Free Tip Fluffy: after been married 12 years i learn how to ask the questions, the trick is not to ask: Me: Honey, guess what are we going to eat? wife: Sushi?! Me: Wow You guessed it! xD
This is so accurate it's scary... I mean, I'm not going to ask my wife for a divorce and start having gay relations next week.. But, not gonna lie, it would be nice to just hear YES and NO to YES/NO questions for once lol
I'm a gay man and I have seen conversations between straight friends who are a couple together. Sometimes seeing that the guy really tries his best, but the lady is unsure about everything and she doesn't like the provided options. Never have that problem with my boyfriend.
I would love a husband who occasionally. Just once every two months actually asked me where I wanted to go eat. Granted we'd probably end up getting sushi 9/10 times. But still.
And there’s the real trouble: a lesbian couple… my girlfriend and I can’t make a decision to save our lives. It takes us 20 minutes sometimes to figure out just *where* we want food, and a another 20 to make a choice off the menu. Gods help us…
Make it multiple choice and discard options 1 by 1 "Which of these you like the least" then cross out that one Keep at it until you got a couple of options left or none at all
Now I understand why in classic family the husband is the one making all the decisions. Hes simply faster. Where do we eat? Rock, paper, scissors, "Burger King". 20 minutes later: "Wendy's"
simple ... just write them on a scrap of paper, put 'em in a hat, pull out one scrap of paper ... If you both don't like it, you can blame it on the hat ....
Believe or not some guy actually solved the ever challenging question regarding food. How many times have you asked your girl hey where would you like too eat? And she always says "I don't know I don't care". Well he actually named his restaurant I Don't Know I Don't Care.
Tbh, I was raised in a family where my dad would ask where we wanted to eat and if it wasn't where he wanted to go, he'd sulk and grump the whole meal, then bitched the whole way home because he ordered something he wouldn't like. Now when my BF asks where I want to go, I get flustered/won't pick because I don't want to say the wrong thing and deal with that.
Me and my lover were together for 33 1/2 years. He passed from complications of a stroke on August 18, 2018. We NEVER went to bed silent. We always said I love you before we went sleep so that would be the last thing we said if we died in our sleep. That was the last thing I said to him before he died.
@@furonwarrior That's not always the thing. My partner is kind of shy and just thinks too much. Like, she would ask a thousand times if what she choose is what I liked as well. There are many reasons for not giving a clear answer.
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I've been married 33 years. My wife does not act like this. She knows exactly what she wants exactly when she wants it and does not beat around the bush about it. That's what I've always loved her so much. Absolutely no b*******.
"Bébe,you hungry?" "Well... i havent eaten in a while so yeah it would probably be a good time to eat and if i dont eat,you know how i get so yeah i guess I'm hungry" "AAAAAAAAAAAAAAH"
I have a question to ask, to which non-answers will not be appreciated unless if they're clearly sarcasm, or marked as such if you think they may not be. The question is: How the heck do you pull that off?
My ex was like that so I never gave him an option. "Babe, we're going to eat with . We are going to . Wanna come? He always said yes, then I'd look at the menu and go "Babe, I'm having the . Do you want it too or are you going to have the as usual?". I learned early on in the relationship that if I gave him choices we'd end up staying in :)
@@adelucas4824 I wish a partner would just do that for me because I cannot make a choice for the life of me. I could spend half an hour comparing the pros and cons of using a blue pen or a red pen and by the end of it forget why I even need a pen lol
They should do this: have a restaurant called "I don't care!" That way you get an answer, BUT here's the catch; the menu at that restaurant is food that tends to be popular towards men!
That you don’t just say “Flying FUCK” shows you give at least a “walking” one since you abbreviated the term 🤪🤪🤪 For reference, that was meant as a little bit of sarcastic humour at the phrasing, whilst still agreeing with you As the late great George Carlin once said “political correctness is little more than fascism disguised as good manners”
@@rusty5078 It varies from person to person, and it doesn't really seem much better in any demographic, really. I'm sometimes really indecisive, but I'm also not someone who'll complain even if things aren't perfect, so things tend to work out. I'm heterosexual though, not that it should really matter. Something both good and bad is that I'm usually expected to make the decisions, so if I'm put in such a situation I just pick one without even thinking about it, no hesitation. Because I know that there's no best answer. At that point my girlfriend just has to deal with it. She was the one who made me choose, she has to accept the decision. If she's not happy with it, I might change my decision, but I usually don't. There have been a few conflicts due to it, but it's not a big deal.
Totally agree, if my man asks what I want to eat and I tell him what I want he almost always says oh I don't want that so we will go here. Why do you ask me if you already had something else in mind?!
Here's a little secret girls. Most of these "thinking out loud" is totally fine as long as you finish it with answering the question. "Yes I'm hungry. Some chicken would be good" and from that we can figure it out...
The problem my husband and I have is that neither of us really care. Seriously, most places have basically the same things on the menu they are just prepared in a slightly different manner. So it basically comes down to one asking, "Is there something in particular you want?" If no one really cares we just hit the place closest to our current location.....
If he's a bottom these conversations are even shorter. "Hey what do you wanna eat?" "Him:Anything you want daddy" Hey how do you feel? Him: I need hugs daddy See case closed and we're both happy.
How did I get so lucky? I can ask my wife either question and get an answer, and when I suggest a place 99 times out of 100 she agrees. The "How do you feel?" question... yeah... that's still stepping on a landmine.
I'm a straight chick, but in a lot of ways, I think like a guy. "Where do you want to go to eat?" "McDonald's." "How do you feel?" "I'm f*cking exhausted and I'm going to bed. Wanna join me?" I kind of don't do vague. Yes or no is pretty easy. Now ask me about this in about two weeks, nd we'll see if I still agree with myself.
Hang tough Victoria. Healing hugs of love and positive energy are being sent to you from the universe. I have found that laughter is one of the most amazing natural medicines ever!
That eating part would not work like that because most bottoms tend to not over eat so they can play later XD In other words, eating would be only for Fluffy XD
1:46 yep... a classic... my favorite female deluxe feature is when you give them x choices (tailored to them) to pick from or simply let them suggest whatever THEY want (to save some time.. wishful thinking..).. but YOU still end up being the one that has to decide.. and THEY will still argue with you that "we always do what YOU want, i never get to pick bla bla bla"... true queens.. of the stone age..
I'm a little easier to get an answer out of: "What do you want to eat?" Me: "Idk, give me some ideas." [Rattles off ideas] Me: "Nah, nope, nah. Don't want any of that. Hey but you know what... I think I'm hungry for some chicken. How about X?" or alternately, if they mention something and it resonates. Me: "That sounds awesome! lets get X"
Sometimes I'm so desperate for an answer that an i don't know, or maybe would definitely make my day, i even told my wife just say you don't know or maybe better than not answering at all
The answer to "Where do you want to eat?" is too complicated. I want the fries from Chick-fil-A, the burger from that little roadside diner that we stopped at in Montana ten years ago, the rolls from Texas Roadhouse, and a DQ blizzard, but with a flavor they discontinued. There's no way to say it that doesn't make you sound crazy.
I have the opposite happen. I never want something until I'm reminded about a limited time food item. Example: Lemonades Girl Scout cookies. Unless I see some I never really think about them.
My GF and I were living in different cities at the time and I happened to be in town when her car started breaking down. So she decided to get a new car that she had been wanting. I sat down with her and found a dealership that had just what she was looking for. Got there and found out that it was missing some features so I convinced them to get the model she wanted from another dealership in town. I then haggled with them to get down to the monthly payment she could afford. We went back and forth, I threatened to leave at one point until the dealership manager intervened to get it done (he looked exasperated). They kept the dealership opened to finish the financing and at the end of a long day, she was finally driving home in the car she wanted for the price she asked for!! As we're heading down the street, she says that she's hungry and me still basking in the glow of what we just accomplished goes "Ok, what do you have a taste for?". She looks at me and screams "CAN'T YOU DECIDE ON SOMETHING?!?!" .... yeah there was a reason we lived in two different cities. 🙄
@@kiethmergard I think it's a British thing When asking if someone is batting for the other team we say, only on a weekend, or only on a Tuesday. Dunno why but it's what we do lol
Lesbian Couple: Takes 40 mins to pick a place and 15 to order of the menu and probably end up arguing Straight couple: Takes 20 mins to pick a place and 10 to order and definitely end up arguing Gay (Men) Couple: Takes less the 5 to pick a place less then 5 mins to order and end up most likely having a good time
@@kiethmergard the only sort of ppl who do this I suppose are really famous ppl who put on an act for the public to keep that image. I can't see this being Fluffy tbh lol he acts camp as hell sure but that's part of the storytelling I guess
My wife has no issue telling me she's hungry. Most of the time I don't even need to ask. She does it beforehand. She's built like a Viking and will eat anything. If neither of us can decide, we narrow it down to 2-4 options and either A.) Flip a coin or B.) Roll a die. Best 2 of 3 decides it. And we've made a lot of food-based decisions on it. Same thing with the "How do you feel" comment. If I ask her, she's honest about it. Other times, we'd be talking online while we're both at work and she'll keep me updated on how she's feeling. And it helps. A. Lot.
I must be a rarity. First question: yes, second, subway, third, I feel great. Although, my wants change in food, if burgerking, then I want a grilled chicken sandwich with cheese. Anyways, it’s usually me waiting for others to decide.
I'm a woman, but I am not like that, thankfully. If you ask me if I'm hungry, you will get a yes or no answer. If you ask where I want to go or what type of food I would like, you will usually get a straightforward answer. And I don't play mind games, either. Ask me how I feel and I'll tell you.
What's funny is that my wife sent me this video, saying she gets to keep her girl card. Not sorry. Not she'll try to communicate more clearly and succinctly. Not she'll try to be more decisive. Not that she'll even listen to my actual words. Nope. None of that. So she recognizes her part in the problem, owns it, but has absolutely no intent to improve any. About sums it all up, eh?
LMFAO!! That was brilliant Fluffy and so spot on brother. As a gay man that loves men and who has dated women a thousand years ago, yup, I am hungry, let's eat now, and I am horny. LOL. BTW, I don't own a Lexus thank god but I do love my Ford F150. My home . . . it's all good to burp, fart and leave the toilet seat up. If it's yellow, let it mellow, if it's brown flush it down. Rock On!