I like your logical and fun explanation of this topic. I am sorry to reveal that : INTJ we are vulnerable, very sensitive, kind and adorable, and cute, full of deep feelings. When I love someone, only this person exist. I love the poor little bear who is cold at 0:55 I am not antisocial, it's just I judged the person was not aligned with me and doesn't correspond to me. (It's not you, it's me and my preferences) You right : Set time and place, don't surprise me, I am not prepared. I would add : Don't push the INTJ, more you ask them to do something, less they will do it.
Success Stories with my INTJ (Engineer professor) 1) He lights up when he rambles about random things. He keeps doing this, because it's his version of self-expression. (Examples: Caffine, mushroom steak, L-theanine protein, Tesla vehicle, modal T engins) 2) Have predictable morals, but unpredictable behavior. (Example: Always be encouraging to others, but change up your wording). 3) Spontaneous touch is secretly welcomed! (Examples: I told him to catch me and jumped into his arms. He bragged to his mom and brother about that one. ❤ I tickled him for a single second when I had to go somewhere else and giggled "tell me later." ❤ I touched his ribs and midback at a line dance event when he was going the wrong direction. I teased, "oh no no no! Whoops!!" ❤ ) Keep touch short and unpredictable. It will make him feel very free and still in control, but also very vulnerable and lighthearted and wholesome. 4) Don't fret when he pushes you away or takes time. Encourage, then be quiet. Encourage, then be quiet. Every time he comes back around, he will be more romantic than before. 5) Be super serious, but super silly. Flip back and forth constantly. INTJ's can handle both. (Example: "I wrote a poem about taking time to process things because I support you on your journey. Also, if you were a tomato, I would eat you!") He needs something to ponder AND something he can respond to without thinking too hard. 6) Be adaptable. If he is a money saver. So are you. If he is a healthy eater, so are you. On my period, I eat frosting by the spoonful and drink chocolate chips. On the other days, I eat a clean Mediterranean diet which is extremely high in libido. My INTJ admires this about me, because self-discipline is important to him. 7) Show that you're excited about your dates. I journalled right in front of him and admitted to his friend that I'm keeping record of the precious night. Second-hand praise and childlike enthusiasm is what brings out his manly heroic instinct, which is super sexy! 8) Be a brat when you can. (Example: In a balloon blowing game, I admitted that I have asthma. My INTJ said, "Don't faint." I told him I wasn't going to, but pretended with my butt out and my forearm on my forehead to sigh in a high pitch and swoon-faint before I even started blowing balloons.) He felt relief from that and blushed in bright pink. Over the serious opinions, don't play. Over the small details, play! Hope that makes sense. 9) Post uplifting and wholesome content on social media. Be the type of woman he can take home to meet mom. 10) Do not keep score. He already is keeping score of himself. Your job is to love him unconditionally.❤❤❤❤❤
P.S. I also told him that I want a soundproof treehouse to have sex in, which would double as a place kids can practice musical instruments. P.S.S. My INTJ doesn't like when I plan things. He wants me to have ideas, which fosters his creativity. Let him know what you want and WAIT for him to give it to you.
I'm INTJ and my husband is ESTJ. We experience feast and famine. Now, we have a plan for intimacy and schedule it, because if we didn't, we wouldn't :)!!!!!
