Is Dating Today Nearly Impossible? 

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bro purposely fumbled the bag with those two first girls he was picking up for content, W creator

Just wanted to let you know that the amount of work you put into your videos is insane. Really really well put together videos. This channel deserves a million subs.

I think the biggest factor honestly is the lack of wholesome activities that people are involved in today. Everything is online or through a dating app. Going to a social gathering, excluding just clubbing... Church activity, volunteer effort, intermural sports, etc. Not as much of that stuff goes on today. You're only gonna meet women if you have opportunities to be around them and talk to them.

Bro faked those awkward pickups. Zero chance he is that nervous when he literally walks up to people and asks them questions about the craziest controversial questions😂 but Respect the buildup for the story

“You think your cringing imagine editing this” had me dying 😂

That ending was unexpected. This storytelling is a high-tier already, you're bound to hit greatness with this quality of your content. Superb video! Good luck finding your love out there.

I think the phrase "love happens when you least expect it" is not talking about finding love being a surprise, but about managing your expectations and putting yourself out there with confidence without worrying about either being or finding the perfect person.

lol the savage old couple. "she's horny" " we're thirsty"

Online dating is so insanely bad at least as an average guy unless you are purely trying to hook up. I never found a girl online that didn't confess that they would date 2 or 3 guys at a time even if they were with the same guy up to like 3 months. After I gave up online I just randomly found a good woman organically and now we are married.

Crazy that people can't seem to tell you were purposely acting nervous in those first two approaches for the overall narrative arc of the video lol. Love the production quality here; scripting/camera presence/editing was all top notch! Excited to see your channel grow.

Hey man, i'm just putting this comment out there so that i'm able to look at it in the future and appreciate how far you've come: Your content is top notch and your channel will probably blow up sooner than you expect it to do ! The video quality, the effort that you put into it, the storyline, EVERYTHING is well thought out; So whatever you're doing, keep going man ! :D

Love is not Something you buy or swipe its something you work on to make it work its something that pushes you to be the best version of yourself

The thing is this generation doesn't value real life man to woman genuine connection anymore. Everything is superficial, online, and shallow. Getting a girl's number is kinda meaningless if she's not super interested in u. U can have a pleasant convo with a girl, think it went well, get her number, text her, and she ghosts u like u didn't even exist. It's very frustrating trying to date, and finding "Love" in this day and age is basically impossible.

Honestly, I think the key is to make friends. Falling in love with a friend is just about the most natural way to fall in love there is.

Owning up to your emotions like that shows pure boldness and being able to express what you are able to, but even though I am still lonely, I still got time for being young for now....to hopefully find someone who would be there for me regardless of what happens (commitment) and accepting of who I am to understand each other on a person-to-person level of trust (responsibility + accountability).

I've lived half my life in India, and half in Canada, so I have some insight. Approaching a girl like "I saw you, and thought you were beautiful" / or sex first & friendship is an afterthought, is a classic western approach, that doesn't factor in compatibility (Do your values and goals align at all?). The west does things backwards. In India the approach is very different, we keep close friendships. When you're best friends (without expectations), people are very open about what they really want. We stay best friends to access partner potential, and date with the intention of engagement, and engagement as a final trial run to make sure there's no Incompatibilities that will lead to divorce after marriage. That's part of why divorce rates are 1.3% in India, and 50% in the US. I've had such a hard time dating in the west, and consider going back to my home country, because on average it's harder to find people traditional / with comparable values to my own.

There was about a year of my life that I was just ridiculously confident and just perfectly ok with the way things were. Stopped trying to meet people or date was about to travel for a few months before starting a job in a new city, and that’s when I met my now wife of 7 years. I really do believe you have to be comfortable being alone before finding lasting love. My secret if there is any, is that I meditated twice a day. Seriously changed my whole life

Normally I don't respond to videos, but thanks for the effort you've put into this video. My last holiday with my friends was completely focused on approaching girls on the street during the day and at night in the club. It's so nice how many awesome people you could meet if you just let your ego go, choose what you want to do, and let your fear be there in the present. And yes, people don't really care, but there's is a big chance when you give that compliment, you just fucking made their day. How awesome is that! Btw. You've got a new sub, thanks!

Love can't be forced and in order to achieve it, clarity is vital. Who am I, what am I looking for and with what am I comfortable? It also means that you have to learn your boundaries and limitations. Bending over backwards works fine for a short while but not in a relationship. You can only give your best and if that is not enough for her, that's it. It doesn't mean that you are a failure, you just made a wrong choice. Somebody who really appreciates you, will recognize and value your contribution for what they are instead of looking for an imaginary ideal. Even if you manage, she loves the ideal you try to imitate not you. Btw. Congratulations to you👍🏻

" only women, children, and dogs loved unconditionally men are loved under the condition you provide something " chris rock. Knowing what I know, love is only a chemical reaction. If you are guy, it is to your disadvantage to be in love because you will do this that are completely stupid. It's okay, to be in a relationship and have love for someone, but I don't recommend being in love. Know that when it comes to romance females are always pragmatic while we as guys are idealistic. Understanding the love is not reason to be in a relationship is helpful in establishing families in the long-term. But, it does kill the Disney fairytale.

Is it weird that he says exactly what I’m thinking lol fear of looking stupid😢... Agree u first need to be 100% comfortable with yourself ,not like you’ve reached where you need to be and you don’t need to grow… but a day 2 day contentment where you know You are a better you today than you were yesterday

Yes. With the ability to see hundreds of potential partners in a day, why settle for “good enough”? Why not shoot for “perfect”? No one is willing to give people a chance because they always think they can do better.

I think some physical attraction matters, but mostly if you could make a woman laugh, show her your confident, and dont try to jump in the sack RIGHT AWAY! That is the biggest turn off IMO. I have met guys that ask to go "mess around" within minutes of meeting. Hate it

Learning how the spotlight effect works has single handedly fixed my entire social life. NO ONE CARES ABOUT THAT SEMI-EMBARRASSING THING YOU DID IN CLASS LAST WEEK!!! Go up to people and talk to them. If it gets awkward or is unpleasant, it doesn't matter. They aren't gonna remember it in a week anyway. Getting over your fear of embarrasing yourself in front of peers or the fear of rejection are some of the most important life skills someone can learn in this generation.

Got the nail on he head. The spotlight effect also explains why I feel so much more anxious going to events where I know more people compared to events where I don’t know anyone at all. It’s easier to approach women where you feel like no eyes are on you

Honestly think this style of content is pretty innovative, all the deep thoughts of a long video essay in somewhat bite-sized under 30 min installations. Real good balance

This channel is fire. This is what I’ve always wanted to do with my own channel. Keep going man

10:55 Wth?? She just said that. So naturally too. ._. I feel ya brother. Gym bros are here for you

I don't need someone else to love me. I'm already in love with myself. I believe that is the most important person to learn to love first. When you have that, a need for someone else turns into a want. Or maybe for some people like me, you no longer want a relationship at all because you enjoy being alone, and romantic relationships are exhausting.

When women say that they want someone nice and sweet and with a good personality, they mean that AFTER the man is already attractive. They want attractive men with those qualities.

When GEN posts , it’s a good day

"How can men stop being such lonely losers?" Answer: Society stops telling every women that she is a 10 even if she is a beached whale that has no skillset other than existance.

Hello Gen, ive been watching through your channel for 2 days now, just because i do really like your authentic content and the topics. I just wanna say that dating these days is just as hard as back in the days as well, because of the actual intentions people has. Back then when people were humble around 1950 they are more likely approaching each other to getting into a committed relationship for the future comparing to today we are more into simple spending time together and see what happens. And the truth is, that young adult these days dont like get into a committed relationship and think about the far future with the first person they got approached because they learned that they also have the potential to get maybe “something better” than that, then treating their partner as a temporary experiment. I might be wrong but, when ur trying to talk to girl thats on a vacation, u shouldn’t approaching them in a way that they might think ur looking for someone to get serious with, because they then feeling kinda pressure and dont want to even think about a long distance relationship, so they just play it out by giving wrong number or rejection. Sorry for my bad English but i hope u get what im saying

For me I am slightly unsure if I felt love for someone I liked. I have definitely had my share of crushes, but I was never too sure if I truly liked them or their looks. The closest I felt was a girl who I was friends with since middle school. She was funny, shared some of my interests, was similar to me (half asian and half white), and was shy. How I knew I liked her was when she hugged me for the first time at her birthday. It may have been a simple hug as a friend, but to me it made me feel warm and fuzzy inside tbh. The next year I moved away and we grew apart as our friendship split ways with groups. She dated one of my friends friends and I was left broken hearted. It still lurks in my mind what if she liked me? But now I think I have to move on. It's been so long. I wish we could have at least stayed friends but I will always cherish her friendship as I knew it.

Killin it bro. You should help produce the next film in the series after Food Lies called Dating Lies

Underrated

This nigga went from to shy to casually walking up and talking normally 😂

Thoughtful as usual. You gotta get a marketing team or something get yourself viral okay 😃

The curveball at the end tho, w vid Gen.🤝🏾

Only 162K subs? Dude this content is rich and respectful. Huge props to you bruh! You got my sub

how has this dude not blown up yet

Man this is one of the most down to earth channels I've ever watched. Challenging the hard questions. If there's a way to mend the polarization right now its through dialog and understanding. Keep up the good shit bro.

this video resonated with me hard, i found love at 30, but everything before was lust and toxic, staying single over 5 years, being good with being alone with your self is a big win, then you'll find that other half that fits your picture. they are like your missing pieces, that's how you know its LOVE.

Wow bro. This video blew my mind. And the amount of work put into this video is amazing. I’m just happy I get to be here when you blow up!! #deservesamilionsubs

The difference between lust and love is that lust only goes one way. You want them, but they don't want you back. Love is when you both want each other equally and nothing will become between you.

i think when you are really captivated by someone it will turn the arrow of focus from you (inward) to them (outwards). if you really like someone it shouldn’t be natural for you to think about yourself.

Just found your channel today. Your content and approach is fire 🔥!!!

What an ending! Love to see it man! Great videos, couldn't hit subscribe fast enough.

Bro gave no actual solutions

Honestly, I would never go upto someone random to get their number. Ask someone out at work or college or school or at a place where you guys actually talk for a while, like a party. It just makes it a lot less awkward and increasing your chances obv

"no sabo" head ass lmao that killed me

Love it gen, the editing and storytelling is top notch, keep it up!

I feel like as a women I'm just inlove with the idea love I truly believe that the love I've always wanted doesn't exist

11:49 bruh, we've all had that conversation with ourselves . If you haven't, you're the weird one :P

It's crazy to me that you are this underrated!! And only get 8.7k views on a video like this. You have high quality content and I'm excited to see what you'll do next!! Keep up the good work bro

Great vids man. Under 15k sub club let's go baby 😎😎

Love happens when you least expect it if you're a woman. If you're a man, you have to create your own opportunities unless you're exceptionally good-looking.

Maybe the best channel I have discovered yet!! U will have millions of subs in no time m8

bro i just found your channel and i like how you’re asking the questions that we’re all to scared to ask. definitely got my subscription 👍🏼

I'm a shy, reserved, short guy, and the stuff that makes you good at dating/picking women up just feels inauthentic and not really 'me'. I know I'm far in the minority, but I'd rather die a single virgin than force myself to be someone I'm not for some success. Ngl, it was pretty miserable at first since I'm somewhat of a 'hopeless romantic', but it got much easier later on and I think I can say that I'm happily 'me', even if a little bit lonely at times.

I understand that people are like, "stop being shy and have confidence by going up and talking." However, I think it's more complicated than that especially if you're social skills aren't that great. You will be more reluctant to go up and talk because you can't sustain the conversation. Heck even walking up to people of the same gender and talking is hard if your social skills are not the best. I think for people who just struggle with social interactions have it much much harder to approach girls and talk, It's a really uphill battle. Whereas if you are already funny and can socialise well the hard bit would just be bursting the bubble and going up and talking to a girl.

" IF i dont comit to it fully, i will never have to say that i failed" BROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

One thing you need to ask yourself when it comes to dating is this: how did your grandparents meet? I'll give you a hint, it wasn't on tinder. My grandparents met in the 50s when they were teenagers illegally drag racing. They met doing something they both enjoyed

honestly it is the same for me and it feels good to know that I'm not the only one

I deeply miss the feeling of love. After 13 years, my kids mom left for no reason. And been hard to start over and find it again

Just sitting alone in my house, rotting away and no love.

I really love your videos, keep going you will make it big!

The fact this guy was able to manage his anxiety like that, bro, unit. This guy is a unit.

Awesome video my friend, well done with the great work! Interesting content 👏

I just like everything about this video tbh. Editing, honesty, information and the way it was delivered.. probably one of the best ones i've seen so far! I had to change countries due to work and haven't approach since i got here (about a month ago) :/ though i'm slowly starting to muster up that courage again and, i think if watch this a couple of times more that sure will help hahah cheers bruh, take care

Great qualitity of your videos…keep the effort and work up 💪🏼

bro is making movies, blow this s up

I seriously can't get over how amazing your videos are GEN! Since you popped up in my recommendations I've binged almost every video you've made and every single one is just phenomenal. Well articulated, edited, the way you conduct your interviews, the effort and hard work you put into them, etc. Please don't ever stop, you are one of the best content creators ever to be on the platform and I'm rooting for your success. I'm gonna get everyone I can to subscribe, you deserve all the support you can get On both your channels btw, the reaction one is great too

Woman here... Stop watching HOLLYWOOD.... love is commitment PERIOD. Sometimes love fluctuates.. sometimes it's romantic, friendship, duty, coparenting, sometimes it's being family, sometimes it's just being there. Men n women have different needs... women needs to be cherished and loved, men need respect (not love). My 2 cents from a successful 17 year marriage/18 year relationship.

I think people put too much expectation on finding “the one” or being in a relationship or in love to feel fulfilled. I think people need to learn to be ok alone first before they can start meeting and trying to date bc meeting someone should add something to ur life, not become ur whole life. I also think that meeting people is more difficult bc some of us have lost social skills w/ the invention on phones and apps and of u are introverted by nature than that complicated things more bc ur circle of friend tends to be smaller. Happy u found someone 😊

Start with loving yourself, if you dont love yourself you wont be able to truly love someone else

damn gandpa alr alr 1:51 we see you

Damn dude you actually make great videos on really interesting topics

Man with every video I watch, I appreciate your authenticity and integrity more and more

Here is a thought for the guys (maybe women to but i dunno) who are having a hard time, advice that was given to me when I was a struggling single. 1/ remember this is a numbers game, the more people you approach, the more chances you have on finding someone who wants what you want. 2/ When going out, instead of trying to pick someone up, have the mind set of making new friends. It will not only elevated the pressure but also avoid you coming off as creepy. Opening your friend circle brings more potential matches around you. 3/ Have female friends, the more you speak with women, the more you understand how to communicate with them and learn to not idealise them. 4/ if your not a 10, don't go speak to the girl every dude at the bar is trying to talk to, start with that girl not getting attention. She's probably a gem and will probably be 100 with you. 5/ Confidence is built on success not rejections, so although you shouldn't be afraid of it you shouldn't set yourself up for it either. Who knows, in a few months, working your way up, you might be a 10 in the eyes of a girl you think is a 10 because ultimately beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

6:21 I love that part, she's trying to figure out how to nicely so no, but he says forget it and walks away before she can. I think she was a bit confused at what just happened lol.

The chick saying she wants a guy who's sweet and nice is lying like fuck lmao

Dating is like fishing. First you gotta go where there is most potenital to find the fish that you want. Then you gotta make your bait as good as possible. Then you gotta have alot of skills to reel in the fish. You gotta be good at all of this, thats why its very hard. Its a skill that you gotta pratice alot to get good at dont think anything else.

GREAT informative video!

I'm actually one of the very few who knew and understood what love is before getting into a relationship. The reason for that is because I have clarity most of the time, not because that I'm not horny, but I can somehow separate and ignore my "physical needs". I have Asperger's, so I'm on the autism spectrum. I don't crave for sex as much as most men do, and thus I don't allow lust to cloud my judgement as much as most men do. Love to me, is basically what I do to my family, like my mom and dad. I may have fights with them, but in the end, i'll always forgive them and will still love them no matter what. Love is Never a feeling, that feeling people calling "love" is just lust or affection. Love is a practice, love is commitment. Why does a couple offer their marriage vows at their wedding? Their vows are a symbol of their love, and if you truly loved your partner , you would work with your partner and uphold your vows till the end. Finding a partner is not just about finding someone you're compatible with, or you're attracted to, those are all key elements to start a relationship, but they're never your greatest priority when you wanna marry someone. in the end, it's all about finding that person who is willing to uphold their vows and share a life with you through ups and downs. I met my Nigerian Yoruba wife on Facebook, and i still love her just like I first met her. If there ever was a next life or if reincarnation exists, I do hope that we may meet again in the next life.

the ending is perfect

Asking a girl for her name is a bad introduction. If you want to know their name, tell them yours first. If they don't tell you theirs afterward, it probably means they aren't interested, which doesn't necessarily mean you should immediately move on but it is a good indicator of where you currently stand.

Great video man. It took a lot of courage in all your approaches to the girls introducing yourself and fumbling the ball. But, you learn from it all and realize, no one cares. Just recover and do it again. Did liked the last 5 seconds in how it ended.

Homie got so nervous, respect for going for it bro I’m the same

GEN, props to you man. Having to edit those cringe moments and still having the balls to post it on youtube is admirable

“Love happens when you least expected.” It’s a nice phrase, but people that are not “commonly” attractive do have to work for it. I’ve met people who are 26 or even older and haven’t had a significant other and not because they don’t want to. I do think women are more open to talk to someone they don’t find attractive and see where things go than men. Also, online dating has fxcked everything up (and filters), people don’t want to meet in irl. 6:30 you were not even rejected, you walked away from both situations lmao 9:57 if they saw you filming, they probably thought it was a prank. 10:10 the spotlight effect is less relevant now that people can take out their phone and turn you into a meme 🤣

Is Dating Today Nearly Impossible? R: Yes Save you 14 min of your time XDXD

Take-home: "The most successful people aren't the smartest, the most talented or the best looking; they are the most consistently bold". The message - keep trying, keep putting yourself out there. Practical. Great piece.

Great content!

Volunteer. Go there to enjoy yourself & fellow human beings. Every time I've done this, even a little bit, every woman in dating age range- even those typically "out of my league", are checking me out. Anything even resembling desperation is a huge turn off. But someone enjoying themselves, even if it seems like they have no right to do so, is someone that others want to be around. Trick is to display that you're an intriguing and enjoyable individual with more going on in your life than being single & looking.

Ending got me like "mah man"

Bro, that was a good approach. Keep watching content, go out there keep approaching, you'll get better

bro this guy need 1m sub

New non toxic sneako?