INFPs in 20 Words 

I feel like INFPs are a mix of whimsical and childishly naive, never wanting to grow old, but also possess an equally intense old soul that takes their beliefs very seriously due to their idealism. I find them very relatable as fellow INxPs but wish I had some real ones as friends. -INTP

I really admire and respect INFPs for their individuality, inner strength and wisdom. One of my besties is this type, and I could listen to her spout her innermost ideas and theories all day! 💞

“Not all who wander are lost” is literally one of my favorite quotes -An INFP

As an INFP, I would have added whimsical and impish to the word list. There's a certain Alice in Wonderland feel to us, a certain desire to tweak the nose of reality and bring a little magic back into the world.

This INFP approves this message

1. Pensive 2. Wise 3. Seekers 4. Individualistic 5. Empathetic 6. Intense 7. Taboo 8. Intransigence 9. Poised 10. Inquisitive 11. Reverie 12. Orphic 13. Wanderer 14. Ineffable 15. Melancholic 16. Perceptive 17. Playful 18. Habitual 19. Unobtrusive 20. Tolerant ❤

Dunno if it's an INFP thing or just a me thing but I love it when people use fancy words and language to describe me. Makes me feel more special and interesting than I'm probably like lol. "Intransigent and Habitual" sound a lot nicer than "lazy" looooool Would love to see one of these for the ISFJs, they feel so underrated and definitely don't think they give themselves enough credit lololol

Nathan, that was superb! As an INFP (a 'mature' one at that), I feel absolutely seen, validated, and even celebrated. I marvel at the depth of your understanding, and the language you've used is poetic. Not once did you resort to stereotyping. I smiled and even chuckled to myself a few times. This makes me happy to be me!

INFP = I'm Not Fragile, People ❤️❤️❤️

Outstanding. I'm an INFP, and an empath. I wonder if all INFPs are empaths? I find this collection of words surprisingly accurate.

It's nice to feel so understood and appreciated.

...this ineffable thing that has to be felt... I love that💕 ENFP with an INFP bestie

As an INFP i love this, even though so many compliments flusters me a bit! I'm happy you talked about Fi empathy, so many people misunderstand that. You really understand us. I think you're the youtuber who understands INFPs the most for a non-INFP, and that's what keeps me coming back

Such high praise and flattery, Nathan 🥺 As an INFP, I've always found my personality to be a bit paradoxical at times (though I suppose all MBTI types have contradictions), but this video captured the different angles really well. I love all the choices of words and even learned "Orphic" 💖 - "'not all who wander are lost'... the alternative is being on a path that you find no meaning in, then being lost is by far the better place to be" - "when Alice went down the rabbit hole it was kind of a risky move" 🐇 Also love the distinction of Fi and Fe in terms of empathy! (In MBTI theory, it's rarer to hear of Fi being associated with empathy, but I think INFPs do have a lot of capacity for empathy. As you've said though, it's different from how Fe users operate, in being more individualistically oriented and values-focused.) Watching this as an INFP feels a bit self-indulgent 😇

Wow. This is just so spot on, as you usually are with INFPs. For every word, I have several examples from my life. I love how you see the positive things we can bring to the world, as sometimes that's hard to see for ourselves.

"INFP's are calm, composed, and graceful in their domineers--" *me being an infp and ugly crying after stubbing my toe*

The most enchanting melody I heard in childhood, on my mother's stereo, was, ironically, Debussy's "Reverie"....

The side of a personality type we get to see actually fluctuates. Weirdly enough, we all work on crossing the bridge between the dominant and inferior function (that becomes obvious to people who get to know us) while employing tactics that include the functions in-between. My mom used to be bossy (or good at managing things). But that was the side we got to see at home because we knew her well. Out there, into this wild, wild world, the functions that others got to witness more were her perceiving functions. And those made her forgiving, lenient, understanding, soft, careful,… I would often tell her that she needs to set certain firm lines in order to show self-respect. Cause let’s be real: the world is not necessarily a fairytale. If a person doesn’t learn self-respect and doesn’t show behavior that matches that, others aren’t gonna come and help. But she believed that. That people would care and be kind and help. Contrary to stereotypes, INFPs are experts when it comes to managing their emotions. People whose inferior function is the dominant one of an INFP are actually the ones who can find themselves in a pickle because they may struggle expressing their emotions properly.

I, INTP. My 13 year old son, INFP. THIS IS FUN.

As an INFP, I would also say that we are explicit : Being sufficiently clear and precise in the statement; which cannot be left with any doubt (you can correct me if you want, I just thought that it represent me A BIT WAY TOO MUCH like the thing I just did here so yeah lol.

Melancholic was articulated very accurately. Literally my morning routine. But I just want to know when Nathan is going to start professionally recording audiobooks?! I could listen to him all day. Can you imagine him reading some contemporary sci-fi or fantasy? Good heavens.

Wondering while wandering

There are a couple of MBTI accounts that I follow, funny for the most part. But yours, you really make me think, reflect, you are great at this.

As an INFP, I totally agree with these words 😍🤩 thank you !

This was so beautiful ❤ I also appreciate the words you used so I can further expand my vocabulary. But I just adore your videos and how articulate and how well-versed you are on the MBTI types. Never stop doing what you do 🥰 your videos help me feel more seen and less like a walking stereotype. In an ironic way. Signed, an INFP subscriber ☺️

Melancholic and playful... I try to be funny even when talking about sad things. it's a form of abreaction, but not everyone understands it. It can be that taboo thing. You don't tell jokes at a funeral

YES! "An Atlantis under their placid lake." I love that!

Hey! what're you doing? I was quietly feeling misunderstood and melancholic and now I don't feel either! Nathan the INFP-whisperer strikes again... I think I'm only going to get off my butt and do some Christmas tasks - when I've finished typing this of course, lol!

I feel like you described me in every single way. Amazing. Thank you.

Ahhhh...now I know why I "fell" so hard...lol. Spot on accurate, all 20 qualities. What stood out for me was the Orphic quality (charmed spell slightly closed book, yep), the slightly "oppositional" individualism (not quite iconoclastic...but close), the enigmatic, the intense (Atlantis? yep), the mysterious, the highly perceptive, the melancholic spirit, the protean mental and artistic creativity, the intrasigence, oi! but also the gentle tolerance, yes (totally confusing), the quiet, often silly humor (playfulness), a certain stoicism, the seeming moving through in an unreal dreamworld, the preference to be both a kind of eternally unseen observer and a free, untethered wanderer. I saw that ineffable state, too--incredibly so. Yes, wow, all of this. INTP "cousin" here, feeling wistful...though smiling deeply.

I am re-learning so much about myself. I love it. Thank you.

More than compliments... Thank you

Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for making this!!! I’ve been looking forward to you doing this one for INFP since your first ‘20 Words’ and to hear it start off with one of my favourite words made it well worth the wait! ❤🎉

As an INFP, I felt so called out with a lot of these words…Pensive, Orphic, Ineffable, Individualistic, and Melancholic especially.

Best example for me talking about taboos: I asked my intp what he thinks about necrophilia. Just wanted to know. Gosh, he felt really uncomfortable that poor man. And again, I would love to talk to other infps but I am too shy... It gives me physical pain to only think about it 🙈

I love being an infp

"places that can only be found by getting lost" Oh my, yes. Yes yes yes yes yes.

Almost all of these adjectives were used before by other people to describe me. But the one that impacted me the most is not on the list: methodic. I was in shock when I first heard it, because I always considered myself as chaotic (blame Ne). Then I realized that is exactly the ability to control the chaos that people sees and admires, like when you see a warrior that develops courage over his fears, and knows that he had to work harder than a fearless warrior.

Genuinely had to take a minute out of my day to tell you how heard and seen I feel. Thanks.

This is so true having an infp sister

Thank you for this video Nathan, it is so beautifully presented and so very accurate. Far too often INFP's are overlooked and ignored, this makes me feel validated and seen.

OMG THIS IS SOOOO FREAKING TRUE, I CAN"T BELIEVE IT. Thanks mate.

An INTJ here, I absolutely adore my INFP best friend. It was her who stayed with me and supported me the most during my depression episodes, she's literally an angel semt by God. Meanwhile, I helped her to become more confident with her body and more willing to deal with conflict head on. And surprisingly I am the more optimistic in the duo, maybe because while she often connect things with human condition (which can be great), I focus more on finding patterns and their elegance. For instance, once we hang out at a beach (seems like beaches are perfect for dark topics) and she sighed as she saw a seaweed washed up ashore with some trash entangled. She thought of pollution and how human ruin the natural beauty, while I appreciate how life always find a way as I noticed the seaweed had loads of fruits on it.

I don’t know if your assessment is amazingly accurate or if I just enjoyed the validation, but I felt extremely seen and well described.

Pensive / Wise / Seeker Individualistic / Empathetic / Intense Taboo / Stubborn / Poised Inquisitive / Reverie / Orphic Wanderer / Melancholic / Perceptive Playful / Habitual / Outsider / Tolerant

i am an INFP and all of your choices are exceptionally spot on. This was very informative , thankyou

Thank you..i feel like I'm with a friend who appreciates me for who I am and sees my full potential which is what I seek in relationships and rarely find 14. Ineffable - this is what defines me the most as infp. And it's never talked about

Proud to be iNFP 💙

Love this! As an INFP this has given me encouragement today to do my best!

Nathan: "melancholic" me: ugly crying in bed

These are beautiful words that I’m now going to add to my vocabulary 😀

This is wonderful! Thank you!💓💯

Well done, thank you. This INFP approves as well. Yes "not all who wander are lost". I really liked the word descriptions. It helps me embrace my true nature all the more and understand myself and how I relate.

Wonderful video! That's an INFP. I think you nailed it. That's me to a T. I often felt that the description of passive wasn't on point. I go with the flow but if there's a vacuum that needs to be filled I can step in and fill it. I think INFPs can operate in different personality types if the need exists. And do quite well. But that process is draining and not something that you would want to do long-term. That's why learning about your personality type through MTBI can help you find the right fit in your life. I was part of a corporate leadership team and the company was very much into MTBI so we had a lot of training and exercises and seminars about it. I haven't spent much time in this realm since I left that environment. But you have stimulated me too reconnect. I have more time to myself these days and so I am continuing my wandering without being lost. Thanks for what you do

Thank you for respecting that an Fi-dom can have empathy too! You’re very right that it’s highly focused on the individual, but NOT necessarily oneself. I definitely feel like I focus one at a time on people as opposed to the whole group at once. And yeah, we can be intransigent when we dig out heels in! THANK YOU too for acknowledging us as poised!! Maybe it’s more pronounced because I was raised by Te-doms but I do NOT like letting people see me losing it. I am very aware of what I am feeling most all of the time (and often why), and that awareness makes me feel like if I DO lose it, then it was with almost premeditated, because there were TONS of red flags. (It’s also what makes the ENTJ blindness to their own emotions and outright denial of their explosive and emotional nature so frustrating…like, HOW can you be that unaware of what’s going on inside you?) Another funny one…yes, I AM a creature of habit when it comes to my daily comforts. Repeatedly change up business processes at my job? Cool, I’ll try it. I work with a ton of SJs at my job and my lack of change resistance as far as our job processes go really sticks out. Kick me out of my spot in the office that I had set up exactly to my liking for years? NOW I RIOT.

I love the 20 words series. Thanks for enfp's. I want to see it to all 16 personalities. Specially esfp. Cause I love how you stand for them. Also I want to see it for isfj's

This was lovely! Very accurate and insightful Showing a more than surface level understanding of us, not just understanding the more rigid rules of typing, but deeply comprehensive of how that translates into us as people. On the whole, very reassuring ❤

As far as I'm concerned, this describes me perfectly. Of course, maybe because I am an INFP, I find all of these terms to be rather complimentary. So I like the description. :)

Thank you Nathan, for everything you do.

You have the most entertaining MBTI channel without a doubt

Well observed.

Yes..."unobtrusive"...because the unobtrusive place is where you watch from and...understand...and therefore know what the whole construct in front of you means and not only what you need to do in it but, more importantly, why. And if there is no "why" then...it is quite possibly time to disappear and show up somewhere else where there's a "why".

About the habitual, my INTP friend & I agree on both of us being adventurous in our thinking, but not so much in our actions. :p

Ineffable is a word I can really relate to.

You have a gift of relaying information and getting me captured in your words

Great video, i was curious about how different these videos would be for the types that share fuctions in almost the same order, but you definitely show infp and enfp unique characteristic and differences in each video

This was awesome and very needed. Thank you so much ❤️

I love being an INFP! I agree with these words and really enjoyed your perspective. 💕

I was certain that I was an INTP but I just compared both videos of INTP and INFP in 20 words and now I’m more confused than ever 😩

That's what I call quality content. Thank you! Pure pleasure listening to you.

Awesome 👌!!!

That was such a good description of my INFP qualities. You put so much effort and knowledge into your discussions. Thank you!

I’m so thankful for this video. ❤

Who thinks of Shinji Ikari from NGE too? 🌍💕 Infps have a wonderful soul. ❤️ Great words, some never heard before. Thanks for explaining so well 💚❤️

This was so well thought out, thank you! Really resonated with the wandering, sometimes the only way to be happy is to not have a specific plan, just find small things to be happy about along the road you didn’t know you’d be travelling down.

This is brilliant Nathan, INFP Whisperer 💫 The synchronicities abound for me in the words you've chosen. I started tearing up right before you got to Melancholic 😌😉😊 How wonderful it is to be seen ❣

Accurate and beautiful! thanks

Yeah I can agree with all of those, even the little more cliche one you completely understood why INFP(me) feel that way.

As an INFP #12 made me laugh a lot. It was a perfect distribution and what’s funny is that we (at least I) perceive that I am an open book yet find out later that others see me as a “tough but to crack” 😅

Please do a video where you explain the least intuitive type all the way to the most intuitive type placing the types on a scale like you did with the introverted extroverted one.

Basically we’re Hobbits 😂

Thank you as always for this list, Stewie Griffin.

This is very helpful information to me as a 70 yr old INFP since it confirms many of my own perceptions of myself relative to the world around me. Thank you, for your words provide confirmation and support of "where I live" without the often cruel misjudgments of my attributes that many people around me may make (often in the hopes of "Helping me fix my ways"). I am happiest where I am and as I am.

Great list! Definitely feel known and seen by your observations. Thank you for this video. It really helps to gain more perspective in how I move through the world and realize that there's nothing wrong with me. It's just that I am wired very different from a lot of people.

You did a really good job on this

This was awesome, and so true! Thanks for seeing us INFPs!

Love this and please more ENFJ content! Love your insights 💕

Thank you for new vocabularies!

all eerely correct. well done!

14. Ineffable 👌👌👌

I need an older INFP woman in my life.

Aaaah perfectly described. 😊Thank you

That was quite impressive Sir. Also this was the last type on my list. Of course I kept getting typed INTP or INFJ when tested at 8yrs old via therapist. I was one strange kid. But anyway, thank you so much. After asking my dad some things and now seeing this…I’m about 90% sure I am the one this speaks of. It was driving me insane not being able to figure it out. After 3 months of almost daily research , I can move to the next step. Again, I really appreciate your work. -T

As someone who identifies as an INFP, all of these words resonated deeply with me. Kinda scary actually, but it's nice to be understood, even if not fully.

I love being an INFP! 💕 I feel like I can talk to almost anyone (if I weren’t so shy sometimes).

dude spittin fax out here, and in a rly kind way too

Yes ❤❤❤ I feel so fulfilled listening to this ❤🥰❤

INFP supermancy

You ended point 15) with "at least I believe". Your belief is right...: wholly right.

Feel like you have us INFPs figured out. Hope you do an ISFJ in 20 words video.