Here’s two respectable strong men, talking about a sensitive subject. I appreciate this video for young men who’ve had similar experiences and feel alone or too embarrassed to talk about it.
So happy to see 2 men able to have a mature discussion about their own exposure to abuse as if its no big deal, its really important for all the male victims/survivors still living in silence out of fear to see you do that. Kudos.
you’re right. this can be a rough topic for anybody who understands the stress, but it’s really cool we’ve got people who are aware and open i know my heart still races even just thinking. the truth of what happened is far fetched, but i shouldn’t have to be scared of talking about it like i am. maybe i should take notes or something
@@pegasusrichards In my experience, sometimes it really is a matter of practice. Sometimes even just saying it out loud to yourself or to your pets or writing it out can help you lessen your anxiety so that when you are ready you know better how and what to say. It can be incredibly healing just to hear yourself say it and get to feel that you survived it and are actually safe now, and you realize that you can revisit it to work on the trauma and it can't hurt you anymore. Good luck.
My dad is a hero in my mind when it comes to this. He was a sheriff deputy for 33 years and he saved a young person from a POS like this. He was doing extra duty at the flea market and a guy told a little girl that he had puppies in his van and asked if she wanted to see them. Turns out he had a van and a lighter with puppies on them. Somehow my dad was able to stop and arrest this POS before he kidnaped this young girl or did anything to her.
@@erk44 If you think something is wrong...it probably is. A successful and healthy relationship never stems from thinking they are targeting your child. they are everywhere. Be careful.
I’ve been shouting this from the rooftops for years, I have an 11 yr old daughter. I’ve only dated about 3 guyys, never brought one home . One of them was constantly telling me (in a creepy way) just how much he wanted to meet my daughter who was 5 at the time. He was immediately dropped. I haven’t dated since 🦋
These predators are despicable. As a straight guy who isn't like that, I love talking to kids and interacting with them. I have a nephew who I love to death. But you can't even say "hi" to a kid these days without seeming suspicious. These freaks are causing a change in our culture. You can see that more men are just unable to interact with kids because there's always that thought that someone is going to accuse you of something. It's a sad state of affairs for everybody that these people exist.
Even as a woman i feel uncomfortable. My neighbours kids always chase me in the street to pet my dog n im like id love to be chat and be kind but i usually say aww guys we're in a hurry
I work in a prison and i think the justice system is really messed up. Often times when someone that gets caught with child porn they have a longer sentence than someone who actually touched or raped young children. I think that should be a death sentence. Stop it in its tracks instead of let them out to see if they do it again. Ive seen them come back to prison after being released.
I work in the justice system in scotland and the team that work with sex offenders held a christmas party for them. Turkey roast dinner....them all mixing together. I swear to god it makes me enraged! To call it a justice system....what about the victims!
Fixations are powerful we got to be careful on what we fixate on. So glad that strong brave librarian said somthing, now days most people freeze up & might concider calling the police. By the time the police ever show up though , it's almost always after a bad scenario occurs. God bless her heart
I feel like this is extremely underrated. Here’s two grown, strong, respectable men talking about such a sensitive subject and showing that even they’ve experienced it. Guys are so scared to seem vulnerable sometimes and share their feelings and I respect these two for talking about this and being role models for other men.
@Vincent Morrison Yeah same. This is something that happens everywhere - city, suburbs, and rural areas. It's honestly such a shame because the predators usually get molested when they were kids so it's a constant cycle of pain
When I was 6 or 7, I was playing in the sand and some dude and chick came up and asked me to help them look for the guys belt buckle, they pointed to an alley way away from my house and said they lost it there, I said I have to ask my mom first then he pulls out a dollar and says hell pay me for the help. I went to the window and asked my mom if I could help this guy find his belt buckle, she screamed what and when I turned around they were gone. I was a 6-7yo boy Fucked up shit. I'd probably be a corpse today if I didnt ask my ma
4:50 I have never seen that emotion on Joe's face before. You can see the pain it caused him. To trust someone deeply and have them destroy the trust can break a child. It's nice to see that Joe rose above it. Not everyone does.
I mean if you factor in his age, that wouldn't make sense at all, I also thought I heard Nickelback but at the same time I realized that was in the 90's and this guy's in his 50's.
There was a creep in our neighborhood who would somehow involve himself in our games. He scared me one time when we (my friends and I not the creepy old guy was at no point invited) were playing hide and go seek and I had a good hiding spot in a crawl space and he popped his head in and said “found you” in a creepy quiet voice, I got out of there so fast!
And the kids were like "huh, weird" instead of "what the fuck, get away from this perv" if your old enough to play football alone your old enough to know what a sicko is
I personally think the pedophiles who claim to be nice/harmless, who groom the children, parents, and friends, and who try to pursue the relationship slow and calculated are the most dangerous and cause the most long term effects to their victims. You both are lucky to have gotten away.
@@J2003-i8q you put people who commit crimes into prison you imbecile, pedophila is an attraction/mental problem. It's those who commit crimes that should be locked up.
@@wjdyr you would still use the phrase pedophile for those that committed the crime like Josh said.. not once did he use the term for their sexual preference. And to a large amount of people even just sexual preference has negative stigma, or is a crime in their eyes much like zoophilia, or necrophilia.
girls are taught to be careful of strange men when we're little but when I was coming up no one was telling boys the same. we need to teach both to be careful of these predators.
How would you know? You're girl right? Where I'm from it's pretty common to tell boys to never go with a stranger especially not in their car. When you're lost and someone's helping you find us (mom and dad) always stay in public places and it's best to go to people that work in the store for example.
@@XXLRebel I'm also in my 30s that might have something to do with it. but it could also very well be the area I come from. it's good now that all children are educated.
My parents taught us to be careful of strangers. But they didnt want to tell us what they would do so my mom would say people would kidnap kids and chop off their arms and legs.. I always wondered why..
If any of this happens to you kids I hope you tell your parents. There’s no shame in it. It’s great that you recognized a predator. Now let your parents deal with that person. You will not be in trouble and no one will look at you different. You’ll be a hero to let your family know about those freaks. Promise you.🙏🏾🤙🏾
Wish my story could have ended like these. Obviously unfortunately it didn't. The only one thing that probably keeps me somewhat sane is the fact that sometimes the sexual assaulted turns into the predator But if I have only one soul purpose on this planet is to make sure the chain of evil and pain ends with me. If your going through it right now reach out to someone, and definitely get some professional help as well.
That was a smart one that prolly would’ve worked longer on me. What was your reaction when u realized he doesn’t actually “steal bikes” and he likes touching kids
When I was 9 or 10 I had a similar run in. My family was shopping at the south shore plaza in Braintree, MA and I sat outside a big department store as I didn’t want to be around my sisters who were dress shopping. A man and woman approach me, and to quote Joey Diaz here, “the energy wasn’t right”. They asked me who I was with, where they were and then grabbed me by the wrist. Luckily I was a corpulent youngster and pulling me was a chore and I able to push away the rag the woman tried to place on my mouth. They gave me a look of distain and hurried away as I ran off. Monsters exist, be vigilant people.
That's crazy man. I saw something on TV not too long ago, it was Will Smith's wife, what's her name? Jada Pink Eye or something yeah? Well it was like a 60 Minutes type of a deal that was bringing attention to the huge number of youngsters being abducted from shopping mall car parks by groups, or gangs of men who were snatching these poor kids away into suv's or mini-vans. It was a thing, so much so that Jada did this documentry type of a deal to make people aware. You just can't be too careful now these days, NEVER let your kids out of your sight.
When I was a kid I was by myself at the middle school kicking a ball around practicing soccer, it was around 7. This red pick-up truck pulls up to the side of the field right next to where I was. There was two guys in the truck and the guy on the passenger side rolled down his window. I can't remember what he said but it was enough to spook me out enough to want to leave the situation so as soon as he said it I picked up my ball and crossed the field to where there was a family sitting on a bench. I waited for the truck to pull away from the school then went down this path next to the field that lead to the main shopping area in out town and then walked home. Within the next few days there was an Amber alert in my area saying a kid had gone missing and they were looking for a red GMC pickup truck. I never knew if it was the same guys but it still freaked me out.
Wow I had such a similar story, I was in the 8th grade, mexican in a very small town wich was like 95% white people. I wanted to go to the park or something so I walked from my grandmas house to a park that was about a 8 minuet walk away. I was walking and I was about half way and then a older red truck comes up fast and just stops and I looked and the window was rolled down, there was two white guys around 18-21 and the one in the passenger says something to me and I have no clue what he said but I know it wasn’t good and he had a smile on his face also. I was so scared, a lone kid with no one to witness or protect me, then thank God the truck just drives away and I start fast walking to my house trying to be in public eye if possible and I just got home as fast as I can
I was standing by the bus stop by myself when I was 11 and a man in a red pick up truck was watching me. He stopped the car at the curb and asked me to come over to the window to give him "directions". I ran like hell.
I remember being 11 and I was in a truck stop with my dad, who’s a trucker, and he started yelling at a guy and it embarrassed me at the time because I didn’t understand. Come to find out the guy was staring at me in a creepy way and about to approach me. There’s some creeps in this world for sure
When I was like 14-15, I was hitchhiking while riding my skateboard to meet up with a friend a few miles away. Some guy stopped in a truck so obviously I took the ride like an idiot. I got in and he looked like a normal guy in his mid 30s but something just felt off, I can't really explain it. He said he had to make a quick stop to meet a client on the way and after he did, I was starting to relax a bit once he was back on the road. He was just asking me normal stuff then he said something like "So, you don't seem too worried about hitchhiking, probably got people worried if they try anything you're gonna hit them with that skateboard right?" so I told him"yeah, I guess..." and just kinda ignored it. Once we were getting towards the location, he turned down another road and said "Just need to make one more stop right down this road then I'll drop you off." My gut sank and as he was slowing down and turning, I grabbed for a knife but didn't show it then used my other hand opened the door. I said "I'll just walk from here" as he slowed down on the turn. I started getting out of the car while it was still moving with my skateboard under my arm as he pulled over to the side. I managed to not fall jumping from a moving vehicle but definitely stumbled a bit as he stopped next to me. I still had a knife hidden but was ready for a confrontation when he just looked at me and kept saying "Are you sure you wanna walk? Are you sure? Are you sure? It'll take me just a second..." I just said I was fine because my destination was only like a quarter mile away. He got real serious all the sudden and said "Be more careful hitchhiking, you never know who's gonna pick you up and maybe they won't let you leave next time. Seriously kid, maybe next time you won't make it out in time. Btw that little pocket knife you think you're hiding is only gonna piss someone off, it won't save you and neither will that skateboard..." then he just started laughing and drove away. Don't know if he was crazy or was maybe just fucking with me or actually was trying to kidnap me but I'm glad I jumped out of that truck when I had the opportunity! I'll still pick up hitchhikers but don't remember hitchhiking myself again after that.
@@olliefoxx7165 Now I carry a lot bigger knife and with no kids, keep a loaded gun near me at all times. Never hurts to be ready, rather have it and not need it than need it and not have it. Hell, last year some junkie was looking like he was about to rob me on my way out the pharmacy and just seeing I had a knife, was reaching for it and wasn't gonna let my prescription go without a fight made him change his mind and walk away real quick... My advice, don't be an easy target, predators aren't looking to victimize someone who's gonna be a problem, they wanna take advantage of the weakest person they can find.
Maybe it’s an American thing but can someone explain to me the logic behind letting complete strangers in your car? I ask because you said you pick up hitchhikers.
@@fox2569 In the states, unless you're living in the city, there's a lot of open space. People frequently work like 30-45 mins driving distance from where they live. Well it's normally guys with DUIs who you'll see walking around at like 3-5PM trying to get home from work. I'm usually pretty good at being able to judge people and if they're hitchhiking and come off as normal, I'll give them a ride if they going my way. Usually they're just normal people with no license cuz of DUIs and they're so thankful, they almost always end up giving me some weed or money or something for the ride. Almost always was an alcoholic too. There's been lots of people I didn't stop for too, all depends on my gut feeling and if anything feels off, I'm not risking it but if I can tell it's just some drunk who's trying to get home from work quicker, that's different. Hitchhiking really started as something where in the 50s and 60s people weren't all that worried about their neighbors but after Ted Bundy, people got paranoid about it. Guess for me, I'll usually size the guy up and it's not uncommon for me to also have a friend or 2 in the car with me. If he did try something, there'd be people coming at him with knives or maybe even a gun from all sides... Not saying it's not risky, guess I'm just someone who likes helping others when I can and I'm not that scared of something happening but so far I've been lucky in terms of who I've stopped for. In my teens, people gave me rides all the time hitchhiking and except for that 1 time, it was just normal, helpful people. Honestly I'm just trying to pay it forward to the next man now that I got my license and a car. Anytime I've been to Europe, I've noticed people tend to think it's weird for strangers to even talk to them. I think a lot of it just comes from the culture difference where Americans lots of times are very helpful and friendly even with people they don't know. Not saying I haven't met people like that in Europe but they were just a different type of helpful and friendly.
It's awful how many kids and teens have predators approach them. When I was 8 years old I was walking from my local store, less than 5 minutes from my house and I lived in a safe area and always felt safe. This man kept whistling like there was a dog walking behind me. After a few times I turned around and realised there was no dog and nobody around. At that point I immediately knew this man was dangerous, just from the whistling and feeling I got. I started running at the top of my road, he also started running. I ran onto my driveway and rang our doorbell to be let in. When the door started opening he was just about to run on my driveway, then turned around and kicked a can and kept walking down the road. That's the day I realised I need to be careful because someone might hurt me. Thank goodness my mum opened the door when she did.
I wish there comes a day when all kids, no matter what the circumstances, feel safe enough to talk to adults about anyone that harms them. I was too afraid as a child because i thought I’d get in so much trouble. This is why parents have to be careful not to just constantly scream and yell at your kids when you reprimand them. Sometimes The fear of being yelled at or hit trumps any fear kids have of predators. It’s fucked. We need to do better
My husband was molested around age 10, and when we have kids, you better believe they will know to come to us for anything. The older I get the more pedophilia I’m seeing, it’s utterly shocking.
It was a rainy night in 94, some friends and I were in the park late playing in the wooded section of the playground. I remember the feeling of horror as we sat silent and looked into the woods as we heard sticks breaking to the sound of heavy footsteps. We all froze looking, rain running down my face and I remember the guy with the white hoodie that stepped out of the woods and yelled "IM GONNA GET ONE OF YA'S" I dropped from the tree branch I was on and ran like I had never before. All I could hear was his heavy breathing as he chased after, and I remember I was going so fast I felt confident to look back as I neared a street in a close by neighborhood and to my horror he was right on my heels, I continued running until I saw a family going inside with the porch light on and yelled for them to WAIT! And the dad turns and starts running after this guy enough to scare him off, they called my mom and I was home safe soon after. I'm glad he chased me because I was the fastest of all the kids there and I hate to think what would have happened had he went after one of the girls. To this day we never saw him again. He looked like a vampire or someone with a virus you see in movies. Worst night of my life.
God damn idk what would have went through my mind if I was in your situation. The fact that you’re here years after to talk about something like that shows how strong you are. That sounds like an actual nightmare I wish on no kid. May peace be with you forever.
My gay neighbor warned me take good care of my son, he told me something happened to him as a boy and that there are many perverts looking out for young boys to groom, and I thank him for that. Since then I have never trusted men that are super interested in helping or hanging out kids.
Love the story of the sweet librarian saving Joe from the predator and how Joe said he ran and hugged her and cried. That's so sweet and thank God she was paying attention. I hope she called the cops and said he tried to entice an 8 year old. And they busted him.
I was watching a good documentary on this it was. Alouis theroux documentary and I came to a conclusion that and I know this sounds retarded but I nearly feel sorry for them as they obviously fancy kids instead of people there own age and I presume they are born like that. For instance if you a gay you only like guys and are born that way they can't help it straight people are attracted to opposite sex they can't help that as they are born that way and peadofiles like kids and they can't help that I would imagine. So just a thought for you but at the same time they know what they do is illegal and they still do it.
@Deaven Does Not Exist maybe I'm wrong on that so but for example they say trans people are born in the wrong body and they can't help it so something similar with peadofiles is that they can't help what there sexual prefence is as sick as it is. It's a tough one
@@jericho9653 gay thing is more like a kink, for example some people are attracted to feet, yes they like it but they like sex too , and then there are those who are only into feet , basically its that , people just have accepted that you are born that way , you can be born with disabilities but not a sexual preference , sexual preference comes from your experiences
I've worked with thousands of kids as a coach and I have a daughter. How anyone can be so sick in the head that they see kids as something to prey on this way baffles me and grosses me out. As a father, too, I can guarantee if anyone tried to do anything to my daughter I'd quite possibly end up in prison for the damage I'd cause.
I had a sketchy experience like this growing up. Joe and Joey both relating theirs has me thinking this must be far more common than I initially suspected.
brushfyr 100 agree woman are all talk. Like as guys we do things we get it done and we don’t say none we just do it cause we have to and move on. A woman would straight up tell you and rub it in your face what exactly she did and does it’s so weird.
@@MrXxsnapbacksxx yeah if you're a guy and still got a full head of hair at 35 years and over, you're most likely going to keep that head of hair for the rest of your life.
Julie Arutyunyan My parents: “Never leave with a stranger, get in a car with them, believe them if they say they have candy, and never believe them if they do something to you and say they’ll kill us if they tell. Tell us right away” etc. Every child needs to know this!
thisisnothappening Biden can try to take my guns lol. Fuck he gonna do? Stutter and Shit His Pants? God damn geezers gonna be institutionalized soon enough.
thisisnothappening you can’t take guns away bro it’s a constitutional right but I do believe we should restrict when people can own guns tbh cause 18 yo is to young imo a long with that mentally ill people shouldn’t own guns either
Lord I have a kid and this scares the shit out of me. Im a woman and remember how many older men tried to get at me. Its so common....please look out for not only your kids but others as well
Most men have experienced this type of thing when they were younger, myself included. We all had the creepy neighbor or the transient guy where the kids hung out who gave off a bad vibe. It's almost a "right of passage" type thing. It was common knowledge among the kids I hung out with that certain guys you just didn't hang around with. My uncles that grew up in the forties and fifties would relate the same stories. Most male adults I've developed friendships with will relate the tales in times of candor. As a father, men who would pay attention to my son came under strict scrutiny and were put on notice if I smelled the hint of creepy.
The worst part is... you cant be a Genuine 'Nice Guy' in today's world because of all these perverts. Like... Poor kid Soaking wet walking home in the rain... cant offer a ride cause then the cops show up. Old grandpa guy in the neighborhood offers Pudding pops and Popsicles on a hot summer day... well he just wants to watch kids suck on them he cant just be nice. When I first started working and I heard the ice cream truck I went over, called some kids who were playing over and bought everyone something they wanted for like 25 bucks. I was 18, maybe just turned 19 and the kids were all 13-16 so no one batted an eye. If I did that today omg he is seducing kids half his age!!!! Same freaking nice gesture but pedos ruin it for everyone.
@@MegaNiQ"BAAaaaAk In my day". This is just boomer circle jerk material. Not that it's particularly relevant to society in any quantifiable or significant way but I had a swiss army knife and I grew up in the 2000s.
Joe Rogan i listen to your podcast but this particular one came up in my youtube feed. Thank you for giving courage to those who have been victimized. I think i can talk to my family about it i just hope they care to listen
Hey!, (I'm not trying to sound rude but I'm interested,sorry if it did tho) It's been quite some time since the comment. Any updates on your situation?
Whether they care or not doesn’t matter. It was wrong and not your fault. Those who allow it or ignore it make more abuses possible so you’re doing the right thing. But before you go in, realize you’re way stronger than you think you are. You don’t NEED people to accept it as much as you need it to be known. Stay strong.
These predators have no clue how evil they are. We need to not be afraid to talk to our kids about these experiences that we've had. Children are innocent and do not have a clue unless we teach them. We can teach them or some looser will teach them for us.
These stories freaked me out.If there was ever a argument for the death penalty it would be for pedophiles,maybe we could eradicate that from the earth.
Thank you for sharing your stories. We don’t hear enough about what these stories look like, especially for boys and young men. It’s important to know how these things happen so that we can educate our kids and try to protect them best we can. Thank you
I remember as a child there was a kid I hung out with who was a few years older than me and he asked me if he could give me oral. I was grossed out and annoyed by it as a kid and just wanted him to stop asking so we could go back to just having fun and play a video game. He kept insisting though, so I started like play punching him and asking him to quit it. Eventually I just left the room and told my parents after he left. Sadly he’d been molested by his family. It’s really sad how this shit runs down hill. My stepfather was raped repeatedly by his uncle for over a year. His uncle was torn apart in prison. And thankfully he turned out to be a good man, but he smokes a lot of weed every day I think to help him with those memories.
Ben Jammin God bless you stepfather, it’s an endless cycle. Best you can do is provide support and counseling to your stepfather. God bless you and him.
Unless they're like that guy 13-year old Joe was with near the woods, in which case run because a dude could beat the shit out of you and do it to you anyway...
