Story two: the original poster never said that the food that his friend was cooking wasn't good enough for his kid. All he did was ask his kid if he was unhappy with the meal that he had been given and the kid confirmed. No I do agree that the original poster could have handled things just a little bit differently. But AITJ was putting words in the original posters mouth. And as for the last story on the one hand two wrongs doesn't make a right. But on the other hand if you cannot handle being ripped on yourself and you shouldn't be ripping on others. If you're going to insult someone you're opening yourself up to being insulted yourself so if you cannot handle being insulted maybe you should keep your mouth shut. That guy was clearly insecure about his own body image so he's putting down his partner so that he can feel better about himself and he's also just upset that he got called out on his behavior.
Agreed, the OP was not a jerk, he was just trying to prevent a dinnertime meltdown, which would have led to the child being completely unreasonable due to being hungry, if he doesn't like the damn food, respect the child's fucking boundaries holy shit, just don't let it get to a level where the child becomes a picky eater, which it is obvious that these parents have not allowed to happen. So from what I can see, OP was being a good father and providing for his kid in a mild crisis, even better than the mother. OP should consider breaking up with his wife at this point because it is obvious he cares very much about his kid when his wife lacks the foresight to see a problem coming down the road from a mile away, which could lead, mind you, to a RUINED FRIENDSHIP which could LEAD TO LEGAL PROBLEMS.
Story 2, the op sees that there is going to be a problem because his kid doesn't like the food so op fixes the problem before it escalates further and he's the bad guy?
For No. 2, OP was NOT a jerk. AITJ misread the post. He said OP's son WAS a picky eater, but it clearly says OP's son WASN'T a picky eater, so him not liking the meal he was given would've been a HUGE surprise. Furthermore, only OP's wife seemed mad about it. There were no remarks of her friends having any problems with him going to McDonald's. I would get if this was a repeated occurrence, in which case the wife WOULD have been in the right, but it just seems like OP just got incredibly unlucky, and now he knows to pack a lunch for his son for next time. I definitely understand OP's mindset. He assumed his son, who liked trying new stuff, would like the meal, he didn't, so he tried salvaging the situation as best he could. So, no. OP wasn't the jerk, as long as he takes this as a learning experience, which he likely will.
I agree with this. Also, it was O.P.'s wife's friend. In his rant, the narrator stated it was a jerk move to leave his wife alone with his friend. I don't think the wife cared about that. The only thing that might make O.P. the jerk is that maybe he should have actually discussed it with his wife and the friend. It sounds like the O.P. just up and left. But I also don't feel that O.P. was the jerk for making sure his son got something to eat. I can tell when someone isn't a parent and doesn't understand the responsibility that comes with being a parent. The narrator has no clue.
In the second story the OP is absolutely, positively *NOT* the arsehole. The OP's child's needs come first. It was mentioned that the OP's kid is *NOT* a picky eater. The OP's wife is a *TERRIBLE* mother thinking that it would have been okay for her son not to have anything to eat.
I absolutely agree here and honestly I'm starting to believe the narrator is too naive about the world . They literally yell at the WRONG people sometimes making them sound like some of the assholes they read about. I'm sorry but let's really think about that meal and the fact the FATHER in this story understood that HIS child did try SALMON and depending on his age most children will not take kindly to salmon and I'm sorry quinoa is hard sometimes even for me to palette and I'm a grown ass woman. How dare the narrator yell at this Father for feeding HIS child and making sure that his child was not hungry and possibly make a worse scene making the wife's friend comment on how if their son was more like his daughter they wouldn't have such an unruly child? Just Narrator if you see this maybe actually pay attention to your stories because as a mother I would NEVER yell at my husband for taking care of our child and if my "Friend" had something to say negatively they would no longer be my friend.
Last story they aren’t the jerk. Silence is key to these people getting away with hurtful comments, and he was just mad he got a taste of his own medicine
In the last story, Op's best friend's husband couldn't take what he dishes out about his rude comment about his wife's baby weight. Op is not the butt hole. She stood up for her friend.
2nd story: i'm actually failing to see the narrator's point of view. op said the kid wasnt a picky eater, saw the kid was unhappy with the meal given to him, asked if there was anything else they could feed the kid with and, when told no, he went out and got food to keep his child fed (and even brought food for the friend's kid as well) and happy so he could play with his friend for the night. the friend seemed just a bit bothered, but nothing much, but i bet if the roles were reverse he would want to get his kid food as well. so no, i don''t think op was the jerk and i think i was a bit too much to rip into the op like that.
In the second story the op was fine, his kid was not a picky eater but just didn’t like the food so what else was he supposed to do? Let the kid go hungry for maybe 2 hours or until they got home,or force the kid to eat the food he does not like? NO! Because that would be bad parenting.
Yeah I don’t like Salmon or quinoa either, so I don’t blame the kid for not wanting to eat it. Of course for the sake of manners, they could have had him eat a couple bites with the promise of pizza or something when they got home.
story 2 op is NOT a jerk in fact he did the right thing. Parents should always care about their kids more than anything and op showed this by making sure his kid doesnt get really hungry ( which makes plenty of people angry ).
Story 2 the OP didn't really insult the friend's cooking. I do think that he should have taken his kid aside and talked to him, but he would only really be a jerk if this was a repeat occurrence. The wife got offended on the friend's behalf, the friend themself didn't seem offended at all. If anyone is actually the jerk it's the narrator who went off at this guy over preventing his kid from going hungry and getting hangry later on in the evening!
I COMPLETELY DISAGREE in story #2...he said his son was NOT a picky eater so he wouldn't have known to get something. I also disagree that you should have just left him with no food until you leave. If you invite people over to eat I think it's common sense and curtesy to provide food that they can or will eat. Had the friend been a meat eater and OP been vegan, you would have called the friend a jerk for not providing vegan options. Who invites a specific person to eat and then doesn't offer things that will be eaten. I always ask ahead of time for diet preferences or allergies so I don't waste anyones time. OP wife is a butthole. He's a kid, not many kids would eat that. She wouldn't have had a good time if their son was crying the entire time. He solved the problem.
2:35. Cool, she still admitted of coming in before the store opening (said website says it opens up at 830 & said that it's currently 820). Now they have attempted theft & assault and battery because they couldn't wait for 40 minutes...
Last story. I was in the same position with my best friend. Her husband had the same issue. I had to remind him that I have known and loved her a Lot longer than He Ever has and Ever will. I have Every right to step in and defend her when he is acting like a jackass. At least she has the excuse of carrying a child. Exactly What has He done? Yes, I have no filter, never have but he deserved it. He also knew we were a package deal when he married her. They soon after started working out together. He Did apologize first to me (which pissed me off) and then to her.
story 2 while i get op should have done better here you cant blame him for wanting to keep his kid form going crazy sure is not nice to hate on the cooking but when your dealing with kids you cant have them like everything kids dont like a lot of things at first is just how it goes so i dont think op is a huge jerk just needs to do better
Yeah, I work at retail store and whenever customers come knocking on the door 10 minutes before we open trying to get me to open the doors for them I always lie to them and say oh, I'm sorry the door takes a key and only the managers have the key on them so I can't open this for you right now. And they're not here to open it. However it's totally a lie because the managers use their key to unlock the door like 45 minutes before we open that way when it's actually opening time any employee can slide them open if necessary.
Story 2, i wouldn't say op is a jerk. A better solution would probably of been leaving early to get his kid something to eat or even feed him before going over since they knew the friend kept to a strict diet they didnt follow, and as such there was a chance there was something their kid never had being served, which they may not of liked... but really dont see anything wrong with it eitherway. Kids typically dont eat everything, and being around more than a few kids that arent even necessarily picky there are just somethings they wont eat. It says nothing about the food being good or bad, just means they don't like it. When i have friends with kids over i usually operate on the assumption that their kids wont eat the food if its fish or something if that nature since it is the most common thing i see kids dislike (unless fried). If the op wasnt friends for a long time with the person they went over to then id say he was a jerk for leaving, but from all the info the op and company knew the friend for a long time so i really can't find a reason to call the op a jerk here.
The op was not a jerk in no. 2. What was he supposed to do? He mentioned his child was *not* a picky eater, yet he didn’t like the food. But the solution to that is to let the kid go hungry?
second story op is alright this was normal for me cousins etc some of us where picky eaters and either wouldnt eat a dinner or fam would go get sumthin i can def see how its rude i understand the perspective of the wife but also the op where im from its normal for my family to do that, i was one hell of a picky eater, still am, i got texture and taste issues yk but i also can understand why leaving in the middle of a meal could be seen as rude aswell its a very mixed bag and no one is really in the wrong or right it just depends on how your raised and your environment
3rd I hate how seeking mental health help is treated in society today. Not because it's treated badly. But because the two extremes of how it's treated seem to have the most influence today. It's either treated horribly to the point where those seeking help can be criminalized when they shouldn't be. Or those who are getting help are just not allowed to face the negative consequences of their actions.
I completely disagree with your opinion on story 2. He made sure his child is fed. It was not the friends responsibly to have food for his child. And they were HER friends not his. So there was no problem other than the one in her head.
yeah, it isn't the friends responsibility to get the child food. but this friend invited the OP over and cooked for his family. you cant just leave mid meal like that
Reread the 2nd story and you saying the Op is TAH doesn’t make since. The child isNT a picky eater and wouldn’t have ate the food eventhough the kid gave it multiple tries. The dad wanted yo prevent the day from ending early via child meltdown and HES THE BAD GUY??
Had a Karen try to pull a fast one on me when I worked at LameStop. She tried to return an X-Box 360 in X-Box One packaging. I opened and inspected it, found the older console on the box and explained to her that was an X-Box 360, not an X-Box One. She tried to fight me on this and demanded my manager. I called my supervisor out of the back and explained the situation to him. He looked at the console and told her that she had an Xbox-360 in an X-Box One package. She got mad, collected the console, and left in a huff. She complained to corporate about us later that week, but we had let our district manager know about the situation and he vouched for us.
Story 2: My mom do that all the time when I got to hang with her friend, she will make sure I have something to eat or " we are eating this if I don't want order somthing to eat she pay
2nd Story: Yeah I don’t think the OP is in the wrong. He’s just being a normal concerned father. Actually, I think he was being considerate by preventing the tantrum. They were gone for HALF of an hour but when they got back they stayed for THREE HOURS. Even if they left early that would’ve sucked for the kid to go so long without food when everyone else had already eaten. Also- the other child is not allowed to have French fries? They’re a child and they mostly eat whatever other foods their parents make them so letting them enjoy other fatty foods every once and awhile shouldn’t be a big deal. That child needs some excitement in their palette.
Bro The Kid In The Second Story Wasn’t A Picky Eater And The Parent Isn’t Just Gonna Let His Kid Go Hungry? And The Friend Should Think That Other People Doesn’t Have The Same Taste Or On A Diet Or Vegan
Bruh he’s Kid, give them something they don’t like they throw it right back up, like guest or not my kid comes first and if it’s seems rude then I’m sorry and yea op could gotten something before hand since he knew his friends eats differently.
I would have told Timmy or whoever in that last story, "Then, don't bring me INTO your business by being a d*ck to your wife in front of me in MY home."
For the dinner story OP is not an asshole he went to go get food for his kid, who clearly had no interest in what was available and let me keep in mind. The food that was prepared for the entire party was of a limited health choice, specifically picked by the people were throwing the party with zero accountability for children and their own Guests tastes let alone they are possible need for help so tune, straight out decide that you’re going to cook something for an entire group that only Predicate to your health choices is rude and for the wife it’s even worse when you’re going to go and get food for your kid clearly has no interest in. What is a male you want to go and make sure that the kid was going to be happy and comfy in your wife is Maddie not the asshole
Story #2 I think that you need to actually LISTEN to what is happening in this story. You are tearing this man apart with statements that are not based on what is said in the story. If you can't react to what is said in the story, then you either need to do a little more digging to find out if the man was lying or keep your mouth shut. The man said that his child WAS NOT a picky eater, and would be a monster (as most young kids would be if they were hungry; most adults I know would be the same but better able to deal with the situation than a 7 year old). Granted, 30 minutes is a long time to be gone for a Happy Meal, and I personally wouldn't expect the host parents to be able to accommodate the child's tastes, especially if they don't do it for their own child. The only other solution I can see that would be safest is for them to leave shortly after dinner so the child can get something to eat and next time just bring something for the child (although, knowing the culinary issues beforehand, they should've planned for that).
its common curtesy to not leave mid meal to get your kid some food. it doesn't matter that he isn't a picky eater. you are still at someone else's house
Narrator, did you even read story number 2? He said the kid isn't picky, even tried the food, and just wasn't into it. The other guy didn't have "kid food" around, aka something his son would eat. Was he supposed to let his son go hungry? Which would have insited temper tantrums based on hunger like a normal child. No, he left to get food for his kid so he wouldn't have a hangry tantrum later while playing. He would have been the jerk if he took the kid, and they both left and came back later to get the mom. But he didn't. He provided food for his kid and is no way the jerk. I can't count how many times i had to suck it up and go hungry for a meal just to get food later while being miserable during the event because i just didn't like the food. The mom could suck it up and talk with her friend while dad was picking up a happy meal for 30 minutes. I would rather have a fed kid than a tantrum. Plus, I have had so many family functions where family brought their own food, even though we slaved hours over food for them. Including the stuff for their kids who were "so picky" (the kids weren't but the mom was). Just inquire and say "hey whats the meal, and if you wouldn't mind, is it okay to bring a backup just in case?" But the other guy dismissing him about we dont have kid food? That guy is a jerk. Could have communication helped everyone have a good time, sure. Was a conflict solved? Yes. Was there a child melt down? No. No problems, then. Just have open conversations about food for next time.
I think the narrator was a bit hard on OP from story 2 but I do think he was in the wrong. In situations where kids don't want to eat something, the parents shouldn't force them to eat everything but eat at least enough of it to not go completely hungry. Offering an alternative every time the kid is picky will end up with them becoming very spoiled. Also, this was especially rude considering OP did this while having dinner at someone else's house. Overall, not a good move.
Agree, children will have to endure a bit of unpleasantness or discomfort sometimes, and it doesn't take a lot of calories to tide a 5 yo over until they get home. A couple bites from that plate, followed by desert, would've been fine. I'm questioning wether OP's kid is as 'mild' or un-picky as he describes, given he structured his evening around avoiding a food-related meltdown.
Bro ripped into that dad for no reason. As a father to a 4yr old daughter who mainly eats veggies (her choice she tears up veggies and rarely meat) id totally do the same maybe just uber eats something. And plus why the wife defending bro so hard? Thats questionable
Story 2: Wrong NTJ he said the son wasn't a picky eater but didn't like the meal it is bad parenting to just let him be hungry or force him to eat it why don't people understand yes he could've acted differently but the wife's friend didn't say anything only the wife did.
All the people saying OP in story #2 isn't the jerk are the reason kids grow up to be entitled adults. The kid doesn't like the food? Well, too bad. Let him either eat or go hungry. It's not like the food will hurt him if he eats it, he just doesn't like it. You're not starving the kid if there's perfectly edible food available. We can't always have food that we like but sometimes we just need to suck it up and eat it. We all hated vegetables as kids but our parents would still make us eat it, with time a lot of us get used to it and even learn to like vegetables. Everyone should learn to eat foods we don't like. What if you try to make your kid eat a balanced diet but he doesn't like the food? Are you not going to make him eat it and get him McDonald's every time he refuses to eat something? What if the kid doesn't want to eat anything but McDonald's because he doesn't like anything else? That's how kids become spoiled and that could also lead to children obesity. Plus, to get McDonald's during a dinner party where you're the guest is incredibly rude. People failing to see how rude OP was being and see it as OP just solving a problem have a serious lack of manners.
The girl with the boyfriend who doesn't want updates needs to find a new boyfriend. The one she currently has is gonna wind up cheating on her or getting into legal trouble and she's gonna be blind sided because that idiot refuses to communicate.
for story 2 the op ist the jerk you said that his son ist a picky eater but will be a monster if he is hungry so he got mcdonlas to perventa meltdown and its not like the op just got mc for the kid the op also got some fires for the daughter to so the op ist the jerk
I like the narrators and such but some of them seem to judge a man for something but when the situation is turned and it’s a women the narrator acts like she did no wrong. I listen to these all day while I work and noticed it a ton
I came into the comments thinking it was going to be an unpopular opinion that you were a bit harsh in the second story, but it seems I'm not the only one to think so. Salmon is an aquired taste. I dont like it but i love just about every other fish, except tuna. I wouldn't push it on my daughter for that reason. if she wants to try, I'll let her but I'm not going to just randomly make it her entire meal for the night. There are foods that anyone would eat and only a picky eater wouldn't eat, like veggies, meat, some pastas and side dishes, but there are foods that are only meant for the foodie types, and this is that situation. So no, op is not the jerk.
Bro, the dad just understood the kid what he felt about the food and wanted to make an improvement and now, you are calling the man behind the story THE jerk and dissing him for a minute the first time because he got McDonald's?
I'm starting to not want to watch these when its with this narrator, at this point, i'ts obvious he's biased. for story #2 AT WORST the dude was being unpolite (dunno if thats a word). The whole point was him trying to look out for HIS kid, and he also clearly stated the kid is not picky, he went into another persons house with peculiar eating habits, the kid DID NOT LIKE IT so he decided the kid HAS to eat. Whats the problem?! he wasn't polite in leaving, I can kinda agree there but nothing else. just takes the fun out of watching this when you're so quick to judge men like that dude
Narrator has an awful take in the second story and doesn’t understand your kids ALWAYS come first, if my kid doesn’t like what was cooked and there’s no other food, then yes I’m going to go get some and not let them go hungry. It also sounds like the friend isn’t accommodating and strict with food as they don’t allow their own child to eat french fries.
Story 1 you should never hit anyone but especially a woman in the stomach, can you imagine if she had been pregnant, it is horrible to think about and hopefully the police sorted her out and made her stay in the puke covered clothes the whole time she was there, she is the reason people who work in retail hate work, I would never cut it in retail because I would give Karen's a piece of my mind, I do feel for retail workers and am always polite to them, they have a bad job for bad wage
You're right about bringing the food but ain't that also the wife's fault but the kid might not like fish like you might be allergic or something like that he's about four worlds whenever I touch fish
2nd story cmon man why so mad? 30 minutes is a long and awkward time for his wife but in both situations she would be angry at op imo, better avoid the criying child than the grown adult whines
2nd Story NO- The kid's needs come FIRST, you're a parent, YOU should know better!! OP JUST said his kid isn't a picky eater. Did you not read the story, or is it your bias to favor the Wife over the Husband? The Mother is IN THE WRONG, SHE should've known better than to make her kid eat something he did not like, and could've made him sick if he forced himself to eat. Only thing that kid could've done was starve if he couldn't eat. L Mother for saying her kid was fine when he clearly WASN'T. L You for thinking that was okay 'n literally ignoring WHAT THE DAD SAID ABT THE SON. W Dad for taking care of his Son's needs. I honestly hope you don't force your kids to eat something they don't like. Your Kids needs come FIRST before a fking dinner at someone else's house. There's no such thing as an "eat or starve" for a CHILD.
Story 2: I will take this as AITJ misreading the story because if not, then wow, this is the biggest show of their female bias I have ever seen. As for the situation. OP is not the Jerk. A parent's responsibility is to ensure the child's needs are met. OP tried to see if the friend had anything different and he did not. So OP did his job, not the wife. As for the wife's friend, it is his job to accommodate his guests as a host. If this cannot be done then do not be a host. It is that simple. The host could of either said he will make something or ordered food for the child...he did neither and failed as a host. So honestly OP's wife and friend are jerks.
the friend was nice enough to invite the OP over and cook for them. If someone comes over to your house. will you buy several different meals for a bunch of different kids. the host should accommodate guests but to a certain degree. its common curtesy
@@Knoxium94 yes, yes I would. Why? Because that is my job as the host. If I did not want to deal with that then I should not have been the host. The guy had no accommodations set, at all. The only choice was leave early but let the kid be hungry or do as OP did. So yeah, this one is on the host.
Story 2: I very much do not agree with the narrator on this one. who serves a child salmon? and also, what father doesn't have kids food at home?? even if he has a strict diet, that doesn't mean you HAVE TO subject your kids to it. the OP did say their child was NOT a picky eater so who would have guessed they wouldn't like what they were serving? Bringing in chicken nuggets from the get go is WAY more rude than going right after their kid said he didn't like the food. OP could have handled it differently but they were only thinking about their kid, the wife was being pretty selfish and not thinking about her child only her own feelings. was she just going to let him go without dinner until they left?
For story four I think both the op and boyfriend have reason and their both overreacting that might be something he wants to deal with before telling her but he still did not have reason to act like that
There's a lot of opinions on the second story and they all seem to be aligning with each. Will the narrator see those opinions, probably not because it's fragile ego is too big for him to read.
in the second story, the OP is at someone else's house. that friend was kind enough to invite you over and cook for you. you dont just go out to get your kid McDonalds midway through it.
You're completely in the wrong avout the kid not wanting to eat salmon. Most kids don't fuxking eat that and the mom was in the wrong for saying her son could just be hungry u til he was upset enough they had to leave sometimes you have to compromise. If you don't have kids don't make comments about what you think should've happened the dad did a great job.
Lately I'm noticing some bad takes like the second Story today. Idk why but its usually in discussion between a male and a female part. A lot of comments are talking about this aswell. I think both readers should rethink such situations with both genders swapped to get a better picture since I'm noticing some biases.
I don't understand why you keep calling some people the jerk when they aren't. In the second story the op wasn't the jerk he was just being a good parent. Also why are you so harsh to those who obviously aren't the jerk? You were unreasonably cruel to the op with what you said.
