Ladies, yes it can get very lonely waiting for your king to find you. BUT, trust me, I would rather be lonely than be tied up with a man that is lazy, untrustworthy, stingy, cheater, beater or any other low life behavior. Enjoy your life and live, until the one God has for you comes in your life. Don’t cheat yourself, LIVE.
It's absolutely NOTHING like seeing that Tony's videos will be 50 min+...I go get snacks and sit crossed legged on the floor lol.. This man is out here changing our lives...I'm forever grateful for his wisdom!!
I was not gonna share but today the man who wanted to marry me so bad as he claimed also stopped talking to me because I've never had sex and wouldn't give him any. He's also a church drummer, yall know those drummers lol yet he loves pre-marital sex and told me there was no difference if we did it now or later. Keep your legs closed and you will see people's true intent. I cried but I'm okay Update 2/5/21: he was cheating on me with someone else to satisfy his need. the girl he cheated on me with 9 months ago just had his baby 2 weeks ago. The child was conceived during our relationship smh
We are not built for casual sex, no matter what some women claim. If it's not your husband, you will feel convicted after and he's not likely to "wife" you. Standards work to weed out men who are not your husband, every time!
So correct ! Only those with values notice this, for others everything is perfectly normal. This is why when you are different, when you have standards and want quality, the world will feel "offended" and will try to call you difficult, insecure, dramatic, exaggerated and that you think you're better. It's bad enough they don't have values, but to try to make YOU feel less for having, that's where the AUDACITY is ! Smh..
Listen to Tony, men definitely judge women ALOT. When you have standards and hold yourself well and you have your mind right.. the wrong ones will respect that and leave you alone. A lot of men are surprised to meet a level headed woman who sticks to her standards. The right ones will compete for you because you truly are a prize to the man who wins your heart, attention, affection.
True, but sometimes the WRONG ones will see you as a challenge and will pursue you just for the thrill of trying to CHANGE you. I've met those types too and I didn't waste anytime running for my life.
A soda addict , hardcore vodka drinker, loose booty 901 , Taxi mega fan, ice cream hoarder, overweight, insecure and foolish went to a strictly disciplined meal prep girl who walks 30 mins everyday and goes hiking, hasn't touched alcohol in a year, celibate since a year with a 7 glass a day water habit, and taking multivitamins. Learning languages instead of online dating ,Normal weight, and knows what god is .I did it in a year. I dont laugh at jokes I don't find funny and refuse to take even small unnecessary favors from men attracted to me and literally these 2 things chase them off the first time I meet them. Start living your truth and stop lying to yourself. Because of Tony Gaskins, I am literally 'goin about my business'
@@shauntadavis945 careful he may have sexual issues... I have heard this before. Of course if you love him you will get over them together, but a guy who has a good sexual life has a very hard time to abtain... only if he is very religious
This was such a confirmation I needed today. I've been doubting lately if I am not doing enough to find a man who is on my level. Who takes living for God seriously, being abstinent, not drinking, not smoking, etc. (Still working on getting motivated to lose a lil weight lol) But God today has reminded me that I am doing enough for him and he is pleased. And that is enough. If we are enough for God, that should be enough.
@@marilynking527 Yes we do! I love reading and remembering the story of Jacob. He worked 14 years for the woman he wanted. Isaac was 40 when he got married! If God can make it happen back then, he has not changed!! God makes anything possible!!!!
Thank you TG.. I just said the other day I cannot compete with these over sexualized women when I'm trying to stay wholesome and chaste. But I have to realize it will be lonely until I find the man that will appreciate the queen that I am.
He’s absolutely right. At 5’6 I was always criticized for being too tall for my 5’8 boyfriend in my 20’s. I guess he didn’t feel man enough. It didn’t work out. The right person for you will accept you as you naturally are. I wish I had left sooner.
Same maybe I got ghosted for height ..he is 1 cm shorter than me .. and I only wear trainers - I d see him with way shorter women around .. different ones always short . And he d stare at me with no expression.. while the entire street of men would stare with lust lol .. anyway makes me think it’s pathetic if it’s for that reason and I never realised it until I kept seeing him with shorter women .. could be a coincidence though and more for the fact that my legs and home are closed until marriage and he lives with someone unmarried after I told him..
Speaking truth here brother Tony. In November I'll be 33 and still a virgin. I'm happy about it. I'm thankful that I have lived this strong for so long. I've come close to losing that but learned to say no, not stay in that place of temptation, I've spend time alone and stayed away from the roads or the world and I know that Jesus has helped to keep me grounded and strong on His word. However, I'm flawed. Deal with lust, at times pornography and lately I've struggled with cursing. It's been hard but it's never to late to lean into Jesus and the truth in His word to strengthen me, sustain me and keep me. Here's to living life in FAITH, one day at a time people! Blessings.
Same, but I’ll be 34 this June 😳. But from listening to others we’re not missing out too much 😆. Keep waiting sis, the right one will respect your standards. God has kept me, I’ve gone through college and I was in military for 5 years and I’m still a virgin, a lot of temptations and men who were interested in me, but they didn’t have the same standards as me. I don’t tell anyone or guys I’m interested in that I’m a virgin. Most people assume I’m not due to my age and also because I’m not “awkward” and other stereotypes they believe about virgins 😆. The right one will come along, in the meantime we just gotta focus on ourselves, leveling up and staying focused.
I’m 28 and a virgin, dating is hard bc men don’t seem like they want to wait or when I tell them I’m a virgin (only bc they ask lol) they think I’m lying 🙄... whatever my standards will remain the same
@@brittanyelisejohnson7992 same and im 37..ill turn 38 in August..a bit worried about the body clock.but the NHS in the UK told me most women can have healthy pregnancies up to 45 years old..and maybe I d like one child only..I just cant with the few men I meet..I m in ireland for over 10 years and French..I have fewer options than you I think ..Im not on the same level of many men my age..plus they do nothing..and many want an irish woman first..im left with the foreigners who many times cant speak English properly..at least the ones I have met so far..
U speak such words of wisdom and truth. At 59yrs old I just CANNOT try to keep up with the world when it comes to the wide range of the sexuality pushed out there from commercials to cartoons. I’m old school and I don’t feel comfortable with all these shenanigans. It may seem hard and yes at times lonely , but when I think of the alternative, I’m happy to be on my back yard, in my screened in patio set, sipping a glass of wine, reading a good book and listening to some great jazz. Yep a simple thing, but great for my peace of mind and who I am. Blessings to u all, especially the young ladies that are still trying to navigate the enemy’s snares that are abound. ❤️🙏🏽
This video make me feel real good about myself! I have currently been celibate for 9 months now and have learned and valued my own worth by loving me more. Now most dudes don’t even come at me crazy because the standards I have set in place. Thank you Tony for you hard work ! Just wanted to let you know that it is some women out here listening and taking your advice and teaching seriously 🙌🏾👍🏾‼️
It is LONELY at the top but if you keep going GOD will BLESS you for your efforts. Then The haters come and tell you that you don't deserve it but they do not know what ALL you went through to get THERE
I really felt this when I was going to college in a very liberal city and was living around my age group. Drinking, drugs, sex, crude jokes, etc. It did feel lonely but when you are not involved in all that, you naturally will not be able to get close to people who are into all these things.
And these same conformists men love that women conform And accept the exploitation pushed on them ..all I can say is no condom no entry .. my Legs and home are closed until marriage and only open with a condom after marriage .. I have no respect for men challenging women on this .. and they should be dumped
Thank you for this message. I recently had a conversation with some coworkers about my standards ect...I left that conversation feeling like something was WRONG with me. They literally told me I am asking too much and will be alone! I realize that I am set apart from the masses and I will NOT compromise my standards just to make YOU feel better. Thank you Tony. God bless you.
Keep in mind if they have no standards or BARE MINIMUM standards, yours are gonna seem like you’re doing WAY too much. The truth is you’re approaching life from a higher level than they are. That’s all it is
I had a guy last summer tell me “ I don’t think you’re going to find what you’re looking for “ when I literally only mentioned to him wanting a respectful partner who can communicate. The nerve he had to try and sleep with me after that
I had a guy tell me I have too many standards and requirements. I only know him for a few months he was nasty to me. Very disrespectful however wanted me to sleep with him and speak into his microphone. I decided to exit of the situation but began to miss him because we talked everyday. I learned he’s used to women that don’t have any morals and expected me not to have none
This is currently my story. I realized the majority of men out here are not used to women with standards and morals and don’t know how to act when they meet one who does
This popped up on my timeline at just the right time… I was just beating myself up because I’ve lost all of my friends but it was because I’ve been elevating & they’ve chose to remain stagnant and hate… which is very hurtful so I was forced to cut them off but I keep receiving signs that im on the right track ❤
I needed this encouragement😫 I had to let go of a man of God yesterday that was inconsistent. It made me sad but I’m guarding my heart and I will do the work to be ready for my husband. Praying for him and hope he fights thru too! It’s so hard but what God has will always be better than what we want 🥺🙏🏼 sending everyone love!! We got this ❤️
Aww sis, irs gonna be ok. Be glad you saw the red flags early before you invested your mind, body and spirit to this man. You can walk away with your dignity and worth IN TACT!!!! We have a God of crockpot blessings!- rich and deep in nature. It will always be better than what we want. You got it sis 🌻
@@ashleybeverly7328 I appreciate you! Yes, I feel empowered walking away knowing I'm respecting and loving myself more than the idea of who this man could be. Thank you for these encouraging words. Have a blessed week 😊
I so appreciate you! You ain’t lying I’ve been abstinence for years and the last guy I dated said I was too religious and I had a friend of a friend told me I need to “use it “ before I lose it and I was like 🥴🤨😕??? so I appreciate you! I just pray for them but it sucks that being in this space people judge me when Ian even judging them 😒 but you and this community sure make me feel like we not alone!!! God bless you and your family !!!!
Truly great message about morals, values and standards ! I have dealt all my life with people's attitudes for being different, for wanting more out of life, for caring about the quality and type of people around me, for preferring to be single and happy instead of accepting anyone out of loneliness or social pressure. My parents never talked to me about having standards or what values are, but God somehow instilled them in me and i will forever carry them in my heart, will never lower or give them up and this is even more confirmation to do so.
I ll never open my legs with no condom after marriage - his comment on this was pathetic- He is the one making her wife pregnant and he wonders if the drugs or vaccine on his wife works ? Absolutely sickening- any husband not willing to wear condoms is a red flag .. I can’t believe so many women are willing to be Slaves .. no men Would pull that line ‘ you don’t use condoms with your Wife ‘ .. but yeah my legs and home are closed until marriage and any man challenging me on condoms or pulling that line .. I’ll walk Away
Yes I told my girlfriend when I met here before we got into a relationship I don’t wanna have sex and she said she thinks it’s bad not to have sex. So when I’m thinking about leaving now cause she can’t go without it. I’m trying to follow what god wants for me.
@@nicolewilliams7849 Yess! Can you imagine how refreshing it would be to give him this wisdom to young, fresh minded men and women? He would would setting them up for MAJOR success!!
Uncle Tony , discovering your channel is the biggest gift god send me early on this year ! And yes I am Muslim , but I appreciate and respect Christian values , you speak life into me ; i am 23 yo and I am elevating every single day trough these videos . Keep it up , thank you !
Day 3 of the 14 days I’m leaving my man not talking to him to see if this my husband or not... wish me luck ... also yesterday was my last day using 💊... so wish me luck pls !! Thanks for everything Tony!! Here goes to sober and single better than being with a person that ghosts me ... 🥰🙌🏼🙏🏼 Be blessed
Paulina Magana@ Day 3 that is amazing. I am wishing you all the strength and support. 🙏🏽 We first crawl, then we walk and eventually we RUN. Girl, you got this 👍🏽. If you are interested: Check out ways to oxygenate the blood through breathing. This is in the realm of natural healing. I have heard about positive results in regards to mood, mind and body issues. Check out Mr Gaskins' videos from these days: November 25, 2019 / March 26, 2020 /December 8, 2020. They contain good info on ghosting. Be blessed. "Coach Francesca"
Wow this came right on time. I found out some disturbing info about somebody yesterday and I thought to myself I’m teaching my kids to be nice sweet and kind in a world full of savages. Thank you for this message!
Absolutely correct. You are doing a great job. Also teach them about Jesus Christ. The world is getting very scary and people feel so lost and empty without Him. Jesus loves unconditionally and deeply cares about everyone. Consider accepting Him as Lord and personal Savior ❤️
@@diplomatdiplomat2800 thank you I have accepted Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior and will be teaching my daughters. Times are def scary and I worry about their future but just take it one day at a time
Wow I was just having this conversation with my mom. I’ve been waiting for 8 years abstinent. It’s so hard. People ask me how do you do it?? I want to get married but it’s hard to find a man now a-days that is willing to wait. I love Tony’s channel it’s so helpful. I’m not a legalist but my faith is in Christ. I prayed and prayed and have waited. It’s hard at times.
I always allow men to chase me and not the other way around because I always have high standards with men and they love and appreciate it. I am married but going through a divorce soon but when I get back in the dating pool again, I will have that same approach is to value myself and not allow a man to do anything and everything with me. My husband had to wait till we were married to have me and he appreciated it. Unfortunately I had to walk away from the marriage but your video is a reminder of what I done in the past is what I should be doing and it shouldn’t be foreign or compromised with and I should not be ashamed of being different. My husband told me all his women before him have been the one to propose to him and I was the first one to not do that, I’m old school thinking and don’t believe in it. Thanks for the awesome content! Be blessed!
When a man becomes fully invested into a woman he loves, his love is effortless, meaning a woman won't have to ask him well why you didn't call me or why didn't you get me anything because he will do most things he'll hate to do for that woman without no problems. When a man isn't vested into that woman, a man isn't gonna just do something for that woman without constant reminders, or nudging!! He will hate those things you request for him to do. You won't know that but he will.
Thank you for your transparency. Thank you for encouraging us good girls with morals, values and self discipline. I'm not for any/everybody and I'm okay with that. God has been so good to me, I can't afford to compromise for anything less than His blessed best. What God has for me, is for me. Anything other can kick rocks with opened toed shoes.
yeah my parents dont know I have no men at all..they think I have random men because im alone..lol.they could never understand..my sisters same..31 and 35..had several men..and not married ..im 37 and I had none..I almost was on my back when I was in my early 20..and said NO..I never looked back..but yeah I dont drink, dont smoke, dont curse, dont party, dont do drugs etc..I dont meet many men on my level I guess ..my legs and home are closed until marriage..I knew since I was 15 years old I wanted this
you know i noticed other dating coaches encourage people to get back with their ex and tell them to wait and feel ppl lies saying ur ex is amazing because they want more people using their websites, buying their “recovery kits” etc and i think that’s so selfish cus they don’t care about their clients but tony a real straight up type of guy. he won’t sugar coat anything n lie n say ur ex coming back means they love u, he respects his clients feelings n spits facts ❤️❤️
Being a Virgin or practicing abstinence is only frustrating when u r doing it in hopes of marriage. It's comforting for me to say... I am preserving my temple to standards that are pleasing to God. Stay strong ladies🤗💞🤗
Confirmation, Confirmation! As always, your insight is impeccable! We “APPRECIATE YOU”and “THANK YOU” for being an unapologetically Extraordinaire Life Coach!! Thank you for speaking on the importance of being disciplined in an unbiased way! A million and one blessings to you and your wonderful family! Keep up the great job!!🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Tony. After listening to you speaking today made me realize a few things about myself. I notice you were speaking from your heart and being very sincere about your past life. I admire you for your honesty. Being very open in speaking to people is something I need to work on. Thank you for this video.
Just love these real talks about real life and marriage. Thank you Tony! The pool definitely gets smaller as you get better. There are those that want to ride on that low vibration but once he sees you are not riding at a low state, either he will rise to you or step out. But love who God created you to be ladies,! You will shine better than the sun! Your glow will be unstoppable! And how can we get that shirt Tony had on? Is that for sale? And where? When?
Idk how many times I’ve watched this video but it’s one of my favorites! I laugh and learn like it’s the first time watching it! It also serves as reassurance!
I’m very thankful for your insight Tony. Your family is blessed to have you leading them.. Keep working as a team with your wife, don’t give up& don’t give in my brother.
I agree and this makes it that much harder for women like myself who want to uphold standards and require more. Many women are not requiring anything so these men don't feel the need to do much if they can get it for little to no work at all.
ladies be resolute in your standards, grownboys dont know what to do with a woman who knows herself, her worth, who is resolute and wont water down herself or standards for anyone...they will leave you alone because they know they dont have the qualities a woman like you would be looking out for.... Your wife is a real one because she didnt care about the societal standards of what cool was supposed to look like, I also wont have been no where attracted to men that looked like that or with those qualities, i dont mind if ppl see that kind of man as a lame, he's my lame. We have nothing to prove to anyone, validate urself, dont seek for external validation. p.s i cant picture Tony with the goldteeth, hairstyles im cracking up
In 2010 I changed so much of myself to try to fit in Hollywood, 🤦♀️ this channel is such a blessing to see that not everybody runs on the okedoke bandwagon and is constantly giving out wisdom, even when someone maybe suicidal and don’t know where to turn. This channel is a blessing because to hear Tony speak wisdom and not just get right do right, but wisdom beyond tryna impress people, it’s good to be reminded cse even a lot of church people are teaching to fit in🤦♀️ thankful for another video 🙏
Tony you have a lot of haters! (most male) You are exposing them, but ignorance won't let them choose freedom # truth # repentance # life May the lord give you strengh and courage because on a spiritual level this is a warfair! But we already know between David and Goliath, who've won the victory! I know it's not easy every day but like you said KEEP YOUR STANDARDS, BE YOU , serv as you have been called to; and know that the lord is the one who fights our battles. You and your home stay blessed !
I been dealing with this issue cause i have standards and respect 4 myself Ive even lost friendships behind my standards. Even acquaintances. Im not gonna change my way of living for nobody!! Ppl.want me to respect them they dont want to respect me. I tell ppl. if i dont want to talk nobody i dont have too. Some of these guys dont know a real woman when they see one. They dont even know have to approach a lady. Especially a Queen!!!
God Bless You! Thank you for constantly, preaching, and teaching The Word of God! In this last days , got to keep standards,morals, and never forget your first love God and his word, that will always stand.
The only way to truly maintain your standards is to surround yourself with like minded people... and TG is right... it will be a small group.. but at least you know they stand for something
I’m so glad you giving these small details that matter to men. A lot of women don’t factor in these observations from men. The small things make a difference
I truly do believe you are a man after God’s heart. I hear and receive the underlining message you are speaking into the hearts and minds of women:” let those who have ears to hear, hear the word of God”. Preach, preacherrr. Be Blessed.
When you took it back and started humming/singing Lauryn Hill, you reminded of my love for the classics! Bout to make me whip out The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill!!! I really miss the 80s/90s artists!! Music ain't the same no more these days! And sidebar...I hollered when you said, "" That tickled me so much this morning and had me cracking up!! LOL
This message is right on time as always! Tony, May OUR POWERFUL HEAVENLY FATHER KEEP BLESSING ABUNDANTLY You and Your Family members IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!!! AMEN AND AMEN!!!!
true I dont meet many men,,and most of them curse, drink, smoke, dont look healthy etc I notice the men that are more available dont necessarily look nice..even the ones willing to marry and be loyal..
So so true! You don't have to try so hard to fit in if it means losing your morals and values! You have to set your own standards, not other's standards. Great video! Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your Gifts TG! Praying up for all! Blessed Tribe. Ladies we have the wisdom and power to change the future!! Love yourself 1st. It will help you to be a “Virtuous Woman”! Give love to Yourself first and then share it respectfully. A man does NOT define you!! Be blessed Keep your morals!! It takes “Standards” to keep “Standards”!!
This is One of your most powerful messages. I was so blessed. This was a confirmation for me. I will wait and keep my standards so glad I have been freed to be who God knows I am. Thank you Tony for this word from Heaven.
I just want someone to NOT make any moves to sleep with me within the week of meeting me. That is too much to ask, because it eliminates basically everyone around me. Guess I’ll just be alone.