That`s a great warm up! Thanks! People just need to realize that this is just an ice breaker. If they did this the entire conversation, it will look like an interview or like they are beeing nosey hahahaha
"How many chardonnays you had?" might be a difficult question to answer ;) In magic we use questions for misdirection and we know there's a difference between "internal" vs "external" questions. For example, "is it cold where you're sitting?" would be an external question and "do you feel cold where you're sitting?" would be internal. External questions are easier to answer because they relate to the environment. Another example is when we find a card in a card trick, we ask an internal question “is this the card you’re thinking off?”. And that has more impact than the external question “is this the card you’ve picked?” Do you have similar definitions? And have you study applications of these topics in the context of magic and misdirection? :)
This comment has sparked my interest greatly, internal vs external questions. I've gotta find out more on this 🤔. Thanks for bringing this to my attention
I use this often but was unaware it was a numbers question thing. Now that you've brought it to my attention, I'm gonna add a few more to my repertoire. Thanks to you and Jerry
Your smile is completely disarming. It makes me smile every time. Thanks! I think smiling is underrated and if done authentically it can be perceived as honest and more approachable. And that's why I watch your videos. Great tip on number questions. Will definitely apply it.
Nice to know that I was doing this unconsciously I loved peeking all the details of someone life to get a good vision about there life so I can give the most effective advice they will ever hear
That’s a great tip. Take an initiative with a numbers based question. Then proceed with other questions. Vanessa, can you please make a video on storytelling?
After they answer how long it took them to get somewhere, where are ya left off? LOL..I get the point of this video but there is no hack to the jumping point of conversation..it all comes down to skills & experience.
@@ScienceOfPeople Hi Vanessa, glad you like it. I enjoy your work on RU-vid a lot; keep up the good work. If you want to know more about the underlying mechanisms of things like social anxiety (internal and external considering) and identification, read up on P.D. Ouspensky and G.I Gurdjieff if you haven't already. I can recommend "In search of the Miraculous" Pretty heavy stuff, but it explains human behavior and, after all, humans and that's what we're here for on our journey. Thx. for the comment. Greetings from Holland & Regards, Carel.