ . Exactly!!! I pull rather listen , people think I’m a great conversationalist but I just realized that it’s because I’m really listening and I’m asking questions that will extract the details I need to paint a more vivid picture in my mind.
I knew I was I definitely a INFP-A when you mentioned the part about seeing someone else get bullied and wanting to stand up for them. That’s definitely a trigger for me. I definitely do agree that INFP -A Develops with experience... I definitely do love who I have become 👩🦳. Thanks for the video 💗
I think I was an A as a kid Then after being bullied, and essentially shunned by my class I kinda hermit crab'd into a T Most of the guys hated me in middle school, and essentially life felt like an endless swim in anxiety. Made my framework of school life into "everyone hates me, they're out to get me" and then highschool and a good chunk of college (I'm at the 4th year now) into a self-hatred pity party. A few people I can be normal and calm around, but most social gatherings and situations make me feel sick to my stomach. Too much betrayal makes one overthink and overpredict a calamity that may never come. Wish I could be assertive but I have unresolved baggage from 10 years ago and am cursed with a good memory, and since most days feel like a blur no new ones took their place yet.
I feel you are real infp and the way i observed you talked without hesitation coz you were that personality unliked others pretending to be liked someone but I don't feel it to them. Lol
I don't remember which one I was, but I am trying to whip myself every day to be the best version of myself and trying to grow my business and be productive and be in a good shape. Not a typical INFP but one must be careful when trying to categorize people in personality types. I am also pretty emotional (inside my head but not so much than when I was younger) and I like to avoid people if possible. Seeing friends once in a month or two is enough for me, being alone is the best. Good video btw!
I loved your video! Found myself laughing, nodding and humming agreement all the way through it. Tried to trick the test too! Haha! 🤣 Transitioned from T to A with age also. Always stood up to bullies and for the vulnerable even as a young T, then "retreated", if you will. 😊👍 Blessings 🙏
I feel like you described my life lol. I’m sure I was an INFP-T in my younger years but now that I’ve grown into my maturity and self awareness I always test INFP-A. And I’ve been told by my friends as well that I don’t seem introverted. I love socializing but I definitely need my space and time to recharge.
I feel like I"m listening to myself talk. I love to cook, I don't like to bake. Cooking is art, baking is science. You have to follow directions, and I'm much more of a free flow. I am also assertive, and being a mother definitely brought that out in me. I'm very empathetic, I can't even watch movies where people are being hurt. I'm also sensitive to my environment, both physical and emotionally. I can feel what people are feeling.
ESFJ here! What a wonderful interview and discussion on these MBTI types. I got a few MBTI ideas for my channel. I discovered your channel through the RU-vid algorithm. Fascinating!🔥🔥🔥
Actually the 16personalities site test is not an MBTI test at all. It's a Big Five personality system test that has been adapted for MBTI. The reason there are 5 letters is because Big Five - surprise - has 5 traits or axes rather than 4. The T v. A trait actually measures neuroticism. T people are more neurotic than A people.
Great video thanks ☺️. I am a INFP-A (male) and I am very different from the average INFP-T as I am also a Eeneagram type 8 wing 7 (Challenger / Protector). I am very friendly, nice and helpful to all but if you under estimate me and take my kindnesses as weakness I will and do put you in your place. I do not like seeing people or animals hurt and find no humor in the videos people watch and laugh at of people falling down and getting hurt and other mishaps. I am the youngest of 6 kids with 3 older brothers and do not tolerated bullies in my life or of bulling of others and will step in and stop it with out a second thought no matter the odds. I relate to all the infp-a things you mentioned. I love to cook by just winging it and throwing things together that I think might work rather then follow a receipt list and created many unusual and good completely original dishes. I have no problems and I can when needed follow a receipt like when baking and it is more important. I have only seen 1 video from a male infp-a and very few and far between for any videos from a female infp-a and glad to watch yours.
Thanks:) We sounds very alike actually...I can’t remember my Eeneagram I should retake that one. It’s funny when people r so quick to say your not INFP because of this or that...whatever type we are we can’t be put into a box we are so unique:)
@@DrakesNest I agree that all INFP can not be put in a box as we are great at thinking out of the box and need many boxes and one is never enough. You know yourself as a INFP even with out the test reading the four cognitive functions you can relate and then taking the test just confirmed what you already know. That is how I started on my mbti path and the same after reading the description of the 9 Eeneagram personality type too. I can see the INFP in you and also the difference of you being infp-a as apposed to the INFP-T people I know and I must say it is refreshing and makes me happy anytime I come across any INFP-A as they are rare to find indeed. Have a blessed Thanksgiving and hope you and your family are happy and safe.
Yes that is me also, except I am the youngest of 7 with 4 older sisters. I am just learning about the t/a and trying to figure where I am. My Dad was and 2 of my sisters are infp so I don't feel unique at home. My Mum, a bro + a sis are all istj. My intj sister is my confidant and introduced me to mb - I sometimes think I am her science project. I have long thought that if I ever get into serious trouble it is because I am standing up for someone/thing else getting mistreated.
Nice video and can relate shifting from T to A from childhood to adulthood. After reading the comments section, I personally think you are an INFP and have become assertive, extroverted, articulate etc due to growth and development from your life journey, experiences and choices. I also get similar reactions nowdays from people as I've matured and improved as I see fit. I think the word/moment that struck me the most in the video was "realistic"....when an INFP starts to confront and internalize, learn and do in this fashion; then they will gradually incline to the Assertive type. Just my two senses - pun intended 😁
I'm an INFP-A also. Went from turbulent when I was young but I learned to be an assertive INFP. Much of it by choice. I decided to be as genuine as possible in my late twenties. Practice strict honesty. And very focused on being honest with myself. I'm going to be 60 soon and I am confident and comfortable with who I am almost all the time and when I'm not I just pray and let it go.
Hi, I’m INFP-T but I’m quite outgoing. Over 3 decades I’ve always tested INFP, except for once I was INFJ. I’ve only recently begun to look at MBTI in greater depth, wish I had done that long ago! I’m a Dr of Chiropractic and I really relate to what you say about needing some down-time after being with clients all day. My husband is INFJ-A and my mom is INFJ-T Thanks for the video 😀
Can relate SO much!!! Thanks, this helped a lot. I am kind of like U. I was absolutely T but nowadays, with time, Therapie and getting to know myself a lot better, i am a Lot more an A now.
We are all constantly changing aren’t we. I’ve definitely become more confident and outgoing as I’ve gotten older, I was way more of a wallflower as a teen and early twenties:)
Oh my God!!!! Welcome to the club, infp - a mother here, with Estj husband.. Tell me about it!!!!! 😒🤪😅😅😅😅😅 I'm my husband moral compass, his protector, I'm his emotions speaker, I'm his everything.. He is, on the other hand, all practical, do it now-kinda guy.. When I hold on the cloud, he is doing all ground things... 😅😅😅
Thanks for the insight! I'm turning 30 soon and i can feel that i am slowly changing more into the A direction now, but i can't yet imagine myself being a fully assertiver type one day, it would be great though~
I’m definitely not a always assertive either...only if I have to be. Idk if your a parent...but that helped me a lot too...it made me grow up in a whole lot of ways haha
I feel also that I dislike the idea of wasting my time on things that don't matter to me. Like saying goes, life is fleeting so spend it on what you like to do and be with.
You are beautiful 💚 you look like a princess 🌺 I'm a INFP-T says the test people on youtube how rare these people are but in reality it's like everyone dislike me or don't understand me
Thank you!:) I’m sure everybody doesn’t dislike you, sometimes that’s just in our heads because we overthink hehe INFP are unique so just have to learn to love our quirkiness haha
I don't think it is about hating you It is about vulnerability. If you see yourself as sensitive and vulnerable. If you experience a lot of anxiety and fear other people can sense that. Lacking confidence you are a target. Not because of who you are but because there are people looking for people to target. An INFP-T is a target. An INFP-A is not anymore. You learn self acceptance and strength as you age and change You become a source of love and goodness in the world. You give the love you wished for.
A for sure and hovering close to 50/50 on introvert. I tested ENFP the first couple times when I was younger. It's nice to see an "atypical" INFP in action, loved it. I can't pass up any INFP related vids so yeah, you can't go wrong with Meyer - Briggs INFP content. Liked and Subscribed, Thanks.
eeh? I dont think so, I always get around 80 to 90 Introverted and high in A. also my friend who's INFP that's more balance in I/E (around 60/40) but got T type.
I been male INFP-t for my whole Adult life every now and then I slip into the INTP-a category for some reason, always when I’m trying to make big changes to I noticed I wonder what that means? I have no doubt that I’m the idealist in my My values are top of the mountain for me
I am an INFP as well. Being with people I know and love allows me to explore extroversion for a while...until I absolutely must head home so I can be by myself. ;-)
I am an INFP and always had more T like inner world type experiences but I also have social anxiety disorder and am trying to get over people pleasing tendencies so I am slowly changing my behaviour and now I have a few more A characteristics. So a blend of T and A traits whereas before I was a strong T. O.o
Hello, thank you for nice video, I become through the years and motherhood of three kids an INFP -A. But I used to test my self several before kids years as ENFP. :)
@@DrakesNest Same result I was given in my test. Feels great, not having to lie about who I really am and just being me. Same story, with age comes maturity. I feel my young age came with confusion but once I left the nest I finally was freed from a prison.
From ENFP to ISFP-T then INFP-T.. just constantly changes honestly for me. Me being an INFP-T, kinda doubts it’s as well coz I don’t fit some of description. I’m not that quiet, I can really be a social butterfly if I had to
I think it’s hard to put any of us in a perfect box ya know....we are all so unique and individual:) I’m like you....I can be a social butterfly too but then right after I need to lock myself away to Unwind haha
@@DrakesNest Yup, beauty, most often can't be beat, unless your blind or far out there. Funny how beauty is more important to men then career, wealth or intelligence of a women.
I've done the test and it usually turn's out to be an INFP-A, however I have gotten T, like once or 2x at most. I would say I resonate more with A as for T, because that's what help's me to get thing's done. Depending on what it is, I'm sure I have T aspect's as well. Side note though, I've been doing the test for the last 3x lately, and it's showing that I'm an INFJ-A now. However there's still part's of myself that still resonate with INFP-A.
I think it's very easy to think that someone is an infp, because they describe them like very reflective, sensitive, and emphatetic people, but everyone else can be all of these characteristics and don't necesarily be an infp. It depends of your cognitive functions and the order in which they work when you experience the world. Everyone tend to think they are infp's because in adolescence we tend to be very sensitive, but that doesn't mean we are infp's. The tests online aren't accurate at all because the questions aren't seeing are cognitive functions, they are based in our mood or our stage in life. Mbti personality doesn't change. I recommend you to investigate the cognitive functions. I perceive you as an esfp or an isfp or even enfp that are the more "introvert" of the extrovert types. Infp's tend to use more abstract statments when they talk, they tend to lose the point and return to it constantly, they use a lot of metaphores too, without even realizing it. You seem more direct and getting to the point easily and that's awsome, explaining things in a way that is practical and understanding.
I totally get where you are coming from! I’ve read a lot about other personality types and Infp and enfp are the ones I most relate too....and I always get Infp on the test....but I think I mentioned I am like 40 percent e and 60 percent I...so those are the only ones I’m kind of in the middle with....the nfp part has always been pretty straight forward. It’s probably hard to tell from the rehearsed video, I have to often write things out and think about for a good week in my brain before I film because I tend to go off topic and forget my thoughts if I don’t do that haha I also end up editing out a lot of the random tangents I go off on during the video lol I’m more straight forward and confident in my thoughts now that I’m older compared to when I was younger but that’s definitely because I’m an assertive Infp:) A lot of things I experienced in my life have forced me to deal with things head on and on my own which I think have made me stronger with certain cognitive functions of mine. But thanks for your comment, always love discussing personality types:)
@@DrakesNest That makes sense, also I think you can still look for the cognitive functions order and what means each of them, because infp's and enfp's are different even if they have the same letters. INFP's (Fi)(Ne)(Si)(Te), and ENFP's (Ne)(Fi)(Te)(Si) They have almost the same cognitive functions but the order in each one is different. It's difficult to determine the first letters because it isn't about that specifically, it's about how you process information and the world and not about how you charge energy. I also had that problem with E and I, and learning about the cognitive functions helped me figure it out better my personality type.
@@brunellaodar1435 yea I looked into that because a lot of people said I seemed more like and E because I can be outgoing. But I get drained from too much socializing....I also find that my friends that are enfp tend to need to talk out their feelings a lot to figure out how they feel on things because they are extroverted thinkers....I’m not like that. I’m a very introverted thinker and spend lots of time in my own head determining how I feel on things:) I know enfp and INFP are different I just meant when researching there were certain things about enfp I could relate to....but taking the test multiple times and reading up on it I’m definitely and infp:)
I think within every personality type they’re is so much variety depending on our life experiences, childhoods etc....our cognitions functions are the same but how we express ourselves and portray ourselves to the world can be very unique...like I said I’m not a typical INFP because I’m an A not a T and many peoples view of a “typical” INFP is the T type. At the end of the day it’s just a test and none of us can truely fit into a box ya know:)
I'm a cake artist, and pretty good at it too. I refuse to start my own business tho cos I see all of my cakes having heaps of imperfections. I only do cakes for friends that I know 100% will appreciate and love my work lol. I'm a T but feel like a swing between the two depending where I'm at in my life.
No idea, if i am honest. According to the test i am an INFP T But stuff like perfection, i dont have. Maybe when it comes to my little art projects, but that's where it really ends. I have a feeling that i lean now more towards the A. Just guessing that, got no proof or foundation for this. I just started reading about the MBTI thing when i was down (i was lost, and needed some guidance) And now, 2 years later, i feel much better, dealt with my crap and i think i changed a bit. More confident, a bit more extroverted. Just more happy i suppose.
I can relate a lot, I have been a T and changed to A, and like kicks you and teaches you, you become more realistic and start to put your needs and fight for it. I am surprised that your with a ESTJ, a total opposite type. Just curious what kind of challenges you have as a couple.
@@DrakesNest And we are all pretty idiosyncratic... in fact quirky idiosyncrasy is probably the defining quality of a INFP I think. Im pretty atypical myself being a scientist at the British Museum in London and not an emo/goth painter/poet/musician :D
Mormegil I think infps just love doing work that they are passionate about...that gives them joy...which is usually not a boring 9-5 desk job, which you don’t have...so still kind of INFP;)
I thought I was infj for long time but realized when i took the test i was infp in stead....and triple aquarian ontop of it so yeah not very extroverted but not totally wallflower either i get lumped in the leaders whether i want to be or not lol...
This is one thing the enneagram is actually more accurate with: Infp-T would be 9w1 and infp-a would be 9w8. For all of you infp out there don't presume that being turbulent is bad, it could just be an indicator that you're more careful and perfecrionistic than a 9w8, who would be more like an enneagram 8 type that's more aggressive and assertive.
And I am FPP like you say were emotional but can I be and I am a PA yes I am but I’m more like a line of PT and there’s reasons for that I won’t go into here but I support you and appreciate your wonderful your energy is wonderful I also stick up for myself with bullet points I am buried a start if I score high on meth in the big five modality I am very sturdy but I’m agreeable and open minded way too much people see me as traveling and dangerous even but I’m only dangers in the mind and the people if you can ask me to work out but I also protect people all the time why I’m not protect our protect my own entrance that’s where the air is valuable I have to realize I got a cut my losses I got a be a
Hi I'm an INFP-A I did take the test again bc I'm ok with infp a all I did is research what an A different from the T . I quite fit into an A bc I don't really care what ppl do in Thier life and my point is that's your life that's your rules and that's your problem ok bye. So I really don't fit with the T personality lol.i don't convinced ppl to do the some at what I'm doing bc that's Thier life . Each one of us have our own core values so my rules in my life don't step with my core and I will not jump into yours.
When I was younger and was more a T social situations def made me nervous and more uncomfortable, older I got the more confident I got….with more confidence comes caring less about what other people think about it….which makes me enjoy social situations now because I’m not always worried about what others opinions of me and just have fun:)
@@DrakesNest I feel like I'm slowly getting there. I'm starting to box myself in and eventually I have to start telling people how I feel so I can get out of my head. Start telling everyone my feelings and hopefully they understand and if they dont then move on and dont need that kind of person in my life
@@cody3504 exactly, learning to speak up for yourself and setting boundaries makes a huge difference, we are natural people pleasers….buuut we also have to learn to not put our own needs aside
I totally am an A the optimist save world with my art kinda thing...but not over zealous or over emotional however if so much goes wrong in my life which I tend to attract like a magnet those lost souls and I cant say no I try to help them but it causes trouble sigh...I can have T moments but they never last I go right back once I recharge my batteries from being in world by hibernating hermit style awhile...
I don't think the A and T are as fixed as the other facets. It depends on the situation, and what you've [learned/worked on] along your journey as to whether you feel/act/react in an A or T manner in any given circumstance.
Good idea:) I think tho it was just time, and life experience that led me that way. Having to learn to let go of perfection, becoming a mother and having to advocate for my kids etc...as INFP I think we are all very self aware...so I just tried to work on weaknesses I had. But there are developed turbulent types and developed assertive both can be negative and positive:) nothing wrong with a T:)
No there is nothing wrong with that!:) I said that there are developed INFP-t and developed INFP-a. Both have good and bad traits and we can be developed and strong in either type:) the great thing about Infps is we are very self aware of ourselves and often want to improve on ourselves:)
@@mauricecherry1209 yea I was definitely a T when I was younger and I became more and more assertive as I got older but I think that was after I had kids and had to push myself to be that way ya know
Oh sorry:) usually other infp are the one looking up these videos so didn’t think about it. It means introversion, introspective, feeling and perception….it’s a personality type. Take the Myers Briggs test online it’s very interesting:)
Are you always making jokes with each other, being silly, making fun of each other (in a lighthearted way)? I know a couple like this too and I've noticed they very much click on that level of silliness😉 wondering if it's a pattern.
