"having the courage to openly express your feelings is hurting your ability to make quick decisions" I think Kara would've needed some of that totem's magic.
Ok, here's a counter for how many times Kara and Lena looked at each other in the first scene: 0:03 , 0:06 , 0:10 , 0:47 , 1:00 , 1:16 , 1:40 Bonus: 0:00 , 0:23 , 0:30 , 0:35 , 1:27