INFPs - The Seekers 

Exactly.

As INFP I enjoy international student homestays and youtube walking tours of world cities. i travel soooo much in these ways and yet keep my creature comforts!. This is the essence of INFP!

And that’s why I prefer to buy those documentary-picture travel books from BBC and other journalists. I’ve visited an endless amount of places and experienced what they have to offer purely based on the depths of my imagination simulated through visual, auditory stimuli and of course pensive verbal descriptions given by local people who live there . I still remember in one of the episodes of buzzfeed’s “worth it”, there was this pie episode where a Brazilian chef was describing how diverse and authentically driven her country was, and I must tell you it was very moving to hear her speak like that, I think I finished an entire tour of the country with all its people,places and food in my mind just as she was saying about them. I don’t know, it’s just that when people talk or I read text about anything, my kindly quickly puts those word into pictures, and either paints a whole portrait or runs a mini documentary/movie on its own as I’m reading or listening. That’s why I prefer to read and hear people’s experiences because I love the movies I watch in my head, instead of watching documentaries or movies about it because it just seems to passive for me to “watch” things as they are, instead of watching what my brain creates (which is more stimulating I guess). But I do enjoy watching documentaries and well directed movies from time to time. (But I lay too much emphasis on cinematography for those :D ).

That's me to a "T".

That resonated so well... When I was a kid, someone had gifted me a globe and an atlas on my birthday and since then, I have been fascinated to know about countries, their people, the food and their cultures. Travel and living docuseries are my favourite genre of visual entertainment at all times. Visiting those places through my eyes.

One of the ironies is that the INFPs I've known in my personal life have always been quite enigmatic to me. Perhaps my desire to understand them and attempt to figure them out plays a part... they're still total enigmas in case you were wondering ~ Nathan

@@lovewho are you an INFP? Or intp?

He's INFJ

@@FiNe_SiTe Did he say in one of his videos?

@@natashaladini1990 INTJ

Very well said. Those rabbit holes often have something worthwhile to retrieve from them, that's something people often overlook ~ Nathan

the long and winding road

@@halloweenjean that leads to your door...

Are we balrogs? Because we really like going back to the shadow.

@@CaveyMoth I prefer monk or Yoda?😆 although he is technically an INFJ. *smeh*😏

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I see exactly what you mean. I go from one obsession that lasts a few months to another another. But for me (25 yo infp), this has been far more of a detriment in my life. I'm almost never interested in things that would help me in the moment, such as subjects at school, and this has made revising for exams and working hard when doing projects difficult. I have a job now that, while not awful, is not even close to something I want to do for years to come, and i find myself daydreaming at work. This pretty bad as I work a dangerous job. I've only been working there for about 10 months and i've already almost lost a finger. The worse part is that I have no idea what to do with my life. Like, i'm considering quitting my job for something less dangerous and more fulfilling, but then i ask myself: and do...what? Sorry for the rant, but I guess I just wanted to say that this passionate shapshifting has been more of a problem for me in my life than anything 😞

@@WAZZA1235 First, yes, try to find a less dangerous job. The risk is too high if you're a daydreamer. You'll find the passion that you keep going back to. I didn't realize mine until I looked at everything I love and stories and creating became obvious to me. So keep looking, figure it out. See what you love and if there is any similarities. You'll find your passion there (and still have those sidequests of passions).

I know we can feel pressure to "get our life together" according to mainstream standards of what a career or adult life should look like, but I think that as infp we have the freedom and even the need to explore more than others. I've had many different jobs in my life (I'm in my early 40s) and none were related. I see them all as experience gained (none of it was wasted time or the wrong path or failure or whatever people like to call it when you change direction in life) and I carry with me so many memories of all these places I worked, problems I solved creatively and people I worked with or taught or helped in some way. I loved all of my jobs for one reason or another. I don't think you necessarily have to "know what you want to be or do in life" just going where you feel led, what inspires you in the moment can be just as fulfilling. Sure I've not made a lot of money this way, but I've lived a very full and exciting life across 3 different countries, experiences I wouldn't trade for anything.

This is a lovely perspective! I'll hold on to this treasure you've offered us!

Definitely...we can also make someone's trash into our treasure

@@sonja5058 Thank you that’s so nice!

@@tracyzimmerman7912 indeed!

True! Constantly looking at the new, the wonderous, and the beautiful.

Yeah, such a confidence boost. When watching these kinds of videos, often I find myself getting embarrassed 🎃

Every person has a soul that has experience some measures of joy and sorrow, so it is no small thing that you saw that in them and treated them as human! That's truly one of the first best steps to rehabilitating those to have fallen to their darkness - to show them they can still be seen as people, and redemption is achievable. It's a powerful gift you have!

This totally sounds like something I would do.

@@RyuuRider wow... you have a way with words. Felt nice reading it. :)

This is so me. I will literally save ants one by one and then in the next moment be watching a documentary about a serial killer. Human and animal behavior fascinate me no matter what it is.

I'm INTP, and I would act much the same. Murderers don't kill most of the people they meet. In fact, I know a man who is in prison for attempted murder. I've known him since he was small, and always had behavior problems, but we have always liked each other. I don't trust him though, and he doesn't complain about that.

Ditto

Me too 🥰

Hi! Always great to see you in the comments section. So I’d highly recommend you join our Discord server, I think you’ll really love it on there. I’m on there pretty much everyday. The link is in the description of the video, if you do join then send me a DM on there and I’ll show you how things work! ~ Nathan

@@lovewho Okay, I'll check it out!

I also love that quote! So let me guess your (future?) favorite book: Pilgrim at Tinker Creek by Annie Dillard

@@martinstoelting2707 never heard of it!

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In my view if you gain something from each of those projects then them being unfinished isn't an issue. Perhaps it's the case that things aren't 'abandoned' it's more that the important aspects of them have already been acquired and it's time for the next journey to take place ~ Nathan

@@lovewho True. I will choose to look at it that way. And I’m knowledgeable in a little bit of everything. Or so it seems.

@@lovewho Not only do you provide so much valuable insight in your delightful videos, but you also take the time to read, process, and further your insights in the ensuing comment sections. You're exactly the kind of person I would have been friends with (back when I knew how to make and maintain friendships!). Thank you for what you're doing.

This is an interesting observation. It seems like high Fi users often have more of a balance when it comes to navigating relationships with people because they don't typically make the mistake of over-extending themselves and adjusting to other people's feelings too much which is something high Fe users can do ~ Nathan

You think we are the most well-liked type??? Awwww😅🤗

Huh, interesting point, INFJ. As an Fi (INFP) I did need to LEARN not to overfeel and give too much love though. But, perhaps it is easier for us to recognize the imbalance and set the boundary. May you find your healthy boundary as well. 💕

@@tmckmusic8584 I assume that’s the challenges of maturing as a human being... though I am pretty sure INFPs are closer to some sort of magical guinea pig... 😂 but yes i get what you mean. It’s an incredible trait to have though :)

@@lovewho Precisely, I could not have said it better. Keeping that bit of your unique code rigid and reserved also brings a certain flair to those relationships I feel - as opposed to just being what the other wants and being remembered as more of a experience than a unique human being.

Hi, as an INTJ I found this explanation to provide a seemingly excellent framework and new understanding for me. Glad to hear it sounds viable to INFPs. Thanks. 🙂

@@glueball214 And what do plan to do with with this newfound understanding 🤔

Well, my curious MBTI compatriot, I will use it twofold, at least. First, at this juncture, I am trying to learn about my type, the cognitive functions and other types. I believe knowledge of one enhances knowledge of the others. I have a good friend, that is either an INTP or INFP. I am going to work on this a bit. I am only seeing MBTI as an adjunct to what I already know of my friends and family. But it has been quite rewarding so far. Thanks again.

That’s a great way to put it.

It’s a special kind of sadness knowing you’ll never learn and experience everything you want to! But I’m glad I have this slice of experience anyway

I thought I was INTP, then ENTP, then INTJ, and then finally, I realized what it was that made me the INFP I truly am. I dealt with childhood emotional neglect, so I rejected my emotions as I was taught to, which made it so difficult to find out what it was that felt wrong with me. I don't know if this is any way relatable to you, but regardless be aware of how much INFP can be altered externally, and even to our own perception, by our experiences. I hope you find the answers you seek! Live well.

I’m an INTP who has thought on occasion that I might be an INFP. What it really comes down to is what you’re doing most of the time. For me, my brain cannot stop trying to solve puzzles. I make puzzles where there aren’t any. I find it really hard to relate to people or empathize with them when I’m puzzling - actually it’s kind of impossible. I have two modes. “Human” mode which I have to dig deep for and I do it because they tell me I should, and “Robot” mode which feels like my identity. Importantly - my values and beliefs never factor in to what I think is true. They can guide me towards what to research, but the end result of what is true is completely out of my control. I’ve also noticed that I have a tendency to seek out “dark truths” that horrify my INFP friend. I can’t share them with her, because, going out on a limb here, I almost think the experience of them is more real to her than it is to me. In a weird way, she’s more grounded in reality. To me - this is all like a game. I felt that way very strongly when I was a child too - that life is all a game. The consequence of that thinking is that you can be incredibly selfish when other people’s emotions don’t seem like they should be your problem, or even a factor in your consideration of what to do next. I’ve never been an outright mean person, however. When I’ve been told I was mean - it’s upset me. I’ll often apologize or try to make things right, and I feel guilty about it. I feel just as guilty if I’m wrong. If I tell someone something, and then learn I was an idiot, I’ll apologize to them and give them the correct information because I feel really bad about it. My INFP and I share an adventure lust though. In that way I differ from most INTPs. If you look into “Objective Personality” they break the types down into 512 and they describe my flavor of INTP as having high “play” in my function stack. Hopefully some of this information helps you in some fashion to reach the right conclusion about your type. If you’re an INTP - I’m sorry, and good luck. If you’re an INFP - welcome to the world. We need your kind 💕

@@AK-jt7kh You sounds exactly like my ISTP husband.

oops... sound. How we argue and make decisions shows us our top “go to” cognitive functions. Besides this guy (of course😆) my other favorite pods to explore are Personality Hacker and CSJoseph.

@@RyuuRider u sound like an istp

Firstly, this comment is extremely well written - there are some really poetic parts. Secondly, if you haven't already I'd highly recommend joining our discord server (the link in the description of the videos). There are lots of people on there (myself included) who would like to hear from fellow people of their type who have these insights. You might also enjoy the community on there a lot ~ Nathan

This is always amazing to hear! Sometimes I wonder whether my ramblings in the videos are actually going to resonate with people in some way so it means a lot when people leave comments like this one ~Nathan

At this point I see them as two routes to the same destination. They definitely have very distinct flavours to them though which can be helpful in identifying which type a person is ~ Nathan

@@lovewho I'm enjoying your videos. This is one of the better descriptions of INFPs I've seen, and I've seen a lot. I'm sure there would immediately be a voice in your NT head saying "You only liked it because there was no criticism in it", but I really did relate a lot to it. I actually did quite a lot of travel when I was younger, before I worked out that the third dimension is the most overrated dimension. I went to places that seemed exotic and a bit extreme to me like the Middle East, India, Myanmar and SE Asia. I was always disappointed by how everywhere I went I was still me. Didn't matter how far I flew. The quality of being me was inescapable, unavoidable, infinite for all I knew. Even setting that aside, the scenery changed but it was mostly the same general stuff, and people were people no matter how they looked or what they did or which language they spoke. They might look different and live vastly different lives but in terms of me not particularly wanting to talk to any of them they were exactly the same as the people back home. I realised that seeing the world was not changing me or my worldview at all. And I've never left the country since, though my worldview has changed beyond all recognition. I traded flights for rabbit-holes, and regret nothing. On the darker side, the kind of travel that INFPs crave often leads leads to drug problems for at least some phase of their life. But I'd imagine that happens to most Ne users. Anyway, thanks for the video.

@@jeffjones7108 This might be one of the best ways to describe it that I've seen. I do enjoy travel, but certainly not as much as other friends that I know. It's for the same reason that you mentioned: I am always still me when I get there. The time always seems better spent working on myself to grow as a more I interesting and well-developed person, and to cultivate my interests. I also get really frustrated when traveling for short periods of time, because I really want to get the essence of a place, not just see the popular places, but that's very hard to do without spending a significant amount of time there.

It's really not; that's an all-too-common misconception. Both Fi and Fe can be highly empathetic. Fe is just more people-oriented and more concerned with social harmony. Fi is more concerned with individuality and the inner world, but that can include the individuality and inner worlds of others as well as our own.

@@jeffjones7108 What?? That's just so bizzare. Are you sure your INFP? When I travel, I pick up the language and I find it fascinating to talk to local natives in their own language and learning a whole different way of seeing the world. Even learning their language is fascinating, because it gives insight to their mindset. And any bit of their culture that resonated with me slowly became a part of me. And that's how I see myself, as part of those different experiences that shaped me. As a consequence, whenever I'm in any of those places, I'm seen by others to be very weird/eccentric because I'm not completely any one thing/culture but an amalgamation of all the things I choose to be. I think Ne is "seeing different things and trying to find more differences and complexities" whereas "Ni is "seeing different things and recognizing that they're all just the same (in some ways)", which sounds much more like your description. I'm guessing that you are (MAYBE!) ISFP (because ISFPs have third slot Ni and no Ne). Beyond your seeing-everything/everyone-as-the-same Ni, the stance of "regretting nothing" in my opinion is also an ISFP mark (along with "living to my fullest potential" and "journey of self-discovery"). I've never heard of INFPs and drugs, but from what I've read ISFPs are more likely than other types to look to drugs, gambling or extreme sports.

Hi I'm also infp 4w5 :) and I write sometimes about my identity crisis too😭

I’m an INFP 4w5 too! I think the strong 5wing makes me research things a lot, I have so many tabs and tangents open. Also identify crisis moments - I don’t know how I fit in the world sometimes or who I should be, what I should do...

@@shiran4204 Jayy someone that gets me! Writing is how I cope with stuff. I put it into a song and sing it as often, as the emotions need to be processed. Later I can look back at it with distance. It’s what many INFPs do :D

@@zauberholz8357 Sameee. Just before I saw you comment I deleted tabs, because I have way too many 😭 I really relate to your comment so much ♡

@@bagel7080 hehe it’s a struggle to keep on top of it! I should do the same. I relate to your comment too; I don’t know what I’d do without music and words, they are such a refuge!

Beautifully put! ~ Nathan

I also really like seeing what others think about the random things I like, though no one really cares or sometimes they think it's stupid so I feel stupid and that's why I'm very cautious about showing anyone the things I like, cautious as in terrified of judgement

Not paying attention to small talk is a positive trait in my view ~ Nathan

@@lovewho another reason why I get Intps

Being disinterested in small talk doesn't mean you're not empathetic. I think we generally care more about the deeper aspects of people than about superficialities - and I think that's more meaningful. That being said, if you do really care about someone, it's probably good to compromise a little in terms of giving them what makes them feel cared about. And if you don't - that's okay. We have the right to choose who's right for us and not throw away our energies indiscriminately on meaningless interactions.

Thank you very much, that means a lot ~Nathan

Really great to hear that it resonated with you. INFPs have always been a type that I've struggled to understand so it's nice to know that I might be getting somewhere ~ Nathan

Yes, and the quickest way for me to get upset or burnt-out is not being able to find a different way to look at something (especially my 8-5 job, ugh)

What I dislike the most about the whole debate is how the bulk of the population can't reasons that there are people who have developed both at least in some capacity or another. I find the duality and division to be quite depressing.

@@MrKillswitch88 Oh, absolutely. There's a lot of simplistic black-and-white thinking in this community, and it's frustrated me too. People can have all kinds of combinations of traits in reality, and can be well-rounded in ways that this limited set of archetypes does not account for.

Well if you like my eloquent speaking in the videos then feel free to join the discord server and I’ll be sure to have some eloquence prepared for you there… ~ Nathan

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Great comment, yes that's something that I think applies to INTPs as well. Cool to see you here in the comments! ~ Nathan

Feeling thinking judging it's the order you do it in though so emotional intelligence is a factor in thought process and decision making empathy is like an intuitive sympathetic thing. Like I feel ya bro.

This allows feels really great to hear! Thank you for this comment ~ Nathan

Love it! Really glad that you enjoyed the video ~Nathan

@@lovewho Aaaw thank you Nathan!

Thank you very much, that’s great to hear! ~ Nathan

Thank you so much for this comment! ~Nathan