Is the Narcissist Manipulating You (and you don’t know it)? 🤷🏻‍♀️ 

Interesting video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

My narc parents were all about manipulation (since childhood). I suffered a stroke a month ago and they made it about them (particularly my narc father). I’m just now at 51 figuring this out and want nothing to do with either of them. So yeah- narcissists are all about manipulating you, so be careful.

OR ....if the relationship isn't reciprocal don't stay in it.

This is my father. He was a gaslighting narcissistic asshole growing up. I'm 47 now... and he hates it when I stand up for myself. He can't handle it.

How can you have a conversation or a confrontation if you are nervous and you are shaking in your boots 👢.

I love these videos. Dealing with my narcissistic parent is exhausting. The guilt is SO overwhelming and I am always shocked at how much it eats me alive, even when I know the manipulation that is happening. Codependency sucks but Im determined to heal. Ive gotten a lot better at creating distance, glazing over their constant poor me speeches and learning i cant "fix" them or their life.

I was going through a horrible divorce and had no idea of this actual trait or terminology. I got through all that pain because of you. We have never met and I hope maybe one day. Thank you from the bottom of my heart:)

Good video and topic! Yes: it's so important to see that boundaries are based on our standards and our needs. I was raised to think I always needed to fix myself (even worse, that I had mental problems and my parents were always right). I'm too sensitive, think too much, blah blah blah says the NPDs. Also, it's just in my nature to want to do emotional work. So those two things made me tolerate a lot that I wish I wouldn't have with family of origin and with ex partners, etc. And, unfortunately, I believed that the more time these people were with me and if I just could get them to value me, then they would change. NO! I am now following my intuition no matter what. And honoring my needs and standards. I see why I didn't before: because following my intuition and my needs has meant I am alone a lot--I don't care about superficial, flippant, impulsive interactions and events. And I read people and their energy really well. I want quality, investing, deep, honest, loyal, safe and protective relationships--it's not easy to find people who want the same. Don't try to get blood from a turnip / don't bark up the wrong trees: I think that if a relationship isn't very close, and the other person just isn't on the same page with awareness, etc., saying as little as possible and having as little invested into difficult people is the best route to take. Ideally, no contact is the way to go. Otherwise, remember, whatever we expose to difficult people will likely be used against us. I have had to deal with the shame of giving pieces of myself away to toxic people who exploited me--starting with my NPD parents. I can never remove myself from their memories--oh how I would love to! My high need to be believed, understood and related to was wasted on (and exploited by) toxic people. I now save that for the people with whom I have a close, connected relationship. That's the ultimate boundary. And it's self-care and self-respect and having dignity.

Living with a narcissist or someone with manipulative behaviors chronically we ignore boundaries violation

Am going through a divorce where my husband decided that he didn’t want to be with anymore. However, I am very close to his mother and caught myself crossing boundaries in talking about the intricacies of the relationship. I really appreciated that she stood up to me and told me her boundaries. However, I’m sad because I really ❤ her and I don’t know how to separate me talking about how I’m doing without integrating him and how hurt I am. Feel like I’m losing a family member and that I can’t talk to her for a while because it’s just too painful. I’m rambling, yet I want to thank you for the support your channel has given me through this time. I don’t know if I’d still be here if it wasn’t for you ❤

Stephanie, I cannot thank you enough for your videos. Watching them has been super helpful, keep up the great work!

Whats intresting is learning to identify boundary violations that are non verbal...like excessive monitoring excessive snooping..im sure thers alot...after all burgalers dont respect boundaries 😳 Love your videos they are helpfull

You are the best! 🔥Thank you🙏❤

Your channel is so helpful!! I’m so grateful for your content!

I walk away I don’t explain but I dealing with a narcissist that tries to dominate me in my own yardwork, I go for a peace and quiet my garden and he knows it and there’s some things I need him to do so he comes out and create a situation that he created and then blames it on me I told him don’t put the chainsaw away so he does then it’s my fault because I find something else that I need to do telling me I’m stupid why didn’t I tell him before when I had I just said don’t put it away. We’re going to need it he got triggered for some reason or decided he just wanted to hurt me you never know with narcissist He tried to dominate me in the yard where the neighbors can hear I walked away I go to a different part of the garden and work. I have plenty of stuff to do and go plant something else. I won’t be treated that way anymore if he’s abusive, he just lost my attention for quite a while

Stephanie is one of the best!

Thanks Stephanie for your information and have a Nice Day 🙂👍

Excellent again….Thank you Stephanie! Take care! 🙂

Absolutely tremendous Stephanie, Thank you so much for this, I don't allow others to guilt me or play on my emotions, I have immense self control, Peace, Love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to you and the most high :-)

Thank you. I am still learning how to develop a healthy boundary for my peace of mind. I love your channel and your bright, strong and beautiful personality. Thank you. 🤍🌼

My boss gave me two days of silent treatment. On the third day, he said "do you not see we are on to a major communication issue. Can you not sense I'm upset? Or do you not care?" I replied "What are you upset about?" He: Why do you ask now? I: Is it about miscommunication? He: Why Do You Ask Now? I: Because you brought up first. He: If I didn't, you would sit through the rest of the week right?.... I feel uncomfortable about being talked to like this. My friend said it sounds like I'm dealing with a girlfriend in a relationship.

1 Corinthians 1:18 For the preaching of the cross is to them that perish foolishness; but unto us which are saved it is the power of God.

This was such a good video with a lot of very good information! It is exactly what I have been focusing on lately.

Good video as always ! Keep up the good job! 👌👌💪💪

Yes they are SUPER MANIPULATIVE! CAUTION! STAY WOKE!

You pretty much described my life story in this video. My mother and other people around me in my culture basically dismiss everything that I say when I try to set boundaries, then when they cross those boundaries and I speak up for myself they react as if I'm a bad person, or I may say from the begining that I can't do something or don't want to do it and they coax me into doing it and when I can't I'm a bad person. Then in order to set boundaries at the beginning I have to be very aggressive and people are put off by that. I spend a lot of time suffering in silence.

This very good video that help me and other with setting boundaries

So good! ❤

Thank you..may you have a great day ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

I didn’t even know the terminology, like boundary or narcissist or gaslighting. I knew something was off when my in-laws asked to share too much personal info, I was telling them I won’t but knowing that I was setting a boundary but I was told I am rude. On top of that my spouse being a people pleaser (much worse then I am), they could not say no to their parent. Until we went to therapy, we had no clue. We both were afraid of conflict (spouse much more afraid than I). 10 years later into our marriage, we have learned to be better communicators and started working on our values as a family and setting boundaries. We still make mistakes but they are far and few in between. We have been manipulated so much that I have been living in fear. I am not any more, I feel like with therapy and couples counseling we have learned to become resilient and handle narcissists with boundaries.

I love this video Thank you 🙏 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

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So my narcissist decided to have rage temper tantrum, yelling, screaming, kicked my car, stuck his face on my face, beat the shit out of a brush on the side of our daycare all because I didnt tell him that I went shopping with a friend, he claims I lied to him and hid it from him, when I have made it very clear that we are not together.... unfortunately I can't go no contact with him because we own a business together and a home that I moved out of almost a year ago. I have been working on boundaries with him, but he doesn't like it.... but the more I do it the easier it gets for me to do it. I just don't go round and round with him anymore...

Its gone rampart this Narcissistic abuse it's insane well at least everyone's talking about Narcissists they grandiose selfish people got what they want.. now what

I knew what was being said was horrible to me but they which was her and her ma had so much control. If I said anything about what was said or my feelings… the same phrase all the time.. “you just think it’s all about you”!!! So I just walked out of the room. 20 years later i saw my two oldest daughters were saying similar stuff to me. Oldest has that stuff bad. second daughter and the other two…yes four daughters… we all worked it out and have a future commitment to always talk and they will always talk to each other. This is to stop that behavior from continuing down the generations

1 Samuel 2:7 The LORD maketh poor, and maketh rich: he bringeth low, and lifteth up.

I recently found your channel and I find it very straightforward and helpful. But how does a person learn to find their true self after being raised by a narcissistic parent and then marrying someone just like their abuser? How do you unpack the years and layers of verbal and psychological abuse?

When I set my boundaries he gets mad 😡 😢and doesn’t respect it at all. When I don’t answer his phone calls I get treating text messages as well as non stop 🛑 call 📱 back to back

Thank you for all of your help Stephanie. How can I have sessions with you?

👍🏿 Agree 👍🏿

How do you reestablish boundaries after they’ve taken them all away?

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oh I know it, but why do I still allow it🤔

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You’re describing my fiancé to a T!

🕙 where more worries many reasons one private companies without Labor Unions? There no peace of 💙mind or soul?