INTJ INFJ Differences 

INFJ: We all can come together to build a better world INTJ: Make sure to exclude the stupid ones

"large loose abstract concept" couldn't be more accurate than this.

Not only did you present the differences between the INTJs and INFJs clearly, you also brought up some of the more misunderstood parts about INTJs at 2:10. This is a meme / misconception that comes up all the time. But as you said, it has more to do with a more abstract / loose concept that the INTJ is working towards long-term while being more flexible with their immediate reality, in an attempt to see how they can make the current fit into their long-term goals. The misconception usually portrays it so that the INTJs have planned every day of their life in great details with backup plan after backup plan several devades into the future. While a meme, it's a poor misconception. Thank you for bringing this up!

From my experience with INFJs as an INTJ I have found that it is easy to relate to them on some basic levels but the more we go into specifics like for example reasons to our similar behaviors it turns out to be completely different

My husband is an INTJ, our grown daughter is an INFJ. I’m an INFP so for her entire life her dad and I have had this convo (in good light and bad) of “She’s just you!” “NO! She’s just like youuu!”

To go further, it would be super interesting to compare INFJ & INTJ, concerning : _the difference between Ni-Ti & Ni-Fi loop _the difference between Te & Fe polar function _the difference in language _high expectations concerning relationships (psychology: we likes people who are like us, value Intelligence) Hard to trust people, because Ni, we see what’s wrong, when people lie, and have suspicious behavior.

I enjoyed this breakdown. My husband is an INFJ and I am an INTJ. It's funny because I am working on my Masters for Clinical Counseling while he is completing his degree in Networking and Security. Which is quite opposite of what you'd expect. Although I am not gifted at social norms, I am working on that part of myself in order to be an effective counselor. We both met when he was Information Technology specialist and I was a server administrator. I loved working in engineering but after much diliberation I decided I had a calling for counseling and completely redirected my career goals.

Great summary on all points, thank you! INJ problems: I become slightly irritated when people ask what my goals and aspirations are, because I am like “if that was yo business, you’d know” 🤫

As a J, I never felt or behaved like the typical J: I've always been open-minded, curious, and wanted to be orderly without actually being super orderly. I thrive in a slightly chaotic structure.

You have a really good analysis of the differences between the INTJ and INFJ. I'm an INFJ and my father is an INTJ and of the members of my family I have always been able to relate much more to my father. I personally feel that the INTJ is perhaps a more "useful" member in society for the very fact that you point out how INTJ's are much more driven to make use of the knowledge they accrue. As an INFJ I've always felt maybe a tad lazy in regards to the fact that I am always trying to learn about new things to build a greater understanding of the world (my Ti at work) and how everything works together but I'm not really compelled to put that knowledge back out into the world. (This frustrates my ISTJ husband to no end . . .) But my father who has learned things from Religion and Philosophy to Computer Programming and even Music and music writing has managed to successfully contribute back to the world in various ways in all of those fields. Whereas I feel like I could be content to remain the eternal student. Of course, I'm not saying that is true of all INFJ's, but while I really am driven to learn more and more, I'm just not driven to make "practical" use of that knowledge. At least as far as making use of the knowledge in regards to other people goes. Inside my own head, yeah sure, I make use of all the things I have learned, but in the grand scheme of things I have nothing tangible to show for it. And perhaps worse yet, I don't feel bad about that. I know you did an INTJ/ISTJ analysis video a few years ago, I was just wondering if you have any more (new) thoughts on the subject. As I said, my husband is ISTJ, he has almost no interest in personality or psychology at all ( I find odd as he is a counselor) and trying to get him to explain anything about how he perceives the world is like pulling teeth. I knew nothing about the Jungian personality types when we first met and had been married for over a decade before I found out about our types, but it suddenly made sense why we had such huge communication gaps and differences even in how we retold how we got together and other mutual stories. So, if you had any reason to revisit the ISTJ, I would love to see a video on that. Thank you for your continued insights into personality!

I can see the difference in learning style clearly. I (INFJ) learn just to learn.

fe doesnt always mean social harmony... it also is going to disagree with ppl when they're wrong for the sake of improving them. Ppl often just forget about that dual nature.

My sister won't watch these, because she says your voice is hard to listen to. So i watch them twice

Finally a non "copy paste from some stupid online blog" type dissection. Thanks for a great analysis

First video I've seen from you and I enjoyed it. I am an INTJ and my fiancée is an INFJ and I think you did a really good job of explaining the differences and similarities in a way that is was neither too narrow nor to broad. You provided a useful overview of the differences as well as hitting on some of the similarities. I enjoyed the video and think that it is relevant. I'll check out some of your other videos. We have the most trouble when it comes to our extraverted versus introverted feeling functions. We rarely argue at all, but when we do it is usually because we have a misunderstanding and not because we don't agree. We have learned to take a step back when we feel an argument coming on and see if we really understand what the other person is trying to say. When we do this we tend to nip it in the bud. Although sometimes we have difficult moments because I am too frank with my assessments and it hurts her feelings - that is not a misunderstanding so much as failing to communicate in an optimal manner. We are still learning every day how we can more effectively communicate with each other. We learn as we go, and I love her more than anything in the entire universe! Unconditional love and a willingness to work to understand each other makes every argument bring us closer together and make future arguments both less likely and less intense. To all you INTJ & INFJ partners out there: It can work out beautifully if you really want it and are willing to put in the time and effort required to understand where each person is coming from!

I think I ride the line of INTJ/INFJ. I’m definitely an INTJ, but thinking/feeling is pretty 50/50. If you are looking at it from a cognitive function standpoint, it’s also pretty balanced. I’m naturally inclined to use Te/Fi, but my Fe/Ti is pretty good when I am intentionally putting forth effort. I don’t really value these functions as much, but I am able to use them effectively. I’ve been obsessed with creating artificial Fe since I was an adolescent bc of much childhood trauma due to my lack of it. You explain things well; thank you.

Loose abstract, decisive, that's relieving to hear 🥰 respectfully, INFJ

Female INTJ here. My dear sister is an INFJ. Most of the time the only person we can really relate to is each other. I am married to an ESTJ and she to an ISFJ. Being an Ni married to a sensor, it is a challenge for us to find common interests but we can always turn to each other when we need a deep conversation. I learned a few things about her from the video. Thanks!

I listen to music too much when I am stressed. Is it because of repressed Se

That's a good way of putting introverted feeling. It's not that INTJs don't have feelings, it's just that their feelings are usually kept private. They have intense feelings about certain things, but they are what motivate their behavior and values. Instead of saying 'I love clean places!' out loud or being the spokesman for a recycling group, they quietly show how much they love clean places by quietly picking up trash, and avoiding making a mess themselves. Sometimes, I wonder if I'm a bit more of an INFJ than an INTJ and your example of learning things for the sake of learning itself is a good one. I often read about things and take the time to learn about them, even when it is something that isn't obviously useful to what my job is or what my big goal in life is. Unless, that is, my big over-all goal might actually be to learn as much as I possibly can. There are times when I'm not sure what my over-all goal is (which is also sometimes when I'm very stressed or feeling depressed which happens a lot), so it's tough to tell if I'm naturally not highly goal oriented like an INFJ is, or if I'm a frustrated INTJ because what I thought was my big goal in life isn't working out. Also, the part about binges that you mention in your videos is spot on. It's not something that I've seen in other INTJ videos, so I appreciate you being open about it. Its not something that is easy to talk about or admit to since some of the things that one can binge on have such negative connotations in society. Like you clarify so well, it's not that we're addicted to the thing, we're just binging on it to escape from something that is stressing us out. As soon as we find a way to resolve the stressful situation and the pressure of it is lifted, our obsession with whatever it was we were binging on evaporates. This aspect of my personality has taken my wife a long time to come to grips with. At first, she was worried that I was addicted to gaming, but once she realized that it was an escape from pressures at work, she stopped trying to help me get over a perceived addiction to it. As soon as the work situation that was upsetting me was resolved, I quit spending all of my free time playing video games. I still play them, but not obsessively. I have many and quite varied interests and hobbies, any one of which I may find myself binging on whenever I'm stressed or upset about something. Now, I think that she's glad that I deal with stress and frustration in these ways rather than by being violent or abusive, because she's actually taken an interest in my hobbies and sees them as ways to spend time with me rather than just leaving me to it and worrying about me getting obsessed with it again. Update: A few days ago, I saw a video and read articles about personality type variants or subtypes like Dominant, Creative, Normalizing and Harmonizing that can be variants on any personality type. This really helped me clarify what type I am. I now think that it is possible that I am truly an INTJ, but that I have the Harmonizing variant which is less outwardly cold, calculating and unemotional than the INTJ basic type. I care a bit more about getting along with people and creating or maintaining harmony in relationships by avoiding confrontation than I otherwise might. I might be convinced that I am correct and the other person is incorrect, but if I sense that insisting that they are incorrect will damage the relationship, or at least lead to an emotional fight that will be unpleasant to cope with, I will keep my assertions to myself. "In friendships, it is sometimes better to be content than right." as my grandma used to say.

Infj’s deal with patterns within people, we think abstractual while also thinking logical... we compare and contrast everything. Analytical, abstractual and scientific! everything has to make sense to us. We are emotional bodies with a very logical mind again contrast at its best xx (p.s thank you for your video) xx

Good watch! I agree on the differences stated in your video. I’m an INFJ that’s in a relationship with an INTJ. We’re actually very similar, but the differences that you stated are very much true. I’m a sociology major, so you can see my Fe interest in society and wanting to improve it somehow. Her on the other hand, she’s a massage therapist that eventually wants to get into business. She has real estate 🏡 in mind, but she’s very much interested in how the human body works as a system. She was interested in neuroscience when she was younger, and was very appreciative of the Neuroscience of Personality book that I gave her for Valentine’s Day 2 years ago. She’s also more private with her feelings. I tend to wear my feelings on my sleeve. As you mentioned, we’re both very future oriented.

Thank you so much for this video, it was really helpful! For my whole life I thought that I am an INFJ because I have always been highly emotional. But your example of reading a book for simply reading it or for using the information really made me connect more to the INTJ than the INFJ. Thank you for all of the examples!

Very, very interesting.👍🏻 Seems the INTJ learns for a specific purpose, As an INFJ, I am driven to learn for Curiosity sake most of the time, as you mentioned. Seems the INTJ is a bit more “practically purposeful” in life than the INFJ in that arena. But it explains why I was interested in books that explained how mechanical things worked as a kid, still am. My hobby is designing or modifying airports in MS Flight Simulator. The creator in me needs to explore. I have more fun with that sometimes than actually flying. Flying a plane in real life sometimes overwhelms the Se, too much eye candy out the window, distracting to the needs of maintaining altitude and direction sometimes....sometimes but usually not always. 😀🛫

Your ability to articulate these thoughts and feelings I have struggled to explain my whole life is beyond appreciated. Thank you for helping me finally find the words for these feelings no one understands . Thank you from the bottom of this infjs heart

I do love the video it is very informative i find it accurate in some ways. I am an INFJ and my bf is INTJ. Now i understand why i am more interested to waste my time binge watching documentaries and anything about learning something that sparks my interest and he on the other hand is more interested researching about things that are practical and how to apply it based on daily basis.

🤔@Chris G - AsuraPsych That’s exactly it as you basically said: ‘there is this large abstract loose concept or goal that life is shifted towards, very decisively ‘.

I love how thorough and detailed you were in setting the similarities and differences of these two types! Also loved that you give concise examples; this video is just so full of information! Many personality types videos are just so shallow, so I really appreciated all the detail you went into. Great video!!

You Guys have convinced me Finally -that I’m an INFJ

Thank you so much for the video. I'm a proud INTJ and it's really funny I wanted to know about infjs to see if I can do sth better. but Ni is really sth fascinating. I have this voice in my head always saying "THE MISSION!" repeatedly.

I'm an INFJ and i'm interested in Science, Ti makes me interested in abstract topics of scientific thought. I'm interested in making an impact in science, in discovering fundamental laws and design innovative inventions.

This was helpful as an INTJ. I definitely don’t like sensory environments, just like chilling out. And I always look at things with objective purpose.

As an INFJ dating an INTJ, this is spot on. Great video!

Loving the starset shirt

Straight to the point. I've been searching for days for the differences between the INTJ and INFJ. Everyone seems to talk about the cognitive functions and all but they don't show any real example, it's just highly theoretical talk. You actually explain it very simply and very clearly. Thank you!

Well, that has got to be one of the most helpful videos on INTJ/INFJ differences I've watched - and I have, over the years, watched quite a few. So, here's a new sub for ya:) I'd just like to add, "Boy! Do you talk fast!" :D

wow dude! i had to stop and rewind a bit there a few times! i was usaf that had ts-sci security clearance investigation. they told me i'm "intj". i had no idea what that meant, but learned a lot later on. i've had bidness and personal relationships with infj types, and it is SUPPOSED to go well, but usually never does. i think they're flaky, but maybe that's just me or a small sample. edit: upon reflection, i do have one REALLY good friend who is an infj. i think he's a little nuts, but we do have a lot of overlap personality wise. you gave me chills when you first mentioned ghandi. i've never heard a clearer distinction. thank you for that.

Great points. Especially INXJS having personal goals vs ENXJS having coorporate and social goals. Jay-z is an ESTP by the way. A few INTJs in rl are Post malone and Doja cat in music and Kawahi leonard and Kyler Murry in sports. INFJs in rl are the weeknd, dua lipa, lloyd, marina, in music and Allen iverson and deontay wilder in sports. ESTPs would be jay-z, bruno mars, drake, rihanna, pink in music and many in sports like deon sanders, magic johnson, the rock etc lets face it, NJs are fewer in number than SPs so the list grows. Oh in cinema: INTJ Catch me if you can INFJ Goodwill hunting

The best explanation and comparison between INTJ and INFJ. Could someone be both T and F? Maybe we need a new type INXJ. LOL Thank you

Science is the best discipline by which to govern your life, it's all about understanding the questions rather than finding all the answers. Signed INFJ

I appreciate the density of your video's, you're not wasting any time, thank you.

intj, im more on the artistic side. while i'd like to contribute to the world to better the world for everyone, i mostly want to achieve a good future for myself and do things in order to become independent and stable(and then isolate myself and try to change the world from a secluded safe place), opposite to infj who wants the social harmony. and yes, i won't comply to social norms unless i see a point to it. i can adapt, but refuse to be like the rest and conform. i will judge and questions the norms and rules. as for books, i will also pick of book if it relates to my interests not just my goals. you're so on about the binge behavior. i tend to drink when my mood is down or im too stressed. sometimes i forget to eat if i'm focused or get lost in my thoughts.

Large loose abstract concept Holy Crap that’s exactly it! I’ve never been able to describe it. Thank you!

This relationship combo is one of my favorites. I kin Sasuke and I always enjoyed Itachi and his relationship. I found out Sasuke is an INTJ such as myself. Itachi is an INFJ such as my sibling. As an INTJ I dont really care for most people but I have always been close to my sibling. It's intriguing to search up MBTI characters for me I found out most characters I related to are my INTJ types.

Nobody has cleared this up like you my friend, you be the shit!

Super video and your hair looks great!

I see why there is such conflict between the infj and intj. Totally different “reasons”

Great video as always!! I find for myself that repressed Se 'binge' experience is like trying to fill a bottomless pit with sensory stimulus. It doesn't work at all but in the moment it feels like it should so keep trying :/ Also your Patreon link in description is broken, think you missed a space.

The thing is, I’m an INFJ but I’m really not into people. Or well, I like people well enough, I have my “retail persona” I can switch on, but so many guides and websites tell me that INFJ’s are just DYING to be counselors and pastors and volunteer at soup kitchens. Now, those activities are fine, and I do get a certain gratification in helping people, but I’m mostly interested in writing (my inspiration and ideas go to new ideas and worlds, generally not how to improve lives), in science, in individual sports, in learning. Is it unusual for an INFJ to prefer art and academic study over say, becoming a church counselor or a self help guru?

I am an INTJ and fiancé is INFJ. This has been probably the best INTJ/INFJ breakdowns yet. You have explained both of us spot on. The details were the perfect amount. I had a couple “so that’s why he does that” moments lol! Thank you

As an INFJ, I like how an INTJ explains

I enjoyed this video very much :) Thank You!

Commenting to feed the algo. 👍👍👍

I love your videos and the way you present information. Very clear with firm structure and easy to follow. Keep on!

I love how accurate this channel is.

Superlative lecture mein Freund! Wunderbar!

Thanks AsuraPsych. I have cleared that I am an INTJ as I discriminated it from ISTJ and INFJ in your videos. Really helpful especially that I feel lost about finding myself (I kind of feel misunderstood lots of the times, though it made me a better communicator so that I’d see people understand me).

very accurate and to the point....

My goodness, you are exceptional at what you do! I am an INTJ. I have owned and operated a Lawn & Grounds maintenance business going on 37 years now. While I am most grateful for how this business has supported my life, I sometimes feel like my true calling is slipping through my fingers. I wrote a book in 2016 and love to read and write. The problem is that my publisher really stiffed me and I am feeling discouraged about continuing to pursue writing. While I love to write I get really bogged in the technology now required to bring a book to print and promote. What do you think? Can an INTJ do well as a writer? Your feedback would be so appreciated.

Good video comparison. I'm an INFJ, and it's true that I value knowledge, but I don't read books just for reading. The information I decided to collect, it must have a certain purpose or utility other that, for instance, a novel written for mere entertainment.

Your comparisons and examples made everything so easy to understand and you brought up alot of points and filled in some holes for me that I had been questioning regarding these differences. Thank you for making this video you are definitely one of the better personality type content creators

You explained this so well man. Props.

The stereotypes out there in the MBTI community can really frustrate me. I still can’t figure out exactly why I do love being in boisterous, overstimulating environments, AND being on a stage. As long as I stay detached from everybody. Performing = not being “me” Nightclub -> fulfills my observational cravings AND sensory indulgence Does this sound like it can hold true for an INTJ? I am glad you mentioned the part where we binge, but do not tend to experience addiction. That really rang true for me. I can certainly binge, but also be super strict with myself in the “in between” times.

Once I was reading a romance, policial drama and whatnot...I then stopped half way through and picked a rather instructive book.

I think that you are in a state of flow when you do these. Perhaps consider the pace at which you are going. Maybe record yourself in flow, then make notes with which you can create a slower version of the presentation without any Bones coffee influence. To me this would result in a video that was incredibly accurate and more digestible, as well. I think your videos are packed with accurate information & that you may well be one of the few topical experts in MBTI.... even though you appear to be a teenager. Love your expertise. Thanks.

Excellent presentation.

It's a blast in here therefore I will be back for more

What type of career would you recomend for infj? A job enviroment, where infj can thrive with introvert intuition. I work as medical receptionist which is very high sensory. It is very draining for me.

INTJ. Some of what you said resonates, but I disagree on INTJs not seeking to understand things as deeply as Ti users. Not sure where the idea that Te is shallow and only cares about application came from. Maybe Ni impacts that since our dominant function for taking in information is Ni. I’m actually kind of obsessive about understanding things as deeply and comprehensively as I can. This includes impractical topics like sci-fi and fantasy series I watched. When I was waiting between Harry Potter books and films, I would read the Harry Potter wiki. I did the same with Star Wars, and still look up lore information on video games I play. I enjoy knowledge for the sake of it, even if it isn’t always practical. Although I do care about real world outcomes. At the end of the day, I do want to change the world. I am interested in effective altruism, and I am also an activist. I use Te to analyze topics objectively. E.g. for my activism, I recently read a book called “This is an Uprising” that discusses strategies of nonviolent direct action. Science is a tool, but I am not very rigid in my thinking.

INFJ scientist. Maybe the INxJ difference is more in the area and/or utilisation of their scientific study? For a start, the egalitarian wouldn't want to make ugly amounts of cash, whereas the INTJ would. 😂 I'm the youngest of four BGBG. ENTP: Computer language developer, rich on bitcoin, likes to bushwalk all over the world. INTJ: BSc(masters in biotech), but always wanted to be & became a librarian, indexer, homebody. INTJ: Communications (journalism) degree but has owned & run a bridge club (♣ not 🌉) ever since. INFJ: BSc(micro/biochem), medical research, PhD on turtles, science editor, not working (30 years exhaustion, 🧠 fog, depression, insomnia). Takes care of dying parents.

Good video i relate 👍 what do you think about them together in a romantic relationship? My mother is an intj and we are similar like you said but our fights are insane like we would literally kill each other and they're so many so it's like hell, i wonder if it'll be the same in romance..

Great video!!! Soooooo helpful!

thank you for this very clear and accurate video i have no doubt i am an infj

Its really opposite in my situation my freind who is intj and me an infj , he is working towards history or social scirnce while I am gravitate towards science especially maths and physics 😅 Hell lot of human complex

I just learn to learn.

Wow given your explicit dissection between the infj and the intj, I literally find myself between the INFJ and INTJ. Perhaps a INFJ 5w6 or INTJ 5w4.

It make me thinking, I still didn’t read the book someone offer me 2 years ago XD. And probably will never read it.

The STARSET shirt!!

Great vid! ...and hair!! 😉

very accurately and succinctly expressed 😊

Great video!

I think Buddha is a better representation of an INTJ while Nikola Tesla is a better rep of an INTP. Just like you explained Ne as needing to express their ideas in a creative way I think that's what he did by using his own original ideas (Ti) While Buddha used information that he learned through self study and research (Te-Fi)

Yes, I, too (as an INFJ) sense that Marilyn Manson is also an INFJ in interviews. He's amazing.

Do all intuitive thinkers have investigative Holland code? Is holland code reliable to test my aptitude?

You are very knowledgeable! Thanks for the video. As an infj I relate to this. Not to be critical, but could you slow your rate of speech just a little

I thank you sir.

4:40 look at the low right corner of the painting

As an INTJ, yes. I do have future goals, but the idea that there is some timeframe on them is silly. That aspect is vague. Instead, I have an idea of what steps need to happen in order to get there, and it takes whatever time it takes for me to take those steps. But, I will work on achieving those steps and that goal if it's important enough to me. I've had some of these take years, but I haven't stopped on my journey.

did you kill the spider in background?

INTJs are like Spock in The Star Trek series when he's being his Vulcan half. INFJs is when Spock is showing his human half (which is much rarer).

I've never quite understood the distinction between judging and perceiving in terms of the reception of new information. I understand that people describe it along the lines of, "The judging type immediately judges new information and the perceiving type takes in new information and mulls it over" - but how long does the 'mulling' process take, and does the judging type express their judgment outwardly immediately or can it be a wholly internal process? When someone tells me something, if it doesn't make sense to me I will almost immediately think "Wait, that doesn't make sense" and then think through why it doesn't make sense - but I don't express this outwardly most of the time. I am quite secure in my typing as an INFJ so not understanding this distinction is quite disconcerting for me.

as an INFJ, I would want to be on the same team as an INTJ :P

Great vid, I might suggest slowing down a bit. I had to cut back the vid to half speed just to keep up and process what you’re saying.

I wonder where you get this information from Chris. Is it theory or is it from the many people you've typed and observed or a combination of the two?

I'm INFJ and don't know why I love going to bars and clubs although as I grow up I try to do that in a more healthy way. I don't think it's an unhealthy thing, I feel like I can enjoy it very much. And I've come to realize that INJs can actually enjoy Se things in a very subtle way that ESPs usually can't get that. For example, I know very few SPs who can enjoy wine and gastronomy but instead I find so many NJs in these events and they are very well acknowledged about these topics. SPs would prefer something stronger and more stimulating.

I loved this video. I am an INTJ, but I can relate a lot to INFJ in some areas. Well, after all, we do have much in common, right? And I might even behave as an INFJ, although not as a natural preference; more because perhaps I find a certain behaviour more accepted by people instead of what I would like to naturaly do, if this makes any sense.

Spot on!

INTJ'S are the types that will implement their ideas or structures INFS Can anticipate future patterns or events

Anyone else notice the spider on the wall at 4:38?

Thank you!