I gotta say I really appreciating Chad Chad blurring out the faces of any children that appear in the Tik Toks/reels she shows. The exploitation of children on social media has become so ridiculously normalized and it’s nice to see someone with a fairly substantial platform working to not spread that
No because like everyone with kids always says that then immediately after complain about not being able to have a life anymore. Like make up your mind
The worst part is its wording too. Specifically saying her greatest joy is BEARING children. So the pregnancy and the birthing are the best part. Not raising the kid. Not seeing them become their own person. None of that. Just being fat and miserable and pushing them out.
I love how the "A Twinge of Cringe" is progressively getting less fancy and more frantic like Chad Chad is being like held against their will to rapidly make these videos
the cringe as of late has surpassed the speed to just cringe twinge. this is a cringe BINGE and if chad doesn’t hurry up…. the consequences are otherworldly
I can't believe no one in the comments is talking about how insane that groomer reel was. My jaw dropped for that woman. Hope you escaped that man's basement wherever you are 🙏
i’m 29 and 19 year olds are like kids to me and every normal person my age feels the same. men do NOT think a woman under 25 who is 10+ years younger than him is mature for her age; that’s just something they say to make her believe they are on equal footing. at best he’s a huge man child that no woman his age wants to put up with so he dates much younger women who might not know any better and at worst he’s a groomer
He said with his whole chest he likes to "train" young girls to be "the perfect woman for" him and HE'S NOT BEING INVESTIGATED FOR P*DOPHILIA??? Absolutely insane to me that this mindset is being normalized again. Truely the world would have been better without Andrew Tate in it.
@@spongebobonmolly preach 🙌 having turned just turned 29 as well and going back to college, this could not resonate more. I'm with @leCuttlefish... that laugh of hers was haunting
As a woman, thinking is too hard and stressful. That's why I need feminism, so my wife can make all the money and tell me what to think. I can't live my traditional housewife life if both of us arent allowed to use our brains
As a woman, thinking is my favorite thing. I need feminism so I can be allowed to think and tell my wife those thoughts so she doesn't have to think for herself.
you can absolutely be soft spoken and reserved (i very much am irl) WITHOUT bringing down the women who are loud and argumentative. like without those women we quite literally wouldn't have rights 😭
I saw a reel the other day where a girl was talking about how people who don't like some foods are "immature" and need to "grow up" and mentioned that her mom forced guests to eat food they didn't like (huge yikes) and immediately afterwards made a reel where she talked about how she hates beans 😭😭 biggest hypocrite ever
Agree with froggy, I have autism, have been forced to eat food by strangers (at camp or whatever) have thrown up and then scolded for throwing up and they *never* listened or had compassion and now I am 32 and when I eat with strangers and they offer me food, I already start gagging, because I know how this'll end. I eat alone.
As a woman I admit thinking is indeed very stressful and tiring. Sadly I'm happily engaged to a woman so we have Steve, a third member at our home to think for us. While me and my fianceé go to work, cook food, play with our cats, go out and blissfully live our life without thinking. Steve sits on the couch pondering about life and death and the modern tragedy of our society and taxes all day
feed Steve some salmon oil as a treat, great for omega-3s and reducing suicidal impulses brought on by Pondering. best of luck to you happy couple and also steve !
I love this idea. I don't even have a wife, but do you think I could also get a Steve to do my thinking for me so I could have a peaceful night's sleep?
@@pizzadogma No, Meta is far worse. Studies show that it spread far more qanon nonesense than any other social media platform of course Elon Musk is friends with so many neo nazis and he is speedrunning to make twitter worse than facebook now. If youre not a right wing extremist you aren't welcome on twitter these days
I remember how I got banned for telling a guy AI artists are not artists but when I reported porn or dudes using the n word, Instagram said it’s not going against their guidelines.
the sheer amount of times I've seen "women ☕" in the comments of a reel about a woman struggling with something needs to be recorded in an archive somewhere cause there's a LOT
i saw a video talking about a woman getting suffocated in a plastic bag by her husband and people in the comments were saying “W” “Shoulda kept her mouth shut” “I hate it when women talk back” “Skill issue”
@@Gunkerjunk FR LIKE reels are genuinely so fucked im just here for my silly fandoms not excusing 1st degree homicide I could see a video of a lady crying cause her mermaid show went well and when i open the comments its split between ppl defending her figure and ppl saying shes "too fat to be happy" LIKE WHO CARES ABT THAT!!! COMMENR ABT HER SHOW!! BE NORMAL
@@fricketyfracktraintrack I guess they only advertise the racist shit to white people or presumed white people because when I started getting more Mexican reels in my algorithm the racism stopped too 😭😭😭 Instagram literally goes you're white? Go ahead and have this little nugget of racism just for you sweetie 💗 you're not white? oopsies have some sexism instead ☺️
I was watching instagram reels with my cousin, and there was a 8-10 year old girl dancing, and the comments were filled with old men saying stuff like "nice ass." "Bend over" and other creepy things. I'm scared for these kids on social media.
As a women who loves cars, Instagram reels and comments makes me feel so insecure and bad about myself with how many videos there are of sexist car guys talking about how stupid and clueless women are when it comes to cars, and saying if a woman can drive, then she's not even a woman, and women can only get fancy cars if they're from their sugar daddies, not from their own interests and hard work. Thank you so much Chad Chad we need more people and videos pointing out how bad reels are. Edit: OMG guys thank you all so much for lifting me and others up as well as sharing your experiences and being so supportive, I've never met such an amazing and nice comment section, thank you all so much!! ♥️
Oh my god this is so real Istg literally every reel for any hobby or interest will have hundreds of guys getting misogynistic in the comments it’s crazy As a trans guy it’s made me lose sm self confidence, like no wonder I always feel out of place in spaces full of cis men 😭😭
@@chairmanofdemons4206Those guys are out of touch imo. Kind of like a minority that feels like a majority because they are annoying and loud af? Either way, you do you babe! If they are all assholes it's sometimes better to not fit in, especially those kinda circles. I'm sure you'll be able to find other dudes who are more chill and have actual human decency, cheering on you!
it's such a strange horrible worldview, to think womanhood is as fragile as driving a car. women and cars can be wonderful, I think about lesbian mechanics and soccer moms in their minivans and places where it's illegal for women to drive but they do anyways and the road ahead of us to go where we please.
reels is a nightmare. even if its not an objectively absurd video, the way shorts and reels literally miss their target audiences completely and get shown to the exact opposite audiences and induces rage interactions is insane. i'll open the comments on a reel i liked and feel like i opened a radioactive cesspool
It's somehow an old ass man or woman making the most out of pocket comments! It could be about cute puppies and some 50 year old make comments about "back in my day women..." like where did this come from?!?! Who made you think this was ok to not only think, but type and send out to the word to see?!?
Who's to say targeting the opposite audience isn't their intent? Facebook was exposed for giving more exposure to posts with lots of angry reactions and now they own Instagram. They know rage is the key to engagement and thus money.
@@waywardstoner9416i tell people this but they call me crazy, which it turns, make me feel crazier. This is why I stopped using Instagram anymore. It’s so fucking transparent.
@waywardstoner9416 oh yeah I agree 100% and I definitely feel like even some of the ones she highlighted here are rage bait. but even genuine well meaning content (to me, its all subjective I guess) ends up at the wrong place and somehow still gets ragey interaction 😭
Instagram comments are a cesspool in general. I'm practically getting death threats at the moment because I commented on a dog post about them saying their aussie has crazy anxiety and I said "unfortunately a lot of working breeds develop anxiety when they are forced to live sedentary, indoor lives." People are calling me all sorts of names and saying "lol yeah my doctor told me to exercise more for my anxiety!" Are you a fucking working dog? Jesus Christ you and the dog are not the same thing
OH MY GOODNESS. THE BUTTER CARNIVORE LADY. I thought nobody else knew who she was! I hate her reels with a passion and she is my arch nemesis. Spreading that veggies and fruits are full of harmful “anti nutrients” is extremely damaging, especially when the people buying into this are middle aged women, many of whom are mothers. And the “doctors” on Instagram that support extreme health fads like this need a whole video to themselves.
I wonder if it's really butter that these are eating. There are a few sweet things that you can make resemble butter. Or looks just like butter. Wonder how many are lying?? 🤥
I guess it's rage bait content? Not for me, though. When I saw her bite into that butter I gagged, so I would be too busy vomming in the corner to leave a hate comment.
3:28 The implication that someone who is (presumably) a Christian thinks it's more important for women to be obedient to their husbands than to be firm in their belief is wild to me. How do you misunderstand Christianity that badly?
As a Christian, it's really funny because the verse they're talking about actually states that married couples need to depend on each other while putting all of their faith in God. The women submitting part is still there, but it's also explicitly stated that men have to submit to God in return and must be ready to do everything for his wife and she will do the same for him. The verse evokes a sense of mutualism and teamwork in marriage where both parties play equal parts in it. It's a huge shame that these "Christians" purposefully twist the message into something sexist and disgusting.
Right?! Let’s not forget the Bible’s description of the ideal woman includes “She clothes herself with strength and dignity.” She’s also described as somewhat of a business woman who BUYS PROPERTY and sells goods in the market to help provide for the family.
@@TheRealAmadeusMozart Exactly. “Submit yourselves ONE TO ANOTHER” “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and GAVE HIMSELF UP FOR HER” “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” …AKA, wether man or woman, be considerate and humble. The idea that humility is a “feminine trait” is disgusting to me, I think it’s demeaning to both women AND men.
Honestly yeah, not too different to the evangelics who live in my country who don't even allow women in their communities to wear anything above the knee... or anything else besides dresses or skirts, really.
the sad part is that reels used to be chill but now when you enter a comment section on any reel (even a completely innocent one) you have to brace yourself for the bullshit you are about to witness
For me it was super chill and funny like 6 months ago, then hyper religious, bigoted, and racist stuff started randomly popping up everywhere. Not to mention that trend of being predatory towards children who (for some reason) had access to reels.
Theory is: Mojority of these creators are millennials so are the reel viewers. Smth is up with their anger issues/beliefs. We all remember how a group of them bullied an artist on Tumblr to un@living herself because she drew a character from Steven Universe "wrong"? Or the shit their did/said on MySpace? Yeah these people are now adults raising children... Not all millennial ofc but seems like the ones that make those out of pocket comments and videos
@@arymotana1573I actually noticed the opposite. The dumbest, most insane and straight up inhumane comments I see were usually written by conservative boomers and by teenage boys who haven't been successful with girls and have been influenced by alpha podcasts
Okay I was just rewatching this and I got to the first one ('I'm a housewife and my husband tells me what to think') and it honestly annoyed me soooo much. The mental load of running an entire household is massive and many women in het relationships are made solely responsible for it. So literally shes probably doing nothing BUT thinking. No time for politics when every second of your life goes into laundry, sweeping, cooking, remembering appointments, getting kids ready for school, buying presents, making grocery lists, feeding the dog, cleaning counters, mopping floors, dusting...
@@pawprintssystem5481 The amount of energy and logistics that go into secondary labor is real. I'm honestly impressed with anybody that WANTS to be the house partner in a relationship. My dad was the stay-at-home parent for my family growing up, and he HUSTLED. I can't even imagine what goes on the heads of the people saying that being a "housewife" is "easy."
Ikr. Ofc it's hard to run an entire household AND devote time to making money, researching current events and politics etc. Doesn't mean you should never think critically though.
@nospoonfulofmayonnaiseforme Sure, but these people are simply exhausted. Thats why family models where one person is responsible for everything are just not sustainable
It's totally fine and great to be a homemaker, but it's also totally fine and great to be something else! Heck, you can even be both! Why do people think those two things can't coexist?
Exactly. Like nothing wrong with being a stay at home wife. But to teach your daughter and son that women's job is to stay home and clean and make babies is so messed up.
Exactly. Like nothing wrong with being a stay at home wife. But to teach your daughter and son that women's job is to stay home and clean and make babies is so messed up.
Exactly. Like nothing wrong with being a stay at home wife. But to teach your daughter and son that women's job is to stay home and clean and make babies is so messed up.
The biggest issue I have with the homemaker trend, is pretending that the men are in charge and not infact just large babies. How can you take anyone seriously when they take orders from someone with the emotional intelegence of a loaf of white bread. Which these women seem to be very fond of.
The hilarious part is that most of these women are often the breadwinners through their social media etc. Many of their husbands either don't work, or are "self-employed" but don't bring in nearly as much as their wives' RU-vid channel. But they keep up the charade so he can feel like a big manly provider.
Not all men are bad, if a woman truly loves a man who she decides to marry out of her own good will she will treat him with respect and appreciation, not like a baby, would you treat the person you marry like someone who can't think, it would be condescending and arrogant of wife in my opinion.
@@anaclarabatista1804I think you misunderstood the post. The types of men who ascribe to this tradwife sorta deal are the types who want a live-in maid mommy more than an actual partner, that's what they're referencing. But it also sounds like you agree with the overall point, that nobody in good faith wants their partner to never care for or think for themself, gender notwithstanding.
4:25 the hypocrisy is that if she was really RESERVED, HUMBLE and SPFT SPOKEN she wouldn’t have published her very LOUD opinions on social media. Just saying.
As someone who uses Instagram for art and tends to stay on the art community side of reels. I’m terrified everytime “normal” content ends up on my feed. It’s always just filled with some form of bigotry or stupidity. The comment sections are so bad on any post. Reporting does nothing, I genuinely believe you could kill a man and get away with it on Instagram with how poor their moderation is.
Literally same, I’ll be scrolling through people’s animations then out of no where there’s a bulked guy in a gym with a saturated filter saying 💯💯‼️🦅👹👹WOMENS RIGHTS WERE A MISTAKE RAHH👹👹🦅🦅‼️
Idk how you do it because sexism also happens with artists (including women of course), even when I could find someone in the lgbt community or that seemed open (or "weird") there was always something off. If we exclude homophobes drawing lesbians and those clichés, it's still pretty messed up. Some ppl that like "feminine guys and masculine girls" happen to be transphobic or openly show disgust and hatred towards non-gendered ppl, and then there are those who want "real feminine girls and real masculine boys" but act like allies. The worst? The actual ppl from the community that act the same way and will treat you like sh*t if you ask them to respect others. I've been treated like a white cishet guy for many stupid reasons and I'm just white lol Hats off to you for avoiding these freaks, I don't have the patience anymore, good luck keeping your space a healthy one
actually, yes chad. my great grandma would get my brother and boy cousins actual toys for christmas, and get all the girls their own set of silverware. the idea was that by the time we were married we'd have a full set. i grew up in the south in a very religious and conservative family. you can imagine how that felt every year lol
Why couldn't she just gift toys as a child and a silverware set when you were older? Like now that I'm older getting a gorgeous silverware set sounds amazing haha but I wouldn't want to have that as a kid.
Funny thing is, when I was 17 I asked for silverware, a microwave, and other household amenities for Christmas because I was moving out soon and I didn’t want to pay for a bunch of new appliances.
I can't help feeling like the "submit to your husband" crowd are self conscious about being *into* that and want to make it seem like it's the way everyone should rightly be rather than a kink
I think it’s all clickbait. They know it’s ridiculous but they don’t care because they are making money off the views. They lean into it and treat it like an acting job 😂
There are legit some people who believe it but I think a lot of them are going for outrage clicks or are just trying to profit from that particular community. A lot of people got weirdly wealthy with that kind of thing so of course it caught on to at least some extent
yeah theres a difference between a kind and romanticizing and entirely abusive relationship. You want someone to dominate you in the bedroom go on get you thing done, but once you start saying how awesome a controlling partner who won't let you do what you want or separate you from friends and family and you're promoting terrible behavior.
The comments on instagram reels are so disgustingly hateful and problematic and I’m genuinely upset Instagram is allowing that type of stuff on their app. Why are people like this
i remember someone calling a lady with the trauma of ab0rting a baby by r@pe, a 'child murderer' . a thirteen year old boy, calling a r@pe victim, 'child murderer'. so obiously i reported the comment. guess what instagram said? its cant be taken down because it doesnt go against the guidelines. i'm sorry, calling someone 'child murderer' is okay now? what a wild world we live in
It's the same with RU-vid shorts tbh. There is so much transphobia, misogyny and homophobia when you first open the app. And sometimes the algorithm seems to stop working and it starts feeding you all that shit again. These major companies don't give a shit. As long as they make money, all is good to them
my husband and i have an age gap but if he ever said “i like em young” unironically?? in public?? or showed that kind of previous dating pattern?? there’s absolutely no way i would’ve married him are you kidding me omg. i hope that girl finds her worth and a better partner bc that guy will discard of her the second she starts expressing differences of opinion or once she’s 22, whichever comes first
Differences of opinion will get you into trouble even if they stay after 22. I am usually really quiet in public spaces and when I was younger I would often find someone who seemed to know what they were doing and just follow along with them. (I had a very sheltered upbringing so was anxious about "doing something wrong.") Many guys interpreted these first impressions as me being a good submissive wife type. Noooope. I am "intelligent" and contemplative, meaning I've been a learner with strong opinions ever since I was young. :P Get me feeling comfortable with you and I can be a total chatterbox too. XD I'm just really reserved and shy at the start because of my past. Until I learned the pattern of problematic expectations, I ran into a bunch of manchildren who thought they struck the lottery with me and thought they'd have the perfect person to finish molding the rest of the way into their dream partner. My first ex was even 10.5 years older than me, which I didn't know when we started dating!!! Now I have a partner who loves how smart I am and is continually amazed at how thoughtful I am with so many different things. He loves my ADHD ramblings and how I can talk about so many different topics. He appreciates me for who I _really_ am. I hope that young woman finds her power someday too.
@@clockside wow reading this was almost like i was reading about myself... Too similar omg 🫶. Hope ill find someone caring and understanding too. Wish you lots of love.
To be somewhat serious, part of the reason I hate this trad wife thing is because their "look" is so strongly identified with them now. I am an adult woman who likes wearing skirts and vintage-y clothing, and I love my long hair. I am NOT however conservative, super-Christian, a homemaker, etc....yet I feel that people put me in the same box as them.
I often have the same concerns over my chosen way of dressing. I just try to think of all the amazing suffragettes, writers, scientists, and other powerful women throughout history who have advanced women's rights while looking amazing in their skirts and long hair. If people are stupid enough to conflate a skirt with being a conservative douchebag's willing doormat, it's probably a them problem.
i agree with squash6497. if there's anything even slightly "rebellious" that you're into, run with that. tattoos, loud jewelry, unconventional piercings, combat boots, wild makeup, graphic tees, loud or mismatched patterns/colors, even the way you talk or act. you don't have to change your style (i love skirts and "traditional" clothing too!), just add some elements that normally clash with their personas.
Literally wear what you want, you’re free to reclaim it for yourself, for every trad wife with that look there are like, 6 lesbians that take if infinitely more seriously.
Lol, didn't think this would get any attention, thank you. :) Fwiw, I do dress as I want. I kinda wish I wanted piercings or tattoos, but they're not really my thing. I used to dye my hair burgundy and loved it, but it's a lot of time and money when your hair is really long. Mostly the annoyances are things like 1. people who assume I'm conservative and then literally get angry when they find out I'm a nerd with a life of my own (f 'em) 2. on social media, I'll find someone new to follow about vintage clothing or long hair care or traditional crafts, and then I'll get, like, three videos in and find out they're anti-vax, think public school is the spawn of Satan, are against all "chemicals," whatever I've also noticed some people I've followed for years now have short, punky hair and are doing an 80s thing. I wonder if they've felt similar pressure.
I'm so done with the whole tradwife thing. I love cottagecore style, but it has been infiltrated by tradwife stuff. Wearing flowery dresses and making homemade bread is some of my favorite things to do (I for real watched this while eating homemade french bread), but the idea of submitting to a husband makes me wanna puke. We need more content of flowery dominant girls! 👏👏👏
Can't wait for this next generation of kids who rebel against their parents by getting an education and a career and only ever buying bread from the store like normal people
The tradwifes are ruining it for the rest of us who just like making food from scratch as a hobby. Let my nonbinary self make my gf homemade rosemary and basil loaves in peace, goddamnit!!! I can't make a cute heart-shaped pie without someone thinking I'm an asshole now Ó╭╮Ò
I agree with most of this, but making your own bread can be great. My aunt has this peasant bread recipe and it's so moist and dense and it's so good with soup. Don't throw the bathwater out with the baby. You can reuse that water. Maybe sell it to buy a better baby because the previous one was a dud.
Don't lie to the next generation of kids. College is going to cost $1M a semester, the only job they'll be able to get after graduating is part time at McDonald's, and bread will cost $100 a loaf by the time they are college age.
@@mushu_beardie2556 I bake my own bread, but I do it for the love of taking a bunch of raw ingredients and turning it into something edible, not to make tiktok content about how I'm living my dream of becoming my 18th century husbands chattle
As a woman I can confirm that my ovaries rupture at every thought I make. Fellas, make sure your woman doesn't have to make a single thought in her life ever so she doesn't end up in the hospital with severe damage to the ovaries 😔😔
I'm obsessed with how dead inside the butter girl sounds. I guess the light dies inside of you when you think that frozen butter is just as good if not better than ice cream
I don’t comment much on reels other than saying a dog is cute or poking fun at transphobes, which is why I was super surprised I got put in commenting timeout on IG while everyone else absolutely obliterates world record speed run for every slur insult and threat in drag Queen comment sections over and over. Like ok I’m SORRY I saw a guy complaining about pronouns and replied that his are probably bo/zo I promise I will never do something so deprived ever again
Like Do whatever the fuck you want with your life BUT LEAVE THE CHILDREN ALONE. These are the same kind of people who'd preach 'think about the kids' when topics of lgbtq comes up
Yeah fr! plus they're like "I'm not homophobic but I don't want gay people to influence children with their ideology-" YOURE DOING THE SAME THING BRO... we are not making it out of the misogyny trenches....
good, that's the same rage i see when i see liberal idiots promoting degenerate behaviors and becoming teachers to pass your horrible narcissistic agendas, But i forgot you are all hypocrites to the utmost degree :)
this argument is so flawed lol youre pretty much just saying "i hate it when parents brainwash their kids!! which is why i should do it instead" kids are going to adopt the lifestyle of the environment they're in, and im sure you wouldn't call it "pushing" if the parents were promoting more "modern values"
@@azurecerulean1279 And this is how you know you were a kid whose parents, if reels existed at the time, would have out right up on there with the caption "Teaching him that women must submit" or some other bullshit like that. YOU are the child who was raised the way children should not be raised, the same way Instagram reels kids are being raised
Even as a kid, the idea of babydolls was so baffling. Like… that’s you. You’re the baby… but also a mom with a baby??? Like does that baby have a babydoll too??? Is it an infinite cycle of infants who are mother figures to slightly tinier infants??? I never played with babydolls like I was their mom. It always bamboozled me.
@@perpetualsick I know that. I just never really understood why others did that when I was a kid. It looked kinda paradoxical. I didn’t mean it in a judgmental way.
it def is creepy - its the same as those comments about kids who are "going to be so attractive when they grow up" or "wow, that kids a player" - *GROSS, NASTY, STOP IT, GET AWAY FROM ME*
being a tradwife is something you can be very proud of if your husband respects you and you chose this lifestyle but giving a man this much control over you and manipulating your children is insane💀
Ordinary Americans or Canadians can’t afford that “trad life social media grift”. “The rent is too damn high” and so is everything else. Regular men will not demand something that is a financial impossibility. Any guy online desiring that online is either peddling the RP myth to involuntary celibates or very rich. Women that want that lifestyle, they better look elsewhere. Joe six pack needs you to work and no he’s not a feminist. He just likes to eat food and have electricity to watch Netflix after work.
@@kiporaan as a non american and coming from a society as you described. NO, most women aren't happily a slave, they just are mentally trapped to the point where if they don't say they are happy their sanity and social respect/life would be over. That's what survival is- they don't have a choice to think otherwise.
As a trans woman, the hardest part of my transition was getting used to having my brain melt out of my eyes whenever I try to do 2 + 2. My brain is too tiny and woman sized now, but I think when I was man I was able to do 4 + 4!!! Luckily, now I have big big man to tell me how think :)
@@oliviaskidmore5244 I didn’t either! I had my big, strong, manly beef man man big Testosterone man strong man tell me that!!! :0000 The world is too complicated for us fragile women, hm?
Instagram definitely has a tradwife problem - they like to gang up on romantic clothing brands and vintage style influencers, too, if they don't align with their values. Threaths of going to hell are very poised and softspoken indeed.
Instagram couples feel so…off, tbh. I’m not against trad wives, I think it’s great and cute that someone would put so much effort into building a family and has so much respect for her husband. The problem starts when the problematic trad wives start manifesting their “submissiveness” and forcing it onto others. I have long wavy hair that I put ribbons into, a baby face, and very feminine appearance + clothing, however, I swear like a sailor and have a personality that’s probably the farthest thing from “poised, cooperative, and soft-spoken”. I’ve literally had people tell me to my face my personality doesn’t match my face lmfao. Im scared people are gonna start thinking I’m like these people like btch tf is going on on insta 💀 Im religious, I think I’m feminine enough. You can’t change personality. If these “alpha male sigma gigachad” men think that women are slaves, go find yourself a woman that can tolerate being your little maid because I ain’t one of them. It’s funny how I’d probably attract these kinds of men…until they actually got to know me lol. I thought about changing my looks but that would just be bending over backwards again for the patriarchy, ya can’t win regardless 😐
Which is very funny/sad to me because, at least from what I've seen, many vintage influencers are pretty open feminists. I hate that vintage fashion and cottagecore have so much crossover with trad wives because I love the aesthetic but man I don't want to see that trad wife nonsense. Like if you want to be a traditional homemaker, great, have at it. But don't insist it's the "proper" way to live and please don't make it your whole personality 😩
I live within a somewhat lax family. My mother was a clerk (she's retired now because of her health) and my dad is a contractor. We're still what people may consider a "Traditional Family". All of my family are religious, including me. And back when I was a baby, even when my mom dropped me (and my little sister when she came to age) to a Kindergarten when she worked at the day, she still believe the "I have the obligation to care for my children" mindset... And my dad also still has that "I need to be the family's breadwinner". But that convention can be easily broken. When my mom got overtime, my dad makes breakfast and took me to Kindergarten while my mom has an extra rest for the day. When my dad has some slow months, My mom chipped in more for the groceries and bills. Not ONCE they went bananas because my mother isn't "A Tradwife" nor my dad "Isn't paying the bills". We just... Supported each other... Being reasonable and supportive to your family and not clinging to vague and frankly bollocks Societal Constraints??? Gee, what a novel concept!
I think what it’s more of is that these tradwives aren’t really based in the reality that a majority of families can’t have one parent not work. My my mom was the breadwinner growing up, my dad worked from home, but yeah. 🤷🏻♀️ My dad did zoo trips, school pickups, etc. I just have a hard time with people who put down hardworking families because they can’t or don’t want to do tradwife things.
@@samanthacallaway2276 That's the crux of the whole "Traditional Family" persona on the internet. The fact that it is practically impossible to maintain that rigid role expectation. The idea that the wife should be super subservient to the husband also does not work when we all know that extra aspirations to solve a problem would make that solving process much easier. It is such a cringe concept that even many traditional families would find stupid.
I feel quite embarrassed for knowing the "reasons why being naked with men" and the "I'm 29 she's 19" reels. That's exactly why I deleted my Instagram for a while some days ago and I don't plan to get again for some weeks at least...
I have never been as creeped out as I just was by the one of men standing over the phone taking off their belts with POV written on the screen. Just so creeped out about what their intent was. All I can think is SA.
Because they want to...everybody defies happiness in a different way, because everybody has a different thing that makes them happy, if being a housewife with 8 kids is something that makes you feel like the happiest person in the world, I love that for you, keep going.
@@anaclarabatista1804the main concern in those situations is that the parents even have the capacity to care for that many children. After a point, they physically do not have enough energy to give every child the attention and guidance they need, which ends up "parentifying" the elder siblings, which can have lifelong damaging effects. Psychological issues aside, there's also the concern of having enough money to make sure all their needs are met. I once knew a girl who was from a quiverfull family that lived in an RV. Went to stay with them for a week and the conditions they had to put up with were rough. None of the children had space to themselves or room to run around, among other issues I won't get into. The point, of course, is that any lifestyle that makes you happy is valid as long as you don't hurt yourself or others. In the case of having a lot of children, there's a case to be made that it hurts the children via neglect. It's very tiring to see children so often regarded as the property of their parents to do with as they please.
And why would you do that to your children? Having 8+ kids likely means that none of them get enough attention. That’s too much for 2 people to raise, poor kids.
If my wife wants to submit to me and starts thinking the exact same way as I do I'm running for my life, that's some anime yandere bullshit i don't wanna get myself involved in.
There was a reel of a woman telling her mother than her cancer treatment was working, and it was so sweet. I open the comments, and it’s nothing but misery. People complaining that she posted the video and religious fanatics complaining because the mother said “thank you f*****g jesus” upon getting the news. The ability for them to turn everything into something negative is genuinely impressive.
No but fr instagram comments are literally the the scariest place on earth. I need to hype myself up before I open them😭 literally two days ago I commented on this video of tyla and tems saying they were two beautiful African queens and someone replied saying “and what are you? An African whale?”😭😭😭😤
Guys, I never brag. I’m the greatest at not bragging. I’ve literally won dozens of awards for not bragging. The mayor gave me a key to the city for not bragging, cuz I’m just so good at not bragging.
Growing up being told I should want nothing but to be a stay at home mother, is definitely a huge reason I am so unhappy. I should have been at least prepared for the POSSIBILITY that I would need to work a full time job 🙃
The way those reels are the exact type of shit my mom would say :/ I feel so fucking bad for those little girls, it's so incredibly dehumanizing and awful to be reduced to being trained to be a servant for a man you've yet to even meet
can confirm from my own experiences (nothing like this but still bad lol) that is a moment she'll 100% think about one day after they break up and be like "he SAID that! to my face! and i laughed it off? he explicitly told the whole internet, in front of me, what he was doing and i IGNORED it??"
Most of these videos are fake, they pay random girls to participate in them and tell them it's a skit. Also the cars are rented or just parked there. Almost nothing online is genuine.
Look, I’m a Christian (and I’m serious about being a Christian) but my wife NOT thinking for herself sounds like the biggest nightmare I could possibly imagine. Like, and the idea that you’d meet someone God made and loves and then control them into being someone you can just… do whatever to..? Is also awful.
Literally! I’m also a Christian (AFAB non-binary) and hearing all this shit is like, dude what?? Where are these people getting these ideals from cuz I know for a fact it’s not the bible!!
“Do you, Amy, take this man to be your lawful wedded husband?” Me: “Oh. Oh wow. Ok I wasn’t expecting a quiz - and honestly it’s a little overwhelming. Does another woman in the room have a husband who can tell me how to answer that question? This is a bit much for me, can someone ask a man if I can sit down…”
I’m sick and tired of sexist people using Christian as a mean to try and justify their sexism. God never intended on woman not having free will and I hate this misconception.
finally someone is really bringing to light how god awful instagram reels comments sections are its actually a hellhole😭😭i see a comment of someone saying a literal slur and then when i go to type a comment i see a message from instagram telling me to treat people with respect and that disrespectful comments aren't tolerated. instagram community guidelines protecting and serving once again!! (definitely not serving)
6:51 my great grandmother was kept in the basement by her husband. She was a refugee from Eastern Europe during WW2, was the only one from her family to survive the trip, and got stuck with the man who agreed to “save” her from poverty here by marrying her. And these people just relish in that “life”. They have no idea what that life was actually like with their designer apron collection and every chance to leave if they actually needed to
the cooking thirst traps are actually the worst thing conceived, i have seen so many cuts of meat f*ngered, stroked and slapped but my breaking point was a guy who shoved his fingers into a raw egg and kept spitting into his sink 😭
here’s my top 5 things i’ve seen in insta reels COMMENTS: 1. detailed, accurate tutorial on how to make cocaine 2. detailed, accurate, step-by-step of making heroine 3. men justifying pedophilia 4. women telling men they can’t be feminists 5. people contradicting themselves while trying to hate
You know that joke that ChadChad said about “what do you just get your little girl cooking utensils?” The sad thing is that we do. For boys we get them cars and action figures, for little girls we get them babies toys and kitchen play sets. 🥴
as a Christian woman, while I may want to live my life that way I'll never put down other women for being different to me or wanting different things. idk I think that's pretty basic to understand, you can be quiet, reserved, humble etc & also cheer on ur fellow woman while they break gender norms & reach success in their careers... idk it's not that hard
Seeing the mere existence of Bad Bad makes me want to see a league of Egos like Markiplier and Jacksepticeye had but with Chad and alterrations of her name
