I married my INTJ. I was his math tutor and we have very high level discussions ranging from how the flow of international trade is affecting language learning, all the way to physics and the M theory and energy fields. WE also stop each other from doing stupid things and make a great power couple.
Literally that .. the first point he started off was also "Intellectual discussions". I am an INFJ and most of the real life people whom I admire as "smart" are either INTJ or INTP. I mean most scientists like Einstein to Hawking .. were INTJs/INTPs(nobody knows exactly so). And there is a huge connection as they are the curious beings who think of Things in smart or intelligent way while INFJs feel the connection with their contribution and always try to know how these people think(typical INFJ habit of Observing and knowing others).
My husband is intj and I'm infj. We've been together for over 35 years and love each other more as time goes by. We've taught each other alot over the years and balance each other beautifully. Our grown up children are all intj/infj too. We are all very close and consider family number 1 priority. I can relate to what was said in this video.
As an INFJ I value INTJs for pulling me out of spiraling emotions with simple clear-eyed understanding. I feel like it's easier to speak intellectually without judgment when diving into a topic with depth. Some of my favorite conversations have been with INTJs.
Totally agree. I’m an INFJ and my closest friend is an INTJ. They are 💯 my counselor, which I’ve never found in anyone else, and I can’t even begin to describe how good it feels to have that reciprocated in a relationship.
I am an INTJ and my husband is an INFJ - these are so true! We met on IG, started talking, and we couldn’t deny what we were trying to deny. Two and a half years later we got married!
It's heartening to see so many INFJs and INTJs getting along and even getting married to each other in the comments, as this video promotes, but I can't really say it has been such a pleasant experience for me. INFJ here, and unfortunately, I have been gaslit and bullied by multiple INTJs over the course of my lifetime mistaking their sweet talk for a fellow INFJ. I of course, do not dislike the type just because of some bad apples, though I would say meeting such horrible ones at a frequency of almost 1 every 5 years has left me scarred with trust issues and has left me healing from severe social anxiety at the moment, but I do wish I get to meet an INTJ someday that changes that consistently negative impression. I know they are out there. Fiction gives me examples of how INTJs can be decent people and even lovable at times. I just wish to have that matching experience in real life for once with this type. What I find is that, yes, we can have conversations on a matching wavelength and I have indeed had very engaging chats about literally anything under the sun with INTJs (almost all the people above that I mentioned started as close friends), but ultimately, where it all breaks down is that very distinct lack of empathy, the bulldozing, and thinking that their logic completely overshadows all emotional consideration. Could have been just very immature INTJs I have been meeting, but I am not very old myself. Hopefully I get to meet more emotionally mature (or at least open) INTJs sometime in the future 😕
INFJ too. I get what you're saying. I had quite a bunch of negative experiences with them too actually and felt just like you about this. But I've met some different ones too thankfully on the contrary so I think it helped me not having a too pessimistic conclusion on this. I think we greatly underestimate the maturity factor in this and open mindedness and how it could make this kind of relationship succeed or fail. It's different from with INFPs or ENFPs I think. It's not as easy. Sometimes I even had very significative experiences where two INTJs were also conversing with me and with each other and one seemed more open minded and could get me and the other not and they had pretty different conclusions on their same INTJ mindset. I think this is extremely relevant experiences to realize that yes, even two people of the same type can have radically different behaviors and opinions on something and one INTJ could be way more mature than the other. Each person has their own personal development. It's crucial to validate the good experiences for what they are to avoid the pessimistic conclusion. Yes great relationships with complementary types still require a good amount of maturity. But I assure you mature and immature INTJs are like night and day and mature ones actually remind me of INFPs a lot actually. Could say the same about ENTPs actually. When those two types awake to their feelings they drastically change it's very surprising.
Surprisingly, I have met a handful of INTJs and truthfully I got along almost with all of them, however I want to add that there might be some bumping heads at first because I find that a lot of INTJs tend to be very confident of their knowledge where sometimes it can borderline arrogance, BUT once you talk to an INTJ long enough then you will see their walls come down. I suspect that INTJs can see the lack of intelligence other people have and even too emotionally driven which annoys them, however when they come across someone with great intelligence they tend to respect it and can connect well with them even to the point where it’s on a deeper level. We INFJs can be very emotional at times which can help us “shoot our selves in the foot”--so to speak. So INTJs can help us stay immensely grounded when we might need it and we INFJs can really help INTJs express themselves emotionally which can help alleviate them.
@@Tarantula_Fangs Personally that's one of the few things that make me feel uncomfortable with them sometimes. It often feels like they're selecting who is worthy of them but denigrate the others. And that can really make them appear arrogant and hateful for some. As you say, they tend to mostly base it on intelligence. And even though as an INFJ I'm usally among "the chosen few", I couldn't care less. They make it look like we worth better than others when to me it's more a subjective conclusion based on what they themselves value such as intelligence. And I find it to be a very dangerous bias they could make us and others fall into and that can easily create an INxJ superiority complex they fuel and the INFJ can start to fuel themselves for them if they don't pay attention. I guess it's because of Introverted Feeling that can *TEND* to make them value only what they like. I always felt like INFJs can put a distance between what they personally like and what they think is valuable on the other hand, which can create this different behavior with others. That's also related to your comment but it often feels like you need to prove them something for them to start to respect you. But I don't think anyone should have to prove anything to anyone to be respected. That would only lead to unecessary tensions. Sometimes I purposely don't act naturally with some INTJs to not show them things of me they would tend to appreciate and I can see some not respecting me just like they would do with others when I know they would if I were being myself ironically. I think that simply reveals that their social struggle usually comes from the fact that they consider respect should be earned and not given. But not giving respect to others from the get go won't make them respect you either, and they'll most likely stay isolated until they meet someone the INTJ will naturally respect because they check their list. Thankkfully for them, when they age they generally slowly start to become more respectful even with the people they don't love and find this fine line between loving and hating to keep this harmony for everyone that makes life easier for others and for them. Also I need to mention it's not always that but usually they just struggle to get niceties and find the right words in social situations and it's totally fine.
Nah, meeting other ENFJ also source of joy to me almost of the time. He’s high EQ and IQ are admirable to me. Felt pretty safe and serene around him. With NTJ/STJ, most of the time I had headache & heartache. Felt just like some mirage when they were around. Too much manipulative acts and lack of EQ. Not try to generalize them, but met too many of NTJ/STJ with those traits. I just cant 😢.
I love this video…spot on!! My teen daughter is an INTJ and I am an INFJ. Our relationship is just so beautiful and fun. We just get each other and accept each others way. So glad to have her in my life❤
My brother could on occasion seem to read my thoughts, but my roommate was finishing my sentences within weeks of meeting her. I was and am continually amazed by the synergy.
Dude, we INFJs and you INTJs really do need each other, and I have been saying this since I learned about our types, and since we speak the same language of introverted intuition, there is no other types that get us as well, even though ENFJs get us INFJs quite well and ENTJs get you INTJs quite well. And yes, we see and feel your emotions without needing to see them on your faces. Also, yeah, we are each other's therapists and help one another in ways no one else can help us. I love you INTJs, it feels like you guys are just another part of me. Every INFJ needs an INTJ and every INTJ needs an INFJ. The INFJ/INTJ dynamic is something so amazing and unique and we can easily come into each other's depths.
@@someZH yes, we are rare, and you INTJs are also pretty rare yourselves, Ni is the rarest dominant cognitive function. I have met a good bit of both, and I have always love the encounters I have had with the IN(x)J squad. We see each other and understand where each other are coming from. It is also easy to have problems arise from just being an Ni dom when most people aren't. I am certain you will love it.
@@nickolaszissimos1189 right , honestly sounds great to have someone who understands you without seeing you weird . Sounds really really great. You guys are great
@@someZH As an INFJ myself, I have met a few INTJs, including my mother when I was born, or most likely even before since I was growing inside her. I absolutely love how you guys are so calm and collected most of the time and I love your logic. I have been able to work up th being nearly 50% on my Ti, and you guys really make sense to me. Also yes, it helps having someone just as weird as you are, which is normal for us Ni doms. 🤣
@@nickolaszissimos1189 I’m so happy you see us this way . Me myself I find that every characters that I like (in TV shows or kdramas ) are either INTJ’s or INFJ’s , but mostly are INFJ’s , i just find out about this a week ago and I searched a lot about INFJ’s . I’m impressed 😂 you somehow are a lot like us but the sweetest version of us
One of my roommates who has become one of my closest friends is an INFJ, and I very much concur with this. I crazily enough helped him a little to reconcile his breakup
This accurately reflects somewhat my INFJ experience with my INTJ lady! She is the only person I have ever felt so connected and spiritually relaxed with. Love her to bits with
one doesn't negate the other lol. I've seen more intellectual ones over spiritual . They also tend to keep the spiritual side private, as spirituality is supposed to be. Can't say the same for intellect.
00:14 🧠 Intellectual discussions between INTJs and INFJs are effortless and deep, providing a unique connection. 01:33 🛋 INTJs can serve as therapists for INFJs, offering valuable advice and support in return for the emotional understanding INFJs provide. 02:41 😶 Awkward, wordless moments between INTJs and INFJs can still be comforting and meaningful, allowing for unspoken understanding. 03:36 🤝 INFJs act as emotional counterbalances for INTJs, helping them empathize and navigate social situations more effectively. 04:29 🎯 INFJs have a unique ability to understand and connect with INTJs on a deep level, providing mutual understanding and support without needing extensive explanation.
As an INFJ, what I value most about INTJ is their depth, particularly of the intellectual and moral nature. My ENxPs are very witty, but they aren't necessarily as penetrating (Ne vs Ni), and I can reliably find that quality in my INTJs. I value Nietzche a lot for this reason. All while being the embodiment of "still waters run deep" - INTJs are actually *very* sweet people, if you're not a consistent dumb ass. The one I have in mind, while used to be a great source of counsel, has actually shifted into the counseled end of things tho, and theyre older than I am, as well, but thats due to interest-orientation - Im a Student of Universal Subjective Experience more than a Student of Universal Objective Experience, and we have more problems with the Subjective, when compared to the Objective (our "attitudes" orient our abilities to process and cope with reality, afterall) Good video, tho - I just love yalls type; you fascinate and amaze me
So true, I think intj infj relationship is meant to be, one of the relationships that destined for growth of the two types My best friend and my best mentor, I miss u so much, God bless u always
Yes the best conversations ever. Easily three hours on the phone. Also, when I don’t understand people my son the INFJ explains why they said or did what they did and their motivation behind it. Serious superpower. As an INTJ I just think what they said or did was a little weird.
Oh. My. God. I just LOVE intjs!! Soooo logical and blunt! So real, so honest AND they have a razor for a tongue and fling some of the #Best insults i've ever heard❣️ With my idgaf attitude towards other ppls negative opinions i Love hearing a well thought out out down and woooow🤩🤩🤩🤩 I reeeaally like intjs! Ohh but if you're unhealthy then stay away, good insults or not i don't camp in chernobal
Can’t be sure, especially as this is years ago now but I think the ONE time I was in love (actually IN LOVE, not just infatuation) was with an INTJ. Started out as friends, then I thought I felt romantic feelings and it was the first time I felt sure that even if he couldn’t return the romantic feelings that our friendship would still be strong, in part because it was so easy to be around each other. I’ve never felt so SEEN in all my life, so later on I felt a little guilty, like ‘oh no! Did I actually love HIM? Or just what he did for me?’ Classic INFJ instantaneous guilt on that one of course, 😂.
People are easily intimidated by INFJ's and how well we can empathize and learn and intuitively know them. In fact, we can read people so well that most get scared once they realize this, usually before we ourselves realize how much we know. It's not like we do it on purpose either, or will ill intent; it just comes naturally. Some few won't walk away though, or grow to accept and understand you. If you're truly an INFJ, then you will eventually get used to it and accept it and just shrug when it happens.
0:46 I am very open minded and can discuss almost any topic without issue I love God and Jesus and i really love aliens and alternate reality stuff ooo and rick n morty and my favorite topic rn is the tartarians and mud flood, secret history is feking mind blowing 🤯🤯🤯☺️☺️ What's mud flood? Look up pictures of what ppl find of things under the buildings, more than meets the eye 😉 😏 I like gettin suuuper deep with conversations and i also cry when i get too happy! 😅😆😆 I love to cook and do outdoor stuff, video games and exercise and reading books 📚 Heyyyyy, if you're into mobile anime games i Highly recommend Wuthering Waves, if you download it now you can pick a free 5 star, ohh but avoid the guy with long silver hair calcharo, he's pretty epically cool with longsword but he's been buffed to hell n back 😅😅😅
I agree. They don't know where to stop when things actually getting uncomfortable to his partner even though many times i've told him not to do tat. They even could become vengeful until the point that he didn't realize that i could sue him for what he did to me as a crime.
