"I'm not your son, you're not my father", to me, means the two are equals. One man is at the end of his life, while the other is prepared to carry on his legacy by stepping into his role.
It actually came from their times in the British Army. They're both ex servicemen,and when James got deployed, they used to bid each other farewell with those lines as a way of saying "Goodbye,good luck,I love you" without expressing much emotion..the whole British stiff upper lip thing.
I'm not your son . You're not my father. Just two grown men saying goodbye. I would read that as I am not the little boy you used to make feel safe chasing my monsters away . I'm a man now too dad, let me help you with your monsters.
Or it maybe he was using self preservation and distancing himself, so his death wouldn't be as painful. I know I tried to do that when my father died, it didn't work. The last verse is heartbreaking. Don't be afraid, its my turn to chase the monsters away, to me is death, we're all frightened of dying and the unknown. I'll be the last one, and leave the light on, so there'll be no darkness in your heart, staying with him with his hand on his arm till the end, so he's not alone. A beautiful song and beautifully sung.
This is as raw as it gets. First time singing it to his father who is dying from kidney disease, no auto-tune, just his voice and the raw emotions. This was the first take no cuts! Later they found a donor he got a kidney. This will go down in history as one of the most authentic songs of all time! You can't get any more real than this song. For the record I've watched other reaction videos to this song and watch big burly biker guys break down into a blubbering ball of tears. It was nice to know I wasn't alone. Lost my dad in 1990 and I'm still dealing with the loss. It's complicated.
I think thats why i love it. Just Raw and Real as it gets. Its hard not to get emotional. Wether you have experienced the same or not. Im sorry to hear about your dad, sending love your way brother 💙
James Blunts final song for his dad who is the man sitting with him in the video ....he is at the end of his life with kidney failure. He gave away a kidney years before only to find that he needed one himself. They were both serving in the army, one a commander and one a colonel. Before they went to various war zones James dad would always say, " you're not my son, I'm not your father, we're just two grown men saying goodbye" and James incorporated this line into this song.... Sang in one take to catch the raw emotion, apparently the only person not crying was his dad ! Lol.... Anyway, the song reached the ears of a distant cousin who came forward and was found to be a match for kidney donation thus saving Blunt seniors life ! He remains with us today ! What a story....what a tribute ! ❤
They found a match for his father and he has had a transplant, not heard how it went though. This song gets you right in the heart and makes you evaluate your relationship with your own father. As a military man, who guarded Princess Diana's coffin before her funeral, it is very rare for them to show emotion so this video is something else I love it even if I sob everytime I see it.
James was a Captain in the British Army, he was one of the first NATO troops into Kosovo. The stood guard at the coffin of the Queen Mother, his father was Colonel. Good brave men.
His dad has stage 4 kidney disease he desperatly needs a kidney but you know how transplant lists go. No guarantees. Saying hes not the son etc is a symbolic way to say that hes not a little boy thats dependant on his father and will be in a bad way without him. Theyre two grown men and at their age the father son relationship is a friendship.
Plus when he says it’s his turn to chase the monsters away it’s like when you are young and your parents chase the monsters away in the night if you are scared. Janes is saying it’s his turn now and not to be afraid Dad.
"I'm not your son, you're not my father. We're just two grown men saying goodbye" I think is referring to them regarding each other as adults and equals.
He's saying, I'm not saying this as a son to his father, I'm saying it as one man to another. It's like saying, I'm not saying this as your co worker, I'm saying this as your friend.
I loved your reaction to this amazing, beautiful, emotional song. Frankly, I don't know how James managed to do it. I heard this was the first time he'd sung it to his father who was suffering from terminal kidney cancer, but thank God, they managed to find a distant relative who donated his kidney and his father is still very much with us. Both James and his dad are former British military officers, so I reckon emotions were scarcely exchanged in their earlier years, I'm just guessing, but this song just rips your heart out. The emotions are real and his delivery is real too, so no wonder his voice wavers a bit, I think we can forgive him that.
It’s that he is forgiving his father, his father forgives him and they are seeing each other as just men…the monsters are like when you’re a child and are afraid of the monsters under the bed and your parent comes in and scares them away. He’s scaring the monster of death away.
James blunt was a captain in the lifeguards household cavalry regt ,in the British army ! His songs are so powerful ,every time I hear this I sob !! His father is ok now after receiving a kidney transplant !
Son and father have a formal bend. James and Dad were both military, so I partly take that as he's talking to him stripping away that formality. It's also a beautiful juxtaposition because it implies they are equals "we are just two grown men..." Then just a few lines later he calls him daddy... Then a few lines later says it's his turn to chase the monsters away... The whole idea of comforting his dad as one would a child going to bed, but his dad to his eternal sleep. I feel it shows his vulnerability, trying to step up to be the man, but still wanting his dad to lean on... Watch the end again .. the thing I saw on another reaction video comment is that the dad pats his arm at the end. The whole song is essentially: dad, it will be ok. But in the end dad comforts his son yet again. A couple other details I read is James wrote this, sang it for the first time in front of the cameras with dad there. It was done in one take, and he wouldn't let producers fix his vocals post production. He wanted it to be raw and real.
Greetings, Jay...from the banks of the Mississippi River. Thanks for sharing this reaction of yours to Blunt's 'Monsters'. It was a solid, straightforward reaction to a moving moment in James' life. In that moment...they both realized the father's future was indefinite and failing. A transplant has altered the trajectory...but the message would stay the same. I'm sensing that you're young enough to still feel the role of 'son' to a father. People are often well into mid-life before they really start unraveling themselves from the expectations and meanings of the roles that biology begins...but culture defines. Many sons have significant issues with many dads, who in their efforts at doing something for which there is no training and there is minimal support...are often living on an edge of almost terror that something will go wrong for a child, a family, their well-being, their future. Lacking training...lacking support...many fathers find the easiest response to a boy to be attempting control...and sons underneath that dominance...want much to be seen, understood, and valued as they are. James' video captures many of the complexities of relationship. Aging offers us the capacity to step outside the expectations that culture..in the form of our 'herds'...demands we carry. But it's work, because the training of expectations intertwined with memory and the stories of others...expects of us oh so much. I'm 67...my father is 94...and we've been in the 'we're just two men' phase for a some time. We did the work...to lay down the expectations...judgments...dysfunctions. I might offer another way to view what you were calling 'deep'...and that is to see in feelings like James...and you ability to feel it...simply 'illumination'. Note how easy it is to feel it. Note how easy it was for him to let the tears be visible that enabled you to see how he felt. Note any efforts internally to not be visible with your own tears. In many ways, the only 'depth' involved is how many masks and costumes do we wear to keep our real and honest emotions invisible to the rest of the world....for what reason? Tear the mask off any hurt...the mask of "I'm okay. I've got this under control'...and the real pain and accompanying suffering is right there...not deep...just hiding beneath the masked images we try to project. Think of how so many images of 'being a man'...sell the masks of being invisible. Thanks for reaction. You might enjoy two other pieces of his that give two other pieces of his perception...'Bonfire Heart' sang at the Nobel Peace Prize ceremony and 'No Bravery' one his early anti-war songs. Have a great holiday. mark
What he saying is said their roles have changed. The father chased the monsters away when he put James to bed as a child. Now James is chasing the monstrous away, in other words trying to ease his father's fears as he's dying.
James and his father were both in the British army and "I'm not your son, you're not my father. We're just two grown men saying goodbye" is what they would say to one another when they were being deployed.
@@LisaHilty Yes, the lyrics have lots of references to role reversal but James has stated that this particular phrase was what they had agreed to say to one another when they were being deployed. So I’m not really quite sure what it is that you’re disagreeing with????
Yes he was with his father on the video. His father had kidney problems & needed a donor. Fortunately after the video, they found one of the family who donated, how lovely & heartwarming. xx
Both Blunt and his father served in the military and when James's was sent to Kosovo it has been reported that when his father said goodbye, his dad said "you are not my son and I am not your father, we are just two men saying goodbye ".
I saw a interview with James Blunt on a England broadcast channel a couple of months after his dad's surgery. James wasn't a match and his father Charlie Blunt did find a doner. The diner was a distant relative who's name also happens to be Charlie Blunt. The 2 Charlie's is how James said it. That is by the grace of God.
I don’t cry for this song! It’s beautiful! Go two people can have this type of a relationship it should be celebrated and put a simile on your face! AND it is so beautifully sung!!!!!!! With so much motion!!! It is simply beautiful! Especially what it commemorates!!!
so his dad needs a kidney transplant at the time of this song but no one was a match but luckily his dads uncle was a match so its fine but on another note James's dads name is charlie and his uncle's name is charlie also there both doing well, the song is about how fragile life is and how quickly it can turn
I watched a mash up to men reacting to all men reacting to this, she picked all the best reactions and you were one,I went through and subbed to all of you because of this reaction. You guys giving men a good name everywhere, without this mash up I wouldn't have known about any of you, I've thanked her deeply for putting you beautiful human beings on my radar, I hope you feel the same, as a mum with young sons in their late 20s early 30s, the world needs guys like all of you ❤ 💙 ♥ 🥲🥲🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆✌.
Theres nothing special about us. its real and raw and i appreciate real life music from the heart and soul. Bringing true emotions to everyone. U cant fake emotions sometimes. We all feel and it is normal and okay. Thank you for watching though and for subbing. Its appreciated for sure 🤍
@@JayTip the reason I was impressed is I have 2 sons 34 & 29 who also will cry if they feel like it, and 5 grandsons, one of my 13 year old grandsons lost it playing ghost of tsushima and at the end of red dead redemption, but Tasmanian/ Australian culture has taken a long time to breed out the boys don't cry thinking, that's why videos like this are important in this culture. Most importantly though I really wanted to watch that song with a reactor and instead subscribed to 6,7 excellent RU-vid channels instead, the lady who done the mashup had to take it down, I'm glad I seen it 1st or I wouldn't have known you guys existed, I don't comment on all the videos, I just wanted you to know I found all of you because you guys had a profound effect on her to 🙂🙂💞 and I've loved all the reactions since 😀 ✌🇦🇺🐨🙋♀️.
I watched an interview with James about the making of this clip, his dad is a hard ass old colonel and couldn’t understand what the fuss was about lol while everyone else there was a blubbering mess. His dads meant to be better now.
The record company wanted him to use autotune to remove the cracks in his voice from emotion and he said no and did the song in 1 take then brought his dad into a room just them and sang it to him.
@@user-mp9rd4hg8b Hang in there, man. For all we know there's life beyond the flame. If you haven't seen Surviving Death on Netflix, check it out. It's pretty eye-opening. Whether or not it's true or real remains to be seen, but it does give you a little hope.
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Hi father was waiting for a kidney transplant but couldn’t find marching one , he was sick for a while , then they found a matching one from a long distant cousin , so yes father doing ok , but still on the mend
I think it’s that they have changed roles. Dad chased away “monsters” when he was little boy. No dad has dementia or Alzheimer’s and he is chase away monsters now.
This hit me hard back to when my dad died after getting hit by the car me by his side deciding to turn off his machines per his request that he did not want to live on machines and saying goodbye by his side. 😭
Men do not talk about emotional issues, they get ignored. Men are more like giving each other a slap on the back and getting another beer from the fridge, this kind of emotion does not enter into the everyday relationship. This is why now that his dad is dying, he drops all the pretenses and lets his emotion out by saying he is not his son and his father is not his father but two grown men saying goodbye, discussing issues they normally would avoid.
His dad had stage 4 kidney failure at the time so he thought he was going to die.. There was a kidney donor so his life was saved but apparently his dad isn't doing too good right now.
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You're a young person so let me explain the, "I'm not your son, you're not my father" bit. They are BOTH adults now, still a son and a father, but equal as adults. So he's saying goodbye to his father as two GROWN MEN would say goodbye, not a child anymore....Understand?
It is a good test this video. If you dont have a real physical responding to it, you are lacking in the empathy dep. But, I mean, many doing reactons here are narcs, so good on you
I feel what hes saying, maybe not to the extent of someone that has gone through the same thing. But i dont want to overkill and over react using my emotions. I defintely felt the video and song though 💙
The part about James not being his son and vice versa, is because troughout their lives, James and his father didn't have a good relationship, they were pretty much strangers until not long ago
Oh wow for real? I didn't know that. Comes down to how people are in general I guess though. Everyone had different relationships with their fathers too